child psychologist here: we use this method called ACT; Acknowledge the feeling, Communicate the limit, Target alternatives (very similar to what she uses in this video)! When your child has big feelings it’s important to label that feeling so they can learn. “i know you are feeling frustrated, but we cannot watch tv all day, we can find another fun activity to do instead”! Then offer time for emotion regulation. Also some children 0-17 do not have emotional self regulation skills yet! It’s extremely important that you offer co-regulation if your child cannot seem to calm down on their own! It looks like this mama had modeled self regulation skills and used co-regulation with her kiddo before, so he now has the skill to calm himself down! Just know not all kiddos can do this yet, some adults can’t either so it’s important to teach regulation too!

@imfrenchfries7430

2 ай бұрын

How do we co regulate?

@mckaylak33

2 ай бұрын

Co-regulation can look like modeling emotion regulation to your child/doing emotion regulation with them! So using grounding techniques (i.e. tight hugs, progressive muscle relaxation, holding something cold and laying down), coping skills, or breathing methods (i.e. rainbow breathing) with your child. It can look like “i know you are feeling *name emotion*, when we feel *emotion* we can calm our bodies by *coping skill* (i.e. hugs, walking away, laying down, or taking time for ourselves).

@Logica87

2 ай бұрын

Agree. And we should explain, WHY it makes sense, not to watch TV all day long. Otherwise the kid won't understand the decision and will only take it as an order.

@jessicatherabbitxo

2 ай бұрын

Kind of interested in what you think about her filming these vulnerable moments and sharing them without consent? Kind of cancels the good out, imo. She is making money by filming and sharing this so she can sell to parents. Pretty gross really.

@MmCelliste

2 ай бұрын

Hopefully you're more ethical and don't plaster children all over KZread...professional ethical standards shape how psychologists work, but not exploitative parental behaviour. I feel you shouldn't be endorsing this video.

I'm telling you this is essential viewing FOR EVERYONE.

@ellevictory1339

2 ай бұрын

I know no one exists yet but us three our kid knows this I know u need to take it easy baby it's fine ur talking to me I know this fo u hunny? Ok then make sure u watch these vids husband hunnyok I will lead u , u will be fine don't be nervous it's not for a long time u will be a natural don't worry we have practice with our kid and everything ok great job hunny 😂🎉❤😘😘

@pagejames8754

2 ай бұрын

No it's not. This is basic parenting that the vast majority of parents do and have done forever. Most don't need a you tuber to tell them

@tameimpala37

2 ай бұрын

@@pagejames8754 Thanks for watching.

@TaraConway16

2 ай бұрын

Most people beat their kids if they have a tantrum. This isn’t what most parents do.

@riosoma

2 ай бұрын

@@pagejames8754. But so many more do! Look where society is today with all the non self regulated teens out stealing vandalizing and shooting each other and innocent bystanders as well!

Motherhood is such an emotional and physical rollercoaster 💕 Respect to all the moms out there!!

@ellevictory1339

2 ай бұрын

No it's not those aren't gods words 😂😂😂 nothing is an emotional rollercoaster just lessons I did mine who are these fake videos for a husband u watch them then if u neef to children don't exist yet but u know this don't u are u relearning bc I do not have to i know this already 😂😂😂😂

@alphastormeex9468

2 ай бұрын

Uh... what? ☝

@ellevictory1339

2 ай бұрын

It's not it's all lies everything I'm done Jesus nothing exists yet fake vids for programming me I'm god not a computer

@ellevictory1339

2 ай бұрын

I do everything right I don't appreciate u using me anymore lying I'm finished ok I want my life back with or without u u do it then I don't want a biblical life style either it doesn't feel right bc it's not my truth I'm god im sorry leave us alone and give me my life back then we will talk in person about everything like we agreed thx god the real.god a woman Mary this is taking to long I'm done or no nothing period sorry but I don't want to pretend to wait im bored everything is lies I don't want anything thank u im always good thx it's not about u kids all the time thx I don't want children it's a program anyway one is enough this one here in Jesus name amen accept my truth thx my choice in jesus name amen work isn't life u know u lied about everything to us still not pretending to know nothing.not doing a movie book anything in person maybe a Bible bc I'm.busy not giving my time sweat fake tears blood i take everything i dud back its done in Jesus name amen Hi makle Jesus, I have to say this I know u turned off the fake sanctification fire suffering pain switch on me with ur clicker, it's not about u the children who don't exist yet it's about me to and I don't want to pretend to go through fake pain fire fake birth for children who don't exist yet u lied to me for 46 yrs , stall and four years about everything u cheat daily using fake prayers and a Bible that's not proper and ur not father god yet, I'm god I have to be included not later a fake Bible I want my life back I waited long enough living in a fake world fake dad idiot u played abuser, u play a theatre play whatever title excuse u use to get off the hook with me when it's all lies acting I waited long enough not pretending to be a savior sacrifice anymore nothing exists yet u always take too long I don't want to bc of it and break otof characters I'm sorry I said no consent from the beginning it's not just about u and children who don't exist yet I lied about everything I do

