This is probably my favorite vlog everrrr! Big Parent Trap fan so you got me there, plus I loved the lesson about the girls making their own decisions. Maddie will be on board soon, I’m sure! Thank you for sharing! 👯‍♀️♥️

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad you loved the video, Lauren! Much love ❤

Teaching them that they are in control of their bodies from a young age is something that will make them independent women for the rest of their lives Kudos!

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Much love OG! ❤

Luca is definitely the daredevil of the two 😂 she was about it with no hesitation

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Facts lol

Lucca was soooo brave! I thought for sure after she was done, Maddie would then be down to do it. The first child is almost always the cautious one so that makes sense. Lol I love watching them grow and navigate this crazy world. Thank you for sharing your lives with us!!

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Lucca is built different Kalee haha. Much love ❤

I think another perspective - or lesson - here for Maddie could’ve been praise for her standing her ground. She thought she wanted it and decided, in the moment, that it wasn’t for her. She didn’t let the pressure of the moment make her do something she didn’t want to do. Which is important for girls. I think she should’ve been given a small token for that. That was a tough and very mature thing she did. By not giving her a treat - in this situation- it almost sends the message that she should’ve followed through even though she had changed her mind. She was penalized for it.

@eglantinew739

Жыл бұрын

I so agree with this! - penalizing her for not sticking with her decision about her body. This could have confused her.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the insight Mini! This is something that we definitely did throughout the entire process and after as well.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

@@eglantinew739 She wasn't penalized for not sticking with a decision for the body, she's too young to comprehend that lol.

@laurenfoster6668

Жыл бұрын

Agree with that! You should be able to change your mind and not be penalized for that. It didn't feel right for her and she honored that. I think thats a big deal!

I love that you and Charlotte work so great together!❤️

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Bonnie! Much love ❤

Go Maddie for speaking her truth and good job to Lucca for being so brave! Both of them made valuable decisions. I’m so proud of both!❤️

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

❤

@chelseam.stevens

Жыл бұрын

@@Cedthompson also, I’m not a parent, so I could be wrong. I think the idea of teaching the girls body autonomy, but then withholding a treat when they make a decision about their body is a bit contradictory. The contingency of making a decision then being rewarded for staying committed to that decision can be used in a different scenario. Chores would be a perfect contingency for teaching commitment. I hope I’m not overstepping.

@creating1_c1999

Жыл бұрын

@@chelseam.stevens No. He told Maddie that she would get a treat for being brave. He knows this is a tough adventure and he's aware that she will fall back. That's why he offered the treat to encourage her to grit and bear the pain. Remember it was never his or Char's idea to force them, but to support them even when reluctant to follow through. Maddie was not punished. She simply didn't fulfill the contract for the treat, and chose not to be brave and that is okay. She's a solid intelligent child and this is the opposite of training a narc. He didn't say if you just try you'd get a reward. Understand military training, similarly. People who sign their life away for the protection of our freedom. Purple Heart is not given to those who simply put on the uniform--It's for the one who actually took injury or who paid that ultimate sacrifice (their life).

@chelseam.stevens

Жыл бұрын

@@creating1_c1999 I did not say that she was punished. That example of military training is way too far and you’re thinking way too deep.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Hey ​@@chelseam.stevens appreciate the insight! We aren’t teaching the girls body anatomy, they are way to you for that. The lesson was more for Charlotte and I as parents. Not once did we speak to them about making decisions about there body because that’s not what this was about. Appreciate the love, kind words and the gentleness that you used! Much love ❤️

So very proud of Lucca!!! 🥰 Charlotte handled it beautifully by telling Maddie with firmness & comfort, that if she didn't want to do it, she didn't have to. I love that. Ced, your point of view on follow through, equalling reward, is valid. However, Maddie showed up & she TRIED, that's half the battle, especially at such a young age! Shout out to Lucca for setting an awesome example & sharing her goodies with her sister!❤️🥰

I really love the idea around setting the girls up with being in tune with their own body! I defer on the treat aspect side. I feel its ok to change your mind in regards to having something done to your body. So I feel Maddie should have had a treat! Please don't take this as a negative comment Please 🙏🏼💚

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

It's all love Louise! I don't see this as a negative comment at all everyone has there perspective and I understand that ❤

Luca is a beast🥰🥰🥰💕

I had my daughter ears pierced when she was 6 weeks old…when she was a teenager she decided she wanted her tongue pierced and her nose. At her dental appointment the dentist told my daughter to be careful because other patients chipped their teeth with their tongue piercing…my daughter went home and removed her tongue piercing lol. You’re right Ced it’s important for children to earn things. You and Charlotte are doing an amazing job. Lucca was so cute. Love the skit with you and Maddie.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the love and kind words Gin! Much love ❤

