I went to school and I think that's a good part of why my social skills are shit. Most of my experience there we were told to sit down and shut up

@uniquewhimsy622

2 жыл бұрын

Precisely.

@daughterofzion778

Жыл бұрын

Me too

@mommydearest3164

Жыл бұрын

You told nothing but the truth!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@xxpadmoondaze1282

Жыл бұрын

Facts, brother

@realityobserver7521

Жыл бұрын

And I was told over and over by teachers that I was "not there to socialize"

Public school parents to homeschool parents: They don’t get enough socialization! Teachers: You are not here to socialize, you here to learn. Now sit down and shut up or you will get silent lunch. Administration at schools: You must be silent in the hallway at all times. You only get 45 minutes of recess and lunch combined.

@Just_JennAy

9 ай бұрын

Exactly

@johnny_boi5456

7 ай бұрын

That's funny and sad because it's true

@TatyanaKosh

5 ай бұрын

A good part of going to and from school we had a bus driver with a helper who would get kids in trouble even for whispering to each other

I heard someone say they were homeschooled and now as an adult don’t have “friends from high school” Plot twist: I went to Public school and neither do I

@dcoutlaw500

Жыл бұрын

Neither do i

@swiftswamps0821

Жыл бұрын

Same, it’s funny how people think if you go to public school that you’ll know how to make freinds and have good social skills, I go to Public school and have went my whole life and there is homeschooled kids with better social skills than me.

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

Neither do I. I have family and internet ppl to talk to.

@jasminegutierrez265

10 ай бұрын

Neither do I

I'm not homeschooled and went to regular school and what's ironic is that the friends that I actually consider real friends are those I made outside of school, and aren't even my age. Instead in school I've had fake friends, been bullied, some crazy amounts of stress that was really bad for my health, and the constant pressure of 'fitting-in' and being 'normal'. Moreover school is a complete creativity killer and I never had time for my own projects, like art and game development. Anyways all of this to say that if I have kids I'm definitely considering home schooling them.

@SC-hu5pz

Жыл бұрын

I went through the same thing!! I am a current homeschooler and it's an honor to homeschool. Best wishes to you ✨

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

Same here I ll homeschool from the beginning.. To be honest 5-6 year olds don't need homework play base just learn 📕 math & language arts, crafts, music, getting dirty in the dirt, learn 📕 to ride a bike, play in the sand box, juice & snack break, going to the park be done by lunch time, coloring, sports, 4H scouts, co ups meeting other homeschooling groups, I ll stay away clquish families 👪 I ll not associate with them nope 🙅. My feature kids ll be autstict ADHD BUPOLAR OR OCD. Dyslexia or math disablity handwriting issues low muscle tone. I don't want their childhood taken from me like I had with me.

@AmmaraSHAH773377

Жыл бұрын

yes definitely. i strongly recommend looking into Montessori the approach developed over a 100 years is far more healthy in a class of mixed age kids walking around choosing prepared activities from the prepared environment according to their development with the extended amount of time they can use and resuse real materials on thier own or somtimes with others if it is something that naturally occurs and the peaceful reaward or punishments free approach without grading or at least without being told about any observations the guides make on you and adjust their difficulty as you progress naturally through mastering the skills gradually. its so cool its what i would have chosen if we had a Montessori school breast us but now I'm going to continue to implement it at home with my toddler instead of sending her into these damaging schools aound us. there's a forest school that does one or two days a week outside in nature for 5 to 11 year olds who are home educated too but those schools follow the Scandinavian approach and would definitely be a healthy fulfilling option if you had one near you too. there's a series on here called Montessori at home by Ashley from hapa family. that was how i found out about Maria Montessori who was nominated 3 times for a nobel prize for her research and most of the healthier parts of school are based on her findings. hope this helps anyone in the future or now.

This is so true. As long as the kids know good manners. Treating everyone with respect, and being kind they will be able to socialize with whoever.

@BethPavlik

2 жыл бұрын

I totally agree, Ernestina.

