If you are in this situation this video might be hard to listen to, even though it’s exactly what you need to hear.
I have been there, done that. I know how hard it can be.
But if you truly love someone, you’ll want them to be happy, even if that’s not with you.
If they don’t reciprocate your love, it doesn’t mean they are bad. It just means they are not the right man for you. That’s it.
You aren’t in love with a person, you’re in love with the idea of that person that you have in your head. That’s your focus, so you lose sight of the reality.
But trust me, if he wanted to he would. If he missed you he would call. If he wanted to be with you he would make that happen. Men are go getters, so if you’re not in his life it’s because you just aren’t the right woman for him. Move on. You are worth so much more than trying to please the wrong man. Stop it now!
You’re probably thinking that you just have to do more, give more, show him more love, THEN he will understand and suddenly fall in love with you and become that verison of himself that you have in your mind. But it won’t happen. I’m sorry.
The RIGHT man will chase YOU. Not the other way around.
You can’t manipulate or force a man to be with you. Sooner or later it will end in disaster.
INSTEAD:
Matthew 6:33 - Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and everything else will be added to you.
You’re not supposed to be the one holding on to the relationship or what you think might be a relationship. That’s something you both are supposed to do, as a TEAM.
Matthew Hussey once said: It’s not about how you feel about a person but how that person makes you feel. This really hit home in my heart when I heard it.
You might love this man to death, but if he’s not reciprocating that love, you are probably not feeling to good about it. Stop and think; How is HE making ME feel? What has HE DONE to PROVE HIS LOVE to ME? What is he currently doing to hold this relationship together?
If you can’t answer those questions truthfully, I think it’s time to leave. You deserve better.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. Psalms 34:18
Much love,
Melody