Unpopular opinion: I think the happiest and healthiest couples are private. They don’t make content and post each other every day. They are lowkey

@nya2823

Ай бұрын

Yeah. I literally can't imagine anyone postning their entire relationship online being happy, it's all fake

@brianaelainechase

Ай бұрын

Agreed!

@lisagiannoumis3816

Ай бұрын

This. I think a lot of people even have infuriating conversations like these at times, but they work through it PRIVATELY.

@v.xien.

Ай бұрын

Agreed

@Annsu2017

Ай бұрын

We know that usual saying right? "Empty vessels make more noice"😂 And in my culture there's another saying as well in Indian Telugu language- 'Emi Leni aaku egiri egiri padthathi, Anni unna aaku anigi manigi undathi'. Context- here in Southern Part of Indian, we eat food in Banana leaves for sustainability & delicious taste since thousands of years ago. Translation- A leaf that has all food ingredients stays still & low but the one that doesn't have any, blows & rolls away by wind making a scene.

Last year our second child was born the day after my husband’s 30th birthday, which means we spent the entirety of his birthday in the hospital. He thanked me for having the “best birthday party and gift ever.”

@fil0sofia

Ай бұрын

I was born the day after my dad's birthday too and 32 years later I'm still the best birthday gift he's ever gotten. It's always been fun celebrating our birthdays together.

@demetria3626

Ай бұрын

this is the correct response!

@ryanc5572

Ай бұрын

This is beautiful ❤

@TRADITIONALwife84

Ай бұрын

My children’s father is the same and still to this day. Looks over at our middle baby and says you’re the best birthday present I ever got…..❤ As it should be.

@TRADITIONALwife84

Ай бұрын

❤

If my husband gave me the silent treatment after I gave birth, I don’t think I’d ever be able to get past that

@pimmspimms5462

18 күн бұрын

I agree. It’s unforgivably cruel. I believe that Matt is a narcissist - my father is a diagnosed narcissistic sociopath and they are completely alike. Matt felt that the second baby would ruin his life and career and ‘punished’ Abby by not talking to her for a week after the baby was born! He then travelled to another part of the country to record music… and left her alone, with a newborn, still recovering from a c-section! It sends the message that her needs, and the baby’s needs, are not as important as Matt’s. It’s textbook devaluation. 😔

@Psalmbodytolove

17 күн бұрын

@@pimmspimms5462 100% agree with this! Textbook narc. Gives me shivers when I watch him.

@happygecko66

6 күн бұрын

me neither. and them discussing it on a podcast is CRAZY!!!! go to therapy 😩

The fact he pointed out HE grilled. That means he literally wanted to sit there doing nothing at all while his pregnant wife ran around treating him like a king and everyone to give all the attention. My toddler son is less of a baby than he is

@ashleyh9960

24 күн бұрын

Or he just wanted the validation and to be accredited for being the one who gRiLLed on his birthday 🫠😂 this man just screams insecure and wants so much attention and credit and validation

@johannap3371

21 күн бұрын

The amount of men I know that cook or grill for their own parties. He’s so entitled and childish 🙄

@vivi-ws9yl

20 күн бұрын

​@@johannap3371 right? I've never seen the guy NOT be on the grill no matter what party it was. Normally they won't even let you touch the grill lmaoo

@serenarose3822

16 күн бұрын

In my house, he always grills!!! It's man bragging rights or something. Even if it was his birthday, his friends would lose it and make fun of him because his wife was grilling. I don't know if I am explaining it right but.... He loves when I make grill events. He wants to Even grill for Christmas.

@saltycat662

13 күн бұрын

Aww, but grilling is hard ya'll. How could you not understand his pain and torment?? 🤣🤣

"Does it feel like you cheated birth?" SHE GOT CUT OPEN TO HAVE A CHILD. IN WHAT WORLD IS THAT CHEATING.

@leeannspencer2952

Ай бұрын

THANK YOU!! My C-Section was cheating death LITERALLY!! for anyone to thing a c-section is easy in any way is a joke!!!!

@hans94v18

Ай бұрын

This makes me the most furious I would be SO hurt if that’s the mindset my husband had

@ididntaskyouropinion

Ай бұрын

Seriously! It takes longer to heal from a c section! I had issues after both my c sections. I wanted vaginal deliveries but my kids were both breech.

@ireefree2024

Ай бұрын

This is the same type of guy who "dies" if he has a cold. OMG what is wrong with this person and why does these people get even any attention 😮 One day she'll wake up and will be so embarrassed. Probably when he left her for another woman...If my husband would be disrespectful like that. It would be over immediately.

@gemmaprince295

Ай бұрын

It's worse it's horrible especially after takes you a long time to recover properly I would have rather had natural births but unfortunately I couldn't

Setting up a camera when your wife is having a obvious anxiety attack is a total douchebag move.

@invisiblepinkunicorn7626

Ай бұрын

It’s really disturbing-any condition that is vulnerable should NOT be placed on the internet for public consumption. Her condition in post op-any condition someone is sick or in distress- don’t take advantage. It’s cruel. The hospital I work at-NO cameras or pictures are permitted-and they don’t play (federal government hospital). They will take your phone. If you are an employee, you will be terminated.

@death299

Ай бұрын

In this case it's vastly more complicated, as they both make their living off online using their personal lives. It still shouldn't be done, but whether or mot it is a douchebag move is extremely complicated and not as simple as. Y/N

@SJ-ni6iy

Ай бұрын

Unless you’re a person who loves being the center of attention and shares every detail of your life

@courtneyisaseagull

Ай бұрын

@@SJ-ni6iy Still a douchebag move.

@graciemayrobison2016

Ай бұрын

Literally Onision behavior

Her feeling bad for being 123lbs after giving birth is insane, especially because of his remarks. Thats 55kg, thats a normal weight... So sad. And even if it wasnt, SHE JUST GAVE BIRTH.

@happygecko66

6 күн бұрын

that’s fucking deranged

Notice how he never apologized for not talking to her, causing her to have emotional breakdowns, etc.

@claire6838

27 күн бұрын

Exactly. It sounds pretty clear to me: He resents her. She knows it. And she is sad. The writing is on the wall. I feel like she constantly justifies what he says, despite how hurtful it is. She says things that are hurtful too, but my gosh…not the way that he does. The odds aren’t good. I give it less than 5 years. Honestly, after the birth comment, I hope she says something next time they’re intimate, like “Oh, look, it’s like a d!€£, only smaller.”

@Amm68x

18 күн бұрын

How do you know that he never apologized? I’m not defending him, but you shouldn’t speak without knowledge.

@elleofmann6406

6 күн бұрын

Why would we assume that he did?​@@Amm68x

Her crying and saying that she felt alone after giving birth actually broke my heart. 😢

@jennikattt

Ай бұрын

Right bc she had her husband….

@gnomie2.0

Ай бұрын

Right?! Feeling alone when you’re home with your husband who should be making you feel fully supported 😓

@ydorri2460

Ай бұрын

It's so sad, having a baby should be a time when you feel held and supported by everyone around you. I would have lost my mind if my husband gave me the silent treatment right after I gave birth!

@katodd2925

Ай бұрын

@@ydorri2460she’s a married single mom

@tonysopranosduck416

Ай бұрын

Thought the exact same thing after my first born. It’s a message from the universe when your hormones are raging, your intuition is high that “this is not right girl”. I also think as much as she shares online, she holds even more inside and deep down is silently suffering but is under too much pressure to be honest with herself and bolt. She seems to do a lot of “convincing” how their marriage is hard but divorce isn’t an option.

PSA: If your wife does ANY income-producing work in addition to the housework, then you don't have a tRAdiTiONaL marriage, you just have a marriage where your wife does more work than you and does not get acknowledgement.

@alison8606

Ай бұрын

I want to put your comment on a billboard in every city lol

@MimiRAM0NE

Ай бұрын

Traditionally, women who weren't wealthy typically did other work, like weaving, soap making, spinning, etc. in addition to homemaking to make money for the family. It's where the term "cottage industry" comes from, so no, it's not nOt tRaDiTiOnAl. HOWEVER, I 100% agree that valuing your spouse and their work - in every form - is of paramount importance, and sharing household work and parenting is perfectly traditional and just plain the right thing to do.