@plug2745

Жыл бұрын

yeah but thats not what happens

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

@@plug2745 public schools don't teach etiquette.

i went to school for most of my life but now i’m homeschooled and i go to dance and go to youth and have plenty friends! Maybe not as many as ppl who go to school bc there’s 100s of ppl at school but i only care for real friends

@BethPavlik

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy to hear that, Arianna! Thanks for sharing that. :)

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

i am homeschooled and i dont have any frineds i cant even have normalmconversatin with oeople ofer tah gage of 6

As a homeschooled kid myself, I go to weekly meet-ups with other homeschooled people like me! So I have plenty of social stuff!!!!

@medabee1322

2 жыл бұрын

How do u find this?

@uniquewhimsy622

2 жыл бұрын

How do you find the group to socialize with?

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

@@uniquewhimsy622 you ask old women

@MeBe35

11 ай бұрын

​@@uniquewhimsy622homeschool co-ops

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

i ahve not nay mfriends

I was homeschooled and I can socialize just fine! I choose not to most of the time because people are fake lol and it depends on personality, I'm a wall flower. I like not having a lot of people around me most of the time. My younger sister on the other hand is a total social butterfly 🦋

@BethPavlik

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing that.

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

Check out your astrology vs your sister's astrology.

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

you got luckyi! i am himechool and i am unable to have a conversin i dont have and friends i am lonely nobody would even care if i disappeared tomorrow

I went to public school my entire life and I didn't socialize well. I was bullied so it caused me to be an introvert. The forced socialization can be very damaging.

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

So is having abusive school aides. & toxic special Ed teacher. I have PTSD & Anxity disorder I was barely allowed to solaize last couple years in specific Ed.

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

Check your astrology

My oldest two are in public school because their dad demanded it. I’m remarried and my youngest kids dad is fully supportive of homeschooling our three younger kids. The oldest two are not only BEHIND my youngest kids’ academically who are homeschooled, but they’re worse off socially. My youngest are more healthily socialized. My oldest two in public school can’t even so much as pass notes to other people in the seven hours they’re stuck behind four closed walls, or they get in big trouble. One teacher screams at the students if they “socialize.” They then make a beeline to the bus, where it’s so loud with screaming kids they still can’t “socialize.” A person asking about homeschoolers socializing are projecting, plain and simple. They have to ask that because they feel guilt and they are forcing their own insecurities about their public schooled kid on to us.

@BethPavlik

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing that, Amanda. I totally agree with you.

@medabee1322

2 жыл бұрын

If I could give a thousand likes for this comment I would

@Wit-da-19

Жыл бұрын

Us to go to school now I’m home,I would have Ben way better of in school

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

Yup. Socialization is a buzzword for the institutionalists. They really want indoctrination, and bullying.

Facts. My Homeschool kindergartener is very advanced when it comes to socializing . And she’s not afraid to socialize with adults too. Most public schools kids around us in her level is behind her . Homeschool kids are better . Ijs

I was homeschooled, I'm a huge people person and just insert myself into groups. If it clicks it clicks, if not I leave and can make friends elsewhere.

@BethPavlik

2 жыл бұрын

You’ve got it

@Barneyluvshisfam

Жыл бұрын

where did you find friends cuz for me i’ve only been able to find friends at church and now all the kids at my church are older boys

@cnh4431

Жыл бұрын

@@Barneyluvshisfam I homeschool my 4 kids, and some of the places they've made friends outside of church are at parks, museums, and volunteering. We also have a large family, so they hang out with cousins and meet friends of family members and other friends, as well. You know, the friend-of-a-friend thing. Not sure how old you are, but if you're struggling to meet new people and make new friends, I would suggest just practicing being outgoing (this coming from a natural introvert who was public schooled and had almost no real friends, just acquaintances), and finding a charity you like where you can meet like-minded people and volunteer there, or get a job (but like public school, you have no control over who you interact with there 😄).

@Barneyluvshisfam

Жыл бұрын

@@cnh4431 oh yeah that’s very true i’ve mainly made friends at church but i don’t really do any activities cuz of money issues so most of the time im stuck at home i have made online friends tho i’m hoping to get a job in the next year or so so maybe that will help thank you for your advice

@NoahDaDudeBroMan

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I go to this drama club type thing. I am also in a D&D group.

public school kids have to have ice breakers because we're taught to sit next to each other and not talk for hours. you get in trouble for talking to each other in public school.

I’ve had people compliment me on my social skills and I’m homeschool. It’s personality over where you’re educated.

