I am now 26 and when I say this poem still sticks with me I was 15 when I discovered this and man oh man

@vt7165

Жыл бұрын

Wow Same. We have the same timeline

@lindseyhandley3270

Жыл бұрын

Sameeee

@diamondlove495

Жыл бұрын

Same I was 12 (I'm 20 now, time really does fly by ❤️)in a difficult childhood and know what I didn't want from this

@stoneyhighhigh3677

Жыл бұрын

It's amazing to see how these words touched us as teens an now transition into womanhood

*NINE YEARS LATER AND THIS POEM STILL GIVES ME CHILLS

@tinkerthetinyrobot

2 жыл бұрын

2022 still hittin

@TheAlreadytaken24

2 жыл бұрын

2022 still listening

@SugieLopez

11 ай бұрын

12 years later, still makes my eyes water 💕

Dear ex lover, I promise I'll stop chasing your memory in my dreams. I'll stop bringing your name up over cups of coffee. muffins, and loneliness. I will marry a man, and I will lay my heart on his chest, like red roses on mahogany caskets. And I'll have his daughter. And she'll have eyes reminding me that God still believes in second chances. And if she ever decided to date a woman, I will love bravery down her spine. I will be reminded of all the times where we loved like there were expiration dates tattooed on our inner thighs. If she ever comes home with eyelids like cracking levies, bruised kneecaps, and a heart full of question marks, I will hold her like my mother never held me. I will clasp her face in my palms like the New Testament on judgement day. I'll tell her that love is the passion that allows you to do the right thing. And no woman can play coaster to half-empty heart. And if she ever feels as if she's alone, As if she is not a hand-me-down fabric pulled out of the depths of mommy's closet, I'll remember your name and I'll mumble it under my breath. And when she asks me what did I say, I'll tell her that I know what it's like to drag a woman out of a cold war, And then being too worn to clean up the battle field that it has made of you. I'll tell her that your heart sounds like gun shows tripping over battered cement. I'll tell her I know what it's like just to want somebody to remember you. And that some women are as foul as expired men in produce aisles. And that apologies are like oxygen masks on hijack planes. Forgive yourself before you ever forgive the person that's sitting next to you. I'll tell her to never regret loving in permanent ink. And that scars only give your stretch marks something to gossip about. And that hearts and stop signs are fraternal twins, Lost in open roads and hollow chests. If my daughter's mirror is ever unfamiliar and she is too embarrassed and prideful to run into mommy's arms, I'll pray that she has friends with hearts filled with thousands of fireflies. Who are not too cool to pray with her. Who will tell her to stop looking for the light at the end of the tunnel and find God in the darkness. If my daughter ever walks in my house like shattering class, I'll tell her about you. I'll tell her that we hurt like C-Sections birthing dead babies. And that we cried together. And that we prayed together. And that we laughed like our smiles were the only ones that mattered in this world. And that we hurt, Like women who loved women, Who loved people that did not love us. Dear Ex Lover, I hope my daughter never knows what a goodbye kiss feels like. I hope she never knows what "I'll see you later" really means. I hope she never memorizes the dial tone of a last conversation. Because a broken heart feels like poisoned butterflies taking their last flutters in the pit of your stomach. Dear Ex Lover, I hope my daughter never bears her soul at a poetry showcase, With her first love sitting in the audience- Knowing the same hands she'll use to applaud her with, Will be the same hands that will never hold her again.

@mariemecisse1347

7 жыл бұрын

Wow.Speechless.Haunting

@flottdmarieforde5739

7 жыл бұрын

Tijahnae King wow

@mrs.juliojones6816

7 жыл бұрын

Tijahnae King thank u

@glowinglowa.k.agloriaelsah6084

6 жыл бұрын

Tijahnae King : im cryin a lot

@curlyrae8775

6 жыл бұрын

Tijahnae King hu

" Stop looking for light at the end of the tunnel and find God in the darkness " Wow I love that part. This poem is so heartfelt.