@honeylis7

Ай бұрын

gosh I sure hope a million people reply to my comment to inform me what a "traditional marriage" is when I was clearly being facetious

@purplelove3666

Ай бұрын

Even if he does not acknowledge it,it's useless would you want your coworker to appreciate you for doing more work than her?

@amymbeauty8765

Ай бұрын

Exactly this!

The silent treatment is ridiculous and the fact that he ignored her after she gave BIRTH and needed him the most.

Me ex used to say that he “helped me all of the time with the baby”… that’s called RAISING YOUR CHILD!

@mayathebraveofkitwanga448

20 күн бұрын

Totally understand why he's an ex now. I hope you and your baby are ok❤

Abby gives me the vibe that she's chasing for Matt's validation because he's all she has, while Matt is chasing external validation through social media.

@jessicabreidenbach3615

Ай бұрын

She definitely gives off a fawn response

@yahussain1272

Ай бұрын

Omg this is exactly what i thought

@thisgirl1896

Ай бұрын

Exactly my thought!!!

@maloryj7165

Ай бұрын

Which is probably true. Mid 20s with 4 kids (is that right?) it would be terrifying to try anything else. Give her a few years and she'll realize she's trapped and can do much better on her own.

@Jenna-Roo

Ай бұрын

Yep!!! ❤

So he talked shit about the c-section AND the vaginal birth. What a guy.

@smidgen

Ай бұрын

right? it makes me sick, she can't win.

@lyndsycarson8302

Ай бұрын

and breastfeeding!!!

@xoxo2026

Ай бұрын

he has no right to speak on any of that. he’s such a narcissist

@JLynnEchelon

Ай бұрын

I really and truly thought the "cheat" thing was about losing weight. Like, isn't it crazy that you can lose 8 pounds (or whatever) in minutes? I died when I realized he meant "cheating birth". Furious.

@carlycrays2831

Ай бұрын

I would have died if my mom hadn't gotten a c-section. Besides me almost dying, she said that she did actually prefer it to a natural birth. Maybe it was cheating, but even though she felt really sore afterwards and had to go back to the hospital to fix her stitches, she loved knowing exactly what was happening, when it was happening, and when it would be over.

One thing ill never forget someone say is “ a woman will never forget how you treated her during pregnancy” because thats the most vulnerable time for a woman. And i didn’t fully understand it until i was put in that position. Thankfully i wasn’t trapped by a terrible human being for the rest of my life. And i still haven’t forgotten how i was treated. And that was 2-3 years ago still healing

@tracy7612

24 күн бұрын

Same here. It affects me to this day, and my son is 27!

@revilusionpasserotto5217

23 күн бұрын

Yeeepppp! My kids' dad fought with me even though I had pre-eclampsia (& needed to keep my BP down). The nurses had to take the phone away & THEY got on to him about how he was treating me & how he was raising my BP, putting our son & me at risk. Then, a few days after bringing our son home (whom he hadn't held AT ALL), I asked, "would you like to hold your son?" & I'll never ever ever forget his answer..."not really, but I guess". I BROKE in that moment & it just went downhill from there. Sigh. It's nearly been 14 years since that happened & it still hurts to this day.

@59wooly32

23 күн бұрын

@@revilusionpasserotto5217 wow. I literally almost cried reading this. 😮‍💨😮‍💨 im so happy you and your baby boy are ok now. Wow. Both of you guys replies touched me. Im so sorry you had to go through that. Especially while literally having a child. I can’t even fathom how strong you were and remained. Wow this topic just isn’t talked about enough. 😕❤️❤️❤️

@maklur93

22 күн бұрын

Same here. I told my child father I’m upset b/c I never thought I would only have one child feel extremely guilty and sad for my son b/c he is a only child and I know he is lonely. I play many roles including being a sibling to my child. I told my partner two things I look forward to in life being a mother and wife…. Totally ruined😢… to the point if I ever have a daughter I’m not giving her mini kitchen n baby dolls to give her the impression that, as a women that’s ur ultimate goal just for an empathetic man to strip it all away. And 8 month down the road tell me he has grown from his immaturity and is going to be a total different experience. He has been an impromptu doula for a lot of our friends and family who had children b/c he learned so much threw our journey. But I honestly don’t know how to trust that

@revilusionpasserotto5217

22 күн бұрын

@59wooly32 noooo, I'm sorry for almost making you cry! We are definitely doing better now, my 2 kiddos are my reason for still breathing! Their dad has gotten a little bit better about spending time with them, but we separated about 4 or 5 years ago after my daughter( our first born) came to me & said, "mommy, I don't think Daddy loves us anymore." After that, I started looking for somewhere else for the kids & I to live. It took that (plus another 2 years) for him to start acting like more like a father to them. They love their dad SO MUCH, so I'm trying not to fully give up on him (in regards to being their dad, we've both agreed to stay separated). Sorry so long, I'm one of those open books that will tell my whole life story in 10 minutes to someone in person, so I'm way worse when typing😅😅😅

what breaks my heart is that she doesn’t know that this isn’t normal. this is all she’s ever known. healthy couples don’t resent each other this much. i know deep down she probably knows but that’s something that’s extremely hard to admit, especially with kids involved. she’s crying in almost every video. my heart is broken for her.

@carolemckeown7300

21 күн бұрын

Absolutely ❤

The way he actually complained about not having a shower for two days after she just GAVE BIRTH. This is a man child. And I feel like she’s gaslighting herself into believing this is normal.

@GranAcres

Ай бұрын

She does believe it. I did and 20 something years later, the wake up call is something. You realize when you’ve poured all of you into everything but you’re the only one. Now it’s taken a bad toll on my health.

@ruukibane301

Ай бұрын

Ok so if a woman was gRaped and she showered once or multiple times daily as a coping mechanism if she has a wife that just gave birth and complaints about not having show in two days do we sit here and SHIT ON HER for complaining because her wife just gave birth? No. Some people have legitimate undiagnosed psychological issues that cause them to NEED certain routines in their lives like shower or they literally shut down or become emotionally erratic. You don't personally know that man and its ok to give a pass to a woman who was gRaped in situation, but not someone who's mental health you know nothing about? Do kick rocks.

@taraderosa2969

Ай бұрын

She’s 💯 gaslighting herself. I sure as hell did.

@cutebunny98

Ай бұрын

Yup

@janejones7638

Ай бұрын

The only saving grace for her children is that her parents live with them. Hopefully, they're providing the care that the husband won't. She's emotionally insecure and thinks she doesn't deserve better. One day he'll find someone "better" prettier (to him), younger, no children so that he can have the full package.

Father’s Day landed on his birthday? AND he had to grill??? I’m in awe of his strength, he is so brave for sharing his story 🙏🙏

@molliedavis-uq6qo

Ай бұрын

my dad would be happy ? like i'm so confused 💀

@twistedara

Ай бұрын

Mother's Day and my birthday both fell on the same day. I still cooked dinner that night. As I do every night of my life 🙄

@jxn.3y

Ай бұрын

Its only rare that fathers day lands on your birthday like bro💀 If my dad was born in june and it happened to him i know he would be happy and love the idea that it happened 😭

@Evelyn-rb1zj

Ай бұрын

Honestly I've heard horror stories about my mother's best friend where when her birthday fell on Mother's Day her mother refused to celebrate it because it was Mother's Day

@carochan86

Ай бұрын

I mean long as he didn't have to do the dishes. How bad could it be ?

It’s so weird that they’re “cosplaying” as solo-parents. There are REAL single parents out there that do that everyday. It’s just like rich people pretending to work at Walmart or something.

My husband and I have been married 46 years. Our children are 6 years apart, planned, and we both agree the happiest times in our lives. Both were scheduled c-sections. I was and still work as a full-time RN. My husband stayed home for the first year of both our children's lives. Mainly because I made more working as a nurse, and we didn't want our newborns in daycare. He's sleeping in his recliner right now, the love of my life. Our recipe for success? Mutual respect ❤ BTW, I retire in January. I'm terrified and can't wait at the same time.