I'm autistic. The forced socialization of going to a school, I believe, did a lot of damage. I never had any trouble with learning but I had a lot of other problems with the school environment. Having to deal with strangers and pretend to be "normal" every single day because I knew people there weren't familiar enough with my issues to understand me, having my anxiety misinterpreted as disobedience and/or manipulation, I was bullied by other kids AND by some of my teachers. I would have been much better off homeschooled and allowed to socialize at my church instead... I socialized better there because there were less kids and people who knew me and loved me as I was. I would have been just fine.

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

Nope from having two good aides to very nasty ones one of them broke the federal law last one very abusive.. Toxic environment twice. Enclosed & last one downstairs the child study took me out of math 17 years ago & reading. I was basically a floor space. Not allowed to do school projects or book reports. Basically I was going to daycare & coinuting preschool. I was not being challenged. Horrible computer program basically I was being yelled at I hadn't done anything wrong half the time didn't have cameras in there at all. I basically put the failed state test right in their face this is ur fault by taking me out of math & reading ur fault guys it's ur fault I failed. Ur fault I got laughed at.

I agree. I was never homeschooled myself but my closest friends and the friendships I’ve maintained into my thirties were mostly with the neighbourhood kids. I also had a lot of homeschooled friends and they were fun to be around because they were very down to earth. Surprisingly, I’ve made this same point regarding “homeschooled socialization” with friends who are teachers. It should be said that when educators mention socialization they don’t mean social skills. They mean it in terms of the psychological term. Will your child know how to sit still in a desk, not talk unless they raise their hand, not talk when the teacher is talking etc. But they don’t understand that homeschooled children still do summer camps and a variety of classes where they can pick up on these norms rather quickly.

@BethPavlik

Жыл бұрын

Well said, Cait. 👏🏼

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

This

The truth is Government schools are highly unusual and have only been part of society for about 175 years.

We’d rather our kids be “undersocialized” than poorly socialized. I’ve seen what the public schools are like. Too many of the kids are depressed, aggressive, self-centered and overall poor influences who no stable person who want to socialize with every day. Their issues spread like social contagion, too. Every homeschool family we’ve met has sweet, happy, well-spoken kids. It made a big impact on us choosing to homeschool in the future.

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

Special Ed 😢i don't buy into their garage so inclusion at all I am like u guys don't.. U put them in boxes till they age out. So no I ll not put my feature kids in the school system ever. Don't want their childhood summers taken from me like I did. So no. I don't trust special ed child study teams. To many illeate & math inacdute. I been told it's a good system might been at one time not anymore. Folks teachers unions recked it. My boyfriend is on with me on this. He could sense I was upset. Just seeing my former grade school building 🏠 freak the heck out of me. I actually wanted to get away from it. It's was so bad I actually locked 🔑 the bathroom door at the church did teen protect. I d’ not come out for 15 min I didn't know my anxiety disorder & PTSD was going bonkers. That's nearing 13 years ago. My now boyfriend didn't know why the door was locked 🔑 he thought his boy cousins pranked him of doing that his girl cousin now 29 years old. Knocked on the door like u ok 👌? & her cousin now over 29/1/2 years old. I opened the door shaking & sobbbing like crazy I lost my grandad 4 months that time. I was actually throwing my phone on the floor. The memory of being yelled at. They told me it's ok Jessica we re” not the people from that school. They were still 16 at the time. My now boyfriend was like what's going on they explained to him I was having a really bad flash backs. That's was February 20th 2010. I was 14/1/2 years old he was just 15 years old this ll be funny telling our feature kids one day how we first met & then re met after 6 years of lost touch.

@kkibler1

Жыл бұрын

You nailed it!

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

Good

@cendresaphoenix1974

7 ай бұрын

I would suggest forming communities for socializing that way they are introduced to the fact the rest of the world kinda sucks in a slow healthy manner.

What they actually mean: Kid won’t be properly indoctrinated if homeschooled.

@DespicableBunny

2 жыл бұрын

Riiiight💯

@uniquewhimsy622

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly right. Everyone is worried what will happen if kids are not brainwashed with racism, sexism, classism and lies.

@LisaSoulLevelHealing

Жыл бұрын

Correct

@mbwilson8592

Жыл бұрын

Bingo

@ellederberryblue8377

Жыл бұрын

That’s right!!

