Her saying « I now shampoo my own hair » is left unnoticed but it’s the most profound thing she said. I bet her mom was a beast. She owned her daughter by interfering with the most intimate yet trivial things such as bathing or taking a shower on your own. She simply tried to control Jennette every way she could. Remind me of one scene from the movie Black Swan with Nathalie Portman. Nina’s mom cut her daughter’s nails and bathed her. Her mom dreamed to be a ballerina and she lived through her daughter like Jennette’s mom dreamt to be an actress and she forced her daughter to be one. So dark and so sad that a mom can’t offer her child love and acceptance.

@gshimon

Жыл бұрын

Basically her mom was controlling her and always wanted to shampoo her hair and put conditioner, it also led some very disgusting SA moments

@0ChildStar

Жыл бұрын

Her mom sounds like "Joseph Jackson". 🤔

@heyitsme881

Жыл бұрын

It wasn’t left unnoticed lol

@ferninthehouse

Жыл бұрын

her mom abused her sexually in the shower, its terrible

@tabbykat8564

Жыл бұрын

knowing that a character played by natalie portman had a controlling, narcissistic mother makes me feel better about my own controlling, narcissistic mother lol

Being the daughter of a narcissist is a special hell, not reserved for child actors. I feel for her. I can appreciate how she feels finally free…my freedom has not yet come. I have no siblings, so my experience has been very different, but narcissistic parents consume their children, no matter how many they have.

@SatyaKaliYam

Жыл бұрын

It’s possible to heal from it. I’m living proof. I became a self-healer and now it’s part of my purpose and passion to help others. I healed myself and my relationship (I accepted it for what it is) and see it has to do with a larger situation. I have become a protector, referee, good natured spiritual daughter. Fortunately my mom and dad are both alive and I am able to live with them as they are both aging and need support. I finally got a voice and can stand up and speak up, not like when I was a kid. In the end, if you can break free from the mental control/codependency conditionings and build your self worth, you can overcome. I’m the youngest of 2 older brothers and half sister from my dad’s side. That’s a whole other mess. Good luck in your healing journey. 🙏🙌✨💟

@deborahminter6231

Жыл бұрын

@@SatyaKaliYam good for you👍

@ivywt

Жыл бұрын

@@SatyaKaliYam thank you for sharing

@AriaFrancescaStella

Жыл бұрын

Same my freedom has not yet come

@Samanthaasdfghjkl

Жыл бұрын

You deserve to find a loving community and independence no matter what. A friend told me recently that our parents’ pain is never ours to inherit. I hate that we inevitably do, but you don’t deserve, nor did your existence cause, any of that pain. ❤️

Finally an interviewer who can respect Jenette and ask the questions on a careful and deep way. I fell like most the interviews i watched with her they are always trying to poke her and kind of judging instead of respecting her experience with everything awful that happened. :) Good work abc!

@jallar4

Жыл бұрын

He's Christopher Reeve (Superman)'s son!

@Exorcist364xs

Жыл бұрын

@@jallar4 oh my god he looked familiar! No wonder he was so thoughtful and kind.

@jayj8135

Жыл бұрын

Majority of the interviews only want to talk about her mentioning Ariana Grande and the money the network offered her to not speak about her experience

@Yarrow_Rose

Жыл бұрын

@ Vitória Miotto You should watch Amanpour & co interview, very intelligent and thoughtful.

@vickmiotto

Жыл бұрын

@@Yarrow_Rose I will! Thank you :D

I'm around halfway through the audiobook and dear LORD. The fact that she is even halfway healthy is a miracle and a testament to the 'self-work' she has done in therapy. People who are insensitive or naïve enough to think parents can't ruin their kids' emotional and physical wellbeing need to read this book. It's very full on but it gives a great explanation of how enmeshment and parental abuse work.

@lobaggins3328

Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t wait for the book and downloaded the audiobook as well! It’s devastating

@titustjmatthews796

Жыл бұрын

there is a audio book out?

