Not having friends/people around who share similar interests is tough. I work with older software engineers who talk stocks and sports but my biggest interests are games and anime. I can relate with having conversations where I have to act interested. I recently moved far from my friends so I've been setting up watch parties and game nights through discord and thats been fun. Also going to the gym has helped, feeling strong is a big spirit boost lol. So ya your not alone and hope your able to switch things up!

Damn bro, I'm 28, my childhood was tough and I grew up doing everything on my own. That's why I never worried about making best friends or having a partner, but ngl, sometimes it hits me hard, because I feel so broke inside knowing that I only need myself to face life and I feeling like I'm losing something or someone. Despite that, I always try to help everyone because I know what it's like to not have anyone, I promised myself to be what I couldn't have, but sometimes I forget it and I'm here without sleep looking for learn modding to not think about my loneless, but your words made me remember why I'm so strong, thanks, you're no alone bro. Pets help a lot btw

I feel that feeling, but sometime just be yourself you don't have to act or pretend, the other person can understand that for you otherwise they're not the one you needed. Having friends is to feel comfortable and have fun with them, not draining yourself just to fit in with others.

dude, so ironic you uploaded this, I've been reflecting on my life recently and can relate to you a lot. I've moved states 2 times in the last 2 years and haven't made friends where I'm currently at. I spent my 21st birthday drinking alone lol. The friends that I grew up with stopped talking to me or messaging me on discord over time so I don't talk to anyone. I understand you dude. The only people I 'talk' to are the people I've met in the gacha community (small streamers and their community) but besides that Im on my own... Theres only so much you can do to meet people and them return the attention, I've about given up at this point.

sounds tough man I pray and hope that you figure it out

I genuinely understand. ❤

Lonely isn't about how many people are around you or that you are with, you can still feel lonely with family and friends. I always tell people: I'm alone but not lonely, I really like to be alone (sometimes to much), the hobby part I can relate videogames, music concerts and buffets isn't for everybody if a person can't relate to that I just rather go alone, to a point I feel someone as a burden when tags but isn't truly interested about it but me for you know what. It can happend to people good looking like you that feel lonely, one of best friends tell me the same thing about a "partner" that is hard to know people when she works a lot, looks great and have a great personality. I think it has to do with the comfort zone, If by bars you mean drinking I don't either but funny enough I go all fridays to a hotel that offers a buffet and a karaoke funny enough in a bar, I went alone and then people came to talk to me and now I even sing along with them, it is "HARD" at the begining but the reward of leaving the comfort zone is amazing, we live in an era that matching hobbies and activities are on our palm. Share your hobbies and you might find people to enjoy it as well. Thanks for sharing this with us and if you feel like doing it again go for it, don't worry we are here for you, a BIG HUG Vanta! have a great sunday!

Loneliness isn't an external problem, it's an internal one. Please do not think it really has anything to do with actually meeting the right people or even sharing interests. Most of the people I'm genuinely interested in are nothing like me, that's partially why they're so interesting. At the same time, when someone is really listening to you the most, it's likely because they do not share your passion and get to experience it through you. So do not think that those blocks you imagine are between you and those around you really exist or are even the problem. You can be surrounded by people that are just like you and still feel disconnected. You may want to see someone to find out if there is something making it difficult for you to be alone with your own thoughts and feelings. This is common and very difficult to determine on your own. But it is often where the desperation in loneliness comes from, the lack of a distraction from yourself or some other internal pain that you may not consciously be aware of. As you might imagine, that can be extremely dangerous. Please do not self-diagnose and self-medicate. That said, the only practical advice I can offer from my own experience is to stop looking for friends and look for people in need of friends. Volunteer somewhere that people can use help. Sometimes, loneliness is literally the result of feeling inconsequential to the world around you, not having an impact. I'd imagine being a KZreadr can counter that feeling somewhat, but it might be too remote to really feel the connection. I incidentally ended up helping an elderly woman in my neighborhood and she practically saved my life. I found myself bouncing out of bed early in the morning simply because someone was depending on me. She was nothing like me, either, and was a LOT of work to help and occasionally VERY difficult lol. But it really carried me through, and she ended up becoming one of my greatest friends and most enjoyable people to be around. I've made it a point to seek out similar people in similar circumstances and each time it's invigorating, even if I do not really like the person or connect with them, it's still extremely satisfying and gratifying to be truly useful. It does not have to be so extreme as helping random elderly strangers, but it can be simply finding people and being determined to help them better their life. It really is its own reward. Take one of the people near you that you think have completely different interests. It's not pretending to be interested if you actually take interest in them. It's a verb because it's an action you can take. Is someone you know training for a marathon or some other fitness goal? Can you enjoy helping them train by training with them? I've done that many times in my life and it's always a great experience even if at the end I still could not care less about the goal personally. There are lots of people with goals that could really use a reliable somewhat self-sacrificing support/partner. But it is great to be there for someone and experience their passion and possibly help them accomplish a dream. It's not faking, I'd honestly say it's the truest kind of friend there is that gets into someone else's world to better that person's life. And I strongly believe there is more joy in helping than receiving. Ultimately, expand your view of what you can get out of friendship to focus on what you can do for a friend and, again, in my experience, it will be much harder to be lonely. Every time I find myself crippled with loneliness, it coincides with most of my waking hours being spent on myself and my own interests. In that sense, I think it's easy to find yourself boring. So, I absolutely would look into talking to someone if possible. Loneliness is not a condition to take lightly. But, regardless, it's universally accepted that being helpful and useful to others has an immense positive effect on your view of yourself and your value. Being a friend is easier than making one or finding one. Also, it often leads to finding other people that find joy in taking interest in other people. As you'd imagine, these people, more than randoms in your niche, tend to make great friends. I would tell you you're not alone, but that always infuriates me when people would tell me that when I was truly feeling detached. And there's no way for me to know anyway, you might be alone. But you are not out of options or without hope. Sometimes, it's really a change of perspective that makes all the difference.

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Wow, i didn't expect such a well thought out response. Thanks for sharing