@AliMeetsWorld

24 күн бұрын

Congrats on your upcoming retirement ❤🎉 you’ll do great and you deserve this break so you can finally have a whole bunch of YOU time!

@picketfence9903

24 күн бұрын

@AliMeetsWorld Thank you, darling. How kind of you for the lovely comment ❤️

@eudorcas9936

23 күн бұрын

I loved reading this. I wish you and your family lots of love and joy. Enjoy your retirement x

@picketfence9903

22 күн бұрын

@eudorcas9936 Thank you, darling.

@thercnielsen

22 күн бұрын

I would love to talk to you about your experience sometime! I’m about to start nursing school (in January) and will hopefully be an RN by 2026. I want kids but I wasn’t sure what it’s like to have a baby and still work as an RN. Plus, did you get your BSN as well? So curious about your experience since it’s the path I’m going down and want to live!:)

She wouldn't be saying, "please don't be upset with me" if he was wonderful.

@SaintScoutt

Ай бұрын

EXACTLY. why does she keep repeating it if it's not a fear??

@stephanievizzi9147

Ай бұрын

I’m sure with her upbringing she has sever people pleasing issues as well that Carries over into their relationship

@Xuromikuromi

Ай бұрын

I had a childhood like that, my partner ensures I don't feel the need to ask him if he's mad. Sure I still do it but not in these situations, not over and over again, and not with fear in my voice. Mostly just out of habit. He's made it a point that if I do ask that, he's doing something wrong. So it's on me but it's also on him. This could be a small issue, but it jumps out at me as well.

@Cerezo.lindsey

Ай бұрын

Yes but also if someone has trauma from their parents, that can affect them into adulthood. Especially when coming out of anesthesia.

@waifu813

Ай бұрын

​@@stephanievizzi9147 what was her upbringing like?

"The reason our marriage is strong is because for us divorce is not an option" sounds like a hostage situation much more than an aspirational message. Wtf.

@Jasmineelaine

Ай бұрын

yeah it just sounds like he can treat her however he wants because “divorce is not an option”

@carlycrays2831

Ай бұрын

Divorce should always be an option. It doesn't mean you failed, it just means that the relationship is no longer working and it can't be fixed.

@hashtagmate

Ай бұрын

It also sounds like "we're only together because we HAVE to be" I'd much rather my partner is with me because he WANTS to be with me lol but maybe that's just me (and every other sane person)

@BenandHannah_

Ай бұрын

@@carlycrays2831the thing is their marriage can work but he’s not taking the steps to grow up and be a man. If he actually wanted to change and improve himself as a father and husband, they’d have a great marriage. But he’s a manchild and wants a mommy not a wife

@mace7754

Ай бұрын

😂😂🤣🤣

At first I thought they were cute but the red flags and writing on the walls started coming in and I was like ✨nope✨

@anonomous8649

Ай бұрын

Same! I just found the controversy literally a couple hours ago and I'm sad for Abby. I kind of ish noticed the red flags while watchung them before but now it's all clicking and I'm seeing red.

The fact that if it wasn’t for Abby he wouldn’t even have a Father’s Day is wild

Them: puts every single detail of their marriage online Also them: 😡 why would you guys have an opinion on our marriage 🤬

@winter333

Ай бұрын

All of their fans are now flooding these comments basically saying the same thing. It’s so sad and yet so funny and ridiculous. They really will defend these people until they have nothing left in their souls. They are willing to die on this hill that these people are soulmates and super healthy and don’t have any relationship problems and we’re just judging and we have no idea because we’re on the outside looking in.

@flammableliquid8933

Ай бұрын

❤❤😂🎉

@Jess_ica2927

Ай бұрын

This is it! I don’t think people should generally pass comment on other people’s marriages, but if you’re putting your entire life online for the rest of us to watch, you should expect comments.

@onthecasejeannie

Ай бұрын

Omg for reals!

@onthecasejeannie

Ай бұрын

22:24 DUDE THATS LIKE WTF IT MEANS TO BE A FATHER , YOU PUT YOUR DREAMS TO THE WAYSIDE FOREVER AND NOW UR LIFE IS HELOJNG YOYR CHILD REACH HIS DREAMS, MATT , MATT, ITS NOT ABOUT YOU ANYMORE. MY GOD HES SUCH A NARCISSIST

When a woman says, "My husband takes care of the finances, I'm just not good at it," RED FLAG!!!!!!! You need to know exactly how much money you have, what bills are paid, investments, etc. Please, please!! Many women of the previous generation ended up totally financially screwed if they got divorced. If you don't understand, please learn. Do not let yourself be in that position...ever.

@psycherevivedby

Ай бұрын

100%

@gymnast1120

Ай бұрын

This! That’s a scary situation to be in. This is how men end up spending a ton of money on girls online, in clubs, Having a side relationship or a totally secret life. They are DUAL finances and she knows nothing about it, she probably just signs papers without reading which could end up very badly if they ever split

@jesspavlichenko5745

Ай бұрын

Not even divorced, just if their husband died. Working at a bank I dealt with multiple older women who had no credit score because nothing was ever in their name. It's sad.

@NotARealHomestead

Ай бұрын

Understanding household finances is also very simple. It’s something I think some men try to convince women is too hard for them.

@TheSailorDogMom

Ай бұрын

The thing is Matt sucks at it. He 'forgot' to pay their bills for like 3 or 4 months.

Silent treatment after she gave birth???!!! My husband was more in love with me after our first was born. His love towards me after witnessing me birth our son was palpable. Probably the most in love we felt towards each other were those first few days after I gave birth. Serotonin was running high! We were on clouds. This is sad. I wanted to edit to mention I gave birth 6 weeks early and we had a 2 week nicu stay. My husband and me never left the nicu room. We slept there the entire 2 weeks! He didn’t work, he didn’t go home and sleep in his own bed. The only time he left was to grab me clothes or to grab the both of us takeout.

@carolemckeown7300

21 күн бұрын

❤

@arandompersoninthecomments

8 күн бұрын

and that's how it should be!! i wish you and your hubby all the best❤️

Getting an XS work out set for your wife as a “gift” for her growing your baby for 9 months and going through excruciating surgery to deliver the baby is the most disgusting thing I’ve ever heard.

WHY IS SHE WITH HIM?!? he brings nothing to the table...not even hot

@Catbeantoes

Ай бұрын

“Not even hot” LMAO that’s so funny and so true

@NeverSaidIWasAGenius

Ай бұрын

Sadly, they got together so young, she likely had no perspective of how his personality and behavior would transition into adulthood. I’m only partly though the video. I am a fan of them. So far I don’t see the issue other than Abby can tolerate him and others can’t. I’m not like a big fan of theirs, but I’m prepared to be wrong. I’ve seen alot of their content though so idk that I’ll be surprised. I’m not saying they’re so perfect, just that they seem like a relatively normal couple. Maybe not the healthiest but normal. Could they get divorced? Sure. I’ve always seen young couples either flourish or kind of crash after a while. I do t think they’re anything like the ace family or like idk… bad people. BUT AGAIN, I’m going to try to finish this video and give the idea a chance

@cardboard2night

Ай бұрын

I guess money. But then again his content is nothing without humiliating her. So, I guess it's business partnership?.. And she also gets psychologically abused, like a bonus!

@peachxtaehyung

Ай бұрын

​@@jffry24 um what?

@pri.sci.lla.

Ай бұрын

@@jffry24she literally brought two babies into the world… what the hell are you on Jeffrey?

A MAN being disappointed that his children will slow down his career fills me with actual burning rage. Women have always had their careers decimated for children, leaving their bodies permanently changed. Not to mention bosses and hiring managers being unwilling to hire moms because they are seen as less “dedicated” and are not respected in the professional roles even though dads don’t get that treatment.

@estelle9009

Ай бұрын

thank you for saying this, i wanted to mention this but you worded it better than i would have!

@calypso8436

Ай бұрын

PREACH 🙌

@hislord1

Ай бұрын

Simple, stop having children then? All your problems are solved.

