I host #addictionrecovery #livestreams every Mon and Thurs at 9pmEST here on the #soberjames channel. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat Room: www.patreon.com/soberjames In this video I tell the short version of what 20 years of heavy drinking was like, what happened, and what my sobriety is like now. I've also touched on some resources to help those in need. I'd appreciate any comments, likes, shares, and especially new subscribers on the channel! KZread's robots are studying my stats, and I'm really curious to see if this KZread experiment of mine can grow legs. And now for my "branding" line lol...LET'S DO THIS DAMN THING! 🎥🎬🤓🎨

@flymech03

5 жыл бұрын

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@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

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@youknowwho5709

5 жыл бұрын

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@radicalcentrist9471

5 жыл бұрын

Well said. Very straightforward. Which is good. Real talk. And a real story. They're the best to learn from. I am alchohlic. And when I get blind drunk. I am a monster. Yet when I'm sober. I'm a gentle and placid person. It's like Dr Jekyl and Mr Hyde. I am trying to keep off the booze. I had 5 beers the other day. I have had 5 beers in 2 weeks. But I know that when my pay day comes around my head will scream for more. I'm gonna try to ignore it. It is very hard to control. I did it for 8 months. Cut down to 6 beers a week. But then it came back to the point where I had a few more, then a few more. Then 30 or so a week. Two cartons a week etc. You're right, as an alcoholic controlling it is near on impossible. But I don't feel I can stop completely. Coz of my anxiety issuss and shit. I am gonna try. To stop completely. I just need to take it slowly is all. Maybe that won't work? Idk. Maybe not. But I'm gonna try to eventually stop altogether once I am used to going without it. And at the very least. Never get blind drunk again. Therein lies the issues I guess. It's hard to stop at just one or two or three. Five becomes six and six becomes ten and ten becomes twenty. Yeah I know the drill. I'm not naive. Just hopeful I guess. Well done for stopping man. Takes real strength. I know. Coz I can't seem to stop altogether.

@holtynz

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing you're story and being so honest. I'm 5 weeks sober now and alcohol nearly made me lose everything. Your story gives me strength and hope. Subscrbed!

4 days sober. 37 years old. Aiming for forever !

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you Chris, one day at a time brother. I host live stream recovery meetings everyday at 9pmEST, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames Pledge today for your t-shirt discount on soberjames.com!

@Reikialchemieesthetix

3 жыл бұрын

Congratulations

@es78xx

3 жыл бұрын

are you still sober?

@emiliosanchez8689

3 жыл бұрын

3 days deep ATM. I hope your still going brotha

@isaiahcastillo898

2 жыл бұрын

Hey man how u doing?

10 days sober and no desire for alcohol. I feel amazing and sleep better than EVER. I am FREE! ❤️

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

Nice Jonathan. I host live stream recovery meetings at 9pmEST Mon and Thurs, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames Pledge today for your t-shirt discount on soberJames.com!

@AVENTUS7777

3 жыл бұрын

Any chest pains during withdrawals?

@klaramageroy8771

2 жыл бұрын

Amazing, keep it up amazing human!

Day 19 here. Being hospitalized for severe alcohol withdrawals was the most lonely feeling I’ve ever felt. The longest 4 days ever. I’ve lost all of my friends. I no longer speak to any family members. Day 19 I’m still trying to love myself enough to stay sober. Thanks for sharing this video with us. I don’t feel so alone.

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

You're not alone Leighton.

@rubenjr6623

3 жыл бұрын

Turn To God Pray With All Your Heart He Saved My Life Bro Read The Bible Its Power Luke 15🙏

@loveistheanswer1228

3 жыл бұрын

Prayers for you dude.

@daniel-km4qx

3 жыл бұрын

My way to stay sober is through personal development, among other things planning my day, I write my to-do list in a notebook each day, great quote notebooks for recovering alcoholics are on amazon, search under hungry man notebook book section. I've been alcohol free for 560 days now and really planning my day everyday has helped me a lot, check it out :D have a great day

@blonka123

3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry but your family should never ever turn their back on you for something like this. Oh, and those weren’t true friends to begin with if they’re just gonna leave you in the dark like that, no matter of the way you behaved while intoxicated. Good for you for being strong and wanting to overcome this!!! Great days are ahead of you and you’ll have the right people in your life and be so blessed! Keep up the wonderful work and progress!!! 💪

6 days sober today still pushing!

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Hell yes Shannara, if your disease pushes back push harder! Consider this the ultimate shoving contest, to the DEATH! Don't forget to believe in and enlist the strength of a power greater than yourself to help, whether it's a God of your understanding, the rooms of the 12 step programs, whatever. Just don't forget, we addicts are powerless against our disease alone. So happy for you, Keep in touch! ❤

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Btw, I know a Jack Snodgrass

@shannarasnodgrass2922

4 жыл бұрын

@@SoberJames Thank you so much for your encouragment your videos have really been helping me out. Thank you for everything you do you are truly helping people. Yeah I'm ready to kick my alcoholism in the ass lol. I just started going to AA and getting the hang of it and learning more and more everyday about how addiction works. Thanks again for you encouragement and keep up the awesome vids. Haha it's always weird to hear there's another Snodgrass out there its a crazy name!

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

@@shannarasnodgrass2922 it's a cunning, baffling, and powerful disease. All the best 💟 and keep coming back!

@shannarasnodgrass2922

4 жыл бұрын

@@SoberJamesIt sure is, Thank you I definitely will!!

I have always had an addictive personality. Whether it was food, music, clothes, or drugs. I can never just like something. It turns into me eating, sleeping and breathing it. Well turns out when you try to do that with heroin you'll end up on deaths doorstep. I'm a year and 3 months clean.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

😊

@LV-426...