This is such a good video. I fully understand where Charlotte was coming from and even your lesson Ced about no reward if you don't meet fulfill the goal. I thought about it in respect of buying property or a car. You don't save...you don't get. I love watching both of you instill this in the girls. Maddie will do it one day. Lucca is so headstrong for her age haha. She said "Ow" and moved on like the little G she is 😎 love to you guys. Maddie you can do this babygirl💛💛

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Appreciate the love and kind words Kaia! Much love ❤

I was going to say "let Lucca go first." Then she did. All that confidence comes with being the baby of the family.

@creating1_c1999

Жыл бұрын

Indeed. She's got her big sisters back, make no mistake. She's going to pull her weight in the family. But remember she's on route to be a big sister too!

I love this! I was just saying, “you shouldn’t teach kids, you’re a winner if you didn’t win.” Society has trained kids to believe they get trophies and prizes just for showing up. I don’t think it’s right. We need to teach our kids, efforts and the work we put into a task is what we are rewarded for. To many kids these days have expectations based on pure existence…..”I want it, buy it, I need it”, and parents comply. Let the desire become a teachable moment. Congratulations for being solid parents!

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Much love Stacy! Thank you for the love and kind words ❤

@creating1_c1999

Жыл бұрын

yes. This is why there is an abundance of narcs. We have coddled them, bought them gifts when it wasn't their birthday, gave them ribbons when they didn't win the race, and allowed them to misbehave and take them shopping. I saw it happen with my own nieces and nephews. They have no legs to stand on.

Great job, Charlotte and Ced!! You are awesome parents 👍🏼

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Kenny!

This was just as eye opening for me as it was for you Ced! It makes me happy to see that you got the lesson that your wife taught you! The fascinating thing about life and being a girl dad/man/father is that you never know when you/people learn these life changing lessons! It also is wonderful to see a man/brother to being open to new ways of deep thinking and transformation!

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Well said Abeba! Much love ❤

Y’all really killing this thing man!!! I know it isn’t easy so thank you so much for sharing-

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

❤

The youngest one always seems like the most daring in families! Both girls are cuties. Its so important to allow the girls to decide if they wanted to get ears pierced.

This was an absolutely AMAZING video! Probably one of my new favorites! It was so creative and insightful! Love you guys!

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad you liked it, Kayla! Much love ❤

I just love the way you treat your daughters. And to be able to understand your wife's side of things is awesome. Ced is definitely a Girl DAD!!! :)

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Muriel! Much love ❤

Loved this video! Good job Lucca!

The first 50 seconds are absolutely brilliant 🤩👏🏾☝️🤩

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Shereen! Much love ❤

Hey Ced! She's beautiful. Can't wait for this vlog.

This is awesome! I have a 6 month old baby girl, and my mother in law asked if I’ll be taking my daughter to get her ears pierced. I replied that, no, I will let my daughter make that decision on her own. She didn’t understand or agree but that’s okay. My husband and I are on the same page about how we want to raise our daughter, and that’s all that matters. Kudos to you for having an open mind and really working to understand why Charlotte wants the girls to make these kinds of decisions on their own. May God continue to bless your family 💖

Lol the girls is soooo adorable 🥰 God bless guys and much love, you guys are doing an awesome job!!

Loved this video. I can definitely relate to Maddie because I’m always thinking ahead 😅 so proud of Lucca!!! She did amazing. The skit was too cute!!! 💖

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Cari! Much love ❤

Awe omg I loved the intro😭😭😭 this was great Ced

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Gabby!

I love this, I'm 35 and I still don't have my ears pierced. When I was born my dad told everyone not to do it it needs to be my decision but I'm happy he gave me that choice. Even my grandma tried to but I always refused my dad let me know it's my body

Really enjoyed the discussion and perspective. Thanks for sharing.

love the lesson in this! y’all are such great parents beautiful to see! much love. 🫶🏾

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Kakneesha!! Much love ❤

Ced and Charlotte you all are doing great with your parenting skills….I love you all though process with raising your women… I pray that God continues bless you and your family…

Sweet Luca gurl😊❤ Shes always ready for anything and such a Brave lil Mama😁😊❤

That intro 😍!!!! A classic!! I love it!! ❤️

You guys are so good together as a family. Keep up the great work because they grow up sooo fast.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Appreciate the love and kind words LW! Much love ❤

Charlotte is an exceptional mother 💓 God bless your beautiful family

lucca is me 😂 I chuckled when she hopped up in that chair. I wonder how the 3rd thompson girl will be given the two personalities you already have 🤨

Congratulations and Great job Luca!

