“you’re taught about how to put on a condom, what chlamydia is, what AIDS is, but you’re not taught if you really wanna do it.” wow.

@shaq9361

3 жыл бұрын

"i dot want to do that" they continue its rape pretty sure its common sense and a 3rd grader would understand

@Galen223adept

3 жыл бұрын

Tbh, many of us aren't even taught those basic things lol

@MacAndy

3 жыл бұрын

As it should be. You don't teach other people what they want.. they decide for themselves.

@tosinakin2508

3 жыл бұрын

@@MacAndy You don't teach people what they want. You teach people to recognize when others don't want something.

@sharkaboi

3 жыл бұрын

we don't have a class even

The girl who has little interest in sex has the most sensible views on it...

@coolbeans5911

3 жыл бұрын

"Coaches don't play"😂

@evaa.333

3 жыл бұрын

I guess it can partly be because as an asexual person, you kinda get an outsiders perspective on the whole thing? Since you don't feel that attraction, only societal expectations would push you to do those acts. So I feel like that makes it easier to question those expectation that societly puts on the whole virginity and sex topics

@eviedean4337

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I definitely think since her perspective was different it allowed her to have a much less biased view

@beebo12

3 жыл бұрын

@Jade Johnson same!!

@aliciaquintero7133

3 жыл бұрын

@@coolbeans5911 fr!

i’m so proud of her for handling that “everything happens for a reason” line so gracefully, because as a victim of rape, i don’t see myself being able to keep my composure

@abiihxlii

Жыл бұрын

Hope you're okay 🫶🏼

@MMellette

Жыл бұрын

100%

@workworkangelica

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry that happens to u :(

@StoryOverTeller

Жыл бұрын

Canon event type beat

@mya619

11 ай бұрын

Same here. I really hate that saying, because you're not only saying "that was supposed to happen" but you're excusing the person who did it. It's always super religious people who love to use that line. I'm proud of how she handled that line.

Don't say "everything happens for a reason" to someone who has experienced sexual assault.

@lovely1641

3 жыл бұрын

Why? She said herself she learned from it

@alexandriakayla5163

2 жыл бұрын

@@lovely1641 how tf do you get sexually assaulted for a reason?

@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw

2 жыл бұрын

@@alexandriakayla5163 it wasn’t sexual assault because she ended up giving consent and even said she did not regret it

@evieb8187

2 жыл бұрын

@@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw coercion is not consent

@profanotherletter4346

2 жыл бұрын

@@evieb8187 why not

'I'm Nico, I'm 19 and I'm really scared my mom is going to see this" lmao, the perfect line.

@nostop4691

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 what u smoking my guy

@Fortheloveoflore

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 I don’t think you know what antithesis means.

@Victoria-ko6mw

3 жыл бұрын

and he's sooooo cute

@ricosuave1053

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 let us all have our beliefs. Plus that isn’t related to the comment. It is a respectful thing to do.

@cazonmalena9528

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 explain what is atheism pls

Wtf “everything happens for a reason” is NOT how you respond to someone describing having been sexually assaulted.

@nataliea3072

3 жыл бұрын

Insensitivity at its finest

@noneofurbusiness7501

3 жыл бұрын

yeah like an airhead

@maratwasnthere1075

3 жыл бұрын

“Everything happens for a reason” was not the line I would have used-but still, I believe she said that in response to Vanessa’s first sexual interaction and not the sexual assault she experienced later?

@Woodsaras

3 жыл бұрын

Assaulted? Did you hear the story? :Ddddd

@noriii

3 жыл бұрын

@@Woodsaras what?

Nothing wrong with having sex before marriage. Nothing wrong with waiting after marriage. Go at your own pace.

@kaanthedesperate

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@GojoTheHonoredOne9

2 жыл бұрын

Very much a lot wrong with having sex before marriage

@mariominayag

2 жыл бұрын

@@GojoTheHonoredOne9 Why?

