When i feel like i cant control my anxiety, (i know this is cheesy) but i literally stop and i pray. I have a strong faith in Heavenly Father and i feel like i have to stop and ask Him for peace of mind... its a bit of a meditation with Him. For me, this is my form of comfort and it has helped. I have let me doctor know but anxiety meds just make me feel very sleepy and very somber. I hate that feeling because the is simply NOT me. This works best for now. Thanks for sharing your experience! I too, need to be alone and just calm the voices in my head.

@ceciliajohnson8812

5 жыл бұрын

I pray too, when I get anxious, and fearful. I'm so grateful for my relationship with God. And He never fails me. Never! I'm so glad you made this comment!m😃

@EverydayKitten

5 жыл бұрын

@@ceciliajohnson8812 Aww Thank you for saying something as well! He is my peace and my guidance!!

It's great you can talk to your husband so openly. I think partners can often feel useless & frustrated as well as worrying what they've done wrong....just adding to your anxiety when you feel guilty! It helps to try & understand yourself & accept you have these issues, then work with them rather than ignore them x

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, it's so important xx

Love how lately you are doing videos not only about beauty but also about things that we deal with on a daily basis like anxiety, rude comments on photos or videos. 💕 Thank you for speaking about the struggles all women go through cause you never know when you are helping someone. Sometimes makeup is more that putting stuff on our faces; it is also managing our emotions, feeling less depressed or just play time. To anyone reading this comment there's help available in the UK you can call the suicide line (I know it sounds extreme but if you ever need it) or you can call your local practice and ask to talk the mental health nurse or in Scotland (where I am now) there's an organization called penumbra and they will assign you a counselor that could see you weekly or monthly and you can take part in meetings, just crafts or one on one conversations... you are not alone we all have had hard times and it's always helpful to have options. Thanks Charlotte 😊helpful video and very appreciated

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks lovely, I try to always have a balance between beauty and real life stuff xx

Thank you for being so open about this issue that affects so many people. I’m also struggling with anxiety after a traumatic event that happened 7 years ago. I have lately found that Zen meditation has been a gamechanger for me. Maybe you can try this kind of meditation or any other that suits you. It’s been demonstrated that meditation can change the mind structure in a radical way and help cope with mental health issues like anxiety, depression, PTSD.... 😘

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome lovely! The gym is like my meditation! Xx

I really love how open you are with your viewers. The things that help me manage anxiety are basically the same things that just make me feel good anyway. But especially if I'm feeling anxious, I find tight compression clothing helpful (like leggings for going running), and I also love going for a very long and slow jog to minimalist house music. So the compression clothing works perfectly for that. 😂 Also dancing or stretching are helpful for me, herbal tea with honey, and if all else fails, a phone call to a friend or family member always seems to do me some good. For some reason I never want to reach out when I'm feeling anxious, but when I do I know it helps, so I try to keep that in mind for when I'm in the moment and I'm not feeling like it. Oh yes and putting on excellent songs to sing is always good. I think it's the breathing that helps. :) 💛

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Yeh I know what you mean, I just want to shut off but I k ow that makes it worse x

How wonderful for you to share this part of yourself to your audience. I believe that it's really important for people suffering from anxiety and depression to know they are not alone. When I started my fight with cancer I told myself I can do this, that I'm the strongest and that it won't effect mentally. When I would get anxious about anything I would get down on myself for it. Or when I was feeling depressed I would dismiss it and actually get angry at myself. But I had a very good friend tell me that what I'm going through is really hard and that it's ok to feel these things and it doesn't make me weak. Now, when I feel depressed or anxious I accept that it's ok an give myself alone time to process it. Also my dog helps me very much, it's hard to be sad around her and she's so calm and will lay next to me leaning on me and it calms me down. Thank you again for sharing your experiences with this and I feel it will help people feel ok with what they are going through. Great video ❤

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

You're amazing, a total inspiration xx

@jenbyrne1683

5 жыл бұрын

@@CharlotteHoldcroft thank you 😊💕

damn i literally felt like you were describing me this entire video. i love that you chose to focus on what helps pull you out of anxiety attacks not just sympathising with others who suffer from anxiety. this will help a lot of people!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad lovely, that's exactly how I felt reading that book...we're not alone! Xx

