To the lady who submitted this story: I have never encountered what you have been through but I feel your pain and sorrow. Thank you for sharing your story. Sending you virtual hugs your way and take it one day at time.

Sister I know you're hurt but please let go. He don't love you anymore. Consider him dead and move on. Find someone who will love you. Don't waste your life away like that. You're making his head bigger by waiting like that.

@ncokojkuvhlubkojkuv

10 ай бұрын

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Wow a love so strong for 30 years can just be like that... me and my husband only been together for 10 years and he loves me lots, but now I have to be mindful

Niam laus koj cov neej neeg zoo mloog heev kuv ces muab mloog txhua li o tsis muaj zaj see li tiag tos cov tshiab lo muaj tsawg xwb kuv ces muab koj mloog ua hnub ua hmo tsis see ib vib na this li os tsaug zog lawm lo tseem mloog qees ho hnov los ces ma muab tua es tsaug zog lawm xwb koj hais neej neeg zoo mloog tshaj li txhua zaj neej neeg koj hais tshiab qub los kuv rub cias mloog tag li os yog muaj sib hawm no kuv xav muab kuv li tuaj rau koj hais thiab

To the lady of the story: I hope you can move on such sadness 😥 maybe you both were only meant to be together for a half time in life. I hope you can find someone who loves you unconditionally.

No one knows the feeling unless it is you. It takes time to move on and I hope one day she able to move on.

@susanyang2176

3 жыл бұрын

This is so true. I went through something like this . It will take time but u will overcome this.

Scary to think a love so strong could fall into pieces after 30 years. To the sister, I hear divorce is like a death. Take time to mourn the lost of your marriage but realize you need to love yourself and move on to find your new happiness. Your ex's love was not true.

@leek-te5dx

3 жыл бұрын

Girl respect yourself you need to be strong and you do you okay.

@monkeybanana9269

3 жыл бұрын

Nothing last forever.

I've been in your shoes. The betrayal changes everything about the relationship. It changes you as a person. It leaves scars that only time will heal. Take heart. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself. Value yourself. Your marriage may end, but your life doesn't.

Ob peb hnub tus poj niam sab tom cov nyiaj tag ces nws yuav rov qab los xwb mas. Koj yog niam tsev zoo koj yeej yuav tau lub neej zoo xwb os.

Your still stuck loving him because you cant let go. But once you start letting go and move on you will forget. Txhob khuv khuv xim lub neej thiab tu txiv neej os.

What a sad story. I’ve been through the same situation .

@paj7639

3 жыл бұрын

Kuv tu affair nrog Kuv tu best friend thiab tu bitch yog Kuv tu Niam ntxawm thiab

Tu niam lau no siab zoo tiag tiag li os tab si txob tu siab os nb txiv neej ce yeej siab npem li no os

A man like him doesn't deserve your kindness n love. Let him go n move on to find someone who truly love you. Its only a matter of times before he regrets of losing you.

Txob tu siab os vim niam txiv poob kua muag rau yus lawm

He doesn't love you. He's only keeping you around in case the other relationship don't work out. I hope you heal and find happiness again. Remember to love yourself.

It's never smart to love someone more than you love yourself. This is what happens. Loving yourself more doesn't mean you're selfish, it means you are self aware and can build healthy boundaries between you and other people. It means when you have to stand alone, you won't fall.

@whiteroselee6793

3 жыл бұрын

This is soo true. Wish I knew that back then.

Nyuj os peb ib tsoom me poj niam hmoob cas tsis hais cov nyob rau lub teb chaws twg li cov txiv neej hmoob yuav saib peb cov poj niam hmoob zoo li cov tsoos tsho uas lawv xav hnav thaum Tshiab xwb peb yuav tau hlub peb nawb mog. Peb cov tau tuaj nyob rau teb chaws vam meej lawm peb yuav rua qho muag thiab kawm luag lwm haiv neeg ua neej thiab nawb es peb tsis txhob hlub cov txiv neej no tas2 thiaj tsis mob2 peb siab mog.