@LauraBidingCitizen

2 ай бұрын

@@ellevictory1339Any chance you could rewrite that in English?

I’m a 25 year old single father that works full time, some days over time and your videos help so much. My parents weren’t very healthy but I’m trying my best to be the parent I never had to my 4 year old son, so thank you for this info. I try to manage screen time but some days I just wanna lay down and not do anything when I get home from work😅 Interacting and spending time with your child is so important though

@hfortenberry

Ай бұрын

No parent is perfect and that’s ok, as long as you’re truly doing your best, like continuing to learn, like you are here, then your child will feel that. Being raised by a single parent, I adored my mother. She was so empathetic and talked to me with respect and patience. It was wonderful and really helped me when I needed her guidance.

@Jesuslovesyou_365

Ай бұрын

Your love for your child is what's most important. I pray that GOD would strengthen you and help you in every area of your life and bless and protect your child from every evil, in JESUS Name, Amen. 😊

@cari8282

Ай бұрын

You are doing great dad ❤❤❤❤

@Braveh3artGirl

Ай бұрын

You're doing well! Keep it up God bless ❤

@dudercud44

Ай бұрын

@@cari8282 thank you so much. You are very kind (:

This takes a lot of patience and love. Salute to parents who do their best to give their kids a healthy childhood; even though it's foreign to them and not the way they're brought up ❤

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

Thank God, for old world sanity. Do you realize, that most "experts" don't have kids!

@nataliadapkus5214

Ай бұрын

Amem

Sooooooo many parents need this these days. Our jobs are not to make their life easy, but to make them ready for the world. You are amazing!!

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

Yes, a 3 year old should be able to act like an adult 😂 funny though, these kids grow up to live with their parents and play on Facebook all day

@sgtrubik4901

2 ай бұрын

@@user-ly1bi3qi3pbraindead

@Mushroom321-

2 ай бұрын

Exactly !!😮😮👏🏼👏🏼😲😃

@Mushroom321-

2 ай бұрын

Or easier... by a child seeing their parents emotion being managed..😼👍✅️ = them staying calm.. with theirs..

Aw, this little guy is making me emotional 😭 You're such a great mom, giving your child a chance to cry it out, reflect in his room, and spend time doing drawings outside together 🥰

She is a fantastic mum the way she speaks to her son is a lesson to every parent and he adores her that is obvious xxx

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

That's why he was crying, he adored her....

@jessicatherabbitxo

Ай бұрын

Oh yes, plastering it all over the internet is the pinnacle of being a good parent.

I love this! A child is a human being who just needs to learn effective communication . Well done for teaching us how to relate with our kids. Very good. I am learning!

She is a great mother

@anitavillanova7950

2 ай бұрын

She is not just a a great mother but an AMAZING one too!!! 😊❤

@missmorla1339

2 ай бұрын

What is perceived now and what the factual outcome is he wasn't factory reset and taught its not appropriate behavior and a grown man playing out his tantrum on others because he was coddled can and will be dangerous for society.

@jennyquezada9644

2 ай бұрын

@@missmorla1339 And for himself as he will be rejected by his behavior, not accepted or welcome by society…😐

@libsonteresa5695

2 ай бұрын

A great mother won’t sell child’s privacy online .

@sgtrubik4901

2 ай бұрын

@@missmorla1339braindead

You a r e such a great mom.😊

You are so kind with him. You are a great mom to your kids and happy mother's day

👍!!! Patience is an absolute necessity!!

Kudos to your parenting skills ❤

@christinasantiago8102

2 ай бұрын

Shes a very good mother 👩

I respect. This may be all true and achievable, but there are kids who just don't listen like the way your son listened in this video. All kids are totally different

You are inspiring all the mother's.. keep it up ❤️

Appreciated, you are really a nice Mother❤

I love your little boy! He is so adorable!

