Y’all should’nt be judging if you’re not at that age. Everyone deserves to be love. Sometimes we make the mistake of remarrying and sometimes we regret not remarrying bc our kids don’t love us. Some children are thoughtful and will take care of us when we’re old, some only want our money. We never know until we’re old.

These nyab meka act like they don't know how to get old

I’m 50 this year (2023) and people think I’m only in my 30s but being at my age and all my kids grown and moved out living their own life. Now just me and my husband and our 3 dogs. When my husband travel, I get very lonely and miss him so much. I now understand how lonely life can be when you are by yourself. Life is better if you have a partner by your side.

There should be a rule that if you're past a certain age and you got remarried, your step-kids shouldn't be financially responsible for your funeral. The step-kids should only be responsible for the rituals, but the biological kids would be the ones to pay for the expenses. Only this will relieve the stress and burdens from the step-kids or anyone who is in this situation bc really, it's not fair to the children who now has to bury a step-mom whom had never loved, cared for, or raised them.

Wow that nyab is so cruel! Karma will get her when gets old like you said os grandma.

I don't know how being 60 + is old already? However, if you're a widow/widower after 60...don't get remarried! Enjoy your freedom & self-love! If your biological son & nyab find it hard to love you, don't bet that those stepchildren will love you!

Nyias muaj nyias zeeg os tus niam tsev aw txhob tu siab os peb ua neeg nyob ces yeej tsis txawj plhis os thiab yeej yuav muaj ib hnub twg txoj kev laus yuav los caum cuag os mog txoj kev ua ntsuag txij ntsuag nkawm ces txhua2 tus yeej yuav ntsib xwb thiaj tag txog.leej twg zeeg leej twg mam paub os mog cas niam tsis zoo li.lub tsheb es yuav muab qiv rau sawv daws tsav es tib neeg ntiaj teb no thiaj paub os.

Ua neeg nyob leejtwg los yeej ntshaw kom muaj ib tus nyob ntawm yus ib sab nrog yus hais lus. Txawm laus lawm los never too late to find love.

Yus twb laus lawm ces yus nyob yus xwb los mas, ua cas yuav ntshaw ib txoj kev nyuaj siab mob siab thiab nas.

That nyab showed her true colors! She's after your money. She's so EVIL!!! Tsis txhawj li os! Txoj kev npam kev khaum nyob ze ze niag nyab ntawv lawm os!!

Tsi txhob lam thuam cov poj nruam nyob tsam ntuj tsi tuav tsi pov puag li thiab nawb...Nco ntsoov lub neej no yeej yuav txog yus ib hnub os hmoob aw..

I wouldn't remarried if I were 62 yrs old. Better to stay with your own kids.

Vuag tej nyab aw,,,,, koj yeej yuav txawj laus txawj qias neeg thiab os. Vuag,,,,, kev laus kev phem kev qias neeg peb txhuas txhuas tus yeej dhias tsis dhau li os Hmoob aw.......ham tsis los mas me niam tais aw,, txij nkawm ncaim mus av luaj quas lawm ces tseg ib tug nyob ces yeej kho siab tus siab os mog me niam tais aw.....hlub koj nawb.....Koj niag nyab siab phem ntawv yeej yuav txawj laus xwb xwb xwb nawb.

Take care of one elderly person is enough but have to go take care of two elderly persons is a lot of work

Poj niam ntshaw kev hlub uas yog kev pab kev zoo los ntawv txiv neej xwb hos txiv neej ma ntshaw poj niam lub mushroom. Poj niam tsis muaj txiv los poj niam nyob taus hos txiv neej ma thawm twg tsis muaj poj niam lawm ces txiv neej nyob tsis taus yuav tsum nhriav tus tshiab.