@avi6786-k4h

Ай бұрын

I’m sure they have problems and stuff but it’s a free country they can say what they want because they r adults. We’re not 100% sure they r unhappy so y hate on them. Sure u have small evidence but u don’t really know. And everything thing that they post they both agree to it soooooo. Not tryna hate on u either just giving my point of view.

@ilefttheband

Ай бұрын

​@@avi6786-k4h uh oh found Matt's alt account

The fact that she constantly asks if he’s upset or acts like she’s doing something wrong, that’s a very clear indicator that he is emotionally abusive behind the camera.

I was born on Father’s Day. My mother had just had an emergency c-section. My father who is not a great person, definitely was not a good husband, and an even worse father still did not say shit to my mother. They sat in the hospital and ate cookies. He never made it a huge deal.

Notice how the wife on anesthesia is Constantly saying "don't get mad at me" doesn't that mean he gets mad at her often??? often enough that she remembers it even on anesthesia like WTF

@mariya_tortilla

Ай бұрын

for sure, shes too loopy to realize she has to keep up the act 😖

@Miauhh158

Ай бұрын

I found that extremely odd , the fact that she looks freaked out that he's mad ?? Abby said she grew up in a good household her mom was kind and her dad was kind to her , but to be afraid of her husband is scary .

@socialnoob4853

Ай бұрын

he most likely gets mad whenever she has an emotional moment. so many men do.

@Jac527

Ай бұрын

Yeah, that is very weird. She kept saying it constantly which is concerning too. Also, Matt seems to be controlling with the “gender roles” she is trapped because he controls the finances 😬😬

@S5S5066

Ай бұрын

That clip was the most fucked up to me I don’t think you can really judge people from the internet but that really shocked me.

Silent treatment is narcissistic abuse. He was punishing her for having a baby

@amusingkiwi1981

Ай бұрын

Silent treatment is so so bad. I've had physical, mental and emotional abuse and the mental side is way worse. In my experience.

@jackchop1576

Ай бұрын

I prefer the silent treatment to guilt trips, being berated 24/7 etc.

@rachel243

Ай бұрын

Yep it’s him realizing he’s not number one anymore and being a child about it

@Oliviaandtrina

Ай бұрын

​@@jackchop1576 good for you?? What is the point of this comment? To minimize others abuse, or difficulties because you prefer a different type of abuse?

@lrzbhnsn

Ай бұрын

I do it too sometimes. But that is how my parents would act towards each other and towards us as the kids. So I didn't really have a good example 😂 I am very aware of how damaging and just awful behavior silent treatment is. And it's indeed a bad trait to have. I don't do it for long tho, because everything in my guts is longing for connection again 😂

“Do you feel like you cheated?” “No, my son and I almost died”

“Hey babe can you cry again? Didn’t catch it on the camera.”

I whole-heartedly believe that Abby's parents moved in because they know Matt is a red flag.

@victoria.josephine

Ай бұрын

OMG THIS!!!

@alsolark3029

Ай бұрын

Did they move closer or move away? I hope closer. But if she had a narcissistic parent, that could be the reason she thinks her husband is normal.

@blueberrybabe4192

Ай бұрын

@@alsolark3029originally Matt and Abby moved super far away when Abby was having their 1st baby. I believe by the time the second came around, her parents moved in.

@ammalualways5403

Ай бұрын

@@alsolark3029 Closer, like into their house!!! And Abby has said that her parents are sweet and kind, and from the looks of it they are!

@ErikaKidney-vt8bh

Ай бұрын

Omg that’s prob so true

Matt's baby blues were jealousy that there is a baby taking away the attention.

@candicisco9666

Ай бұрын

YES!

@royalacity

Ай бұрын

My narc father was the same when my baby sister was born. He would walk around the house saying he was going to divorce my step mom because she wasn't giving him as much attention as before. Acting like the baby was more important. 😐😡😱 what the actual F. I moved out shortly after. Couldn't take his selfish BS anymore. We spoke the other day because I needed someone, anyone to talk to. Mentioned I felt I was breaking down, and he said, "I don't care. Go talk to a counselor or something."

@Sam-nz2ko

Ай бұрын

​@@royalacityOh my god, that's awful... I hope you have healthy people you can talk to who won't be so unempathetic towards you. I'm so sorry :(

@FantabulousFail

Ай бұрын

It wasn't even the first baby!! It was the second!

@onthecasejeannie

Ай бұрын

💯

The Father’s Day/birthday video is what got me. I’ve had such negative connotations with him ever since. My husband’s birthday often falls on Thanksgiving. We still make sure we have a dessert that he likes which is not specifically Thanksgiving-like, put some candles in it, have presents, sing, etc. He could care less. We are gathered as a family and that is what is important to him.

maybe it's just me and i don't realize how important this holiday is in the US, but the fact that he insists on celebrating father's day MONTHS later is sooo ridiculous to me. how can a grown, married man with two children be so selfish and childish? it's almost as if he's never thought about anyone other than himself

@slk2009

10 күн бұрын

Right! Like this year we celebrated Father’s Day one week late, because we dropped my brother off at his week long camp. He had to drive a total of 8-9 hrs the weekend and day of Father’s Day.

@Alex_Bell79

8 күн бұрын

The only people I know that actually celebrate Father’s Day are my in laws. I think it’s a pointless holiday like Mother’s Day and Valentine’s Day. We don’t need a special holiday to show someone love and appreciation.

I'm still dying at "my husband pays the bills" (next clip) "our water got shut off"

@orisohma8139

Ай бұрын

💀💀💀💀💀

The amount of times he has filmed her in incredibly vulnerable states so he can make himself look like a hero is obscene. Nobody deserves that.

@moustik31

Ай бұрын

That plus how he is so often needlessly shirtless: that dude is in love with himself and that's it.

@SC-st6px

Ай бұрын

I knew something seemed off whenever he recorded her recovering from surgeries. Idk to each their own but I personally would not like to be treated like that. She seems like such a lovely person that's why I watched their vids all the time, not for him tho.

@Sporky38

Ай бұрын

Agreed I would be furious if my husband filmed me recovering from surgery or having an anxiety attack, then posted himself being my “savior”

@TheSlipperyNUwUdle

Ай бұрын

It’s giving onision.

@furirei

Ай бұрын

that’s something i’ve noticed with a lot of those young couples it’s so weird

My partner and I had only been dating for five months when I had a seizure (never had one before). He caught me, got help, and then took me to my home, stayed over, sat outside the bathroom while I bathed to make sure I was safe, helped me with anything I needed or wanted…I couldn’t imagine giving BIRTH and him not supporting me at ever stage?! I can’t imagine.

I’m not married, but I wouldn’t share my deepest thoughts about my relationship with my friends and family, let alone social media.

no SHE had baby blues (postpartum depression), HE had a hissy fit

@BichaeldeAngelo

Ай бұрын

For accuracies sake, baby blues and postpartum depression are not the same thing and should be differentiated as they are treated differently

@ashleighread1491

Ай бұрын

I agree he was throwing a tantrum but I do want to say that men can also suffer from depression after having a child and it doesn’t really get talked about enough in my opinion

@scottwall8419

Ай бұрын

Goodness think about what would happen if you did some research before posting. You don't even know the difference between the two, it's hilarious.

@zoesee9109

Ай бұрын

Baby blues and postpartum depression are like 2 different things, postpartum depression is way worse and baby blues is just a short term sadness.

@bennymartin4442

Ай бұрын

@@ashleighread1491this

Imagine being a kid and finding a video of your dad saying it felt like his life ended when you were born.

@cjubajube

Ай бұрын

Yes! The movement for family bloggers to stop posting their children’s faces is great but it’s not far reaching enough! Talking about them or about your feelings towards your children if they aren’t positive is so potentially damaging to the child when they eventually see the content. Also all their friends and family know the content is about them so although they will be more protected from internet weirdos, all the people you associate with will know what was said about you- I can’t imagine!

@nouradedonut8668

Ай бұрын

I WOULD CRYY

@user-yk9qp1fv5f

Ай бұрын

Jayson Tatum didn’t say good stuff about his son either

@nat3799

Ай бұрын

Really? A lot of people feel that way actually. Most people who get pregnant are quite surprised by it believe it or not.