Being a mum is tough and it will test your patience. I applaud her for keeping her cool and having a constructive discussion with her toddler ❤

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

If you can't keep your cool with a baby, you need help.

Love you're parenting! ❤

Your channel is such a relief. Every other channel I turn tells you that you've got to be patient, distract and engage with something else, but no one tells you exactly how to do it.

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

Here is how you do it.....baby is watching TV, it's time to stop, baby says he wants to watch TV, you say, "let's go outside!" Baby is happy.....it's not hard to think....you don't need a video!

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

Ай бұрын

@@Solana771 😂thank you for your prematurely "wise" opinion....babies don't understand lectures, they live in the moment. You reroute a child to the new activity by making it sound fun or more fun. You don't make a big deal about behavior day to day. Your reasoning is not merited. I can talk any kid into moving on in a few seconds, you plan to waste fifteen minutes to pretend you're somehow wise, explaining nonsense to a baby. Someone who believes in the tooth fairy, has no idea what point you're trying to make. Practice this activity on your dog, he won't understand it either. Thank you for the levity this post presented😅

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

Ай бұрын

@@Solana771 you can pretend you are smart...but you can't demonstrate it😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

Ай бұрын

BTW... it's "peace"🤔🤔😂

@AandM8

Ай бұрын

@@user-ly1bi3qi3plol you clearly don’t have kids. Many kids will have tantrums for 30+ minutes over something and distraction does not work. Kids are not stupid. My 1 and a half year old knows exactly what I’m doing if I try to placate him with a toy or something fun or food (food is literally is love language lmao). He gets more angry if I treat him like a baby and don’t acknowledge or give his feelings the time of day. Though, I never do it while he’s having a tantrum. He hates it when I talk over his crying. I’d also hate it if someone was trying to shut me up while I cried.

She training great dads in future Well done mom

You should get a mom of the year award😊

I so appreciate people who show our new generation better than we had giving them a chance to become productive healthy happy helpful human beings ❤️

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

Yes, so many losers up till now 😂

@amalek2750

Ай бұрын

​​L​OL. Some of the most incredible people I will ever know are from past generations. They had courage and perseverance can't even hold a candle to..@@user-ly1bi3qi3p

I am definitely taking notes, I feel as though I’m learning my toddler all over again. Whewww he definitely tests my patience and is helping me to self regulate/check my emotions on a daily basis. 😂❤ thank you ma’am for your commitment in being the best parent to the kiddos and sharing your journey with the world!

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

Yes, a toddler often functions well into adulthood, it's so hard to keep up.....

Can I come live with you ! I had several moms growing up and none were as nurturing and compassionate as you !

PERFECT! I love this. Teaching children this way is much better!

I'm a 50 year old empty nester but I love watching your reels. I wish I had parented more like you!

Remember you're watching a clip from a few seconds of someone's day. Don't think every interaction with parent and child is like this.

@mira8504

11 күн бұрын

What do u mean

He's so cute 🥺😍

I have been watching your videos. Your kids would be some of the finest individuals out there. Completely emotionally stable and empaths. ❤❤

You are so lovely Mommy! Blessings for you and your family sweetheart!! ❤

This is gentle parenting, it’s teaching in a calm soft way. Why Ruby Franke got popular for her parenting is beyond me, because this is how you do it. Kids don’t need to be embarrassed or shamed by their parent because they made a mistake. They’re learning how to be people, and if they have reactions you don’t like, it’s probably observed behavior. Yelling at kids when they are learning to navigate life is harboring such an unhealthy environment where they won’t be able to call you when something is wrong as they get a little older. You’re doing the dang thing mama!

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

This is a baby! At that age, you just steer them in the right direction. You don't make them feel guilty and cry. That's emotional abuse!

@lol69970

2 ай бұрын

Kids depend on you. If you don't direct and help them that is your fault and not the kids. It's never the kids fault.

@jessicatherabbitxo

Ай бұрын

Hardly. Actually gentle and respectful parents don't film everything their kids do, all of their vulnerable moments included, and share it online for all to see. She also has a video where she put him in time out because he can't be "happy and nice," and he was only allowed out once he felt "happy and nice" again. She's a terrible parent.

This helps show that the chemicals are in screens that make them addictive do to us..the minute a screen is on, at extended family’s houses, or at restaurants, my eyes are staring right at it. I know I don’t like it, but it’s like I can’t help it. It affects my husband and kids the same way. I know that when I take time off of the screens I actually feel smarter. I know this sounds weird. Good job Momma..on this channel!! God bless!! Thank you!!