Very good 👍 👏 👌

Txoj kev laus tsis muaj leejtwg khiav dhau cuag li tus nyab no yuav tsis txawj laus ib sim neej li

Kuv yeej understand tias txoj kev tsis muaj txij nkawm ces yeej nyuaj siab rau thawm muaj mob tsis muaj tus pab. Luag tej saib tsis taus vim tsis muaj txij nkawm. Yog poj niam ces cov kwv cov tij yeej tsis hlub pab niam tub muaj noj los lawv yeej tsis hu. Muaj dabtsi los lawv yeej tsis tsaus xav pab yog tias tej me nyuam tsis muaj tus khov thiab ntse. Yog tib cov me nyuam laib thiab tsis muaj tus tsheej ha ces kwv tij yeej tsis muaj kev cia siab ces lawv yeej tsis hlub tsis xav pab. Yog lub neej zoo li no thiab tej me nyuam tsis hlub leej niam ces leej niam yeej xav mus ua lub neej tshiab ntag. Tabsi yog tias laus twb muaj nyab lawm ces txhob mus zoo dua.

The stepmom-in-law should have address the funeral arrangements and responsibility. It was clearly on nyab’s mind. Except that stepmom-in-law totally ignored it. Stepmom-in-law should have never moved in. It is a lot of responsibility to care for 2 elderly parents, especially when one is a stepparent. They should just live on their own. ******* For me personally, I would never let others decide the outcomes of funeral arrangements and expenses. I believe everyone should take care of their own funeral costs. May this be the last generation that hold the Hmong culture expectations that it’s your family, kids, step kid’s responsibilities. Especially in this case that a grown woman in her 60s marrying into a new family with the expectation that her stepkids are now responsible for her funeral and burial. She has a life insurance policy already and it would have been the right thing to say to her step lkids, I already have a life insurance policy, please don’t worry about my end of life arrangements. It is not fair to the step kids to hold them responsible. I believe in this case, that was the stressor that led the nyab to her actions especially kicking her stepmom-in-law out of their house.

ab twb yog poj niam ib yam thiab ua li cas tsis yuav siab phem ua luaj os hmoob

Lub neej mus ua niam pog tshiab ces yog zoo li mus ua Nyab tsiab xwb, but worst because we thought we have more power than the Nyab. The truth is, as a new niam pog, we have less power due to "qhov zoo twb dhau lawm". I feel sorry for old people, but they need to learn to adjust to continue to live without their late spouse. We all do. I am in my mid-40th, and I know I'll be in her shoes one day if my husband leaves me first.

Tus nyab tus tub no muaj ib nhub nkawv yeej yuav txawj laus thiab kavliam os niamphauj muaj ib nhub twg yuav npam nkawv

Yog 60 lawm txhob yuav txiv tsam neej mus tsis kawg rov los yus tub nyab tsis yuav yus yus yuav tau ua pog nplas. Its better yus nyob yus tub nyab these days cant deal with peb cov ogs no.

Laus tag pheej ntshaw ntshaw txiv ces kawg li no.

Haub yau cov niag pog laus 60 tawm xyoo lawm los tseem pheej yuav mus yuav txiv ces nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb los mas, yus mus yuav txiv twb muaj tsis tau me nyuam ntxiv lawm na, tej me tub me nyab no luag tsis yog yus yug es luag yeej tsis xav hlub yus los mas, yus muaj yus tub yus nyab lawm tseem pheej mus yuav txiv thiab. Hais txog qhov khaum ces tej zaum yuav tsis khaum os rau qhov lawv twb tsis yog yus yug ned, yus niag laus lawm yus qias qias neeg lawm lawv ntxub ntxub yus na,

Lwm hnub nyab txog koj ntu ces nyab yuav txawj khaus nyab lub nceb thiab os niam tais aw

Niam aw !! Tais tsa tes rau lub ntuj xwb es saib npam leej twg xwb mas.

