He did not say that nice guys get rejected. He said that guys who are lazy and unskilled (useless) are less desireable.

@baizawai

6 жыл бұрын

George Gee My comment was a response to the title of this clip which is mismatched to the actual content of the clip. He did not say women reject "nice" men. That is my contention.

@baizawai

6 жыл бұрын

George Gee Those were not my words they were JPs. I am assuming what he means by useless is low in openess and conscientiousness.

@skunch

6 жыл бұрын

You are correct, Judging Jordan Peterson based on this channel will give you an incomplete picture of his thinkings. The owner of this channel appears to have an issue with women and is justifying their reasoning by making strange, out of context delineations.

@67kingdedede

6 жыл бұрын

'nice guys' gets more clicks tho

@baizawai

6 жыл бұрын

Beeblebrox One But his comments on agreeableness had nothing to do with how women choose partners. They are actually two different clips. First is petersons intro to the agreeable/disagreeable spectrum then it cuts to a totally different clip of him talking about female mate selection.

"Speak softly, but carry a big stick." -Theodore Roosevelt

@omarkabanda6396

3 жыл бұрын

Very 😄 funny

@jocabulous

3 жыл бұрын

big stick energy

@thisguy7449

3 жыл бұрын

My big stick is in my pants

@dneuman7455

3 жыл бұрын

Be fair to thw animal kingdom your fate roars.

@Yusa_Beach

3 жыл бұрын

Beat them with kindness

I'm a female and I used to be very very agreeable. A basic doormat. I used to get resentful. Then, as the years marched on, I began to become more disagreeable but a beautiful thing happened. I grew a backbone and self respect and that led to being less resentful. It was a natural paradigm shift. I am much happier! Very very satisfied in life. It can happen over time.

@mac1bc

6 жыл бұрын

Cool, like that's good stuff

@londoncalling7895

6 жыл бұрын

We've got to stop telling girls to be 'nice'. It's brainwashing them to put others before themselves. It's just crap bordering on child abuse..

@terryhollands2794

6 жыл бұрын

I used to be far too agreeable, to the point that I was selected to be the subject of a psychological experiment that I did not give consent for. Let me assure you, I now can be one of the miserable pricks you will ever run across. Although this happened 20 years ago, I know who my enemies are, and the damage they intentionally did to my family, it is neither forgiven or forgotten.

@mac1bc

6 жыл бұрын

terry hollands do you have any super powers now?

@mac1bc

6 жыл бұрын

terry hollands 👍👍👌👌👏

*Immediately goes out and become disagreeable in all the wrong ways*

@radioactiverat8751

3 жыл бұрын

"That's right, I'm a nice guy."

@Jsuarez6

3 жыл бұрын

When "keeping it real" goes wrong.

@ntsikelelonelsonmbekwa3231

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@oneinabillion654

3 жыл бұрын

@Ork Trukk Drivah That's good disagreement. I'm proud of u.

@Wulk

3 жыл бұрын

@Ork Trukk Drivah I'm proud of you too

And I cannot stress this enough: " women aren't after resources, they are after the factors that predict resources."

@lillysnet9345

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. That imperss me as well. The woman is mother so she subconsciously knows she needs to feed her kids.Aa well if you are useful she will direct you to the resources till she is busy rising the kids. I now understand how I choose my husband. I used to say to him: "OMG...I can send you to Africa and you going to come beck with camille."

@susiekim5728

4 жыл бұрын

Haley Howell Truth!

@donovangordon1062

4 жыл бұрын

...except for, you know, gold diggers.

@masterofkaarsvet

4 жыл бұрын

How is that not ultimately the same thing?

@solarson7363

4 жыл бұрын

@@masterofkaarsvet Peterson falls short in many ways, watch the clip of him being asked about Solzhenitsyn statements about the soviets being mostly jews... he got triggered and refused to discuss this fact and walked off stage- so weak! hes just a pressure valve seeking to mislead

This is like "real talk" gender studies.

@iguacu3517

3 жыл бұрын

So...the opposite?

@DimensionFluke

3 жыл бұрын

There should be such thing. But it exist then why make super gay genders? You know it is not real why aspect of life following it.

@Alffovinni

3 жыл бұрын

YES

@screwmuckduck8905

2 жыл бұрын

This is REAL gender studies

@alexl.4362

2 жыл бұрын

That's right buddy

That's was me and now I am completely alone and so much better off. Agreeable people don't realize how much crap they tolerate until they're out of the situation.

@Elung069

4 жыл бұрын

Now that is the truth.

@ShortGirlsClimbCounters

4 жыл бұрын

100% true. I tend to be far too agreeable, and then hold so much resentment after I remove myself from situations in which I've been taken advantage of as a result of my over agreeableness. I'm trying to learn what is normal agreeableness, and what is too much.

