I couldn’t tell you one Jonas brothers song if my life depended on it.

@KatieLHall-fy1hw

11 ай бұрын

I got you, I can help 😆 my sister is a huge fan and I have seen a concert (they throw a great concert)

@doctorajaguar

11 ай бұрын

Hahaha x2

@sidneyhues1585

11 ай бұрын

The only thing I remember from their music is the year 3000 song 🤣

@abbybrown3068

11 ай бұрын

WHAT

@vixwza8553

7 ай бұрын

That annoying song I'm a sucker for you

Thoughts on marriage and motherhood is drastically based on the man you’re with. I’ve both despised having children and have gone to longing for children to having one based on where my marriage was. It wasn’t the children that was the issue it was where my marriage was. Eva mendes didn’t want children at all until she met gosling. How you’re treated affects your future

@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend

11 ай бұрын

I STRONGLY disagree. STRONGLY. I know a few women who claim their desire for kids is tied to the nature of their relationship. It can be, but it SHOULD NOT be. You either want to have kids or you don't. A man shouldn't change how YOU feel about YOUR calling in life. Ever. Just like men don't dictate our career or travel plans. Kids are the biggest decision you can ever make. If you don't want them enough to specifically seek out a partner who makes it accessible, you don't want it enough. There are enough kids in foster care for people to half-ass try on a white pickey fence because John, Dick or Tom wanted it and why not.

@MiraclesandMessages333

11 ай бұрын

But a lot of people agreed with her.. soo who cares if you STRONGLY disagree 😂.. all that text just to say you have a different opinion smh 🤦🏾‍♀️, and it may not even be the better one

@sabrinabee9217

11 ай бұрын

@@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend men dictate everything. They’re your partner. I played sports my entire life, you don’t make decisions if your team sucks. I have always desired.l children my entire life but when your marriage isn’t going great, what would be the most irresponsible thing, to have children at that time. If you’re not married you may not understand but it’s all in the timing. I don’t love a life of what I want and my feelings and me me me me. We made a commitment to eachother and I’m happy we made the decisions we did because now our child will have the best parents, not just because I decided. This society needs to stop acting like women rule everything we don’t, men are HALF of relationships and pro creating.

@bigwhy6845

11 ай бұрын

@@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend I would wager there's even more kids in foster homes because people didn't have kids in good situations. Stubbornly wanting kids, whether or not you have a good partner, isn't thinking about what's best for the kids. Kids need planning. A partner should absolutely be part of that planning. It's delusional to think otherwise.

@sabrinabee9217

11 ай бұрын

@@bigwhy6845 totally! Kids deserve the BEST. Not the desire of only one parent.

I was part of the unpopular bunch who never liked them together. They met when she was at her peak, she was super young and had no experience in the A list celebrity world yet. He had been around for years and had dated girls that were at his fame level, so I can see why she was so in awe with him. But I also could never help but think that he purposefully chose her because she was still raw and he could shape her as he liked: a housewife. I know she kept on working, but not in big projects like his tours. So now, after many years together and growing up, maybe she's started to see things differently. Go Sophie!

@tp3218

11 ай бұрын

This is the only accuracy

“Useless man furious about parenting his own kids” 😂😂😂 Shaaaaallon… That thumbnail… Just yes. 👏🏼👏🏼

For the record: dating when you’re successful is the same as dating when you’re ambitious. You can be 19 years old in med school or even 30 years old supporting a sick relative and unemployed, technically without a job but you have big goals in your heart and a life plan. Don’t let a man distract you or minimise your goals EVER to please him!!!

@meganb.higgins973

11 ай бұрын

"If your love laughs at your dreams, well it's not as bad as it seems, but either way, one of them has got to go," -The Avett Brothers

Speaking from an honest perspective - although monogamy is deffinitely hard - having that intimacy, that same person you are connected with - that is priceless and it worth giving up lust and butterflies over. I mean being single is fun, hooking up, dating... but having someone make you soup when you're ill and hold you when you're sad... that is trully priceless. Jumping from relationship to relationship.. doesn't that mean that all of us are deep down craving that intimacy?

@winxclubstellamusa

11 ай бұрын

I agree wholeheartedly. We are all on the quest for true love ❤️

@KateK1111

11 ай бұрын

Exactly! There's a big difference between having sex and having a Sacred Energy eXchange 🥰

@SusanaXpeace2u

11 ай бұрын

Never had that. But I do think that the 'soul' becomes used to being single and you no longer feel the absence of an other 'half'.

@msatutude17

11 ай бұрын

I agree.. I think our generation gives up too easily

@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend

11 ай бұрын

I think that's a nice idea, and some people find it, but by no means the majority. We're in an era now where people are realizing how hard it is to stay together for life if you're no longer obligated to, so it's hard to find the balance. But I think it's better to "have fun with lust and butterflies" than to settle just so someone brings you soup when you're sick. Your friends can do that, too, by the way. I just think we need to be honest that it's worth searching your whole life for, but it's also okay if you never find it.

My first thought was guilty people often accuse others of their own crimes. He wanted to strike first and call her a bad mother who abandoned her children. Then, if she makes a statement and says, “we’re divorcing bc he did (super awful thing)” it will just make her look vindictive and no one will believe her.

Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes. She stopped acting to take care of their two daughters. He is now a superstar but he is always praising her. Great couple.

It's not that marriage doesn't work... the problem is that, by and large, people don't treat each other well, they behave in ways that aren't in anyone's best interest (except maybe their own), they're out for themselves, and they have maladaptive communication and relational skills. This is the emotional dark ages. The only reason it's necessary to be Machiavellian is because we live in a world where most people take advantage if you don't. Of course we have marriages that are falling apart, or staying together in toxic environments, etc. Dysfunction is more the norm than people think, but then we read about how people are supposed to behave and don't get far in before we start to feel like "what's in this book is so unrealistic." It's because people are doing things they shouldn't be, far too often, to the extent that offense vs defense is more descriptive than healthy relating.

@adriaannridolfi507

11 ай бұрын

Are most people even acting in their own best self interest? If so, why are most people overweight, depressed, and/or mad at the world? I travel extensively and this seems to be the case almost everywhere in the Western world.

@CS-bu7lo

11 ай бұрын

​@@adriaannridolfi507Not their real best interest, but what they ( sometimes wrongly) believe it is their best interest. Also, many follow their emotions without thinking things through and the results are horrible: toxic relationships, addictions, weight problems, etc.

@msatutude17

11 ай бұрын

Agree! Not tp mention we don't see too many moves, tv shows, music that shows long lasting relationships and nowadays those are our biggest influences

@beewest5704

11 ай бұрын

Seems like nobody sits down & actually ask themselves & their partner what their idea of marriage is & what they expect from a spouse.

@nina2222

11 ай бұрын

Good point!

Yes! This is one of the main reasons I left my child’s father (besides the other major narc abusive issues). It is soo much easier to be a single mom than to stay with a man who sees his role as the babysitter. I’ve been watching your videos for a while now, and I am so choosy and on top of my dating life now in part thanks to your advice, thanks for your work!

@SusanaXpeace2u

11 ай бұрын

Did you have a girl or a boy? I also left a controlling blaming bad tempered verbally abusive, manipulative, guilt-tripping arseh0le (I've a lot of residual affection for him as you can see :-p ) but my son at 17 was so aggressive and intimidating towards me that I had to get him to go and live with my brother. It was a shock to me. I thought things would be better. He's never witnessed abuse. He saw me assemble furniture, earn, save, I was supportive, validating and encouraging and he still kind of de-humanised me in some move away from his mother. He talks to my brother though. Not sure what age your son is but if he's young and NOT sporty, get him in to some kind of martial art so he has a gang of disciplined men to relate to and if he's prone to gaming, turn off the internet at 22.00 every night, no wheedling, no begging, no pleading. Internet off. I ended up cornered. I tried to be easy going and loving and he became the boss of me. I never would have foreseen this coming, as he was such an affectionate kid.

@dorino9057

11 ай бұрын

@@SusanaXpeace2u women’s forget that there son still has the fathers DNA in them

@Jessica-zw6yd

11 ай бұрын

@@SusanaXpeace2u That sounds awful I can't imagine going through that. She's a girl, and I was fortunate to leave when she was very young. Maybe you can have your brother get him into therapy. Best of luck

She is only 27 but looks so much older. Hope this divorce gives her peace ❤

Thank you!! God forbid the father of his kids has to be the father of his kids. It sounds like Sophie wants to go back to work and the Jonas that isn’t Nick doesn’t want that.

@Beatmyguest001

11 ай бұрын

The Jonas that isn’t Nick 😂

Ah the late naughties…😌 what a time to be alive. Jonas Brothers, infinity scarves, Demi Lovato and Miley Cyrus wearing purity rings. Shallon’s an emo girl in her late 20s, and I’m on the school bus listening to “Burnin’ Up” on my iPod nano, manifesting my move to London where RPats would spot me in a crowded street and instantly fall in love.

@anditspaganpoetry

11 ай бұрын

Ending made me scream

@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend

11 ай бұрын

Wait but I still love infinity scarves

This hit me hard. Loneliness and being alone are different - wow.

My husband and I have suuper traditional roles. He's the financial provider and I'm all the house chores etc. But he's still 100% just as involved with the kids as I am, maybe even moreso. I can see how some women are overbearing/ controlling and make it hard for men to be as involved as they'd like with the kids. But besides those exceptions, for the most part its just shocking how little so many men do with their family. My girlfriends and I bond because we are the crew whose husbands actually take care of the kids so we can have free time to hang out and have moms nights out. So many women can never do anything fun because their husbands are such losers! I could never. It's just ew.

@KatieLHall-fy1hw

11 ай бұрын

You are very lucky!

@joannawinters6592

11 ай бұрын

​@@KatieLHall-fy1hwand smart. Partner is something you choose. Let's not pretend it's luck.

@sparrowwilson4514

11 ай бұрын

Thing is the red flags of this would have been there before they got married. We women are not doing a good enough job vetting our partners and then we’re surprised when they’re assholes when they showed us from day 1 that they were self-serving and lazy.

@winxclubstellamusa

11 ай бұрын

That’s awesome! How did you and your girlfriends find such awesome men??