@Dehnia31

7 жыл бұрын

Call Her Red yes that line was dope! One of my best lines

@kaytal013

7 жыл бұрын

Call Her Red Yassss!

@elishamiyahira4301

6 жыл бұрын

Call Her Red m

@bangtanwings4854

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, that line struck me most.

coming back to this poem over 7 years later and i still cried like it was the first time. So appreciative of her talents, she was one of the driving forces for why i started writing & doing spoken word.

¨Dear Ex-Lover, I hope my daughter never knows what a goodbye kiss feels like." powerful

Still gets me everytime. "I'll tell her about you."

Every time I watch it it's Like my first time watching. . She's amazing

The part that had me was when she said "I'll tell her to never regret loving in permanent ink" and at the end when she said "I hope my daughter never bares her soul at a poetry showcase, with her first love sitting in the audience knowinh that the hands she'll use to applaud her with Will be the same hands that will never hold her again"

@lifeworksndhenterprisesllc6597

6 жыл бұрын

Jennah Moss a classic I even I had tell boyfriend either we can't make through like a dead pan stereotype special ed class making a stuttering cause,okay?

This poem never gets old .

listening to this while in a relationship vs. going through a breakup is an experience. damn.

My God this woman can make you cry. Her voice, the soul behind it all is what brings tears to my eyes, I can't help relate to such dreary lines, reminding those of who hurt us so much, such ingrates and their lies.

"Apologies are like oxygen masks on a hijacked plane, forgive yourself before you ever forgive the person sitting next to you"

@nishyla

8 жыл бұрын

*to

@SovereignStarzFlow

8 жыл бұрын

Love this line

@nishyla

8 жыл бұрын

+Chance Epps me too!!!

@StefanStuart1

2 жыл бұрын

Much love hun x

@Jess-xl1wd

Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

"I hope my daughter never knows what a goodbye kiss really feels like." got me, but then the last minute shattered me.

The final lines of this poem really hit me so hard because I did that! I read a poem about a guy that absolutely shattered me, at a poetry reading with him sitting in the FRONT row, knowing that that would be the last time I ever feel his arms. This poem is so real! Thank you!

@alexyirving9635

7 жыл бұрын

I performed my first poem in front of the ex it was about too. Strength has no words for it

All the 100's of times that I watched this video I felt & completely understood her pain but never once did I cry until this very moment idk why it made me cried but I did Update: still watching this video 2 years later & I feel the same exact way

2016 and still love this

@freesince1865

8 жыл бұрын

yyyaassss

@jillianthornton3840

7 жыл бұрын

2017 and stil loving this

@asias3000

7 жыл бұрын

Jillian Thornton same

This poem has still made me feel all warm inside and teary eyed . I discovered Jasmine Years ago and this is the poem that made me fall in love with her craft !

@mayaalston1488

5 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY. still relevant.

I don't know if I should tear up from the feels or give a loud clap that wouldn't be heard by anyone but myself.

My favorite piece from her. Especially now going through a breakup with my girlfriend. "And that we laughed like our smiles were the only ones that mattered in this world. And that we hurt, Like women who loved women, Who loved people that did not love us."

Wow!!! She just ETHERED her ex lover!!! Her ex lover left her for whatever reason, shattered her but Jasmine survived and she is reborn as a result! She became powerful, a vessel, a testament of rebirth, a messenger to her someday daughter. She "will hold her like her mother never held her, she will clasp her face in her palms like the New Testament on Judgement Day" Powerful!!! I wonder if her "Ex-Lover" knew she was about to get body bagged in the audience when she went to see her ex perform this night. She took her ex and put her and a body bag and put the body bag in a body bag!!! Applaud her Ex Lover... without you we might never have discovered Ms Mans... so applaud her!!! It's probably because of you she discovered her gift... but it was God that instilled it in her, you just woke it up, so applaud her but you can't hold her ever again.