@Elung069

4 жыл бұрын

@@ShortGirlsClimbCounters I hope you learn sooner than I did. There again I'm a slow learner. Took me over 50 years to "Wake up". Too late.

@Elung069

4 жыл бұрын

@Benson Walker Making up for the lost time. I could now be classified as obnoxious.

@Kelvin-iy6vy

4 жыл бұрын

No....Isolation and being alone is not the goal

Don't be too agreeable, put yourself first, you'll be much happier that way.

@jessicariddell1976

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, as long as you are not exploiting others when putting yourself first.

@tommeeww

2 жыл бұрын

In a relationship you can't Just put yourself first, thats so much egoistic and fit perfectly in this individualistic society. Try completly die to your ego, to your "I", spread love and compassion and you will discover that without any possessive attachment you can't be hurt at all, you will naturally attract caring people and you will naturally avoid the self centered ones.

I’m a female, used to be “too nice,” I realized that my empathy was attracting people that like to use that trait. Not anymore.

@michaelj.mccall6530

3 жыл бұрын

Guts and heart are great traits to have regardless of sex. Congratulations ma’am!

@mollyg4980

3 жыл бұрын

Equillizer Armtwister damn straight!

@charlottehanna3860

3 жыл бұрын

Woman! Not female! Goddammit!!!!!!

@mollyg4980

3 жыл бұрын

Michael J. McCall Thank you, sir!

@mollyg4980

3 жыл бұрын

@Jaime Ares Well, when you are super empathetic, it attracts people that use you, because you are super giving.

It's good to be kind and loving. To be sympathetic and to help others when they truly need it. It is not good to be "agreeable".

@JacobSeely

2 жыл бұрын

"Agreeableness" here is referring to a Big 5 psychological trait. Agreeableness is neither inherently good nor bad in that context, but extremes likely are.

What I noticed over the years is if you are the “nice” person, most people will push and push to see how far they can get. You agree here and there to small irrelevant things and as soon as they try you with something bigger and you say no or stand up for yourself (with a good attitude about it) they seem bitter and almost angry. Not all, but a lot do. I would think they would have respect, I mean, they don’t ask you for anything else or really bother with you, but their attitude now stinks. I even had a supervisor try to sabotage my work area. I did everything they asked and they tried to use control with me and I politely told them no, when I am finished then I will do that and it’s like they went ape shit lol Don’t bother me anymore, but it used to a lot. Interesting to know ...

@raycarden7941

4 жыл бұрын

Been there...

@ninepuchar1

4 жыл бұрын

Gotta stand up for yourself

@severusfloki5778

4 жыл бұрын

Correct!

@semanisa9611

3 жыл бұрын

I. Can relate to your experience I became suicidal, mental health issues because I was being bullied at work. I kept record of events of bullying with emails, medical letters from my therapist, doctors and occupational therapy....but the investigation was rigid an I was told it's heresay and it was insufficient evidence.

@semanisa9611

3 жыл бұрын

@@strangercat A wise man doesn't speak due to poverty. I know I need to stand up but I have disability where I struggle with processing information, which means I'm not good at counter argument and I like to avoid negative people.

In conclusion, a good partner is kind and nice by choice but is capable of standing up for themselves and won't allow others to push them around.

As an useless poor man, I'd like to wish ya'll a Happy Valentines!

@Mike-xw4gm

6 жыл бұрын

Spineless shit

@Jester123ish

6 жыл бұрын

Join Greenpeace.

@Fedro994Q

6 жыл бұрын

@dan strong insecure wanna be alpha

@Mike-xw4gm

6 жыл бұрын

I put out a challenge and instead of focusing on yourself like you should have your focusing on me... WROOOONG

@Fedro994Q

6 жыл бұрын

You just did the same yourself + you just said 2 words without any context just to insult me so you can feel better about yourself I suppose. I won't focus on meaningless convos like yours anymore. Take care man, find your inner peace, you probably need it more than I do.

I was a doormat. I had a bad childhood, went into an abusive marriage and finally got out (18 yrs with my toxic family, 17 years in a toxic marriage). That same year I blocked and extricated my entire family. 2 years later, today, I have a healthy self esteem. In order to heal you have to cut out the toxic people in your life. It's difficult, but worth it. I'm so happy being alone, there is noone hurting me daily. It's amazing!! I love life now. I no longer have depression, agoraphobia, and anxiety. My self esteem has skyrocketed.

@BuffaloBilly69

3 жыл бұрын

I am 4 years away from my toxic family Lexi. No going back now

@miriamhernandez3407

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations .i am still in the hole.

@iincineratee

3 жыл бұрын

Today I called out my parents for being toxic. I’m still dependent however. At least for another year. Any tips? Any guidance? Any advice? Pls, my heart aches but I can’t take them anymore.