4 жыл бұрын

Kristen, please don't give up. . .

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

@@LV-426... +1

@clintwilliams5740

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome I've been there!!!

@gondwanaman9362

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate. But it's an advantage, if channeled properly. Be addicted to success and the world will open up for you.

It started with an extremely traumatic birth for both myself and my mother. It started with nightmares as a child. It started with abuse and neglect and gaslighting. It started with being relentlessly bullied no matter where my mother moved us. It started with eating too many sweets (I could never eat just one... I would always eat the whole pack straight away). It started when I discovered that drinking numbed the pain. I was 15 years old, living with my narcissistic and emotionally neglectful single mother. I still remember the first major bout of depression and anxiety, and how a bottle of wine made it all go away. I don't regret my 15 years of DAILY ROUND THE CLOCK alcoholism. Not one bit. It's made me who I am, and despite it all I have some truly incredible friends who love and respect me for my many virtues, and who hate my disease (though it took me 10 years to get rid of the bad friends and influences in my life). Going into detox and rehab in 5 days after a 2 YEAR waiting list. I'm done with this poison. DONE.

I am 352 days sober, my last beer was on 02/03/2019.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Hell yeah Simon! Just for today, one day at a time brother! Live stream chat every Sunday at 9pmEST if you're interested!

@daniel-km4qx

3 жыл бұрын

My way to stay sober is through personal development, among other things planning my day, I write my to-do list in a notebook each day, great quote notebooks for recovering alcoholics are on amazon, search under hungry man notebook book section. I've been alcohol free for 560 days now and really planning my day everyday has helped me a lot, check it out :D have a great day

@boogphilly8321

2 жыл бұрын

Damn that’s good, I’m struggling to get at least on day.

I'm a high functioning alcoholic. I gave you a thumbs up for your honesty. It's getting stopped that's the hardest part.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

"Staying sober is easier than getting sober," that's for sure erosion!

@ianstewartorr8455

4 жыл бұрын

erosionhead420 I was a functioning alcoholic I’ve Ben in my job 25 years now and sober for 7 years

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Glad you made it Ian!

I have 8 months on August 3rd 2021. I turned 38 on July 24th, I started drinking when I was 15. Before I quit for good I had 2 seizures in one year due to withdrawal. Also during that year I had twice suffered from minor delirium tremmens. Very scary. Then I got pancreantitis ended up almost dying. I got sober. I thank God everyday I did or I would be dead.

“It is easier to stay sober than to get sober” 🙌🏽❤️💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Right Laura?! Sometimes we forget! Live stream every day at 4pm est

@djmsup

4 жыл бұрын

I disagree strongly

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I've come to realize how tricky it is to STAY sober as well, Dako.

@djmsup

4 жыл бұрын

Sober James Yeah man. I have gotten off alcohol a fair few times. I’ve got like 2/3 weeks without it but then I end up drinking again. Its almost impossible for me to stay off it permanently. Its very worrying and it’s like I’m fighting a losing battle. I have no hope

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

@@djmsup I've quit I ton of times too, and have realized I have to do whatever it takes to not relapse, one day at a time if necessary. Dako, join the community I have here, for support. I stream live videos everyday at 9pmEST, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames

In recovery myself, just over 1 year sober

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Hell yeah man, good to hear

@donmayne5938

3 жыл бұрын

You go brother

@daniel-km4qx

3 жыл бұрын

My way to stay sober is through personal development, among other things planning my day, I write my to-do list in a notebook each day, great quote notebooks for recovering alcoholics are on amazon, search under hungry man notebook book section. I've been alcohol free for 560 days now and really planning my day everyday has helped me a lot, check it out :D have a great day

@davidl6332

3 жыл бұрын

cheers

21 days sober today, had enough money to scrap together to get into a rehab center for a couple weeks and I got out a week ago. First 5 days there I wanted to just hop the fence and go get a drink from the corner store. I actually thought about leaving my phone behind just to get a drink. After I got out I haven’t really craved it to bad, I’m also on naltrexone. It cost me my CDL and separated from the navy for it too. It’s not worth it. Until about a month ago I blamed everyone and everything in my life for my issues except drinking. If I put in the smarts I used to hide my drinking from everybody for 3 years (since I graduated my A school for the navy) into having a successful life I’d be rich right now.

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

So stay sober, get rich.

@alexrobinson4821

3 жыл бұрын

@@SoberJames I actually just got offered a welding job today, I plan on staying sober my life’s already improved drastically the last 22 days

I’m moving out of my sober home today into my own apartment. I’ve been clean 9 months. I know none of the blessings I’ve been given would have been possible without staying clean. Thank you for sharing your story.

Congrats to all who have achieved sobriety. For those still fighting- never ever give up hope. I’m sober since 12/1/15. Life is so much better on this side of the looking-glass.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

True words, Caesar ❤ Bonus content: www.patreon.com/soberjames

@moongamizinga5355

4 жыл бұрын

how did u manage

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I stream live videos, Mon-Thursday at noon and 9pmEST, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames

@caesar349

4 жыл бұрын

@@moongamizinga5355 I needed medical help from a doctor. He gave me medicine to curb the withdrawals and help level me out. I also made the mental transition to never want to drink. I saw what it did to me, my family and my whole life and i told myself 'enough is enough'. Good luck!

@lisardaniels616

3 жыл бұрын

What's with the getup?

