Armyvetlady Kd, I would've loved to take them with us but like I said in the video they had to go to their parent's home all weekend, which kept them from doing family activities with us. In foster training, they actually teach us to take placements that fit into your own family's routines and dynamics because it helps the kids acclimate better too. These girls were placed with a family that was more perfect for them after leaving us.

Some of the biological parents may be making complaints about the foster parents because they're actually worried about their children. They don't know what's going on when they're not around. Children are mistreated sometimes, and I know a lot of people who worry about something bad happening to their children in foster care or even placement with family members.

Thanks for the video great tips👍🏻 is not easy to be foster parents we all learn by mistakes and bad days, I totally understand the video and the situations, thanks again

I just had this exact same situation! I completely understand where you are coming from. The child’s worker can make such a difference by just telling you everything you need to know before you except the placement. Your sanity and bio kids have to come first even when it’s a hard call to make. ❤️

@denisecoppengelbrecht1409

6 жыл бұрын

SuperHolly27 Yes! So true! We have to protect our bio family through all of this because it could damage their hearts as well. A lot of people don’t understand that. We can’t be out to save the world but leave our immediate family in the dust. I also believe that if we end up saying yes to the wrong placement, it can further hurt the foster child. It’s difficult to navigate sometimes but we can have faith that God will work it all out for the best on both sides.

this is good information. I want to make sure if the little girl I take in has a sibling that they are not split up. :)

For what it's worth, you don't sound selfish at all to me. You should feel proud of yourself and should feel no shame for any mistakes you make while you are trying to do the right thing. No one commenting seems to grasp how difficult it must have been for you to send a child away that wanted to stay, seeing as you obviously are passionate about children and their well-being. I can appreciate that your video has a more pragmatic and to the point tone, as thats how you should address people in a video meant to inform people that are seeking information about a decision that will have a major affect on your family for a lifetime. You are a truly selfless person and a blessing and I appreciate what you are doing and am thankful for the information.

Who takes a 2 year old child to the ER for just a mosquito bite? Who was the child's her health insurance through if you don't mind me asking? (fyi about me: current medical student, & my parents/family are considering adopting/fostering).

@armyvetladykd3486

5 жыл бұрын

Silly was it, get used to it. The er is where it’s at for baby mommas, and even foster mommas.. You are naive as hell, quack.

That sounds like it was a tricky situation! Hopefully your next placement will be a better fit. Are you still caring for the little baby boy mentioned in your previous videos? I hope he's doing well.

@denisecoppengelbrecht1409

7 жыл бұрын

Indy D We do still have the baby. He is almost 4 months old now. He's getting big and he is such a happy boy. As far as future placements, I'm sure it'll only get better as we've learned a lot to make better decisions.

It seems, from what you have said in the video, that the reason it didn't work out was that the mom was crazy and you couldn't go on weekend trips? Doesn't that sound like terribly selfish reasons not to keep a child who begged to stay with you?

@denisecoppengelbrecht1409

6 жыл бұрын

Holy Atheist I guess you can say it was selfish for us to not take these children in because of the scheduling problems. In fostering, I will not abandon my biological children's needs on an ongoing basis to care for foster children's needs because my first priority is to my family. I do not want to send a message to my biological children to say they don't matter anymore because we are fostering. In taking placements, we have to look at everyone's needs to see if it all matches up. These girls ended up going to a really great home after leaving mine that was able to care for them far better than we could've. The new foster home was a perfect fit for them and that's what foster children deserve, a home that they COMPLETELY fit in.

@Nobody-wo5mb

6 жыл бұрын

By Choice Not By Chance Your bio kids NEED to go on weekend trips? I'm glad they found a good home but I can tell you as a former foster kid that that was not guaranteed. It's very possible for a family to look great to social workers and the public only to hide a deeply abusive and horrific underbelly that can ruin a child for life. Foster kids are needy, if your unwilling to make sacrifices maybe you should stick to your own kids needs and not foster.

@denisecoppengelbrecht1409

6 жыл бұрын

Holy Atheist I understand your frustration. I'm so sorry you had a bad experience in foster care!! If you listen to any of my other videos, you'll see I understand growing up in a dysfunctional home. Not all foster homes are bad. Again, I'm really sorry for your pain growing up!

@lynnbairefoot3907

5 жыл бұрын

I agree! Did you know she was actually Miss SC? Shame on her!

@sagittariusmoon1043

5 жыл бұрын

I too felt this ,, poor little girl xx

I'm sorry it didn't work out for their sake and yours :(

@denisecoppengelbrecht1409

7 жыл бұрын

ClothCleansGreen Thank you. Me too! We still stay in contact with the girls and they are doing well.

I do have stepdaughters that have been placed in my custody,, so I didn't get the choice of it "not fitting" ,, it had to fit xx So hopefully next time your strength may hold on, extra needs come with 9/10 with fosters unfortunately bad behaviour is usual, so expect it with every placement. I do how ever understand the impact it can have on your biological family as I can see it in my own. But if u want to help! Then help! dont be added damage. Google attachment disorders. Id probably Google every extra need If i was going to foster. XXX my aunt fostered for many years she took 5 and unders.

You need to watch this video and really listen to yourself. Your learning at these children’s expense.. you sound extremely selfish

@savannahvick5266

5 жыл бұрын

Meredith S. You’d think that before taking a new placement that you’d ask about their visitation schedule. You’d think you’d get all the info before taking a placement. You can find out beforehand if a placement isn’t a good fit before you damage the children anymore from moving them.

I feel if you sound selfish. If you don’t want to accommodate the needs of the children then maybe you should not be a foster parent.Those poor poor innocent children being shuffled around like people like you just because you don’t want to be inconvenienced. You should have taken the needs of them way before you agreed to become a foster parent to begin with. You don’t need to be a foster parent! I’m ashamed you were Miss South Carolina as I too am from SC. You do not represent our state! Shame on you !