Watch four more talks by Malcolm Gladwell here! kzread.info/head/PLFIigLLitqDnA-v1mjS-F7y9OzNZrAeG4

@generalwin13

2 жыл бұрын

I’d puke on my phone If he called

@Christopher_Bachm

2 жыл бұрын

Misinterpreting the bible to sell political propaganda has swept the nation. Gladwell is the clever one. Peterson is a ham handed mess - I think that's their favorite part... Both deserve disdain. It's called indoctrination! Wake up America!

@JosephKulik2016

2 жыл бұрын

Is the speaker in this video a man or a woman or a what ??? I really can't figure it out. I don't even remember what this video was about. I was preoccupied with the sexual ambiguity of the speaker. Is the speaker in this video a man or a woman or a what ???

@amagician

Жыл бұрын

@@JosephKulik2016 Seriously Joe, if your eyes are that bad, just close them and listen instead.

@ruthcole909

Жыл бұрын

Still it’s really good,? I always felt that way now not that I did the math.

"It is easier to fool people than to convince them they've been fooled."

@jedi_mapperp4073

2 жыл бұрын

The last 4 years have been proof positive you are spot on.

@janesilver2746

2 жыл бұрын

Blimey- how true is that! And probably the reason why (here in the UK at least) things are so messed up.

@fembot521

2 жыл бұрын

Fuck why is this quoted by someone on every single KZread channel?!?

@avocado7947

2 жыл бұрын

@@jedi_mapperp4073hope you mean the last year or the 2020 election lol, mistype?

@jedi_mapperp4073

2 жыл бұрын

@@avocado7947 That would be a hard No.

love or fear: choose one. one leads to disease and ill health, alienation, stress, etc.; the other makes the world go 'round and is the source of great stories, poems, songs, and true progress. African proverb: "the child who isn't loved by the village will burn it down."

@kofi3720

2 жыл бұрын

Proverb 🔥

@movetorumble8681

2 жыл бұрын

#TrueStory

@wildeevolution

Жыл бұрын

I thought there were only two emotions, love and fear. But today I decided there is only one. Love …and maybe a little less love sometimes but it’s still love because everyone is always doing the best they can. ❤️

@t-love8351

Жыл бұрын

»african« is so very opaque and unspecific … the country or language would be helpful.

@oem8530

Жыл бұрын

Which emotion does what? you didn't specify

One things for certain. Mr Gladwell can make a short story long winded.

@JishinimaTidehoshi

Жыл бұрын

All I hear is Blah Blah Blah

@jenvaher

Жыл бұрын

I know! I’m trying to get through this, but he is so incredibly boring. Obviously a better writer. I assume…

@chrishayes5755

Жыл бұрын

people like mr gladwell are exactly why I don't talk with strangers anymore lol

@stanleyklein524

Жыл бұрын

@@chrishayes5755 Well said.

@ndo533

Жыл бұрын

Precisely why I dont really listen to him. His David and Goliath speech was incredibly difficult to sit through

I'm at 10:34 still wondering if anyone let Marta out of the trunk of the car.

@govindthakare8471

2 жыл бұрын

i was thinking about that the whole time, what happened to poor cuban marta

@annalyon8443

2 жыл бұрын

Oooooh, who cares about poor Marta…

@justmeeagainn

2 жыл бұрын

I have her in my trunk now. She’s fine.

@govindthakare8471

2 жыл бұрын

@@justmeeagainn plz let her go it's been 25+ year

@donfitzsimons6673

2 жыл бұрын

8:12 I gave my vote and I am leaving shaggy dog story completely unsatisfied.

You are brilliant ! The gift of connecting with others is likeability and having others trust you. It is having an open heart to be a good listener to a complete stranger.

Jesus what a tough crowd!

I love this as the basis for Talking to Strangers. If you're the type to not trust people by default, it's inevitably hard to open up to them and have any kind of meaningful conversation.

This CD is absolutely wonderful! kzread.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq I liked it so much that I bought a copy for my sister who also liked it. It is very well done. I like the fact that there is nothing in the background to disturb - no music. I am able to concentrate on the various steps of meditation. The pauses are perfect, and him's voice is soothing and encouraging. I would highly recommend this, especially for beginners. I think I will always be a beginner.