I’m fixing to be 29 I feel like I haven’t done anything in life cause of all the drinking . Yesterday I wreck a side view mirror of a rental car for drinking too much . Today I kept it real with myself and told myself I need to stop drinking before I end up dying . I’m taking my first big step into sobriety.

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Every journey starts with a step, brother. Good for you.

I was a highly functioning alcoholic for 12 years; I worked as an IT systems engineer while drinking a bottle of wine every night. I was miserable and tried to compensate by running and lifting weights but was miserable. Almost two years sober now and thankful.

@SoberJames

Жыл бұрын

Don’t look back Tim, congrats.

Hey brother, I've been dealing with my alcohol addiction for more than half my life. Every time I drink something bad happens about 90 percent of the time. I'm making some drastic changes in my life to get sober. I dont want to end up dead or in jail. I've been extremely lucky look like many addicts but I know my luck will eventually run out. This year I will be strong and take my life back! This is my year to conquer this addiction! Thanks for your kind words and testimony!

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Dametriese, hell yeah man! Powerful message brother, I can feel the effects from here!

Your story is absolutely inspiration. It is so difficult to stop drinking. I've tried over and over but this time I'm going to stop period. Thanks for the motivation!

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

It's well worth the struggle Cierra!

@officetechtyping

4 жыл бұрын

How is it going Cierra?

@cierragay6272

3 жыл бұрын

No but I'm working on it.

I am 158 days sober because of AA. I am grateful for a great program where people share their experience, strength, and hope. One of my favorite old timers says “Don’t think, don’t drink, just go to the fucking meetings.” 😁

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Nice Courtney! Can I use that saying? Hey, come around and chat every once in a while. I stream live videos, weekdays at noon and 9pmEST, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames

Left my family yesterday moved back to Chicago with my parents to sober up and find myself again. This is it no more drinking for me. Will be back to my 2 boys and wife stronger then ever.

30 days sober. I listen to sobriety stories while working out and cleaning. (Thanks again for the Danny Trejo one.) I'm glad KZread led me here. Because the video before, was about The Sinclair Method, and that left me questioning myself. This talk reset my newfound AA baby brain back on course. Gracias.

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome Miss Nevada! I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames Pledge today for your t-shirt discount on soberJames.com!

My last drink was 14th march 2019. I've been to rehab twice, somehow survived 2 suicide attempts, got a criminal record, huge debt, substance addictions, depression, numerous broken bones, messed my family up, isolated myself from friends, lost a very well paid job. The list is endless. My saviour was getting back into martial arts and training to exhaustion. I competed in a boxing event last week, I lost and broke my nose but it wasnt about the result it was about getting back to being me. There is always a way. Always. I thought my life was over and I was convinced. Just find it.

@andreahugheshughes4652

4 жыл бұрын

Super Col007 I will

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

There's always a way

@CMoore8539

9 күн бұрын

That’s Great!!!🎈

4.5 years alcohol free. I never hit a deep “rock bottom”, but it was more of a steady loop of mediocrity, not reaching my fullest potential, feeling unfulfilled

15 years sober, i was thinking making a channel about this topic

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I was thinking of getting sober for 20 years 😉

@whoispriest

4 жыл бұрын

@@SoberJames lol me two

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

@@whoispriest I'm sayin, do it brother! Nothing get done until you do it. 🤙

@whoispriest

4 жыл бұрын

@@SoberJames good point. ty

Your stories resignates with me. Started drinking hard at 15 when my dad passed away and has been a roller coaster since . I just wanna have the strength to stop once and for all. My longest sober period was 1.5 years I hope to make it forever

@dania_7789

2 жыл бұрын

You can do it…you really can…I pray 🙏🏻 you do xoxo

5 days sober today 😌 I made a stand for myself, I know Christmas and new year's will be challenging BUT I've drunk for 25 of them already - So this year will be special because I'm starting a new life, it's very intimidating but I need to change. Thank you for making this video - They really do help me and provide that distance light 😊 👍

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you taking the time to write this Edward, rock on friend 🤘 I host live stream recovery meetings at 9pmEST Mon and Thurs, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist. Join my 24/7 recovery discord here: www.patreon.com/soberjames Pledge today for your t-shirt discount on soberjames.com/shop

I drive trucks for a living and i fought in kickboxing.. on sunday i fought got concussion then drank tequila for the sore pain not knowing i had a concussion, drove monday thru thursday in philly and jersey not relizing.. dizy and panic attacks.. i started resting thursday after hittin the emergency room.. its now been 7 days since my last drink and i wana keep it that way.. i need to be able to drive again for my wife and kids we are in the process of getting a house closing in april and im the bread maker.. 4 kids. i almost lost everything.. im not fighting anymore and not drinkin anymore.. the struggle for me is what do i do..? I live such a fast paced life im so stressed out.. u are the only video that relates to me thanks for the hope.. i needed to see a fuckin success story... i have a great job and a great fam but i gotta be able to drive to keep us there im so scared

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I know how you feel David. Probably hopeless, frustrated, scared, pissed, sad. It's a humbling experience, often humiliating. You don't have to live that way. First, stop drinking. Second, start working on never picking it up, one day at a time. I'll be live streaming all this week at 9pm EST. Stop thru, live to see you there. Hang in there brother, you're not alone.