@NatzTalk

Ай бұрын

Right?!!!!!!!!!!

I feel sorry for Abby. Her ENTIRE identity is wrapped up in being this man's husband and a mom.

@MsMarwalous

22 күн бұрын

I know -_-

@NairaGata664

13 күн бұрын

This man's wife* just wanted to correct that

Okay, hear me out. When she said that divorce is not an option, I actually started to feel scared for her. How many women have to be killed by their partner because he didnt see another way out? He already confirmed that he's thinking about other women and that things aren't the same with his wife anymore. Very scary!

@ssnakebbite.

10 күн бұрын

another commenter pointed out that he seems a lot like Chris Watts... i wouldn't be surprised, but i would be horrified if that comes to be

Couples that constantly have to say ‘marriage is hard’ are typically trying to justify their very unhealthy relationship.

@shersxtrustx2864

Ай бұрын

THANK YOU!!! This is not marriage but emotional abuse!! He is very immature emotionally. I’m more than happy with my hubby as life is hard but a marriage shouldn’t be this overwhelming. She basically molds to his desires and her “only” task is doing everything (not traditional because he does the bare minimum plus judge with a minuscule brain)

@user-dy8xh5eq5p

Ай бұрын

Exactly! Being with my spouse is one of the easiest things for me (and him). We never fight. We have disagreements but we sit down and talk about them. I love him more every day and it gets better as time goes by. I thought this kind of healthy relationship wasn't possible but it is.

@frickfrack7075

Ай бұрын

I don't find this to be true at all. Marriage can be hard. I've been married almost 14 years. Our marriage has not always been easy. You're constantly learning each other because people are always changing and evolving. So you need to be able to adapt and learn. You need to be able to have the hard conversations and those conversations aren't always going to go over smoothly. There's going to be conflict, disagreements, possibly temptations etc. If your marriage is easy, I'd wonder how open you are with one another.

@elsagreen1476

Ай бұрын

Right!!

@shersxtrustx2864

Ай бұрын

@@frickfrack7075 There is always disagreement, BUT marriage shouldn’t be HARD. It should be communicated like adults when something arises even if it gets resolved after a month. My husband and I were about to break up when dating about 5 times (immaturity related) but we matured and realized what was going on, that way we started understanding how each other works where I’ve always been emotional and he’s more of the “solve it or don’t think about it” type of person. Anything that has come after us maturing mentally has been easy, not easy as in quick or colored pink, but easy as in possible to solve without a whole argument and instead respectful talk where we serve both our needs instead of only following our way of thinking

finding out he showed her his new song just a few days after she gave birth, and with the knowledge that he iced her out for two days, im convinced he spent those two days writing his little emo ass song😭😭

@snowlapis_

Ай бұрын

lmao😭💀

@jessiegarcia7129

Ай бұрын

😂 and it sucked

@stacybroussard3097

Ай бұрын

And it totally was about their life and situations.. So Disrespectful 🙄🙄🙄 I hate to tell him but he needs A lot more songwriting practice 🤣😂😅😂🤣

@TiaMarie96

Ай бұрын

He took advantage of that being a little sad to turn it into him being depressed 😂 trying to help his music career

@Soulfulsolution

Ай бұрын

Will you marry ❤❤❤? Please say yes ❤

The fact that she constantly says , please, are you upset with me, I don’t want to be this way…etc etc, in an almost obsessive way, shows that at some point in their past he WAS upset with her for being vulnerable

Some men feel like a combination of Father's day and their birthday is a beautiful gift in itself. Those are the keepers.

The videos where HE IS THE ONE who set up the camera and then is acting all nice…. I don’t know how people don’t see through that????? It’s all a show.

@doctorposting

Ай бұрын

he wasn’t even acting THAT nice, you could still hear the annoyance in his voice😂😂😂😂

@sarahmarie3317

Ай бұрын

Also didn’t they meet in theatre? And they think he’s being authentic? 😫 BITCH HES AN ACTOR (arguably😂)

@asarishepard8171

Ай бұрын

exactly! like this isnt a prank show where they snuck up with a camera. HE set up the camera!

@suzannafra

Ай бұрын

I commented about that too - he’s a red flag and probably has skeletons in his closet

@maggiesamson337

Ай бұрын

@@suzannafraa skeleton named Steve😜

Fun fact for everyone saying Matt is a narcissist. Even Abby's grandmother believes he is one. She does NOT like Matt at all

@girlgreenivy

Ай бұрын

Wait, did the grandma make a public statement?

@theashwoodfaerie2

Ай бұрын

@@girlgreenivy No Abby mentioned it in a video ages ago

@missnesi4525

Ай бұрын

Because she knows that marrying your bf from when you were 13 years old won’t turn out well most of the time

@MrBashem

Ай бұрын

I'm sure he is the one who puts her up to a lot of the videos.

@BOO13FRI

Ай бұрын

I think I like Abby’s Grandma more than I like Abby💀

I wouldn't be surprised if one day he cheated on her with someone else

@HairbyKristy

25 күн бұрын

And then blamed her for it… I see it coming and she’s gonna sit there and believe it’s her

@jsophiamm

25 күн бұрын

I wouldn’t be surprised if he already is. People have a lot of stuff hidden in their phones or idk, I might be traumatized by my past 😂

@pimmspimms5462

18 күн бұрын

Matt is a narcissist - my father is a diagnosed narcissistic sociopath and they are eerily alike. Cheating is a textbook devaluation. He will blame Abby - that her body has changed after pregnancies, that she gives all her time and attention to children, etc - and she WILL believe him and blame herself. It’s tragic. She needs to wake up to him but, sadly, she is a long way from this point.

The blanket on the couch between Matt and Abby during their podcast clips is a perfect visual of the divide between them.

Father’s Day fell on my daughter’s birthday this year…. my husband woke up SO HAPPY to share a special day with his daughter! What a frickin baby.

@keenacummings2017

Ай бұрын

He needs full 💯 % attention to him Only he don’t like sharing

@BarnaliD

Ай бұрын

You don't get to choose your parents and your daughter is a LUCKY girl.

@AurorasandSadproze

Ай бұрын

I’m surprised Matt was mad that his birthday was on Father’s Day , it’s literally a day for for fathers and he is one , normal fathers would be happy since the universe literally gave them a sign that they were gonna be a father

@IAMGALAXYBLOOD

Ай бұрын

My birthday fell on mother's day this year and my mom didn't really want to share the day- but when I was a kid and it landed on it, the day was way more fair for me. I'm basically saying I hope no matter how old ur kid is he's always excited to share.

@AestheticallyJess_

Ай бұрын

Greenest flag!!!!

This is the same guy in the “I’m pregnant again” video consoling his freaking out wife telling her it will all be ok, yet once his second child arrives a little over a year after his first gives his wife the silent treatment because “his life was over” having a second child! He realized having 2 babies meant Abby couldn’t take care of them both all by herself and he actually had to step up and be a father 🤦🏼‍♀️

@hajarmdn4883

Ай бұрын

I think he mainly realized that she can’t take of him aka be his mom and maid because now she has two small babies that are very demanding.

@Aethian

Ай бұрын

@@hajarmdn4883Yup, all he wanted from the beginning was a bang maid.

@maggysday

Ай бұрын

That’s insane

@amysmiles9751

Ай бұрын

this is why I didn't have a second kid.

@n.g.l.

Ай бұрын

I feel like throwing up.

Their whole content should've been shared to a psychiatrist not the whole world 😅

Him complaining that it felt like he had to do everything after she had a baby and feeling like his life is over… then you watch the clip of them in the hospital and it’s all of him doing the things… I can just seem him thinking “see me doing all of this meaningless stuff that Abby should be doing if she would just stop trying to feed the baby!!!” YIKES!

Her getting the silent treatment from her husband after a C-section is crazy💀

@vinniexofiction2229

Ай бұрын

The anger is totally wrong....Shouldn't he have already processed the setbacks? I mean bro you knew she was pregnant.... You knew there was a baby coming...These thoughts should have maybe come when he found out that she was pregnant. I am flabbergasted at his audacity.....