@KatieLHall-fy1hw

11 ай бұрын

@@joannawinters6592 I totally believe luck is involved. You don’t get to meet or run across everyone in life. If you do that’s amazing!

I will say about the Faith Hill and Tim McGraw.. i saw a brief interaction of theirs and he was genuinely gushing about her and praising her singing to be better than his.. so i feel like the key here is that guy must have great respect and admiration for their wife as a person and her accomplishments. I think those marriages will last a long time especially with a good woman.

@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye

11 ай бұрын

This 100%. They both played lead roles in the premiere season of 1883 and it’s beautiful to watch them act together, make music together… he seems genuinely enamored by her. He didn’t ever seem intimidated by her success or beauty, I’ve just always been so in love with what they look like. I know we don’t know the truth behind closed doors but if you can work with your spouse in shows, songs, concerts, tours, have children… something has to be right.

Wow Shallon you're absolutely right. In arabic we have a word "Alhawa" which literally means wind and we use it for following feelings blindly. Like, someone is just letting the wind control them.

@memosandmore

11 ай бұрын

Love this!!!

I ran my relationship in a logical healthy “business” way I would say. And after 7 years, I happily fired him 🙋🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️

@sabias3932

11 ай бұрын

Bahahaha

@monicaa6345

11 ай бұрын

Good for you

@biznis9965

11 ай бұрын

LMAO

I read that he was left with the children, and my reaction was the same. I love that you jumped right in immediately. Love you, Shallon!! From a fellow NY'er! (Loneliness vs alone - no truer words said!)

@monicaa6345

11 ай бұрын

He wants a wifey. Stay home and cares for kids. His needs. Not hers

@newona4313

11 ай бұрын

@@monicaa6345or he wants a woman who isn’t a deadbeat mom. It’s okay to criticize women when they need to be. This toxic positivity feminism is getting out of hand

@ece282

11 ай бұрын

@@newona4313he should have married a woman his own age or older like Nick did. she barely an adult when they “officially” got together, but their are rumors he was grooming her as a minor. and he tried to do the same to Gigi when she was 13. Nick and Priyanka definitely won the war against his racist, misogynist Jonas fan club. 💪🌝.

As Shallon said many times before, the "source" is often the celebrity themselves. In cases of divorce, I wonder if the other person is aware beforehand of their estranged partner going to the media to let the world know they're getting a divorce. So much for conscious uncoupling! I hope they both knew!

Ive posted saying this before but after being married forever (well, 14 years) i can honestly say if i got married when i was in my 20's it wouldnt have lasted. I look back on those years and have no regrets working hard and having fun. I was genuinely ready for kids and i love it.I adore being a mum. But i did all the 'things'. Not saying 'young marriages' dont work of course! But i get why they might not.

@ania5038

11 ай бұрын

Thank you! I've been with my boyfriend since I was 18 and want to get married when I'm 30 and the amount of judgment I've gotten is obscene! I didn't know exactly what I wanted out of life until now and I feel like marriage is the point where you should have most of your shit sorted out you know?

@RC-gd7nt

11 ай бұрын

@@ania5038 please listen to your gut. I love my life. Because I did all the fun crazy things. There’s no regrets. I can’t imagine not being a mum now. It’s my favourite thing ever. But maybe not had I not done the big $$$ career thing. And then parties and stuff x

@ania5038

11 ай бұрын

@julia-xd8vo I've already lived with him for 3 years thank you very much (and since the beginning if you count the time I've spent weeks at a time at his place). And I'm turning 30 in less than a year lol (had to edit because I forgot I was 29 lol). Judgmental people like you are exactly what I was talking about. Marriage isn't the end-all be-all to relationships either seeing as 50% of them end in divorce. We've gone through pretty much everything you can possibly go through together as a couple aside from having kids and I finally feel ready at 29 to actually go through with the wedding which means a lot less to me than the marriage. My expectations are fine. You sound like you've had some negative experiences in your life that have left you bitter. I also have a lot more faith in couples that date for a long time before getting married as opposed to those who just rush in and leave it all to chance or worse, rely on having babies to fix everything.

@ania5038

11 ай бұрын

@julia-xd8vo Omg I'm not reading your crazy life story lol He's told me multiple times he's ready to get married tomorrow if I want to. The key is I don't want to yet. And I told him I don't want him to propose until we go to Montreal back to our favourite hotel. Have fun being bitter (oh and he gave me a diamond promise ring before we had even been together for a year but I am the one who has explicitly told him I don't want to be engaged yet and he respects that) and keep putting words in my mouth because I never said you need to have children at all, I never said I'm better than all couples and I never said that it takes this long to be with someone to get married.

A great woman, once said “My husband is babysitting, no it’s called parenting.” Just because, she wanted to support a friend in need, wanted a night off of being a mom for once.

I'm sorry to admit I want a guy to magically know what I want and if he doesn't I'll think he's not the one for me. I needed to hear this.

Also, Aaron Paul and his wife Lauren (who’s a non celebrity) are a great example of a working marriage, they instantly came to mind when you mentioned celebrities who are married to someone who isn’t famous

@biznis9965

11 ай бұрын

Same with Matt Damon and his wife.