Conned, or lied to so many times over the years, by all kinds of people; housemates, the car dealership, inept handymen, corrupt mechanics, so called “friends”, even family, and many many more people from a wide variety of disciplines, that I conclude I am an extremely naive scammer magnet. So I greatly appreciate this talk.

@Luca-tw9fk

Жыл бұрын

you and I both Janet. You and I both

@bryansmiley5851

Жыл бұрын

While we may have evolved to be trusting, current society and current culture dictates we have to be skeptical of others to protect ourselves.

@iordeebeat

Жыл бұрын

...beware of victimism though

@gosselinluke

Жыл бұрын

You were conned once again by listening to #malc

A few days ago in Canary Wharf, a financial district of London. Took a break from a bike ride, sat on a bench, there was another person sat there too. Had my sandwich, then asked him, what's interesting in business today? Had an interesting half hour conversation about global economics.

@bloochoob

2 жыл бұрын

Talking to a stranger in London usually results in weird looks, and I did it many times when I moved here, as in my small northern town, we all speak to anyone anywhere. So you having an actual normal random stranger conversation here was a rare thing 😀

@ultimobile

Жыл бұрын

reminds me of sitting in a lunch restaurant in Nha Trang, Vietnam about 20 years ago a guy about my age (middle) at the next table engaged me in a chat - he was well-educated with fluent English - and told me he worked for the Vietnamese government - we ended up talking for at least half an hour which felt like friends - he was a liberal thinker with progressive ideas another time a local translated a chat with a poor farmer I met on the waterfront - he told me he was suffering because the government fixed the price of the rice he grew to less than he needed to live from that I learned a lot about the difference between educated desires and practical reality with the communist government in Vietnam

Classic Gladwell talk: half hour rambling anecdote to tangentially support a simple point. Get the cliff notes if you don’t have a lot of extra time. Master Class in how to sell little books.

@wickedceltics

3 жыл бұрын

wow, you are a FOUNTAIN of enlightenment.

@Ludifant

3 жыл бұрын

Somehow, I don't trust you :) maybe you were having a bad day.

No flash, no wham bam, no graphics, and no props, just a great story teller with a great story to tell. Riveting.

@stanleyklein524

Жыл бұрын

Emphasis of the word "story". No knowledge to dispense. Just entertainment. So long as we are clear about that, Gladwell can blab without shame. Too bad he (and his audience) are not clear on that point.

@tezzo55

Жыл бұрын

@@stanleyklein524 Dear oh dear. All story tellers have their detractors, and unless you provide FACTS to support your narrative (which you have not) you too are just another fact-less story-teller, but one not nearly as entertaining as the gentleman above. Your ad hominem arguments do NOT give you the upper hand, nor do they make you seem superior. They just make you appear ignorant of your own narcissism. The symptoms you are exhibiting are often concomitant with an alcohol habituation. Do you take alcohol? Tell me your story, but remember FACTS, we want FACTS, not the witless, ad hominem ravings of a drunk. All the best :-)

@tezzo55

Жыл бұрын

@@stanleyklein524 I guess then if we're dealing with facts you just ain't the boy. Weird, especially when you were so full of yourself just yesterday. All bark, no bite.

Trust your instincts when doing the right thing.

This video popped up! I am a big fan of Malcom and over decades , probably have ready whatever came my way.... Have recommended his books and even gifted to friends too. What he speaks has been my philosophy too! People caution me for being too trusting etc... but my point is.. even if my success rate is 30% , the gain to my life is phenomenal! I have been an entrepreneur for about 3 decades and can't tell you how this belief has worked for me! I have got cheated big time, but the others who did but cheat me , have made my life!

As President Reagan said "Trust, but verify.". Smart man!

9 out of 10 people are decent, while 1 out of 10 will survive by taking advantage of the 9 honest ones. That's just the way the world works. When you discover that 1 out of 10, get away from them at all and any costs. Sometimes, you work with them so it may not be so easy but in general that should be your approach.

@annaleonie2731

2 жыл бұрын

Where do you get your figures from? Because common sense suggests your numbers are way off.

@jasondenise3826

2 жыл бұрын

That translates to 1% out of 100% There is no getting away from that 1%. They are our masters.

@Gregavision

2 жыл бұрын

They’re most likely the CEO of the company you work for.

@jasondenise3826

2 жыл бұрын

@@Gregavision I work for the state.