256 days sober. Life gets better in time. 🙌🏼🙌🙏🏼

@SoberJames

5 ай бұрын

And then it gets worse and then it gets better. Change is the only constant brother. 🤘✨

Thank you for sharing your story, James. Hearing about other people's struggles with addiction helps me immensely. Last October I tried to stop drinking. I took the better part of 2 months off, but I think what did me in was thinking I could get to a point where I could just have the occasional drink on special occasions. By the time Christmas came around, I was back to drinking every night again, despite wanting to quit alcohol more than any other goal in life. I recently turned 49 years of age, and a couple of weeks ago I had enough. It's been two weeks since I had a drop of alcohol, and I already feel happier and healthier. My goal this time is to 100% stop drinking...forever. No illusions that I'll get to a point where I can just enjoy a drink or two on special occasions. I know if I have a drink again, I'll be drinking regularly again. Every fiber of my being understands that drinking a toxin on a daily basis is going to make me miserable and eventually kill me, and it needs to stop. I have my eye on the goal and taking it one day at a time.

Stopped for two months at the end of '18....started again, slow at first, and then habitually on the weekends. Coming up on week two without even a beer and I plan on sticking to it with God's help.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Good for you Sturm, keep coming back 💯

@thomasallen4340

4 жыл бұрын

Stay the course man. Stay away from the devil's liquid.

I learned that my addictions are my 'attachments', and they would never fulfill or satisfy because they don't love me back. I had to focus on my emotional, spiritual, physical, needs etc. first. Because they had been neglected for so long.

Evil Spirits are cast out when we call upon our own peace and understand life is short and God wants us to be of sober mind so our body can be healthy and our spirit can flourish. Bad decisions lead to more bad decisions. It is a vicious cycle.

Me and my husband have three weeks sober, is hard and is a bad habit. I just lost a friend who died from a heart attack he was a heavily drinker. Im pushing to stay sober to change my life for good. Im going to turn 38 and I been drinking since I was 15. I met my husband when I was 18 and since then we were drinking together on the weekends. Somedays in the weekday it turned in to a problem because it progressed but Im happy we have stayed sober. You are an inspiration and lucky to be alive and got a second chance.

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you WAW, sincerely

Thanks for your share, yep, when the rubber hits the Road, Drive that car Buddy! I m nearly 18 years, and i played Rugby, took up Nursing, workedin Recovery Cafes, been to Meetings all over the Globe!! RECOVERY IS A MAGICAL JOURNEY, I ALSO TALK TO THE TREES, oooh Nature very important, i love the bit where you said you got a plant and Goldfish!! Aurra best Buddy from Bonny Scotland!!ONE DAY AT A TIME!

@SoberJames

6 ай бұрын

Well said Diane! Recovery cafe? Sounds cool 😎

15 years ago i used to go online to join AA sober chat rooms.. Don't go to AA or online anymore was a bottom drunk hospitals, rehab program etc. You name it... Heavy drinker effect drinker to numb the mind. Lost my family everything . James tells you the classic AA way it says which I don't fully agree. Don't attend AA meetings and you will drink well I haven't drank again. God's stuff wasn't for me, I decided people get addicted to AA and go overboard. James your story is a direct quote from the big book and a common story tell us your real story . The 12 steps are for everyone, not just addicts, yes addicts that's what we are. So in my 16 year sober, just do it.. I was told I was on my way to an early death, but that didn't stop me, 4 more years until i woke up and got serious .

@giulianacr2638

2 жыл бұрын

Good post, I'm glad you're doing good. Any advice for me as I am trying to help a loved one get off alcohol and stay sober.

@peterredding6090

2 жыл бұрын

@@giulianacr2638 Ill get back to you iam helping my friend Tina get sober

I’ve been drinking for 5 years. As a result, I’ve ruined relationships, lost jobs, totaled my car .. (as a result of a seizure) & much more. At times, I’ll look at myself in the mirror, but can’t even recognize my own reflection. I consider myself a functioning alcoholic, but I know damn well that I need to put this lifestyle behind me. Taking into consideration my addictive personality, I simply can’t get near any addictive substances. I was prescribed Vicodin a while back & had to toss the pills out my car window because I know myself. Wish me luck that I cut my drinking 😔❤️ good luck to everyone reading this!

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Smart move, tossing them. I don’t being that shit or anything like it in my home. I know myself as well.

Someone I love is an alcoholic in recovery. I am here to learn more about it in hopes of helping him. Please know that this fight is not only yours. There's got to be at least one person who cares about you. We are fighting and praying for you too

The anxiety and withdrawals are what are stopping me. It scares me so bad. Panic attacks and weird body sensations. I want to quit again. I made it 30 days back in November 2019. I relapsed and haven’t tried to stop again.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I understand Jewela, I've been there at the abyss, staring in... wondering what it would be like if I didn't take the leap into sobriety. But the longer I put it off, the worse my life got, and the closer and closer I got to death. I talk about detoxing frequently on my live streams, you should stop by. I'm streaming live every day at 11amEST and 9pmEST, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist: kzread.info/head/PL4fufFjMk_prbKWBVuGoiRLayLO4d9D_l I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames I'd love to see you there! -James Btw Jewela, I think I just saw you on my Insta. That you?

Im about to check myself into rehab for the third time tomorrow, i drove out 100 miles away today willing to be homeless away from my family because they said they want me gone, everyone thats close to me wanted me back but the only thing that brought be back was my mom,i was with these bums who were all drinking together saying sleeping out on the streets is alright and i felt weak and drove to look at the ocean, i diddnt partake, i came home and my friend whos not emotional was crying and gave me a hug, i want to be better and i hope this time it sticks, this video was very inspiring

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it reached you Brandon. Just don’t drink brother.

Thank you for this video! My son is 32 and also started young and is in the throes of his addiction. I have been starting to worry that he started too young, has been addicted so long that there is no hope. Great job on your recovery.

Being a addict is nothing to be ashamed of but being a addict who does nothing about it is.