@mountaindew3201

2 жыл бұрын

@@GojoTheHonoredOne9 no

@indeedConfirmed

2 жыл бұрын

@@GojoTheHonoredOne9 everyone has opinions

I'm 22, a Virgin, never had a girlfriend, never kissed anyone , no stress, just a normal peaceful life

@PureRythm

Жыл бұрын

You just dropped this 👑

@pepetheiii6866

6 ай бұрын

Your future wife is lucky.

@WhiteMetal_

3 ай бұрын

Everything's same except i am 24

@rinkishimoto5797

12 күн бұрын

Absolutely agree with you. I'm Aroace, and I had 2 male roommates for the last 2 yrs. No drama, no romance, no sex, no stress, no pressure, nothing but peace and mutual respect.

the girl who said "well everything does happen for a reason" right after vanessa told how she lost her virginity should think better before she says something

@dianas7429

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. I wouldn't want to be friend of someone who is so tone deaf.

@amirahelechi7113

3 жыл бұрын

Eh, agree to disagree

@lovely1641

3 жыл бұрын

nothing malicious was said

@Rando240

3 жыл бұрын

@@amirahelechi7113 how?

@amirahelechi7113

3 жыл бұрын

@@Rando240 bc I do

“[Describes sexual assault]” “Everything happens for a reason” Bro what???

@popcorndude20

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 ok tyler

@xaifer2485

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 you say this to a comment about sexual assault. man that's ironjc

@duolingobird5081

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 stay on topic Tyler.

@Sofia2crazy

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 you need to chill lol

@S-anniee

3 жыл бұрын

A perspective that no one asked. Everything she said feels robotic and cold. Sort of memorized, but also unaware of social, cultural, and belief differences. It honestly appears like she repeats everything that she was told growing up and isn't mindful about it. This happens when growing up in a bubble, which occurs with strict religions or strict parents that you trust. It is likely she has heard and learned that response to tragedy/trauma before as comfort. But does not realize how insensitive and tone deaf the expressions she learned might be and does not apply well in different situations, as well as timing. This is why exposure to different people is important. It helps gain perspective and experiences. Sometimes people just don't question further from what their parents teach them or their enviroment. In conclusion, It seems like she doesn't have the time, physical and head space to be able to analyze, reflect, and think for herself. Fyi: this does not justify her response, but provides a better understanding of what happened and their mental processes.

Rahan gives me “I think I’m better than everybody” and airhead vibes.

@daviddiveroli9331

3 жыл бұрын

She is!!

@tns.xcoske

2 жыл бұрын

she is better than everyone, she’s confident and knows what she wants also independent

@frogtastic

2 жыл бұрын

ughh she is so annoying!!

@LordBandit200

2 жыл бұрын

She is better

@vocaloidhoe2238

2 жыл бұрын

She made me so angry I almost clicked off the video

The thing about Rahan is that it isn't exactly what she's saying, it's her body language when she does it. As someone who has been very insecure in the past, she seems to be just that. She's trying so hard to fit in and seem chill about it all that she looks the opposite. I grew up in South Asia so I'm well aware of the culture and shame when it comes to sex. She probably never had to sit in a room and talk about something that is considered taboo. So she seems to be trying to act casual about it and overcompensating while constantly feeling out of place. I honestly don't think she's bad in anyway. She's just inexperienced. Either that or she thinks she's better than everyone else cuz she's "pure".

@icantsee0

2 жыл бұрын

Or ur just overthinking about it lol

@NBR943

2 жыл бұрын

@@icantsee0 probably lol

@stafeleez

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I agree

@lovely1641

2 жыл бұрын

I mean she's not apart of sex culture so people either think she thinks she better than them or it touches on their insecurities because usually people like her aren't really thinking in that way as if they were better. They're usually minding their own business in a way people aren't used to

@gayallah2397

2 жыл бұрын

No Hymen no diamond

I feel like the girl in yellow went home thinking she did well...until she read the comments

@contraryshinysnivy

3 жыл бұрын

She does did well, why u agaisnt sex before married rules in islam ?

