She was taken advantage of by an older man,groomed her as well.

@kwetsephetla3597

10 ай бұрын

Dude her whole life has been on hold for this man😮

@yangankenkana5034

10 ай бұрын

@@kwetsephetla3597 yes, this is like the SA former press

@thabilemayeza6812

10 ай бұрын

Mdala

@kwetsephetla3597

10 ай бұрын

@@yangankenkana5034 Yes, with LaC...

@TamaraCanham

10 ай бұрын

Ey true this story is weird. But did she not say she was 19. Her boyfriend married someone else and she said it didn't phase her at all. I'm wondering if she is okay but I don't want to sound offensive.

The day this man passes on, Joy will then understand the difference between a wife and a girlfriend.

@oyamamakanda8791

10 ай бұрын

Thank you

@asandamthembu6275

10 ай бұрын

She seems to be working and creating her own money mos. What will make her cry? When she has her own things ?

@Vv-fl2rm

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@thabilemayeza6812

10 ай бұрын

Eish 😢

@mahlatse8605

10 ай бұрын

​@asandamthembu6275 you clearly don't know anything

God tried saving this woman in the first 3 years by not allowinh her to fall pregnant and yet even after he married someone else she stayed.

This lady looks decent, but her thinking capacity is very disappointing

@Palesa-ku6nc

2 ай бұрын

I agree with you

@oolalatoyamanasa5130

7 күн бұрын

My thoughts exactly, and reasoning is just off🤔

Proof to show that age doesn't necessarily come with wisdom. The delusion!!! Young girls, don't take her stance PLEASE!!!! It's her story, we're clapping for her. I was in a similar situation. He got married and I left, 12 years later, he's still tryana make me a side chick to the woman he cheated on me with and then married! My answer is still " go to the nearest hell, there's a special place for you there". Girls, don't do it. Point, blank and the period

@zeemali4369

10 ай бұрын

✅💯

@anastasimankesemokgobu1724

10 ай бұрын

He is building his family with the wife, as a side chick, when do you get to do that ? Man will always put themselves first shame

@antonattachihombori9561

10 ай бұрын

Not all women want to get married.

@mahlatse8605

10 ай бұрын

​@antonattachihombori9561 so because you don't want to get marry, you choose to be the side? Make that make sense

@blackwoman_015

10 ай бұрын

@@mahlatse8605 good question

If they met ko skolong, she is now 48 and they been together for 23 years, that means she was 48-23=25years🤔🤔. Waitse ke eng, I don't know the colour of tomorrow😮😮

@ayandanofumba9865

10 ай бұрын

Also 23 years ago there was neither Form 3, nor standard 8 but GRADE 8. Phela year 2000 was 23 years ago, so😂😂 LIES LIES LIES

@cobainbride

10 ай бұрын

@@ayandanofumba9865 bahahah 🤣🤣🤣

@RayOfLetsatsi

10 ай бұрын

The lies are too much shem mmè oo thinks we're stupid. This actually makes her credibility and the whole story questionable.

@DKs_Journey1

10 ай бұрын

​@@RayOfLetsatsiher wanting to now get married to an old man is suspicious 😂😂. I never scrutinise things, mara haai!! Dilo ga di kopane.

@ziphezinhlecele855

10 ай бұрын

“Oh, lies, lies, lies and everywhere it’s lies”

Love her, her honesty. She's not sugar coating the truth.

@mmadisekomashishi7999

4 ай бұрын

🎉

She lost me at Grade 10 and member of the ANC… The ANC never loved SA 🤞🏾

@5995Jiol

10 ай бұрын

Hai mun 😂😂😂😂😂

@XoliN

9 ай бұрын

I’m screaming 😭😭😭

@chempathprincipal

9 ай бұрын

This kills me😂😂😂😂😂

@user-dj4lr7or8w

2 ай бұрын

True

@fikilemofokeng4724

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

Whatever happens in my life, may I never meet a man like this 🫠🫠

@yangankenkana5034

10 ай бұрын

It very easy yazi ,add it on your prayer item. ....

@kwetsephetla3597

10 ай бұрын

@@yangankenkana5034 You are right sis. I need to pray that spirit away from ever reaching me.

