Jill was so respectful when talking about her family. She’s really being the bigger person. So proud of her!

@storytimeeeee

5 ай бұрын

You can tell she was holding back/seeing the positives and Derrick was seeing more of the reality.

@LadyLoraella

5 ай бұрын

@@storytimeeeee Yeah, he wasn't brainwashed by them since birth.

@LeannaBanana

5 ай бұрын

She’s a good human. They both are. Proud of them for finding their happiness and what’s right for THEM.

@cherylpelletier3165

5 ай бұрын

She's afraid those creepy parents will sue her.

@cherylpelletier3165

5 ай бұрын

She's afraid those creepy parents will sue her.

I grew up religiously watching 19 kids and counting so when I say my jaw hit the FLOOR when I saw this show up😱

@cassidybrewer

5 ай бұрын

Same!!

@mesquitegirl2013

5 ай бұрын

Same . Did you watch Shinny Happy people??

@gracecombs122

5 ай бұрын

OMG SAME

@iloveimaginedragons-yz7sn

5 ай бұрын

Same when I saw it I thought of two episodes the one where one of the brothers fell dow in that one part of the church and something happened to his tooth and the trip to Aldi’s episode

@aasiyahhasan7664

5 ай бұрын

No pun intended haha

Every single time I hear her speak, I am in awe of how well adjusted she is. She did the work, and it shows. Shes matured and come to a much healthier space in her life for her husband and her kids

I'm an IBLP survivor. I remember going to conferences as a pre-teen and teenager in the 80s and 90s. I knew then something wasn't right. However, my mother was all in. All or most of our homeschool curriculum was IBLP based. I'm still a Christian and firm believer in Jesus. But no longer in a cult like situation.

@juliachildress2943

5 ай бұрын

Awesome that you got out but kept your faith. I was raised in Christian fundamentalism but not as extreme as IBLP. I know so many people who were so hurt by it and many are now atheists or agnostic. I went through an agnostic phase, but then rediscovered my faith outside of Christian extremism.

@megan8794

5 ай бұрын

So amazing that you were able to separate what the Bible says and what man has skewed. I know so many that fall away from faith all together because it is easier than trying to disentangle and decipher for yourself.

@AprilW-ls6bd

5 ай бұрын

Good thing you got out.

@graceliagreen5566

5 ай бұрын

So happy that you are still a believer in Jesus Christ.❤

@samanthadancelover

5 ай бұрын

they weren't in a cult

Matt and Abby go down in history for having the most surprising guests

@ameliao4000

5 ай бұрын

Agreed

@Manzanitamystic

5 ай бұрын

I agree❤

@LisaGoehringer

5 ай бұрын

Wish they could actually interview and dig deep

@Running4lyfe1997

5 ай бұрын

Jill interrupts her husband a lotttt

@MJ_Hershey

5 ай бұрын

Yes! I love it.

50:00 Isn’t it fascinating the Jim Bob himself personally recruited Derick to marry his daughter - and this bright young man ended up being the one to oust Jim Bob!! I love it.

@storytimeeeee

5 ай бұрын

That was the work of a higher power!

@pamelamessner1957

5 ай бұрын

Karma

@anniekay3564

5 ай бұрын

Jim Bob didn't expect his choice of husband for Jill to backfire in his face. Just so glad it worked out for Jill!😊

@juliachildress2943

5 ай бұрын

Sad for the younger girls, though. JB will probably never let them marry outside the cult. It's no accident or coincidence that Jinger and Jill have both put some distance between themselves and their parents. They both married men with secular educations.

@angolson6108

5 ай бұрын

Me too. Its pretty funny

You can tell how upset Derrick still is. And Jill is so nice about it lol.

@MsDF936

5 ай бұрын

Her brain is still protecting her

@CaliMel184

5 ай бұрын

It's because he doesn't have the trauma response that she does.

@KellyHicks-pd1cf

5 ай бұрын

I do wish he would not cut her off so much.

@I.and.A

5 ай бұрын

@@KellyHicks-pd1cf I actually felt like it was the other way that she kept cutting him off.

@nicolebooth5447

5 ай бұрын

Agree. It’s like Derek is trying to make it sound worse and Jill is like well it wasn’t that bad…

The fact that these parents weren’t putting away money for each kid is absolutely crazy

@rebeccaschouten3142

5 ай бұрын

Not everyone has rich or responsible parents

@MollyMA13

5 ай бұрын

That’s the whole point. Jim Bob got greedy.

@ninam8089

5 ай бұрын

@@rebeccaschouten3142 they did. The parents were taking all the money

@222222ania

5 ай бұрын

Letting their son abuse their daughters is crazier imo

@N08R76H

5 ай бұрын

@@rebeccaschouten3142they were on a tv show, you make money from tv shows

Holy cow!!! Jill and Derrick Dillard??? I'm actually stuned. I love Jill and am so happy she found such an incredible supportive husband in Derrick to help her out of the IBLP cult.

@jill7717

5 ай бұрын

IBLP? What does that mean? Sorry I have never heard of it ☺️

@VanessaMilton-vr3wz

5 ай бұрын

@@jill7717Institute of Basic Life Principles

@gingerleamcwow435

5 ай бұрын

​@@jill7717Institute in Basic Life Principles. Basically the game plan for "how to brainwash your family from the ground up." 🤭🤷‍♀️

@misslora3896

5 ай бұрын

@@jill7717 "Institute for Basic Life Principles". It's a set of strict principles and guidelines developed by a man named Bill Gothard that many fundamentalist churches and Christians adopted that are very controlling and not at all biblically based. It's the strict doctrine Jill was raised in.

@gingerleamcwow435

5 ай бұрын

​@@misslora3896I had replied and explained the IBLP is basically a game plan for brainwashing your family. And now my comment is deleted. Just funny how that happens, hmm.

Networks need to have protection for ALL minors on their shows when it comes to pay 💰

@shybirdfl

4 ай бұрын

💯

@victoriamacpriest7130

4 ай бұрын

Yes!!!

