If you feel deeply and think deeply like I do, this concept might make sense to you...Let me know in the comments!! 🙏🏻

A celebration of life is a lovely way to honour a person’s legacy. The loss is somehow, momentarily uplifted. Can you hear the but…..processing the experience of watching a death, being helpless, wishing and hoping something could be done yet knowing that there is nothing, not wanting to prolong suffering……it’s life destroying. Being told to stay strong. I’ve lost the ability to hope, in fact I go out of my way to never use that awful word. I am left with a legacy that I don’t know what to do with, how to process it so that I can move forward “with” it. How could this have meant to be?

The life lesson that I learned from losing my 19 year old son who had his whole life ahead of him and anticipated life and his future endeavors after graduation. The celebration of his life taught me how fleeting life is and to always cherish every moment of the people that God has blessed us with on this lifes journey.

I now recall my thanatologist explaining that same word. Legacy. Thank you 🌱

@lisabennett1253

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I'm so sorry!

My brother Keith passed away on November 5th 2022 and fall is a trigger for me now.

I get it totally

My husband of 21 years died 18 months ago from the complications of COPD. The first 6 months were brutal, physically and emotionally. I sought grief counseling and it made all the difference. In fact, I still see him occasionally just to "check in". It was, and still is, a struggle for me to begin my life as a single , senior ,gay man. A year ago I moved into a new place and found myself decorating the new place just as I did the old place. Only recently have I been brave enough to make this new place mine instead of a memory of our old place. The only place I am still having trouble with is the bedroom. Irrationally I feel that if I redo it, it'll be erasing his memory. I also feel the same way about moving out of state (still in my plans). I feel as if moving and leaving his grave behind is some form of abandonment, divorce or separation and that gives me a great deal of stress and anxiety. Rationally I know he's not in that grave, his body, the vessel which carried him is there but his being, his essence is out there travelling the universe, but I can't seem to let go of the guilt I feel if I move out of state. Suggestions??

@lindydee4293

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Live your life Steve, only you know what is best for you. Your thoughts, grief and love for your husband won’t disappear if you move and create a new life for yourself elsewhere. Wishing you well x

I think I understand what you are saying, but I don’t know how to put this into practice. I live each day the best I can. I allow tears if the come but I don’t wallow, I get up and do what I can to get through the day. Sometimes I think if my husband a lot, but it’s only 6 months since he died and this is still very painful. Sometimes I can feel that I am blocking thoughts of him, I try not to think too much about the future because as I now really understand, we only have now.

Celebration of life!? Whose life? Really. I want to know. Celebrate the wife I lost to COVID and was not able to help. She no longer has a life to celebrate. Or celebrate my miserable guilt ridden life? Not today. And I have been saying that for almost two years. Oh yes! I can celebrate the birds in the air, the trees and the mountains, the children playing in the park, almost everything under the sun. Perhaps some day I will celebrate. But not today.

@lisabennett1253

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I hate the "thumbs up" or "thumbs down" to a post. It's so bleah. I want to say how sorry I am that you are suffering. So sorry!

@raew5263

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Totally agree. My Mother passed and it’s been the most profound loss. No way I can celebrate anything; my life is so dull w/o her. I miss her terribly + 😢cry daily. Grief is a thief. Be well 🙏🏻

@lisabennett1253

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@@raew5263 I am so sorry Rachel! For me days go by kind of ok and then something will come up and it's all darkness again. So very hard! I am so sorry you lost your mom.

@raew5263

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@@lisabennett1253 Thank you 🙏🏻 for your kind words. It’s been very disorienting since her passing. I’m spacey + tired. Cry 😢 all the time now. I miss her so very much