For me, my social anxiety peaks when it comes to phone calls or appointments. In my childhood, I did not pick up on such things as language cues, body language, and eye contact. Most of my life I have never started a conversation outside of my family, now, as an adult, it feels like second nature to not talk at all, making any social interaction is a "sorrowful vengeance". Also, Fantastic video! Thank you for sharing this!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Oh yes I have making phone calls will always make my husband do them for me! Xx

l have depression and social anxiety as well My husband and close friends are so so understanding and know when I get down or anxious they help me to know it’s really ok to feel the way I do...I’ve had many of the feelings that you’ve described I’ve just had to work through them it’s truly been difficult at times ...I’m glad you’ve spoken about your issues it’s really brave and makes people like me not feel so alone at times.....♥️🇦🇺

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

That's AWESOME that you've got an amazing support xx

I struggle with anxiety, PTSD, and panic attacks. It’s very interesting to see how we are alike and different with our anxieties, for example I also start feeling claustrophobic and don’t want any physical contact or to talk about it, but I hate going to be alone especially driving or being at the gym because I get a sense of “being stranded” or that my panic will cause me to have some sort of medical emergency and I’ll be alone during it. Thanks for sharing and keep pushing on 😇💪🧠

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Yes it's really interesting i guess we're all so different in what is causing it or what our fears are specifically xx

It’s a really challenging time we live in. There’s so much more information and awareness, now, on a vast array of issues. Sometimes it’s a blessing and sometimes it’s overwhelming. I’m glad you had the courage to share this. You’re an amazing example for many of us. 🥰😘

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!! Thank you so much lovely xx

what a great chat charlotte! Thanks for doing this :)

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

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You've made such a beautiful point in this! Thank you for bring that to light and for sharing your personal experience

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you lovely xx

Love this video! I have had to go on meds because of my panic and anxiety. Its been almost 18 yrs. I am so glad to hear more people talking about this and know that your not alone and that many people are going through the same thing. I have tried many things like yoga, different breathing tech. and a few other things but one thing that has helped me change a lot is Talk Therapy. I am totally different now ( for the better ) and haven't had a panic attack in over 7 yrs. Thank You for talking about this Charlotte I'm sure this will help many. Love Ya! Your amazing!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

That's amazing Noula, so glad you found something that works so well for you xx

Thank you Charlotte for such an in-depth video! It was so helpful to hear in detail what your triggers are, what makes symptoms worse and what helps to ease the symptoms. I don’t think I’ve seen a video that actually goes into specific detail about the anxiety someone experiences, usually they just say they struggle with anxiety. So your detailed explanations are very appreciated. Thank you for trusting us to share this personal detail about yourself. ❤️

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you lovely, that's exactly what I thought and so happy it was helpful xx

Thanks for this! I have some of the feelings and symptoms that you talked about. Such a great idea to write everything down!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

It's always helped me and will certainly be helpful for anyone who decides to speak to a professional xx

Love this. Looking forward to my weighted blanket for Christmas as my anxiety of comes at night and keeps me awake.

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Ooooh sounds lovely! Xx

Thanks for sharing this...ive struggled with anxiety for years ...and it just always helps to know im not the only one ...its not easy to talk about, so props to you. Great video!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

You're definitely not alone xx

Charlotte, I appreciate you so much!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you too!! Xxx

Same here to everything you shared. I too like to go to my quiet space when I feel anxious. 👏👏👏👏👍👍👍👍

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

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I have bipolar type 2 disorder and have a lot off triggers I have to watch out for so I don´t end up in an extreme high och low state off mind. I also have social fobia and really struggle to be around a lot off people at for example parties, I feel I´m being judged on how I look, talk, laughs etc. I don´t like eating in front off people, exept my family, all I think off is how I look eating and shewing. You have good knowledge about your illness and what to do and not to and it is ok to be a little "selfish" and get some me time

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

I know exactly how that feels lovely, I find it so helpful to understand it better xx

Thank you for sharing...it is important for people to understand that it takes some introspection to understand oneself and ones triggers and what helps. A good therapist can be a great way to explore these areas but as you pointed out not everyone has access to one.