@ravenzyblack

4 ай бұрын

So does KZread. Parents are literally using their children to start KZread channels. From the time they conceive to after the child is born and beyond. The crazy part is there’s no separation between working home because their home is literally where they work. At least with the reality TV shows there are only certain hours that they can work by law.

@etschmitz

3 ай бұрын

Look up “Coogan Law” (re: child actor Jackie Coogan); insane that this was allowed to occur SO MANY years after these type of situations have been addressed legally!

@nicholastricarico2957

Ай бұрын

You're dealing with television, and TLC. Two forces, who genuinely do not give a single f***.

When he said "your next two babies..." I totally get that. I'm one of 23 siblings and I'm fourth from the top. We heard them say to my mom all the time "how do you do it." The truth is SHE didn't have so many babies, WE had so many babies. Thank you for shedding light and bringing this out of the dark. I wouldn't change anything because it's all been part of my journey but it certainly had its challenges and it felt like we were two families. The one outside the house vs the one inside the house. Positive love and blessings to you both 🫶🏻

@msaijay1153

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for saying this. I feel way better about struggling with my 2 kids. We don't have an army of baby raisers, it's just me and my husband.

@amychesek2108

4 ай бұрын

23? Same biological parents? IPLP followers? Are there sets of twins? Are any of your siblings still following this Christian teaching? Yes, it was part of your spiritual journey and am glad you have this perspective. God is good.

@agingsisterhood

4 ай бұрын

@@amychesek2108 3 biological and 20 adopted. I was the first adopted. Some sibling groups, no twins, several bi-racial. I didn't realize it at the time but yes, IPLP played a part. We didn't grow up with tv, had a lot of restrictive rules, many of us still have a strong faith. For me I am far more spiritual than religious. I'm definitely still processing that how we were raised wasn't Normal but it made me the woman I am today and who I will continue to evolve to into in the future. We are all products of parents raised by parents, raised by their parents... imperfect humans raised by imperfect humans who were also raised by imperfect humans and that's, well.... that's perfectly as it should be.

@amychesek2108

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for your thoughtful answers to my questions. You sure sound like you have a great head on your shoulders! Appreciate your perspective about all of us are imperfect humans doing the best we can as parents. God bless.@@agingsisterhood

@AJDubi

4 ай бұрын

THIS. And it doesn't even have to be so many kids. I have read research, interesting however soft sciency, claiming that 3 kids is the most stressful for PARENTS - cuz that was the maximum parents could have and still try to meet all the kids' needs. Beyond 3, the kids started raising each other to some extent.

My favorite quote is “you can’t tell someone they can’t be sad because someone else has it worse, that’s like saying someone can’t be happy because someone else has it better”

@christinemaney2294

3 ай бұрын

It’s all relative. I have had people actually stop and apologize to me because they were bitching about something in their life that was a problem and suddenly thought of the tragedy I’ve had in my life. Suddenly they were comparing our experiences and didn’t feel as though their problem was worthy. That somehow their problem or tragedy wasn’t tragic enough to garner support from me. Everything is relative and everyone, and their feelings, are important.

@bonnylouwho76

3 ай бұрын

That expression it often taken too far, I am still trying to heal from undeserved guilt after sixty years.

@CyleeBrown

3 ай бұрын

@@christinemaney2294 exactly relevance is key, and there’s a big difference in someone feeling themselves that the things that are getting them down aren’t so bad when they see someone else having a harder time- it may give them gratitude and perspective. This example is okay because it’s the recipient’s perspective being changed on their own. But I just don’t support it being the other way around when it’s someone else telling someone the validity of their circumstances or how they should feel. You can make yourself feel better by seeing someone else’s situation and realizing you’re not doing so bad and others have it worse than you do in a way that’s uplifting, but no one has the right to try and tell you that your circumstances aren’t valid or as important as someone else’s. I think also sometimes people look at others having it worse than them and use it as a way to diminish their own experience and be harsh on themselves which is also not fair! It’s okay to be sad for a time and upset about whatever is happening. We can only deal with the cards we’re dealt!

@CyleeBrown

3 ай бұрын

@@bonnylouwho76 I completely feel the healing from unnecessary guilt to MY CORE! From my parents, past relationships, and even guilt I placed on myself from being a empathetic person and a people pleaser. It’s so incredibly difficult to create boundaries and learn to stop self sacrificing at your own expense. Over time I’ve learned this: I will give and help others with only pure intention, expecting nothing in return. While also learning to recognize when im being taken advantage of and for granted/not appreciated. And instead of falling out with people and reacting or confronting people about the way I feel in these exchanges, I simply make myself less available to them because most of the time it’s not that they’re a bad person or care less for them and our relationships I just realize that I can’t be there for them in that way without it hurting me. So I stop being so available to them, lending them my time and money etc. Sometimes it isn’t even for forever, people go through phases and seasons. And in doing this I don’t have to have uncomfortable conversations or lose friendships. I also try to be present and realize when I’m feeling unnecessary guilt and in those moments stop and take a few breaths, imagining that I’m breathing in new fresh energy and with each breath out releasing the guilt. And while I do this I say out loud “this guilt is not mine it was placed upon me, I release this guilt, I have no reason to feel guilty, I have good intentions and I am not responsible for other people’s feelings when my words and actions are not hurtful and come from a good place” hope this helps, you got this love! ♥️

@WildPinkThing

2 ай бұрын

​@@CyleeBrown very well said!

Derick is so well spoken and Jill is so good at explaining her feelings, and identifying where they come from.

@glancycorner7425

5 ай бұрын

Lots of therapy and love. ❤️

@rolundin1

5 ай бұрын

He keeps talking over her and it's driving me crazy.

@jennifer7895

4 ай бұрын

Really? I felt like when she gave him a chance to talk, then she would cut him off. 85% of the dialog is from her while he's sitting there quietly or trying to get a word in. That was irritating me because i wanted to know his thoughts as well.

@debbynelson9600

4 ай бұрын

Derick needs to stop saying “like”. That like drives me like crazy!

