this was exactly how my father behaved, right down to kidnapping my brother and I because he couldn't control my mother's every move anymore, he sure as hell wasn't gonna lose that control over his children that easily. he started poisoning my food with dairy, a thing I have been allergic to since the day I was born, in an attempt to continue controlling my mother. you don't have to hit a child to inflict permanent terror. breaking their belongings because they didn't do exactly what you said is 100% violence. getting so angry you break your target's material possessions is a violent act that leaves their victim just as afraid for their life as they would be if they had been beaten. people underestimate the impact of psychological warfare, especially in a familial setting. this exact kind of man left me, my mother, and both of my brothers with C-PTSD that we still struggle with. I will never know who I was supposed to be, who I could've been, because my father robbed me of normal childhood development using just his words and my broken toys. psychological abuse is just as impactful and morally reprehensible as physical or verbal abuse, but unfortunately this is a very accurate portrayal of how prosecuting this kind of abuse goes down in court

@HeronCoyote1234

Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Have you managed to find the right (helpful) therapist?

@londonm3161

Жыл бұрын

@@HeronCoyote1234 I'm doing much better now with the help of therapy, medication, and the most loving and supportive partner I could've ever hoped for. I've made great strides in being less immediately reactionary to perceived criticism and in allowing myself to make mistakes and just be stupid sometimes. I still don't trust food that I didn't personally prepare but my partner and I both have celiac disease now anyway so I don't have to face that fear just yet 😅 having 500 miles of distance and having not seen my father in five years also helps! as hard as it is to break away from the only thing you've ever known, you really have to completely separate yourself from that source of trauma and anxiety or you won't ever be pulled out of that constant fight or flight response. I wouldn't necessarily say I'm grateful for how he raised me or that I wouldn't go back and change things if I could, but I am incredibly grateful for the life I've made for myself and for the people in it ❤️

@kevintravers3988

Жыл бұрын

@@londonm3161 Happy to hear that your story is leaning towards a happy life. I hope things continue to remain promising and happy for you and your partner. Not everyone gets a lucky break, so it's inspiring when you hear one. Good luck to you.

@laurainesacosta4631

Жыл бұрын

😢

@paulzammataro7185

10 ай бұрын

So Sorry

Studies have shown that not hugging a child or showing them affection can have the same effect as striking them and yelling at them.

@sheriasha18

10 ай бұрын

I didn't know that, I didn't get a lot of hugs.

@user-sz5lz5zd3w

3 ай бұрын

Same in my house.

@TheBatugan77

25 күн бұрын

Studies have shown... Everything.

Splendid episode! The father controls his daughter's thoughts. It is creepy! An 18 year old does unusual stuff because "Daddy told me to."

I hope the scene where McCoy cross-examines the second wife is uploaded, such a great scene where she realizes that she merely exists as a placeholder with no personality traits, friends of her own or familial contact; just as his wife and his children’s new mother because the first mother dared to challenge his terror-fueled “parenting”.

@erikabutler6893

8 ай бұрын

Yeah cuz otherwise where the hell can you even watch it?

@cle5676

2 ай бұрын

Jack should have thrown him in jail for killing that woman...and for abuse of his kids.

@KomoliRihyoh

20 күн бұрын

@@cle5676 McCoy couldn't, the daughter claimed *she* did it, and the second the dad's lawyer told the jury that, they'd acquit him.

@Glum1964

18 күн бұрын

I was just coming to ask if this was where the new wife saves the day? I haven’t watched this series in since Jerry Orbach passed, but I have vague memories of it.

You don't have to hit a person in order to control them. Although physical abuse certainly helps. But making someone fearful can be done in different ways. Some people can easily fool others...

@ebayrose

Жыл бұрын

Showing that was one of the points of this episode's story.

@Deborahtunes

Жыл бұрын

@@ebayrose ~ But just in this scene, it doesn't really get that across much...

@ebayrose

Жыл бұрын

@@Deborahtunes Sure it does. Teen obsessively protective of father. Her own lawyer expressing concern about her mental state to the DA. The girl programmed to the point of not remembering her own mother who she was kidnapped from after the judge awarded her full custody in-spite of DUI charge w/ kid in car. And if you have any awareness of emotional and other forms of manipulative abuse besides physically, the mom's description on the stand makes you cringe inside at imagining a life like that from birth. It's like learning the truth about Mrs. Duggar's mat playtime and then listening to her describe it.😰

@Deborahtunes

Жыл бұрын

@@ebayrose ~ But the mothers testimony is slightly tainted when his lawyer pointed out about the DUI/DWI (I forget which one it was). That ruined her credibility on the stand. Even if she was believable. If I was on that jury, and had no history of abuse in my family (in my case I do, but this is just for argument's sake), I wouldn't take her seriously...

