The warehouse idea is genius because (1) they can see the volume of stuff and (2) they get to experience a cleaned out house. And she lets them be in control. Great approach.

@clementinemonroe717

4 жыл бұрын

ITS NEVER ENOUGH STUFF IS THE PROBLEM THIS ONLY MAKES THEM MORE PANICKED

@laurabundy3760

4 жыл бұрын

I hope there's a time restriction

@bobbiholmes2274

4 жыл бұрын

something i wish they'd do that here in the U.S i hate seeing the fear and the panic that a lot of these people have because they cant really see it all.

@alecludford7944

4 жыл бұрын

I feel like for someone that is cleaning up a mess the warehouse idea is great but for a hoarder it is just pretty much moving the mess somewhere else. If, like someone commented above, there was a time limit that would make more sense. However, I feel like this could potentially just be moving the problem from the house to another location. I would say in most of these situations 99.9% of the stuff is trash and just needs to be tossed and they should start over. Especially in the situations where there is just trash, mold, bacteria, feces everywhere.

@SuperTonyony

4 жыл бұрын

@@clementinemonroe717 COULD YOU SPEAK UP? I CAN BARELY HEAR YOU!

Been watching hoarding shows again. Cleaned my whole kitchen, did all the laundry, took bottles to the recyling and changed my sheets! These shows are amazing.

@sandratrudeau

2 жыл бұрын

It motivates me also to clean. I would never, ever want to have a horder's house. So sad.

@zxyatiywariii8

2 жыл бұрын

Whatever works 🤷🏾‍♀️

@ALinn-vr3nl

2 жыл бұрын

Well done! These shows inspire me, too.

@dudeorduuude5211

2 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I do. When I resist cleaning, I watch one of these, get horrified, and then clean, haha!

@SJH2022

2 жыл бұрын

Same, just cleaned the oven

Anyone else watch these shows as inspiration to get rid of stuff and get organizing?

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

I'm watching it to get tips on how to help a hoarder in the family do some de-cluttering. There are lots of good tips on how to approach hoarders. The tip that the hoarder should always be made to feel in control of the process is very useful, I find. Also the tip not to overwhelm hoarders with too much activity at once, as this gets them into a panic over loss of control.

@Jean-gf3fi

4 жыл бұрын

DEFINITELY!!!!

@marysunshine170

4 жыл бұрын

Texas Red Oh, yes!

@Mumummymom

4 жыл бұрын

All the time....

@dianaposada6781

4 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah!! the only problem is that i got rid of so many things, that i don't have to much to put out anymore😜😜😜😜😜😜

That hoarding expert who talked to Richard is amazing, he managed to get through his defensive barrier after just chatting with him for a short while. I can see why he really is an expert

@Dimorac

3 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah definitely. Richard thought he was being smart by slamming out all the problems right away like bullet points. The expert instantly shut that down and dug deeper amazing work

I suffer from hoarding to fill an emotional hole. Thank you so so much for this video. It's given me the motivation to ask for help. Congratulations to your mum. Thank you again 🌺

@natalianik7908

5 жыл бұрын

Proud of you!!!

@betteridge69

5 жыл бұрын

Well done! 1 step at a time! Wishing you luck in your future x

@gillianbrookwell1678

5 жыл бұрын

Congratulations. My ex refuses after years that he doesn't have a problem.

@gknee3

5 жыл бұрын

Well done! I hope it's going well!

@nnicoolee411ns

4 жыл бұрын

My grandmother was a horder, i dont know how she cleaned it but she did..did not go there for years and then one day went over eveything was cleand except one pile in her bedroom. she had 8 room in the house filled.

Love how the little old lady's hair accessories match her outfits everyday haha

@SuperAntiblack

5 жыл бұрын

Ethen I saw it also, you are right so lovely!

@Lookatmeshine

5 жыл бұрын

I didn't notice but what a cute little detail!

@gan-ban6083

4 жыл бұрын

She is adorable. And as an American hearing the Brits talk I feel so enamored. They are so polite and sweet about everything!

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

@@gan-ban6083 Richard and that other guy sometimes were definitely not polite or sweet when their hoards were touched in a way they didn't like!

@missthunderstormable

4 жыл бұрын

how does she find it lol

he can't bent down to clean it up but he can bent down to check what they have thrown away!!

@elizabethtrainer9732

4 жыл бұрын

He's a lazy bastard.

@davidking4779

4 жыл бұрын

It is not physical, it is mental. They really mentally can't clean up the mess.

@briarrose5208

4 жыл бұрын

People who don't want to take responsibility say "I can't" when they mean "I won't." I would be so outta there! His poor wife!

@KR-nv3ru

4 жыл бұрын

Lazy, entitled f@cker.

@elliejones8818

4 жыл бұрын

Its not that he cant bend down its rhe illness making him make up an excuse they dont know there hoarders

cleaned my room after this

@rainalawrence2978

4 жыл бұрын

Just cleaned out my drawers!

@kittykatwolf8294

4 жыл бұрын

Me too! And did a load to the dump!

@carolehayden8566

4 жыл бұрын

I cleaned my stove after this.

@kellyjohn26

4 жыл бұрын

😁😁😁😁

@kellyjohn26

4 жыл бұрын

Thank God I throw away unwanted things

As I take my journey to free myself of hoarding, I’ve learned that I attached my identity to my stuff that I feel like I’m throwing myself out. What has been working for me: meditation. Self affirmations that I am my smile, I am my laugh, I am giving heart. I’m not a sheet of paper, I’m not a piece of plastic. Learning to separate myself from the outside items. I started recording my journey, to let people understand how my brain works as I go through all the stuff. How I struggling with making decisions. I will heal from my hoarding mindset...piece by piece, day by day.

@circlegtrashfarm

4 жыл бұрын

I recommended you to a commentor above! I've been subscribed to you for awhile and your videos have helped me find ways of dealing with my own messes without being completely overwhelmed. 💕

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

Well done. I actually felt a bit sick at the level of materialism displayed by some of the hoarders. Their attachment to their junk is like Gollum's attachment to his 'precious' in 'Lord of the Rings' or like an alcoholic to his bottle. I know it's a disease and they mostly can't help it, but the level of fixation on physical objects at the cost of human relationships and dignity is almost sickening.