@asalah6578

3 жыл бұрын

@@contraryshinysnivy uhmm, did u see the video?????? She did not do good, her responses were tone deaf!!! Also no one said anything about being against Islam or Muslims, I am muslim dude

@contraryshinysnivy

3 жыл бұрын

@@asalah6578 i think she did a good job while being soft listener, if its a real muslim with strict will really point out all the rules in islam that against the sex before marriage

@asalah6578

3 жыл бұрын

@@contraryshinysnivy she did point out the rules in Islam but just behind a smile, like know even asked you. she is just talking just to talk. There are so many other Muslims that could have done SUCH a better job. Embarrassing!!!

@natashawarden2810

3 жыл бұрын

@@contraryshinysnivy that's not what people are angry at they are angry about her minimising sexual abuse by saying "everything happens for a reason" to a sexual abuse victim

i feel like girl in yellow doesn’t have any malicious intent and seems like an okay person, but some of the things she said are extremely tone deaf.. 😬😬

@GlamourCat1920

3 жыл бұрын

I agree - I don’t feel she is a mean-spirited person but a lot of the things she said did not come across well

@amirahhmukhtarxx7129

3 жыл бұрын

I find it funny how when you don’t agree with someone’s narrative, you’re quick to label them tone death

@GlamourCat1920

3 жыл бұрын

Jade Johnson I agree with the specific examples you used

@cherasunasmr9887

3 жыл бұрын

@@GlamourCat1920 right? like how are you going to sit there and tell a sexual assault victim that it all happened for a reason? smh.

@cherasunasmr9887

3 жыл бұрын

@Jade Johnson EXACTLY. You took the words right out of my mouth. Like that person above can say whatever they want, I respect that girl’s religion and opinions, but you can’t deny her response to the sexual assault victim was just... no.

Vanessa is so strong for telling her story about her mom. I hope she is doing well and can find someone in the future

I really connect with Vanessa. When I lost my “virginity” I was raped… and when I went to my mom about it she told me I was lying and just didn’t want to tell her I was having sex and it really does hurt when they are supposed to care for you and want to protect you from harm.

@shelbyk2193

2 жыл бұрын

OMG I am deeply sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine the pain you must feel knowing that your mom does not believe you. Is there anyone you can go to to talk about this such as a relative or friend?

@daniellemillard760

Жыл бұрын

@@shelbyk2193 I told my aunt before I told anyone else. She was the one that told me I should tell her because I was so upset. Its been like 6 years now and sometimes its still hard but I'm doing better, thank you.

@shelbyk2193

Жыл бұрын

@@daniellemillard760 I'm really sorry this happened to you but I am glad you are getting better hun 💖

@zangrygrapes4571

7 ай бұрын

greatest enemy of women is other women

"everything happens for a reason" she said to the sexual abuse survivor

@sasha9647

3 жыл бұрын

Jesus her ignorance

@EmmaryMarshall

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 not everyone believes in god. let people have their free will and you can have your own as well.

@GraceLeo-mc4rr

3 жыл бұрын

@@EmmaryMarshall If they don't believe in God then they have no business in mentioning his only son, especially in a vile manner

@EmmaryMarshall

3 жыл бұрын

@@GraceLeo-mc4rr they can say whatever they want. you don’t get to tell people what is and what isn’t their business.

@GraceLeo-mc4rr

3 жыл бұрын

@@EmmaryMarshall It's not their business. I'm not Muslim but I'm not gonna disrespect the religion simply because I'm not one of them and hide behind "freedom of speech". Respect others and their religion

I just believe that whether you a virgin or not, nobody should be judged or mocked about it. It's just really disrespectful.

@PizzaRolls4949

3 жыл бұрын

RIGHT! 🚪 🏃

@izuru6164

3 жыл бұрын

@@PizzaRolls4949 👭🚪🏃‍♂️ 👭🚶‍♂️🚪 💏💏🚪 🤱👩‍👧👨‍👦🚪

@dwnkaomwn3953

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@PizzaRolls4949

3 жыл бұрын

@@izuru6164 🚪🕺🕵

@PizzaRolls4949

3 жыл бұрын

@@izuru6164 😔 The family ❤

as a muslim person myself, I'm quite ashamed of how Rahan represented being a believing Muslim. Being a believer has nothing to do with justifying someone's trauma, it's being compassionate toward them with no judgment. And someone can bring up their religion so many times before it becomes super super entitled and cringy 😑