Thank you so much James. Back on Day 4. I've been sober for two years twice and I'm back here. I'm loving your channel! Xo

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Glad to have you back Amy! Glad you love it!

HI THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR SOBRIETY STORY I HAVE BEEN SOBER FOR 2 YEARS AND 9 MONTHS AND I HAVE NEVER FELT BETTER THANKS AGAIN AND I HOPE YOUR JOURNEY IS THE BEST ❤

I’m 62 had sobriety for ten years went back out for ten years want sobriety back working on it right now thanks for your share you’ve convinced me to go back to aa I need the support in those times of need. Once again thanks for story especially how life gets better.waking up this morning not hungover is a gift from god.

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear Fred.

OMG ... I've never hear anyone else describe this as "demonic" ...now I'm not religious but I feel it eating my soul...not just heart breaking hut soul crushing....thank you for giving it straight. 17 years of alcoholism. ..I'm 27....I have early liver damage now.....I can't imagine anymore of this HELL... a been to jail more than once.. almost killed someone else twice by accident-don't even remember....STILL couldn't quit even after crashing a car and being in a wheelchair I used my disability benefits to get alcohol delivered..multiple men have left me.... I chose liquor.... I can't do this anymore dude...worst part is...I'm so self aware that I'm just an informed prisoner now

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

How we relate is how we recover, Raine. ☔

@Liiljuju

Жыл бұрын

I’m an informed prisoner as well, you’re not alone. It’s like we’re so smart and we wash it all down to forget about it. Every man leaves me too bro, I chose the Liquor too. Been arrested, almost crashed into a house, pissing myself and throwing up at the same time. I fucking hate it

@debbiewallace7929

10 күн бұрын

A year ago today my brother passed away from alcoholism. I found him in a hotel room staring at the ceiling. There were two empty big beers there. He never recovered after they sent him to a nursing home. All he could do was wiggle his toes when we asked him questions. He passed in hospice at 61. He spent time in jail and lots of rehabs and half way houses. He was drinking hand sanitizer at Rehab! That is hard core.

@SoberJames

10 күн бұрын

@debbiewallace7929 alcohol is a hell of a drug, I’m sorry for your loss Debbie.

mate im 3 days sober today. i did a 27 days after christmas,, relapsed and lost my job. this video gave me alot of strength. cheers

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I'm happy to hear you can relate Andrew! All we can do is: "fall down 8 times...stand up nine." kzread.info/dash/bejne/Y4thzKVtoNbOnbw.html

Hi James, Thank You for sharing. I am 9 1/2 yrs sober, by the grace of God and 12 step program. Greetings from Australia.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Australia! Congrats on your damn near decade of sobriety Julie!

@julieeddy2051

4 жыл бұрын

@@SoberJames Thank You. Congrats on your sobriety 1 day at a time.!!!!

Thankful for each sober day. God bless!

Have been drinking heavily from age 35 and now 37 (was a once a year “social drinker” but would black out; that should have been my first clue of my addictive nature 😔)....it’s been awful. I tried to stop cold turkey I’m on my third night and have the worst anxiety and pain on my chest....please pray I can get Through this.....as of mom of 2 I can’t take this anymore 😔🙏

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

You'll make it, you're almost over the hump. Drink plenty of water and follow your returning appetite. The anxiety passes, even tho it may not seem like it. I used to be a social drinker. I mean, I drank alone...but I was on Facebook constantly 😉

@ar8107

5 жыл бұрын

Then Came Sober James -thank you so much! It’s weird to say this to some one unknown on the other side of the screen/internet but ITS BEEN hard for me. I don’t even want to drink but the scary part is the withdrawal and pain right after deciding to quit. Today has been the hardest for me. The pain and electrical feeling from my whole body even while asleep has been unbearable!!! To the point that all those 5 out of 7 days of binging on vodka/wine for the past 3.5 years is not worth it. Maybe going cold turkey was a mistake to go on my own and feel like going to the dr/ER this minute. No one knows (at home) why I’m feeling this way but it’s definitely a withdrawal symptom I have never felt.... thank you for your encouragement and I’m being optimistic every minute but scared at the same time.

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

@@ar8107 hang in there, it's almost passed. Now comes the hard part, putting down our "thinking problem." I had to go to rehab, and a ton of AA meetings to know what to do when I put the drink down. www.aa.org/

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

@@ar8107 also, I'm thinking of filming my next video(filming tomorrow, finally!)on detox centers and my experience with them

@ar8107

5 жыл бұрын

Then Came Sober James thank you that would be great.

By God's grace you still here. I'm glad you made the right choice to stay sober.

@youknowwho5709

5 жыл бұрын

+1

@flymech03

5 жыл бұрын

+1

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

That's Benjamin, me too!

@lisardaniels616

3 жыл бұрын

If u didn't get into the car wreck would u be sober today? Some of us dont have tragedies like that but still want to be sober. Dont bring your reasons why your sober do it because u want 2

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

2

4 months not a drop and never looking back. I’m 29.at 28, social and binge drinking for 9 years already took its toll. Had a sudden gastritis attack and learned that my stomach lining was ruined. That pain and anguish was enough for me to say never again.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Happy for you Joseph! Beware the pink cloud tho brother, this may help: kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZHqiyrRymK6bkdI.html

Jan 13th was the day I went into rehab 2020. I've not touched anything since that day. I will do this. I will keep watching . You stay safe mate.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Good to see you on the stream mate. I'm considering streaming different times as well, to accommodate your time zone. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames

504 days sober. One day at a time.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Hell yeah urban lady! 😎

@clintwilliams5740

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome 👌 Seriously. How did you do it and get through the first week.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I went to meetings every day, and called my sponsor. Just don't drink, go to AA meetings, one minute at a time if need be.