@alamedadanceparty

5 ай бұрын

@@Londonfogeysometimes in the hoarder shows I’ve watched, the person reveals that things cannot hurt them, but people can. So things are safe and comfortable and never abandon them. Every person is different, but I think the more we understand the underlying issues causing the compulsive behaviour, the more compassion we can have. Also, if you were to exchange alcohol for hoarding, you’ll see how it’s the same kind of addictive disease that damages relationships and isolates oneself. It’s really sad.

Maryanne is such a sweet lady - so sad she’s stuck with an angry husband ☹️.

Whatever we think of the guy, Richard's house must be worth a fortune. Even in that condition. Exaggerating? Check the price of 4 floor, 12 room victorian townhouse in prime London. He's a literal multi-millionaire.

@davidrenton

3 жыл бұрын

i know and i found it weird when he said it's 30 years old, more like 130.

@JJ-iq8mi

3 жыл бұрын

@@davidrenton Exactly. Funny how hoarders make up the strangest excuses for their clutter, as if the rest of us will actually believe it as they convince themselves to do.

@sarcasticallyrearranged

3 жыл бұрын

My favorite hoarder excuse is when they say that someone broke in and made a mess! Can you imagine keeping a straight face?

@mwall8687

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarcasticallyrearranged they definitely seem like they manipulate beyond. It just goes to show how awful the disorder is ..they are so desperate to keep stuff they resort to dirty tactics.

@zxyatiywariii8

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah but sometimes, when they stuff is cleared out, there's been so much structural damage (mold, mice, dry rot, etc) the house isn't safe to live in. There was a house like this in San Francisco, the owner died but when the junk was all cleaned out, the house itself failed safety inspection and had to be torn down. 😕

What these ladies are doing isn't just helping people. They are giving them love... and hope. They are giving them this hope that they deserve love. That takes a lot of patience... and sympathy. I respect them so much

I only got about 15 minutes into this before I had to get up and throw away about 30-35 things. Everyone in my family hoards to a certain degree. My house is clean though cluttered, and I can have several guests stay overnight in comfort. No one trips over things on the floor, at least. I have spaces I intentionally keep EMPTY, like the dark back corner of cupboards - I fill the space with an EMPTY cardboard box, just to keep myself from putting "things" back there. When we bought this big house, almost the first thing we did was to take all the doors off the upper kitchen cupboards and the bedroom closets. If I can't see something, then I forget that I have it, and I am at great risk of buying a duplicate. But stuff still sneaks up on me, starts piling up, and it is frightening. There's a "give away" box permanently in the back of my car. I donate the usable excess about once a week.

@veraraspopova9620

4 жыл бұрын

It is actually really scary to read your comment because reading it I’m keep thinking “shit, this is how it usually gets started”, even if it’s not true (I hope so) I still cannot help myself

@PsychoWolf14

4 жыл бұрын

The cardboard box to fill an empty space to keep from storing to much stuff is a really good idea.

@blessisrael6455

4 жыл бұрын

I don't hoard and most people don't. This is a mental illness and they need professionals. It stems from fear. It's not about stuff.

@Tina06019

4 жыл бұрын

PsychoWolf14 Thank you, how kind of you to say so. I didn’t think of this method until we moved into this house, which has excessively deep storage. This method is still working, and I still binge-watch shows like this every 3 months or so to jump-start a purging session. Fortunately, I don’t like shopping, and that’s a big help.

@JennyNobody

4 жыл бұрын

I feel this so hard. My childhood home has horrifyingly deep pantry cupboards (deeper than any average human arm can reach) that my Mom who struggles with hoarding ends up filling all the way to the back. She's doing a lot better these days, but the pantry is still a struggle! I'm gonna share this strategy with her, maybe it will help!

Jasmine, Your experience with you own mom makes you the perfect host. The kind, understanding way you help each person question the way that they view their stuff, helps them think it through and see how it's hurting them and how letting go can help them walk towards freedom. It's helpful even to those that have other addiction issues. Bless you for your efforts to help those that are suffering to recover.

@MrMelcon77

3 жыл бұрын

Also, you are super hot.

@Dimorac

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrMelcon77 and you're a creep

@loopiewho

3 жыл бұрын

yes i really agree that Jasmine is perfect i was so angry at my dad for being a bloody hoarder most of my life .i cant tell you how angry and frustrated i was so when watching hoarder programs i used to want to slap some of the people . but after seeing jasmine i do not feel like that now any more i am so much more patient and understanding .but i do feel anger and there are flash points when they seem to over look the help in such a selfish ungrateful way .it makes my blood boil i just have to drink some cool aid lol sometimes is all

@adevore1971

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrMelcon77 lol. I don't think you're a creep for saying that.. she is really pretty

I wish there was an update on the hoarders, the stories don't really have a end.

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

True, but oftentimes there sadly isn't a happy ending with hoarders. The programmes that go for the 'quick fix' where a hoard house is turned into a show home in 28 minutes including commercial breaks, just are not realistic.

@EC2019

3 жыл бұрын

Based on online articles in various papers/magazines, Jasmine had to give up on her mother because she just never changed. She rarely sees her now. Google "Jasmine Harman", stuff pops up.

@JPKnapp-ro6xm

3 жыл бұрын

They don't do updates, because about 75% of hoarders re-hoard after a cleanup.

@sarcasticallyrearranged

3 жыл бұрын

More like 97% without following up with intensive therapy.

@barbarajones9385

2 жыл бұрын

@@JPKnapp-ro6xm There really needs to be regular monitoring so yhe hoarder doesn't tegress, once every three months for example. The problem there being who pays for it...