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Yes exactly, very dependent on circumstances/accessibility and also willingness to go down that road xx

Hi Charlotte, Again another great video and I thought that perhaps there would not be much to keep me tuned in to your channel (makeup tutorials etc LOL). Well I am glad I watched this one. I also suffered from a debilitating anxiety which would happen to me mostly in the evening when I was just about to fall asleep or in a plane about just before the door the door would close. It was a real nightmare. I am glad to say that I am free of anxiety now but definitely can relate. Again be well and all the best! Noel

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

I'm really glad you were able to conquer it! X

I’ve suffered from social anxiety nearly all my life. I actually don’t go to some parties because I just can’t do it. My husband sometimes talks me into going and once I get to a place I stick to one spot and don’t move until it’s time to go home. I suffer when I’m alone on public transport and in shopping centres and city centres too, but I can manage mostly when shopping. I have a 5 year old gorgeous dog (Cavoodle) and because we live in an apartment I have to take him out for walks 4-6 times a day. So that’s helped me get out and about here at home.

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Oh lovely, it's really hard. I know what you mean about public transport as well xx

This video was very informative. I don't have anxiety but my niece does. I bought her a weighted blanket and it helped a lot. I'm going to recommend this video to her. Maybe the lists, etc. would help her manage her anxiety too. Thanks!!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

I'm going to check those out! I really hope so xx

❤🌹 Thank you for sharing.

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome beautiful x

@yahainHotPink

5 жыл бұрын

@@CharlotteHoldcroft 🌹

You look gorgeous. Many thanks for the topic. I have a friend who suffered from panic attacks. He opened up to me about his issues and found comfort in me. I hope others shall find peace as well. I'm aware it is not easy; sorry for those still struggling.

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you lovely, that's fantastic that your friend has you to talk to x

@TheAlfaOmegaStar

5 жыл бұрын

@@CharlotteHoldcroft I guess I'm the lucky one; he chose me to be his confidante. So you could say things are getting pretty serious :D Thanks again for your reply. We always look forward to hearing from you!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

You're obviously very easy to talk to and a great listener x

@TheAlfaOmegaStar

5 жыл бұрын

@@CharlotteHoldcroft It might be due to listening to and learning from a great woman here on KZread ;) Hopefully it doesn't sound silly, but you must be an awesome speaker (besides on this platform, naturally).

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you lovely, I talk for a living so am very used to it lol xx

Anxiety for me starts with a feeling of nausea, heart flutters, borderline fainting and getting overheated (my chest and face flush blotchy pink/red) - I always have strong flavored mints/candy/gum to chew and distract me so I don't get fully panic stricken (a time or two, I've gone through a whole pack just trying to calm myself). I've had to go to the restroom/bathroom to get away from (people chatting and assorted restaurant) noise/sound levels that overwhelms and stresses me further. There have been a couple times that I had to leave events because I was quite panic stricken, I just couldn't calm myself and ended up feeling so ill. My small anxiety bouts escalated horribly after the death of close family relatives and a long time beloved pet. Of course, at that time I had to fly on planes a lot and began to suffer fear of flying - I got through the flights with meditation/hypnosis type audio programs. Usually I have small bouts of anxiety that is easily managed; BUT wow, those few escalated times were just awful.

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Oh I'm so sorry lovely, sounds as though you've found some good things that work for you x

Anxiety for me it's everything related to food...