@jasondenise3826

2 жыл бұрын

@ThisUserName15Taken So, how much does that subtract from the point I was making?

I want a Malcolm Gladwell book exclusively on Spies! Love this.

I understood nothing of the purpose of this talk, but sooo liked the delivery, the hairstyle the shirt, and the name Gladwell, really suits you. 😃

@gustaf623

2 жыл бұрын

We're all human. We should trust eachother, most of the time. But communicating with others isn't always truthful... I gathered. But yes, long story for a pretty obvious result.

@bettyboop-xg6jo

2 жыл бұрын

@@gustaf623 Thank you.

@kevincross4302

2 жыл бұрын

Read (or listen) to the book. He begins and ends with the story of the White Cop in Texas who pulls over a young (27'ish?) Black girl for some minor infraction. Neither the Cop nor the Girl handle the situation very well, both are poor communicators. She's arrested and eventually (that day or the next) she's dead in her cell. It's a horrible situation. If either of them would've calmed down (swallowed a little pride) and been polite she'd be alive today. There are several very interesting encounters in the book... Bernie Madeoff, Francisco Pizzaro, the Mountain Climber et cetera.

@bettyboop-xg6jo

2 жыл бұрын

@@kevincross4302 Thank you for the explanation. 😃

@thelovelylucinda

2 жыл бұрын

@@kevincross4302 Honestly - it was up to the police officer. He/she is trained to handle difficult situations. That should never have to result in death. If one was doing their job properly! Unless, self defence of course. Legitimate self defence.

I think it’s a different conversation when you consider the unique dangers more vulnerable parties face. Women and children for example are more regularly preyed on for being more trusting. Taking candy from strangers or accepting a ride while walking home are just never good ideas. I see his perspective as a man but the world is much more predatory towards others.

@mariasalamkhan3768

2 жыл бұрын

true!!!

@vaunniethayer1484

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I think the fraction of one out of ten is too low . However I also think that many people are very easily coerced into doing the wrong thing which they might not have done otherwise.

@shawnieleaf2277

2 жыл бұрын

As a woman that has actively hitchhiked and taken many many rides from strangers for 5 years, I have to tell you that the world is not as dangerous as the media leads to you believe.

@rumi9005

2 жыл бұрын

@Bri Terry - It's true that children, especially, are vulnerable to being preyed on. But it's ALSO true that the number of stranger abductions of children is actually vanishingly small. We're horrified when it does happen, of course. But, in attempting to protect against such an occurrence (however rare) we've ended up wrapping our children in a stiflingly oppressive protective shell. And that's very harmful, too.

@rumi9005

2 жыл бұрын

@Bri Terry - (See my first post about child abduction). Similarly with rape and murder of young women, Bri. The OVERWHELMING majority of sexual attacks against women (and children) are committed by persons either closely related or otherwise closely associated with the victim. As with child abduction, the number of stranger offenders in cases of rape or other sexual attack are very small.

I could listen to him all day. Fascinating and interesting.

Good talk and even greater 'enhanced' audio book. Talking to Strangers is riveting, varied, current, helping to explain the behaviour of people who get caught up in society. I can't recommend Talking to Strangers enough.

Thank you for sharing your gifts! MG is his own genius. He sees the stuff right in front of you and so interesting you just do not see it until he packages it in a way we can understand. What a gift he has for seeing the world.

@donnasherwood283

Жыл бұрын

does he not my impression at all

@morespinach9832

Жыл бұрын

He’s not a genius at all. Taking obvious facts and adding stories around it isn’t genius.

@refresco

Жыл бұрын

He’s far from genius. Raise your standards.

"Be kind to strangers because sometimes you're a stranger too"... Sean Penn WE'RE NO ANGELS

Malcolm tells the most fascinating stories

Thanks for posting!

A gift and this is only the beginning. Thank you

I face life with the motto “I will trust you until you give me a reason not to.” Even then I’ll give a person the benefit of the doubt. My husband motto is “I will NOT trust you until you give a reason to trust you.” Some of that has rubbed off on me and my kids. For example, He always told me NEVER pickup strangers on the road but I have. I’ve picked up a young mother with a newborn baby in her arms and an elderly couple stranded on the side of the road.

@janetpattison8474

Жыл бұрын

And right.y so for helping stranded people. You understood that there are exceptions to some rules.