@lizabrannon8022

10 жыл бұрын

She is the one in the body bag, not her ex. This is not a poem of victory and joy, it is a poem of death and sorrow. I know what it feels like to love a woman but know that you could never make the choice to live in her arms. I know what it feels like to fear never finding love again because the truest love you have ever felt came with a vagina, and shame, pain, sin. I know what it is to feel like you are slapping your God in the face everytime you touch her, kiss her, go to bed with her, love her. I know what it feels like to say no to love just so you can say yes to God. I know what it feels like to die.

@DestinyTheBeautiful

9 жыл бұрын

Liza Luther I'm glad to know that even with the pain that came with it you chose Him and I'm sorry it had to hurt.

@kaytal013

7 жыл бұрын

Liza Luther I'm glad you clarified that cause I was confused for a minute.....I thought the poem was about what Jasmine went through from breaking her Ex Lovers heart or something like that. lol! Please share any insight you might have on what Jasmine's poem meant cause I would love to hear your take on it. Now shade to the brother or sister who originally posted their take. I don't always get the right perception on what certain poems mean either.

@aiken3589

7 жыл бұрын

Liza Luther that was beautiful

@lizabrannon8022

7 жыл бұрын

Please let me know what you would like more clarification on and I will be happy to share.

I will love bravery down her spine! DAMN!

@setonida5514

8 жыл бұрын

finest line too

@kaytal013

7 жыл бұрын

Ronnie Gabriel I love that line! #yassss

no matter how old the video gets, her words refresh me everytime I come back. I love J.M. with everything in me.

Every TIME!!! Almost 11 years laters and I'm teary eyed!!

that very last part always gets me

I’ll always come back here. Happy national poetry month

Every time I watch this. I get chills.

@kimberlycondiff9858

8 жыл бұрын

Same

This still gives me shivers, regardless of how many times ive watched this.

I needed to hear this. I can totally relate to this. in tears:(

@setonida5514

8 жыл бұрын

I know what its like just to watch someone to remember you

Back again ! I still play this poem to help me through . Thank you

This video makes me cry everytime I listen to it... So powerful!

AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFUL ... God bless the the wounded fruit of this world... And please keep your armor of protection around this nation's nurturers for we are all your children...Mold us into what you want us to be... Amen..

Oh god. I have long been searching for a poem that has made me have goose bumps this way since "Just Friends" and "For Colored Girls" and I think... Part of my heart died with her and part of it revived with her. Just all the snaps. Everything about this makes me want to stand and applaud you.

@10fame254

9 жыл бұрын

who is "Just Friends" written by?

2021 and I'm still crying my eyes out because of this

wow....She is so amazing and brave.

no woman can play coaster to an half empty heart! Deep! snaps

@alexandrabanda8092

8 жыл бұрын

What exactly does this line mean?

@bayou1swagg

8 жыл бұрын

+Alexandra banda it means no woman should be loved by the left over part of a heart. basically don't half love ppl. imo

@netaimondal6848

5 жыл бұрын

Felicia Redmond xxx

I love and understand Jasmine Mans. She is one of my favorite poets. WOW!!! Still crying.

This had me in tears and this has helped me with my past situation that just seemed so hard to get over. My heart just felt so weak and bitter always a smile on my face but inside a freezer. I just want to thank you for allowing me release my tears that I have always bottled up inside. Giving me the chance to show my insides and not my outsides. I just have to say you have a gift and that god specially created you lots of love.

this spoke volumes to me. I just cried. no poem has ever made me cry.

I heard this poem almost a decade ago and it always broke me the emotions she puts in her spoken word my goodness..glad ive healed. Such a talented woman!

"A broken heart feels like poison butterflies taking their last flutters in the pit of your stomach." Amazing.

Found this poem my freshmen year and ever since then I loved it and I still cry listening to it.