@uhhhhh4748

11 ай бұрын

​@biznis9965 I saw that Matt Damon was selling his house and thought about what Shallon has said about couples selling their houses and have been waiting for them to announce their divorce but I think it's been well over a year now

@dreamwishergirl

11 ай бұрын

Matt Lanter & his wife Angela Lanter are a very good example of this! How they met & started dating is really cute too. I actually found Angela’s social medias first

I babysit for my friend, and she jokes all the time that she's co-parenting with me instead of their dad, lol. Their actual dad has some personal issues he needs to handle, and as a result her friends and family have stepped up to the plate. It truly does take a village to raise a child, but even though the kids have a large support system, I know they feel the absence of their dad in their life. The situation is sad. Too many men either don't know how to be a good father or they don't want to be, and it's causing a lot of problems in society as a whole.

Your totally right! They have nannies and all the shit. I would imagine he whined about childrearing and being left with the kids in order to cause conflict and guilt trip her into down sizing her career.

@unique-unicorn

11 ай бұрын

😊😊

Long live the Queen of the North 👑 She's better off without him. Also your hair looks amazing Shallon as usual 💕

@MalloryNewcomb

11 ай бұрын

Personally I’m more of a Nick girl. I feel it will be tough if they do divorce because those babies are so young. Also how will custody work if she is back to the UK long term and he remains in the US? I am however a Sophie girl. Love my queen in the North, Sansa Stark!

“Being successful and driven isn’t about outcome” you don’t know how much I needed to hear that!💕

My husband and I have been married for 33 years with 4 kids. I began staying home after baby number 2, husband was military. His brother and my sister in law both work, had 3 kids and split everything 50/50, took turns taking kids to appts or staying home when they were sick. At first I thought it was weird but when my husband said ‘his job isn’t more important than hers, it keeps it even’. He was also a very hands on dad, when not deployed. He was the one that pointed how ridiculous it was to hear other men say they were babysitting their own kids. These were boys raised by a stay at home mom made to feel like she didn’t contribute. They both made it out and were able to appreciate their chosen spouses. I’d like to say it was luck but we are both strong women that were clear on what we wanted, expected, and were willing to give in return. Marriage looks different for many but is work for all. KEEP DATING and keep the talk about kids to a minimum!

@Athenas117

11 ай бұрын

Love hearing these stories sounds like you have a very beautiful life.❤

@yvettrae

10 ай бұрын

You got lucky. But I think younger men (20’s-30’s) were raised with both parents doing equal share and working so it comes more naturally. It’s much rarer these days to have a stay at home parent. Idk, just my perspective.

I was married 16 years ago to a guy who had zero ambition but he was good looking and smart. I felt like I really compromised my #1 need, to feel secure and taken care of. Then he cheated. I filed for divorce because I felt that I had compromised enough and I had more self respect than putting up with infidelity. Now I’m married to a man who meets my #1 need, feeling secure and taken care of. I’m mostly a stay at home mom for the past 11 years. I think that if I had a career where I could support myself financially, I would demand more emotionally from my spouse.

@apriltiff6452

11 ай бұрын

I'm going through the same thing now we are getting divorced

@yvettrae

10 ай бұрын

@@apriltiff6452 I’m sorry that you’re having to go thru that. I’ve decided to go back to work and take back my power. Money is power, the kind that gives you choices. Money gives you the power to ask for what you want/need. Money also gives you options.

One thing I would say as a career oriented woman is when it comes to wealthy men, they didn't get to where they are by NOT being good communicators or having time management skills. No matter what a man does, or what you do, you deserve to have a man that shows up on time -and respects yours. Bring your own alpha/boss energy to the table and (nicely) spell it out for them.

@monicaa6345

11 ай бұрын

Amen

@DaveG-kb2sr

11 ай бұрын

Doubt you have any clue as to actual "Alpha" energy. Office jockey "wealthy" men like to play pretend at it, but don't have the balls to actually go out into the world and do what it takes to be "Alpha". The term gets thrown around to loosely for standard mediocre bulls**t. Mostly by "career oriented" folks in the cities.

I have friends who renewed the vows in 2014 at their 10 years wedding anniversary. They are together now still. They did it for the same reason as me and my husband will do it: The wedding wasn't exactly like we want it to be, some people were not able to be there, the location was not amazing. Plus we love a party.

@MalloryNewcomb

9 ай бұрын

That’s awesome. I like that. I wonder if there will be a lot of COVID couples who do a vow renewal for this reason

I don't understand how Shallon is so damn insightful. I swear in every video she stares deep inside my soul and tells me some hard truths about myself.

I hope you are extremely happy with your bangs because you look phenomenal. bombshell phase. greetings from Poland ❤🎉

@shallonlester

11 ай бұрын

Today they have decided to be my friend. Tomorrow… It’s anyone’s guess.

@magalufff

11 ай бұрын

I am also Polish and I love Shallon❤

My favorite celebrity couple is Sarah Michelle Gellar and Freddie Prince Jr. They were both in their prime(looks and careers) when they got together and they’ve managed to stay married for YEARS!!!

Loneliness is that almost daily struggle with anxiety when your narc partner doesnt call, come back, show up, when he's supposed to.