@ThatKillerQuote

Жыл бұрын

I wish I had got the audiobook but after reading the book it would be kind of hard to listen to, she was super raw and personal about her experiences.

@aliyahbell6685

Жыл бұрын

Do you know where I can find or download the audiobook?

@cozy46

Жыл бұрын

So am I. I started listening to it on Audible last night around 11. I stopped at 3 am on chapter 55.

She has grown so much and I am so proud of her. I was very upset when she wasn’t on the icarly reboot but now I am very happy she didn’t for her own sake and mental health

@mikejames874

Жыл бұрын

Yes I’m glad she did aswell and so happy for her and it’s a shame Hollywood still does this to children in the industry and nothing will change and it’s a shame. They need to realize that they need to be protected while in the industry because there are more monsters out there hiding between the cracks. And Hollywood doesn’t know about them yet. Just hope the industry can learn from its mistakes.

@lisavanderpump7475

Жыл бұрын

I don't believe anything she says . She's just needs money an attention

@blububblebish

Жыл бұрын

Now remember that humbleness next time you assume something about someone especially someone that you want to do something. Lol

@liquidiv

Жыл бұрын

Remember she didn’t take the 300K hush money from the company. She can no longer come back to that company.

@mikejames874

Жыл бұрын

I also what to add I hope Hollywood cleans up the act and comes out for being a cult and a mastermind to abuse children. River phoenix killed himself because there was nothing no one that helped him for being abused sexually. So there needs to be something to protect children in the industry. Corey Haim was abused aswel and no one helped and I’m sure other actors and actresses knew what was going on then. Now they are starting to come out like Rose McGowan and others. Because they were hushed to stay quiet.

“I’m happier now. And I shampoo my own hair” dark! but my goodness, so eloquent. I love her so much.

It makes sense how she paused on the last question like that, proves that she's never thought of her mom's reaction to what Jennette is like right now. I'm so glad Jennette is at a place in life where she's not pressured to act in front of a camera and be exposed to the public like that. I love Jennette for being so honest and it's amazing that she's healing a lot because of her book.

My heart goes out to her and anyone who can relate to “motherly” abuse. Your past does not define you. Your future does. You are loved and cared for and wanted. You matter. And I hope everyone heals from their pain and let it go or find peace within yourself for yourself.

just finished the book. it was so deep how heavy things were for her so proud of her for choosing her integrity and power. she definitely shined a light at a dark industry even as how she described it it was dark

@heathermunoz6282

Жыл бұрын

Does she talk about if she found healthy love and forgiveness for mom?

I just hate to admit that I can relate to her in a way. I hate to admit that I feel her so much.

@jetnight88

Жыл бұрын

So you glad your mother died? That awesome

@ashkimz

Жыл бұрын

i hope you heal from the things you dont talk about

@AseAleisha

Жыл бұрын

Same

@jetnight88

Жыл бұрын

@@ashkimz are you joking? You never heal His mother was a vile nasty cow

@Exorcist364xs

Жыл бұрын

I get it. I so understand.

Someone forcing their child to take showers under their supervision until they are 17 is a different type of evil. the sad thing is, I relate to her experiences a lot as my "mother" is too narcissistic/abusive. I haven't spoken to my "mom" for a year.

@carynmartin6053

Жыл бұрын

I can relate

@mads1864

Жыл бұрын

@@Mrs.Butterworth That but also you’re not considering that while there is a genetic component, it depends on what the person does to prevent it from happening. For example, I am in therapy and have so far been diagnosed with anxiety, ADHD, and PTSD. I am not on the spectrum of narcissism like she is. While I do understand that it is her mental illness, she should have gotten help for it instead of dragging her kids through hell. It doesn’t excuse her from what she’s done.

I really enjoyed how much respect this interviewer had for Jennette. He was so sweet and careful with his words. If this was an hour long I would have watched it. I hope they stay in touch he was truly so kind to her.