@paulagwhyte1720

Ай бұрын

@@vinniexofiction2229 It was his TIME to be there for her and his baby! My husband was awesome. He knew he needed to take a back seat! And he took care of me. He saw what I went through and how hard it was! He got it. He really cared about me and did whatever I needed. Of COURSE, he did!

@Haley-xp8ed

Ай бұрын

@@vinniexofiction2229for real

@Bella-br1ez

Ай бұрын

It’s so sad. If you’re alone and doing it all alone, that would be hard. But to be treated that way from the one person who’s supposed to love, support & respect you more than anything? Heartbreaking. How could that be forgiven? Abandoning your wife during the most vulnerable time. So sad/scary.

@qqalaxyy

Ай бұрын

⁠@@Bella-br1ezthis is exactly my thoughts. How can you be so selfish to not go over your frustrations to take care of your wife who JUST GAVE BIRTH. Giving birth is already traumatic enough, I can’t even imagine how traumatic it gets when your husband gives you the silent treatment for two days after, OVER HIS MUSIC CAREER.. just blows my mind how much of a dick move that is

Okay, that clip on the couch. Why does she look exhausted physically,spiritually and emotionally but he’s fresh tanned, hair on point and perfect skin? She literally has the comfort pillow!!!!

@ipupi8784

Ай бұрын

Fr! This man is horrible

@melissashepherd3995

Ай бұрын

Cause she literally was just home from gallbladder surgery after giving birth with a newborn at home and in severe pain and he chose that’s was what needed to be recorded.

@Artchick1972

Ай бұрын

@@melissashepherd3995that doesn’t answer the OP’s question

@alienareaftytwo3278

Ай бұрын

Shitty men will suck the life out of a woman and then wonder why the women always glow up after divorce

@sleepteam

Ай бұрын

@@Artchick1972it literally does.

"For the next 36 hours I am solo parenting!" Abby, the way you two talk, it sounds like you've always been solo parenting.

The things they say on the podcast should be with a therapist and not for the internet

Buying his wife work out clothes after giving birth....that is unbelievably insensitive.

@michaelatheharpist

Ай бұрын

I would have appreciated some athleisure wear that was loose fitting for me to be more comfortable as my body changed after birth. But yeah, workout clothes would be so demoralizing. 😢

@simplystreeptacular

Ай бұрын

I could see it working if the wife was a gym junkie and the husband knew that she loved going to the gym because it made her happy, but this.... is not that.

@EKL-qu7ih

Ай бұрын

@@simplystreeptacular if she was a gym junkie she'd already have a ton of kit. If they had a really dark sense of humour perhaps - my boyfriend and I have this and when you know a person really well and you both know it's a joke fine. I think he is just extremely insensitive.

@simplystreeptacular

Ай бұрын

@@EKL-qu7ih Even if you already have a bunch of workout clothes, I can see how for some people getting a cute new workout outfit would be a great present. (For instance, I have multiple ballet leotards already but if someone got me a cute new one I'd be thrilled.) But I absolutely think you're right that he in particular is just hella insensitive!

@moniquebarrow8807

Ай бұрын

Abby loves working out. I bet she, like me, was excited to start exercising postpartum

my son was born a day before my husbands birthday.. he was sad he wasn’t born ON his birthday so they could share it. He said our son was the best birthday present he could ever have

@mrlsdutch

Ай бұрын

Yeah I get that! My son was born on my birthday and I am really happy we can share! I don't really care for my birthday (since I was like 20) and now we can just throw him a party and have the visitors on one day 😂

@meganfuller8306

Ай бұрын

Right?! My daughter was born on her late fathers birthday (ironically I also got pregnant with her 5 months after we had our 1st!) and he always referred to her as the best present he ever got. He spent the whole day taking care of and supporting me. We were at the hospital for 4 days and he slept on this tiny little couch. He never once complained. 2 years later our 3rd was born the day before my birthday and I was so sad that it wasn't the same day. After that neither of us ever really celebrated our birthdays again. I mean, kind of, but it was mostly for the kids. It was never a big deal and I couldn't imagine being the type of person, or being with a person, who whined about their birthday not being special enough.

@alleighinneverland6172

Ай бұрын

Same.

@abywabyontop

Ай бұрын

my mum and sister have the same birthday lol

@callymcneely3335

7 күн бұрын

So sweet! I’m due 2/27 and my husbands bday is 2/26 and he’s hoping they will be able to share!

She gets so mad about what people are saying but she doesn’t realize that every reaction to what he says just adds validity to people’s comments

I was in the hospital for 10 days after my emergency c section. My son was born a week before my 30th bday. I spent my 30th in the hospital. I didn’t for a mere second think of myself for “missing” ANYTHING!

"Don't be fooled by me taking care of my son" is a wild sentence 😭

@Tofugirl361

Ай бұрын

Ong like how can you say that and not actually register it in your head

Matt is the best example of " I WANT KIDS BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE A FATHER"

@Theescapist_87

Ай бұрын

Most men are like this. Every woman I've ever seen with kids looks haggard, while the husband is out living his best life at work and with his friends. Most men want kids but do not want to put in the work to actually raise them.

@TLL921

Ай бұрын

he thinks having children are like collecting pokémon cards

@uggsar

Ай бұрын

Don’t they have a religious or somewhat conservative background where they are taught their purpose is to have kids? But that’s not exclusive sentiment for men. We talk so much about mother’s instincts that mothers lacking them feel too much shame to talk. But both sexes can actually grow to be great parents. It’s not unusual that men strongly bond with their children only when they are a bit older and able to interact and play

@Laoriginal718

Ай бұрын

A lot of people want kids but don’t want to be parents.

@Laoriginal718

Ай бұрын

@@uggsarfacts

If they thought their lives were over when having kids maybe they haven’t lived long enough. They should’ve waited till their late 20’s or early 30’s instead of getting married so quickly and having kids when they aren’t even fully developed themselves

I really thought my KZread app was broke until you mentioned the voice-over thing 😂

Smells like future divorce

@perrydaplatypus2667

Ай бұрын

she’s prob staying because she’s put so much time in the relationship

@TheKatarinaGiselle

Ай бұрын

@@perrydaplatypus2667yup that and a kid!

@azn1011

Ай бұрын

she's gonna be glad that no fault divorce exists lol

@SRHisntSilent

Ай бұрын

Amen

@SRHisntSilent

Ай бұрын

​@perrydaplatypus2667 they were very young so i wouldn't be surprised He's a routine, not a lover

That conversation about the silent treatment hurt my heart. When I had my C section my fiance was getting me food, literally helping me shower and put on fresh pads and underwear, looking after the baby, driving back and forth to our house to look after our pets, and he had had minimal sleep for 3 days because thats what a loving and supportive partner and dad does. THE SILENT TREATMENT! Is he serious??

@e.babybaby

Ай бұрын

I know - how devastating. Could you imagine your partner throwing a pity party for themselves while you’re over here just trying to not be in pain and take care of a newborn. God awful

@hjt5894

Ай бұрын

@@e.babybaby particularly with the hormones!! 4days after a baby I was so hormonal the nurse found my crying at cardi B twerking at the VMAs because she just looked like she was having a good time. I can't imagine that combination of hormonal and dealing with a stroppy man baby husband with his one man pity party.

@stephaniecoombes2003

Ай бұрын

I was on my own with my first child and spent it in the midwife hospital for 4 days.. and I think it was better on my own than with him 😂

@Thetinyfit

Ай бұрын

Your fiancé is an actual, functioning adult… her husband has the mental capacity of a fruit fly.

@hjt5894

Ай бұрын

​@@stephaniecoombes2003genuinely 😂

There has never been a time that I’ve looked at my husband and not been attracted or wanted someone else. He’s always made me feel beautiful even after 65lbs was gained with having our 4 children in 4 years. He’s always been supportive on my decision to start a workout routine for my health. This guy is a good example of what happens when a woman marries a man child.