I absolutely adore Sophie, did not see this coming. Poor women xxx

Must say Shallon, I’ve been watching since 2018/2019 & you have helped me so much with ALL relationships. This video couldn’t have come at a better time 👏🏻

It makes me wonder what exactly has happened to Sophie? I think she has struggled with mental health in the past, I hope she’s okay.

It seemed everything was good when they were going to red carpets and galas but when real life happened it dint work. Still sad

They actually first began their relationship when she was 13, not 20! Joe was hounding Sophie since she was 13 and visiting her on the set of Game of Thrones every day and then and started to officially date her the second she turned 18, and then he pressured her to get married to him at 23, and his very religious, and therefore, very misogynistic and enabling mother, kept screaming at her and degrading her in order to have kids because that was supposed to be Sophie’s “purpose”, and despite Sophie begging to stay at just one kid Joe forced her to make another one and completely prevented her from being able to work or have any life or time to herself away from his kids whom he refuses to take care of for any length of time. And because Sophie has finally decided that she has had enough of his abuse and control and is beginning to break up with him Joe has begun his slander campaign to make himself out to be the innocent one and she as the villain. All of this and the complete story of Sophie and Joes relationship and Joe’s predatory history proves that Sophie has been in an emotionally and physiologically abusive relationship with Joe and his entire family of religious hypocrites, and that Joe was a covert narcissist this entire time, which is why he has always used textbook narcissistic abuse tactics. How has also had a long history of asking out many 13 year old girls when he was well above 13, so he has had the habit of hunting for vulnerable victims to groom for his abuse since he was an adolescent. My heart break for what Sophie got into when she was still a child, and is now doomed to continue being exposed to for her entire life.

@Mini-Toast_

11 ай бұрын

Source?

@nf9407

11 ай бұрын

This is not true since GOT started filming 2011 (Sophie was 15 at the time) and Joe was in a serious relationship with Swiss model Blanda and they broke up 2014 (Sophie was 18 at the time).

Thank you for bringing up this "babysitting his own kids" thing. It drives me nuts!

The title card of this video is *chef's kiss*

I would love an updated video how to attract a attractive, quality man, IN PERSON.

@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye

11 ай бұрын

Girl, go outside. Alone. With a book, a journal, hell a pack of crayons. Go outdoors somewhere new where you would like to spend time. You’ll be amazed at how many other people also want to spend time with people who are spending time at the places they like too. That’s how real world connections start.

@winxclubstellamusa

11 ай бұрын

Yes!

@twsd

11 ай бұрын

You have to be the person you’re looking for.

I felt this ‘ur not alone but ur alone’ thing. When I was reviewing for the bar exam, I was pregnant and when I took the bar exam, I just had our baby (4 months old). During that time (more than 18 moths of grueling studying and taking the exam proper which I thankfully passed) I cannot feel my husband’s presence or support. I was literally alone suffering the pregnancy blues and taking care of the baby. I became resentful and bitter towards him. All through out my hardships, my husband was pursuing his athletic journey to becoming a triathlete which by the way was his way of getting away from the responsibilities of fatherhood. Though we patched things up after a series of individual and couple counselings, those moments taught me a valuable lesson to focus on what I can do for myself for me to become a better person than to expect someone to do it for you.

@CS-bu7lo

11 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry you went through all that! About 20 years ago , I took the bar exam in my country in southeastern Europe and it was very difficult ! I had no baby and an unsupportive boyfriend ,who took the same exam. We both succeeded, but split because I was supportive and he wasn't, all throughout our apprenticeships. In my country, you go to Law School after highschool ( if you pass difficult exams) and then suffer a 2 years apprenticeship and then another exam to become a lawyer. It's very rare that people marry and/or have kids before the final exams, they are that difficult. Anyway, I am happy now while he is miserable, although I am no longer bitter about his lack of support. However, I've learned my lesson, just like in a plane emergency : always put your mask first and then help others. Same in life. You can't properly help others if you don't take care of yourself first.

Ugh she’s so real so wise she always says exactly what I need to hear

Yeah I agree... my boyfriend recently told me his brother was going to babysit his (own) kids and I was like... you mean he's going to be the father that he is??? Granted his situation is a little different because his wife doesn't work or make nearly as much as him so it's a little more fair for her to have more of the household burden but still. I can almost stand behind the Barbie movie because it was definitely right about the fact that now that women can work they are expected to wear every hat, never complain and these expectations do not burden men nearly as much.

I think when Joe said “I’ve been left to parent the kids,” he didn’t mean he doesn’t want to parent. My husband also left me to parent our kid on my own since the day I gave birth. He doesn’t want to lift a finger. So I would absolutely say it sucks and I feel for him if that’s what is happening. No matter if it’s the mom or dad. *edit: I am getting a divorce.

@Noname-bl5hk

11 ай бұрын

I have followed Sophie turner since her early game of thrones days, and I casually keep up with her. And I can almost guarantee that’s it nearly impossible for Joe to be parenting their children more than her. She’s put her career on a hold since they got married basically, has only done small roles, while Joe has been all over the world, collaborating with multiple groups, different endorsements. She’s for sure taken the backseat in her career, and if she went out with friends a couple of times and he had to take care of their kids those couple of times, he’s just being vindictive and slandering her in the public eye to set her up badly for the divorce

@monicamiller9345

11 ай бұрын

@@Noname-bl5hk he totally may be doing that! I have no idea. Either way, whichever parent is not parenting is in the wrong.