My mom is Hispanic she wouldnt understand i go through depression,stress,anxiety and i am very anti social i dont have friends and when i am in school it looks like i sm forced to interact with those people

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

I see this comment is old, but if you need to talk I'm here

I was raised a public suburban high school. So far as I’m concerned, if you want emotionally healthy kids, you don’t send your kids to school.

I was a public school student my entire life that wished I was homeschooled due to having a tough time. My High School and Middle School had a reputation of being unfriendlier than average. It was IMPOSSIBLE to make friends, I was alone all of the time for 4 years. I just knew public schooling wouldn't be the right option for me because I wouldn't be making friends anyways due to my "damaged" reputation. However, my homeschooled friends I've met at random places were always friendlier, more socially skilled, and mature than others. Now im a young adult who's social skills are probably stuck in 8th grade. Not bad, but not quite at an ideal proficient level for an adult. Nothing was ever wrong with me, completely normal child. Its just that I had very little social life.

@xxpadmoondaze1282

Жыл бұрын

Also im not saying this to rant about myself. I just want to illustrate your point further using real life experiences :)

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

@@xxpadmoondaze1282 sorry u went through that I had my last aide being abusive and harsshing me. I had missed class trip 18/1/2 years ago book held from me cause last aide being a control freak using natstic tatic on me. No I ll not have my feature kids go through that..

@xxpadmoondaze1282

Жыл бұрын

@@jessicamontaperto810 Wow. What the heck? That's messed up. You are very smart for homeschooling your kids.. So much goes on in Public Schools that they don't talk about. What did you have an aide for, if you don't mind me asking?

I’m homeschooled. My homeschool group recently had a dance, over 280 kids there

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

Holy cow!. My boyfriend & I re” set on homeschooling once married & have kids of our own we re’ met through teen homescooling group almost 13 years ago yup it ll be 13 years we are met on president’s it's actually an university we enjoy celebrating! For 15th yearci am hoping to do a special dinner one day together! for preschool -prek I ll let them play & explore.

Well said young lady. My children were me schooled and finished by the time they were each 15 with extra credits and only 3 to 4 hours 4 days each week. 👍

It really depends on the environment of which you are being homeschooled. I've been homeschooled my whole life, and I have many friends and a very large family. I have a very active social life without even having to walk out the door, whereas some homeschooled people don't have that. There really isn't anything wrong with homeschooling, you just have to do it right, I suppose. Every family does things differently. My family has some of us kids in a group like a scouting ministry, for example, or signed up in a class at a co-op

duh there is somthing called a co-op

I wish so badly I was forced to interact with other children when I was a child. I ended up having to get a therapist to help coax me into learning how to interact with other kids because I kept away from it for so long due to social anxiety, if I had been forced to interact before it would have been vastly easiser

@saturn6563

Жыл бұрын

I was forced to interact a few times. But unfortunately my social anxiety worsened that way, I couldn’t start a conversation, and the kids got bored of me. 😭

@destructionindustries1987

Жыл бұрын

Check out your astrology

I’m going back to highschool after being homeschooled for my entire middle school career. Tbh, I am not ready to be around people again like this

EXACTLY!! Thank you! My friend (who goes to a private school) is always saying that homeschoolers are socially deprived. It's so hard to explain to her that we aren't.

i have been homeschooled my whole life i have no friends i almost never leave the house and i’ve never been in a relationship it’s tiring to know that i may be alone for the rest of my life.

I’m homeschooled and my social skills suck. The thing is, homeschooling is not for everyone. Some people have good experience with it but I didn’t. I don’t have any friends and have trouble making connections with people

I remember been asked when he knows I'm homchooling my kids - "Are you anti social??? How your kids want to socialize?? My answer: showed the biggest smile 😁 I know they just concern.

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

My grandmother now deceased used to constantly d’ tell me & my mom I am not being socialized not being in public school I was hardly aloud to do it in the school system. Had aide hovering me watching me like a hawk.

As a former public school kid, now homeschool kid, I went from being an extroverted social butterfly to being an introverted kid with social anxiety. Sure, my best and last friend abandoning me last minute probably had something to do with that, but when it comes to a preteen/teenager, this stuff can be harder for them. For example, my cousin who is 8 is still thriving. She's young, and finds it easy to make friends her age. But when you get to the point of getting to my age, (currently 13,) it can be very hard to socialize. Even if kids this age don't have social anxiety like I do, we're awkward-- trying to 'be cool' and such. Although I don't believe that every homeschooled kid lacks socialization, some of them will, especially after experiencing a series of events that can lead to anxiety, social anxiety, and similar things, from switching lifestyles entirely. In my opinion, it's a fair assumption for people to make.

