When we avoid failure, we also avoid discovery and accomplishments.. That goes hard

Welcoming failure in your life is definitely the biggest takeaway from this video. I've spent, on and off, about 10 years of my life getting my Bachelor's Degree. This December I'll be graduating with it. Be stubborn about obtaining your goal and be brutally honest with yourself about why you had any shortcomings obtaining that goal. Correct your trajectory when you see those shortcomings and you'll find yourself where you want to be.

@NazriB

5 ай бұрын

Lies again? Serve Country Studio Canal

@giannnisantetosubtome8686

5 ай бұрын

gahdamn 10 years? how did that happen?

@lowshot959

5 ай бұрын

@@giannnisantetosubtome8686 Not being honest with myself. Little things like thinking you can study at home with all the distractions, or studying for a test the day before rather than a little bit each day. I found that treating school like a full time job; going to all lectures and then immediately going to the library to study was all that you really need to do decently well. At least in my experience that's what helped me start passing classes.

There is also the stunning paralysis of early-life failure that becomes a life of failure. Locked in failure that never relents.

@user-ij6py2zi9b

6 ай бұрын

That’s because society only cares about results. My parents believe geniuses are born rather than being a product of environment because they look at their achievements rather than attempting to understand how they became the person capable of achieving such a feat. That’s the mindset of society as a whole and if you fail, you’re a failure in their eyes. If you succeed, you’re previous failures are unheard of.

@fairygurl9269

6 ай бұрын

Your Head Still Above Ground, So Ya Didnt Completely Fail...

@lorenzo6777

6 ай бұрын

@@user-ij6py2zi9b very well put

@Novastar.SaberCombat

6 ай бұрын

Coin, connections, crews, clout, computer code, control, communities, and opportunities are everything. Without these, failure is guaranteed.

@whatrtheodds

6 ай бұрын

​@@user-ij6py2zi9bYour parents don't know everything. And there is an example of the polgar sisters who both became international chess grandmasters because their father believed genius is created not born and what do you know his child ends up with an IQ of 170!

So it's basically about perspective. How you view failure and how you view any hardship. It always amazes me , how almost everything is about our mindset. Same environment and same experiences , but with a different perspective on them. That can really change the course of it all.

@SINCHIROCA07

Ай бұрын

Well said. Thank you 🙏

Creating more "intelligent failures" by thinking like a scientist - expect it and be excited for the lessons learned to get you one step closer to the goal. Love it, thank you Big Think!

People fear to make mistakes when they don't know how to solve them. But failure brings the wisdom if anyone think it critically, and critical thinking brings solution.

Being able to distinguish between high stakes failure and low stakes is very important

- Failure is part of the journey towards success. - There are three archetypes of failure: basic failure, complex failure, and intelligent failure. - Only intelligent failure is the good kind. - Intelligent failure is where new knowledge and discovery come from. - Intelligent failures are essentially the results of an experiment. - There are four criteria for calling a failure intelligent: it's in new territory, it is in pursuit of a goal, it's hypothesis-driven, and the failure is as small as possible. - Intelligent failures can only happen in situations where the stakes are medium to low. - We have to remind ourselves of the true rational-stakes of a situation. - Julia Child, the famous chef, would often have a mistake during her show and just laugh and say it was just an omelet. - It is natural to want to avoid failure, but when we avoid failure, we also avoid discovery and accomplishment. - The only way to succeed in any endeavor worth trying is to be willing to experiment and try new things.

@Bat_Boy

6 ай бұрын

C + E >= O The challenge and the effort (aka, pain, suffering, sacrifice) is more important than the outcome (success or failure). The challenge requires answers to these questions. Who are you? What do you want? You will be more happy, with better positive outcomes if you learn to love the process (including the painful part). While our challenge defines us, you are not suppose to cling so tightly, that you can’t let go, when the time comes. And it will come. Stumble forward. Learn, adapt quickly, and grow.

@kotenoklelu3471

6 ай бұрын

Thank you

@hieeih6468

6 ай бұрын

I disagree on the med to low stakes part

@06:38 The only way to succeed in any endeavor worth trying is to be willing to experiment, to try new things, knowing full well that many of them will yield failures. Beautifully said!

This is great for people who have security in their lives. For those of us that are living on the edge, barely able to survive, failure can, and usually does, mean life and death. For these people there is no good failure. Thinking like this is a luxury a lot of us cannot afford. We need to fix a lot of systemic and societal problems before we can start analyzing types of failure.

@PazLeBon

6 ай бұрын

spot on

@brittenyevans1101

6 ай бұрын

Love this comment

@gergelyszabo4802

6 ай бұрын

Guess why there will be no systematic changes with your logic: Leaders are afraid of faliure too, especially failing people with no security. As systematic changes threaten the vulnerable people most. Therefore they follow the already tried rout, even if it is clearly wrong. So be careful what you wish for, it might just come true ...