@Igaelovic

3 жыл бұрын

How do you manage to sleep once doing it? Sleeping is my issue

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

The insomnia passes.

I’m on day 3 of my detox but also day 3 of being sober. Detox kicked my ass the first 2 days. Delirium tremens also killed me the first night. But they’ve since gone away. I can sleep now and I’m so happy that I can sleep, slight lucid dreams but way better. I’m pushing my addiction and I’m gonna beat it.

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

Hell yeah Jon, I'm pulling for you. You're over the hump. Just don't drink, go to meetings. I host #addictionrecovery #livestreams every Mon and Thurs at 9pmEST here on the #soberjames channel. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat Room: www.patreon.com/soberjames

@alexrobinson4821

3 жыл бұрын

I’m 22 and got delirium tremens the first night as well, uncommon enough for my age but also uncommon for it to happen that rapidly. In rehab they had to call an ambulance twice for me. Spent 2 weeks there due to financial reasons I had just enough to spend two weeks there and I’m now 21 days sober

I'm 61 year s old and trying 2 stop drinking thank you 4 telling your story God bless you to

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Fabian!

I’m 50. I’m 45 days in. I feel finally I can do this! Feels good

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Hang on to that feeling Charlie, remember it. Fiend for it if it dwindles.

You're an inspiration. Glad I came to know you this year. Keep posting amazing stuff like this in the future ♥️

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Ditto man! Thanks for the support!

Man I really resonate with your point that it’s an addictive personality disorder. Looking back I’ve been addicted to/obsessive about things my entire life - sports, hobbies, exercise, women etc. About when I turned 20 that turned into alcohol. 25 now and I’m having a hell of a time quitting recently but hopefully someday I’ll be able to say I got sober at 25 and didn’t look back. Thanks for the vid, hope there’s more like it in the future!

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Oh most definitely, I recognize stuff I obsess over all the time. It's all about serotonin and oxytocin release. It's been said that all addicts drug of choice is the oxytocin that their preferred drug releases for them, and we all are different, which is why we all have different preferences...some people uppers, some downers...all oxytocin.

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

I remember being 18 saying..."I'll quit when I'm 25..." 25 came and I said, "I'll quit when I'm 30..." 30 came and...well you get the picture. 😆

@sportsguy8738

5 жыл бұрын

ThencameJames oh I get it.. been trying to quit for 2 years but not hard enough until lately. It’s time!

I had to watch this video more than once to finally get the point I kept relapsing but finally got it right now, been sober for a good while now, life sober is much better you have everything to gain when you're sober and everything to loose when you relapse. Thanks for sharing this.

@SoberJames

Ай бұрын

Thanks @jorgeloyal6420 For me, knowing I can’t drink isn’t enough. It takes a daily reprieve, and working the twelve steps of AA. I sincerely hope it’s different for you, but if you’re an alcoholic, I’m sorry to say it’s not. AA.org

As James’s sister I can attest to everything said. Although I will add that I believe God saved his life many times for a bigger purpose. He forgot to add that the doctors had to shock his heart 3 times because he had died due to his drinking. He is a new man today and his story can help others

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Terr If I told ALL the details, this vid would be a little bit longer than ten minutes! lol

@flymech03

5 жыл бұрын

❤️

@robindelancy7097

4 жыл бұрын

💗

@notgameyatall

4 жыл бұрын

No one is saying your brother wasn't a drinker Terr.

@johanbosch1822

4 жыл бұрын

Happy for you guys

Hi I really liked hearing your story! I’ve been withdrawing now for three days, terrified for my life, having major chest pains and nights sweats and anxiety. I would normally try to wean myself off but I was too scared because I had taken aspirin due to believing I was having a heart attack. I’m going to stay strong this time and take it one day at a time. I ended up humiliating myself AGAIN monday night, calling a coworker absolutely plastered and blacked out, something I’ve been doing a lot lately, definitely a cry for help. I hope I don’t die during these withdrawals. If I do I wish you and everyone the best in getting sober. Peace.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

You won't die Allen! You'll go on to live your best life possible in sobriety!

@officetechtyping

4 жыл бұрын

I really hope your doing ok Allen!

Found you on twitter and sent you a message there, I have been also trying to spread the message and trying to raise awareness for this current state of addiction in the world. I recently got out of rehab and just celebrated 90 days sober today. I have been documenting my own sobriety since day 50 on my channel and basically approaching it from the perspective of going on the journey alongside the community of those in recovery. Some friends from rehab who are more familiar with the other drugs such as opioids ,heroin and cocaine have been participating in interviews to share their experience in addiction and what life is like now either recovering from health problems or dealing with the legal system. It was ironic you said in your video about people winding up in the ground or in jail because I have been preaching that for 4 weeks. Anyways, I subscribed and if you do more videos like this I will def recommend the channel to other people. Trying to see if we can have an impact or arrests and death statistics in 2019. Thanks for the Inspiration and keep moving forward my man.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Right on DR!

Thanks James! I’ve been sober for 7-months now and Alcohol has completely de-railed my life. I appreciate your video

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

Jones! 7 months!

I’m a functioning alcoholic. I never miss work and pay my bills on time but I’m miserable and all alone which probably adds to my excuses to drink. I’m tired of drinking, the money wasted, the dumb things said and done, the anxiety attacks and hangovers..... all of it! I have to be done. I’m fighting the urge to buy some as I type this. I know if I don’t quit I’m going to die and this isn’t how I want my story to end. I plan on picking up fitness and learning how to play the Guitar as hobbies to fill the void.