@BuffaloBilly69

3 жыл бұрын

sirCase I tried everything and after 40 years I had to call it a day

@lexiemaep7930

3 жыл бұрын

@@iincineratee grayrock them. Don't respond when they are being toxic..

He's right, higher male status (in any community) leads to higher reproductive choices. Bad guys have a higher status in the hood than nice guys (sorry but true) so a young ex-con gang member has multiple girlfriends and baby-mamas, while a young smart nerd can't get a date in the hood, because his status is deemed low. But this changes over time. At thirty, the nerd is now has a high paying career, house, car, health and wealth, while the gang member is broke, uneducated and too old to compete against the young thugs. So now, the women in the hood are also thirty plus and would anything for a nerd to look at them, but it's too late for that, because they too can't compete with young successful women in the nerd's new community. Now, the older gang member and older woman are both resentful and spiteful, their only recourse is too spread misery to others and the next generation.

@AlphaEngineer2022

2 жыл бұрын

This makes sense tbf

@voltinator

2 жыл бұрын

Very true. Not to mention the fact that bad guys are respected because the cops will leave them alone and allow them to get away with their trouble.

@thesanfranciscoseahorse473

2 жыл бұрын

Isn't it relative? I live in "the hood" for my town, and it seems to go both ways. SOME women lean towards the seemingly confident wannabe gang members, but there are also women out here who seem to go for the "nerds". It seems to me there are generalities, but there are also often exceptions too. If your a "nerd" in the hood, your chances of finding a mate isn't hopeless. If you're a confident "powerful" thug, you might get more chances to sleep around but it becomes a quantity over quality then. Do you want 100 women who don't really love you? Or one woman who's crazy about you??

@sarahrobertson634

2 жыл бұрын

Ah, yes. Bitter nerds who fantasize about getting women. It's probably not going to happen, young nerdlet. But good luck out there.

@Bayo106

2 жыл бұрын

@@sarahrobertson634 Sarah you are projecting your insecurity and it stinks

You always have to consider social status with the occupation as well. He cited men, who are celebs as individuals, who slept with a lot of women. For instance, I know men who are local DJ's and night clubs, who are still living with their parents get more women than my other friends who work in the tech industry or are lawyers and can barely get a date. Overall. For women it's about social status not necessarily financial status

@artvandelay701

6 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Financial status when you're in a relationship, sure. Otherwise it's irrelevant. Cyndi Lauper could have told us that. I know guys that meet girls for the first time and start bragging about their apartment or their car, FFS they don't give a shit.

@megaskyburst

6 жыл бұрын

Totally correct. Women want useful men not just rich men. There is another JP video on this exact subject

@megaskyburst

6 жыл бұрын

I think it's a peer thing - women want to have social status with other women and they get that through their choice of partner

@RalphTGP

6 жыл бұрын

I think the lawyers and tech industry guys you mention may also be (unwittingly) intellectually arrogant towards women, because even well educated women often find some men condescending. Women are more interested in men who are compassionate and share their beliefs. Once they have financial security, their goals change and so the men they look for changes with the trajectory of their career. It is much easier to find a woman over 40, who looks after herself well and has a good income, than a 30 year old.

@hexadecimal5236

6 жыл бұрын

Bryan McLaughlin This is huge...

I could have really used this info back when I was twenty-one.

@SR-mv2mf

6 жыл бұрын

A. Soul Same.. well better late than never ..*sigh*..

@73gmiller

4 жыл бұрын

When the student is ready the teacher comes. Never before

@gang_starr1001

4 жыл бұрын

It's never too late

@Elung069

4 жыл бұрын

YES.

@theancestor3531

4 жыл бұрын

Im 21, what am i suppsed to do with this?

One of the most important people of our time. He will go down in the History books.

@jgalt308

6 жыл бұрын

as what????

@gertlanghoff624

6 жыл бұрын

As the one who turned the tide of feministic madness.

@tcmtech7515

6 жыл бұрын

and liberal hypocrisy and idiocy. and for having helped so many fix their lives. Just to add a few more obvious things that belong a very long list of thing he has done to make the world a better place.

@jgalt308

6 жыл бұрын

Somehow I still don't see a history book, and there is so little history left, he is essentially irrelevant....choir members excluded, of course.

@Jester123ish

6 жыл бұрын

Probably not but he is definitely the man for the moment.

I have been trying to end the cycle of giving everything & getting shit on for YEARS. Thank you so much for giving me a way out!!!!! You have no idea how ecstatic I am to now understand why this has been happening to me!!!!!

This video should be called "Why Everything Happens"

@sergeant_chris6209

2 жыл бұрын

Yes.