@TheJelleyMan637

6 ай бұрын

So ultimately, you have no ability to fail intelligently with low to medium stakes anywhere in your life? Sure, those more well off have a different game but everyone has their own medium to low risk chances. If you block your vision from them you won't see the opportunities.

@bibidiboop5697

6 ай бұрын

Great comment!

There's 2 important questions: 1. How hard did you fall? 2. Is there resistance, when you are trying to get back up?

@Novastar.SaberCombat

6 ай бұрын

No. It's all about coin, connections, crews, clout, computer code, control, communities, and opportunities. Without these, failure will always occur. No exceptions.

@kshould

6 ай бұрын

That second point isn't touched on in the video but is equally important. Also, I don't usually comment because I am often scared to put things out there in writing for fear it may be ridiculed. Figured after watching this video I better start commenting more, probably a good way to learn given the stakes are so low. Big Think viewers are likely more intelligent and kind than the typical internet comments section.

@robr4662

6 ай бұрын

@@kshould agreed, the second point is extremely relevant.

Excellent points! As a learning disabled person I graduated from Highschool from generosity and sweat! Failed out of three universities, failed my MA and went back to earn a different one. My spelling and math skills are not anywhere age appropriate!! My daily journey is filled with hard to access ideas and words. All this history makes me an ideal candidate with perspective to work with learning disabled clients and their families, and have been doing so for over 3 decades. Nothing is was glossy and polished as it looks! Experience and knowledge is as important as IQ!

@iche9373

5 ай бұрын

You are not „disabled“, you are a person with disability.

Sometimes when getting it wrong , makes someone traumatize you. And by minimizing the situation , suppresses the low feeling. And this matters

Our minds are pattern seeking to make meaning of random events which could explain why failure can seem like an attack on the self

@jer-bearzy

6 ай бұрын

I like this thought… Of course, it is multilayered, but this sounds right as far as just internally.

@Amor_fati.Memento_Mori

6 ай бұрын

Lisa Feldman Barratt?

@jonathan4831

6 ай бұрын

Society's obsession with success makes it objectifying. Success is also discussed as a personal win or loss, so it makes sense people would feel failure is an attack on the self as it's inherent to our conditioning and hard to tease apart. The primary value we have in American society that is communicated to us is to either work or consume. I expect responses to failure might fluctuate from culture to culture as a result.

5:41 Wholesome example ! Thank you Big Think for bringing Amy Edmondson to the channel !!

The profound wisdom here is to trust the process, accept the failures and keep moving forward because the truth about life is acceptance, if one wants to experience just what he chooses to, it's totally absurd in this life. So accepting the failures and moving forward is when you actually growing

What a coincidence, I just got back my grade for a written test in German. I studied really hard for it for an elective module. End up with an ok grade because I didnt know how to write the composition well. I was so devastated but thinking about the criteria, and given that I have never done a prior test before, it is akin to experimenting and I think I couldnt have done better

I love when videos like these, ones that seemingly have an important findings, leave out and over-simplify so much research from other fields. If you know some of the relevant science, or if you have life experiences that contradict this video, you know what I mean.

When I taught 6th grade, I used to let my kids watch Dyson's video on failure. It's simple and my students could relate.

the way she talked was so mesmerizing!

Thank you professor and also big think. May god bless you all.

Thank you for sharing this!! ❤️

I think this is one of the most important videos I've watched

I wasn't on board until the very last point, because the whole video I was thinking, "what if I fail and I can't learn?" But you can learn from most mistakes. The way I used to allow myself to make mistakes was saying "its okay if this hurts someone," but actuality "this doesn't hurt anyone, except for my pride a little" which is much lower stakes.

you guys at think big make KZread worth having in my phone, with these kind of videos. thanks

I was recently thinking on this kind of failure types, but I wasn’t able to set them. This video came great to me at this moment!!!

If you’re reading this comment, it’s not too late; you've already been immensely blessed with an abundance of love, wealth, luck, health, joy, and whatever else your heart desires!! I'm so proud of you for surviving everything you’ve been through. This is your sign to go after what your heart most desires for the highest good; it's your time to shine. ✨💖🌟

Thank you! That's very useful advises.

This is so good that I am hitting this on a replay button to get this into my head.

@micheleinacharles-hazellem1968

6 ай бұрын

Same … hitting the replay button

Thank you, i needed this

I loved everything about this video.

Most ppl understand this (even if they dont take risks). The issue with why failure seems intolerable is the high likelihood that ppl will criticize and shame. Culture and human nature to be desperate for safety (seeing someone else fail and "knowing" you wouldn't is one way to feel safe) fuels bullying and thus hesitancy to take risks.