@lauriegreer6836

4 ай бұрын

BOTH of them say “like” too much, that drives me crazy

"Have as many kids as your body can spit out". That is the scariest thing that I have ever heard and also insane.

@gerbilgeneproject

4 ай бұрын

Catholicism also is against birth control. This is not a rare thing in Christianity unfortunately, but it's also a personal choice.

@jenniwilliams3295

4 ай бұрын

Literally Michelle's body gave out Josie was born insanely early and then she lost jubilee and after that there were no more because I think her uterus just gave up.

@itzjusme

4 ай бұрын

@@jenniwilliams3295so sad. 🥺💔

@KYCyn1066

3 ай бұрын

@@LovedbyGodalways Whether you can feed them, house them, or care for them or not, apparently. The Duggars had no problems shoving their kids off on their daughters to raise.

@bonnylouwho76

3 ай бұрын

@@jenniwilliams3295 My uterus broke after four children, I consider myself very blessed to have been able to have as many as I could.

Good for Jill for having the courage to speak out against this cult of a family and so called religion.

@danizg9081

4 ай бұрын

It’s not a religion it’s a relationship with Jesus and God will judge this girl for backsliding and choosing the world, money and fame over family and following the Bible, which it says in there that a woman should not dress with clothes of a man and a man should not wear clothes of a woman but some people like to live how the world wants them to live. That’s the sad part of becoming famous it just breaks your family and your relationship with God because you have all these people asking you “why you wear skirts”? Yeah they were a little too old school and so many rules, but those rules will get to your salvation, yeah if you want to remain holy to your husband until you get married then yes don’t hold hands, don’t kiss, don’t commit premarital sex before marriage because what you want is to be holy for your husband, so she’s not rebelling against her family but Jesus!

@msaijay1153

4 ай бұрын

​@@danizg9081 Jimbob is the one who sold his soul for money and fame.

@danizg9081

4 ай бұрын

@@msaijay1153 well idk who did but in the end God will know I mean He knows but they will be judge

@weeniehutjr9977

4 ай бұрын

@@danizg9081this woman and her family are lovely. they are not backsliding. everything you do and say is directly against the teachings of God and you’re going to be blindsided severely when the time comes. mark my words and count your days.

@Journal2Awakening

4 ай бұрын

@@danizg9081those rules do not get you to heaven..that’s a man made rule …God is inside all of us.. no religion or organization needed… it a method of control… try to study something outside of what was taught to you..

Excellent interview Matt and Abby do a nice job letting their guests talk. I love that Jill has found her voice and is using it to speak about her experiences while not trashing anyone in her family Very rare for these days

@UnplannedPodcast

5 ай бұрын

So true! I love how it doesn’t come from a place of anger. She just wants to tell her story in an honest way with all the facts presented

@mesquitegirl2013

5 ай бұрын

Completely agree ❤️

@aimeebaldwin5600

5 ай бұрын

​@sushooligan especially with her brothers situation and they expect Anna to support him. Poor woman. She should absolutely divorce him.

@mesquitegirl2013

5 ай бұрын

@@sushooligan I agree, but I think she wants to repair the relationship and keep the relationship she has with her siblings so she’s just trying to be careful not to mess with that

@AS-yz2iz

5 ай бұрын

​@@sushooliganNo, not really. If she loves them, she wouldn't trash them. And she hasn't. The best case scenario is for her parents to come clean with EVERYTHING one day and ask for forgiveness. That's not going to happen by trashing them.

I love the fact that she came out of the cult and still kept her faith! It shows her dedication and willingness to dig deeper into her faith, finding what the truth of salvation really is!

@nikkifuzell8523

5 ай бұрын

I have had experiences in my life and I had support but I was allowed to speak my voice based on my experiences and I have support on the other side of the microphone and it was wonderful as well as my spouse I was you know just as important to work on the other side of the microphone for him as well and you know sometimes we it's the best just to let our spouses know that they're supported on the other side of the microphone Derek needs to let Jill speaker story write her script of her own life and let her share her own story without him he's her spouse he is not her voice he needs to be quiet I think honestly Jill married her father because he does not let her have her own opportunity to speak your voice by herself she like her sister at least that spouse let her have her own voice to let her be on the cover by herself and Derek did not let her do

@peachxtaehyung

4 ай бұрын

Huh? Jill spoke majority of the time lol ​@@nikkifuzell8523

@kylebrown5633

4 ай бұрын

THIS!! ❤

@mercedesperez8015

4 ай бұрын

Amen!

@jenniwilliams3295

4 ай бұрын

Jinger is the same way. Her husband is a minister I believe and he actually showed her the true Christianity that was not a cult and so she has kept her faith but gotten rid of all of the insanity from the cult She said I think in an interview that she had been taught to live in fear so long because they were afraid every move they made was wrong and it's so freeing that her kids don't feel that way and that she doesn't feel that way anymore.

I can’t believe how graceful Jill is when speaking of her evil father. She is learning so much and was humbled quickly. I’m so glad she figured out what’s best.

@ashleyrocha1028

5 ай бұрын

She still has a relationship with both her parents and even spent Christmas with them. I don’t think she hates her dad, I think she has set her own boundaries for her well being.

@Running4lyfe1997

5 ай бұрын

@@Jk71745dude she interrupted him so many times when they were talking and it was annoying lol, she wouldn’t let him speak

@shaynak745

5 ай бұрын

@@Running4lyfe1997I agree with you!! It was getting very annoying and I actually felt bad for him at several points. Poor guy could barely get a sentence out.

@joymorrison6614

5 ай бұрын

​@@Jk71745they both interrupted each other pretty bad

@andreanittel2240

5 ай бұрын

and her dad considers himself a Christian- not in the slightest- into cult life and money as his god..................

Thank goodness she met her husband. You can tell he has helped empower her and build her confidence to use her own voice.

Derick really helped Jill get out of that cult.

@aimeebaldwin5600

5 ай бұрын

Same with Jingers husband I think. After reading her book I learned a lot. Frankly I'm glad they got out of it.