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

It’s a good plan. Unfortunately, none of my plans worked. AA will teach you how to not drink.

I Quit Last Night,Funkin up My Health..Straight Cold Turkey...Appreciate your Testimony...

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Good for you Tyrone, keep coming back brother!

@officetechtyping

4 жыл бұрын

Are you still doing it Mr. Tyrone??

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes they don't get notified of a message, Me. ❤ you for caring tho

I would love more info. I feel like I am in a downward spiral. Drinking was my social thing for the longest time but then my divorce happened. At 42 I never thought I would be divorced. Being rejected caused so much pain and confusion; now I live on my own in a small apartment, no friends, my immediate family lives on the other side of the country. I began drinking heavily on weekends to get through weekends. Where I once had responsibility and routine I now have nothing. Some week days I go home and finish off a bottle just to cope with being the loneliness, not wanting to feel the hurt and sadness I've been holding onto, no motivation and now winter is here, when I get home from work at night, it's dark, I sit in my chair in a cold dark living room thinking back at all I once had. When I was a kid, I praised my father for being able to quit drinking, now I find myself facing the same battle he did but I'm older than he was. It's a dark and scary place to be.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I feel you James. You'll find support and information and resources, along with people that have been there, in the rooms of AA. It'll also get you out of your chair! play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.meetingguide Trust me, check out a meeting. If that one rubs you the wrong way, check out another.

@michaelosullivan7087

4 жыл бұрын

Poor man......find the strength my friend.it will only get worse. God bless you

@officetechtyping

4 жыл бұрын

Man, I wish you the best. I hope it's getting better. 💞

Hi James, I'm glad to see people like you made it .I'm going through that now but I'm OK.54years addicted. I'm 8 days sober and I saw the light 8 days ago at my last AA meeting .I check in with you every now and then, thanks for all your help, have a good one!!!

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Keep checking in Gaucho! I love it! AA meeting have a lot of "light," as it turns out. It could be said that the program and it's principles saved my life.

I've been a member of AA for 36 years, my life is very manageable. I make a meeting daily & do so because I enjoy doing so. Since this covid 19 Pandemic, physical meetings have temporally been closed, my AA friends put together a conference call daily meeting & it's been great, we can stay safe & still make our daily meeting. AA are resilient. Thank you for sharing, best wishes as we go forward.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Very well said Chuck, thank you.

It takes such strength to decide to make the changes you made! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m sure it will help others.

@flymech03

5 жыл бұрын

+1

@youknowwho5709

5 жыл бұрын

+

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Melissa! and thanks for watching!

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

@@flymech03 thanks

@markg.4246

4 жыл бұрын

It takes “surrender”, not strength. “We cease fighting everything and everybody”.

4 Days Sober. From India. You inspire me. ❤️

@CMoore8539

9 күн бұрын

Keep going and Never Give Up!!

I have recently realized I have an issue, going to the doctor tomorrow to form a plan to quit drinking. Your video gives me hope!

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

I’m glad I could help.

3 days sober. Thanks for this video. I want it and Im going to get it.

Really appreciate this upload. Your story motivates myself and so many to improve ourselves which in turn improves the lives of everyone around us. Huge mahalo

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, these kind words motivate me Gama!

Almost four years sober for me. All of what you are saying is true. Alcoholism is a mental health issue. Indeed as much as an illness as any other. But of course there is hope. One day at a time we can rebuild our lives and make them better than ever. In recovery we learn real happiness and by following the program we get to learn that there is a loving God who wants only the best for us. We are the lucky ones. Thank you for sharing.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing John! A daily reprieve indeed

One drink is too many and a thousand is never enough. 17 years sober. 7 years clean.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I stream live videos, Mon-Thursday at noon and 9pmEST, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames

Much Respect, James ! Thank you for making these videos. They do help people like me. I appreciate you. Sincerely ~ Shawn

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks EXP, that means a lot to me. I know how helpful hearing another's struggles can be, thanks for watching and subscribing and commenting! I'm setting up to get a sobriety-related video out every Saturday, thanks again!

Thank’s for sharing! Honest, strong and inspiring! All the best and prosper👍

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I alleviate it AraCos!

Oh my Goodness. Thank you so much for this testimonial. This is the 1st time (after many interactions with people from support groups as well as personal friends and family) that I have actually heard my story through another from the same perspective. Thank you so much! This gives me hope and only affirms my belief, faith and plan of action. God-bless.

Thank you so much for sharing your story! It’s very relatable. It’s truly amazing how many obstacles you’ve overcome and your determination and strength is very inspiring! Wish you all the best!!!

Thanks for sharing James, I have been wanting to share my very humiliating story but am happy to just be sober and happy for almost 2 years :)

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

I'll say happy and sober is enough! Shoot, I'm happy FOR you Bonnie!

I needed to hear that. Everything is starting for me today and I just so happen to run across your video. Thank you. Its definitely gonna be a struggle

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

So glad to hear it helped Eric, I know the feeling. If things are starting, sometimes it helps me to turn them around before they gain momentum, whatever it takes. Thanks for sharing!

New Subscriber!♥️ I’m willing to listen. I’m very happy that you lived through all of that. I’ve been clean from opiates since 2016. However I developed an addiction to alcohol over the pandemic. Presently I am 30 days alcohol free and I have no desire to ever start again. To me, alcohol means Death.☠️ ~Cindy.

@SoberJames

13 күн бұрын

Glad to hear you’ve stopped drinking Cindy @cmoore8539, and being willing to listen too?! You’re kinda my hero! I do addiction recovery live streams every weekday at 9pmET if you’re interested, kinda like a podcast where you the viewers are the guests. Feel free to stop by and chat. Hope to see you there.