@mashadimokgata871

9 ай бұрын

😂😂and they are many like that

@bella357

9 ай бұрын

You can simply run away

@thembi9645

9 ай бұрын

This is why I'm even scared to get married, Men are confused shme

That man never intended on marrying her. When men want to marry, they do it. Family can’t even stop them.

@dingzadingding9100

10 ай бұрын

Danko

@triciakekana

10 ай бұрын

Whether u can or cannot have kids

@kwetsephetla3597

10 ай бұрын

@@triciakekanaexactly!

Fascinating discussions! I don't sit in judgement of others, rather I always try and understand what drives people to do certain things and behave in a certain manner. This way I learn and grow and I'm the better for for it. Great shows all-round!!!

@nonhlanhlamaphumulo980

6 ай бұрын

Very interesting. Very humble if all the side chicks had this mindset I would be happy for my husband.

@faithing88

23 күн бұрын

Her life is as confused like the red hair and purple lipstick 😂😂😂

As a younger generation. Let's teach our kids self love. i would never put myself through a situation with a man who doesn't know what he wants. Its the delulu ke sana😂😂😂😂

@shirlsshirls8594

8 ай бұрын

He knows what he wants. He wanted her as a side chick.

@nette2144

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

Who also think that she low-key waited for their marriage to fail so that she can be the wife?

@dikeledimogobe5117

10 ай бұрын

Or the wife to die!

@Pinki0134

10 ай бұрын

Imagine giving away 30 years of your life waiting to nurse an old man one day.... There are levels of common sense.

@janed51

10 ай бұрын

She will never be the wife He will go and marry someone else once again 😂

@user-zg6uk3cj9s

9 ай бұрын

She will never be his wife.

@maboj384

9 ай бұрын

My aunt was a sidechick for over 30 years and had 3 kids with the man. The wife died ,and he married her, but the guy died about 5 years after that, so it's a possibility.

People need to understand this lady was groomed from a young age, then the man chose to marry someone else cause she couldn't convince. I don't think she would have wanted to start another relationship if she felt she's "not woman enough" to bare kids anyway.

@anastasimankesemokgobu1724

10 ай бұрын

But still, continuing with a man who left her to marry another woman doesn't help her. But I get it, she was groomed

@jabulisiletugwana6545

10 ай бұрын

Agreed. The guy exhibited predatory behaviour from the jump!

@Myvillageheaven

10 ай бұрын

But she is a grown woman now.

@ayandasam2269

10 ай бұрын

@@Myvillageheaven I agree my love, but years and years of abuse any form of abuse the victims start thinking its normal.

@Myvillageheaven

10 ай бұрын

@@ayandasam2269 at 48 she has no excuse I swear,a man doesn't want her but she is trying to prove a point....I feel like it's daddy issues.

when a man wants to marry, nothing can ever stop him, you're just delusional

@Myvillageheaven

10 ай бұрын

And in denial.

@nokukhanyakhanyile925

9 ай бұрын

I agree 100%

@nolubynature9513

9 ай бұрын

Except a woman turning him down lol

@PheladiPhillipine_

8 ай бұрын

@@nolubynature9513hape they’re looking past that 😭.

@mahafrika7116

7 ай бұрын

💯 he would have married her if he loved her that much.

The fact that she is an orphan I feel like the old man took advantage of this beautiful faithful women, not having her parents to fight for her, that family would have treated you better , I feel your pain, you actually went through a lot, but is so grate that you healed and able to talk about your life story, so powerful, God bless you and more Grace

@kettykembabazi

8 ай бұрын

Being an orphan doesn’t mean you become a side chick of a married man

@thandiephuti7000

Ай бұрын

@@kettykembabazi you are right but people are vulnerable, and can be manipulated. you dont have a sense of belonging

Mam Joy is the girl she thinks she is❤️ She chose well for herself and she is a smart lady. O phela bophelo ba gage man.👌

@puseletsoseutla

5 ай бұрын

yah I think so too

This woman is actually so smart yoh. You can tell by how she speaks.. shes aware of everything

I'm 10 min already in this video and I already bored by the excuses that this Lady is giving for her Sugar Daddy not to have married her. I mean when a person wants to marry you they do, he just felt comfortable with having a side chick and that's all you are to him. He could have made her his second wife, he still could he just doesn't want to.