Richard is a LITTLE bit in denial? Did he just blame the design of his house for his compulsive hoarding? #goodluckjasmine

@deerheart87

5 жыл бұрын

I think they all have severe denial issues

@crazyk8e1

5 жыл бұрын

I think that for many with hoarding issues there is often a denial about the trauma that led to them developing the disorder in the first place. They repress what they've felt for so long that it manifests itself as denial in one way or another, but mostly with regards to the state of their home. They are quite literally blind to how unsafe this mess can be on top of the fact the mess is even there.

@koreajapan03

5 жыл бұрын

He is just a plain lazy. Look when he was changing the bulb, he just threw the old one on the floor

@gillianbrookwell1678

5 жыл бұрын

Most hoarders are always in denial and if you intervene they become very defensive and start a huge argument Its nothing to do with the shape or form of the home, and the bigger the house is, more stuff keeps piling up..

@annaleigh1563

5 жыл бұрын

Don't be mean to someone you've never met. It makes you a bully and nobody likes a bully.

"I see these books as friends" is a heartbreaking line.

The truth is Alan wouldn’t make a good grandad. He’s very self centred, self absorbed & probably couldn’t care less about how his family feel, now or ever. He only cleared the hoard when he had absolutely no other choice. Marianne would have made a good grandmother but she was too co-dependant to Alan’s narcissism & wasn’t able to get much of a chance to do so.

@loopiewho

3 жыл бұрын

I SEE WHAT YOU MEAN ,BUT HE MADE A MASSIVE ADJUSTMENT THOU YOU HAVE TO GIVE HIM THAT

@ALinn-vr3nl

2 жыл бұрын

I think it wasn't co-dependency, but that she was bullied by him. His rage is intimidating, as seems to be the case with many hoarders toward their family.

My aunt is a hoarder. She lived in my house for a few months, and her mess just flooded the entire house. She would tell me she was tidying the room and later when checking for any improvement I would see that she only piled up things in a different corder... She arrived with one suitcase and left with 4 in five months... Her hoarding made me psychologically ill to the point of staying in bed. She left last week and I decluttered and cleaned the entire house, my life is so much better without her hoarding, I feel sorry for her but I'm glad I have my house back!!

I absolutely love Jasmine. Whatta huge heart she has!

I've watched all three episodes, I've watched this one last. I've got to say Richard's attitude is making it really difficult to feel any empathy towards him.

@jessicasparkle

4 жыл бұрын

Natalie McMasters I agree! The other two didn’t piss me off cause I could see the illness but Richards attitude STINKS. He doesn’t want to spend tome talking about beans...neither do those angelic helpers!!!

@JoeyGonzalezFineArt

4 жыл бұрын

Richard is a self importance windbag. Serves him right for loosing his house in the process.

@nathalya5882

4 жыл бұрын

He think hes smart.....

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

@@nathalya5882 Richard definitely has the 'hoarder look' in his eyes. You see it with most hoarders, a bit like Gollum when he sees his 'precious'. It's a look of fear/mistrust/panic/ confusion/towards anyone or anything that wants to take their stuff away.

@Mumummymom

4 жыл бұрын

“Good God a pencil!!!” Really in all that???

Jasmine is pure ♥️ She is so kind to her mother and everyone! 😭

@j-stilt9746

4 жыл бұрын

Hi sexy

@Jean-gf3fi

4 жыл бұрын

really like the way she treats people

Jasmine Harman is an absolute angel sent from heaven, there is no way I would go into any of those houses without a HAZMAT suit on!

i cried HARD when jasmines mums was having a chat with her hand dad.. beautiful..

@amirayeet3727

5 жыл бұрын

Me to

@SuperAntiblack

5 жыл бұрын

@@amirayeet3727 Me too!

@natwest1971

4 жыл бұрын

Me too. Lost it.

I'm not a psychologist. But this is what I've put together from watching these types of shows- 1. An abnormal childhild that leaves a person emotionally needy or having difficulty attaching to parents. Not neccessarily what you'd call a "difficult" childhood, but still a somewhat dysfunctional one. 2. A sudden trauma in adulthood or series of emotional traumas, such as car wreck that kills a child, a home invasion or death of both parents right after each other. This is usually how it starts. Obviously, not everyone with these in their past become hoarders, so there may be a genetic component as well. Hoarding is comorbid with other disorders like OCD and depression.

@SarahMilton64

5 жыл бұрын

I like your explanation. Dealing with loss can make people hoard to compensate for the loss.

@tinydancer2544

5 жыл бұрын

@A Adams. That's exactly how I view it. Very well said 👏

@annaleigh1563

5 жыл бұрын

I'm not a psychologist but I am now the person in charge of her brothers hoard. His hoard killed him. I am watching now to try and make sense of it all. One thing I've surmised is that he was the slow kid, never accepted, only tolerated. I was his protector. I couldn't protect him from himself, though. It's a long story, 61 years long. I've thought of keeping a journal of the cleanup and then taking it with me to see a psychologist in an effort to "let go". His hoard is unbelievable. I felt a connection with Richard in knowing my own brothers words that he said before he died.... "You can clean it up but I'm a hoarder and I'll only fill it up again". As of now it's taken 4 weeks and countless man hours to find and rescue his 3 cats. We've cleared thousands of pounds of stuff and still have yet to clear one room. I'm going alone today to clean a bathroom for us. It's hell being there. I cuss a lot but on the same note, I could not love him more. God bless the families of hoarders...it's very difficult to save our loved ones when they will not let us in. Rest in peace, dear brother. We've got it from here. 👫❤✌

@jamilgotcher5456

5 жыл бұрын

I think they have OCD that they inherited genetically.

@danny_dice

4 жыл бұрын

¹

Alan is lucky his wife is still there. I would've left ......

@greenkitty82

5 жыл бұрын

Elan2017 Tee she certainly loves him enough to put up with it but still, she is in danger and it's hard to convince someone that it's a problem when they are in denial of it. Like any mental illness denial is usually the first response, and the sadness of it is that their grandchildren can't come over to play. As well as them going to grow up fast and be teenagers, they will lose all those missed memories (you don't get love from material things!) and family are irreplaceable. Family should always come first.