@exdoode

Жыл бұрын

I guess you have to try your best to assess each situation on their merits

@CGKA2020

Жыл бұрын

Those are exactly the people who would have you chopped up and buried in their backyard and eventually featured on Netflix Catching Killers ;-)

@JishinimaTidehoshi

Жыл бұрын

@@exdoode *their

@cooljazz8

Жыл бұрын

That sounds nice, but you should realize that people on the side of the road could be "bait." You should only do that if you're absolutely sure there's nobody else near them who can ambush you, or if you have some sort of protection with you in the car and you can use it quickly (mace or gun).

Love the way he tells a story

We're all vulnerable to "foolish trust", and most of the time it serves us, but sometimes it does not.

@latinaalma1947

Жыл бұрын

I have too much info on how human brains work effectively, and NOT. When it came to love I always took a well I will wait and see attitude until I hopefully met the right one. I actually approached HIM,,,the only man I ever have. It was his looks of course from across the room. Then he opened his mouth and out fell my beloved grandmother's sweet soft kind Georgia accent...huge check mark for trust column....totally on gut feel and totally absurd, but compelling nonetheless. He was a leader of a huge city singles group with complex scheduling of many sub group hobby events...bridge, tennis, golf, water sports, chess, book discussions etc etc....a leader chosen by the the group, so check in the leader category, check in the conscientiousness category, check in the truthworthiness categogy and in the not a psychopath,sociopath killer/rapist category, trim fit body, worked out twice a week so check in the healthy fit category, avid reader, check in the intelligence, open mindedness and shared passions categories, sailor another check in the shared passion category, enjoyed travel and foreign cuisines...same ones as my favs...check in the openness category...Only one MAJOR category left relavent to me: how was he in bed? Ding ding ding JACKPOT mega lottery winner...what remained to be seen was how all this would fare and wear in a future world together...answer:splendidly.

*listening to Malcom gladwell talking about talking to strangers, doing everything in my power avoiding talking with strangers 😕

@thunderousapplause

3 жыл бұрын

Donn JB pretty much, strangers are the only ppl i wanna talk to: no obligation, no responsibility. talking to ppl i know can require i be vulnerable, and often requires patience. blah.

@Ludifant

3 жыл бұрын

Isn't this talking to strangers? Talking is using language to communicate. What is the difference. You might be deceived in the comment section :). I know.. it's not a rational fear... Think back to a time when you did trust people enough to talk to them. Is there such a time? If so, what happened?

@VoltairesRevenge

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ludifant What happened? They opened their mouths and talked back. Oh, the horror!

Mr. Gladwell, please do a book about stupidity.

Mr. Blah Blah. "I summarize other people's research in a way that doesn't provide any additional insight but I do it in a way that sounds really important so it makes the people listening feel good about themselves."

Although I sometimes think, with Gladwell, it's like "well, I could have thought of that myself" the fact is I didn't. This talk has huge implications for "truth decay", our current inability to know what information to trust and what media to listen to, which wasn't a problem before - we all read from the same playbook. I think we can grow if we learn to apportion our trust more appropriately. "Trust" has different meanings depending on whether I'm trusting the person who is my partner to be faithful or trusting someone in a KZread video to tell the truth. Doubting someone is not always paranoia, it can be healthy skepticism. Interesting talk which seemed annoyingly simplistic at first, but it certainly got me thinking.

@tezzo55

2 жыл бұрын

Well written enjoyable comment. Thanks.

@LastbutNotFirst

2 жыл бұрын

@Paul Gauthier msm has always lied yup.. but this generation seems to have to deal with the manipulation of large droves of people. ie. cause havok (in all forms) -- . it is not just a story or a lie; but a decietful production to create the foundation for all the lies. --- people still havent even realized osbama bin laden videos were just rehashed and re-editted over and over.. and still are like.. yeah the seals got him!

@mandyinseattle

Жыл бұрын

To me, Gladwell does say things that seem really obvious but says them in a glib and self-satisfied way, so I don't get it. I haven't read this one tho, but I'm not likely to for the reason I said. I have few blanket rules and assess each situation as I find it, always being flexible when I can be.

What a great story teller👍

Greatness. Wonderful storyteller. Be well

Another wonderful Gladwell story!

I have to say that the audio book version was outstanding.