@caelcraig

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you, she said my religion too many times which came across the wrong way and seemed like entitlement. in terms of what she said about the trauma, I dont think she actually knew or meant what she was saying. I took it as everything gets better at the end and this time will pass but she didnt know how to verbalise it correctly but of course what she said was still not appropriate

@GGK1000

Жыл бұрын

Am a Muslim and I disagree with you it shows lack of knowledge on your part in fact most of the things she said was true if you ACTUALLY read the quran, the only cringe thing is you embarrassing yourself in the eyes of the angels

@honeybunch44

Жыл бұрын

​@@GGK1000 cry harder

@GGK1000

Жыл бұрын

@@honeybunch44 if you can have a civil and polite argument, and pull out the "cry harder" card so your mentality lol

@alisiachiara

Жыл бұрын

@@GGK1000 So it says in the quran that you are supposed to be entitled and insensitive?

I love the fact that the asexual woman is the one who knows the most about sex and seems the most sex positive. Honestly it's a testament to her character that she'd take such a sincere interest in learning about something that she's not interested in. It is a bit ironic though. Love that she was included. I knew asexuals existed but I've learned more about them because of this video.

@FLASCH1111

2 жыл бұрын

thank you for watching!

@gayallah2397

2 жыл бұрын

@@FLASCH1111 asexual is not a word

@gayallah2397

2 жыл бұрын

@@FLASCH1111 lghahsshahhaa community is gay 😂

@grooooootie

2 жыл бұрын

@@gayallah2397 it is actually 💀

@gayallah2397

2 жыл бұрын

@@grooooootie no its a made up word

I'm so glad they put a masculine, good-looking man on the virgin side... So good to break that stereotype!!

@femafull

3 жыл бұрын

Yesssss, I agree🙌🏻

@naria2224

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! It’s awful that there are some people that look down on a man for being a virgin. I find it great when a man that is wanting to wait for the right person.

@irmalair1

3 жыл бұрын

Yesss I know right! 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

@chickenchaser9348

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah im really happy they did that too :)

@chickenchaser9348

3 жыл бұрын

@@naria2224 same!!! It means that he has a lot of self respect (not that non-virgin guys dont, they do too) and values the seriousness and romanticism of intimacy. Not just doing it for the sake of doing it.

Us muslims don’t claim Rahan who tf says to someone who’s been sexually assaulted “everything happens for a reason” babe where tf do u live in??another dimension??

@porto1st

3 жыл бұрын

Do you speak on behalf of every single Muslim to say that we don’t “claim” her?? Ridiculous. You can say you don’t agree or accept what she’s saying, but don’t say “us Muslims” don’t claim her

@amirahelechi7113

3 жыл бұрын

No one cares who u claim and don't claim

@linahabouomar3970

3 жыл бұрын

@@porto1st bruh if you’re in your right mind you obv wouldn’t wanna claim her bc saying such an insensitive comment to someone who went thru a traumatic experience is top tier disrespect

@linahabouomar3970

3 жыл бұрын

@@amirahelechi7113 should I cry😢

@porto1st

3 жыл бұрын

@@linahabouomar3970 I obviously don’t agree or respect what she said at all, but It’s not your place to speak on behalf of every single Muslim

That concept of "losing" virginity makes no sense because nothing is "lost"; you were virgin and you're not anymore. Plain and simple!

@rose-gl4io

Жыл бұрын

It's just a term

@stylinson.9839

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@joyedet1363

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. There are so many cultures where the emphasis is put on the female child & punishment for when they 'lose' it.

@blackairforce13

Жыл бұрын

It's more like gaining an experience

@theforgottenhistory8450

Жыл бұрын

Female body undergoes changes.

I'm glad Rahan pointed out how consent is important even after marriage cause it's something that's not talked about often

@sravyavarali9191

Жыл бұрын

But she also said everything happens for a reason as a response to someone's uncomfortable experience.