@ece282

11 ай бұрын

@@monicamiller9345he should have married a woman his own age. he was too old for her and she was to young to marry. she just realized it.

Maybe Taylor was right about him from the start 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

If I could be a stay at home, mom, I absolutely would be. I hate working with my husband made enough money to where I could just live my life and I didn’t have to work, and I didn’t have to have a career that sounds like heaven to me because then I could just pursue my hobbies and be with my kid. But I’m also the type of person who loves to work, so like if I could just make money off my passions and passion project, that would be great.

I don’t think getting married young is the problem. There’s a lot older couple the get divorced as well. However, getting married young and having children right away is the problem. Children will definitely magnify any problems in the relationship. If he can’t fucking handle her having a career and is upset he is taking care of his children… he can fuck off.

i run a business but the work is part time, my husband makes a majority of the money. we talk and check in on these things regularly. we know exactly how the division of labor is , we check in regularly to make sure both of us are still cool with how we have life set up. we have similar goals. i would say we're driven people -- maybe not in the same sense as 'high level hustlers'-- but we're very driven towards having a peacefully but adventurous/fun marriage/relationship. we have goals that align, we respect our individual growth and our together growth. honestly, all of these "unsexy" seeming convos are actually what make so much of the "sexiness" work.

I just found out my ex husband is officially remarried and listening to you has really cheered me up. Thank you 😄

I was really expecting Nick and his wife to divorce 🤷‍♀️

@KatieLHall-fy1hw

11 ай бұрын

Same, I thought Joe and Sophie might make it 10 or so years

@laurababe101

11 ай бұрын

Why? He met and married her quickly and seems very committed, regardless of your thoughts on either of them

@Babezilla

11 ай бұрын

@@laurababe101Many people didn’t want Nick to settle down especially with such a gorgeous woman. It’s obvious they were committed from the get-go and still love each other.

@caroliinec

11 ай бұрын

We all want them to 😭 but they're cringe together so it works

@kimwalter8753

11 ай бұрын

Priyanka looks like Nick's mother or big sister. Oh well, it's his choice. Surprised about Joe and his wife, very sad and unfortunate.

One of the most attractive things to me in a human is ambition. Friends and lovers definitely need a drive for success. I think that's healthy. Rest and recovery is crucial too. I am learning the latter aspect now. Easier said than done. The business aspect to a relationship gets things ironed out. Logic to love is a safe feeling, which isn't a bad thing.

“They’re like if the GAP made butterflies. Get out of my house.” It’s the way her genius is so quotable for me. Some despairing moth just offed himself in a lantern. 💀

That is way too young, on Sophie’s part, to marry. Also, her career was just taking off, and I am sure, having children that young, interfered with getting roles. I am 66 yrs old and never wanted children. Yes, I was judged. My mother was mentally ill and quite abusive. I was an RN and knew mental illness can be passed on in your genes. My worst nightmare was having a child that would be like her. My childhood was the worst time in my life. So, there is NOTHING I wanted to recreate. The mere thought of having a baby made me shudder. No regrets. I admire you for guiding these young girls.

I sooooo agree with you on a kids topic. I am a mother to a sweet boy and I love him to the moon. He is my flash and blood, but parenting with narc is very dificult. Even the life on its own is hard with this toxis people. I feel alone and lonely at once, exhausted because i do everything and he is just the bread giver.. he thinks i am nothing and the most for me to expect od life is to be a mother. Yes, i love my kid but i am definetly more then just the mother. I just wanted to say that you are right and many women dont get it - family life is not for everyone and having kids ks safer for kids and women when with a right men. Its sad but ots a true. Kids cant be happy and have carefree life if a home is toxic, no matter how much i try, i know i have to leave for the sake of my child. I am trapped right know but i am working on it… it takes time but i will make it..

@wonderkid-wr7mh

11 ай бұрын

Sending my best wishes to you and your son

I was married at 21 and will be celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary next year. We’re both top earners and career driven. At home, we’re traditional - I literally do everything and he does nothing. He does work more than I do and makes more money. It works for us. He has always offered to pay someone to do the things that I do (cleaning, cooking, etc) but I don’t want to pay someone to do it all and I don’t hate it so it works 🤷🏼‍♀️ also no kids - that’s very important 😂

@beewest5704

11 ай бұрын

Revisit it before you have kids. They are a gamechanger!

@maruskaehrensdorfer

11 ай бұрын

That works fine if you never plan to have kids. But once you plan to have kids you will have to sit down and discuss expectations, time management and division of duties and chores and possibly hiring someone to do the cleaning etc.

@takemypainaway9517

11 ай бұрын

@@maruskaehrensdorferYupp 100%

@smmacey5478

11 ай бұрын

You’re ok with that?? That sounds like my marriage that was absolute hell for me. I was the servant who also worked full time.

@SuperMarkizas

11 ай бұрын

Not having help is dumb. I live alone and pay for cleaner. Time is precious

You nailed this one on many levels.