@patmebg3794

3 жыл бұрын

I agree completely

@LordIstar

2 жыл бұрын

No

A great discourse indeed.

I needed to know this!

That was pretty good. Trust is vital in a functioning society. Lord have mercy on our society and stop these terrible killings we've experienced lately..

I love his writing. His book Blink is also a great read.

@joeyenniss9099

2 жыл бұрын

Outliers too, hes such a savage its awesome.

His talk explains a lot--especially relations with people--we trust yet we are going to be fooled. I know people close to me who got fooled several times because they are so trusting.

@alexavery311

Жыл бұрын

@中国的主人 What do you think about the message of this video

Famous for having an opinion and insight into everyday things - astonishing!

Entertaining education. Just brilliant. I watched this twice this week.

I live in Rockland County, and I resemble those remarks!

@MrUndersolo

3 жыл бұрын

😂

Just finished reading this book . Educative.

@chaosdweller

Жыл бұрын

Thx I think I'll be reading it soon.

@dirtfarmer7472

Жыл бұрын

@@chaosdweller Be ready to be surprised, by yourself

this is interesting to watch. Thanks Malcolm

People have little defense against the things they want to hear.

@reehulkhair5944

Жыл бұрын

Great quote there!

This is funny to me because I saw Malcom speak at a market research conference once. I saw him in the hallway before or after, and he had this entourage of security personnel surrounding him so he wouldn't have to talk to any strangers in the hallway!

@absoluterefusal

2 жыл бұрын

I fervently do not adore him. I know it's not good to wish ill on people, but I wouldn't cry if he caught a bad cold or got shin splints or something. I guess I'm a bad person.

@monkiram

2 жыл бұрын

@@absoluterefusal I mean... it's totally fine if you don't like him, there's nothing wrong with that. But why does that mean you have to wish him ill. Do you wish ill on all the people you dislike? That's a little ethically questionable.

@absoluterefusal

2 жыл бұрын

@@monkiram I never actively wished him ill. I just said I wouldn't "cry" if he caught a "cold" or got "shin splints." But because of your comment, I'm starting to feel more active about it. Like maybe I'll not only wish but also find and recite a complimentary magical curse (in latin, of course). Then I'll be truly evil when my active wishes cause him to get tennis elbow! Note well: I said "maybe." I haven't decided yet. So don't go judging me again please.

@monkiram

2 жыл бұрын

@@absoluterefusal Lol I'm not suggesting that your wishes will cause anything negative to happen to him. It just seems weird to me to be pleased when something bad happens to somebody you've never met or interacted with and who has never done anything to hurt you. I don't know you so I can't judge you from an internet comment, I just find it odd logic is all.

@aslawrence

2 жыл бұрын

@@absoluterefusal the only comment that made me LOL “caught a bad cold or got shin splints or something” …In my experience, a bad hangnail can be a real bummer too.

0:24 when Malcolm realized that spectators don’t understand soccer and he explained his joke to the audience. Lol

@rose4490

3 жыл бұрын

I understand about soccer, I just don't care. 😄

@dapperking

3 жыл бұрын

football*

@dons9263

3 жыл бұрын

It's FOOTBALL, not soccer.

@djmips

3 жыл бұрын

@@dons9263 The word "soccer" was a recognized way of referring to Association football in the UK until around the 1970s, when it began to be perceived incorrectly as an Americanism.

@GigiUK

2 жыл бұрын

This was filmed in London 🙄 …he also talks about ‘pounds’ not ‘dollars’, and "…for those of you who don’t know New York". Also, he was born in England.

Loved this

Thank you!

You believe in strangers just by sharing the road with them in which your life is at stake with every driver coming in the other direction...mutual trust

@Ludifant

3 жыл бұрын

That' might just be believing in people not wanting to die. They have something to loose in that situation.

@slowpainful

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, Jaron Lanier talks about the huge enveloping web of trust in the world about those very things. He sees it as a beautiful, positive thing, almost spiritual.

@mikestarkly9226

Жыл бұрын

I don't have that. I was raised to think about how driving is using a weapon and you need to be careful every minute behind the wheel. That your best chances are to get from A to B as quickly as possible. LOL But I have a panic attack almost every time I am behind the wheel.

@DR-nh6oo

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes that can be a really scary thing!