Shes emotionally stuck at whatever year she experienced trauma. This is sad nje more than anything

@nolubynature9513

9 ай бұрын

Exactly 😢

@boitumeloqueen1580

5 ай бұрын

Very sad😢

My problem with these kinds of stories is that now the child is 18 and gas to watch this nonsense 😢

Just imagine this being your mother on social media telling people she’s a proud sidekick 😢

@polynngugi7725

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@thatolesolopo

10 ай бұрын

Ma'am at her big big age for that matter

@nolz9912

10 ай бұрын

Sad

@AsaMPodcast

10 ай бұрын

Embarrassing 😢

@lethubabalebogeng7556

10 ай бұрын

Nka lla gore😂😂😭😭

Judging by the way she's blushing, she's giving obsessed with a man that never truly never loved her.

@anastheciasebela6460

9 ай бұрын

Sad hey

@sherrolmtshamba5545

9 ай бұрын

Who did he love sis?

@user-cu8kn8qv6u

5 ай бұрын

​@@sherrolmtshamba5545 he loved himself no one else

Mentally/emotionally she's talking like a child not a grown woman.

@44Buyi

10 ай бұрын

That is my observation as well..

@fillod2613

10 ай бұрын

It’s true. She is almost 50 years old but not yet mature.

@overstandself9954

5 ай бұрын

Dude ngathi shes a teenager who just started dating. Boma 16year old vibes 😢

@oolalatoyamanasa5130

7 күн бұрын

Jonga, 16 year olds these days are very mature than this mama ryt here!

See how his position in his family and society was protected and prioritised over hers? Our daughters must really understand that they have the right to dream and harbour ambition. That they have meaningful space in the family and community. That in itself is sacred.

@nolubynature9513

9 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@gabiemnisi

8 ай бұрын

❤❤ That's so true.I'm saving these words for my daughter 4 when she's older.

This lady needs therapy, there’s grooming, anger, poverty, post parturm depression, grief, loss and denial.

@matshedisomogapi2169

10 ай бұрын

Kuningi for sure

@anastasimankesemokgobu1724

10 ай бұрын

It's a lot

@lifewithqueenSolo

10 ай бұрын

Yho Girl, she really needs therapy.

@virginiamodukanele6156

10 ай бұрын

"" Boom, wow, 10 past 4."" .haec🙄

@sisterneo4018

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Sana, I so wish she could free herself and go look for real love. She’s not that old yet.

@ZimkhitaMazula-ly1oc

3 ай бұрын

But she is convinced 🤣

I will never forgive myself for listening to this....

@cathrinemusinazano277

9 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@KutlwanoK3880

9 ай бұрын

😂

@thuliglad267

9 ай бұрын

😂😂

@nette2144

9 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@busisiwemichelle5391

9 ай бұрын

Me too yooo Mihlolo may God protect and help us

Sad old woman, fell for a childish and irresponsible man. This is a mess, I’m 29 and I see how childish and disgusting this situation is.

@maloasevilakazi3853

9 ай бұрын

😂

@zamantungwakhumalo7123

9 ай бұрын

Grown to learn marriage is doesn't prove love😏How ironic😂😂😂Sadly she might be the happiest human alive just saying🤷🏾

@smangelemasengemu8350

8 ай бұрын

That fact that she's is the one that the man married it doesn't mean she was loved.

@dudumthimkhulu2615

7 ай бұрын

Nah Thenji, don't judge. Marriage is not everything. And it doesn't define love. She is probably happier than most married women.

@MyJOSE2013

7 ай бұрын

48 isn't old age, you ageist Trolls 🚮

Self love is important guys..🌸🌼🌺

@triciakekana

10 ай бұрын

Very imperative

@candidaalex2007

10 ай бұрын

The comment I was looking for ❤

@nette2144

9 ай бұрын

Unfortunately some ppl don’t know how to love themselves. I teach many ppl self love everyday. It’s sad to see sis.

@aphiwemncube1550

9 ай бұрын

Very important😢

"Member of ANC"😢 That said it all. Imbalance of power was at a center stage here. Since she was the younger one she took the short end of the stick. Young girls aren't suppose to be with old men. This age is just a number is never beneficial to women.

This goes to show that even if a man marries you, it does not necessarily mean that he loves you. His heart might be with someone else. There's a saying that most men wish they were with a woman they met once in their lifetime. Pray before you get married and ask God to reveal things that are hidden. Getting married doesn't mean that you won. Promise, being married doesn't mean that you won. A man is not a prize. I hope Promise learned something here...coz she puts her marriage on a pedestal.