@felisd

Жыл бұрын

If they don't hit you, it's even more nefarious. Because you could be abused for years and you wouldn't even know it. Heck, even after you figure it out, it's hard to get anyone to believe you because you don't have bruises or broken bones, and "oh, he just made you do blah blah blah, you could always say no!"

The ex-husband was beyond Methodical and controlling. The abuse he inflicted on his wife and kids is the kind that you don't see so you don't know it is happening, and the victims look like the dangerous ones.

Angie Harmon as Abbie Carmichael, she'll always be my favorite D.A assistant. I hope she could make a guest star appearance one day on a future episode. Maybe a case that she'd worked before where they need her help. Same with Connie Rubirosa, even though she did appear on SVU a few years ago to help Barba, but wouldn't mind seeing her on the show she was originally on.

@Deborahtunes

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. In my opinion, Jack & Abby made the best prosecuting team in the DA's office...

@teodorusdikypermadi

Жыл бұрын

Prosecuting partner Connie Rubirosa is Cutter

@michaelmorgan7893

Жыл бұрын

I've always liked her too. Angie, Cabot and Casey Novak were my favorites

@aggressiveattitudeera887

11 ай бұрын

She worked with Jack McCoy and Mike Cutter.

@teodorusdikypermadi

11 ай бұрын

@@aggressiveattitudeera887 agree

That was one of the worst defenses ive heard on this show

Thats the reverend from chicago med who married a child! God he plays monsters well

@richardw3470

19 күн бұрын

He played a real crazy in, I think, L&O CI who had a nice family, a body under the ice cream in his garage freezer and a cousin who was a failed mortician. The cop set him up with a tooth somehow and he spent the night in the garage searching. A real crazy - hilarious program. I'd like to see that entire one again.

@Glum1964

18 күн бұрын

He played a hit man in L&O: Criminal Intent. He was scary in that role as well. Ice cold killer in one scene, loving family man the next. Great episode.

Abbie Carmichael was one of my favorite ADAs on Law And Order. She was one beautiful, tough prosecutor. Her voice was so breathtaking. Plus, Angie Harmon's acting has always been awesome. 💕💕💕

@dmf1301

Жыл бұрын

Have you seen Rizzoli and Isles? She plays Jane Rizzoli, a detective. It’s brilliant! 😛

@rogerbarrett1979

Жыл бұрын

@@dmf1301 I have. It's great. Her character was funny.

This defense lawyer gets on my nerves. He is irritating in all his episodes

@Survivor_of_DMVdrivers

Ай бұрын

He makes a better moral compass character in a zombie apocalypse than a lawyer, yes? Pretty certain the actor is Jeffrey DeMunn who portrayed Dale in "The Walking Dead." 😆

The father would definitely be prosecuted for his actions I mean looks at him smirking at his lawyer like an evil monster would never liked the actor should've seen him in Chicago med

@NH-tb2sm

11 ай бұрын

In Chicago Med did he play the husband of the minor child and refused to let her get an abortion?

I remember this episode, the father was an evil, selfish controlling areshole.

Why is this guy typecast as the worst type of dude?

The defense lawyer trying to make her out to be worse than her husband because of a one-time incident disgusts me. I get he’s doing his job as the husband’s attorney, but what she did, albeit dangerous, was a one-time thing…what her husband did to the entire family was an ongoing process o er several years-hardly any grounds for comparison.

I love this episode of L&O. The ex wife seeing his pic when Brisco finds her at the funeral of the initial victim. The victim was pushed off the subway platform or into oncoming traffic, i think. The dad, i think the actor is jay sanders? He went on to be the captain on criminal intent, for about a season. After being in an episode of criminal intent where goren had him tearing up his garage looking for evidence, in a previous C.I. episode. The stepmother's actress played in a trilogy of tv movies from the 90s that starred rue McClanahan from golden girls, kristy mcnicholls from empty nest, and pat Duffy from dallas/step by step. Daughter of the bride, baby of the bride, mother of the bride? The stepmother's testimony and the hand gesture the dad uses trying to control her from his seat is the best! So frightening. 👉🏻👆🏻 Next to Hands Free, this is my 2nd favourite episode.