@BedCrunch

5 жыл бұрын

Perhaps she cannot leave him as money is thin and she has nowhere else to go. I cannot imagine loving someone that makes your environment a junkyard - and be fine with that. I think one gets deeply wounded and ashamed of it.

@Irene-gq4jr

5 жыл бұрын

I am that woman who left. The hoarding (and it wasn't even this bad) is just the cherry on the turd, an external manifestation of the overall mental chaos and cognitive dissonance. I tried for 7 years, there were some improvements but there is only so much patience one can have with a man in his mid-50s who can't pay his bills yet buys BB guns and bows and arrows he will never use in order to impress his friends who rarely visit. I even suggested counselling only to be told "There's fuck all wrong with ME!" Ok, it must be me then. I'm gone. When I read what I've just written it sounds so ridiculous I wonder why I stayed with him for as long as I did.

@littledistractions

5 жыл бұрын

Easier said than done. It's like saying so someone who gets abused by their partner "you should leave".

@gillianbrookwell1678

5 жыл бұрын

I stayed with a hoarder for 40 years, and in the end I did leave. We are now divorced and I have a clean and tidy home.

I think the only analogy that makes me understand their behaviour is that they see the stuff as their medicine. Like, imagine you had hundreds of different types of medicine and you had to take all of them or you’d die and then some stranger comes along and starts throwing them out, telling you they’re rubbish. And you try to tell them, no I need them it’s my medicine but they look at you like you’re crazy. I think that’s the level of attachment they have, that without the stuff they feel like they’d die.

Jasmines respect for every person and their possessions and her patience is outstanding.

I can only imagine how difficult this can be during this pandemic period where people have to stay indoors.

I can relate with developing attachment with my things, like books and clothes. I consider them friends. And that made me let them go because I feel they're not happy being piled up, not being read or worn. You don't want your friends to be unhappy and unnoticed. So I thank them for making me happy the time we met and I want them to be happy too by being read/worn and by being of service to others. If they're too worn, I thank them for their service and then let go. I think it's one of the principles of Konmari method. I wish them all luck and I congratulate them with every step of improvement for a better, less stressed, happy life.

@ninaslivka126

4 жыл бұрын

I. Need. This. Thank you!

@sarcasticallyrearranged

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, I can't imagine wasting all that time and energy on discarding an inanimate object. I understand liking certain items, but not to the point where it's such a huge ordeal.

@zxyatiywariii8

2 жыл бұрын

Omg yes, the Konmari method can be awesome for the people who have this problem.

Jasmine's mother is terribly brave and stronger than she thinks. It takes great strength to be that vulnerable and allow the world to be in your therapy session

I wish I could help people with this. I love organizing and cleaning up clutter. The issue is that it is such a psychological issue that the person has to want to be helped.. it is the family members that struggle more than the actual hoarders

@TubeTorte

5 жыл бұрын

They don't want the help of organizers. I worked with a couple for years and every moment was a struggle. On one level they knew they couldn't handle it (hence hiring me a few hours a week), but it wasn't until health problems & age forced them to sell that their children had it all taken out. It is a matter of control so working with them is pretty horrible.

@shereeoz

2 жыл бұрын

Me too I love sorting

This is quite an emotional roller coaster for the daughter. She expressed sadness and joy in a half hr.

23:50... he's just holding his wife hostage with his tantrum-behaviour. I'd have left him YEARS ago.

@soulextracter

5 жыл бұрын

@@deerheart87 It's a little thing called love. And she knows that it's a sickness, not a choice.

@bobbyschmurda7500

5 жыл бұрын

@@soulextracter Beautiful answer. It's called love, no one seems to know what that word even means. He's been through a lot, fuck faces; why would he live in so much negativity if his life was positive? It's called depression, you fill this hole with things... Drugs, over working yourself, sleeping too much, games, hoarding, etc... Some ppl take it too far, but why?

@littledistractions

5 жыл бұрын

Very easy for people to say to just leave. If you saw my situation I think you'd understand. If everyone left my dad for example, he'd not survive. Hard to talk about really but if you care for someone, or the situation is threatening its very hard to leave. I can't really talk about it but if you saw, you'd understand.

@gillianbrookwell1678

5 жыл бұрын

@@littledistractions I can understand that.

@TubeTorte

5 жыл бұрын

@@soulextracter I would question calling it love. Seems very masochistic to "love" someone who places no value on YOUR health, YOUR safety, YOUR peace of mind, YOUR ability to have grandchildren visit. I don't buy it. Lots of codependence I would guess. If you care for yourself and your physical & emotional health you don't allow others to hurt you. When all is said in done we are all responsible for our own lives (unless disabled physically or mentally). We have one life to live and should try our best to make it a healthy and satisfying one.

My mother left me when I was 8yrs old. Gone. I was then beaten by my grandmother who hated me because I looked like my mother, so badly that I have lived with epilepsy ever since. Richard may have excuses for his hoarding, but just because you had a sad upbringing, it’s NO EXCUSE to treat people like shit. Manners cost nothing, and being kind to people who are trying to help is expected. We all have our bag of rocks to carry....that’s what I think.

@dittohead7044

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry that happened to you My children have epilepsy. I couldn’t imagine leaving them I hope your life is better now

@shereeoz

2 жыл бұрын

Sending love to you xx

Watching Jasmine's mother has made me really grateful to my own 95-year-old mother, who is always very concerned about not leaving extra clutter for her children to have to clean up after she's gone.

How haven't the neighbours called upon health services on them? That hoard is Disney World for rodents, pests and insects!

@Jean-gf3fi

4 жыл бұрын

THAT amazes me

@thescrutineer7022

4 жыл бұрын

Unbelievable. I feel sorry for anyone wanting to sell up. His house will de-value his neighbours properties,.. probably the entire street!

@eppiechan5673

3 жыл бұрын

Mickeys 🐀🐀🐀: Wow! "Disney World"! No need a ticket. 🎃🎃🎃

@sarcasticallyrearranged

3 жыл бұрын

Didn't you hear they had to clean or the council would fine then?