Someone somewhere is going to read this book and relate to their experience with their mother. They'll know they're not wrong for feeling a certain way after enduring abuse. I wish Jennette a good healing journey and the courage it takes to be honest about experiences as traumatic as these is truly inspiring.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a more clever, polarizing and artistic book cover in a while. Good for her and I hope she’s able to heal and grow more and more!

@rachelk.9708

Жыл бұрын

Someone on Twitter mentioned that it looked like the Dolly Parton Jolene cover. Before that, the book cover reminded me of those 80s or 90s book covers from my childhood.

I got rid of my abusive mother over 4 years ago. I smoked cigarettes for 16 years. For some reason, I quit cigarettes less than a week after getting rid of my mother in my life. Funny how less stress can help your life out.

@elizabethchavez6597

Жыл бұрын

Wdym? Got rid of your mother

@soupnfresh

Жыл бұрын

Yikes. You both should've gone to therapy to at least try to save the relationship.

@trustedroot

Жыл бұрын

@@soupnfresh keep it to yourself

@Muttinchopsforeverandalways

Жыл бұрын

How did you get rid of her .

@mushmouf1400

Жыл бұрын

When u say u got rid of her....

Her mom was abusing her and it took a lot of courage to write that book and we find out things about her that we never knew. She’s a strong woman who knows what’s next for her.

Great interviewer! Loved how sincerely interested he was in the material and hearing Jennettes perspective. I can’t wait to read this book and hear her story fully through.

@jidolwest

Жыл бұрын

Agree with both comments above me! I’ve watched several interviews of Jennette promoting her book, and I found this interviewer’s questions much more thoughtful and compelling, which in turn got us to hear more about her story! Great job to both of them!

@wonderfulfable

Жыл бұрын

@n0body_heartless Will Reeve's parents, Christopher Reeve ( Superman ) passed on in 2004, two years later his mom Dana Reeve passed on in 2006 from lung cancer.

He did an excellent job interviewing her. I don’t know her, But I’m so Proud of her. 🙏🏼

@disneytoysr4fun975

Ай бұрын

excellent is a stretch. He seemed to only have a surface understanding of her book, but he was better than others for sure.

What a strong human being. Most ppl can't reach that place for decades and miss out on life. Definitely want to read this book now.

I'm gonna buy the book😍😍😍 It is very fascinating. I feel for her. Her mother was a straight up toxic and abusive person to her. There were several moments where I was horrified by how her mom treated her. I can't blame her for never wanting to act again. Her heart was never into it. She was living her mother's dream.

@evawertz201

Жыл бұрын

I am halfway through it and it is such a page turner. It was so hard to put down and I am trying to finish it tonight. It shows how innocent yet mature she was at such a young age. I am happy she has had so much healing.

@nerdysocks8061

Жыл бұрын

You better buy it soon… I hear it’s selling out fast :-/ which is actually a very good thing💕🤩

@briannablackwood4664

Жыл бұрын

@@nerdysocks8061 Will do🥰

@briannablackwood4664

Жыл бұрын

@@evawertz201 same🙏❤

@cubbymumma3941

Жыл бұрын

I'm partway through the audiobook and you're right. Jeanette's mum's whole attitude is very Mama Rose ("I am your mother, therefore I - de facto- ALWAYS know what's best for you." ) The hardest person to battle ,with is someone who, despite being more wrong than either of you could ever imagine, believes they're always 100 percent in the right: they will run rings around you, arguing that black is white all the while. Especially hard when they're your parent/carer and IN CHARGE of you because, then, your inner voice says:: "OK, they're in charge, therefore, they MUST be right."

The way this interview ended touched my heart 💗it was so good to see her say she was happier and then how they were laughing

So proud of her, even if she never goes back to acting she'll always have solid supporters like me following her journey and wishing her the happiest life available to her✨🌼

@AnderYoutube

Жыл бұрын

same :)

@love-ip7sz

Жыл бұрын

She's done such an important thing with this book she should be very proud of that. I'm proud of her.