@bubba94290

5 ай бұрын

@@sravyavarali9191it was bad wording, I’m just she even came to that conclusion afterwards. It’s obvious that her intentions weren’t bad, so it’s annoying to see other trying to paint her as a bad person when you can see that she wasn’t trying to be malicious. Your comment is unnecessary.

@sravyavarali9191

5 ай бұрын

@@bubba94290 doesn't matter. Sometimes irrespective of intentions, you can end up hurting people with words, and people should still take responsibility for it. She was also constantly trying to pretend to be superior just because of her regressive beliefs. Also, everybody can voice their opinions on this platform, and I didn't say anything that's inaccurate. So I don't think my comment was unnecessary.

@nini_nunez

4 ай бұрын

@@sravyavarali9191that’s a way religious people come to terms with bad things that happen. It’s not a way to excuse something. But she definitely should’ve held her tongue. That was cringey

Is it me or yellow jacket vibes be giving me that she thinks she better than everyone in the group

@sarahjane8631

3 жыл бұрын

I get the same feeling. She seems disingenuous

@sirmel11

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Being religious doesn't make you a good person.

@thespiderverseiscoming5482

3 жыл бұрын

But she is enlightened. She understands Love is stronger than Lust. Why wouldn’t you strive for that?

@ifyouwantoreplyjustclickth5063

3 жыл бұрын

@@thespiderverseiscoming5482 i dont think she is "enlightened", she seems a bit ignorant, but i agree love is better than lust. I have a feeling your comment is gonna get a lot of back lash tho

@thespiderverseiscoming5482

3 жыл бұрын

@@sirmel11 Religion gives people rules to follow so that people can feel equal, safe, connected, purposeful. All religions teach love. What would the world look like if it didn’t exist, where people were taught not to care about each other, where everyone would feel so powerful that they would abuse their power. If there was no god what would our life mean. I need god to give me a reason to live. I’m a Christian and she’s a Muslim. There’s a parable called the friendly Samaritan that talks about treating people with different backgrounds as brothers and sisters and regardless of what we believe in and our differing values, we embrace each others presence with love. Now you think religion is bad. That’s only due to the people who create propaganda and false narratives of what is originally said. Albert Einstein once said "Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind." Now the science community has a large amount of people of don’t believe in religion and resort to science, they believe in facts but not faith. But Einstein, possibly the greatest scientist of all time connected both religion and science and told us we need reason for existence. That is the beauty of religion, that is the beauty of god and his creation. I choose to believe that. Otherwise I live in world based on emptiness.

The muslim girl sounds so condescending like she thinks she’s better than the everyone else

@15step

3 жыл бұрын

By the way she’s constantly smiling and the way she reacts to people. She definitely thinks she is

@deneciablake3192

3 жыл бұрын

That the same thing I thought, it felt like she was judging everyone

@fatimae.6225

3 жыл бұрын

It’s funny because thinking you’re better than others is a sin and just uncomfortable to watch honestly

@tracey8987

3 жыл бұрын

Right like😒

@michellec.7996

3 жыл бұрын

As someone who used to be religious, the feelings of superiority are real. Its especially frustrating because those same people claim to be humble and understanding of others

“everything happens for a reason” that was such a terrible thing to say

The minute she said “everything happens for a reason” made my eyes widen because I know how it feels to be told that when something out of your control happens

God I love the blue haired girl. She’s so educated on the topic despite not having sex.

@FLASCH1111

3 жыл бұрын

thank you! hahahah

@kyana4508

3 жыл бұрын

@@FLASCH1111 omg I found you! Look, I'm going to follow you because seeing you in there, being so well-spoken and educated and just representing us Aces so well made me so happy and proud. I honestly love you for that ✨

@FLASCH1111

3 жыл бұрын

@@kyana4508 thank you so much!! seriously 🥺

@takemehome.9729

3 жыл бұрын

@Missy Fray super agree!!

@h34rtz4r1a

3 жыл бұрын

@@FLASCH1111 OMG ILY

I do like how Rahan mentioned how marriage is not consent .