Lol why are people shocked? Joe only cares about who is pretty and popular. Good luck to them

Hi Shallon, Hannahleeduggan has done some AMAZING trips with her followers to Asia. And she does trips to Central America too. And then Brittany on Royal News Network leads trips to Europe and is on one now. Hope they can give you some helpful info! Enjoy! PS-My first marriage, girl, I have stories that would raise the hair on the back of your neck and just blow your mind. Can’t BELIEVE how long I deluded myself. I instantly thought of you when I saw Sophie & Joe sold their house. You’ve got such great insights! The other one I noticed is when a couple lives together for years and then they get married all the sudden. They get divorced within a year. Like Hank Azaria & Helen Hunt. It’s like the vow renewal. Last thing, there have been studies in neighborhoods in the UK showing kids who are supposedly fathered by the same husband/partner are actually fathered by someone else. So mom has 3 kids who are all supposedly from the same dad and one of those kids will have a different dad that no one knows about. 😉

Also, who's threatening you 😡😡 you're like a big sister to us shallon. We want to protect you! Xxxxx

Have you considered having a travel assistant/planner to curate your own trips? They can attend trips and coordinate everything. I'd be interested in this role! ❤

There's actually a book called "The Dating App Confessions" by Logan Tindell that has some funny stories and decent tips.

Sophie didn't make those kids alone. He should take care of the kids, too.

Each person, especially men, should ask themselves this question before having a baby: Will I be OK parenting by myself if it comes to it? If the answer is no or hmm not sure, then maybe it's not for you

Getting married at 20 sounds sad to me to be honest. Because you didn’t really no any better.

I do not want kids or a marriage. I can't agree with you MORE about that Shallon. ❤❤❤❤ Btw I absolutely noticed what you did with your makeup and background. You're so talented!! I'm floored, babe! Hot. ❤

if they divorce or not, I still think she was way too young to settle down; she had a promising career ahead that was paused because of all the lovey-dovey things they were up to when she was supposed to take advantage of her youth and find opportunities to grow her career after GoT and... he's too full of himself🤮.

I gave this marriage 2 years. They survived longer. Sophie married way too young. No woman Should marry before 30. Life gets incredibly difficult if they do.

@beewest5704

11 ай бұрын

Both has it pros & cons. I know ppl who got married young & had kids young. All their kids are now out of the house & they are only 40 & get to do everything they want. Mu aunt is 42 with a 1& 3 year old. She has the finances to have a day nanny , a night nanny , a full time cleaner & a cook that comes in twice a week & preps meals for them.

@celebritytarotreading3545

11 ай бұрын

@@beewest5704 at this time and age its very hard. Back in her time, 20 years ago it was way easier.

So what Shallon is saying is that Sophie turner is away from home a lot. Why is she down playing that. Both parents should be parenting IF that is the reason for the divorce.

@sierahaguilar

11 ай бұрын

Exactly, if we’re going to chastise men for abandoning their wives to be alone with the kids we have to do the same when women do it.

@jessicastraw6593

11 ай бұрын

she's filming in the UK at the moment - it's totally normal for celebs/actors to be away while filming. no one would be questioning that if she were a man/the roles here were reversed

I was looking for this video yesterday in the middle of the night after reading the news on a British online tabloid, I was "oooohh I know who will have this info, Shallon!" but no, it was not here yet, thanks for doing it so fast!!

You know, I am pretty concerned about my taste in celebrities because I pick all the “broken, damaged, narcissistic “ ones. That might explain my taste in men irl and vice versa. I am gonna cry now

You need to be at 1 mill subscribers like yesterday. I so enjoy your biting wit!

I went to their concert and someone pointed out that he wasn’t wearing his ring. I thought they were just being too observant.

But that’s really sad for us career girls the problem is we want a guy who does better than us but the guy that does better than us can have any girl he wants. He can have a model , if he wants a career woman then again he can go get the CEO of an international company . We tend to not be the type of the man we want because men tend not to judge on a women’s success and the ones that do tend to be on the sleazy side. Also in terms of what Shallon said the man can bring coffee well if he s busy he probably isn’t the type that is there to accommodate us and bring coffees and kill spiders

@dorino9057

11 ай бұрын

Plenty of successful men want women who have there own money because they don’t want them to be a gold digger. Bill gates new girlfriend is 64 year old woman who was the wife of a late Oracle ceo. She got millions when he died. And that is the woman bill gates is now dating. He could have gotten a younger woman but didn’t. One reason is because he wanted a woman who was not a gold digger, therefore she must have her own money by being successful and/or inheriting money.

The topic is supposed to be, why you should not date men shorter than you because they will always be looking up to you.😂😂😂

Is it bad that my first thought was: "Yes, can't wait for her next project"? Lol

This vid called me out in sooo many ways. I really expect them to get it through hints and being manipulative 🤦🏻‍♀️ yikes I need to work on this

@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye

11 ай бұрын

Props for self awareness though, don’t beat yourself up too hard. Acknowledging is the key to healing. Proud of you ❤

@AFFTFOMSICHTS

11 ай бұрын

@@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbyeyou’re the sweetest 🥹

Shallon, Have a [great] Retreat with Lauren Saint John. Let Go of your control during the retreat.. and be OK with being afraid or uncomfortable during the retreat. Transofrmation is born in the [fire] that burns away your attachments.. and most importantly it confronts "who you think you are". Don't let fear (or pain) stop you from coming out during the Retreat 💕🌹

Thanks 🙏 I was waiting for your video as soon as the news came out. I knew you would do a video. The parenting thing was ridiculous!!!