Wow this was amazing! Reminds me of my last relationship. Although I'm over the situation, this reminds me of the pain of that situation. I truly hope no one experiences it. To love too deeply is to allow yourself to come undone.

2018 and i still listen to this.

@lauren1389

6 жыл бұрын

Lord Sandwich same

@aaliyahhunter642

5 жыл бұрын

2019❤️

"a broken heart feels like poisoned butterflies taking their last flutter in the pit of your stomach"....

@bellalovato7558

7 жыл бұрын

Candace Parker my favorite part

@candaceparker9563

7 жыл бұрын

Bella Lovato. I love it

I've probably watched this 100 times and it still affects me emotionally. Amazing talent!

I can watch this over and over again and still shed tears

" Your poem doesn't start until you tell the truth " #SpeakYourTruth *Poet4Life

Listened to the poem for 12+ years and today I finally felt the words in my life.I’ll miss that lady and love her forever 🥹💔

Dear Ex Lover, I promise I’ll stop chasing your memory in my dreams. I’ll stop bringing your name up over cups of coffee, muffins, and loneliness. I will marry a man and I will lay my heart on his chest like red roses on Mahogany caskets and I’ll have his daughter and she’ll have eyes reminding me that God still believes in second chances. And if she ever decided to love a woman, I will rub bravery down her spine. I will be reminded of all the times that we loved, like there were expiration dates tattooed on our inner thighs. If she ever comes home with eyelids like cracking Levis and bruised kneecaps and a heart filled with question marks I will hold her like my mother never held me. I will clasp her face in my palms like the new testament on judgement day. I’ll tell her that love is the passion that allows you to do the right thing, and that no woman can play coaster to a half empty heart. And if she ever feels as if she is alone, as if she is a hand-me-down pulled out of the depths of mummy’s closet. I’ll remember your name and I’ll mumble it under my breath and if she asks me what I said; I’ll tell her I know what it’s like to drag a woman out of a cold war and then being too worn to clean up the battlefield that it has made of you. I’ll tell her that your heartbeat sounded like gun shells tripping over battered cement. I’ll tell her that i know what it’s like just to want someone to remember you and that some women are as foul as expired men in produce isles and that apologies are like oxygen masks on a hijacked plane. Forgive yourself before you ever forgive the person sitting next to you. I’ll tell her to never regret loving in permanent ink, and that scars only give you stretch marks, something to gossip about and that hearts and stop signs are fraternal twins, lost in open roads and hollow chests. And if my daughter’s mirror ever looks unfamiliar and she’s too embarrassed and prideful to run into mummy’s arms I’ll pray, that she has friends with hearts filled with thousands of fire flies, who are not too cool to pray with her, who will tell her to stop looking for the light at the end of the tunnel and find God in the darkness. If my daughter ever walks in my house like shattering glass, I’ll tell her about you. I’ll tell her that we hurt like c-sections birthing dead babies, and that we cried together, and we prayed together, and we laughed like our smiles were the only ones that mattered in this world. And that we hurt like women who loved women, who loved people that did not love us. Dear Ex Lover,I hope my daughter never knows what a goodbye kiss feels like… I hope she never knows what “I’ll see you later.” really means. I hope she never memorizes the dial-tone of a last conversation, because a broken heart feels like poisoned butterflies taking their last flutters in the pit of your stomach Dear Ex Lover, I hope my daughter never bears her soul at a poetry showcase with her first love sitting in the audience, knowing that the hands she’ll use to applaud her with, will be the same hands that will never hold her again. genius.com/Jasmine-mans-dear-ex-lover-annotated

Wow I'm speechless totally speechless. A million word can't explain how I feel about this poem...

I watched this a year ago, I watched it again, and I still have the same feeling. Jasmine, you are an amazing poet.

Man i absolutely love this like yesss, never gets old 💞

In tears. 😭😭😭 This is so heartfelt. So much soul into this.

@keimiahpettaway2157

6 жыл бұрын

amourlashai ppl

This makes me cry every time man, she has a beautiful way with her words.