Self love is the key word. He doesn’t love you. Let him go and let him pay alimony and find a true love who will love you unconditionally.

Sounds like he’s selfish and only wants what he desires. Don’t waste your time on him no more. Once he broke your trust it’s never the same again. Best to move on and find someone who’ll love and appreciate you more. He keeps trailing back to you because he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too.

Only love can hurt like this 💔

This is why we should not love our spouse 100%.

@monkeybanana9269

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. We should love another 50% and keep the other 50% for ourself.

@phaijejnabzajliab9179

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, loved but love not to regret.

@pajlugtswb5341

3 жыл бұрын

Yog lawm lauj kuv los 100% thiab tiag but it’s very bad if he leaves me doesn’t matter what causes

@PengLee90

3 жыл бұрын

Yog lawm. I only love my first wife 20% and my second wife 30%.

@monkeybanana9269

3 жыл бұрын

@@PengLee90 : 😂😂😂

Hais tau zoo kawg li os thiab tusiab tshaj li, kj lub neej ces raws nkaus li kv Lub, tabsis Kv niag ces nws xam maj muab nws tej minyuam txiav kev tu tag li lawm hos,

Kuv nyiam mhloog koj cov dab neeg kawg li o

Viv ncaus koj txoj kev nco es cas niam zoo nkaus li us peb nco peb cov uas tuag lawm os yom. Tu siab tshaj li os.

Koj tus txiv tshuas nyiam tus muam npaws li nyiaj xwb tsi ntev nyiaj tas ces nws yeej rov los xwb

Cov txiv neej zoo li ko ces tuag txhob pub yus cov me nyuam tha nws kiag.

Me niam laug ib tus tsi neej ai nwg hlub tug nwg hlub heev2 thaum nwg tseev siab rau yug cai nwg tseev siab loj heev rau yug thiab os mog ua siab mus tshiav neej tshiab ua os mog yug laug lm lo yeej muaj tus laug phim yug thiab os mog tsi tshob tog nwg lm mog

First listen this morning.

You’re still waiting for him but your title saids that it’s not the same feelings anymore. Doesn’t make sense. However I understand that when you love a person you will always love them.

Me viv ncau aw. cas yuav hais tau tus siab tag npaum no li os.ntuj aw.. cas peb cov poj niam yuav tsis muaj nqi li. thov kom peb sib hlub thiab nawb mog.

I was in your shoes and lost a lot of weight. I met my husband now and he changed everything in my life. He loves me unconditionally. I wished I'd met him earlier. I'm so glad this happened to me and I found someone that loves me. Or else I'd be still arguing, fighting, stress out on the cheating and lies that I had to dealt with in the past. Life is too precious sis. Move on and when you find that person. you will be glad that you moved on. Praying for you! Take care.

My goodness lady, I feel so bad for you and with you at the same time. All these years has gone to waste. All I can say is pls getting better and look after yourself. You have to move forward. Loneliness is a disaster waiting to happen.

I know how you feel. It may feel like the end of the world, but you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and work on loving yourself. It will feel impossible, and will take every ounce of strength you have, but you can do it. Self love will improve your mental health, your appearance and your outlook on life. Focus on yourself and one day love will find you.

Tu siab kawg luag hais ib lo lus hais tias hlub2 heev Tsi kav laus no ces yog li mas Tus viv ncaus Aw😢

U need to do better, be better, and move on with your life. One day he when he sees that u are in a better place, he will surely regrets you. Cheaters don't always end up well with their cheating partners. But if u just wait for him miserably, he will never see u worthy and will never come back. No woman has died from moving on. But if u remain depressed, hurt, and waiting for him, u might end up dying sooner if your physical and mental health deteriorate. Please love and take care of yourself.

Ib hnub tom ntej yeej yuav npam nws xwb, thaum ntawv nws yuav quaj tig nrhiav koj os me niam hluas aw... kuv mloog Koj zaj neej neeg no mas ua rau kuv hlub koj heev li os mog. Tus neeg uas yus hlub tas siab tas ntsws es yuav ua li cas tso tau nws mus os. Kuv to taub koj zoo.