Matt is a narcissist - my father is a diagnosed narcissistic sociopath and they are eerily alike. He is sulking because he missed out on getting attention (i.e. narcissistic fuel) on his birthday AND Father’s Day. He pretends, to the audience, that he is being reasonable and understanding about it (“It’s okay though,” “You were pregnant”) to maintain his public facade. And yet… we can see that he isn’t reasonable because he’s punished Abby by cancelling Father’s Day this year! She’ll feel sorry for him, for missing out on a celebratory day with the children, and blame herself. 😔 It’s a win for a narcissist because the thing they want - more than attention - is pity. He’s vile. She needs to wake up to him but, sadly, she’s a long way from that point.

“Divorce is not an option” is a really scary mindset. You may sign yourself up for a terrible deal for the rest of your life if you think that way.

@maggieh8255

Ай бұрын

I think it might be good to have that mindset before marriage because hopefully it’ll help you to really take time and be careful when choosing a spouse, but once you’re married if awful things happen divorce should be an option for sure

@aktara8811

Ай бұрын

I entered my marriage like that. It was beautiful and things seemed idyllic. After kids came into the picture, my FORMER spouse started take steroids, then hardcore drugs, then having affairs….then the abuse started. I stuck through about two years of awful awful treatment because I didn’t believe in divorce…. ….with lots of self work, religious reflection, and very little therapy…I decided it was the safest and healthiest option for our kids. I was scared to leave. But we have been separated for three years, legally divorced for one, and life has been financially harder but sooo much more peaceful. I entered into marriage with that mindset. I worked really hard to make my marriage work. It was out of my control and divorce was the best option for our family.

@eliseelise9711

Ай бұрын

My mom and dad felt this way. It ended up me and my brother growing up in an abusive home. My mom, my brother and I all have emotional scars from it. It would have been healthier for everyone to just end it. But religion and This mindset kept it from happening. Eventually they divorced but it should have been way sooner. It was all a fake happy family act at social functions. Then my dad would go to his man cave and mainly ignore us all at home. I see similarities here. I hope Abby does whatever is best for her and her children

@ginnysvec4809

Ай бұрын

As someone currently going through an amicable divorce, totally agree!!! Sometimes it’s what is best for everyone. I feel like I had her mindset for a while, and it was because I did not want to admit everything to myself for the fear of what might come next. It’s always important to have options, and it’s not a negative thing.

@SJ-ni6iy

Ай бұрын

Most people enter marriage with a positive mindset but divorce is not an option, that sounds like “I can do whatever I want and not worry about my partner’s feelings”

I love when people choose to make sharing their life with the public an entire career and then get mad when people comment on it.

@sus4nah

Ай бұрын

“I think the people out there need to know” your marital issues girl? No. No they don’t.

@Sara-xk1ns

Ай бұрын

@@sus4nahit sounds like she’s trying to normalize their marriage to make herself feel normal. She needs to realize their marriage ISNT the norm and shouldn’t be portrayed as such. Yes, talking about marriage and the things you learn can be helpful, but when you’re that young and have no valid points to add to conversation then shut up. They need to be the ones taking the advice, not giving it.

@Chillikilli

Ай бұрын

​@Sara-xk1ns i think this type of marriage is actually pretty common. But most women are sick of this dynamic. Ask alot of older women bow their marriage was/how they were treated and it will soumd something like this. A husband who doesn't appreciate his wife and lets her take on every emotional/physical demand. I think women now are trying to make this not normal which is why they get so much backlash. Alot of women are gaslit into thinking what they go through in marriage is fine.

@Sara-xk1ns

Ай бұрын

@@Chillikilli ooof. Your comment helps point out the problem, this isn’t common and shouldn’t be portrayed as such. Women aren’t sick of this dynamic, they’re sick of being abused, treated as less then. My comment had nothing to do about stereotypical gender roles in a marriage, it was in regards to them sharing their personal issues worldwide and then advising others on how to handle issues when they have no expertise in the field either. Just because you fight often and have a lot of experience arguing and making up it doesn’t make you a professional. If anything people should be looking at them and NOT wanting to be like them. I think a lot of the viewers see right thru them and wouldn’t listen to their advice but there’s still a good portion of young adults or teens who do watch them and think they are an example of a happy & healthy family. When we have the scum of alpha male culture clawing at every chance to frame young men’s minds, I do what I need to to protect my teenage son and make sure he doesn’t fall for that crap. To me, this is similar but more dangerous for females. They’re being molded into thinking that is a normal marriage and they have to take it. When no one should ever have to. Being told by your spouse that they didn’t find you attractive is already a cruel thing to say, the wife was trying to explain herself and I took it more as the more she got to know him the more attractive he was, she wasn’t initially blown away by just his looks. But when he chimes in with his excited “Same!” it was clear what he meant and he said it to be cruel. He was mad she said something he didn’t like so he whipped back with a hurtful jab. That’s their marriage, jab after jab hidden by fake smiles, fake laughs, fake everything. THAT shouldn’t be normalized. They have a toxic marriage and they refuse to even see an ounce of their flaws, instead they keep pushing this perfect marriage plot to viewers. They need to stop trying to be perfect snd just be real, with themselves, each other and the viewers if they stay online. I have nothing wrong with traditional roles, but they aren’t that, so that isn’t what’s being pushed to viewers. They’re just profiting off of their toxic relationship while giving advise on how to be in a relationship. No one should look at them and crave what they have. They try to hide it behind traditional roles though which makes it even more dangerous to young viewers, so I can see the confusion.

@Jenna-Roo

Ай бұрын

Yep!!! ❤

WHY do these couples share stuff like this? The videos crying, disappointed, and having incredibly private moments is INSANE to me.

This is not a “married young” issue. I was married at the same age and have always felt that I am my own person with my own interests. My husband does shape aspects of my life but always for the better and I shape parts of his, that’s how a partnership works. Watching this video makes me want to cry because she seems so unhappy and is working overtime to make everyone else think she is fine. She has no idea how amazing she could be treated and loved and it just is devastating

Imagine people throwing praise and saying, "Someone raised her right" because she handed her husband a pillow and a drink. 😂😂😂

@rhiannonnnn

Ай бұрын

Literally! Like I feel like people forget what the bare minimum is 😭

@emilyg1539

Ай бұрын

YES- this!

@northstar2621

Ай бұрын

My ex would always tell me I was "raised right". I thought it was a joke. It wasn't, and the moment we had the first big disagreement and I dared defend myself, he told me I was "badly raised" lmao

Imagine growing up and one day you find a video where your father basically stated that you ruined his life and stopped taking to your mother when she was at her most vulnerable. A+ for you, dude

@Peachyytrees

Ай бұрын

😢

@bethanydurant3017

Ай бұрын

Yea, that hurt me too.

@jacobrickayzen2744

27 күн бұрын

R u not supposed to be honest on ur podcast? I might hv madd my dad’s life worse when i was young who knows. Our parents r beings outside of us, their kids

@justanordinarypineapple3194

27 күн бұрын

@@jacobrickayzen2744there’s a concept called inside thoughts. Having a podcast does not mean you have to say everything in your head out loud

@Mel-pb4nn

26 күн бұрын

He sounds like such a narcissist

This guy is a real piece of work. I felt like my career just started and I had to step up when I had my first child. I felt like my life just began when I got married and had kids. My wife and I have traditional roles. I work from home and she is a stay at home mom. I’m constantly checking in to team up, asking if I can help, asking her if she’s happy. We have a family calendar and we proactively work on it TOGETHER! This couple is a perfect example of a dysfunctional family.

@hannahnielsen7403

6 күн бұрын

oh look!! we’ve got a real man!! not bc of your traditional gender roles but because even when working you’re still in dad/husband mode and willing to help if needed. i love it.

He’s trying to make her feel bad about herself.

I can tell that Abby is hurting, but she is so brainwashed into thinking it’s normal and doesn’t know how to leave.

@angiecrocitto

Ай бұрын

She mentioned he takes care of all the finances / business aspects of their household. 😢so dangerous for women who ever need to leave bc they have a hard time getting to their own money

@na_ladyliz5055

Ай бұрын

She has 2 babies. I wouldn't be quick to say brainwashed. You have to be really strong to JUST leave. Personally, I would stick it out until the kids are a bit older. When I have the emotional bandwidth and a financial plan.