@Ccg996

5 ай бұрын

@@aimeebaldwin5600jinger joined a different one though

@AprilW-ls6bd

5 ай бұрын

​@@Ccg996 Did you happen to read Jingers book?

@brrrrre8362

5 ай бұрын

@@aimeebaldwin5600jinger is still in a cult lol

@celestelawler587

5 ай бұрын

​ 12:48 @@aimeebaldwin5600 Jinger's husband is Calvinist. Like the IBLP, it too is a patriarchal misogynistic "religion." If Jinger hadn't married Jeremy she'd still be in the IBLP. Either single & still living in the Tater Tot Mansion; or, like her younger sister Joy Anna, married to another "Fundie." It's a shame that the only way they get out of the Tater Tot Mansion is by getting married.

Jill just seems so level headed, graceful, and forgiving for everything she has gone through. Handling it with class and grace. So commendable.

It's cute how she recognizes she doesn't want that life but still loved her siblings and being around them. She isn't totally throwing her Mom under the bus. Very clear that the parents were also working round the clock.

@jenniwilliams3295

4 ай бұрын

Not Jim Bob

Derrick is *THE BEST* among the clan spouses. He and Jill are perfection beyond words. So love this raw and "out there" true view!

@dawnlong4809

3 ай бұрын

Also Jeremy with Jinger. They're an amazing couple as well.

Derek is determined to get the gory details out when Jill is glossing over it

@NancyAnderson-nt8bm

5 ай бұрын

It needs to be out!!

@utuberhoda

5 ай бұрын

@@NancyAnderson-nt8bm exactly! It was like she was scared to let him speak

@DaniWilliams93

5 ай бұрын

It feels disrespectful and disconnected. I don’t mean to criticize him, and I certainly understand he’s walked with her through the hardship, but it’s HER lived experience and she needs to process it in the way that feels right to HER. It seems she still has a desire to be honoring or protective of her family, and that is understandable. For him to push details out that she may not be ready to share doesn’t feel honoring of him. I’m personally struggling to listen to the whole thing, because I find myself bothered with how much he’s talking over her and hijacking HER STORY.

@jennifertheobald9823

5 ай бұрын

@@DaniWilliams93 I believe it's "their" story. Derek was also affected by her parents and the show. They both seem to talk over each other but I think that's just their personalities not necessarily a bad thing.

@AprilW-ls6bd

5 ай бұрын

​@@DaniWilliams93 Jimbob put Derek through Hell . He tryed to put their marriage off. He tryed to control their marriage . If it wasn't for Derek his wife would be still stuck in that , just like Jana and Anna Duggar are. I wish Derek would talk more.

She still clearly struggles with wanting to be involved in her families life and loving them even with all the hurt the causes. I praise Derrick for working on showing her how badly she was being mistreated. He sees through all the facade and she sees it is still holding onto those relationships.

@cheesyDELISH48

5 ай бұрын

At the end of the day that is her family and she loves them and they love her. It is unfair how awful Jim Bob was to her, especially w the pants and nose ring stuff. Jinger was wearing pants openly first and did not get as much flack from their parents. A lot of it has to do with Jill being considered the golden daughter growing up. Her parents knew she was more submissive than some of her other siblings

@RachaelNelson-bj3ku

5 ай бұрын

@cheesyDELISH48 All his girls gets flack

@storytimeeeee

5 ай бұрын

This!!

@AS-yz2iz

5 ай бұрын

There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a relationship with your parents and siblings, even if you don't agree with everything they've done and what they stand for.

@anniekay3564

5 ай бұрын

​@RachaelNelson-bj3ku We have to remember that their IBLPP teachings about conservative clothing only applies to the girls because men can't control themselves.😢😢😢

You can tell Jill grew up in a large family. She is so eager to speak and get her point across, I’m sure she never had that opportunity growing up with 18 siblings and her insane father.

@vivio2852

4 ай бұрын

Good point

@itzelw9159

4 ай бұрын

Yess and they kept talking over each other

@goldenamik322

4 ай бұрын

The talking over one another and ‘like,like,like,like’ is really hard to listen to.

@jillianlea9690

3 ай бұрын

She's the one that should be speaking. It's her story she lived it

@noorbohamad5796

20 күн бұрын

@@jillianlea9690yeah

I’m not a normal viewer of this channel, but this was a great interview. I’ve left behind a cult situation too, and I’m so incredibly proud of Jill. It’s SO difficult to untangle what is real from fairy tale when your parents and family are still deeply entrenched. When your parents question your salvation for ridiculous things like wearing pants, it’s easy to just appease them. She’s a very strong person and has continued to be a GOOD person which is also rare. I would certainly understand if she wasn’t so nice, but she’s very sweet and it seems genuine too.

@agirlisnoone5953

4 ай бұрын

What kind of cult did you leave?

@vee_tinymoose

4 ай бұрын

I’m not a usual viewer either, appreciated this one

@lanawr80

4 ай бұрын

@@agirlisnoone5953 It was a small Pentecostal church that operated like a cult. Definitely checks all the boxes.

@lanawr80

4 ай бұрын

@@agirlisnoone5953 a small independent Pentecostal church

I grew up watching 19 kids and counting. It's very refreshing hearing Jill talk so openly about the show and how it affected her!!

@aimeebaldwin5600

5 ай бұрын

I watched it too as an adult and enjoyed it but thought they had weird beliefs. I wonder if Josh is still considered in this IBLP even after what he did and he is in prison.

@elijahtorres2688

4 ай бұрын

@@aimeebaldwin5600Oh, I bet you he still is, which is so sad. Shows how manipulation of a cult can ruin your fame.

Derrick got a lot of heat at first but he has been a good husband to Jill and I loved hearing Jill says she has a family, the Dillard's. Right on Jill ❤

@RachaelNelson-bj3ku

5 ай бұрын

He will lie for money

@samjensen392

4 ай бұрын

As far as I’m aware, he still hasn’t rescinded the transphobic comments he’s made about Jazz Jennings, so while he’s been a really supportive husband to Jill, there’s still areas that he deserves to have that heat on him

@renise011

4 ай бұрын

​@samjensen392 he's not likely to apologize for that. He may not be iblp level of "religious" but he's still pretty conservative. He may not double down just because he's aware of how that could impact his finances. But he may not ever apologize, he just might not repeat it.