Loved it and People really need to listen to this

If most of us misidentify the scale of the failure, like in Julia Child's example. She's focused on failing to make an omelette, low stakes, it's just an omelette. Where as most people don't focus on the omelette but rather that they failed something simple infront of the large audiences. How do we shift our focus then from the audience to the task of the omelette? I think this is something many online content creators run into.

Fail in small steps...learn from it then scale up.

Thank you !!!!

So many people on here looking to attack the messenger rather than get anything positive out of the message.

So failure is ok as long as I am trying my best, using the knowledge I already have, have not taken on an unreasonable level of risk but am still outside my comfort zone, and (I would add) consciously reflect on the failure to learn its lessons. This failure is not only not bad, it's positively good (perhaps not as good as success but better than never taking reasonable risks).

Appreciate you, Prof

Failing for a long time can make you feel worthless and bitter about yourself the confidence you had is shattered and once you hit rock bottom you stay there and create a miserable comfortable bubble

21 Days of Challenge on Time Management - will be coming back here soon.

Nice - Thank you Amy!

Just beautiful.

Currently reading her book !

I like the phrase if we afraid to embrace failure, we would not reach a new discovery.

A very inspiring video!

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZread channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,032 subs and > 800 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.

I've been very interested in the subject " failure", not that I've not processed my failure in not passing the bar exam twice. And eventually living with that reality. Maybe a part is still confirming that its ok to fail. It happens to the best of us

@Novastar.SaberCombat

6 ай бұрын

If one has enough resources, recoveries can always be made. But the poor have nothing, so even one misstep and it's all over. No exceptions, no excuses, no second chances.

Thanks

Failing upwards is what I’m really good at

The BGM was excellent!!!

Thank yuo

Success is one of the two outcomes of opportunity. The trick is to see your resulting success as proof that you are worthy of opportunity and that opportunity would only be waisted on the poor,..er those who are not successful.

I loved this wisdom pill... really to the point and helpful, encouraging. Also, thats off topic but, I would love to know the composer of the music used here

Intelligent failures are hard for most people. Usually when someone makes a mistake they haven’t thought the process through and have no desire to improve based on feedback. For intelligent failures one needs to know what the expected outcome for success is and what the outcomes of failure could be should they happen. Only then can someone use the information to fix their mistake and move forward. This requires foresight and a willingness to do the extra work before an action to save time and effort later on. Good scientists know this, the average person doesn’t care.

No rules in life often, nothing guaranteed!

As a successful failure, I approve this message.

"Don't try to avoid failure. It can't be done, there's too many ways. Instead, try and succeed. Then there is only one way." - Quote Machine

I am a firm believer in the power of the null hypothesis...

Failure is also matters.

both don’t matter it’s pulling yourself up

You can't just decide to live this. The intelligent failure can only happen when conditions are optimal enough for the brain to recognize these things. There's a whole lifestyle one must live before achieving intelligent failure. You have to have yourself in order and not be too hedonistic or unbalanced in any one facet of your lifestyle choices for this to even be possible.

Criteria for intelligent failure : 1- it's in new territory 2- in pursuit of a goal 3- hypotheses driven 4- as small as possible

Does anyone know the song at the end? I find it very uplifting

I thought this video was going to be about those rich people who completely fail at everything they do and destroy companies only to get promotion after promotion every time. Intellectually I know it's just because they're rich and have connections but it still boggles the mind.

i have failed many times in intelligence area ,like failure from certificate and exams even losing weight. it ends up many psychological diseases like depression and anxiety. nobody can have that scientists mindset to welcome mistakes and failures ,especially he has falied over 5times. i hate failure which has ruined my life .now i suffer from eating disorder and mental disorder . what is point of failure? it only drives me crazy and depreesed again and again ,just like vicious cycle

"Avoiding failure is avoiding new discoveries"

A bit unrelated but does anyone know the piano piece used as background music at about 0:46?

I think instead of calling it "intellectual failure", a more suitable/neutral term is "intellectual deviation", deviation from the preferred/expected outcome. The word "failure" has a negative connotation and implies the absolute accuracy of the past standard/hypothesis/assumptions, which is in many case, implausible.

This was great to watch But can you explain that what if we are not testing a chemical or it isn't any new haircut, what we are testing is our life itself. What would happen in such kind of an experiment! ! Eagerly waiting for your answer.

@Novastar.SaberCombat

6 ай бұрын

LOL. As if these entitled TEDxers ever see YT comments. Even if they did, their speeches exist only in a "presentation bubble". They do not work in the real world.

I was actually going to write a book called "How to successfully fail"...

It is all about risk management. What will the consequences of failure be upon me?

Julia child is like the Bob Ross of chefs. I'm checking her content as we speak.