I am a super successful gym director who met a guy there (Tim Allen's cousin lol) he's a lover of cars and that's the #1 thing I hate dealing with - my cute 3 series bmw. I made it as simple and fun as possible for him...tune up my car and I'm yours for the night! We planned labor day I waited all day to hear from this useless man. I was so disguisted I ended up having 3 Pina colados alone eating taco bell and hating myself. Thank you for this today❤️

Can you please do the throuple from the Ultimatum, Alex and Antonio, and his ex.. can't remember her name. They're kind of fascinating. Alex was blunt about her dating down and she completely dropped interest in him.

Okay so I know the Backstreet Boys kinda old school but other fans say their trips are GREAT. They do cruises, they do Mexico.

@KatieLHall-fy1hw

11 ай бұрын

Dude, I saw them in concert in Virginia Beach last year and they were SO fun!

This year I was working a spotify party up in the hills where joe jonas was. This dude has been single.

Your makeup and outfits lately have been ABSOLUTE GOALS! Hollywood, sexy style! 🎉🙌

Hey girlie, I wish I could tell you this in private but I did notice lately you lead a lot with your sexuality, which girlie, good for you because you're a smoke show, but I feel you should know you're a multilayered, multidimentional woman that has so much to offer other than her body. I get that you feel better about yourself since losing weight, I would too, God knows how I'm struggling with that - but if that's the approach you have when it comes to dating, you might attract the wrong type of men. You're just so wonderful - you don't need to sexualise yourself because trust me, the right guys, they don't care about this as much as you'd think❤❤❤ sending you lots of love and I hope you are trully happy Shallon. I do from the bottom of my heart because you deserve it x and I don't know how often people ask you if you're happy but here I am today ❤️

23:35 Aw man Shallon, you missed out! I would have had SO many questions for him! (What is the project, do you like your PM, how much are material costs fluctuating, etc. i think construction and repair is so cool!)

@shallonlester

11 ай бұрын

Oh trust me I dug deep and asked a lot of questions. He just kind of shrugged. He has no interest in the back end of anything. And therefore won’t get to see the back end of me 🍑

@KatieLHall-fy1hw

11 ай бұрын

@@shallonlesterthat’s fair! Thanks for the video today, this was a good one!

I always thought she looked like a goddess queen standing next to a hobbit.

Man, I hope they can work things out. I kind of love seeing this young married couple and it showed me that being an empowered woman didn’t mean you had to reject traditional social structures! Also I loved Sansa and one of my friends got to meet Sophie since she was a consultant at Vera Wang 💕

I had forgotten about KZread, I've been distracted by the Shallontourage, it's giving Gossip Girl vibes 😆.

Wouldn't it be pretty devastating if your partner - wife or husband - didn't give a shit about your kids? He has every right to be pissed if Sophie isn't stepping up. We can't excuse women for not looking after their children! IF this is all true, there are two sides.

@tori8532

11 ай бұрын

We would never say this to a man. Men go on long movie shoots overseas, go on tour, etc. and no one blinks an eye that the wife has to stay home with the kids

@user-hh3em1ej1j

11 ай бұрын

Is she filming smth or what’s the excuse ?

@jessicastraw6593

11 ай бұрын

@@user-hh3em1ej1j yes she's filming in the UK

@user-hh3em1ej1j

11 ай бұрын

@@jessicastraw6593 ahh wow then he being a douche srsly , because it’s made out to be like she just bounced somewhere abandoning her family, like from his reaction that’s what you’d think right?

@MindyBeee

11 ай бұрын

Bullshit

Marriage has nothing to do with age. Marriage is a mindset and a choice that you have to continuously make. Doesn’t necessarily matter if you’re 20 or 40. Some people just suck at marriage

My dog was tilting his head so much at 1:06 😂

OMG..how true about the man filling the needs of a messed up woman..but eventually someone gets sick of the disparity .the men have side pieces or addiction problems. "Yes, I do everything .but, I have another life,"

There's such an interesting paradox where people are encouraged to stick things out but also encouraged to cut and run. What are your thoughts on when it's good to stick something out versus cutting and running, Shallon? What are like 3 major signs that are best to look out for when deciding whether to stick it out or cut and run? Also just an idea, perhaps it would be interesting to find out how travel booking sites work and maybe hire a website developer to add a feature like that to your own website and you could have like your own travel company per say. You are a great people person and very convincing, so you (or someone on your team) could talk to hotels and other companies to form a travel package for a Shalligator getaway, then name a good price for interested Shalligators and have like a 'SHALLIGATORXO Getawatys' feature on the Shallonxo roster. It's not a fully developed idea but one I just thought of.

The thumbnail description gave me "3 Egg Man" story vibes 😂.

Shallon! I LOVE ALL YOUR VIDEOS but this is ONE OF THE BEST EVVEEERRRRRR THANKYOU 🤍🤍🤍

It all comes down to masculine and feminine energy polarity. Two people with masculine energy won't stay together long-term.