Every single age has been brilliant! I loved it all. Hes 26 now and such a great guy. I am so proud of him!

Very good!!❤

I think “just wait” isn’t *wishing* or *hoping* that the kids will be bad or the parents will have a hard time. It’s not wanting it to happen. It’s *expecting* it. Assuming that all experiences are just like their own. And it’s *going* to be bad. That’s a super common problem among all humans who aren’t open minded. “My experience is the only one and all others are invalid, a fluke, or wrong”. That doesn’t make it better. Your dialogue is absolutely correct and people shouldn’t be sh*tting on the happiness of others. But I just think it’s not hope but expectation because of either their own experiences or the talk of other people. And it just kind of makes me wonder, why is it automatic when someone is happy, to be like “lemme drop you down a peg or two”? 😔

I loved having toddlers and I love my little kids now and I'm excited for them to be teenagers!

When I'm having a hard day with my 5 young children, I imagine holding my grandbabies and lifting up my adult children. That's my goal.

I LOVE THIS❤❤❤❤ I truly dislike that also. I have 1 SIL who constantly does this. It's sounds soooo mean spirited and bitter.

I’m so excited for the teenage phase!! 🩷🩷

Maybe sometimes it comes from a place of spite. but I don't think its often, or even always that. We live in a culture that values sacrifice, hardship, martyrdom, and perseverance, and we especially value doing that *collectively*. I think what they're trying to signal is closer to "this is going to be really hard. Worthwhile. But hard. And when its hard, know that you're not alone in that - it sucked for me too and I got through it. You can too."

I think there are 2 types of people - I suffered with this I hope I can help others suffer less with it and - I suffered so others should to its only fair. and the second type tend to be louder because the first are busy doing the work to make it better

I agree I love teenagers but I also love the terrible 2s and horable 3s 😂 Yes it's amazing I have young adults now

I think most of the time when people say, "just you wait," they're not so much wishing ill upon the people they're saying it to as much they're lording over them the fact that they're more experienced and knowledgeable about parenting at other stages. Not the most positive thing in the world, but something that doesn't hold the same malicious intent.. I think there's also an element of relishing in talking about negative experiences or trashing their own kids. I love that you think highly of your own children and speak positively about parenting them. I'm convinced that anticipating a hard time will make experiences harder, and that having a positive outlook makes life easier and happier! We should really be speaking life and love into each other, and boost each other up. Life is already hard by itself without dog piling negative energy into it.

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In my experience, “just you wait” means “just you wait, you’ll see how hard it was to parent you as a teenager. You’ll see I was right all along. And then you’ll come running to me apologizing and saying I’m right.” I think it’s anticipation of a sort of satisfaction. For example, many young adults have been very vocal about disagreeing with their parents authoritarian parenting style. The parent wants their child to recognize that the yelling, fighting, and non respectful parenting was warranted and any gentler parenting style is going to fail because the adult child will crack when times get hard. This is the case for me. And I have cracked. Many many times. But I can firmly say I have made SO much progress. I know my parents are waiting for me to fail. But the difference is that I have the education, knowledge, and determination to peacefully parent and break cycles.

I have to admit, I sometimes say just you wait to parents. But it's kind of like the weather, wait a minute and this stage will pass. I loved almost every stage, and even when my kids were challenging, (you have an hour or a day or even a month when you don't enjoy parenting this particular child), that period of time always passes. I loved watching their little brains develop. I especially enjoyed 2-4 years old, 12-14 years old because their brains seemed to change so much. I now have 2 adult children who are kind, thoughtful, beautiful human beings and I wouldn't trade even the hard parts of being a parent.

This might partially explain cratering Western birthrates

Why is saying this or that will likely be in your future wishing it on you? There's a difference between warning others or sharing your own experiences and wishing them ill.

That is a confusing way to act and hard to interpret as anything other than wishing to see others struggle. "Just you wait" is a lot different than saying something along the lines of, "That time in parenting was hard for me. Here's some things you might want to be aware of and what I learned from it that might help you and your kid(s) have an easier time." That would be passing on potential wisdom and help. "Just you wait" offers nothing of the sort. It's just mean. It has the same vibe as when I hear people tell me that getting old will inevitably suck, even though I've made very different choices about my health than they have and have seen plenty of people who don't think getting old sucks. I know 90 year olds with the energy and spirit of a 10 year old, so other paths do exist. I suspect that's what it's really about. Defending their poor choices by pretending and projecting that there's no other way for things to be.