Some failures will out-live you

Dropping that omelet is a costly failure to those who don't have the reserves to quickly make up for that loss. It might result in not eating that day. They have more reason to be afraid of failure. Their little mistake becomes a big one. The fear of a little mistake resulting in whether or not you eat that day might carry into being extremely risks adverse in other areas. Some people can't afford either of those failures.

Loved the enlightening video, just want to point out that there's a "basic mistake" in the English subtitling at minute 5:33: Who cares instead of who caress:-)

I am a scientist. Failed to become a professor. What’s that? A complex, a basic or an intelligent type of failure? I don’t know, I didn’t get where these classes come from and why are they useful 🤷‍♀️

0:48 as I listen. I'm proud to be the greater fool. 😊 If that's even mentioned here. 😅

People saying that this affects the population differently, if you’re poor or low income or whatever. She is literally GIVING you the answer to start some form of success with, do you ever think that calling her smug or arrogant or choosing to blame a high end university lecturer with a life’s work of research and study behind her for your own failings and stagnation is part of your issue? It beggars belief how righteous the poor or low income are…. If you start to change your momentum, absorb information, and gain these percentages that are GIVEN to you in this format, then things CAN change. Stop pointing fingers, and look in the mirror. Stop dismissing what hurts.

@Novastar.SaberCombat

6 ай бұрын

Nah. If an individual lacks coin, connections, crews, clout, computer code, control, communities, and opportunities, failure is guaranteed. No exceptions. And without resources, recovery cannot be attempted. It's over. The wealthy, however, have endless attempts. That's why even entitled, wealthy criminals "fail upward", lol! Chump, Bankman-Fraud, Theranos chick, Madeoff, etc. all get free passes.

Whats this track?

Fail. Fail smart. Fail quick. Fail and learn. Fail until you succeed.

This isn't what I tell my kids, they need to be winners like their dad and to much lesser extent their mum

Why do we fall Master Wayne? So we can learn to pick ourselves back up.

Great… now I’m failing at failing too.

🤔

Oh god, I can fail at failing now? *~anxiety intensifies~*

Too narrow a definition on intelligent failures. "in a new territory" would be used to prevent improving a process by fixing order or rethinking how something is done. Although most workers would say that is new territory, execs and managers would say it is wasteful and already explored territory.

theres alot of issues i take with this premise, and her argument about risk and stakes and failure in general. The US education system over emphasizes testing over learning. first issue, second issue the consequence for failing as a rich and a poor are two different worlds. if you fail as an investment banker you can get bailed out and use how bunch of rich fuckery to soften the blow where as a everyday middle class american has an idea they decide to pursue as a business venture could put you working at costco. which is not enough to live a fullfiling life.

"Failure is apart of success." - Bishop Henry Fernandez, The Faith Center

Great❤

@TheVeganVicar

6 ай бұрын

Great and lowly are RELATIVE. 😉 Incidentally, Slave, are you VEGAN? 🌱

Do looks like with the advent of AI, we might start a new kind of failure. It's very close to intelligent failure, but we don't care about wasting resources, and we are randomly, but comprehensively trying all the options.

well there is also other failure...like you are good enough for college football but you dont know if you are good enough for the pros . the only way to find out is to try- but that takes time money life days and also risk. same with business. same with law school med school phd. so she is leaving a big..maybe the biggest chunk... out of her analysis.

Chumbawamba 😁

Before doing something, I ask myself "what's the worst thing that can happen?". Sooths a lot of anxiety

@brittenyevans1101

6 ай бұрын

But, even if the worst did happen. How, do you pivot from that?.

Homer simpsons and others from the town are in a giant hole but they have shovels so Homer says "I know! We'll dig ourselves out..." a little time passes and Homer yells " NO! Dig Up Stupid!"

I don't look at anything like it's a fail, it's just a way of learning the right way.....

The background music needs to be studied for failure for effecting emotion rather then concentration on the words.

@nada3131

5 ай бұрын

It’s just a great piano track! I wish I knew the name!

Thi advice is marginally good at best for the upper 50 percent socio-economic income distribution. I have a pointed concern when the author says that mistakes are never awful. That is simply not the case for wide swaths of the population. Many mistakes carry far reaching consequences, especially for those on the margins of society. This author comes across as smug and her advice ought be followed only by those similarly situated who already have the means to fail upwards.

How

lol, so if I fail to feed my kids its ok so long as i fail in the right way? kinda daft right?

@fairygurl9269

6 ай бұрын

Hopefully You Keep Trying, but Not in the Same Way, To Feed Them, as You Would For Yourself... Or You'll Troll "Kinda Daft Right" 🤷‍♀️*Git Smarter

@PazLeBon

6 ай бұрын

@@fairygurl9269 I only understand English mate, you wull have to give it another go