@StephenDoty84

Жыл бұрын

No, not "mutual trust." You are jumping to a conclusion there, beyond the evidence. It's more like "mutual distrust," which is why good drivers are so careful and vigilant.

Now I understand so much. Thanks, I think.

@doctorfritznoel

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly...lol.

And there is so much fake authenticity, we can't detect that either. Such a sad world we live in.

Brilliant!

i like talking to strangers and i think i prefer to the people that i know . the people i know are safe and comfortable but predictable and what they have to say kind of like watching a rerun. with strangers i might hear something new i might learn something new there's some spice and new flavors with strangers with the familiar people is easy to be asleep on your feet strangers keep you awake and more alive

@Rithmy

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful!

Scared to talk with people because your on the internet all day and focused on other people’s opinions rather than yourself . ✌🏻

malcolm is amazing!!!

I asked my friend from Hungary how it was to fully know the systems didnt work, yet supporting it with your whole life? He answered that it was easy. 'We learnt to hold two distinct opinions at the same time. Humans can do this' he explained.

@greatmcluhansghost7134

2 жыл бұрын

cognitive dissonance

@TheSagesophie

Жыл бұрын

explains a lot of religion

@greatmcluhansghost7134

Жыл бұрын

@@TheSagesophie and linear thinking

@hannannah1uk

Жыл бұрын

Orwell called it doublethink. Especially useful in communist systems. #1984

@latinaalma1947

Жыл бұрын

We all know humans are wonderful...humans are terrible BOTH ideas are true. The qualifier in that sentence is "SOME".

This is a fascinating and provocative book that speaks to both self evident and not so obvious truths. Having read the book I immediately wanted to reread but instead I purchased the Audio edition and it brought his tales to even greater level of insight and awareness. Well worth the double purchase.

@derekboyt3383

3 жыл бұрын

Are you MG’s publicist?

@SandraRosario-mi1zs

3 жыл бұрын

I will buy it!👏🏼

@patmebg3794

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Somehow the audio felt more real and weightier.

@federay

3 жыл бұрын

I agree the audiobook is a new level of audiobook. It's an audiobook first - with an accompanying print edition.

@oopalonga

2 жыл бұрын

lmao--okay bro--how much did u get paid for this comment? galdwells has always struck me as a charlatan

I missed the bit about talking to strangers.

Put another way, sociopaths and psychopaths have the advantage of not having to be honest, yet their hubris and amorally is precisely what does them in.

What incredible story-telling. 😳 Bravo, Malcolm Gladwell!

@stanleyklein524

Жыл бұрын

That is ALL that it is.

For the love of God I am unable to fathom going thru life without the ability to access the subconscious and retrieve its knowledge in regards to the question I ask. It's called self referencing. I could keep you here for weeks telling you the bullets I've missed and the gems I've discovered. It's literally never a dull moment.

@hijodelaisla275

2 жыл бұрын

"literally"

@grahamberrie2462

Жыл бұрын

Have you an example

The irony of Gladwell warning people not to be fooled

@bunnystrasse

2 жыл бұрын

Why tho

@trentvlak

2 жыл бұрын

@@bunnystrasse Because his books age poorly and are shown to be based on fallacies. There is no 10,000hr rule, the Kitty Genovese story didn't happen remotely close to how he tells it, and Michael Brown assaulted Wilson.

People love a lie "that works for them", that a truth that makes them extend themselves and grow in another direction.

Reminds me of that famous saying about how you should not whistle in the dark forest.

This video was a wild ride. I did not expect nearly as much spy drama as there was lol

I think Martin Luther in the Small Catechism says something to the effect of: The common man is better off being a bit naïve and trusting than to be discerning and suspicious.

@villekarna8545

2 жыл бұрын

He didn´t say that

How perfectly apt considering what's happened since March 2020.

Is this story going anywhere after the first ten minutes? I feel like I'm listening to my Grandpa rambling about "the guy at that place with the thing that one time".

I love this. Thank you. Very insightful.

having read this particular book of him, I am amazed he never mentioned "Default to Truth" in his talk, so people can linger on and buy the book to see how to deal with situation like these in real life. This talk was a Cliffhanger. BIG FAN.....