@ayandasam2269

10 ай бұрын

There's nothing wrong with Promise putting her marriage on the pedestal ma'am. If u inlove and married be happy, put it out there. If it ends it ends.

@tsholofelohuma7496

10 ай бұрын

U sound very bitter, then why doesn't the man wants to marry u if he loves u so much, ur delusional shame 😅

@thandomasango9947

9 ай бұрын

❤

@sindiswapalisompangele8937

9 ай бұрын

Madala really is a politician,

@snenhlanhlacele8940

9 ай бұрын

I disagree getting married does mean victory

Saying my man I cringed 😬. But with that being said can we all understand what childhood trauma does to the brain even in adulthood (she grew up as an orphan). Childhood trauma can profoundly influence the choices we make in life, she does not see herself as worthy of having her own husband, she did not address the effects of her trauma and heal and now she’s bleeding on this marriage it’s said Someone on the comments said the “delusion” she’s right

@nette2144

8 ай бұрын

You are right. Orphans usually get hand me downs. So she has that spirit of fear of not having and would rather have second best. Her childhood may be so traumatic

I dont blame this lady at all. The man is all she has known all her life. Her first love and apparently the man lived her genuinely. Her late ness in getting a baby complucated things cos being African children were and still are important. I am married but I can still sort if understand her. Shes a bit of a free spirit though and she likes it. Happy ending? Life is a total mystery. Theres no loser here.

There’s a lot I want to say, but I don’t want to be judgemental. The only person who knows if it’s really love or not is the man himself.

@danilaroche1156

8 ай бұрын

Having an opinion is NOT judgmental. People don't understand what the word means.

This lady was groomed by that man and she is in his mental prison hence "dilulu" is all over her psychologically. What a sad life, I feel sorry because she has never lived a full life of honour as a woman

This hurts me to the core,my friend's marriage was destroyed by the side chick , she was his first girlfriend but never married her even after the divorce. Men are wicked and will make you believe in something that is not even there.That man doesn't love her but feeding to his man ego😢

@dot510

10 ай бұрын

He does not love the wife either.

@Meandyouisnus

9 ай бұрын

Since when do men love anyone but themselves. So the tell you that they love you and you believe them🤣🤣🤣

@ikhowaka1471

8 ай бұрын

He loves her ..the child issue.

@ikhowaka1471

8 ай бұрын

​@@Meandyouisnusmy sister men love...my dad met my mom 55 years ago. My dad gave her a job as his secretary the same day.. ...I was born and they been married 55 years and still together. Men love and love has no formula....it's luck and God.

@user-mt1xc9wl1f

8 ай бұрын

No man cld manipulate me that long once he marry the next lady that wld be my quit and value myself.the man only use her sex object I don't know how she's smiling in such trauma.wheres u common sense .I'd be so ashamed.

Yoh hleng Promise.... Yah neh Mosadi, I vote for you to be President for Women.... You manage to get to the bottom of things and ask provocative questions... Love you mosadi for this kind of content.... This story is so amazing hleng and interesting....

@hlelokubheka

10 ай бұрын

I love her so much

Uhmm the way she speaks about this khehla. Now I'm dying to know who he is. Just to put a face to the story🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@riddsrasmos6459

2 ай бұрын

Some ANC dude probably gwede

its giving dilulu 😭😭😭 therapy therapy therapy!!!!

Promise you look amazing and your outfit is on point!

The man never wanted to marry her. Why didn't the other woman have to prove that she can have babies as well 😢

Either she is lying or they dealt with her traditionally very early

@bmshik

10 ай бұрын

Chemi

@rethabilemotshwane397

10 ай бұрын

Getting out of Bush helped weaken whatever they used on her not to conceive all that time

@katlegonkadimeng6443

10 ай бұрын

They way the have access and control of her baby from day 1 even now shame

@mvelomt6015

10 ай бұрын

Uloyiwe loMama 🙆🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

@lindathomo1799

9 ай бұрын

Looks like that coz ahe keeps emphasizing that they love each other deeply

Jesu, leba kwano😲😲Is this really, a true real life story? The things women put up with, just to be in relationships are super hectic😓😱😱This is hectic, Were there no other men in Bushbuckridge to rescue her bathong?

A dash of embarrassment could hv saved her from wasting her life more even being public about it.