@Auraliight

Жыл бұрын

^ I can't even call the bookstore on the phone without having a 10-30 minute panic attack afterwards.

@tinaholbrook9719

Жыл бұрын

@@Auraliight This is why I'm adamant that my children speak for themselves whenever they want or need something from someone else. I taught them from about age 5 or 6 to order their own drinks and food from a restaurant (and of course to say please and thank you). If they need to go to the bathroom when we're out and I don't know where it is, I have them go ask someone who works there. If they have a problem with a friend or family member, I let them speak it. I tell them that these are their feelings and their needs, and they need to know how to speak them. I'll stand by their side if they need me to, but I always let them speak for themselves. My children are incredibly well adapted to all sorts of situations because of this. I am very proud of them for this, and so many other reasons.

@tinaholbrook9719

Жыл бұрын

May I ask, how long were you in public school? Also, do you think it would have been a different outcome if you had always been homeschooled and hadn't had the influence of public school on you? I ask because I have an 11 year old and an almost 8 year old. We've always homeschooled, and I don't see the slightest bit of the need to be "cool" coming from them. They don't worry at all about fitting in because they've never been in a world where people expected that. They are very comfortable with who they are and all of their friends are too. I went to public school my whole life, and I remember that need to feel "cool." I remember that it took a toll on me. But we've made it a point to let our kids know that there's no such thing as a "cool kid." I don't know if you've heard the song "Cool Kids" by Echosmith, but we play that often, and both of my kids know the meaning of it and can see right through the idea of "being cool."

@daisyx1002

Жыл бұрын

@@tinaholbrook9719you seem like a great mother. I want to homeschool my kids but I am worried they won’t have any friends.

@BethPavlik

Жыл бұрын

Can I ask why you think your kids won't have any friends if they homeschool?

My 3 niece, nephews excelled in every area, adults now, one a Marine for “free” college; one in Child Development; one tech school & good stable job. Our Marine was ridiculed for homeschooling-he blowed them out of the water in testing/Officer material. They are respectful, Christians, played sports growing up, just good citizens. I was in public Ed 27 yrs. accounting. it’s a ripoff. No accountability, extreme waste of funds. You can’t give them enough money. Homeschool ppl.

Just do after school/clubs if allowed too. Also going to games and visiting your school for once awhile would also be great to socialize within social media too.

Such a good comment about choice. Removes bullying.

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

i rather have a millon bully than no friends

I homeschool my 12 year old autistic son and have childhood friends who homeschooler their kids (all of widely varied ages) and I’ve noticed that they are WAY more observant, respectful to EVERYONE around them especially their elders, and seem to be more reserved and well behaved over all. I think this comes from the parents being with them a lot and being on top of their kids behavior so that they can put the kabash on any bad behavior on the spot. The parents and kids communicate with each other better, boost their child’s confidence, and have better relationships with them because of it as a family unit.

I don’t think homeschooling takes away your social skills but school with other kids teaches you how to regulate and deal with the cons of life. As someone who has never been homeschooled I have learned important skills. I became aware that in life you might not like your surroundings but if you want to get to where you wanna go then you have to deal with ups and downs. Like you said, your homeschooled child gets to choose where they wanna be because they’re not stuck in an actual school but the sometimes being STUCK is the key to learn how to make lemons into lemonade. School with other people teaches you that life won’t always benefit you in ways but if you can see your goal you can deal with obstacles.

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

it does have the take way the socio skills i happend to me

@PurpleHearts-xu7zc

6 ай бұрын

@@LongTailCat3 yeah

When I lived in Canada I had lots of socialization outside of school with many different kids and sometimes adults. When I moved to America it became very difficult because so many after school activities and programs were still ran through the school. I didn’t socialize with other kids from other school districts anymore. I have first hand experience in knowing what you’re saying is true and important but I have no idea how I’ll provide that for my kids one day.