@sw3tfilth207

2 жыл бұрын

Can u summarize it real quick

@mw7674

2 жыл бұрын

🤨 He does mention it towards the end in this video

@Yamsauce

2 жыл бұрын

@@sw3tfilth207 i can summerize. Default to truth=default to trust. Without initial trust in communication and cooperation nothing would progress. Example: we met for the first time and take what the other shares in good faith. Until one of us gives the other a reason to doubt or distrust the other we continue to cooperate. The big idea is a default to trust someone is key to civilized progress. If we suspected each other constantly nothing would move forward. This predictability has a down side though. It makes people easy to take advantage of by people willing to act outside the social norms or ethic.

@bruceanderson5538

2 жыл бұрын

@@Yamsauce Summary: D2T=D2I, where I= ignorance

@Yamsauce

2 жыл бұрын

@@bruceanderson5538I agree and disagree with you. I agree since by not d2I you avoid being taken advantage of and avoid a crisis. You learn not to touch a hot stove. However, absolutely avoiding trusting strangers is like touching the stove and never going near one again on principle. You never learn how to cook on stove and instead work harder feeding yourself by narrowing down your interactions to only black and white scenarios. Or more literally, you stunt your own personal development because you cannot trust anyone and thereby dont see the wider experience of humanity and the world...because you only do things alone or with people you can keep at arms length. This is demonstrated in traumatized individuals like a rape victim or war veteran etc. I agree by not d2I you avoid being ignorant to what people can do and how fast they can turn on you. You gain resiliency and the ability to anticipate and prepare expectations better. However, I dont think by doing so to an extreme one escapes universal ignorance or bliss. Yes, you no longer operate or think with the limitation of ethics or blind trust, essentially stepping outside the box, but at the cost of empathy and the trust with others. You emulate traits of the people your proactively trying to stay ahead of. Eventually the social isolation/ cynicism becomes more of a liability than an asset. Ultimately, we have to cooperate and engage regardless. But we each have to chose our approach and ethics wisely. Being a pessimist or a cynic is a strategy to cope and survive...but it doesnt guarantee you thrive or network. Being honorable gets you into an in-group or social leverage, but your predictable and open to manipulation. Strive to find the balance/grey I would say, and remember the only minority that matters is the individual. As we are all individuals foremost. One strategy may be more conducive to a context than another in situation later on. Just dont be rigid, be fluid and fluent with the people around you while keeping in mind theyre human.

This video was 100% not what I thought it would be, but very interesting!

The "Moutain Climber" should have said; "I know. That's what a double agent does. We know everything through this man." I was in Havana years ago, trying to sell vacuum cleaners.

Thank you Malcolm Gladwell - another excellent presentation. It is true we are at risk, humanity, from that 1% major deception that we must guard against - we need to become more mature and discerning as a human race now. I find the Wisdom shared by the Allies of Humanity in their Briefings about the Greater Community into which we are emerging, to be incredibly useful in this respect. Well worth taking a look at - they are free to read online.

@jameslake-mentalgamecuespo9010

3 жыл бұрын

Hes onboard with the whole 1%. Call from obama kind of leaked out 😉

@SelmaSPiro

2 жыл бұрын

@@evermoreart The Briefings from the Allies of Humanity are REAL.

A surprising beautiful conclusion :)

I thought the Cuban spy story was going to end with the Mountain Climber saying, "You know Marta? She's working for us!"

Great video

that feeling when you talk to a stranger and then end up flying on his private plane, the lolita express

@andyharpist2938

2 жыл бұрын

yes. power and money, and a little threat, can be seductive ...very few can resist....

I need to get back to reading this book! I think it's a great compliment to The human laws of nature by Greene

@michaelsanfillippo5256

3 жыл бұрын

Ouo look

This is absolutely the truth. We live in Plato's Cave where the trusting masses sit chained, watching the images on the wall, believing it all to be reality

@nedlambton6602

Жыл бұрын

The wall is real, the images may not be.

@benjonnyshirley4203

Жыл бұрын

@@nedlambton6602 it's all a metaphor

Is it just me or did we never get to the topic mentioned in the title

@260Dee1_v2

3 жыл бұрын

Well, that's because that's the title of the book rather than the title of the talk.