@thobilembuli8571

10 ай бұрын

Dude. A dash of embarrassment is very important.

@queenrammym

10 ай бұрын

Sisi you are here😂😂😂

@tshiamomahape292

10 ай бұрын

@@queenrammym yes 😂

@_theerealnono_7694

10 ай бұрын

That's what the world is missing now, shame. No shame at all.

@tshiamomahape292

10 ай бұрын

@@_theerealnono_7694 Tell me about it. All dz things they not new they been happening but because the moral standard was high they were hidden so u would do wrong and hv shame

I don't think she should be seen as a side chick. It devalues her integrity. She, for all purposes and intent, the man's wife. It's just that things did not unfold as per expectations. She has taken her own particular way in love life, a respectable way I must add. I respect her immensely.

@dare2be520

9 ай бұрын

Same

@sharonkgomo4009

9 ай бұрын

Co. 🫱🏾‍🫲🏽

@chiyenyumba7135

9 ай бұрын

But the man should formalise even traditionally like Zuma 😂

@rbee2062

8 ай бұрын

Same here

@jacquamine

8 ай бұрын

Exactly!

I can't believe how naive our sisters are. No self love. That husband is so selfish

@Vv-fl2rm

10 ай бұрын

Even the wives staying in such situations have no self love whatsoever it’s the empty validation that all women ( wives sidechicks etc) get from men.

@princessconny1358

9 ай бұрын

I feel like even this man doesn't have selfove shame if he is able to put himself through this then he also need help

@ndeledorothy3858

8 ай бұрын

ANC men😅😅

Decenter men. Focus on yourself and live your best life. ❤

Everyone must understand that not everyone wants to get married. She made her choices and she's happy about it, so who are you to judge. I salute her for standing by her truth.

@antonattachihombori9561

10 ай бұрын

Exactly

@zintlenjoli2981

10 ай бұрын

People who don't want to get married don't want to experience the pain that they cause to married women. Calling out rubbish is not judging, it's challenging the wrong doer to take accountability of their actions and not delight in hurting others. Singaphela ngabo don't judge while things get ruined.

@busiluthando451

10 ай бұрын

@@zintlenjoli2981 thats your opinion but nothing is going to change about her situation. She's still living her truth whether we agree with it or not.

@tsholofelomocumi4207

10 ай бұрын

@@busiluthando451 she may be living HER truth like you say, but in the long run, this truth is going to cost her dearly. There are things in life that are FORBIDDEN,and one of those things is to get involved with a married person.

@zintlenjoli2981

10 ай бұрын

@tsholofelomocumi4207 Exactly, we live in times where doing the wrong things are considered right, and doing the right thing like calling out a person for their destructive behavior is considered wrong.

It's giving lies... Who doesn't want to get married especially when the men marries another person.... May I never live a life of lies 😮

When she said "now he loves me too much" yet he still hasn't married her😅😂😂😂 It's giving inganekwane vibez🤞😂

@triciakekana

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 Dudeeeeeee

@asanda138

10 ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Its a MESSSSS

@ncuminkilitshana1049

10 ай бұрын

But she did say he offered to though and she refused..

@spokazitshungu9093

10 ай бұрын

Inganekwane sana if you ask me🤣🤣🤣

@thelady2379

10 ай бұрын

They are both comfortable with whatever that is between them. It's you who has a problem with their affair

But some of us we know women who've been side chick for years some have 2-3 kids. And they ok with it, sidechick from that age group didn't mind. Only sidechicks of today attack the wives for no reason.

@yangankenkana5034

10 ай бұрын

So true, Yaz I am coming from that family, nothing new and our parent were hurting but definitely not like us. There were bit stronger than us.

One thing about this man is that he plays the woman in the name of the family

@yangankenkana5034

10 ай бұрын

Yaa that might be the case. Maybe he was the one who want to marry someone with a kid ..how come it was easy like that after a baby even the family just like that. ...