Women like this make it so easy and convenient for men to have their cake and eat it too. SMH

👌👌👌

ua ib siab mog txhob nconco koj tus txiv lawm os. nws thiaj saib koj muaj nuj nqi os tus me niam laus

Honey, you DESERVE so much better. Please see your own self worth. It will take time...but you need to stop seeing him to be able to move on. Don't let him use you like this.

Tu siab tiag tiag li lau

Lub neej ces tsuas paub hnub no xwb tsis paub tag kis ua txij nkawm sib sib Hlub hnub no tabsis tsis paub tagkis lub lub neej twb yuav plam. Tus viv ncaus aw txhob tu siab os mog it is time for you to move on. Tus neeg hlub koj tiag tiag ces tus poj niam twg zoo nkauj npaum li cas los nws yeej tsis nria li os mog tabsis vim nws Hlub koj tsis txaus es koj tus txiv thiaj li hloov siab rau koj lawm. Tus viv ncaus aw koj tus txiv tsis Hlub tus poj ntsuam no os koj tus txiv Hlub nws cov nyiaj insurance xwb na

Tus kab mob siab no ces txog leejtwg leejtwg thiaj li paub xwb os. Been there done that too. Take care of yourself ok. Be strong and love yourself cuz no one will love you if you don’t love you☹️

This is hard to sink in, but sometimes we have to realize loving someone and being in love is different. Hope you find yourself and love yourself.

Moved on sister. Don't waste your time for someone who don't even love you anymore. You deserve better.

Just a thought, will you ever consider uploading your stories in Spotify? I subscribe to Spotify and would love to have your stories on there.

. Be there cia nws them yus thiaj tsim nyog qhov nws yuav yus laus nkoos tsis muaj tug hlub li no thiab ntag.

So sad, you love him so much! But it’s time to move on, he has moved on. Love is so evil and hurt so much, you are truly a beautiful woman.

tus niam tsev os txhob mob siab rau nus lawmlov

Love never last forever..

Vam tia 1 hnub twg koj txoj kev mob no yuav plooj mu os

Love is deep!

Let go so you can be at peace with yourself!. He will never love you the same!. Hurt will go away!. It takes time ti heal ourselves outside/inside and emotionally overall!.

Nws twb tsis hlub koj lawm ces ua ib siab tsis txhob ruam ruam es Hlub koj tus kheej zoo tshaj os!

Koj tsis hlub koj tus kheej ces tsis muaj neeg hlub koj li nawb! Yog nws hlub koj tiag neb lub neej txawm txom nyem npaum cas los nws yeej siab ntev uv nrog koj nyob! Koj yeej hlub nws heev tiamsis koj yuav tsum xav tias nws twb tsis hlub koj li es pheej nyob ntsia nws ua neej ua rau koj mob siab na yus kav tsij tsab zam ua hluas nkauj nrhiav dua os nawb tsam lwm hnub koj xav txog lig txog qhov koj pheej tos nws os mog! Sijhawm tsis tos peb nawb tsuas muaj peb nrog thiab tos sijhawm xwb!!

Some people come into our lives for only a season and others for a lifetime. It's OK to let go of someone you love, when we are strong enough to do so, we are truly loving ourself.

so sorry for you, your heart is wounded. God always heal the victim pray and trust him for lifting your pain

Txiv neej siab phem2 os txhob ntseeg neej siab heev2 os tus niam laus

Eventually you'll heal, be strong and love yourself. He just a person not greater than you, one day you'll find someone who deserve you.

Tamsim no nws tsis muaj dab lawm os tus niam tais aw. Nws tsis hlub koj lawm xwb os vim koj tag nqis rau nws lawm ned. You just gotta move on and forget about him. Nwe hlub tus tod dua koj lawm os. Koj yuav tsum cia li lees txais xwb os. Tamsim no nws tsis muaj dab lawm just you think.. Hahahaaaaa

Sister, I so feel your pain. Be strong. He's not worth it. If he can walk away from you after 30 years or cheat, he'll do the same again. I pray for your healing and may you find love and happiness again.