Since I realized how difficult life is for stubborn and idle people, I just wanted to make life a little easier with being gentle and generous ...little did I know...

@lonelygirltravels5961

3 жыл бұрын

I think you just defined socialism.

@mrzukunft

2 жыл бұрын

Both extremes are extreme. Find the equilibrium.

@boisejohnsonjr.5702

2 жыл бұрын

@@mrzukunft There exist no extreme for men atleast

@cataclyticgaming6803

2 жыл бұрын

@@boisejohnsonjr.5702 You have extremes to you bro. They might be completely unique, but you can't act like you don't got em. Maybe you just can't see them, or maybe, you've put work into yourself where you don't. :) either way, that's just my thoughts. Much love brotha

It is easier to be disagreeable when you have lot of resources.

@rockymckay1705

3 жыл бұрын

That’s a good point

@belladonna2104

3 жыл бұрын

That's very true

@dererste2870

2 жыл бұрын

Good thought.

I was both, extremely confrontational and assertive, to nice and friendly- then I had no friends and no one to help me in this life, now I have lots of friends and fun

Worth listening to twice to make sure you get it all. Wish I had this 30 years ago. Great lecture.

I was much too agreeable when I was a teenager. I didn't realize how bad of quality it was until I got to college and experienced manipulation from others. I'm 25 now and feel so much more confident in what I say and what I am willing to go along with. Age and experience play a massive part into why so many young women and men are so agreeable and slightly taken advantage of when they're younger. In a simple way, you have to experience the shit in order to learn from it and begin to grow as a well-rounded person with a backbone.

@maryt7959

3 жыл бұрын

The question is : since when this “manipulators” and manipulation GAME it is acceptable?!?! And why “people” that manipulate others think this is ok at all times ?!?! This only speaks to the manipulators characters..... they are the black sheep ..... and the true kind and compassionate people should be seen the most valuable PEOPLE!!!!

Imagine a society where all university professors were as wise and philosophical as JP. They wouldn’t have to agree on everything but if they were a little wiser and didn’t force their own opinions as gospel we’d have a much happier, intelligent and successful society

@sumboi2321

2 жыл бұрын

If only they actually prepared their students for adulthood instead of treating them like they’re tall children. Too many people leave uni without any proper exposure to the real world

Amazing how much value this lectures provide!!!

I am told I am too nice. People do reject me, stand me up, put me off or forget about me altogether unless they can benefit from something I can do for them. If I stand up for myself I am ostracized completely. I have become a hermit-tess.

@Elung069

4 жыл бұрын

I remember a quote.... You are born alone, live alone and die alone. The less contact I have with people the better I feel.

@roodborstkalf9664

4 жыл бұрын

As a general rule for a woman that is not good. I suppose you are older. Where I live older women keep themselves busy with charity work, hobbies, and social interactions. Can't you do that? For most of them what they give and receive is more or less balanced and many of them are happy. In general older men need far less interaction with other humans as their women.

@agro9999

3 жыл бұрын

Not a problem for a woman as much as a man when it comes to dating.

@Dennis19901

3 жыл бұрын

Make your life interesting, for yourself. So you have something interesting to do on your own. This translates into an interesting life that others can see and get behind. And don't get burned twice. If someone rejects you or stands you up, they better have a fucking good reason why they did so. And if they don't, they can fuck straight off.

@dannystephenson4197

3 жыл бұрын

Be who you want to be. If someone comes along, fine, if not that is fone to. You are a complete human with or without a partner, marriage. God is Love !!!! Love is the strongest of all things. !!!!!!

Genie from Aladdin says "I can't make anybody fall in love with anybody else". In other words, a person can't will another person into loving them no matter how hard they try.

@slazerlombardi

4 жыл бұрын

Unless you have burundanga

I can relate completely to this video. Trained from early childhood to please in order to avoid physical abuse and criticism, I felt very resentful for having to do what others demanded. I ended up with a rich, lazy, and useless man who I felt ashamed of. I'm ambitious and driven to be productive, but I feel as though my life has been wasted.

@rouen1111

3 жыл бұрын

give me money then.

@jessicariddell1976

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this too, but slightly differently. My ex grew up in an abusive home where he was taught to be always nice, compliant, and agreeable. He resented me and thought I was "mean" for claiming the freedom to say no, not take peoples' crap, or allow them to exploit me. He is now free to be the doormat he always wanted to be.

Watched a few of your videos, seeing an improvement in my life already.

Jordan B Peterson Knowledge - should be a school subject • WORLDWIDE •

@rommervillalba6983

6 жыл бұрын

alswords absolutely

@lillysnet9345

4 жыл бұрын

...and he talks about chaos. Can you imagine...Italy... CHAO...CHAO...CHAO left-right-up-and- down all day long...with a smile😊

@jesusweeps420x

4 жыл бұрын

I have been watching KZread videos since 2008 and this has to be the most stupid comment I have ever read. May god have mercy on your soul.