I wish I could like this more than once !!

Years later and this still is and will always be my favorite piece of art.

Whenever I need to be inspired I come and listen to this.... Thank you Jasmine!!!!

Have watched this a million times!!! And till this day I still love it just as much as I did day one !!!!! 😩

2017 and I'm still getting chills from her words

I crieddddd when I first heard this.! Heartbreak HURTS

2017 and still craving over this poem

I've watched this poem so many times. Powerful so amazing. Love.

"Stop looking for the the light at the end of the tunnel and find God in the darkness" Such a powerful statement

I held my breath during the whole poem ... This poem is EVERYTHING " I know what its like to drag a woman out of a Cold War and then being to worn to clean up the battle field it has made of you"

Jasmine Mans, Jasmine Mans... how do I always end up at this poem. I've never felt every ounce of a poem before until this one. Years later, I feel it even more.

This is one of the most beautifully uncomfortable and personal things I have ever seen. I love how she let's us in. One of my favorite poems of all time. Thanks Ms. Mans.

she is amazing. a beautiful soul. this touched me so much. i nearly cried after the last line...

I listen to this every day ! I love her !!

I remember adoring this piece during heartbreak in my teens, so beautiful ❤

This poem always gets me all up in my feelings... I've loved like this

My God so feel this right now!!! My "Dear Ex-Lover" was male but pain and lost is the same it just hurts!!! Still I rise.

WOW is all I can say! She is truly amazing and I must find her!

Listening to this still and I’m hearing this is 2020!! Almost 10 years later.

No words to describe this blessed incantation ! Love !

I remember hearing this when I was broken. When I couldn't with my own life. I was barely 18. I cried and cried and after 12 years I rewatched but this time I cried out of happiness. Ohhhh lord how beautiful has life turned out to be. I've fallen in love with her words

jesus. that was one of the most powerful things i've ever had the pleasure of listening to.

I watch this every single day. Multiple times. I lobe it so much.

This poem gave me goosebumps.. That's how good it was...WOW!!! It's beautiful.

Every time I hear this poem, watch this performance, it makes me feel. This woman makes me feel, and she makes me think, and she makes me believe, in women, and truths, and a truer idea of God than the one I grew up learning about.

Nothing absolutely nothing like this performance right here. I come back to it so often and cry everytime.

Still here 8 years later!!!

i love this poem, always makes me cry, beautiful!!!

Wow this was soooo deep and inspiring

i heard this and cried.... God bless u, I know what you were going thru

2018 and I still love this! Speaks to my soul so much ♥️

I listen to this every couple of months and have memorised it to the word. It will always feel just as haunting as the day I first heard it.

This was beautiful brave and empowering Jasmine. Keep sharing your truths.

I love this! Could listen to her all day. She's amazing!

Just can't stop listening... Wow no words. Thank you for sharing your heart and soul on stage... Thank you!!!

I just heard this poem a month ago and i love this poem. In this poem you can the hurt. I rarely listen poetry. but i absolutely love this poem

I can watch this poem over and over again and everytime i find a new part that i just LOVE or can relate to! Thank you for sharing.

Ive listened to this more that once & each time it still hits me right in the same spot. I shed a tear each time I hear this because it seems as though she took the pain from my heart and placed it in word form. She is amazing!!!

I cant get enough of this poem oh my god it gives me goosebumps

This has got to be my favorite poem I've heard the emotion in her voice brings it to a whole new level.

This filled my heart with so many emotions. One of the most beautiful pieces I've ever heard. It brought tears to my eyes.

This poem gives me chills EVERYTIME I hear it. Never fails. Just beautiful!

You've pulled at my heart in a way I didn't think was still possible. This was beautiful and more powerful thank you.

God this made me cry. I felt this all in my heart😣💔

dear jasmine, this poem helps me during my times of heartbreak.. and im sure it helps hundreds of other people too. Thank you