It’s a very sad feeling for anyone on this position. I’m happy she’s healing.

she’s so well-spoken and eloquent

I grew up my whole life watching her, loving iCarly, following her closely, I saw her episode of Cupcake Wars for her country music album. And knowing that at that time she'd been suffering anorexia, and here she was on Cupcake Wars, promoting something someone expected her to do, eating these desserts that those bakers had made just for her, knowing that she was probably feeling so much guilt if she truly enjoyed having those cakes, it's really hard to think about and to watch that content the same way again. I'm glad that she's a lot more honest and authentic now. Now, she feels a lot more real. I respected her back then, now I'm in my twenties younger than her by only six years, and I respect her a hell of a lot more now.

Will - thank you all around. Great interview. Very emotional. It helped me. God bless you with safety as you pursue your career.

I hope a lot of people buy this book, especially younger people going through what she has gone through. Mental health therapy is something most people are afraid of dealing with, especially younger people and they think drugs are their temporary answer. She shows a better way through a controlling parent.

I am halfway through the book and her writing is so captivating and the way you see the manipulation in the eyes of a child is so hearbreaking.

I've read some people talk about their abuser dying and feeling like a curse was lifted. Even though Jennette didn't know she was abused, I feel like it happened. She was finally able to understand who she was.

It's amazing how this young lady is strong and brave enough to share her experiences. I know this is helping other sufferers and that this can help them.

What a great interview. I truly value interviews where the questions aren't rude or condendscending but legit curiosity about their subjects!

What a smart, strong, and inspiring woman! She certainly went through a lot but I am so happy to know that she had the courage to be her own person. I look forward to reading the book and to Jennette's future endeavors. I really hope that she has all the love and support from her friends and family. I may not know her personally, but I feel so proud of the person she has now become! I appreciate this interview. Great job, Will Reeve. 😊

This interviewer was amazing❤️

@Queenbee89111

Жыл бұрын

Agree 100 percent

Excited to read this and proud of her for all of this. Very scary to come out and share your life in a way that is very real and easily judged. So many people I’ve come across meet parental abuse with “but they love you deep down and you should know that,” some don’t. And it’s okay to make peace with that as an adult so you can move on in life in the healthiest way possible and not repeat the cycle. Family’s unconditional love is not a real thing, it’s a guise for abuse. We all deserve love, but you also need to hold up your end of the deal. Hope her future is bright and free.

“After having achieved the goal we’ve/she had set… she didn’t feel satisfied…” - ouchie. I felt that. Hit waaaay to close to home. 👀

@plushpg1380

Жыл бұрын

Nuin is never good enough for narcissistic toxic bitches (mom)

Wow great interview...I'm glad she is now free to spread her own wings...God bless

I was immediately unimpressed with the title of her book but decided to pay attention to one of her interviews and oh my gosh...She endured A LOT! I never heard mention of her father, but her mom put her through it, she has no reason to lie, it's the truth. I went through a lot with my mother as well, and can absolutely relate in so many ways. I am so proud of and happy for her for doing this for her younger self and for the woman she is now...Also, for people like me who still do not have the courage to discuss those dark times...Thank you Jennette ♥️♥️

She is so well spoken

Wow she is just so mature and wise it is beautiful to see this come out of such a tragedy good job Jeanette I am so proud of you and I am so sorry you had to endure all of that by your own Mother's Hands I know exactly how that feels..

McCurdy's character on 'iCarly' (Sam Puckett) was obsessed w/food and had a less-than-ideal mother -- these were recurring comedic elements on the show. One wonders whether this was coincidence or something more, something sinister perhaps...

@extrashotofespresso_

Жыл бұрын

I heard it was intentional

@ca8822

Жыл бұрын

@@extrashotofespresso_ Who'd you hear that from?

@erikavaleries

Жыл бұрын

Eery!

she's so mature and wit and I'm a huge fan!!