😂😂wow South Africa is a movie Yoo-hoo. She was suppose to say when a man doesn’t want to marry you he won’t marry you when advising us. But team home wrecker nje side chick wife mamakhulu 😮

@noziphokhumalo2963

2 ай бұрын

Kannete 😂😂😂😂

The wife calls her Mamkhulu 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 The wife is secretly winning 😅 she’ll keep calling the Delulu one Mamkhulu but on paper she is the one who has all the wife benefits 😭God forbid the man dies

@ntebokarabelomphoso4876

10 ай бұрын

Ma’am, the delulu here is unmatched🙉 Absolutely not the solulu though, please

@triciakekana

10 ай бұрын

Everything goes to the wife😂😂

@mamellomosase9448

10 ай бұрын

Nope. My grandmother almost fainted coz all her life she thought she'd get everything coz she's the wife. If a woman makes a man pay child support nothing is released until all the kids he's paying for are present and everything is shared equally. They can even claim the house you live in if your husband owned it or you're married in community of property.

@mahlatse8605

10 ай бұрын

​​​@@mamellomosase9448that is not true. According to the law, in community of property, the wife always gets 50% of all assets in case of divorce, and 100% in the case of death unless otherwise stated in a will. Your grandmother most likely never registered her marriage. And why would a wife have her husband pay child support in the 1st place?

@ncuminkilitshana1049

10 ай бұрын

​@@mamellomosase9448yes, people need to check the law before making comments on benefits of wives vs sidechicks..the law is just in this area and the husband can always nominate the side to inherit, the family and wife will have no say, the law will prevail qha!

23 years as a sidechick and shes proud of it wow....Talk about Shallowness

@stelladizwani

9 ай бұрын

That was her choice

Married men usually lie a lot so u can't take his word that he is discussing or doing anything that he says. The fact that his wife took care of child actually makes him love his wife more. This man has the best of both worlds. She must have low self esteem to settle for such a long time.

I don't understand this level of Love these ladies has for this Man. Yhu, Ha A! There's no way I can be in their position, I don't have that kind of love. I hope Joy & her son are listed as beneficiaries. Because it would be tragic for this Man to die & Joy is stripped of everything.

@mapelaramafsi6701

10 ай бұрын

Mdala wa loya maan😅

@chantellemodisane

9 ай бұрын

Money and status skat

@tebatsorebbecaa5715

23 күн бұрын

Not everything is about money hle

I understand her case she didn’t date a already married man she was not the chosen one

Some level of self love, self respect is necessary

To the people that are condemning her, was she supposed to just fall behind whereas she was there first, she never took anyobody's husband, she just continued living her life and I commend her for it!

@candidaalex2007

10 ай бұрын

We all have choices in life, she had choices.

@esthermumba525

9 ай бұрын

The man never had good intentions for her and he saw the desperation in her. Met you before her, but you have now graduated from side chick to side hen over the years😮😮😅😅

@nduvhoprisca4968

9 ай бұрын

She is lying this one. She is 48 dated the guy 23 years in grade 12?. Do the math.

@nduvhoprisca4968

9 ай бұрын

She should have been 25 or 26 while in grade 10. Come on.

@PA-vq2jt

8 ай бұрын

Yeah , but he took 2 wives😅 and she’s now ready too marry if he asks… this isn’t normal

Only those who have experienced similar issues understand this. A man can marry someone they do not love due to other reasons

@zukhanyefunani4973

10 ай бұрын

What reasons are those? I’m crurious

@candidaalex2007

10 ай бұрын

And they can also leave whenever they want. He gets everything he wants from her without her requiring much, that’s why he is wasting her time for 23 years. Nothing will stop a man to be with the woman he wants to be, not even his wife and kids.

@Sheilzdarlingz

10 ай бұрын

Selflessness emadodeni😢

@dot510

10 ай бұрын

@@zukhanyefunani4973 Many men marry women they do not love for societal status, family pressure or simply their own selfish reasons. Women! we have to stop thinking marriage is a price, the "He chose me" attitude hence I'm special. Married women who care have been warning us for years. What do we say? They are jealous! Oh no just because it happend to her does n't mean it's gonna happen to me. When are we ever going to learn? When are we going to stop teaching our daughters nonsense? We setting them up to fail. One day I asked a few young boys what they want to be when they become older. You know what they say? They want to be Elon Must. Elon Must is a filthy rich billionare who is also a divorcee with many children. I asked them about marriage, they don't want to get married. It did not start with these young boys. It just saddened me that there are THERE ARE MOTHERS WHO ARE BUSY TEACHING THEIR DAUGHTERS ABOUT WINNING A MAN's heart. We are bringing agony to our own selves by forcing being special, and sadly the younger generation of women.These men are calculating and we are busy with being naive. I believe this woman, this man married the other woman for family not for love. He managed to preserve his bloodline and keep the woman of his dreams at the same time. African families are mostly about preserving the family and bloodline, if that is at risk, to hell with love or anything, bloodline first.