@punkseth1

3 жыл бұрын

@@260Dee1_v2 ohhhh i will have to read the book in that case... because that's what i was looking for haha i kept expecting it to come around to chatting with strangers

@jameslake-mentalgamecuespo9010

3 жыл бұрын

Hes been indoctrinated

@mask9558

3 жыл бұрын

Going by the title I’m assuming the topic would be “what you should know about talking to strangers”. If that’s the case then he DID get to the topic. The answer was trusts. To effectively talk to strangers, build a company, etc. You have to be able to be trusting (or atleast appear to be)

@XboxHanakman

3 жыл бұрын

I think it's referring to the double agents. Talking to someone you think you know, when in actuality they're someone else - a stranger

I feel better about so many things! 😂😂😂 I was convinced I am incredibly naïve! I’m no more so than any other and it’s good to know! 😂🤪 things happen and in hindsight better decisions could have been made! Great lessons to learn and yes, they too come at a price!

The work at home guy telling people to go work in the office. Highly coherent.

All I can say is "WOW"

I was deceive by my own husband at the time for over ten years, we had kids together and though we were doing good just to find out that he was a whole complete person with another life and lifestyle outside of me😞can you imagine how devastating that is being deceived by the person closes to you

@diletante6800

Жыл бұрын

Yup

@olive4093

Жыл бұрын

im sorry, i hope ure doing better now 💗💗💗💗

As weird as it might sound to some.. I've always felt the energy of the person rather than the words they are saying, how they look, what they do etc... None of that matters to me, it's about their vibe, I think you can tell a lot from that. But you've got to be present for it to be clear.

@davidlee4712

Жыл бұрын

100% with you. there is also a level beyond this. In my experience, the Highly intelligent can take advantage of this. They know know you’re present. They know you’re watching so can use that knowledge against you. Always be careful, never careless friend. Only time and Consistency can really filter these types out. But also be optimistic. With a dose of healthy skepticism ;)

@sj4267

Жыл бұрын

@@davidlee4712 Appreciate your perspective :)

@dalewetzel3029

Жыл бұрын

It doesn’t sound weird. It is the pinnacle of nonsense.

@sj4267

Жыл бұрын

@@dalewetzel3029 Everyones entitled to their opinion :)

@elifggg1206

Жыл бұрын

True

Não vejo a hora de comprar todos em inglês 😍

i felt blank for first few minutes, then came read the comments(more interesting than the video), and then resumed the video, and could better get his point.

I LOVE THIS MAN SOOOOOOO MUCH!!!! 💚💚💚

How did I not know Gladwell was so hilarious? I didn’t get that in his books very clearly. Must be time to reread.

@videopyc

2 жыл бұрын

The brain deciphers what you read in the book. At the end, the lessons learned were you the ones who fitted with your own narrative. If you read the book again you will come up with a new narrative because you have evolved since. But viewing on KZread the writer’s book provides you with its own perspective. Which is different activity for the brain than reading.

Very interesting. I pray one day I can get paid to be a conversationalist

Public reputation of honesty matters for commerce, certainly. In the South under law a handshake was legally binding. Obviously needed a witness…

Trust your gut instinct as well. If you are around narcissists and sociopaths or people who are going to do you harm your instincts will let you know something is wrong with this person, danger. A lot of us have stopped listening or we don't trust ourselves so we don't listen. These people are very charming and are good at duping us. The con people of the world.

@michaelfried3123

2 жыл бұрын

so stay away from Trump or any of his supporters...got it. :)

I have just finished reading "Talking to Strangers" and it's one of the most interesting books I have ever read.

@mattystewart8

2 жыл бұрын

What makes it interesting? As someone who has literally just heard about said book.

@kalaharisurfer9605

2 жыл бұрын

@@mattystewart8 read it and discover for yourself, is my advice.

@alanbejarano4940

2 жыл бұрын

@@kalaharisurfer9605 in a single sentence, what is the Main idea of the book?

@kalaharisurfer9605

2 жыл бұрын

@@alanbejarano4940 it covers many topics. Read it and judge for yourself.

@snakeoo7ca

2 жыл бұрын

@@kalaharisurfer9605 Sounds like you didn't read the book if you can't even describe it in one sentence... why even comment at all 🤡

What makes this funny for me is that Malcolm Gladwell is known to stretch the truth every now an then for his books. I mean, think about it, no one belts out a hit after a hit without leaning on falsehoods.

i can't wait to go get the audio book.

@suspendeddisbelief401

Жыл бұрын

Why?