I always cry when I watch your videos. What a gentle soul!

This is soo hard as it's so easy to cave in and say ok, 5 more minutes. I'm having a hard time with managing time limits with screen time like my phone w/one of our grandsons and he gets angry also. You handled the situation so well that he finally smiled not to long after engaging talking with him. Thank you for sharing, definitley needed this today.🙏🏼♥️

@brynne77

Ай бұрын

Yes, please don't let your kids stay on their phones too long. Smartphones are VERY addictive and not good for them!

You are a good Mama

Wow, I'm so happy that you schow how to manage with the most difficult situations I experienced

“The kids are crying, get the camera out!”

amazing self-control and regulation that you're teaching and showing him !! this is so awesome to see real examples of, it seems so simple but can be so difficult with children. im pursuing childrens mental health bc of my 2yo and almost 1yo nephews and videos like this helps with coping with the 2yos tantrums 100%. i wish my own parents would have taken the time to do this and taught my siblings and me these skills when we were younger, but we're breaking cycles now! keep up what you're doing, you're doing awesome !!

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

Yes, it sounds like your parents were the worst.... Better you had them explain everything rather than just redirect your interest. It's so important to make kids cry, so helpful.

@febrieze

2 ай бұрын

​@@user-ly1bi3qi3pi was primarily raised by a single mother w 3 kids who struggled after our excuse of a father left. she did amazing for what she could. she just didn't have the right tools or help at the time to teach us the proper regulation skills growing up so we've each had our struggles, but she's been an amazing mother and grandmother who's doing better now n that's what matters. and it's not important to make kids cry, but rather to sit with the feeling and use grounding and regulation techniques to overcome it to get through it the next time.

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

@@febrieze you don't need these idiot techniques to raise a child. Be a person, love your kids, stop regulating them, like a bowel movement! Whatever issues you have now, is YOUR fault, stop blaming your mother. Unless she abused you, you have complete control of your life!

@febrieze

2 ай бұрын

@@user-ly1bi3qi3p everything has gone over your head completely. it sounds like you're just projecting, my dude.

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

@@febrieze I literally hate the sheep people who pretend some you tube video is your savior. If you don't want to just spend time with your children, don't have them! They aren't robots.

I’m 59 years old and my 84-year-old mom is the best mom in the world but this young woman comes as close as I’ve seen. 💜💙

This helped me out, thank you sissy. God bless you and your family ❤

Your patience is unmatched.. 👌👍🥰

I wish I had been better prepared for parenting. This is brilliant!

So precious 💖 his sweet cry is such a beautiful expression. I love him. You're an amazing loving mom with him

Now this is the right way to handle teh situation you are a great mom

Thank you for showing it there is so much to learn .We need more people like you who actually knows what parenting is .

❤❤❤wow sweet mother and cute baby boy lots of love and prayers

I’m so blessed I found your channel! Going to implement this actions. 🙏

Wow, I am so grateful to see Moms like you. It gives me hope for your little ones generation ❣️🙏🏻❣️

I really admire your patience! You are a great mother!!😊

Thank you for being such a great example of parenting.

This is SO CORRECT❤👏👏👏..Mom, you did right & you need to do lots of videos similar as a visual manual in parenting👌😉 l trust many of mothers out there could benefit your teaching method👏👏👏good job Madame❤ & thank you for sharing this with the world. God bless your family.

Your KZread is so great! This is a good source for new mothers especially ones who grew up in toxic household who want to raise their kids better but don’t really know how.

Perfect, wow❤ Youre facilitating him becoming the best version of himself

These ideas may really help me with my adult autistic son who has a hard time regulating his screen time. I'm going to try some of these ideas.

She is such any amazing mother to her kids and I love how she lets her kinds calm down by themselves.

The world NEEDS more moms like you. Good job and good luck!

I have been finding your videos very helpful. I just wish we could all communicate like this even as adults and explain our feelings

Parents needs lots of patience for them and time for kids

It’s hard for all of us in the moment. He will thank you for the rest of his life.

I like all your videos and believe all parents should have this communication and so do I.

