Dr. You said everything 100% right 👍 God bless you. There is no advantage in joint family.. agr koi faida hota tw ye system Islam mein zrur hota.

You are next level ap ki bat dil py lagti ha

2 words definition of joint family system '' dard e sar''

اَللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا وَمَوْلَانَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَّ عَلَى وَآلِه وَصَحْبِه مُحَمَّدٍوَبَارِکْ وَسَلِّمْ😘

@farharashid2684

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Asslamo aliakum sir mene ap se baat karni hai plz sir kese kar sakti hon

@ahmedxop5461

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@@farharashid2684 number save karluuu meraaa

@cosmeticia.

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محمد صلى الله عليه واله وسلم

I am totally agree with you dr sahab..ager ye bat sbko samjh a jay tu bht sary ghar tabah hony sy bach jaen aur larkiyan jo depression k sath zindagi guzar rahi hain wo sakoon k sath reh saken...I hope people get msg from this video and change their attitude towards this system JazakAllah khair 💕

@Asifassociates

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آج کل اکثر مسائل جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم کیوجہ سے بھی ہے۔ طلاق کی شرح بہت بڑھ گئی ہے۔ خواتین کے بہت سے گھریلو مسائل بڑھ رہے ہیں ۔ اللہ کرے ہمیں ایک دوسرے کے حقوق سمجھتے ہوئے اسلام کے مطابق عمل پیرا ہونے کی سمجھ آجائے۔

@amnamalik8098

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@@Asifassociatesbilkul sahi bat hai

Very well said. Today we need these kind of more talks on everyday problems.

ماشاءاللہ بہت خوب مقبول اللہ تعالیٰ آپ کو کامیاب کرے آمین ثم آمین

Exactly you are 💯 percent Right but hamari society k logo ke soch kon badly agr alag rehny ke demand kry to usy boot bura smjha jata hai k esny hamary betay ko cheen lia hai

@ahassan8820

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Bura nhe samjhty. Magar ye bte zaroor hy if husband is earning good he should settle in separate house. Bt if man can't afford it then pay rent. Bcz why should parents be always bearing the cost of living of their son n his family. At least they should have some peace of mind while they are alive after having hard working life.

Bht khoob...let's spread the happiness. And focus to build strong generation.

Dr. Saheb though your profession is as health provider..but u have given beautiful advice for adult & to be married men ..best solution for happy life after marriage..

Ma'Sha'Allah bht achi bt ke Allah sb kay demag may ye bt dale khas toor pay mery fmly kay😪

ماشاءاللہ ڈاکٹر صاحب آپ نے بہت آسان زبان میں سمجھایا ہے

Assalamualikum Professor Dr.Javed Iqbal , I just saw a short video clips of you and I am inspire , There are a lot to learn from every single topic ! I am from Bangladesh! And I love watching your videos ! May Allah bless you Amen

behtareen or sair hasil tajziya.

Well said Sir g ..... MashAllah may Allah bless you and your family Ameen

ماشاءاللہ الله ہمیں اس معاملے کو سمجھنے کی توفیق عطا فرمائے ۔

Dr sahab mein pakhtoon family se belong karti hu..meri life joint family mein aik qaidi ki tarah rehti hu...mein apny he ghar mein aisa rehti hu jaisy paraiy ghar mein.. kiyun k sas intehai dominant hai..life k khushgawar moments stress mein dar mein khof mein guzar gaiy..aur is ka asar mery bacho par paray ga in future..kiyu k jab ma mentally healthy na hogi to wo apny bacho ko kiya mentally strong bana saky gi...mard ko joined family se problem nhi hoti kiyu k wo jab tak feel na karega k meri bivi ka aur mery bacho ka nuksan horaha hai physically mentally both tab tak usko koi issue nhi..aur yahi soch mard ki nhi banti

@ahmadabdullah127

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G bilkul aik qaidi trha hoti ha Zindagi joint family Kuch kar hi na Sako apni Khushi ka liye na apny liye time

Masha allah,,,

Allah aap ko sahat or lambi umaar dey ameen

اللہ کا شکر گزار ہوں اللہ تعالی اللہ اللہ سمجھ دے آمین ثم آمین عبدالرحیم مسجد الحشر اورنگ آباد دعاگو

Thank you sir♥️

have a happy and healthy life

Sir thank you so much for sharing your thoughts 😊

Very thoughtful.. we are so confused between culture and religion

Totally agree with u sir! There’s no privacy in joint family system ,too much interference in everything makes privacy inpossible

Very well said the one who is more manipulative will take much importance,,I actually experienced it.