This is my favorite series on youtube. The internal and external struggles of an over-looked mental health condition is much more than just the physical objects. The emotional process of these individuals are fascinating. Growing up with parents that were incredible hoarders a-lot of these feelings of guilt, shame, embarrassment, frustration, and anxiety are relatable. Jasmine is an amazing person, and an even more amazing daughter, helping her mom through something like that must be hard for everyone. This whole series sheds so much light on the human resiliency of struggle and peace of mind, truly life changing work.

"it's like his possessions took the place of his family" excellent insight OCD is about control. hoarders don't hoard garbage, they desire comfort. as they lose important things in life, such as family and friends, they are forming a nest of things to comfort them. additionally, they are constructing barriers to protect them from the outside world that they cannot control

@Andengradspolynomium

3 жыл бұрын

But people who suffer from OCD are aware that their actions and thoughts are illogical. These people don’t seem to have that insight which makes it so difficult to help them.

The warehouse idea is brilliant.

@zxyatiywariii8

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr! They need something like this here in the US.

My mum's a massive hoarder it got out of control once my dad passed I think she did it to protect herself like an actual barrier between her and the world outside I think it give her comfort like a nest of her life she doesn't loose anything ever again I'm sure thats how she sees it bless these people

@markman63

3 жыл бұрын

midget_ princess good analysis

Jasmine is so compassionate and patient. I work hard to be a good person, compassionate, patient, generous, etc. I still hope to find my way to her levels.

In truth, I do not like Richard. He was condescending to those who were willing to help him. I feel for the others.

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

What struck me is that Richard, assuming he owns his house after 40 years of living there, is sitting on a goldmine. A large family home in that part of north London (looked like Crouch End or Muswell Hill) even in that condition, is worth about £2 million pounds. The rental income alone, if he had several lodgers, would enable him to live in luxury for the rest of his life. And yet he is content to live in an unheated room with a broken window on piles of garbage which are causing him respiratory problems.

I love watching beautiful Jasmine help these people with their hoards.

@loopiewho

3 жыл бұрын

YES WATCHING HER PROGRAMS HAS REALLY HELPED ME DEAL WITH THE STUFF MY FARTHER PUT ME THROUGH WHEN I WAS YOUNG , THIS IS VERY HEALING FOR ME

I really do feel sorry for them all , it’s a physiological problem , they aren’t trying to upset/hurt anyone .

@MMChoza

5 жыл бұрын

Yes...and mostly, behind that hordering is their unprocessed loss, sadness and grief...lost childhoods... it's a mental illness...

@janicewolk357

5 жыл бұрын

But do you allow a seriously mentally ill person make decisions for others?

@greenkitty82

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's interesting as to why people do it but it's always linked to an unresolved issue of the past that they just can't let go of and the stuff is a comfort to them. Once the emotional issue is resolved, it's then easier to then move forward and clear the clutter but it's important the past is asked about as it's the past that has made us who we are in the present. What is sad though is how in denial the hoarders can be when as non hoarders we can clearly see it's too much and needs to be got rid of to create a safe living space. Just the mere danger alone of falling down the stairs would trigger a response of "this stuff needs to be cleared" but the hoarders are so attached to their stuff it's like a blindfold to everything else. I hope anyone who is a hoarder gets better from it as it's really not a safe or helpful thing to live in.

@BedCrunch

5 жыл бұрын

@@janicewolk357 What this show has suggested to me is that these people dont seem to be suitable parents. Children seem to have to take the parenting role and this doesnt seem right.

@Lookatmeshine

5 жыл бұрын

@@greenkitty82 I only realised I had hoarding disorder 2 days ago from watching a KZreadr. And I realised I do something others don't (I genuinely thought everyone did this) where I create stories for the items. I personify them. The best way to describe what decluttering feels like is it feels like having thousands of people filling your house and knowing them you have to decide what they do with their life, and with all the emotions that would come with watching a child go to university, you fear for them and as the objects have no free will you worry you've made the wrong decision. It's emotionally exhausting. But I need to learn to deal with it because I want things to be different.

When You watch ... the vid of Jasmine an her mom.......it really is 'heartbreaking'.....Having her mom...put the siblings aside putting her hoarding first........... Jasmine is such an AWESOME..........young lady.....trying to help others with this disorder !!!

@e.hw9

5 жыл бұрын

To many “.......” welcome to the wonderful land of putting dots in your sentences!! I do that....a lot....

That poor woman putting up with that jagoff, his stuff and the way he treats her.. She should have left him a long time ago.

@wmluna381

4 жыл бұрын

@@littledistractions His hoarding IS controlling and abusive. But she chooses to tolerate it so, oh well.

@milliejoy2461

4 жыл бұрын

WM Luna she hasn’t chosen to witj a conscious mind she’s been manipulated because of the abuse

@KR-nv3ru

4 жыл бұрын

She can leave at any point.

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

She is of the last generation that believed marriage to be a sacred bond, 'for better, for worse', not a convenient arrangement that ends when things are not going the way you want them.

@bolldamwad6086

3 жыл бұрын

Shes an enabler, same as Jasmine herself almost every people in this programme. Short of cutting them off OR someone like the council evicting them, they are enablers

She is so patience with mom. Bless her heart.

I feel absolutely heartbroken for Alan’s wife. She is so very patient and lovely and he is a pig

I've met three hoarders in my life, two of them family. It's amazing how they all believe that if they had better storage options, it wouldn't be a hoard.

@angelahoffman3061

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. And unfortunately if they did have better storage options or even a full warehouse sized home, they'd still fill it to the top...

@differenttakethanmost

2 жыл бұрын

Can’t see. Won’t see. Deny. Blame. Deny. Blame. Sooooo frustrating, the lack of logic and reasoning these people have.

I just started watching these shows to perhaps gain some insight into my own actions. Jasmine Harman is so kind, so understanding I think the people she meets gain a lot of strength from her. She is also incredibly beautiful and that beauty amongst the mountains of garbage is surely inspiring to people. I think that alone may subconsciously even give them hope.