@noorbohamad5796

20 күн бұрын

@@samjensen392ya mean his honest harmless opinions?

@samjensen392

19 күн бұрын

@@noorbohamad5796 Honest? Sure, I don’t think he was lying about what he believes. Opinions? Absolutely, they’re not based on fact at all. However, harmless? I wouldn’t say so; he deliberately misgendered Jazz multiple times (which, typically, causes emotional harm to the person being misgendered, in case you didn’t know) and perpetuated a regressive stance on the transgender community as a whole (which engenders stigma that in turn prevents trans people from possessing the full constitutional rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness)

Abby was on fire with her interview skills in this one. Thoughtfully listening and asking engaging questions and offering insightful comments. Abby you rock! Super mom.

God, I'm so thrilled for Jill that she found someone like Derrick. Those kind of good, morally & intellectually solid men like him are an extremely rare find in my experience. It warms my heart that he found someone like her...& that she found someone like him. You can tell he's extremely protective of her & that he is a force to be reckoned with when it comes to deqling with her abusive family & publicity. If only there were enough such men for all of us ladies who grew up in dysfunctional/abusive homes. Jill's extremely blessed & I'm happy for her. She deserves freedom from all the control she had to grow up under...

@MrsDazl

4 ай бұрын

Rare find. Very rare.

27:20 "The reality TV (show) poured gasoline on the fire that was already there." Absolutely

It's so sad how the older girls sacrificed so much, dedicated their lives to what their dad wanted, never got childhoods really, and Still say so positive even after all the trauma inflicted on them.

@K2356-jc4qf

2 ай бұрын

Trust me they probably had a better and healthier childhood than most people nowadays.

@noorbohamad5796

20 күн бұрын

@@K2356-jc4qfoh so you’ve actually been there? if yes then hopefully not as some creepy nosy spying stalker

I have such enormous respect for Jill and Derrick for deciding to protect the privacy and autonomy of their kids. Jill has evolved into such an intelligent, mindful woman, and I love seeing her being so free to be the truest version of herself. It’s beautiful and powerful.

Shows how sketchy her dad is that he got her to sign that contract while Derick wasn't around. He knew Derick would read it and call BS.

@maemccleary3283

4 ай бұрын

Honestly they should sue for some of the money. I know that'll never happen but they certainly deserve to be compensated for basically being exploited for years!

@jnmellinger

Ай бұрын

​@@maemccleary3283 they said in the book that they were able to get some compensation in the end.

I grew up outside the IBLP but still related to it through a sister church association type of deal, and the Dugger parents came and gave a lot of speeches at my church growing up. And we followed the the rules like, women can’t wear pants, no pregnancy prevention, very patriarchal and strict. Definitely not true Christianity

@lifebyhannah392

5 ай бұрын

Very similar situation to me.

@danaezevely4150

3 ай бұрын

Was this church in CA? Sounds the same as the one I attended as a teen. Jim Bob was good friends with the pastor.

@lily-jane.400

3 ай бұрын

@@danaezevely4150 no it’s was a smallish church in Arkansas. He had a very big reach and was able to influence a lot of the Bible Belt

@happening_quietly

2 ай бұрын

I did too. It was the United Pentecostal Church. Now that I have read the Bible cover to cover multiple times I can finally say I have healed and I agree that is not true Christianity. Jesus would never do the things these people do in order to gain control, especially over women and the family unit.

@SIMpip374

23 күн бұрын

Jim Bob was so frigging creepy.

To think that I hate confrontation with one sibling and the fact she has to go through this with lots of siblings, her parents, and with the world watching.... Then go from a over the top, always together family (emotionally healthy or not) night and day (even sleeping with at night), helping raise the younger siblings, and then just feel like you are out of that circle and possibly have those younger siblings you helped raise turn there back. I just can't imagine how it feels or did feel for her... She obviously has a huge heart, and with that, I can't imagine how she feels.... so sad...

This couple is so eloquent and well spoken. They don’t come on here with gossip and ill intent, they just want to tell their story and be fair about it

I grew up very near to Bill Gothard teaching and my friends have been ingrained to their teaching. I applaud Jill of separating herself. I know very well what she has gone through

I love that they get to talk about everything they have been through and still glorify God and share to so many people

@0725361

5 ай бұрын

One can still love the lord. It’s not like they do not place god as number one they stopped and left a CULT

@aimeebaldwin5600

5 ай бұрын

​@@0725361I believe that's what she means.

Can we have an episode with just Jill and Abby 👏🏼👏🏼

@SunshineShauna

5 ай бұрын

Or Matt and Jill

@cindimiller6929

5 ай бұрын

Or Derek and Matt?

@alexandria65

5 ай бұрын

Why lol

This makes me worry that much more about Jana. So glad Jill, Jinger and some of the others are healing

@andreanittel2240

5 ай бұрын

I think Jana saw what life would be like married and made the decision to keep herself free from a million babies. It's too bad she doesn't move away and lead her own life tho.............

@lizg8360

5 ай бұрын

My hope is that Jana is saving up whatever income she can get so she can get tf out

@RaisingMyWildflowers

5 ай бұрын

My honest fear that I very much hope I'm wrong about? Jana helps provide inappropriate wifely duties to Jim Bob. I grew up with a similar dynamic and have this same fear about my dad and sister.

@just-a-generic-username

4 ай бұрын

@@RaisingMyWildflowers This is a pretty horrific thing to put out publicly with absolutely zero basis.

@happening_quietly

2 ай бұрын

I mean the son probably got it from somewhere…

I’m only two minutes in and I’m so happy to hear that Matt and Abby read the books and watched the documentary before meeting with them I really love that you guys show you care

@patriciaoconnell488

4 ай бұрын

What is the title of her book?