@missladyanonymity

Жыл бұрын

👉🏻👆🏻 "she can't DO THAT." or was it, "she can't say that." Whatever the line was....he bodied this episode and the C.I. episode with the garage.

Man I miss Adam. Dude was so snarky.🤣🤣🤣

This is one of my favorite episodes! I can't find the full episode anywhere!😩😩😩

@jessilynallendilla5014

2 ай бұрын

try 123Movies

It's sickening when a parent treats their children like this, and it's horrific how often it happens in real life. I went years not connecting that Angie Harmon (ADA Carmichael) was the same actress who played Jane Rizzoli in Rizolli & Isles. Even crazier? I just found out that she was the voice of Barbara Gordon in the Batman Beyond cartoon series.

Nice

“Is that a no?” “No…?” God, I love Adam.

As i said before the ADA's saw everthing, they need a better pay Pd: It's good to see when in a psycological situation they ask a professional in that matters

Angie Harmon looks like the actress on FBI

It's Dale from the Walking Dead 😱😱😱

I just thought of something... why doesn't Law & Order ever have a "Lie Detector Test"?

Who'd have thought Dale was a lawyer before slaying zombies in the apocalypse! For those who don't get the reference, the actor is Jeffrey DeMunn who also portrayed Dale in "The Walking Dead" many years after this L&O episode was filmed

Didn't he have an underage wife in Chicago MD?

Does anyone remember an episode of one of the Law and Orders where the couple blames each other for their child’s death (maybe even a baby… I’m vague), and act like they hate each other. Then at the end, they’re seen holding hands surreptitiously in an elevator after getting found Not Guilty? The memory of that stuck with me. But I can’t figure out if it was this series or what episode.

Why doesn't this channel add clips of criminal intent? There are two law and order channels. One was started by nbc, one by a fan, but nbc aquired it. Now one airs recent clips of "law and order Thursday' with new season 21+ of OG L&O, svu and organized crime. The other, this channel only shows og l&o and old svu clips. No criminal intent? No trial by jury? No chicago?

@Deborahtunes

Жыл бұрын

I said the same thing a long time ago. Apparently it fell on deaf ears. "Criminal Intent" was always my favorite out of the L&O franchise. Love Vincent D'Onofrio. Him & Emmes compliment each others "talents" very well. Alex wasn't just window dressing for the series. And unlike SVU, they didn't turn "CI" into a soap opera. Although I preferred 1-5 seasons in general, season 6 had some incredible episodes too. My favorite "CI" episode of all time is "End Game" from season 6...

@rachelgarber1423

Жыл бұрын

Maybe they didn’t buy that show

Angie Harmon is so, so fine ❤️

What was the ruling?

@biagioguadagno-on8hi

Жыл бұрын

Is plea guilty of kidnapping

Hi

I love Jeffrey Demunn!

Hey it’s Chief Pope!

@irishpogi

Жыл бұрын

J.K. Simmons had a recurring role in Law and Order. He played Dr. Emil Skoda a psychiatrist

@teoengchin

Жыл бұрын

He later went on to be Editor-in-chief of the Daily Bugle

Women today are just as "catty" to each other today as they have ever been.

So what was the verdict?

@biagioguadagno-on8hi

Жыл бұрын

No verdict.

@jadefire2817

Жыл бұрын

Guilty. Because his current wife ends up breaking down on the stand, and agreeing with everything the ex-wife said. Dude loses control and blurts out in the courtroom that she, (current wife) "can't" say bad things about him.

@biagioguadagno-on8hi

Жыл бұрын

@@jadefire2817 nope. Plea guilty.

@jadefire2817

Жыл бұрын

@@biagioguadagno-on8hi Verdict was still guilty. Whether by jury or plea.

So not cool mAn

# 243!!! WHOOOOOOO.... DOGGY!!! 🤘🤘🤘🤘

the prosecution here stretched the charge and the woman seems to be lying she offers no evidence to support her point of view

@yucol5661

Жыл бұрын

Evidence of what? Domestic abuse? We allow testimony for a reason. You can’t collect cold hard physical evidence for everything

Oh so now emotionally and psychologically abusing your kids is called "making them pick up their toys"? Weakest counterargument I've ever heard.

Just to let you all know, this isn't real..........you're welcome.....

@durenatu

Жыл бұрын

Just to let you know it was based in a real case from Massachussets in the early 90's. You are also welcome.

Babe i love you so much are my boyfriend mean two lol just imagine that how is it okay with you question ❤