Yog koj nkag siab koj tus txiv cov lus ces tsis tsim nyog koj khuv xim thiab quaj lawm, txawm yog peb cov poj hmoob zoo li no xwb es lawv thiaj tsuj poj hmoob tsis muaj hnub txaus los mas.

Lady did you know that he’s not the right one for you from the beginning? Love is patient....love takes time to get to know each other. There’s no reason to rush into love or rush into marriage especially using suicide threat to win you was the biggest red flag. He was never mentally well...rushing to get his way not allowing you time to get to know him better. He messed up, it’s his loss, he never deserved you nor your from the beginning. You deserve better....

@monkeybanana9269

3 жыл бұрын

Nothing is guarantee in life no matter how extra careful we are. When we love, we just shouldn't love all the way. 50% for the other person and 50% for ourself.

Peb cov poj niam hmoob meskas tam sim no siab phem phem tsis muaj cov zoo li koj lawm nawb...

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Mloog zaj no mob hlwb tshaj tseem pab tsi tau yu tu kheej li. Yog leej twg lub neej tab tom nyuab siab txhob lo mloog zaj no thiaj tsi nyuab siab ntxiv

Sis I know your feelings towards your husband because I feel the same way about my husband I hope you find strength and courage to do what’s right for you

Tus txiv ko tsi yog koj tus txiv lawm yog dev thiab npua tus xwb es txhob khuv xim txhob tos mog koj hlub tau ib tug Kab mob ib tus neeg ua siab lwj tag lawm twb tsi muaj siab ntsws tsi hlub koj... Nws tsuas yog ib niag roj hmab ua txua tau lub cev xwb txua tsi tau siab ntsws rau nws lawm ces ua ib siab nrhiav dua tus tshiab kom nws paub tias koj Los kuj yog neeg thiab tseem muaj nqis rau lwm tus thiab no mog muab nws tso plig kom tag hauv koj lub siab es ua siab mus pib dua tsam nws tau kev nyhos koj os mog

You're not alone. I don't know if these kind of men has love or kindness.

Cov dab neeg zoo li no tsis need tuaj share vim kawm tsis tau dab tsis zoo yim mloog ntshav vim siab xwb os. Xav mloog cov sib2 hlub xwb os

2nd today

Niam laus kj zoo nkauj thiab haib kawg lawm ma ca lawv tseem thuam kj thiab os kj g phim ແຕ່ງຕົວ haib tshaj qhov ko os li ko xwb thiaj zoo nkauj nawb

Best revenge here is to better yourself sister. He's your love, but you're not his anymore, so dry up your tears and open your door to other men.

Sister, tsis yog koj tag nqi lawm os yog koj tus ex hloov siab lawm xwb. There's nothing wrong with you, he just think the grass will be greener on the other side. Don't blame dab for your husband's choices to leave his family. Don't count on a man coming back once they decided to cheat. Love yourself and move on. Better now than later in life when you're older and need him more.

I'm sorry you have to go through this, but no matter how old you are, if he was your first in everything, even after 30 years, or whatever else, please see your worth and value and stop letting this man run back to you. If he wanted you, he would not have left. I hope you can move on with your life and accept that the past is the past and this man is no longer the person who loved you.

Cov txiv neej zoo lino yog ntshaw nyiaj xwb. Vim nws xav hais tias tus poj ntsuam muaj life assurence.

Move on sister, I'm so sorry, I wish you the best.

ruam dhau ces nyob quaj li ko xwb zoo mas

Move in sister, people change don’t dwell on the past!

@Hmong664

3 жыл бұрын

Easier said than done

Poj ruam aws, luag tsis hlub yus lawm tiag2 os. Ua ib siab ma!!!!! Tus txiv zoo2 tseem tshuav coob2 os mog. Tej zawm koj yog siab dev li koj tus txiv hais es koj thiaj mus tsis taus

The most hardest thing is that he doesn't love you he smart nws ua kom ko mob tshaj xwb.