@valoriefry9733

3 ай бұрын

​@@patriciaoconnell488 Counting the Cost

I grew up with a lot of these teaching. When I left home and those teachings, and a few years later, I was sexually assaulted. someone who was a close friend of mine told me that happened because I left the umbrella of authority when I moved out of my parents' house as a single 25 year old women. Being free of that control and manipulation is amazing. There are still triggers and trauma that I have to work through. But I'm grateful I'm not still in that.

@Xx.bygracethrufaith

5 ай бұрын

so glad you're finding truth

@s.a.6082

5 ай бұрын

Oh that’s so sick to victim blame like that. I’m so sorry, but so glad you’re free.

@trandom2083

4 ай бұрын

@number4of11 sorry that happened. It happened because your were taught to submit and that having boundaries was bad or selfish. Prayers for healing & truth

@m.m145

4 ай бұрын

You left naive, trusting and innocent. When you have parent hovering over your every move you don’t get a chance to see the world as it really is. I left the Mormon cult… boy was it an eye opener reading the life of Joseph Smith.

Totally wasn’t expecting Jill and Derrick on this! ❤

I watched this show religiously.. and was blown away by what it really was..Jill was always so mature/sweet.

I've met Jill and Derek personally let me tell you guys she is an absolute sweetheart!

i think this is the podcast ep i've been most excited for ever! it's really fascinating to hear someone from a completley different walk of life to me share their story.

I so respect their decision to speak out on their terms with the hope of spreading truth and helping others! All I wish for Jill and her siblings is peace and blessings.

Jill's outfit is so cute! Also I love hearing her normal, unscripted voice. And that she doesn't stare at Derek like a zombie when he talks

I remember watching the Duggars on TV, thinking "Wow, Jill is such a smart, driven girl who knows what she wants. She's going to have a hard time in that family when she's older." I'm so glad she was able to get out.

Jim Bob embezzled. Period Sooooo happy to watch this today!! Great chat!!

It's so sad how Jill was explaining the "buddy" system and she would say things like "Well yeah, my parents helped". 😱😱😱 Helped?!!? They didn't need to be helping you take care of THEIR kids. They should have been taking care of you kids, not having you kids take care of kids. People! Don't have more kids than you can handle.

@kaypat98

4 ай бұрын

I wouldn’t even feel comfortable letting my 6yo or 10yo do any of that with their 1yo brother. Like carrying him, diapers, sleeping with him? No way.

@jenniferwalsh1731

4 ай бұрын

God is in control of life. And loving your family is where you learn to love each other, and therefore others outside of the home. I don’t agree with all that they have done, but I agree with that, if done lovingly and not selfishly, and believe it’s biblical. We train up our family to love and care for each other. 💜

@just-a-generic-username

4 ай бұрын

@@jenniferwalsh1731 What part are you actaully agreeing with "if done lovingly"?

@dash-x

4 ай бұрын

Parentification is a horrible burden to put on a child. Your meant to have a childhood. It’s one thing to ask “oh can you grab me that thing for the kid” but caring and raising kids is horrible. They cooked for all the kids, were the teachers, bathing, laundry, house care, dressing, just too much for such little shoulders. Also it was only the girls.

@cheriecallettaatcomcast4590

4 ай бұрын

That happens in a lot of bigger families. My grandmother pulled my mother out of high school in the tenth grade (maybe tenth) to send her out to work in a shop to make money for the family. She got her older kids to help support the younger kids. My mother always regretted not finishing high school and not being able to go to college.

When Jim Bob and Michelle reach the level of maturity and respect that Jill and Derek have, maybe they can finally find common ground. Praying for peace and happiness for ALL of US ❤❤

@Upstream5402

4 ай бұрын

Jill is way more intelligent than her parents. I know Jill must feel really torn because she still loves her parents. Unless her parents quit the cult, and get real and join the rest of the world, I'm afraid Jill will never find common ground with them. I would not want them influencing my children with their bazare beliefs and practices and I'm sure Jill and Derek don't want that either.

@bonnylouwho76

3 ай бұрын

I doubt in this mortal life-time..maybe when they meet our Maker they will already be dead and cannot die from shock, they are already THERE.)

This was the most genuine interaction, it didn’t feel like a traditional “interview” mode like two couples/friends getting to know each other, the sharing of life experiences. Great job with this! My dad grew up in similar religious circumstances. The kids raised each other, mom was always pregnant and nursing a baby, as soon as youngest born it was passed off to an older sibling. Really the kids cooked, cleaned & raised their siblings, were made to work in the garden/on the farm like an adult laborer. School wasn’t a priority at all. He also had A LOT of “adopted” siblings which we later found out were just another income source…never legally adopted a single child, only fostered for income with a legal name change. This broke something in my dad, finding out he wasn’t really wanted or valued enough to adopt just a $ sign, & able body to work.

You can tell Jill is still trying to sugar coat and down play her parents insane behavior while her husband is fully aware of just how crazy their behavior is / was.

@familycastillo4664

5 ай бұрын

What is crazy really? Having your daughters read the Bible, wear skirts and curl their hair? Every daughter has a good marriage and is a good mother. Can it really be so bad?

@s.a.6082

5 ай бұрын

@@familycastillo4664lol come on, it’s much more than that. Look more into the IBLP

@mirandahenkel550

5 ай бұрын

@@familycastillo4664 58:19

@anastasiya4267

5 ай бұрын

​@@familycastillo4664they don't have any normal education. Some of the girls were sexualy abused. Girls were forced to raise their siblings. But it's fine, isn't it?

@caitlynrene7894

5 ай бұрын

@@familycastillo4664there were aspects of their upbringing that were fine (good even) and then there were aspects that were really not good. I didn’t grow up quite this extreme, but did grow up with enough of the iblp to recognize how surprisingly harmful it is.

Out of all the kids Jill and her husband are the most down to earth. They even have their kids in public school

@caitlynrene7894

5 ай бұрын

I don’t think they’re against homeschooling. Jill just felt too poorly equipped due to her own education to homeschool. It’s what they felt was best for their family.