Again great parents. Your wife hit the nail on the head because this is going to help those girls to have confidence to have strength and to know they have control over their body nobody else does. I wanted my ears pierced when I was a teenager and wasn't allowed to. I got them pierced when I was out on my own I was 18. The only thing about me having these pierced ears I couldn't where I didn't know anything but true gold they break out I even tried to wear the things that they say oh this will help people who's allergic no it doesn't not me anyway. So to see you guys being the excellent parents that you are it's allowing them to grow up to be beautiful wonderful confident women. This is a beautiful loving family.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the love and kind words Rachel!

These learning opportunities for your girls will always be remembered- 💞☮

Missed the live chat and premiere but this is my third time watching it!!!

Quality content ! Sweetest video I’ve watched in a while. Subscribed 🙌🏾

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Welcome to the fambam Alaia's! Much love ❤

This was a beautiful video, thank you for creating and sharing this.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Much love Paige! ❤

Good afternoon Cedric and my regards to Charlotte and your beautiful daughters. I really enjoyed today's famiy video. We always getting to learn more things when having girl children. Charlotte is really a great mom and wife. Luca is so brave and looks more beautiful with her earrings.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Much love Kathy ❤

The editing is top notch!

Love this! I love watxhing your family grow.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Much love Kelly! ❤

Love the lesson in this!! God bless you guys!

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Much love OG! ❤

I never thought of that either but what a wonderful thing of your wife to teach her daughters to have control over their choices and body And in this way they can grow up to be strong independent female adults that won’t allow anyone (esp. men) to control them .. And will make choices because they want to & not because they need to or feel pressure to do it .. Wow so powerful & so very important in raising girls esp in todays society!! And that was amazing how Lucca is so much more braver than her sister yet she’s the youngest But she took the lead… Good for her!!👍 Because sometimes younger siblings get lost, intimidated or become submissive to their older sibling & it could carry throughout their lives. Go Lucca! 💪 You have a very special and wise wife! Love your family Love your family channel!!🙌💯

Parent trap is literally my favorite movie. I loved this intro

Hi Ced and Charlotte 🙂 the girls did geat and had the support of their decision by both of you 👍🏾 Lucca is a champ I absolutely love it 🥰🥰🥰

That was sooooo creative 🤣🤣🤣🤣🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 I love y’all so much

This was sooooo nostalgic! Dope! Also, where’d you get that camp shirt from? Lol It would be so hard for me not to give Maddie that sucker. I would just need that reinforcement from my partner because Lawd I would feel bad.

Much love. I always enjoy your videos. ❤️❤️

THAT INTRO IS EVERYTHING OMG

I have to commend you and Charlotte on your thought process. I remember when my daughter arrived home from school asking for a tattoo and I kindly said when you're 18 then we can talk about it again. I had to explain to her that a tattoo is a permanent mark on your body. When she turned 18 we talked about it and she ended up getting one. Women should be independent and make decisions for themselves. I totally agree with you and Charlotte. You two are raising some beautiful daughters. Much love guys❤💕💕

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the love and kind words Debra! Much love ❤

Love your vlogs!

Finally on time and early, took a sick day!🙃👍🏽😂🤣

So Beautiful. Blessings 🙏🏽

🤣🤣🤣 yall! A great experience to watch! Just saying, yall are great parents. BTW, when did target do piercings! what i miss!!!

These vlogs are the best thanks for sharing

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Much love Butterfly! ❤

Lucca bear is such a lil independent girl. So cute 🥰

I’m glad you are teaching that now . Some think everyone gets the trophy even if they do not win. What does that teach? No matter what you do, you will be rewarded and they take that into adulthood and most often will hit many brick walls and unfortunately cannot handle it in a mature way. This is just my opinion, respectfully.

Can I just say, I actually pierced my ears exactly like this after watching the parent trap, and I was 12😂😂 so this is really funny to me

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

You brave brave lol

Really enjoy that vlog. The same reason why I didn’t pierced my daughter’s ears, and now as she turns 18 after all these years passed by she decided to have them pierced. I wanted her to be old enough so she could have that option to decide if that something she wanted to do, or not. Kudos to Charlotte on that one💕💕

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Much love Yan! ❤

@yanl9054

Жыл бұрын

You too and the fam Ced❤️

That intro was hilarious! 😄

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Rozi! 😂

I loved and truly enjoyed watching this today.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it OG! Much love ❤

Powerful 🥰

I really liked the intro😢🥰🤝🏾

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Junia!!