@erubin100

4 жыл бұрын

cultist

@F4c2a

4 жыл бұрын

Fuck no. I agree with Peterson on many things, but fuck these "social sciences." That's how we got "diversity training" and "gender studies." No, fuck all that. Only hardcore practical sciences in my school, thank you.

JBP you are a voice of reason and intelligence in crazy times, thank you ♥

When you’re too nice you show lack of competition, weakness and you can’t keep her safe.

@ZeusAgbaosi

4 жыл бұрын

My problem with the prospect of "safety" or comfort is that it implies that the world we live in doesn't have social contracts. My guess is that if there are any snakes in a relationship, they were there when you both met

@banderas2000

4 жыл бұрын

true. when your to nice it shows your scared of confrontation. if you bolt and leave her to defend her self she will be turned off lol

@pthebeast2

3 жыл бұрын

Tre' Roney Bro women are equals now. They can protect themselves.

@StarDust-yx1lj

3 жыл бұрын

@@pthebeast2 lol not really men and women can never be equal were just not programmed to. Coming from a women.

@singingstars5006

3 жыл бұрын

@@pthebeast2 We women cannot protect ourselves. That's nonsense.

There are GIVERS and TAKERS. I'm a giver and have been used for 68 years. I never learn, as I thought something would change. NOT

@Elung069

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. We are slow learners.

@TheHelghast1138

4 жыл бұрын

I'm 37. Took me a while, but one day I just snapped and decided to not be nice anymore and wow, it vastly improved my life.

@Vorosh22

4 жыл бұрын

Dont blame anyone but yourself

@sayven

3 жыл бұрын

yeah there exactly two types of people, nothing inbetween

@ChrisTian-lf2oh

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheHelghast1138 Totally agree. Took me like 30 years and today I'm not "nice" anymore. Being truthful, working hard and following your inner self instead of constantly listening to others was my way out.

Fascinating. Utterly fascinating. Thanks, Dr. Peterson!

The section starting at 9:52 on homicide, and revolution... explains so much, about much of the world.

@Julianaraiza

3 жыл бұрын

Natural gene pool control.

My friends that were elderly at church said be nice but not a door mat when I was a child decades ago. all rights reserved

I'm an agreeable person. This happens at my work were I don't speak up so I just end up miserable or resentful because I often feel used or alone. I really need to learn to speak up more. And I need to stop hating on myself too.

Wow.. You are an absolute genius Jordan.. I could totally relate to what you are saying

Love my weekly JP fix 💉😎💪💡 outstanding video! This video should be shown to everyone!

Very clever analysis

That's not really what agreeable people think. They think "I am playing by the rules, why aren't you?"

@averagebodybuilder

3 жыл бұрын

@Rishabh Rajbhar thank you very much

@mauro_djk6268

3 жыл бұрын

I agree, great comment..

@thereisnosanctuary6184

3 жыл бұрын

I liked your comment. I'm disagreeable because it's been unfairness across the board, I'm a pipsqueak, but by peoples reactions, I must be scary, something about my never back down 'tude.

@thereisnosanctuary6184

3 жыл бұрын

That's not bragging. I pay a price for always speaking my mind and not bending,

@Coeptis23

3 жыл бұрын

this comment is so underrated

Informative Truth 👍👌😌

I am agreeable. I am agreeable to my family to a point. For all others, and family members who are disagreeable or manipulative, I try to be aloof and remind myself that they are trouble.

“Extend the hand and when they go to grasp , pull ‘em in for the ‘headbutt !’ - Ghandi, Dehli, 1935

Thank you

I just stopped trying too hard, ergo I stopped caring too much. Life is inestimably better.

I have to fight the strong urge to be disagreeable and combative. I actually like being disagreeable. Playing sports and working out helps tremendously.

The title of this video had nothing to do with the content of what he said...

@kukalakana

4 жыл бұрын

Welcome to KZread. 😆

@mustafaziyaakgul3331

4 жыл бұрын

No

@Dennis19901

3 жыл бұрын

That's honestly the case for all of these JP videos. It's click-bait titles for desperate men

Another great lesson.

I have ADHD diagnosed in December 2020. I find negative emotions from other people difficult to respond to. I play the submissive try to please and change people's reactions to me. I know what I'm doing but haven't the ability to respond.

@MsBhappy

2 жыл бұрын

Learn your Meyers Briggs personality type and your love languages :)

"Why hyper concentrate one single thing?" I know that I am great at math and useless for just about anything else. I call it conditional value. A hammer only has value for hammering in nails. Outside of that activity, the hammer is extraneous. Understanding this, I started earning college credits at 15, enrolled in in-person college classes at 16, and taught my first college math class at 21. I can spend almost all my time teaching math above calculus, an activity I love and serves the single use I have. Or I can make time for things, that I usually don't want to do or don't understand where I am an extraneous unnecessary element.