@pamelathomas312

5 ай бұрын

That is so commendably and heart warmingly self aware of her. She’s so amazing. 🥲

Jill has been able to build such confidence...I'm so pleased for her. I'm sure if Jimbob could do it over, he never would have allowed Jill to marry Derrick. I think Jimbob assumed Derrick would be easily coerced into cult life, and never question it. I have always thought there is a quiet strength and determination in Derrick and he is far from what Jimbob initially thought of him. Derrick loves and supports Jill. Jill loves and supports Derrick. They have a much healthier marriage than Jill's parents, and perhaps most of her other siblings.

I used go watch 19 kids and counting and also counting on and the way I was brainwashed into thinking that Jill and Dereck were unhinged when they chose to leave and how Derek was blamed for it all… I can’t even… Now that I know better I feel SO bad for ever thinking that.

@dawnlong4809

3 ай бұрын

Alot of us do. O cannot wrap my head around to this day how bad her parents and tlc spun this story against their own child. It baffles me that more lawsuits weren't done against Jim Bob and Michelle amd TLC

@gunkulator1

2 ай бұрын

The show gave me the creeps right from the get-go. They were the Stepford Family, behaving like programmed machines instead of real people.

Ok now we need an episode with Jinger and Jeremy

@laurencole1314

5 ай бұрын

I'd also LOVE to hear from Jana. Her perspective on everything

@tamaraliscia3408

5 ай бұрын

I don't think an interview with Jeremy and Jinger would be close to the honesty with transparency that Jill and Derrick provide. However they speak in private about Jinger's childhood and the influence of IBLP, every interview I've seen is very guarded.

@emily45798

5 ай бұрын

Jill talks about in her book how she’s the only one who did not sign an NDA. no one can speak on this topic like they can legally unfortunately

@makedamack8674

5 ай бұрын

Yes please

@nicole4659

Ай бұрын

I don't think that will ever happen

I'm so proud of Jill AND Derek. There's still a lot of healing to be done, but together they have taken huge strides and I'm so glad they support each other so well. Congratulations to both of you and best wishes in all future successes!

You can tell both Jill and Derrick have had a tremendous amount of counseling...and a great counselor at that!

As soon as Derek started talking about Jim Bob and the IRS issues his ears turn red. Hes so p'd off!! Jill is doing her best to keep the conversation light. This was a great video!

The guests just get better and better 😮❤

I love how excited Matt seems about this interview. You can tell he was really into the documentary and Jill’s book.

I am an IBLP survivor. Jill and Jinger have helped me so much by validating my feelings about the teachings. I'm not crazy and I'm allowed to be my own person apert from my family. They have also helped my husband understand me and myemotional struggles better. Such a blessing.

It's sad when parents push the parental responsibility onto the older kids. My sister and I went through that. We didn't get to be teens at all. Not only was it expected but we didn't have a day so about it.

@SewWhittle

4 ай бұрын

I have a friend who had only 8 kids and did that to her oldest too. They are now not in contact any longer. The kids didn’t decide to have more kids…..the parents did and it is THEIR responsibility to raise and care for them. Period.

Literally love seeing her!! Grew up watching that show and was always always wondering why they weren’t filming her. And know I know faith aside it’s absolutely incredible to watch her journey grow. I’m so proud of her. ❤

The way I clicked on this video so fast. I grew up watching the Duggars and really respect Jill, Jinger, and their other siblings that have spoken out about disentangling their faith from what they were taught growing up. I completely agree with Abby that Jill has always been so respectful towards her family and their relationships; it could have gone another way, but it shows she still loves her family, while still being (rightfully) hurt by their actions.

50:33 I’m so glad to hear Derek bringing up JimBob being (potentially) audited by the IRS! That and tax fraud are the first things I thought of when I read Jill’s book.

Jill is so graceful and classy with the way she talks about her family. Telling the truth while not trying to be spiteful or vengeful. So much respect for how she has handled things.

The way I GASPED and said "SHUT UP" when I saw who the guest was!! I never comment and am kind of a silent follower but I love the podcast and look forward to it every week!

I can relate so much to the family dynamics of breaking generational cycles that they speak of - I wish we could talk about it in person. I see now why so many people just continue it because it’s HARD work, isolating, and you get so much push back. I know it’s so worth it but it is a lot!

My parents when to two seminars in the 70s. For some reason, I feel that it was called IBL at the time. The pastor of our church really pushed for members to go to the seminars, and I believe it was considered a key to better (easier) parenting. Two of my older siblings went with my parents. I was still pretty young at the time. My parents never integrated any of the teachings into my upbringing. As an adult, I remember a conversation with my mom about Bill Gothard. She said that she got a strange feeling during the second seminar, and started wondering how much a "bachelor" with no children really knew about parenting. Thank God she was strong enough not to fall in line with his teachings.

I LOVE how Jill won’t let ANYONE talk over her now!! She’s truly found her voice 💪❤

Grew up watch all of the Counting series and then as I got older all the truths came out so as an adult, I’ve been followings Jills journey leaving the IBLP cult and exposing and speaking out against her family. It’s so great to continuously see them speak out in different interviews. You guys always have the best guests!!!

I see she still struggling. Breaks my heart. Guess the Josh story was off limits? That's the biggest part her parents did wrong. He should have been punished for those crimes long before now! Jill, stay strong, you've got this!❤

@ninam8089

5 ай бұрын

Ya it was off limits. Go somewhere else to get the details it’s been done.

@Janarae18

4 ай бұрын

She isn’t obligated to talk about it. Her parents already basically forced her and Jessa to go onto Fox News and defend him. She has already been traumatized enough.

I loved hearing Jill say “screwed over.” 😂

PLEASE interview some of the adult kids from Sister Wives!!!

Jill is way too kind when she talks about her parents.