So funny you do old people voice the whole time 😂😂

Peb yuav tsis paub yav laus seb peb yuav zoo li cas tiam sis mas kuv xav hais tias yus twb laus li 60 tawm xyoo lawm yus tej tub tej nyab yus yug hlub yus lawm ces yus nrog yus tej tub tej nyab nyob xwb zoo dua es cas pheej xav hais tias nim tsis muaj 1 tug pw ntawm 1 sab zuaj ib ce mas nim kho2 siab es yus twb tsis paub tias yus mus tom ntej es lawv tej tub tej nyab puas nyiam yus puas hlub yus naw nyob tsis taus hlo li ces kwv mus mag lawv ntxub lawv cem xwb

Yog kawg 👍

Cov me muam hais los mus feem ntau nej poj niam nej yeej tsis txawj sib hlub tej dab neeg niaj hnub hais2 no 60/70% yeej yog poob rau nej cov poj niam rov tsim nej ntau xwb ua neej nyob yuav tau muab Koj tig 360° degree seb yog lawv tsim koj li koj tsim lawv ne mob npaum li cas es thov tej me pog nyab & nyab pog txawj sib hlub nawj mog

Paub lawm lau laus lawm los tseem yuav mus txiv os zoo kawg

Lawm hnub neb yuav tsuab quav noj thiab los muaj os.Tus me tub thiab nyab aw..lawm hnub koj laus li ntawv ces koj cov tub nyab yuav muab koj xauv nraum zoo tuag no tuag snow os nawb. Txoj kev phem koj ua rau lawm tus yeej yuav los nrhiav tau koj ov. Es koj yuav tuag tiv no tuag snow tib tug niag lub ntsiab qhov muag tawg paj paug os.

This is why when you're old don't go get married. Just stay single or just live in your own home.

Tus nyab hais li los yog kawg.. Hais caj tias kuv yeej tsis take care txog niam tshiab lub nteeg vim nws muaj nws tej menyuam. Niam tshiab muaj ib pob nyiaj los nws yeej yuav muaj rau nws tej menyuam. Laus lawm xav xav ua nyab tshiab ces yus take care yus tus kheej mas thiaj yog. Yus nyob yus. Yus muaj nyiaj txaus yus tus kheej mas thiaj li mus ua tau vauv grandpa / nyab grandma tshiab ov.

My blood pressure has raised through the roof!! 😤😤

Nej cov Pog laus thiab yawg laus nas twb zoo li Lub hnub yuav poob Tim nplog ntuj lawm los tseem mus ua nyab tshiab thiab lawv Pam ib tug neeg no $40-$50 Phav leej twg thiaj xav tha nej nas Kaj tsij nrog nej cov me nyuam nyob phem zoo los lawv yuav tha yus thaum yus tsis muaj txoj sia

Muaj qee yam tus nyab los yeej yog lawm koj mus yuav lawv tab nyiaj txiag life insurance los ko tsi pub lawv paub ces koj yeej mus tsi tau lawv niam li os

We never know how it is until we wear her shoes, life in general everyone gets old one day and follow into this foot steps we are all human beings, you can’t choose for anyone one person to love or not to fall in love again…. No matter how old we get or at what age we fall in love again don’t judge and just be happy for that person that they found love again to love and be their companion when their children is not there for them… please don’t judge and cut their love your not the one marring them… when the tables turn your gonna regret being a meanie…. God bless !!!

Lwm hnub nyab cov mam rub nyab tes tawm nrhaum zoov thiab os

Prople who don't have elder parents who is single or widow will not understand how complicated it is when they choose to remarry.

Do what you want, just don't complain about it later or blame someone else for your own decisions. Another thing..don't go live with your new husband's children. They aren't your children and mostly likely are not going to like you.

This Is So Insane, A Nyab Shouldn’t Have Right To Kick Her Out & Worried Bout Her Death! That Isn’t Her Problem! What Kind Of A Nyab That Kick Her MIL Out!? Some People Are Mean, They Are The Ones Who Do It To You & Blame You!! When Some Of Us Aren’t Even This Mean, They Hate You For No Reason! This Is Very Mean!! But, I Accepted That If I’m That Old, No Dating or Married! I Rather Stay Alone & Rather Not Deal With The New Kids & His Relatives!! 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

Yuav ntxiv ma yuav kiag cov muaj hnub nyoo 14 lo yog 15 xyoo ma txhob rawv xeem pob

Some young ppl think they’ll never get old. Old age comes quick, nyab. The lucky one gets a chance to live til old age and the unlucky dies early. I’d like to know saib tus nyab no lub neej yuav zoo li cas.