No doubt ❤️✨

Exactly sir .I agree with u...and some time Jo responsibilities hoty Hain UN sa bhi doar hojaya hain.....or bohat si problems bhi face Karna party hain

Sir app meri jan ho.....love you so much and will meet you in future. Allah app ko lambi aur healthy life dei......mera proud....❤❤

Great SIR

آج کل اکثر مسائل جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم کیوجہ سے بھی ہے۔ طلاق کی شرح بہت بڑھ گئی ہے۔ خواتین کی وجہ سے بہت سے گھریلو مسائل بڑھ رہے ہیں ۔

Great man

Ehtehsaly nizaam.

سر زبردست 👍💗

jazakallah

🙏🙏you said it perfectly Phaji

Good❤

People who themselves or their daughters have enjoyed separate house lives always advocate for joint family setup. Its worst one. You get lost in so many relationships that you do not get quality time for your kids. Separate rehnai ka matlab aik dosry ki zindagi sai alag hona nahi hota. Aap thoray distance pai reh k bhe qareeb ho saktay hain agr rishta nibhana aata ho.

Hr bar joint family system accha nahe hota agr family hd se badh jae to jeena muhal hojata hy

Very nice

Sir aur yahan jo shadi k bad seprate ho jate hen unki wives ko khub sun'ni parti hen k le k alag hogai beta le gai etc..

لا اله الا الله

Joint family system is the worst thing. Especially if the man sends back remittance to HIS YOUNGER BROTHER, not his wife! And now not only is the brother in law the "malik" of the house, controlling ALL family expenses, even intimate wear of his older brothers wife and neices, but now with him bringing his wife in the house, there is a mashallah "Raja" and "Rani" in the house who acts as gods.

@thebigshift

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Wife ki amount alag bhaijni chaheay

@awwwwan

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I can feel your pain I also face this issue in my childhood my father put everything in my uncle hand and he treat us like slave and use all my father's money on his wife and kids. galati ap k husband ki hai jis ne sub kuch apne bhai k hath mein diya howa aik time aya ga jb unko is baat ka ehsas ho ga k unhon apni olad or bivi k sath kya galat kiya hai lekin tab kafi dair ho chuki ho gyi.

@nehalfatima7194

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Same I'm facing this hurdles

dr. sahab zada tar buzurg us stage p hotay hain k mazeed un ko kuch nahi samghaya ja sakta,balkay unki counseling ki koshish ki jae privacy or positivity kay hawalay se tu wo mind kar jatay hain. unko kese pyar muhabat se samghaya jae kay wo mind bhi na karain or samagh bhi jain baat.

Very true

Well Said dr sab

live long

Please Phaji more video’s on adult children parenting

Absolutely right isi wajah sa gher ka Mahol kharab hota

👍💯

love you sir

Sir you r right

Waiting for next video if we live in joint family how to saty positive

😍😍😍

❤

💯🙏Phaji

💯👍

👍

Nice send

Bilkul sahi. Jo family may tugra hota hay wo apnay parents ko manipulate karna janta hay aur jo muslahat pasand ho wo pista hay ghar may sukoon qaim rukhnay lay liyay.. 👍🏻

Good

Waaa

Parda sabse bara issue hai joint family system main

Agar saas bahu ki bunti na ho aur vo iklota beta hy aur vo ma baap se alag bhi nhi hosakta to vo kya karey.

@IffiBilal

5 ай бұрын

Maan se alg q hna aik portn alg kr lein whan apni wife ko rhky ya blkl Sath ghr ly maan se b Milty rahen unki sb needs ka khiyal rkhen .wife ko b independent kren .