Jasmine shows so much understanding, empathy and patience to these people who clearly have emotional and/or psychological baggages. It's really admirable. I would have blown up seconds into this sort of conversation if any of my relatives has this problem.

That richard is a creep, he does not even appreciate help from these professional ladies as much as his rotting beans

@loopiewho

3 жыл бұрын

you know i do agree with you , but at the same time your over looking an important point he probably never had any one help him before , so that alone takes a huge amount of adjustment which he did make i saw it and i bet you he persisted and made much more of a change after the film crew left his house .but i do know how you feel i really do .

Oh my goodness. This woman is absolutely stunning and her love for her mother is so sweet. Her patience is remarkable. Such an emotional programme. When I hoard stuff i can only give stuff away if i think I'm helping someone by doing it. Or if they ask for what i have i will give it away. It's such a difficult deeply rooted problem.

Jasmine seems like a lovely, compassionate young woman.

"All this clutter means I can't carry on life in a normal way." Sometimes people indirectly give you the answer to why they do what they do

@pommiebears

4 жыл бұрын

urbanrat84 doesn’t answer WHY clutter is normal for them though, so it doesn’t really answer the question.

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

The chap in St Albans seems puzzled as to why the council are going to prosecute him and acts as if he isn't doing any harm to others. Yet his heap of garbage is unsightly, dangerous for anyone going through it (his wife, the postman etc) probably stinks to high heaven and has rats going through it but he can't see that it's a problem.

@nolickspittle4753

3 жыл бұрын

@@pommiebears sadly the original reason is sometimes forgotten by even the sufferer.

@barbarajones9385

2 жыл бұрын

But it's not really clutter, is it? It's stuff that congests every available inch of space to the extent that you can barely breathe or move. And you can't even see what that stuff is because it's covered in more stuff and boxes and bags. Clutter is too many things but not to be equated with serious hoarding.

I think they should have hoarders who have made some progress, helping Jasmine help other hoarders. Helping others deal with the same issue would help them in their own struggles, and who would know a hoarder better?

I just discovered this show, and I love it. Jasmine handles her clients with SUCH sensitivity and compassion. Well done!

@sarcasticallyrearranged

3 жыл бұрын

Coddling the hoarder is the worst thing to do because it just enables and reinforces the behavior.

This is the second time they’ve helped their mum by clearing her home out. They were featured on hoarders where she has shaved hair. Sad to see she returned to her old ways. Her children are very patient. I’d only go through this once in a lifetime

8:10 changes the lamp bulb so the old one together with the box goes dumped on the floor! "I don't know how I got to this point...!"

The absolute worst thing about hoarders is that their children know the hoard is loved more than they are...and are often literally pushed out of the house by “stuff”...

I love how they use experts to help the people and keep the sensational drama at a minimun. That makes these programs so heartwaring to see

If someone removed some trash while they were gone would they even realize it?

@Londonfogey

4 жыл бұрын

Probably not but they add to their hoards so much that it would be like bailing out a sinking ship with a teaspoon. At the very best the hoard might not get any worse. Eventually, the hoarder would notice and trust would then be broken. In episode 2 for example it takes Jasmine quite a long time to gain the trust of one hoarder just to be allowed to peep round her door into her house.

@CreatingwithWinglessAngel

3 жыл бұрын

YES! THEY NOTICE. my dad is a hoarder. He still cimplaines about stuff I threw way in 2000.

@adevore1971

3 жыл бұрын

I tossed out 12 huge garbage bags at my dad's house.. had to sneak it out.. 1/2 was literally garbage and/or recycling and the other 1/2 was donated to thrift stores.. he was just grateful to have pathways and clear floors..if he saw the stuff we'd still be discussing what to do w each n every useless little piece of junk.. we made a dent in his stuff and he can breathe and turn around in the house and actually get out of doors and windows in case of fire

@zxyatiywariii8

2 жыл бұрын

Depends on the person. Some wouldn't. But others will notice (and feel bad about) ONE THING someone accidentally discarded ten years ago. 😕😞 Not because they want to, but because they can't help it.

emptying the house out was a great idea and good chance to clean and paint the whole house anew

Your Mother is such a beautiful woman. Praying for continued healing and a lifetime of good times spent with family creating happy memories. Love and hugs to you and yours.

Omg 🤣 Richard, "I have got 'A RAT'.... Bugger!" First, he seems surprised that his house would have a rat. Like rats wouldnt find his home, which is waist high with discarded food, a suitable place to live. Then he believes there could only possibly be 1 rat. I halfway expected him to name his "1 Rat" Remmy and start a restaurant.

For some reason these shows cheer me up so much!! After I watch, I look around and say, “Boy my life is so wonderful!”

@zxyatiywariii8

2 жыл бұрын

You're fortunate. I need to find a series that makes me feel that good. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤔

Richard : thinks he's ready to do this Also Richard : no way! I will certainly not throw the beans-in-a-rusty-cans away, never!

@shereeoz

2 жыл бұрын

These people including Richard Use a LOT of words!!!! They’re totally self absorbed They don’t realise the time and energy OTHER PEOPLE are spending unselfishly on them and their houses

I think hording is a result of a big distance to feelings. Don't know how do describe it. I was bullied in school and got very sick. Lost my job some years ago and started to develop a "avoidance behavior". That means that I just can not do some stuff that is normal to others. Also I think one of the reasons is the problem that I live too much in the past. When I remember good things, I feel very sad and get anxious very fast to. A whole though train can start. I see my parents, I see things from my childhood, wonderful memories and it and with the feeling of emptiness and a big fear of the day a loved one will die. I notice that I start to feel such things towards stuff in my flat. I start to see the beautiful memories behind them. But I am a fighter. I am not only fighting my desease, i also fighting all the bad behavior I have. I started meditation and I am going the right direction now. My flat is fore sure not a hoarders flat, but it is very messy (like the room of a 14 years old). Yesterday I started to clean the flat. It is unbelievable difficult but it also feels good. I think a chaotic flat comes from a chaotic mind and a chaotic mind leads to an even more chaotic flat. I have to break through that circle. One important step is to post this command and make the problem a more real problem (so that I can not ignore it) P. S. Rip English but I don't care. Have more important problems :D

I'm having a hard time empathizing with these people. God bless those who help them.