The instant that last question was asked about what she would want her Mom to know, I verbally said "oh wow...that's going to be tough to answer" ---and turns out it was. I thought she was going to say "I'll have to get back to you on that one." - but she answered it and her answer was the most simple, yet the most complicated path to arrive at to answer. All respect to this young lady. Now that she's done this hard work of sifting through the rubble and knocking down the walls of her life to understand it, you can sense that she'll be able to achieve any goal or challenge l she decides to pursue. Well done Ms. McCurdy. All the best to you.

I'm so sorry to hear.. for her.

Stay sweet stay strong stay 😊 happy

love that this was a refreshing interview; most I've seen were asking the same repetitive questions designed to get a quick headline. This interviewer def did his research and asked thoughtful questions!

Thank you for writing this book Jennette!

I’m going to buy the book. 🙏🏼

I feel for her glad she is trying to help others ❤️ praying for her

She is so courageous and deserves her happiness.

I’m sooo proud of her. 💕

Will buy the book definitely.

Really good questions from Will Reeve.

this is an incredible interview

You can see this guy did his research with the questions. Bravo!

Jeanette is not alone. It happens to other girls, too, and it's very confusing and difficult and embarrassing to admit and to deal with, especially as you get older and have kids of your own. I would never do to my daughter what was done to me by my mother. I also developed an eating disorder and addictions from it that took years to work through. Thank you for sharing your journey 🙏

icarly was my absolute favorite show growing up it makes me so sad to find out what was going on behind the scenes :(

amazing interview

Great interview! An insightful guest and a respectful interviewer; it also appears he actually read the book.

@jayjay85928

Жыл бұрын

Christopher Reed is his father. AKA Superman

@smoothe7635

Жыл бұрын

@@jayjay85928 Awesome! Thank you for telling me.

@06:46 tear dropping reaction

Never heard of her but glad she is working through her issues.

Blood is NOT always thicker than water

@williebelcher9303

Жыл бұрын

That is the truth trust me on that

@sylviaroberts8297

Жыл бұрын

True, the family is a very complicated unit

Happy for you, Jennette!

I am just so proud of her

I can’t wait to buy this book soon !! Jeanettes bravery is awesome. All women and girls who step up with the truth in the world deserve the utmost respect. She’s so mature and is a great role model for how to carry yourself through life with that attitude. Cool to grow up with her and be that tomboy tough and grow up to understand femininity and maturity alongside that same role model. Love you Jeanette 💖💖💖

Iam SO SO PROUD OF HER.

love her

She is infectious.. I would love to see her act I think she could become a legend (more so then she already is)

She's been through ALOT you can tell in her eyes I feel so terrible for her to be very honest yet she is a stronger woman 👠 than people may precieve her as!

Woah this is blowing up😧 the fact that it made ABC news!!! Hope this shines light on Dan Schneider! Dan Schneider, karma is a bitch!!

I could just tell as the show went on The tone of her voice she was tired of a lot of things and fed up but she definitely made the show better❤️

I want to give her a hug

Una muy buena entrevista, preguntas muy profundas, jennette con una increíble habilidad de habla y una grandiosa historia de superación, estot muy orgullosa y feliz por ella.

I love Jennette McCurdy ❤️

I feel the truth in her own words, the experience she went through sounds rough and real, means that she is recovering from years of abuse

She’s a very strong girl.. never was such a fan of her shows or characters but as a person she seems great and didn’t deserve what she was put through with her own mother. 😢

Good interview

I want to read this!

A definite must get,I'm going to get this.

Given the fact that McCurdy has spoken about her recovery from eating disorders (anorexia, bulimia), her current appearance is notable. While she may be 'naturally thin', she nonetheless looks emaciated (see recent photos from her Instagram & her recent interviews on GMA and Nightline). McCurdy doesn't seem to have GAINED much weight since the time she was in 'iCarly' and 'Sam & Cat', and in fact, she may be larger/heavier in photographs from that time than she is now. This is not what one might predict for someone who has RECOVERED from eating disorders. It seems intuitive that many women/girls with anorexia or bulimia will experience a noticeable weight gain after they have recovered. Given the fact that people with such ailments may look to McCurdy's experiences for guidance or support, her current appearance is worthy of discussion. While it is unclear how the interviewer could have broached the topic during this particular interview, one wonders whether he was considering such issues while looking at her.