Heres the thing, kids need to know basic ways to express themselves like she's actually doing amazing.. i have a girl, 12 month old. And I'm watching for some experience but fr like ur like the patience i swear is amazing and i think already i am but this helps my parenting style. 💕

I love this❤ I’m not a mom, but this is very inspiring for when I do become one

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

Yes, you should waste all day, pretending a toddler has a clue what you're talking about instead of just redirecting him to something else, because crying is so good to break him of evil doing.....

@heenagujral244

2 ай бұрын

@@user-ly1bi3qi3p huh? I’m sorry I don’t have that much dimaag for ur paragraphs sir /maam🤣

@user-ly1bi3qi3p

2 ай бұрын

@@heenagujral244 the fact that you can't write a sentence, is all we need to know!

@heenagujral244

2 ай бұрын

@@user-ly1bi3qi3p I did that on purpose haha

Hey, Mom. You are laying the foundation of a better society! Keep up the great work.

Such a sweet little soul! I want to hug him so bad❤

OMG, you have the most adorable, beautiful children in the world. How sweet you are to them. ❤❤❤

Your one of the best examples of a mum iv come across in 74 years ❤

you’re amazing! i’m 16 and not a mom but i follow you for inspiration and motivation to be like you for my kids at the daycare i work at!

@livjowen

Ай бұрын

Thank you for thank kind words and your support! I know daycare work can be tough, maybe even harder than parenting 🤣 so good luck! You're doing good work 😊

Wish everyone handles their kids like you do! Im going to take great example from this when im a mom someday. Keep sharing!

U are such a sweet mom. I don't have babies yet but I am learning from you how to be patience with kids.❤

This mother is amazing , I’ve never seen this in my life

I hope every young parent finds your content! ❤

Such a wonderful mother ur 🩷 really teaching ur kids good thing

This interaction is so sweet and full of love ❤ makes me sad my mom never interacted with me this way

I really wanted a mom like that..

I love your videos please keep making such videos they are so helpful

she is such a good mother ahhhh-!!!

He looks just like you. That means he’ll have a strong connection to you 👍

What a great mentor for learning to raise children!

no seriously. wow. what a mother.

Great mother❤

Everyone needs this woman in our lofe

such a good mum

Tears in my eyes thank you... You remind me my late precious mother who although had no education and had lived the priviknowledge of t

@mariagkiziaki2600

2 ай бұрын

Privious century she let love and care for her children guide her way of raising us . it's all about love in love ❤️ from Greece wonderful Mama

This is wonderful to see! Sending you love, mum and son! Children are precious-- there is no greater gift than our children! ❤️💯

She sounds like a perfect primary school teacher.

Beautiful mother for a lucky child God bless her Amen ❤

I wish I had mom like you.

I have a 2 year old and I’ve seen just two of your videos so but they’re helping already❤

being a mom demands so much patience… i think the key is to keep ur cool

What a precious little boy!!!

You are the cutest and strongest mom ever 💗 ❤️ 💖 💓 💛

You can go outside and play… create a whole bunch of fun activities! ❤❤❤ this was always my favorite part of parenting! I made gigantic bubbles!!! String and a long skinny stick from the yard!! We spent hours out there… letting them run and slide and play in the mud!!❤❤❤ my daughter still remembers that! ❤❤ good job momma!!

You’re the best mom ❤ Your kids in future will be so good 😊❤

Her tactics and the fact that she limits screen time - amazing mother!

Your a good mom and so special bless ya

Being a Mother is a grace from God💕

Your such a good mum I love that

Proof mums need to be home doing the tough job of being mom & teaching their kids how to be in the world & how to self regulate...this is a super video.. 👏👏💛❤

@Superman_fan_013

2 ай бұрын

This is really good example of embracing feminity🥰🤗

@karadenizin-kizi

2 ай бұрын

are you saying men are like, mentally or physically incapable of being patient with their kids? 🤨 because as far as i can see, this woman did nothing a man wouldn't be capable of doing. i've also seen women lose their patience with their kids way way quicker and yell at them when they have a tantrum, so it's also not a gender thing but something you need to learn as a person. which, again, i don't see what makes men less able to learn that skill.

@Looloothebananacat

2 ай бұрын

​@@Superman_fan_013agree

@Looloothebananacat

2 ай бұрын

​​​@@karadenizin-kiziNo that's not true men are also good parents but it's because Woman are design to do more parenting like pregnancy, breast-feeding etc Men aren't so man uses that spare time to buy stuff from the shops get money doing the stereotypical husband stuff I think that's what that guy meant

@Superman_fan_013

2 ай бұрын

@@Looloothebananacat and I agree with you too