@BethPavlik

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. All you need to do is be intentional about getting your kids out in the community experiencing lots of different things and meeting lots of different people. You know where I've found the most diversity for my kids? The library. All different kinds of people from all different backgrounds bring their kids there and I love that my kids get to interact with new people every time we visit.

@katie7748

Жыл бұрын

4H is a great option and it's not just farming stuff. Look into it :-)

Schools aren't the same nowadays

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

Nope 🙅 special Ed sucks horribly I ll not have my own feature kids in that. From Preschool -to grade K they be playing outside. I already told my boyfriend I want to raise our feature family in VA & have police 🚨 around, a yard our feature kids can run around. Have a playground, trampoline, chickens 🐣. Fenced in yard I have an issue with a lot of noise. How is VA with the current governor?.

Everyone knows that "one" super weird person who was homeschooled and they blame "poor socialization", well how many awkward public/private school students do we all know? I am awkward, thanks public school!

My kid "socializes" with everybody he comes into contact with. When we go out to events with groups, he is the one that is talking with people there. He will talk to people at the store, at his karate class, and at his co-op. He went to a charter school for 1 year, but has been homeschooled the rest of the time.

I am choosing to homeschool my daughter come August. Shes 5. And i am getting people telling me she wont socialize so I should let her go to school and explore the world….. uh heck no! To be bullied or worse??! Mind ya business

I'm in school but I wish I was homeschooled it's stressful being around other kids where I've come to the point of hating having friends and now have paranoia of bullying now I just wanna cry all the time

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

So sorry ur going through this maybe try 4H I can tell u from my experience kids & teens in 4H re” very friendly & nice they become ur friends it's free to join no animal is required either I have my 4H friends to this day!!

School is what blocked my socialization. I'm autistic, and I was locked in one small group of people my age. I couldn't get along with them. And instead of being able to reach out to people that could understand me, I was stuck with them. I'm homeschooled now and doing way better.

Here's the problem. As adults in a career world and many other aspects of life, you DONT get to choose you interact with. Wanna be a doctor, teacher etc. You will be forced to interact with a buttload of people who you would never speak to outside of work. If you grow up choosing who you interact with, how will you know how to thrive among those you do not choose but MUST interact with?

@MeBe35

11 ай бұрын

Adapt. It's not that hard. Furthermore, it's not like homeschoolers live in a bubble. They meet other kids they don't like but have to deal with. Sports, clubs and any group activity teaches them these skills. As long as they can communicate and are respectful, they'll be fine.

“Sit still, don’t talk” not sure how it’s socialization when they get maybe a 45 minute recess at most and have to sit and listen the rest of the day.

This is so true!!👍🏾 I'm 33 had tons of friends in school and I don't even talk to any of them anymore

If i were given a chance to choose, i would certain agree on homeschooling, but unfortunately, my parents are old-fashioned and quite narrow-minded

Actually.... I was homeschooled and am now struggling with socialization in my adult life. Socializing with people who you DON'T choose is extremely important in that it teaches you to get along with folks who you wouldn't choose. Adults have to do this with coworkers, family, neighbors, etc., All the time! So please, if you're going to homeschool, still put your kids in consistent socialization similar to what public schooled kids experience. I constantly feel like an outsider because I had such a different childhood from my peers. Also having authority figures other than your parents (like teachers, coaches, guidance counselors) prepares you for working under people you're not related to i.e. your boss. It also gives a child someone to go to if their parents aren't providing all the emotional support they need, this is especially important for teenagers who often struggle to talk to their parents. Sorry for the long winded comment. I hope you consider what I had to say!

@BethPavlik

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry your experience caused you to struggle in adult life, Faith. Like I said in the video, the majority of the time my kids get to choose who they want to be with, but other times we are in situations where they interact with people we just come into contact with. This is a really short video, so it doesn’t explain that homeschooled kids still have opportunities to be with people they don’t choose, and work under coaches, other teachers, and authority figures other than their parents. I actually share a lot about our socialization journey as a family in my latest video on my channel if you care to watch.

@Faith_Hunter

2 жыл бұрын

@@BethPavlik I'm glad to hear that! This was my first time coming across your channel so it was more of a comment on homeschool socialization in general. I'll have to explore your channel further and I'm sure I'll learn something from you! Have a great day!