@AliceEcila98

3 жыл бұрын

yep that was very good

@ninapickles9

3 жыл бұрын

The one thing she said that actually made sense

@amirahhmukhtarxx7129

3 жыл бұрын

@@ninapickles9 everything she said made sense

@NoOne-sd3sx

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. In my country, there was a point where a lot of people having open arguments and criticize women activists for proposing law about sexual harassment towards women and one of the article was “rape in marriage”. Almost 90% people i’ve talked with, thinking that the idea of marital rape is ridiculous, because to them, being married means that you have to ready whenever your husband want to have sex. (I live in a muslim majority country, and lgbtq+ isn’t normalized yet, so there’s only heterosexual marriage). It’s ridiculous that people think that marital rape is not something serious, and it’s our fault if we got raped by our spouse because we rejected sex. And i really do understand why people would think marital rape is ridiculous, because we were never ever taught about consent, ever. We don’t even have sex ed here. It’s a muslim majority country, where a lot of people think “marriage equal consent” and “women should serve their husbands”, it is also really taboo to talk about sex with your parents, because you’re supposed to figure it out by yourself “after marriage” where in fact, a lot of people lose it before marriage, but don’t talk about it because they got slut shamed and majority of men wouldn’t want a woman who’s not a virgin. Therefore, even someone’s got raped, and the victim talked about it, people would blame them. So a lot of people just don’t say anything. And that’s because a lot of people here, don’t know the idea of “consent”. So if you got raped, while wearing a dress, or because you were being nice to the rapist before, they said “it is your fault, even when you said no. Because you flirt with them”

@deeznuts1469

3 жыл бұрын

same

Bri is so well spoken, intelligent and accepting! I really loved and resonated with everything she said.

@FLASCH1111

2 жыл бұрын

thank u 💙💙💙

@makesmewannadie647

2 жыл бұрын

Same

That one girl comes off like she thinks she's morally superior. You know who I'm talking about...

@jessicavarnell1014

2 жыл бұрын

Just because she thinks waiting til marriage is best, doesn’t mean she’s looking over everyone and judging them for doing to opposite, chill out🙄🙄

@alkoholic3216

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao because she’s waiting for marriage? Okay you’re offended lmao what’s your body count?

@teehee5700

2 жыл бұрын

@@alkoholic3216 one of the girls is literally a sexual abuse survivor and she said "everything happens for a reason" which is really rude and inconsiderate. she acted so superior compared to everybody else.

@alkoholic3216

2 жыл бұрын

@@teehee5700 ok that’s fucked up but I don’t see how saying that puts you above everyone. You’re probably right tho

@teehee5700

2 жыл бұрын

@@alkoholic3216 just the way she was talking made her seem like she thought she was above all else for not having sex until marriage. If you look at her body language and the way she speaks to the people who aren't virgins, its kinda weird.

Im soooo glad she called her out on saying "everything happens for a reason". Its usually said with good intention but makes the victims feel SO shitty, please never say this to people.

@bornwithoutconsentobviously

3 жыл бұрын

At least you recognize she didnt have the horrible intentions everyone in this comment section makes her out to be.

@juanpedro4083

3 жыл бұрын

@@bornwithoutconsentobviously I am 60 years old but still virgen. I am waiting for a special person.

@bornwithoutconsentobviously

3 жыл бұрын

@@juanpedro4083 seriously, mad respect. At age 60, still a virgin, by choice I suggest. I can't imagine that. I'm 30 and I lost my virginity at my 18th birthday, but I have been going almost twelve years without any form of intimacy and its driving me nuts to be honest. I really hope you find that special person though.

@NameName-yj7lp

2 жыл бұрын

@@bornwithoutconsentobviously It’s the way she said it like “ aww too bad but it was going to happen” something about feels like she didn’t care. Stuff like that ISNT supposed to happen. It’s not.

@miurtouissi1093

2 жыл бұрын

@@bornwithoutconsentobviously you can still harm someone even if you don't have bad intentions. Ignorance doesn't absolve you from everything. And this was incredibly ignorant

I love that Bri (blue haired girl) brought attention to the enormous double standard between what is considered acceptable flirty behavior between males vs females. Women often get away with all sorts of touchy, gropey, aggressive come-ons with the assumption that men either secretly want it or that it's not a big deal coming from a woman. Thanks Bri.