Yog yus laus li 7,80 xyoo es muaj mob ntsuav mas nyaj yuav tu tsis taus yus tus kheej lawm ces nyaj yuav tsis huv lawm tabsis yog yus tseem 50,60 xwb es tseem healthy mas yus tseem nyiam huv tshaj most young people os. Cov young people ces most kuv pom mas yuav ua noj Lis twb tsis ntxuav tes , yuav noj dabtsi los tsis ntxuav tes hos yog tseem nyiam Aub thiab mas ke noj ke kov Aub, ke noj ke pub rau Aub noj, kov2 Aub los ua noj twb tsis ntxuav tes hos kov22 Aub es muab tshuaj rau yus Tus laus noj twb tsis ntxuav tes cia li muab xwb haj yam vuab tsuab os niam tais es nrog koj tu siab os.

Cov poj niam ua kuas kuas ib cev nyob tsis taus li es tseem yuav mus yuav txiv ces nyuam quav phim xwb tiag. 60 xyoo lawm nyob kom taus taus mas

Unfortunately, that daughter in law will have the same fate when she gets old.

These young people don't understand that old age is very lonely, but these old people dont understand that you can always live together like gf and bf. Why marry and make your sons do another funeral for your new wife when funerals cost so much.

At the age over 60years old, no matter how lonely you are you should never remarried. If you plan to marry, please go live together on your own. Living with kids these days is a no, no. Why you think American ppl live in the nursing home or in their own house till the day they die.

😢this nyab is evil...txhua tus txawj laus yuav npam nws ib hnub

Well, tiam nov yog ua siab phem ces ntuj yeej muaj qhov muag nawb. Karma will eat the nyab alive someday, I guess.

Karma is going to get that Nyab and the son for going along. That Nyab is a terrible person! And the son has no balls, ua tsis tau txiv li! I feel so sorry for the widowed lady who was only looking for Love & companionship.

Ob niag tub nyab ntaw yuav npam os.lwm hnoob mas yuav tsuab quav noj es mas li tuag taus os.

Nem.

Tus niam tais, kuv yeej ntseeg tias koj txawm tsis yug lawv tawm koj 2 ceg los kiag los koj twb los ua lawv niam lawm, koj yog lub npe niam lawm, yam lawv ua dhau kev dhau cai li no rau koj kev npam yeej npam tau nawb! Npam kawg, tabsis qhov 2 tuaj kuv hais rau koj tias lub teb chaws no txoj kev tha tuag siv Nyiaj siv txiaj ntau2 tiag2 ces cov hluas thiaj pheej tsis xav tha cov niam tshiab especially twb laus2 ze rau qhov tuag ntau lawm xwb es tseem yuav sib yuav ces lawv tsis xav tab kaum tab kaum lawv lub sij hawm vim lawv ntshai2 tsam lawv ho poob Nyiaj tha thiab 3 tuaj cov minyuam yug teb chaws no lawv tsis hlub cov laus lawm cov hlub thiab paub hwm niam txiv ces tsawg xwb es yus tseem tsis yog yus yug lawv kiag thiab ces thiaj zoo li koj no ntag luag thiaj saib Tus dev tsim txiaj tshaj yus es lub neej yuav mus ua lub neej tom 2, tom 3 ces txhob thab kiag is mog.

Ua cas nim laus nplooj tsis laus kav es twb laus 60 xyoo los tseem xav xav es tseem yuav mus ua nyab pog laus tus nyab no muab ua tshaj zog lawm peb txhua tus yuav txawj laus tab sis kuv yeej agree nrog tus nyab no thiab nawb twb laus tag los pheej hais tias nim kho kho siab es yuav mus yuav txiv yus los kaem ces hlub yus tus kheej nrog tej pog laus li yus mus ua si xwb Cov niag pog laus uas 60-70 xyoo es tseem pheej yuav mus yuav txiv ces yog tseem khau xwb Cov tub nyab tiam no tsis hsis koj cov kuv co phem ib yam vim lawv tsis xav thaj tso cov laus thiab lawd tsus xav thaj tsob koj thaum koj duam sim lawm

I can understand where the nyab is coming from. Why burden someone with your remarriage? No one wants to take care of other people's parents at old age. But then again, you need to also have class and respect.