@maiyeukai9346

9 ай бұрын

​@@candidaalex2007very true...anyone who thinks being a side chick is alright must be sick in the head. Its either them or their mama are side chicks

Girls as long as we are still emotional about these issues...we are not winning....we must be sober ( logic) And let's stop the judgment as well.

@NellyN159

9 ай бұрын

You are very wise my dear

@nontongulube

9 ай бұрын

You are right,truth is this woman is not a side chic she's a wife,it's actually a family only that she's not legally married,

The age and the years...the math is not mathing😏

@boniswamatlaletsa9340

10 ай бұрын

It's not make sure 😂😂😂

@bellatalkssa405

10 ай бұрын

Yeah maan cause go cho o na le 27 a bala form 3 that was not there in the year 2000 ..... cause a re they dated for 3 yras then fell pregnant. Very delulu this one

@Zintlle

10 ай бұрын

@@bellatalkssa405 and she first said she was in Grade 10 then later when asked what the age was, are 19/20

@lindathomo1799

9 ай бұрын

She was hesitant about her age I think she older than 48

This man did’nt really want to marry her at all,even after having a child with her he still did’nt make her a second wife,he is just a Peado who took advantage of a young girl but in her adulhood I blame her for staying and not ending this relationship.

@antonattachihombori9561

10 ай бұрын

She refused to marry him!

@bobogona

10 ай бұрын

@@antonattachihombori9561 So she says,mdala is not there to confirm that statement,also why would he marrying her has to come with conditions of whether she is woman enough to bear children or not?

@dorothylerato8605

6 ай бұрын

🤔🤔🙁

This woman is real... tells it as it is. She knows what she wants and did not let anyone or anything control her.

@bathos22

8 ай бұрын

What she wanted was marriage. He did not marry her yet she still stayed. How is this not being controlled?

@Rohoboth

8 ай бұрын

She is the wife. If the mother was not controlling, the guy would have made his own decisions

@Rohoboth

8 ай бұрын

1st wife witchcraft 😂😂😂

@daphneparkinson9020

8 ай бұрын

@@Rohoboth exactly

@PagesbyPaige

8 ай бұрын

A bit on the side is a condiment. A wife is the meal. You can discard the condiment, but not the meal.

The Host finishing this ladies sentences is sending me😂😂 like get to the point.. totally enjoyed this interview

One thing about delulu you will defend the man, his family this his family that😂

@anastheciasebela6460

9 ай бұрын

Dude 😭😭

Having listened to the whole story, it is not that of a bad story and an arrangement. Lets admit she learnt things and made an informed decision. She also valued her independence.

@tlashai9902

7 ай бұрын

Yes she does

This lady is delulu I swear🤞 Mrs Law's laugh proves the point 😂😂. Gogo "Mamkhulu" is very old and very proud to be on tick tok bashing women who choose marriage.

This is an excellent show. Very unique for women to speak on these types of relationships. Very interesting and educational.

@enn4983

8 ай бұрын

Some like this one, are defeated relationships !!!!

I love this lady, she seems not malicious its just that life is complicated..

I love this story.... i like how my sister took it and how she treated it

@thelightindarkness175

9 ай бұрын

Owning her truth!! I love it for her😍And Promise mastering the interview, asking relevant questions as always 🎊❤️

What a mess..... And the pride she has on her face ka story se sa gage😂😂😂😂

@lindathomo1799

9 ай бұрын

Because she gave the man a boy child. Indlalifa ezovusa isibongo sendoda

@merjoriesowenzo3502

24 күн бұрын

Mara

My heart broke for her when she said she did not have enough time to prove herself💔 To have developed such an impression of yourself at such a young age.

@nandimzanzi

10 ай бұрын

A lot of what she is saying is not consistent. She dated this guy when he was married.