Sir bht acha samjhany j Andaz apk .lakin Mera khyal yai hai k male ko samjhany ki zarort k haqooaq or responsibilities kis ki or kia han plz is topic or mazeed video bnain

🙏🙏 Doctor Sahab. The way you communicate is second to none. The solutions you provide to various domestic issues are very much practicable and relatable. We would love to hear you more on such issues i.e Saas-Bahu, Nanad-Bahu and plethora of quite unexpected trivial issues that open up on arrival of a Nai-Naveli dulhan after marriage. A lot of information is available, especially for girls regarding how they should deal with the mesh just after marriage; but it seems that it hardly works. I request you 🙏🙏 kindly through some light for boys also i.e 1) What should be the role of a boy to ensure the harmonious relationship between his mother and wife (Saas-Bahu)? 2) Whose side(if need be) should be taken by boy i.e his mother or wife? 3)In case of severe bitterness among family members, how to ensure the look after of parents in old age? 4) And last but not least, what mechanism should be adopted to prevent the repercussions of bad environment in house on young kids? May God bless you with better health (so that we may continue to be benefitted with your wisdom😆😆)

@hkhan4975

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1. They will never have good relationship whatever you do if living in a same house. If living independently is not possible then the best solution is to give them the due respect, take care of both and stop glorifying mother. 2. This is where problem starts when boy takes a side of mother or wife. He should remain neutral and react based on the facts. 3. This is the problem of eastern culture where parents expects that their children will take care of them in old age. In fact they should plan for the old age and not spend everything on children and keep whatever they can for the retirement/old age. This is biggest problem in a joint family system because parents do not want to lose their children as they need them in old age. Even if they are unable to save for themselves they should let their son to live independently after marriage. This will ensure good relationship between them and their sons family. 4. You cannot avoid effects of a bad environment in a joint family. Obviously children are listening everything happening between Saas and Bahu. The only solution is to live independently because usually in this situation young kids starts hating their grand parents.

@nasmanzoor

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@@hkhan4975 Very well said. All should live separately within close proximity and the same fighting between sas bahu will turn into best friends. Just look at our Holy Prophet PBUH. He was very very poor yet he had all his wives living separately and no kichri system. Always take the side of truth and be respectful and loving towards both parties. Inshallah Khair.

Islam is the solution

Sir now a day 6 families living in one house. Main problem is over papulation please talk about family planning..

Sir 3 saal shadi honay k baad ye baat samjh ae. Ye baatain kyun hmay koi nae btata?

Sir agar husband nahi maanthe hi alag jaanekeliye aur wife ko ek separate room tak nahi aur wife and husband baat karnekeliye bhi koi privacy nahi hi tho kya karna chahiye(shaadi me 13 saal yese bitaane ke baad bhi kya alag jaaneke liye poochna galat hi)

I am living in joint family and it is very good

Hamaray muaashray m jitna bazurgo ko importance di jati ha,wahi gher k nizaam ko apnay MATLAB air khudgharzi m chalatay ha.air unhe koi ni samjha sakta.jiski jaib m paisa bazurg bhi usi k.aaj kal ki jawan nasal s zaida puranay bazurgo ko Islam ki taleemat ka dars milna chahiae,ta k WO gher k nizaam ko thiq rakhe. Gher ka nizaam thiq to muashraa thiq....

@saadiaasif8143

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So true! Ppl in 60s n 70s have given nothing to Pakistan and destroyed basic unit of home by poluting it with indian culture.

@SonaDija7269

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Blkl sahi BAAT Kahi apne

AoA sir mjh lack of attention ka problem hae . More than 20 years say koi bhi kam karta houn too brain mein Edhar idhar ki sochain chalti reheating hain es ka solution bata dain , mein ny aik jaga focus karny ki bhot try ki but nahi kar peaa

Yaani shaadi ka liye chotti family ma rishta hona zaroori ha 😀😃😄😁😁

@qasamakram6299

4 ай бұрын

G bht zruri hai ajkl family choti ho

Aisa ho Jaaye to kabhi koi maslaa hi NAA ho Sar Jo Badaa hotaa hai bs woh power main hotaa hai

Bilkol sahe kaha jo joint family may tagra hota hy sab kuch uska hota hy ir ziada bahoen hon to ghar tabah hojata hy or khas tor per chotee bahoo ki na koe value hotee hy or ba koe haq

@malikasifawan8972

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Bilkul sai kaha

Weeping bittterly coz joint family ki wja sy apny bachy ki trbiat nhi kr pa ri jesy krni chahey aik maan ko