Sister- I know its hard to let him go but trust me over time you can let him go. Remember he no longer loves you bc he finds the other woman more suitable for him than you. Love urself and ur kids. You are also human let him go. Why do u want to be with a man who no longer loves you? If you get him again you will not get his heart. Let him go sister.

Go ahead & grieve ur marriage. Divorce is like a death. Take some time for urself & take back ur power. Keep trash out of ur life. Start making urself a priority & learn to love urself.

Sister, move on and let him go! You deserve someone better than him. There's so many more men out there that are waiting for you. You just need to open your eyes to find the mr. Right. No more crying for him. He doesn't LOVE you anymore!!

You will find your true love soon. He will cheat on that sister of his one day because if he can do it to u he can do it many times. Cheating man is never happy so cheer up and move on

Sister, your life is so sad. After 30 years of marriage, that is more than your life with your parents. Your ex husband is too stupid and dumb to see your love for him. Sister, no matter what you do once his love for you is gone there is nothing you do will have his love back. Right now the best thing you can is love and take care of yourself to be healthy and stress free and move away from him. Good luck and bless you!

Hmong woman are so insecure, that's why hmong man treated them like doormat. Remember ladies, half of the population have what he have. Take good care of yourself, values yourself better. Love is free, no need to beg him to stay or love you. You're better off without him. Nothing guaranteed for life. Only death and taxes last forever🤨

I hope this lady know to be smart and self love. Stop being like OG people who still dumb to wait for their man who dont love them anymore. Please learn to be self love and move on. Time wait for no one.

Kuv xav mas koj tus txiv raug dab ntxwgnyoog muab nws hloov thiab rau dab kev nkauj kev nraug lawm koj coj mus lawb dab ces nws tsim los lawm os.

Unfortunately he is the selfish one. He doesn't love you. He only love himself. You love him so much so you keep hoping. Don't give him that benefit. Love yourself and move on. Once you find someone that will love you like you love him. You'll understand what love is. Don't hold on to a person who doesn't deserve you.

So sad 😞!!!!

Niam tais nws tsis hlub koj os yog koj yim hlub nws ces nws yim txav deb ntawm koj mus xw yog koj xav kom nws tig rov los saib koj thiab khuv xim koj mas yuav tau hlub yus tus kheej, ua zoo nkauj rau koj tus kheej yam zoo cia rau yus nawb txhob ruam2 mog niam tais peb txiv neej ces yog peb tso tau ces peb tsi hlub lawm naw mog. Sorry to niam tais

Don't show him your weakness. Woman up and start dating in the open. I am sure he will feel the pain and regret it. You and us, we all are made from fresh and blood, not stone. The old hmong saying, "If you don't see a raging yellow river yet, you will not come to your sense." I have seen many people begging for the other to come back when they broke the marriage and the other party does the same.

Muajbsuab muaj ntsws me ntsis thiab lau peb cov poj niam hmoob. Txawm yog ruam li ko es txiv neej thiaj muab tsuj tag li. Hnub twg luag tsis hlub yus lawm ces tso plhuav nws nus es kav tsij nrhiav dua tus tshiab xwb os. Tsis txhob tos tis lawm. Ryam rhiaj tos xwb os.

Sister, please let go. Hearing your story makes me so sad. Because i know that if i was in your shoes, i would be jist as week. May god give you the courage to move on.

💔😢

Hom niag txiv dev ntshaw nyiaj zoo li koj niag ntawm ko mus tsis txog twg os.

Narcissist abuse. A lot of narcissists in this world, a lot of narcissists in the Hmoob patriarchal system. Codependency also.

Tej lus thaum ub ces lawv hais tag ces tag lawm os cas es tseem muaj ib co poj niam es lawv tsis yuav lawm los pheej tseem tos Kav tsij mus nrhiav ib tug los hlub u os koj hlub nws los nws tsis hlub koj lawm

Love is a fallacy. Please do not love something that does not love you back. Muv twb tsis muaj ib nplooj siab es twb tsis kam mus ntsauv lub paj thaum nws zaus lawm, es yuav hais leej tib neeg? Tsis muaj dab os, lub siab phem xwb.