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

That's very tough my lovely, really hope you have support with that xx

This is going to be a long comment... I apologise. I got called "manic" & "mentally ill" at work the other day by a colleague... I was just having an animated discussion (about boxing of all things) and she said I was very hyper. Luckily I am in a good place now and initially laughed it off while my other colleague said "you CANNOT say that!"... I then looked at it like a learning experience for her. I was completely honest and said, I have anxiety, when I'm a group I overcompensate and can become loud or animated. I was medicated for a couple of years but am nearly a year off meds. After sharing it all, she just responded with "I knew you were mentally ill". I found to help myself I started helping others. I am a peer support officer and I assist other police with talking and if need be to refer on to other support services. In a party situation I walk in behind my husband holding his hand. I try to get to parties early and help the hostess so I don't walk into a group & I am busy food prepping, or drinks so I take the focus off me. I watch Indian head massage videos... I go and get a head massage (if I can get out of the house). Driving works for me too but I hate the shops... too peopley! I don't drink... but I have nothing against a glass of wine if that works for you. I think acknowledging it, talking about it, finding strategies that work, breathe ... breathe... breathe. Thank you for sharing this. Sorry it's such a long response, I could have written tonnes more!!

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry that happened to you. That's not OK. X

@elliehumphris4074

5 жыл бұрын

Charlotte Holdcroft it says more about her than about me... and anxiety & depression can strike anyone... no one is immune. I just hope it never is something she has to face & try and conquer. I actually felt sorry for her ... rather than seeing it from a learning about your colleague (and human) perspective she just had to be right. I try and learn everyday about new strategies to cope, to help, to grow and to be better. She isn't and for me that's sadder than anything she can say to me or think about me. I have anxiety but I am not defined by it. I don't let my anxiety win any longer (I have been hospitalised with a panic attack that then caused tachycardia) but that's a long time ago now. When I feel unsafe, or my anxiety building I remember that day and find a place to reflect and calm and focus on right now. I think you are amazing for sharing this... you don't know just how perfect the timing was (for me) and I didn't realise how much I needed to hear about someone else's perspective until I saw your video. It's so nice to be able to shed the "mask" and stigma that is attached with anxiety and depression. The great thing is you can learn to manage if (as you said). It doesn't have to be you, it's just something you deal with! Much love and thanks

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, and chances are she either has, is or will do and maybe that's why she responded as she did. Totally agree and I'm so glad it was helpful, that's all that matters to me xx

@elliehumphris4074

5 жыл бұрын

Charlotte Holdcroft I am so pleased you did.. and it takes courage to share to an audience that potentially can be nasty. Another funny trick... you will laugh... watching makeup tutorials... yours ALWAYS make me laugh at least once with something you say or one of your facial expressions & that is a great tool for centering me. So without knowing, I bet this has helped others too. I leant how to meditate too, exercise can be helpful (especially yoga)... knowledge is power when it comes to anxiety and it's reassuring to know that the person behind the screen has been to (and still goes to war) with this shitty beast. Wars can be won though and I won't let it beat me down as low as I used to be. Control it, don't let it control you... in whichever way you choose to. Meds, wine, psychological support, groups, reading... I think once you accept it and address it you can start to be better living with it. X

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Definitely and I think actually knowing what it was hugely helped me too like "ahhh that's what's going on here, lightbulb moment!" Xx

That comment you posted about the guy making sexist comments, yesterday, gave me some extra ambient anxiety.

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂 sorry about that! It had the opposite effect on me laughing with you all about it xx

Men have to walk in first in pubs and restaurants, it is the etiquette code.

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Good to know!! My husband always holds the door for me and let's me go first to be a gentleman so i have to tell him I hate it lol x

@redrumax

5 жыл бұрын

@@CharlotteHoldcroft Yep, apparently a man is supposed to protect the women from unwanted looks and be the barrier and protector when she gets into those kind of places :). I think English men are a bit mistaken about this as my bf also tries to let me go in first but in places like pubs and restaurants this is a no no where a woman can be exposed to all sorts of inebriated folk lol. Also getting off the bus he is supposed to go first and offer the woman his hand to help her out. :)). I used to read this kind of etiquette books when I grew up.

I suffered with anxiety as a child as well now it's there but when a tragic happens see it on news I get triggered and the anxiety gets really bad that I can't control and it's really bad do anyone relate

anxiety its due to the fact everybody feling the planet is doing very bad, ecologically economically and politically from bad to worse

@CharlotteHoldcroft

5 жыл бұрын

Doesn't help! Lol x