Thank you for your story. I've struggled with alcohol and almost lost everything. It's been five years since I had a drop. Life is better.

Fair play to you James , stories like yours help others like me stay sober , thanks for sharing my friend

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Well, thank you EDDIE! You encouragement is much appreciated!

This hits home bc as you know you and I started early and I went through a lot of the same as an adult. I thank you for sharing this.

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah addiction is a beast, not to be taken lightly. Glad to hear that you "went" thru it, past tense. Can't go over it or around it, we gotta go thru it.

@jamesburge2438

5 жыл бұрын

@@SoberJames Yeah I had it sort of together for awhile but by the time I was 23, I had been arrested 3 times for fighting and DUI and that continued for awhile. I also was on xanax and pain killers, totally messed myself up. I remember we were very "adventurous" and tried many things early on and that caught up to me eventually

@jamesburge2438

5 жыл бұрын

I relapsed 5 years ago and flipped out on a guy at the gas station that was honking at me and yelling and i assaulted him to the point the police came and arrested me, but I am back and I am in grad school for behavioral addiction

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah bro, shit gets hectic. I'm like night and day. My sister and mother and father wanted nothing to do with me at my worst, now I babysit my sister's kids, people come to me for advice, night and day the difference between drinking me and sober me.

@SoberJames

5 жыл бұрын

Xanax was my thing too. I'd black out on xanax and booze for days on end. I came out of it one day and asked my girlfriend how many beers I'd had. She said sixty three. I checked the trash, but I didn't have to, I knew she was dead as serious. Another time, my mom told me she watched just standing there straight up, all 6'4"of me, and I just fell straight forward into my face...like a dead tree. She said I just got up, got a paper towel for the blood and another beer. Crazy.

7 months sober now. But it's always great to hear another person's story of addiction and sobriety. Inspirational James. Thanx dude!

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats on your 7 months Kevin!

Appreciate the honesty. I haven't been as far as you down the rabbit hole but I don't want to. Functioning alcoholism is worse to me because it drags out for decades without change. You know when your sick of it. It's a burden to bare.

I read a book by Allen Carr called Easy Way to control Alcohol. Friggin' brilliant, I went from drinking 10 pints of lager a day to Zero overnight, my life is now amazing as is my health (both connected).Peace and love to all. x

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Rock on Max

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Im checking it out right now actually. He apparently is considered an "authority" on quitting smoking from the smoking version of that book, 10 million copies sold. Also various others, including "Easy way for Women to Quit Drinking." amzn.to/37csy1d Interesting! #AllenCarr

@GH-zg2wu

4 жыл бұрын

I’m on that book now. 20 days no alcohol. I was a big drinker when younger but cut down when my daughter was born. Now want to cut it completely

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

@@GH-zg2wu I heard that, good on ya!

@frednewlin1459

4 жыл бұрын

The book worked for me. I’m surprised more people haven’t utilized it. Very simple message repeated that gets inside you. Hypnotic. Flipped a switch in my brain and I no longer have any desire to drink. I drank every day for twenty years but limited myself to sixteen ounces of hard liquor per night to somewhat limit the morning hangover. I realize everyone is different but wanted to put this out there. Like you said there aren’t a lot of options. Dirt nap, incarceration,or life of misery.

This is really encouraging. Thanks for sharing your story.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks holiboys! Your comment is encouraging!

Thank you for this! I am 6 days sober today and it feels amazing. I can't wait to see what life has in store for me and I'm grateful for the second chance. I know there will be hard times, but AA and people like you sharing your story and wisdom along with my higher power will get me through, I'm sure. Thanks again and congratulations! :)

@SoberJames

Жыл бұрын

I’m happy for you Michelle ❤️

I truly love this video, thank you for making it. I'm a little over 3 years sober from alcohol. I needed to watch this today.

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

That's Donny, hang in there. I host live stream recovery meetings at 9pmEST Mon and Thurs, and all past streams are available in my live stream playlist. I also host a 24/7 Discord Recovery Chat room and weekly Zoom meetings here: www.patreon.com/soberjames Pledge today for your t-shirt discount on soberJames.com!

Thank you! on day three and feeling a bit anxious...this really help. Saw the coffee cup 'Saratoga' and then you said you were in the Navy and just wondered if you were on 'Sara'? I was from '83-'86 , left just after the Achille Lauro / Lybian conflict. Anyway, thanks for sharing, I know I need to get to a meeting and get my support in place. God bless.

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Nah, I was in the George Washington. Thanks for sharing, all the best Matt. Get to a meeting brother!

I know this is from two years ago, but the first time I got sober was also on January 18, 2018. Hopefully this time I can stick to it. Thank you for your videos ❤️

@SoberJames

3 жыл бұрын

Great date! 01/18/16 is my sobriety date. Guess what today is? My birthday! 🎊

There are so many gems in this video but that picture at 4:17... Yo. That is ART

@SoberJames

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Zack.

Thank U for sharing, Four years sober after 37yrs. Have a great life!

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

You too brother! Congrats!

Day 3 of my sobriety. Loving AA so far.

@CMoore8539

9 күн бұрын

Keep going & Stay Strong!

First sober Christmas in 40 years.....i identify,,125 days clean and sober

@SoberJames

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats Bill, good for you! kzread.info/dash/bejne/ooCMpMx6ZKbPgKg.html

One day at a time. Im on day 4. Love your story man.

Thanks for the video bro it's truly inspiring and sorry you had to endure what you been through all because you were just trying to have a goodtime........