@asap397

4 жыл бұрын

That’s amazing! However I’d say don’t be so sure you’re useless for just about anything else. It’s not like you were born good at math, you had to learn it yourself at one point. The same goes for anything else. If you want to be good/useful at something, then all it takes is the time to be good/useful at it. I mean that’s fine if you don’t want to be good at anything else, but using the fact that you’re not currently good at it so you’re not gonna try to get good at it doesn’t really make sense because if that’s how you viewed math earlier in your life you never would’ve made it this far

@brendadeatherage4543

3 жыл бұрын

Hammers can break rocks, pull out nails, dig holes, open like a crowbar...

@sidharthghoshal

3 жыл бұрын

Aw man you can't imagine how much I relate to this! I am the same way, as in I too hyperfocused on math (when i was around 14-15) iand haven't been able to leave it since. I do feel pretty useless sometimes outside of it, and the grind of trying to get good at non mathematical activities has been more challenging for me than my peers. Btw if your interested in connecting heres my identity online: math.stackexchange math.stackexchange.com/users/58294/frogeyedpeas, and I have some friends who you might enjoy the company of (at least they will be able to share in your experience). Feel free to reach out to sid [dot] ghoshal [at] yahoo.com. To identify yourself please include the following hash, so i can separate you from spam: 6626632648

@roelinamackintosh5376

2 жыл бұрын

You can do other activities that you like without being great at it.

Everyone who expects too much from people, will easily get disappointed later. What I learned from this video is that just because we do good for others, it doesn't necessarily mean it will be reciprocated.

9:03 You're thinking about Wilt Chamberlain. Kareem was a converted Muslim and a self described introvert. Very intelligent brother.

Too agreeable! So much info and yet everybody is lonely or alone! The idea everyone is in charge is wrong! You will end up alone!

I think we can say that this is definitely happening in society more and more. Just take a look at London now. The violence just doesn't seem to be reducing at all.

I so wish I could be a student of his!

Love this

I do listen as well there a lot of praphertion of the fact in your lecture. I like your fephence over our history. Ever through of people who want indorse pudlicly is that you're showing them up. I think you're great

I've learned through observation and personal experience that the difference between being nice and too nice to women can produce drastically different results yet require very few and subtle differences to execute.

@digitalninja85

3 жыл бұрын

@@Landstalker1999 i think you are absolutely right. It creates a self appointed challenge for them. Its just unfortunate that many women pass up genuinely nice guys that would treat them like queens due to this instinctual game that does not provide for an attractive quality in those men.

@gabrielmarques9004

3 жыл бұрын

@@Landstalker1999 hey bro this is really interesting! So you as a gay man, show no interesting whatsoever in the girl, and she can feel it and stuff, so you obviously don't look desperate or needy, you look abundant! And then by being nice, you're making her feel attracted to you!

How to be more desirable: 1) Be useful 2) Prioritize health

@micheal.s6726

3 жыл бұрын

Useful = Being a Doormat?

@bobharris5093

3 жыл бұрын

Simp. Prioritize money and ull shower with pussy

@delakidzz8131

3 жыл бұрын

@@micheal.s6726 it means being useful in a way that benefits yourself but it should also cause a chain reaction of opportunity for others. If you understand what that means

So interesting

Holy shit this was a good talk. So mind-opening. Really love it.

After watching Dr. Peterson, I took his know yourself assessment and I’ve learned things about myself I want to improve on.

Towards the end there, he pretty much summed up the theme of Fight Club

12:42 We have reached that point 😊

Finding the balance was nearly impossible for me. When I was a kid I was too agreeable - subjected to bullying. In my teens I was extremely disagreeable and very violent - I would find too much trouble and would eventually end up in prison or dead if I continued. Now I'm 25 and I have no idea where I am. I'm studying to become a prosecutor which needs for me to have an absolutely crystal clear criminal past (which I have so far). Unfortunately I cannot find a way to deal with as*holes and teach people that I'm not a joke to be pushed around lightly in a non-violent way. If anyone has been in a similar situation, I would very much like to hear your experience.