@Kwildcat13

5 ай бұрын

Their still her parents , you can love and hate your parents

@ashleysevert

5 ай бұрын

She was def defensive

@corgimom5626

5 ай бұрын

@@Kwildcat13 I don’t care if they are her parents. They are horrible people. They covered up molestation, parentified their kids, brought them up in a cult and who knows what else.

@crystaldon4995

5 ай бұрын

Because she loves them. She will always love them. She's precious her walk of healing is her own

@cherylpelletier3165

5 ай бұрын

She's afraid they will sue her

Anyone else notice that every time Derrick tries to talk Jill talks over him?!

@katecollins2471

5 ай бұрын

He talked over her several times too 🤷🏻‍♀️

@katecollins2471

5 ай бұрын

21:50

@katecollins2471

5 ай бұрын

20:12

@katecollins2471

5 ай бұрын

23:08

@katecollins2471

5 ай бұрын

27:59

I'm so glad you guys had these two on your podcast. Definitely cleared up a lot of things. They're both so well spoken. You guys have the best guests,keep up the great work! Love you guys❤

the way she speaks so respectfully and gracefully about her family, even after everything she's come to realize appalls me..she is truly a beautiful person

@labab1048

5 ай бұрын

If you’re appalled you are disgusted. I think you mean it astounds you

@Denise_Suzanne

4 ай бұрын

​@labab1048 I was confused by her use of appalled as well.

Great interview! So awesome that you guys actually let the guests talk!! I feel like in so many podcasts these days, the hosts tend to always interject their own questions instead of letting the conversation flow. 👏🏼

Amazing interview! Matt asked great questions. Derrick seems like a great husband for Jill. His logic and ability to see things for what they are, is needed after all they went through ♥️

Poor Derrick can't get a word in. Glad they are living free from her family cult.

@GirlPaintsArt

10 күн бұрын

True, but granted it is mainly her story.

Very interesting interview! I love how respectful they are of their family despite the hurt they’ve experienced. The talking over each other was a little distracting at times but overall great video/interview.

@user-kn7lo6si5u

4 ай бұрын

I agree. I understand it's mostly Jill's story, but she talked over Derrick a lot & wouldn't let him finish his thoughts

I feel like Derek gets it but she makes excuses for her parents.

@lindseyuher5647

5 ай бұрын

I don’t think she is making excuses as much as she doesn’t want the negativity to take over. Despite how she was treated, she still loves her parents. She just has a lot of grace. For me this is actually very inspiring.

@lebertatemvelmortem1804

5 ай бұрын

She definitely still waking up.

I discovered your podcast a couple of weeks ago and I've been bingewatching ever since. Your podcasts are so entertaining, so wholesome, so enjoyable! You make the Internet a better place. So glad I found you guys ❤

Jill is as brave as a Lion and gentle as a lamb. You are a hero and a great role mode! You are really strong!

This was such a great interview. Jill and Derrick are so down to earth and well-spoken. I watched for over an hour and saw that it was almost over and felt disappointed! I subscribed! 😊

Excellent podcast! So glad you two asked Jill and Derrick some of the harder questions. Thanks for helping them get theor story out there.

Jimbob the cult leader of the family and his eldest son Josh make me sick. Josh ruined Annas life and his own kids life !

@JTSA1234

5 ай бұрын

They allowed it and their kids are going to pay a price.

@noorbohamad5796

20 күн бұрын

⁠@@JTSA1234why? just why do innocent kids have to pay?

Jill is a very gentle person, very forgiving and still realistic. You can tell Derick is angry for her a lot of the time. It must be hard for him too.

Love her and she tells an amazing story with respect and dignity. Pray her journey continues to bring joy and growth!!

This has got to be my favorite collab so far!!!! Can’t wait to see what else 2024 brings!

That is INSANE you got them on the podcast. This is so awesome to see them in this light! And awesome for you guys!!

I have to comment again...Jill really has my utmost respect! She really gets life and is laying it all out, clearing out the clutter and making life work for her! Jana is the smiling statue turning in circles not knowing where she wants to go. Jessa is only concerned for herself and keeps her head in the sand if ever the word, confrontation is mentioned. Jinger is the frail little porcelain doll that tears up if she even thinks someone is going to be confrontational! Joy is trying to shed her little girl persona but doesn't want to blossom into a woman! It's just all sad but Jill? She knows and she is by far my favorite!

@SewWhittle

4 ай бұрын

Jana is 34 years old now. Why aren’t those parents supporting her to get out and live her own life?

I got in a huge argument over the documentary with my parents. They came to the conclusion that Jill and her sister's threw there parents under the bus. But what I'm doing is reading you book and find out for myself. I appreciate how you respectfully speak your truth without throwing your parents under the bus.

Shout out to Derrick for being an absolute king and gently reminding her how awful her parents treated her. You can tell he loves her so much and just wants to yell and scream over the mistreatment but is trying to help her stand up for herself. I love how strong their relationship seems despite all the challenges from her family. Healing and peace to Jill 🩷 Also if you came here to argue or disagree then save it please! Jill has been through enough in her life and seems much happier and at peace with Derrick. She doesn’t care about your opinions, and quite frankly, neither do I! 🩷✨

@nikkifuzell8523

5 ай бұрын

It would be lovely if Jill could be interviewed by herself as an individual's books person on behalf of her life experiences without Derek I mean he could just be a lawyer and stay at his office and do his thing and let her go on the circuit and he could be a support network but he does not need to be next to her it just he does not let her talk

@MsDF936

5 ай бұрын

Her brain is still protecting her from the trauma :(

@littlesecret1961

5 ай бұрын

He interrupts her and talks over her so much it’s annoying! He needs to let HER talk about HER family! I think it’s great that he supports her but OMG, shut up and stop talking over her!

@corellasholl1227

4 ай бұрын

@liutlesecret1961 Agreed. The interrupting was so awful.

@ridingtheroad185

4 ай бұрын

maybe he's more angry HE couldn't make the money on a show of their own? Maybe he's more angry after he spent the money they had on his teeth and education. Isn't he a Lawyer now? Why do people want to make believe they "know" these people and their thoughts!!