@zxyatiywariii8

2 жыл бұрын

You have an awesome dog! (I know, off topic, but I love dogs, and we can only have two, so I enjoy seeing everyone else's dogs online.)

Much more patience then I would ever have

It gives me anxiety when people clean that mess without tying back their hair

@Combfish

5 жыл бұрын

me too...also wearing a scarf while cleaning is daft!

@brandonezdoofenshmirtz2916

4 жыл бұрын

Damn you now I have anxiety too

@vanmamawannabe6360

4 жыл бұрын

Enz Di Cristofaro Or touch their face with the nasty, dirty gloves they’ve been picking up rotten food with! 🤮

@EllicottCity1

4 жыл бұрын

@ 29:04 - ugh, perfect example 🤢

@jeannenora6113

4 жыл бұрын

and also not wearing an overall which can to thrown away afterwards

Is there any follow up on these people?, I would love to know how they are doing now.

Jasmine u are a awesome young lady. When this guy said its not hoarding it just needs tidying up, wow i found myself realising the denial i am in & what awaits me if i dont get to grips with my messy 1 bed flat. My poor health/mental health limits me but i wish i could get help to clear my rubbish. I dont want to end up as bad as these people featured in this documentry. There is no help availible & i have no family or freinds to help. I am in council property & i fear being evicted or having the council health inspectors humiliate me as they have done previous. Jasmine if u are reading this ur mum is one lucky woman to have u. Ur incredible u really are. I am lost but watching this video has made me realise how much worse it will be if i dont get help now. I just dont no were to get it? I want to let go of the rubhish i want a nice home. :(

@MaryamaAmina

5 жыл бұрын

The fact that you acknowledge your situation sets you apart and shows there is a bit of hope. I know getting help will make the declutter process more efficient , i wish i can help you because i like to organize but you can do it, just take it slowly, one step at a time. Clear out a little corner at at a time.

@poolahpot

5 жыл бұрын

Lisa Connelly Try the “30 bags in 30 days” challenge! You can use any size bag - ziplock, grocery bag, tall kitchen garbage pail bag, lawn bag or Xtra large contractor bag. Start with the size that you are comfortable with. Fill one bag per day and you are done for that day. Toss or donate. Do this everyday for 30 days. It really does help. KZread’it for inspiration! ❤️👍😘

@MaryamaAmina

5 жыл бұрын

@@poolahpot great idea 🏅

@devlandiablo

5 жыл бұрын

One professional to reach out to would be Dr. Stelios Kiosses, the psychotherapist who hosted "The Hoarder Next Door".

@annieroche22

5 жыл бұрын

I wish you all the luck in the world Lisa. My home place is a kip. It's full to bursting and now dirty. I'm embarrassed and I can't anyone wanting to be with me for life because my family are such an embarrassment. I'm at breaking point.

Wonderful ending, with the family together once again. Love this daughter....she never gave up on her mom. ❤️

I totally love this video. It's so sad that these people end up homeless in their own houses. It's such a pitty...

I must admit this is one addiction I just have no patience for. I know they can’t help it but oh boy I want to shake them.

@icdas7158

4 жыл бұрын

Amen , drives me wild and I just want to belt them

Not only is Richard in denial, but he's a huge control freak.

@SarahMilton64

5 жыл бұрын

When I had back trouble, I used an 'easy reacher' grabbing tool to pick things from the floor. Why can't Richard do this. He says 'The design of the house is wrong' - full of excuses.

@loulou7963

5 жыл бұрын

He’s quite aggressive I think.

@maxim3830

4 жыл бұрын

All compulsive behaviors are ultimately about anxiety and control. Glad you found that out through this show, mate!

@liztrainer895

3 жыл бұрын

I Agee . That discolored can of beans should have been left in the trash. He is risking his health wanting to consume it.

@Annedowntherabbithole

3 жыл бұрын

There's a lot of narcissism in hoarders

I wonder if the docs and psychologists have addressed the very likely issue of macronutrient, vitamin and /or mineral deficiencies in these people. Not being able to cook or organize food and dishes means they aren't eating healthy food. Depression and anxiety are related to malnutrition. Then the spiral just keeps going. It's ok to talk about past traumas as being one part of the problem, but its possible there are multiple causes and not just one or a few.

@lunaflamed

3 жыл бұрын

TOTALLY AGREE!

@jb6712

3 жыл бұрын

Doctors are not educated in nutrition, and psychs even less.

It's hard to hear people say things like: "I don't see how my past effects the here and now." It determines so much of who you become and how you interact with the world. How you trust or cope with loss. It's all built in your childhood.

I love it when they say all this stuff means so much to me and then it’s being destroyed being outside in piles molding, fading and being destroyed or under hundreds of pounds of rubbish, rodent and bug infested or covered with animal ursine and feces💔🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤢🤮. Richard has more excuses of how his home got this way that I have to put him on the top 10 hoarder excuses!!!!!!

I'm good at keeping my room tidy and I'm often donating things. I always find myself cleaning up my already fairly sparse bedroom while watching these shows.

We all know at least one hoarder... This man we know, who used to be married to a hoarder, walked after decades of suffering. He rented a townhouse and even allowed her to visit. He tried to be decent about it. He signed off on the mortgage, giving the house to her. It was in horrific condition anyhow. He gave her the ultimatum that he would not return unless she cleaned up her act. When this failed, he gave the ultimatum of divorce. After he settled into his townhouse, she started visiting and they had a few nice evenings together. He thought she benefited from being in a normal environment. However, he felt like she was using him as a source of easy meals cooked in a clean environment. She also expected to bathe and do her laundry at his place, which he never permitted lest he become an enabler. He completely barred her from visiting him the day she showed up with a car load of junk. She actually unloaded it before asking! When he went outside to stop her, she told him she was “borrowing” his “extra space.” He told her to put the “shit” back in her car and leave. She refused and carried a box to his door. The door had a auto lock, so she couldn’t get in. She stood there for ten minutes screaming at him to let her take her stuff inside. Their son came over and tried to calm the situation. She refused to repack her car and left the stuff sitting there with orders that her husband put it inside. The son hauled it to her house and sat it in her yard. It stormed that night, so she threatened both of them with a lawsuit for water damage! The husband divorced her and moved several hundred miles away. The son eventually did the same - living within easy driving distance wasn’t a good thing. She ultimately lost the house through condemnation and is living on disability in a facility where she cannot hoard.

