Great conversation ...and I love your cat😼

Ok this is for DR.Ramani. My daughter watches your videos and has come to the conclusion that I am a narcissist, I have been in therapy and went for a complete psychiatric evaluation and have been told I am NOT a narcissist, I won’t say that I had and might still have narcissistic tendencies or traits by being raised in a narcissistic and toxic family, being the scapegoat of the family, never learning any other way of beings I went into therapy after calling for my own intervention from my daughters. I ain’t where I want to be yet but I’m not where I was,that’s for sure. I have try to convey to my children that they weren’t raised by a healthy person and that they/we need help. So please help me understand or figure out what I can do to repair our relationship, or is it so far gone? I offered therapy together but they won’t do it. I listen to you and I see me and my mom and I can see my behaviors with my children. I have your book and am planning I reading it and working again as so staying in therapy becomes I want to be a better version of myself and who I was raised to be , so help!!!!

To see the narcissistic person in reality can feel like I am betraying him. You said something like that… omg. Yes, I don’t want him to think I’m taking advantage of him. He doesn’t feel that way… he just doesn’t want to be alone. Can I take care of myself and stay with him. That state of tension is there for me. How long can I live that way. I’m 68.

Ty Dr R for mentioning the tentacles of addiction. I’m finding those break away everyday, no contact is key. I was addicted to the breadcrumbs. His history is relapse/recovery/ rinse repeat. Understanding the personality style has connected so many dots in my healing. My solitude now is a glorious peace & pride in my integrity for 24 yrs. TY for my daily dose of well-being. This book is amazing 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻👍🏻

@lisacooperellison

10 күн бұрын

I'm so glad you enjoyed this episode and that it supports your healing. And thank you for sharing your story. While not everyone is willing to go no contact, it's a choice many of us have to make--myself included. Making it is the hardest part. But afterward, there can be so much freedom.

I love having the book can see and hear at same time. Refer back too. It is quiet also. I think good for Autistic community who often fall victim.

@lisacooperellison

6 күн бұрын

Yes, I think this is a great idea, especially since, as you said, people in the Autistic community are vulnerable to this kind of abuse.

I would love to join your webinar in the future. Or if you sell on demand. 🌹💃💖 Healing is a walk that never leaves your side.

@lisacooperellison

6 күн бұрын

You can register and get the recording by clicking here: janefriedman.com/the-psychology-of-character-development-for-memoirists-with-lisa-cooper-ellison/. The link is only good through this coming Monday, 6/24. I typically teach classes like this for Jane Friedman every two years, so I don't know when I'll teach it again.

OK I’ve listen to this whole video and I would like to know what happens when the person with the bad behaviors tries to change but other people are holding said person in the same position of the bad behavior they’re not allowing for the changes, and are scapegoating and using them as the garbage can for all the issues and all the problems? They are are in the right and have no issues to deal with or heal. How do you work through that and find a place where both people have the relationship that they want.

@lisacooperellison

6 күн бұрын

I think that's beyond the scope of this conversation. However, what you describe sounds like something that needs to be worked through with a skilled couples counselor who knows how to navigate this issue. That way, both people can decide if this relationship is reconcilable. I hope that helps.

@lisalambert81865

5 күн бұрын

@@lisacooperellison it’s not couples, it my children and they believe that I am the only one that’s the issue and they don’t need to go to counseling.

@purvamandlik4696

Күн бұрын

If your spouse is turning your children against you, I would strongly tell you to avoid couples therapy. Go alone and figure it out. Watch videos by Dr Ramani on parental alienation, triangulation, gaslighting by tribe, etc. ❤ don't tell others what you are learning till you are really ready. ❤

Time for women to wake up ! ( Radical feminism)

@lisacooperellison

8 күн бұрын

Agreed. And yet it's so easy for both men and women to fall into this trap, especially when they're raised by narcissists.