@AAMM101

2 жыл бұрын

Perhaps, you just think you've missed out on much, because you haven't experienced public schooling and early formal education. Public schools and formal education aren't all that when it comes to socializing. Even more, it can have a major negative effect on people ability to socialize. I've been to public school, and I've been through standard formal education. I still face difficulty socializing and I constantly feel like an outsider. In fact, I've become less social compared to how i was pre-school. It killed my vibe and my soul. I've also developed self esteem issues. I stopped having hobbies and the things i used to enjoy doing. That's why i think there's a personality and psychological component to socializing that is not related to going to public school. Also, people socialize better when they're not bored or it's something they enjoy. Formal education and public school is not fun, you're being taught by people who are apathetic to you, they're paid to care about you and can't even fake it. At least from my experience and the people i know. Public school is mighty boring and soul crushing. I think of a few things that could help socializing with results better than relying on public school. Such as attending events you enjoy, joining sports and activities of interest.

@BethPavlik

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for adding your perspective to the discussion.

@laurasimmer9612

2 жыл бұрын

@@AAMM101 100% on point! I was never homeschooled, but always wished I could've been. I'm a social person & don't get me wrong, I made some of the best relationships while attending public school (including meeting my husband) but I honestly hated school so much. Once I graduated HS & went out on my own, I realized that I actually loved to learn new things. I discovered that I'm not as dumb as I thought I was... I was just miserable in the public school learning environment. I didn't learn well in that environment. Public school doesn't even teach you some of the most important life skills anyway. Our system seriously sucks & is only getting worse by each generation. I have researched a lot about homeschooling & I 100% plan on homeschooling our daughter. I really want to instill moral values & a passion for learning ❤ something the public school system doesn't give a crap about

I don’t have a choice for home school in fifth grade and there’s no kids around my neighborhood

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

Have u thought about 4H its free to join & no animal required to join I can tell u from my experience u ll meet friends in that! Sign up for January!!

@mr.unnamed9232

Жыл бұрын

What does it do

Yessss!!! THIS! Quality...not quantity.

I was about to suggest they’d still be able to play with neighbor kids outside, but honestly when’s the last time you’ve seen that?

Exactly they get to choose because when they become adults for the most part you get to pick who u deal with

I wish I could have home schooled.

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

NO HO DO NTI!

Socialization extends beyond friendships and close friends. Adults in the real world have to interact and collaborate with people they may not like everyday such as coworkers, clients, professors, ect.

I’m not sure how to ask as I am ill so I’m not at school right now, and my parents said are you sure, is there something going on at school? And I said no bc there isn’t, but I really wanna be homeschooled. 2 questions. How to ask, Can you do homeschool home alone?

@BethPavlik

Жыл бұрын

Your parents have to choose to homeschool you and oversee your education.

@carinthiamontana7069

Жыл бұрын

You need to let your parents know how you feel. They already know that something is up ❤ There is a lot of curriculum, including online-classes that you can do by yourself.

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

do do you not ! !! uo do not woant it!!!!

I don't care what anyone says everyone that comes out of high school are socially awkward. Very very socially awkward this coming from someone who can talk to anyone it's not because I went to school.

1000000 % correct. My homeschooled daughter and now grandkids are socialized with all ages and are super human beings!!!

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

i homeshcoooledam an d i dont have any friend i ould maybe have friend with a toddler that is around my mental age i idetify an everkid but not in teender or aduly very good

Yes momma thank you!!

@BethPavlik

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

We have six kids. We homeschooled. My kids didn't even need to leave the house to practice social skills. After that experience, I've always turned it around on people and asked how kids can ever learn to properly socialize if they're public schooled and stay in an artificially structured, mostly age segregated environment.

School is not just about socialising. The world is full of people we will not agree with, people we don't like and in school (with the help of you're patents) you can learn to deal with emotions that are not nice. It's not cool to have to just learn to cope with bullying when you start a job, by that time you should know how to handle such things. Also; when you're parents choose whom you can see, it opens the possibility of being manipulated like in a cult and so on.