@AdlerMow

6 ай бұрын

I wish good luck on your path! I was very agreeable up to early 20s. Now at 31, I discovered that when most people say "I'm joking" they are mostly testing you. First, develop acute awareness of this, and mentally divide people into categories. Some rare people can be really good, and suffer from it. Most of people that look to good to be true, are indeed wearing a mask. Some of the "F off" people, are weary of abuse and just want to be left alone, but can sometimes become good friends. There is stupid people that think they are smart, and coward braggards and boasters, and many falsely friendly people. There is trully evil and cunning people, they will always be like that and simply say they changed just to take advantage on others. But most people (80%) aren't intrinsically good or bad, they become what opportunity, chance and influence make them (like a herd). They will take advantage given opportunity and so some immoral things when nobody is around. But they despise things like sexual assault, mistreating elders, beating wives, spanking children or torturing animals. They are not heartless, but tend to stole and do petty abuse if given opportunity. The thing they value most is their well being and of those of their close circle, meaning close family and friends. They are avengeful and they hate, after the trully evil things I mentioned earlier, breaking their trust and bond (cheating and treason within their close circle). They can be good alies if you know their limitations and earn their respect. On earning respect. Develop acute awareness of subtle things people do or say around you, their attitudes about you, others and how they react when good or bad things happen to them. Do they have compassion, are they able to restraint themselves to not do stupid things out of emotion. How able are they to act on their own, to be serious when needed, to keep their word, to be true to an objective? By observing this things you get to know them and also improve yourself on those things. That's half about how to earn respect. The other half is how to react to "jokes" and petty abuse. First, let nothing pass unobserved. They must be aware that you are always alert and is cunning and not afraid to act. That you have not fear and will act even if you do, in the heat of the moment or afterwards. There will aways be consequences. Now, that's not to say you need to act like a psycho, plan an evil vengeance or explode on anything. All you need to demonstrate is that you are always aware, never let your guard entirely down, that trust and friendship must be earned and kept, and that you will stand up and out against abuse. Practical exemples on how to react. If they "joke" on you, joke on them back. If it's a bit more serious "joke" say something on the lines "you are sassy, hugh?". They will respond "I'm joking!" you retort "I don't enjoy this kind of joke!", they will whine a bit but let you alone. You can say some half joking, half serious things if they keep abusing, like being serious a bit them back off just a bit. They will fear to step on you. Have real humor too, not be easily offended and joke back, if you do not feel heavy malice into something. Be brave and speak your mind sometimes, but only if needed. Only say things you can act on and always keep your word. Keep a healthy distance from 95% of people. Value and respect privacy. Do not spread rumors and gossip. Always strive for a goal to keep you focused and sane. And take life seriously enough, but not overly so not to degrade your sanity. You will eventually develop identity, style and drive. It's your own path, it will be different from others, it's okay. Good luck!

Easy. If out of nowhere someone is creepily nice to you, they wants something.

Though I'm sure Kareem had no shortage of options when it came to sex, the player with five-digit notoriety was Wilt Chamberlain.

It's safe to say that this is the one video that I'll need for the rest of my life

I agree 100%

Successful team sport players, men or women, are very agreeable when working within their team. Similar effects in war where soldiers "have each others back". Hence I believe that people that have the ability of intelligence to choose to be agreeable or to be disagreeable are more successful.

I used to be " nice" and got rejected, now im not so nice and still get rejected by women. Happy I'm nice enough that the cat doesn't run away.

@Snooopy28

3 жыл бұрын

Dude, sameXD Yewah, but being selfish isnt that bad either, at least I dont have to tolerate shit anymore

@basicbase749

3 жыл бұрын

Being nice and being a good person are two different thing, maybe you need to learn that.lol.."nice" is just a sugar coat. Good person means a person with good intentions.

@GouramiNatural

3 жыл бұрын

@@basicbase749 exactly. All people like good people. It shows that you can interact with others. But being to nice is just bad.

@alexanderbardarbog8475

3 жыл бұрын

@@GouramiNatural Not ALL people like good people, at least not all the time... Sometimes, being "good" (doing the RIGHT thing) is the exact opposite of what is "expected" and "nice". In some situations it's quite inconvenient to be "good" and do the right thing, as many people (sometimes even most) don't appreciate it or want to hear it. Like, for example, telling the truth to your buddy (when asked of course) what you think about his/her abusive partner etc... not a great example perhaps, but you get the point. not ALL want to hear the truth, even if/when it's unquestionably the truth.

@cookie-sn5ex

3 жыл бұрын

Lololll

In the past year living in Japan. I have come to realize that being nice as well as being competent attracts people to you. If you just live life and take care of what needs to be taken care of and also have a bit of care left over for the people around you people like being around you. The trade off is you can’t be naive. Be aware that some people will try to manipulate you. However, if you are wise you will see through them.

Well said.

@carliellie

4 жыл бұрын

N

Wilt Chamberlain not Kareem

@megaskyburst

6 жыл бұрын

Ice1050 well spotted bro. You're on the ball

@edwinthomasr

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah Kareem Abdul Jabbar is not sleezy at all. It was Wilt the Stilt

@TheBanderson22

4 жыл бұрын

Magic Johnson.