ہم سے قتیبہ نے بیان کیا، کہا ہم سے سفیان بن عیینہ نے بیان کیا، کہا ہم کو عمرو بن دینار نے خبر دی اور ان سے جابر بن عبداللہ انصاری رضی اللہ عنہما نے بیان کیا کہ رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے مجھ سے دریافت فرمایا ”جابر! کیا نکاح کر لیا؟“ میں نے عرض کیا، جی ہاں۔ نبی کریم صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا ”کنواری سے یا بیوہ سے؟“ میں نے عرض کیا کہ بیوہ سے۔ آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا ”کسی کنواری لڑکی سے کیوں نہ کیا؟ جو تمہارے ساتھ کھیلا کرتی۔“ میں نے عرض کیا: یا رسول اللہ! میرے والد احد کی لڑائی میں شہید ہو گئے۔ نو لڑکیاں چھوڑیں۔ پس میری نو بہنیں موجود ہیں۔ اسی لیے میں نے مناسب نہیں خیال کیا کہ انہیں جیسی نا تجربہ کار لڑکی ان کے پاس لا کر بٹھا دوں، بلکہ ایک ایسی عورت لاؤں جو ان کی دیکھ بھال کر سکے اور ان کی صفائی و ستھرائی کا خیال رکھے۔ آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا کہ تم نےبہت اچھا کیا۔Sahih Bukhari 4052

Assalaam o alaikum..javed sir me apki vedios bhut ghaur se sunta dekhta hun aap bhut zabardast motivator hn apke bolne aur smjhane ka andaaz zabardast h...aur Privacy no doubt zaroori h...agar ghar bada h to joint family system best h in compare to single family system..for eg agar koi bhi emergency ajaye to bachho aur ladies ko ap safely chodh kr ja skte hn wo bhi kai din k liye..2.har achhey burey me apke sagey sambandhi apke k kam az kam paas hn...haan ek jagaah rahein lekin after marriage room kitchen etc cheezon ko separate kr lein...single family system k apne kuch benefits hn agar koi majboori ya bhaiyyo beheno me dil nh milte tb behtar h alag hi rhe...thanks

@waytoguidance

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Nuqsan zyada hain benefits se

@fahadyasin3102

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@@waytoguidance but agar ek maa baap aur unke kai bachhey jo alag alag rehte hn aur maa baap bhut budhey hn tb.....america jaise advance country me bhut se log apne maa baap ko old age house me chodh jatey hn takey wo zimmedari se bach sakey...😔

Assalamualaikum sir agr ak hi beta ho sath me saas susar or nand b ho phr kya kren

Sb se ziyada responsibility mother in law ki hoti he k wo apni baho ko accept kre usko space de or ye realise kre k uska beta ab kisi ka husband bhi he or usne apni bv ka bhi khiyal rakhna he kion k saas to apna waqt guzar chuki hoti he chahe jesa bhi guzra lekin ab apni baho ki khawhisho ka khiyal kre or apni betion ko bhi smjhae k bhabhi ki tassel me na rhe . Kion k bechari nai larki ik nae logo me akr adjust hone me time lgta he agr saaas sahib thora khiyal kr len to baho bhi realise kr legi k haan meri saas mere sath sahi hen wrna krwahat sari zindagi reh jati he .

Assalamualaikum

bittier truth😌

@4:45

Bal koiu gerta ha jisam sa sar sa waja is par video plz

Joint family system intehai majboori main hi theek hota hai,,,,bachay hotay hain ,,unki privacy bhi lazim ho jati hai ,,,,,nahi tau kafi masail ka samna kerna peeta hai,,,,,,bohray parents ki zimmaydari tau aulad ka farz hai

2:15

گر تو برا نہ مانے ڈاکٹر صیب KPK کا نیا نام خیبر پختون خوا ہے.

Asalmoalukm dr sahb kul me ne ap ko hashmi gardon k bhr gat par walk krty howy dikha isi blue suit mein my mother is also living there me janna chty hun ap bhwalpor sy hin ?????