Definitely a great vlog

Luca has to meet my daughter because they are the same person! Lol

I think this lesson is good for certain situations but not necessarily with this situation as this wasn’t a situation where it could make or break her. this was an piercing and she should have the right to change her mind because it’s not harming her or anyone else. As a young woman or girl you want to make sure she understands that just because she said yes to certain situations she can change her mind and say no. I definitely get where you’re coming from because we also want to teach our children to think before they do or say they will do something. so they don’t get use to going back on their words.. great perspective from you both.. I don’t think one is better then the other.. I think with Luca Charlotte perspective is visible. Because she wanted to sit on her own and had very little reaction. But with Maddie your perspective is visible.. fear of the pain is what may have held her back form going through with it..

I love it! Her body, Her decision 💯💞

Your girls are beautiful!

Hey Ced, she is gorgeous!

Madie is my kinda girl. Diamond babyyyy 💎

Your girls are so dang adorable ☺️

That little girl is brave. Didn't even flinch..

Good morning, Ced!

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Morning KG! Much love ❤

Can I say that tge piercing of the ears, I had never thought of it that way with my girls. This was something that was done when they were a couple of months old and my only son had his ears pierced when he became 17 years old . Crazy enough he made that decision himself, but after looking at through you guys view and I am a mother, I didn't give them that option. So, this has been an interesting lesson. BTW.. My kids are 26, 23 and 18 and I am still learning new things. Continue to empower your girl and one another. Much Love

Wow!! That's unique that Charlotte thought that deep into ears pierced

Your girls remind me of my lil sister and I

I didn't get my ears pierced until middle or high school. The same for my 2 sisters as well. My mom saved that decision for us and she wasn't even the one who took us to get it done because she doesn't have pierced ears.

Incredible parenting right here.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Thank you CC!

So crazy we are doing the same thing with our children! Don't worry I also think it's a thing in the Black Community (3 months get that baby ears pierced). It's a true identifier in our community of gender which is weird

Hi family, the beginning of the video was so scary, I thought it was real, I'm screaming, lol, Maddie will let you know when she is ready, congrats Lucca., have a good night!

Lucca is a G!!! 💪🏻

That's my girl,Luca.

I pierced my own back in 7th grade lol but that didn’t last long because that’s when I found out that I’m allergic to metal. I tried it again in my 20’s and it still happened, so now at almost 34 I don’t have my ears pierced anymore.

wow. Luca. fierce. lovely

She's a good actor!

@ced as a Hispanic women I didn’t get to make that choice we usually get them done as babies for majority of Mexican women lol what do you think for a boy as a boy mom I never wanted to get my son ears pierced because I felt like it was to feminine but recently my 14 year old son got his ears pierced and the reason I let him because it was something he wanted and because he a good kid overall and does good in school so that’s why I also said yes 😅 what’s your opinion for boys ?

Nope...never had mine pierced. Never going to. Now you know one lady who never did.👵🏾 Loved the video😄

I’m 46 and just got my ears pierced lol, had a dad who didn’t allow us to get a piercing till I was an adult.

I know from my own personal experience being rewarded for good behavior or being rewarded for good works was somewhat damaging to me when it came to my relationship with God. God is not like people and He’s given us Grace that was never earned or deserved. He blesses us everyday even though we may not deserve it. At times I forget that and look at God like He operates like people. Sometimes I think maybe things aren’t going my way because I didn’t do something or because I did something wrong or maybe God is punishing me because of my lack of commitment or obedience but I’ve realized to be in Christ means security no matter how many times I fail, He brings complete freedom despite our human nature. I completely understand the lesson at hand though. Raising children is a difficult job that definitely takes guidance from the Holy Spirit. I guess it’s all about balance.

Wow Maddie looks exactly like Ced as a toddler!

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

Agreed Destiny haha. Much love ❤

I don’t have my ear pierced at age 47 . I left that decision for my daughter just like my mother did for me. She’s a sophomore in college with no piercings. It’s her choice. There’s lots of woman with no earrings.

@Cedthompson

Жыл бұрын

I stand corrected! Thank you for sharing!

I did the same thing with my baby almost 9 and no pierced ears🥰😋

This is priceless!!!❤️😭

You’re right no ears pierced no candy. There’s going to come a time when they’re going to want to do other things with their bodies. 😊

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Don’t parents have to make decisions if under 18 regarding piercings and tattoos?