@gknee3

5 жыл бұрын

That's so sad. She clearly needed help... Mental health help.

@wmluna381

4 жыл бұрын

Good on him and the son.

@crystalraf

4 жыл бұрын

That is an interesting story. My ex had some hoarding tendencies and the story you just told sounds very familiar. He was a full grown adult in his late twenties when his parents purchased a nice house, he had grown up with them living in a trailer in poverty. After he graduated HS he moved out and then they purchased a real house and then some years after that they purchased a newer nicer bigger house. He had actually helped them find it and helped them look at houses. Anyways, when they moved in, and honestly I think he might have done this while they were at work, he just moved his hoard into their house. Like under the stairs and stuff. And they also were hoarders so they didn’t really have the room either. They had totes in the extra bedroom and offices all the way up to the ceiling. And it was all just junk. Then after his parents filled up the basement, they bought a largish trailer to store stuff in. Parked it next to the house. They were mild hoarders, not like they needed any help or anything. They just had this quirky lifestyle.

@jaquikelly5630

4 жыл бұрын

Spiritual Truth Seeker ppp

@carolyngair7051

4 жыл бұрын

What a great story. As interesting as the video itself. I was relieved to hear that at least some people leave the hoarder and find some peace of mind (instead of constant pieces of garbage!)

It's a coping mechanism, usually after a huge trauma.

@gknee3

5 жыл бұрын

Or a void 😔

@KM-nq7ez

4 жыл бұрын

I do think it also has a Genetic component... my Grandfather was a hoarder and I also have tendencies I have to fight. It’s not easy but I find watching these type of shows help... free therapy.

@zxyatiywariii8

2 жыл бұрын

@@KM-nq7ez I agree -- I think some people are genetically susceptible, but there also needs to be some trauma to toggle this behavior "on". I hope someday we can discover a cure. . .

Glad to hear therapy helped for mom-seems an essential part of solution.

I love Jasmine she is so sympathetic and kind and has a very gentle way of trying to help hoarders. This is very different than the hoarders show in the USA. The people on the USA show are very pushy and don't seem to really understand how hard it is to let go of their possessions. Thank you for creating such a lovely show.

I notice that all the people are trying to sort through this overwhelming mish-mash of stuff. I think they are trying to sort the muddle in their minds. That is a lifelong and monumental task. Jasmine is so patient and that it what they need. There is nothing wrong with that in theory, it, projecting the muddle in the mind onto the material world around them. They just need to keep trying and not give up, like Jean seemed to be.

My parents are hoarders, and I have tendencies to keep a lot more stuff than necessary.. Even though I would really love to live more minimalistic. Luckily I don't live with my parents since almost 10 years. This series woke me up, right now I'm cleaning and decluttering stuff which is still in boxes after our move 2 years ago..

I had a friend who’s house was condemned from hoarding. The city kicked him out, threw his belongings on the street, and tore the house down. I spent an evening helping him gather some things from the curb and moving into a new place, but he’s never been the same. He moved into an apartment with his son, but within a couple years his health go so bad he had to go into a nursing home. He never got the therapy he needed.

Jasmine-- You are a beautiful daughter... and person. Blessings to you for helping your Mother and all the others you help with this issue.

So proud of your mom. I can tell she’s come a long way. You’re so patient and loving.

i will definitely dump out 1 plastic bag each day without him knowing. if he ask, i'll just say i don't know. lol!

@user-ou4tk7eg8i

5 жыл бұрын

#Bojio I did that. My husband is a hoarder. If he looks for his stuff I tell him it’s probably with the rest of your stuff. Garbage gets picked up every Tuesday. That’s the most effective way to deal with hoarders. 99% of the time they don’t really know what’s gone. My in laws went to visit last month and my father in law said your house looks bigger. I said oh I just cleaned really good😁😜

@maureenmee9775

4 жыл бұрын

We did that to my grandma! She forgot old things anyway. Lol My cousins and my siblings, if we visit her we take one or two of not visible to her eyes things.

@luciafrau125

4 жыл бұрын

I think a great approach is: what you haven't used in the last 5 years goes. And I would so throw everything away without asking

@TheTeluTelus

4 жыл бұрын

I thought the same..but..Sometimes you just don’t know how to start, i am a hoarder daughter and I’m blocked. I feel is too much for my self.

@a6703

4 жыл бұрын

Her mums level of hoarding is so unbelievable - the energy involved to collect it! My Uncle’s wife was a hoarder, he actually ‘lost’ one of the two lorry loads of hoarded possessions when they had to move house. He had the removal men just drive it straight to the tip! Hoarding is a genetic thing I think - as I have seen it in lots of family members and now I ‘mildly’ hoard.

When u finish watching all the a&e hoarding shows in quarantine and u need more....that's how I ended up here

I am sooo impatient. Dealing with these hoarders takes a very special person. I get frustrated and angry just WATCHING...so I can't imagine how these people trying to help feel...😫

This series is head and shoulders above A&E's Hoarders. So much more pleasant to watch.

The progress is so excruciatingly slow, but it's there. Letting them go at their own pace, but insisting that they do GO seems to work. At least for some.

16:46 The Daughter is beautiful Inside and out..

Such a cool and sympathetic manner, the psychologist unlocked a log jam of anguish and emotions in these people. The healing journey begins.

Heather is so good with these people, she pushes them just enough without trying to overwhelm them it made me so happy to see Alan smile even though she was throwing something away :’)

these programmes make me want to clean my house....anyone else?

@tonethetallbaldy5039

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry but no I won't clean your house lol.