@brookswoodward7278

4 жыл бұрын

Poor Jabaar if he ever watches this he’s gonna be upset... “Hey!!!”

@snoopydoopy1897

4 жыл бұрын

Did wilt give Magic aids?

I believe, from experience, that "being nice" can and most likely will make you feel happy and respected. It depends on WHO you are dealing with, there is no one rule fit all.

@pierre220199

2 жыл бұрын

First comment i realy agree with

@user-rb3tk5th2i

Жыл бұрын

@Denise Redman i mean the fact that you were even placed in a situation where you had to agree or disagree with something that you clearly disagree, it shows pretty obviously that you got married for the wrong reasons and that your partner did not understand you at all or even hated you, being in these situations means that there were wrong foundations in the first place

Lol "and that is pretty much that! " I love it 😂🤣

real talk

Jordan’s one of the smartest and best speakers of this generation

@krisztinakessel6869

4 жыл бұрын

Red Reigns he yells all the time. Im interested in what he says, but i think he’s a bad speaker.

@raycarden7941

4 жыл бұрын

@@krisztinakessel6869 because there is an audience in front of him and he doesn't have a microfone.

Women were attracted to useful men before the welfare state. The welfare state has greatly reduced the need and desire for productive men because their resources are taken from them by the state and given to women.

@fabiofanucci

4 жыл бұрын

Welfare state is nowadays shrinking in western countries. In addition, I think the selection mechanism based on men productivity and skills has always ruled mating. However, it's true that selectivity is nowadays harsher, because current western economies tend to marginalize a bigger portion of men (through a more competitive job market), raising income and wealth inequality. It's probable that women perceive the importance of finding a skillful and productive man more today than in the past.

@tagert1975

4 жыл бұрын

@@fabiofanucci the welfare state grows every day with more programs and many existing programs growing and more people are imported that become users of it. It's not shrinking. Marginalize through a competitive job market? It's always been competitive. Financialization has made prudence look stupid. The productive are taxed to death. Women can marry the state now. They don't have to put up with that not so good looking, boring productive man any more. So a great many don't. But there are countless women who need their homes and cars fixed for free looking for some sap with skills to do it. She'll pretend like she's interested in him and the sap will do the work. Then she'll smile at him and go out with the exciting guy.

brilliant

I needed to watch this. can someone link me more videos about how to be less agreeable? thank you

I've always thought of civilized society as a way to overcome challenges that make survival less likely, or impossible, providing infrastructure that feeds, heals, medicates, and protects the masses. However, after hearing this talk I'm coming a way with that even today survival of the fittest still prevails even today, and still applies to each and every one of us because if you don't contribute by working you don't get to earn the resources you need to survive, remain in society, or at least parts of society.

@007gunlogo

9 ай бұрын

Yep, it's always been survival of the fittest. This is why so many people strive to get into the best colleges, associate with people of power, do favors for the "right" people, etc. It's all about getting ahead in the world.

12:40 Look what happened to Seattle... that is just how they felt it over there, and they "flipped" the board over

@UpNorthOutWest

2 жыл бұрын

You referring to the homeless?

Agreeable.

I like the Video! How can I find the whole lecture ?

1:29 You're too agreeable, Cold blooded agression

"I do so much for other people and they do so little for me" -boy, I've been repeating this to myself for ages. Yes I do try to be the best I can, agreable, help people out, and YES, I often see myself not being able to stand my ground in an argument, a discussion, anything of inportance to me that I just end up unfurling the white flag. Yes, thats me in a nutshell. The worst thing is: I dont know if I can ever stop being this way!!! Man am I feeling depressed right now😞

Ugh. My daughter is always agreeing and she just does. And sometimes I want her to say no she doesnt want to or protest some. I worry she may become taken advantage of.

I have high compassion but im not agreeable. It's the best combination for. I care for others but don't tolerate bad treatment and I don't go along to get along.

So male aggression goes up as (partner) competition goes up. Would explain a lot about the negative implications of Feminism and why homosexuality is going up.

12:36 I love how JBP talks so fast even he himself has to take a moment to catch up with what he's saying. LOL

@oddixgames6704

2 жыл бұрын

nope, his logical construct was too twisted, so he reiterated ont it in his mind to say the correct conclusion. That's a darn high level of self-consciousness.

Danke

first useful thing I have heard him say

One problem with trying to fix this is that people are used to you as you are. So when you tell people you can't/wont give in to their wishes people judge you very harshly for it because it's unexpected.

@ArsenalsJack1992

3 жыл бұрын

You have to start somewhere though

@007gunlogo

9 ай бұрын

You sometimes have to find a new set of friends that don't want to judge you and hold you back on your self improvement goals.

happy valentines day J Man! lol

Yup.

Amazing