@FLASCH1111

3 жыл бұрын

thank you! i really appreciate it. had to be said!

@thebatonmaster

3 жыл бұрын

@@FLASCH1111 No, thank YOU!!! 🤩

@temitopeoketikun1379

3 жыл бұрын

True I poked my friend’s elbow recently and he didn’t say anything. I shouldn’t have done that, it was unnecessary

@planetvenus6249

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 what’s the correlation

@sharinettegonzalez23

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 yeah...but no thank you 😑

I am really happy that Skyler brought up the notion of sex and responsibility and the risk of unplanned pregnancy. I have the impression that many cis men do not spend much time thinking beyond "just use protection". Sex can get messy, accidents happen and no protection is 100% reliable. Also it is often on the person who can get pregnant to take precautions. Nothing worse than a guy in a relationship who knows his partner is for example taking contraception begging to put away the condoms. Like... no thank you sir. Better save than sorry. Pregnancy scares are real. And they are real bad and more guys should take that issue seriously. From my experience having a partner who also takes responsibility for contraception and protection makes sex so much more enjoyable. You know you are being taken serious. You know your partner respects your bodily autonomy. You know your partner respects you.

@mr.peanutbutter5423

Жыл бұрын

nobody wants to talk about how no protection is 100% safe. i’m 22yo as a teen growing up hookup culture was very pushed and encouraged (much more now) i ended up getting pregnant despite being careful and friends around me and others in my age group were just nonchalantly saying “just have an abortion” i ended up getting an abortion.. i wish people will acknowledge that sex is fun and we love sex because that’s how nature encourages us to have children therefore we have to take it into consideration and not take it lightly. there’s human lives in play when you have sex, your life, your partner’s lives and the lives of the possible child. protection and birth control are never ever 100% i don’t regret the abortion, i regret making the irresponsible decision to get me there in the first place. birth control and condoms aren’t enough..

Asexuals vs Hyper sexuals? My partner is Asexual & I am a very hypersexual person & navigating our relationship is very interesting & enlightening. It'd be fun to see the opinions of each group come together

@martink.dongmo648

Жыл бұрын

Y’all just make up names at this point

@partiallyunknown9412

Жыл бұрын

@@martink.dongmo648 asexuality is very real. get over it :)

@martink.dongmo648

11 ай бұрын

@@partiallyunknown9412 you either have a bad personality or too high standards or maybe both but it’s definitely not that made up word

@owenk7571

8 ай бұрын

​@@martink.dongmo648Do you understand how words work? Asexual is simply a term used to describe someone without a sex drive.

@olaf-chan-728

5 ай бұрын

​@@partiallyunknown9412priests always existed, they never felt the need to call themselves asexuals

The girl in yellow smiles at really inappropriate times. Don’t trust her at all.

@babycakez8070

3 жыл бұрын

People smile when there uncomfortable. It actually quite normal. I glad she when on here. Everyone was able to educate her and she was in her religion bubble before, she kinda got a reality check. And ultimately this is what this KZread series is for.

@camd2871

3 жыл бұрын

She could be on the spectrum

@klutzyorangeconfetti1017

3 жыл бұрын

@@camd2871 why do you think that?

@tink6225

3 жыл бұрын

@@camd2871 bruh.

@tink6225

3 жыл бұрын

it's very condescending

So glad that the girl with blue hair picked it up that people laughed when that guy literally descriped hes very uncomfortable experience. Also I think that she had very good points overall.

@HouseMDaddict

3 жыл бұрын

And how people see sex as different things! SO aware and I loved their answers!

@youssefhachicha49

3 жыл бұрын

Ur just a simp huh

@poop4647

3 жыл бұрын

frost HD OR they’re just appreciating someone’s opinions weirdo..

@thebatonmaster

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I'm grateful she pointed out the big double standard in how people view female sexual aggression vs male sexual aggression.