@soundpilatesandyoga8531

Жыл бұрын

I noticed how thin she has been looking for a while. Her arms are rail thin.

Where is the audiobook narrated by her? I just love her book so much. Definitely not one I'll soon forget.

I read it. It’s very sad. Very funny at times too

I want to read this book so bad!

First off his dad would be so proud of him, he is a great journalist/interviewer. Second I love her so much, she is so brave, I can not wait to read her book.

la amooo

It's extremely sad to hear that her mother was pretty much manipulative and using her just to help the family which isn't right. I honestly wish the mother could've got help with whatever she was struggling with because using your own child as a puppet to provide for the family is just evil! She truly ruined her daughter's life just to make money which was clearly the whole point of why she got her into acting in the first place. It wasn't about Jennette making her as an actor to achieve success it was for her mom to make money which was dark. I'm glad she is doing fine now. I can definitely see Jennette becoming an author. The way she talks and expresses herself is beautiful. I hope to see her inspire and touch a lot of people with her book and many others she create. My heart goes out to her❤

That’s Christopher Reeves’ son interviewing her! I even recognized his dad in him before he said his parents both died young.

Your gonna be fine baby you got this kid 🥰

I have yet to find a Disney kid star who is like a happy and well-adjusted adult

@extrashotofespresso_

Жыл бұрын

She was a Nickelodeon kid but whatever. I think every child actor/star is going to have some sort of trauma story.

I honestly feel for Jeanette Because of what I understand her

SO GOOD

I love you jennete I have trauma two😭❤️

great interviewer and interview!

It was a great read.

I think her mom was a narcissist, they know no bounds when it comes to their evil, controlling, depraved souls

I have plans to order and read this book. I just can’t help but feel sorry for Jennette. Her mother was indeed a pain in the ass for forcing her to be famous, not accepting that acting was something that Jennette wanted to pursue all her life. I can’t wait to read it!

@EMVelez

Жыл бұрын

She was far more than a pain in the ass. She was abusive to her own daughter in every possible way.

I know some former child actors. They all have almost the exact same story. It's crazy.

Love the cover of her book, confetti coming out of a pink coloured urn holding her moms ashes. How appropriate and so her sense of humour. Love what Jennette is wearing here and her hair. Love her acting and natural candid candor and sweet charming cute charisma. I am so happy she has healed through writing this. May her mom find peace and true happiness on the other side. Narcissistic control/ abuse and bullying is never a loving relationship, I am so thankful that is not my experience with either of my parents or big brother. 😍😘🥰🥹🤩👑💎⚜️✨🌟📚✍🏻🙏🏻📺🏆🤍

This man should actually be fired it’s like writing a book report you know nothing on. He has no idea what she was talking about with the shampoo at the end.

I completely understand what kind of mom she had because mine could fit in the same box. I call it the "Coraline's mom syndrome" (if you haven't seen that movie I recommend it, it's called Coraline) and it's like having two moms in one body where the normal one loves you, want you to have a better life than she had, want to take care of you, want and wish your own good... but on the other side there's this eye-buttoned mom who want you besides her all the time, thinks she knows exactly what you want and what you need, thinks she should take all of your decisions so you won't make a single mistake and at that minimum sign you let her know you wanna be free, and she's suffocating you and you wanna be you not a better representation of the things she lacks... she lose it. Just like Jennette I also wanted to be a writer and I've had the dream to write a book that would be similar to hers, but I guess I'm not ready to face some things yet because I still have my mom by my side... My biggest fear is have to wait till she's no longer here to be free (because I can't afford neither therapy or live on my own) and end up with a lot of resentment. I'm so ready to heal but the problem is she isn't 😕

Buy her book support her to be brave and honest