@nolubynature9513

9 ай бұрын

Yoh

Sending her my best vibes. 🤎

If I date a public political figure and I keep looking twice my age and this rough please all of you slap me back to reality .. What!🤦🏽‍♀️🤣🤣

@MsSwanlake

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@dineo_sethosa

10 ай бұрын

I’ll give you one hot slap don’t worry 😂😅

@katithimusyimi7032

10 ай бұрын

👍

If patience was a person

I believed this story until the sithembu,it’s giving Telemundo

@MommyLindo

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

I admire the fact that she has been with this one man, for her adult life, she is very patient. I wish her all the best. O hope she will make Jesus the center of her life. God bless

Whenever I'm free,i watch your content as it deals with real issues and may you grow and have bigger stage where you have live audience 🙏❤

Everytime promise says “Ohkaay”…💀😂😂😂😂

Well ... her story it's different from many. She's the first. Unfortunately, fertility issues, family being poke she ended up "side chick"! 23 years and counting .... Love comes in different forms and shapes. 💘

This story is not make sure, the math is not mathing 🥴🥴

When a woman tells herself the lies she wants to believe.

Aowa this woman is not a side chick, she actually the one she was just pushed away by the family

@gedrutsekgala8339

10 ай бұрын

No she is not

@blackwoman_015

10 ай бұрын

@@gedrutsekgala8339yes you’re right she’s not a side chick .. xes a side chicken

@gedrutsekgala8339

10 ай бұрын

Had it not been the family refusing her from marrying, she would have been a wife with that one son, who knows she would have been blessed their blocked that for a older woman The way things carried on she was meant to be in this family

@khetimthembu8465

10 ай бұрын

@@blackwoman_015😂😂haibo side chicken

@hlelokubheka

10 ай бұрын

Definitely

Delulu through and through 😂🤣

Its her involving God is all this mess .

I think they are already planning the wedding.She said now AM MARRYING THE MAN OF MY DREAMS,then she said IF I DECIDE😊

@overstandself9954

5 ай бұрын

Umhlolo sesi. She is delusional for real yoh.

Mina i feel sorry for this lady shame This is what they mean when they say LOVE IS BLIND

If forever yena was a person 😭🥺

@CocoN341

8 ай бұрын

😂😭💀

"Marry this guy is a waste of time" and yet you are still wasting your time with him!!!!

This woman was a main chick turned side chick. She didn’t start as a side. This was full relationship and there was genuine love, if they hadn’t been told they couldn’t have kids she could’ve been the wife

@zethesjourney4389

10 ай бұрын

What's your point exactly?

@Blessed224

10 ай бұрын

​@@zethesjourney4389She's trying to justify ths woman's actions

@sihlesihle6838

10 ай бұрын

What come first??? Marriage or kids

@itumelengmokoena9933

10 ай бұрын

If man wants to make you his wife he will regardless...

@ncuminkilitshana1049

10 ай бұрын

​@@Blessed224elaborate because you are bold for this statement!

“At a private hospital “🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@yelangjinka5648

10 ай бұрын

😆😆😂🤣😆😅

@annetteodanga

9 ай бұрын

Lol,laughing with 1000 other kenyans 🇰🇪

This woman😂😂😂😂. My biggest question throughout this whole thing is, do these people not care about sexually transmitted disease

@busisiwemichelle5391

9 ай бұрын

They don't care

@beatamafulu2405

9 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@kimberlybarry8357

8 ай бұрын

I don't think it even crosses their minds because, if it did they may move differently.

Either she's lying about her current age ya 48😂 or she's confused because wow the math ain't mathing. Honestly everything she's saying is nonsense just watching for Promise at this point.

@WetsoMogorosi

10 ай бұрын

i have never been so confused in my life.😭

Love her for standing by her unconventional uncomfortable truth❤

I know of a few aunties who have been sidekicks to well known, wealthy SA men. They are never in the public eye, but have good access to " spousal benefits"

@MaggieRaphoto-bk8kg

9 ай бұрын

Some are not even wealthy, they are comfortable and inlove

Delulu is the only solulu😭😭😭

@miss_phudding2118

10 ай бұрын

😭😭

@hlelokubheka

10 ай бұрын

😹😹😹😹

@GalaletsangSeema

10 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@5995Jiol

10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

This is sad. The fact that the woman still says that the man was supposed to marry her, so she is Mamkhulu to the wife is borderline delulu. She was basically waiting for the wife to stumble so that she could have a chance, two wives later💔 Truly saddening.

@mmasuku6014

10 ай бұрын

borderline delulu😂😂😂

@berniceedwards8450

7 ай бұрын

Well said!