Well we are a part of Indian culture actually . So there should not be any identity crisis in this regard (atleast for Punjab and Sindh). Also there is no such thing as one Indian culture. Moreover even Indian Hindus have a very strict family system and they are not even allowed to marry their cousins. Most Hindus dont live in joint family system. So we are not even following the Indian culture. Marrying cousins and building a joint family system is more like a local thing to the regions of Pakistan rather to India..

What 8s meant by urban culture tehzeeb wsla or tamadun wala.mutlab baqi soobon ka culture dehat ka he.inhi soobon k log milker urban population bunate hen.

Mere sar mein b boht dard hota hai or chakr aty hain main Kya karun muje Kuch samjh ni aa Raha

Joint system mean headache

Ager sath rhna majbory h vesail nhy h too saber or bardasht honey Chahiye

@amnakhan9443

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Shadi hi nhi kre phr apne ghar walon ko dekhe, ksi larki ko lakar pareshan nhi kre🙏

@twobits7310

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@@amnakhan9443 matlab agar banda band mei bankrupt o jaye to to divorced le lo?.. Zindagi serf vasail ka naam nai. Yeh materialistic soch hai. Rishte ache aur bure waqto mei sath sabar aur bardasht se rehne ka nam hai.

Doctor sahib. Hamari society corrupt ho chuki hai. Aur joint family system khatam hota ja raha. Hum is system ko tootnay say nahi rok saktay.

Laikin Sir, ghareeb log Kahan jaey.

The most beautiful Hadith I read in Sahih Muslim سفیان نے ہمیں عمرو سے حدیث بیان کی ، انہوں نے حضرت جابر بن عبداللہ رضی اللہ عنہ سے روایت کیانہوں نے حضرت جابر بن عبداللہ رضی اللہ عنہ سے روایت کی کہ ( میرے والد ) عبداللہ رضی اللہ عنہ نے وفات پائی اور پیچھے نو بیٹیاں ۔ ۔ یا کہا : سات بیٹیاں ۔ ۔ چھوڑیں تو میں نے ایک ثیبہ ( دوہاجو ) عورت سے نکاح کر لیا ۔ رسول اللہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے مجھ سے پوچھا : "" جابر! نکاح کر لیا ہے؟ "" میں نے عرض کی : جی ہاں ۔ آپ نے پوچھا : "" کنواری ہے یا بیوہ؟ "" میں نے عرض کی : اللہ کے رسول! بیوہ ہے ۔ آپ نے فرمایا : "" کنواری کیوں نہیں ، تم اس سے دل لگی کرتے ، وہ تم سے دل لگی کرتی ۔ ۔ یا فرمایا : تم اس کے ساتھ ہنستے کھیلتے ، وہ تمہارے ساتھ ہنستی کھیلتی ۔ ۔ "" میں نے آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم سے عرض کی : ( میرے والد ) عبداللہ رضی اللہ عنہ نے وفات پائی اور پیچھے نو ۔ ۔ یا سات ۔ ۔ بیٹیاں چھوڑیں ، پس میری چھوٹی بہنیں موجود ہیں تو میں نے اچھا نہ سمجھا کہ میں ان کے پاس انہی جیسی ( کم عمر ) لے آؤں ۔ میں نے چاہا کہ ایسی عورت لاؤں جو ان کی نگہداشت کرے ان کی کنگھی کرے اور ان کی اصلاح کرے ۔ آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا : "" اللہ تمہیں بہت برکت دے" تم نے بالکل ٹھیک کیا ۔ !اور آپ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے میرے لیےبہت زیادہ خیر اور بھلائی کی دعائیں فرمائی ۔Sahih Muslim 3639

Sr alag reh kr bhi hukam unhi ka chalta hy . Or agr kahi jao to bhi bivi ky khilaf sab

Joint family system is a CURSE. 1. Everyone is judgemental and takes notice of everything you do. 2. Making issues out of small things. 3. Saas is the queen of the house and bahus are servants. 4. Husbands are always sitting with moms and not giving time to wives. 5. Too much gossip and politics 6. Joint family should be banned

@hirakhanqamarkhan8073

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Strongly agreed 👍

@muhammadessa1819

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G you are right

@Rabia_Burak

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Absolutely agree

@muhammadazlan705

11 ай бұрын

Banned nai seedha seedha jail bhajo😂

And what about parents.. UN Ka Kia bny ga