I recently started homeschooling

True but when your closest friend goes to school you get replaced cuz she bonds with her friend at school and they spend more time together. It's a recipe for crying

Yessss!!! School is how I started to realize I hated forced “relationships” because it causes so much bullying and unnecessary peer pressure! It’s also funny because I remember clearly “school isn’t for socializing” and as an adult “your child should be in school to socialize.” 🤦‍♀️😂

Me being homeschooled At least you don’t have homework What do you think I do all day

Most of these public school kids awkward and socially anxious anyway

"friends" in highschool they all disappeared

I’m homeschooled and I don’t get to choose anything

Im homeschooled and my friend told me how it was at public school and he sad all of this "there was a lot of bullies, he was taught crap such as trans gender stuff, he was geting grades way worse than when he was homeschooled, and he made no friends" the next year he was homeschooled again and his grades went back up overtime and he was 3 years ahead in math i completely agree with what he said i a also 2 years ahead in math and my grades are very good also i have very few friends but the ones i do have are very good ones and ive none them for a very long time, but honesty the best way i have made friends was trough church/youth group :edit i already know sombodies going to say if you have good grades then how come you messed up a buntch of words, type'os and when your on a phone its hard to hit the right letter lol

I agree.

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

i digree

Im homeschooled i like it but its true, i get treated like a outcast from people its awkward mentioning homeschooling without someone looking at you like youre abused plus i dont have friends im tough mentally i believe in men shouldn't cry but dang i get down about it quite often.

I went to school and didn’t socialize because the people were so horrible. There’s other ways to make friends

Amen! Speak 🗣️

I feel like almost every hole school kid I met had horrible social skills

Amen. This was perfectly stated.

They also insinuate that school socialisation is superior. If that was the case. Then explain bullying, suicides, depression and shootings

Preach 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Well said!

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

no p

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

i am homeoll i do not have nay friend s they are right itu the hameschool can not wocialeze

Public school is the free "babysitter."

Also, are you telling me that everyone that went to public school is properly socialized?

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

I was barely allowed to socialize. Due to last nasty school aides..

growing up I was homeschooled and the only kid I was around was my little brother

Haha, I only talk to 20-30 people who were born within 12 months of me, who live within a five mile radius of me🤣😂 doesn't everyone?!

Very good point

Very valid points

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

indilid point

My disabled son socializes more now that he's homeschooled then when he attended public school

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

my son eats more salg now that he was turned into a slug

Im homwschooled and i have friends and i socialize well

Nope I'm homeschooled and have only been with the same group I am an extrovert and love to talk with many people so this is fucking false my mom hasn't even considered my feelings rather than understanding that you need to let go Cant wait to go to highschool

I love this message. 💜 Thank you.

@BethPavlik

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

j hate hid message

Conforming social in school

As a homeschooled kid I was never socialized I don't have any friends lol

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

me ninter

coming from a homeschool kid, i absolutely wish i wasnt. 1. i do not socialize enough and i have friends from school and i cant relate with them 2. crushes. part of me growing up is wanting to find someone i like and i cant do it with my parents stalking me over my shoulder 3. i absolutely hate having to do school with my sibilings. i want to feel like im in a school environment, not with my sibilings. school is supposed to be a private place where kids hang around with kids and be themselves

Parents of public school kids': how will they ever socialize!!!??? Public school: you're not here to socialize you're here to learn, stop talking and focus

@BethPavlik

Жыл бұрын

Exactly.

I think school ruined my social skills. It’s taken me years to recover and finally act like a normal person. I definitely think homeschooled kids are more confident, and socially competent

My son went to public school up until 15 and he doesn’t socialize at all

@BethPavlik

2 жыл бұрын

That is so sad to hear 😔

My parents don’t let me do anything so like I have no irl friends and I’m antisocial

@jessicamontaperto810

Жыл бұрын

Sorry 💔 to hear that sounds like they re” controlling..

I socialize more at home than school tbh

People who bash homeschooling because of "sOCIaliZatIon" know nothing about either and I'm saying this as someone who wished they were homeschooled but was public schooled because my parents didn't listen. Come on folks, the answer to this topic has been answered many times over.

im forced to be homeschooled i was public schooled before and i’ve lost like alllll my socializing skills

@Wit-da-19

Жыл бұрын

Damn same, I moved across the country too

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

me to o have not been friends very much sunde ii prechool i want to friends

The problem is my parents won't take me anywhere, so I can't go anywhere untill I get my license

Thankyou for this!

@BethPavlik

Жыл бұрын

You’re welcome!

@LongTailCat3

6 ай бұрын

@@BethPavlik fik tou for this