@Hello-hello-hello456

Ай бұрын

I see a TON of internalized misogyny in her, it's kinda sad, especially with her feeling guilt over normal things like being cranky after surgery.

@beckyjones6062

Ай бұрын

She knows exactly how it’s being portrayed she likes being the innocent victim she’s a bewt

@trishapaytaskitchenfloor

Ай бұрын

@@angiecrocittotheir water got shut off because he didn’t pay the bill in 7 months. when i heard that i was like “AND HE HAS 2 KIDS???”

28:12 HELLO? HE's ready to get home because he hasn't showered in two days 💀💀, the woman just gave birth- i think YOU taking a shower is the least of her worries.

@vanessapapineau7949

Ай бұрын

As though there isn't a shower available in the birthing suite... or in any hospital suite. That's your own dumb fault, dude.

@playinglifeoneasy9226

Ай бұрын

Why didn’t he go shower? He’s not talking to her anyway so if he’s not supporting her, what is he doing there?

@nica7747

Ай бұрын

@@playinglifeoneasy9226LMFAO Frrr

The birthday fathers day pregnancy moment could have been such a good theme moment for a gethogether. So much dad joke potential.

The most self centred guy I’ve heard of: all I’m hearing is ME, ME, me, me ! Ugh 🥴🤢🤮

2 days of selfish silence right after she gave birth?? Dude needs to grow the heck up.

@Bookwormie.2234

Ай бұрын

And the irony is he was the one supporting her when she got pregnant again after 5 months of giving birth to her first son and he was really taking it positively and encouraging and motivating abby also to go for it and "everything will be okk" 😂😂😂

She is being emotionally abused. There’s no point in saying they shouldn’t have had children together; they’re here. But I hope she realizes it and can raise her precious babies in a safe, loving, supportive environment when the lightbulb illuminates.

@britbrat4559

Ай бұрын

Wtf? That's an extremely hostle thing to say and throwing those phrases around will ruin this marriage.. how in the world do you know this to be true?? Because a youtuber decided to be the most judgemental and opinionated chick on the platform??

@TheIndigo1child

Ай бұрын

Abused? Based on what? Tiktok videos? Lol. Unless you know them personally, claiming abuse based on a handful of tiktok clips is ridiculous.

@13lilsykos

Ай бұрын

I'm genuinely curious how she's being abused. I watched them up until she got pregnant the 2nd time and I kinda fell off. I come back around a month ago and everyone HATES Matt when they loved him prior. I've looked at some previous videos and I don't see it. Someone needs to explain it to me.

@Lama_m

Ай бұрын

@@13lilsykos @TheIndigo1child @britbrat4559 He insulted her holiday efforts, her genitalia, the way she gave birth, her hobbies he changed, her breastfeeding abilities, her weight, her eating habits, her muscles, her attractiveness, her need for support after major abdominal surgery, the way she holds him back from his dreams…Nothing she does will ever be right in his eyes because he needs to remain in control of her. (not my words I just saw this comment & it answers ur question perfectly)

@johnnyapplesmith

Ай бұрын

Welcome to the comment section, where internet investigators are projecting their personal insecurities and hurt from past relationships, on other peoples relationships for revenge.

I thought he said "cheating" as in loosing weight. I didnt get it was THE BIRTH OF THEIR CHILD

Omg I'd leave him. He is not mature enough to emotionally support his wife and children. I'm married with a baby and this is not right at all.

I remember seeing a screenshot of someones dating app chat on twitter and the guy said he wants a traditional housewife that does the cleaning/childcare etc. and the girl (the poster) said she was totally down for that. but then when she said she's happy to stay at home and not get a job he got so defensive saying he doesn't want to be the only one earning money for her to leech off of. these men don't want a traditional relationship they want an employee.

@inabina2925

Ай бұрын

They don’t want an employee. They want a slave.

@nadynemotherofcatz

Ай бұрын

They want their mother.

@hadiyahabib7990

Ай бұрын

Employees get paid. They want a slave

@kayleystallings5732

Ай бұрын

I've seen those messages too. Crazy.

@4Devi15

Ай бұрын

Yeah I have seen so many "traditional" men looking for "trad wife" but then get mad when he has to pay for everything or she asks how much money he makes. Lmao do they not realize the traditional role of a man is to be the provider which means to pay for everything so of coursw the woman should know how much he makes to be financially secure. They really do want a mom for themselves and not a wife/sahm.

The silent treatment is a form of abuse.

@zarasbazaar

Ай бұрын

Right? He's punishing her for 'ruining' his life.

@mm-ln9sw

Ай бұрын

my mom did it to me while i was growing up if i didn’t do something the exact way she wanted me to. it really messed with me

@psycherevivedby

Ай бұрын

@@GenXQeeenBEw. Cringe.

@lilkitty2396

Ай бұрын

​​@@GenXQeeenB excuse me??? WE act like children?????? this GROWN MAN ignored his wife when she needed him the MOST just after GIVING BIRTH TO A CHILD HE HELPED CREATE. he made her feel ALONE after she just went thru the trauma of bringing a child into the world. read that again untill you get it if he knew that having children would get in the way from his career then he should have, yknow communicated that with his wife and perhaps waited to have children??

@GenXQeeenB

Ай бұрын

@@lilkitty2396 Many generation prefers manly masculine men. Women today have it way too easy. I can see why men don’t want American women and are now marry women from other countries

At the end- Matt looks like he’s waiting for Abby to say she’s not against divorce so he can say SAAAME!

If this is the stuff they're saying in public but there is worse stuff that "they arent going to hash out the details" HOW BAD IS THE BAD

She's gaslighting herself to believe she has the perfect husband and everyone is a hater and she's so blind to see it. Bless her heart.

@berrymint6384

Ай бұрын

SHE is brainwashed. NOBODY wants suffering so she doe snot do this to herself

@willowtdog6449

Ай бұрын

The way narcissistic abuse works is that the narcissist gaslights their victim until they start repeating it too. This is what happens in abusive relationships. Blaming the victim, individually or generally, ends up actually making those people more likely to blame themselves and never get themselves out of the abusive relationship. A big part of how the abuse cycle works, is that the victim is told constantly that it is their fault they are being abused. Just fyi.

@Lupita19021

Ай бұрын

Y’all are wild for make crazy assumptions based on small clips 🙄 Abby is constantly saying how much she loves and appreciates Matt. That’s not something you can fake, I know because my parents actually have a horrible relationship

@AGULL

Ай бұрын

They try to normalize it i guess

@frozenheart7133

Ай бұрын

​@Lupita19021 it's not crazy assumptions, it's lived experience.

That man dislikes her. She’s probably defending him now, but 5-10 years down the line she’ll see what we saw. Modified : I don’t think he’s abusing her. That is too strong of an accusation. I do believe however that he dislikes her or even resents her, for maybe having him be a dad at a time when he wasn’t ready. The talk around post parfum depression and Father’s Day screamed immature and petty.

@mirisparkleslikewhoa

Ай бұрын

Absolutely!!!

@tonysopranosduck416

Ай бұрын

I’m just learning about these douchenozzles now and I automatically see that she’s much more intelligent and emotionally mature than him. She will come to resent his selfishness and immaturity. He’s not deep and intelligent women need interesting conversations with their partners later in life when children aren’t the focus.

@marieneu264

Ай бұрын

I don’t think she likes him much either. If you watch their channel and not their podcast, he drives her crazy with his adhd and annoying and childish behavior and mannerisms.

@13lilsykos

Ай бұрын

I've literally watched their channel off and on for a while, before she was pregnant the first time. I do not see what y'all are talking about. Do I think he's overenthusiastic and annoying? Yeah but that's people.

@lexyhartmann4396

Ай бұрын

After he gets caught for having affairs no doubt!

I think it's good that they are having these unfiltered honest conversations with each other whether it's online or not

Wait, wait. Fathers Day is about him. His birthday is about him. Is he just mad because he only gets one day all about him if the days are combined?