Tus nyab lim hiam ko, nws yuav txawj laus thiab, nws tus nyab mam li tsim nws 100 puas npaug.

Weren’t y’all on Facebook a year or two ago?

This is exactly why u shouldn't remarried when you're that old already.

Tsis tsim nyog koj tus nyab yuav UA phem li koj hais ko nws 'ntxub koj heev li zoo li nws yeej tsis txawj laus li UA li nws UA las kawg Noam ib hnub twg xwb xwb li nawb

I don’t see what’s the problem if your own parents or in-laws decide to remarried! I rather see he/she happy. I’m sure it’s hard to accept someone that isn’t your own mom/dad or in-laws or the thought knowing you’ll have to bury another parent BUT GOSH don’t need to be a butthole.

Ca koj tu nyab tsi ntshai npam li na

One day your step-nyab in law and step son will meet the same way, their OWN children will do worse to them.

60 yrs old is not old. I'm 52 years old and do not consider myself old. Older men and women should be able to find love/companion in old age, provided they live on their own, and most importantly, each older spouse have their own kids be responsible with their final expenses. Older men and women should be freely able to return to their own children for whatever reason.

Poj ruam. Txog nyias nyias thiab paub, vim kuv paub. Koj 60 ntawm xyoo koj tsis ruas qhov muag qhov ntsej ua neej los? Koj yog neeg dag. Koj hais kom sawv daws txhob ntshaw txiv, tiam sis koj ho ntshaw ntshaw li. Koj twb mloog ntiaj teb coob tus lub neej, ua cas koj ho xav tias sawv daws ho yuav mloog koj? Poj dag. 60 ntawm xyoo lawm, koj tseem ntshaw ntshaw txiv li.

Karma is a bitch! What goes around , comes around.

Tsaus yog kj xwb o

Your nyab is not wrong. Funerals these days cost 40 50k. Those that haven't had a new MIL will side with you automatically, but all I get from this story is that your step nyab doesn't cook and clean for you. They don't buy food for you. You didn't do anything nice to them either. Nyab phem los koj yeej phem phem thiab.

What evil daughter in law & son in law! Don’t forget txojkev npam nawj

AUB UA LI CAS COV NIAG HMOOM MEKAS YUAV PHEM KAWG NKAUS LI THIAB NO...TSAUS NTUJ CES MAM LI SHARE NROG TUS TUB XWB MAS.

Should have never moved in.

You were living a peaceful life and you did that to yourself…. 5 years of that? Was it worth it? Smh. Can’t feel bad when you were warned and choose to stay in the situation. Should have had him come live with you. You choose your life and destiny.

Lady it’s not wrong to get remarry but you should’ve found a man willing to live alone with you. Don’t make that mistake again. The Nyab and son will pay for their evil deeds one day.

All I’m saying, I don’t care how old you are and if you still wanna get remarried, me personally I would not live with his kids or mine. I don’t wanna be a burden to anyone.

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All I’m saying is if I’m still a capable to still being with a man/a woman, you should still be a capable of taking care of each other and not bother each other’s kids. That’s annoying to the kids.

I won’t said anything I will keep my mouth shut 🤫

2 sides to this story. I don’t believe everything I hear.

hau yau kuv los yeej tsis tos Taub tia cov niag pog Lau ua twb lau tag lawm los tseem pheej yuav mus yuav txiv dua tshiab thiab o ! lawv cov me nyuam twb ntxub yus tag npaum los yus pheej tsis Kam khiav mus li thiab na !

😢yog yus sib tau lawm ces yus mus nyob yus xwb txhob mus nrog tej niag neeg tsi nyiam yus nyob rau qhov cov niag tub nyab no yeej tsi hlub yus li os