@mid_professor

3 жыл бұрын

@@youssefhachicha49 why would he be simping all he said is that she made a good point

I don't judge the woman in yellow because she is a virgin. I judge her because of the value she places on it. She sees it as a measure of purity and morality.

@lovely1641

2 жыл бұрын

nothing wrong with that. She's not hurting anyone

@mushroomexpress3049

2 жыл бұрын

theres nothing wrong with thinking that tho. forcing and judging people who didn't think that are wrong tho. same case with you who judge her views

@yourscorpiosun

2 жыл бұрын

@@lovely1641 her believes are quite misogynistic

@lovely1641

2 жыл бұрын

@@yourscorpiosun They're more old fashioned compared to current mainstream thinking but not really misogynistic

@yourscorpiosun

2 жыл бұрын

@@lovely1641 nah, they really are. purity culture is forced on women, not men. there is a huge difference

Rahan reffering to virginity as "pure" is so depressing. You can tell she thinks she's so superior for it.

@InkfightStudios

2 жыл бұрын

She will most likely have a big wake up call in life.

@yasmina1994

Жыл бұрын

and 2 billion other people.

@StarrySoakedSky

5 күн бұрын

She IS superior.

I’m sorry, but did homegirl just say “well everything does happen for a reason” after Vanessa just shared her traumatic story of losing her virginity that entailed her partner pressuring her and taking advantage of her. 🤦🏻‍♀️...def not the best thing to reply to someone after sharing something so vulnerable!

@jackielogsted2793

3 жыл бұрын

that was awful

@jutiajulia

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that was not it. Very inappropriate to say in that situation. Nobody should tell anybody how to feel about something traumatic.

@jessicaroos837

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I was like "oh no honey, no no" when she said that.

@ashuranero5721

3 жыл бұрын

It was still her decision, it's her fault

@sailorpsyched

3 жыл бұрын

@Aloko Zay that wasnt HER mistake, she didnt deserve what happened to her 🤨🤨

even as a muslim, it was still wrong of her to tell vanessa "everything happens for a reason" when being assaulted. Yes, God does plan out our lives and destiny, but no one deserves to have traumatic experiences.

@user-ri4jx2lp7x

2 жыл бұрын

So you are agreeing that "it happened for a reason" while criticising her for saying such?

@mariam-xq3py

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-ri4jx2lp7x no, im saying it happened, but not for a reason

@indeedConfirmed

2 жыл бұрын

@@mariam-xq3py yes definitely for a reason, she knows how to make the right decision next time, logically not emotionally, you have both a brain and a heart for a reason. If you choose to use only your heart and get hurt because of it you gotta have something happen to teach you otherwise.

@NehaVKumar

2 жыл бұрын

@@indeedConfirmed wow that sounds very "victim blame" mentality , what do u mean by , when it happens next time she will know what to do ,it wasnt her fault and there should be no kind of teaching moment for her cause she was unprepared for something like that , having an assault happened to her is only traumatizing . We have both a brain and a heart but its not like they dont work together. When your met with a situation like this, your fight or flight is triggered, and one of the responses is to freeze . U can have it happen to u again and u still wouldn't know how to deal with it.

@acielvert8573

2 жыл бұрын

@@indeedConfirmed are u seriously blaming the victim???

I feel this for having asexual representation because honestly given the media, it's so easy to think people like me don't exist.

"He was so high he couldn't remember" - imagine if the roles were reversed

@imadedisaccount2commentido693

2 жыл бұрын

maybe they were both high and only one remembered, if not then yeah it's rape

@user-gk9pl6vl5v

2 жыл бұрын

@@imadedisaccount2commentido693maybe, but just the fact this is considered a normal sentence is crazy

@trevorharbolt6293

2 жыл бұрын

That's what came to mind when I heard that

@pussydestroyer69285

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-gk9pl6vl5v exactly like wtf

@myrkflinn4331

2 жыл бұрын

She was unaware herself and uncomfortable. Wouldn't be assault on her end at all. If the dude was as confused and doubtful and the girl was high but convincing enough to seem into it fully, it's still not assault to me. Does it suck? Yes. Is it okay? No, but assault is done with intend. Not on accident.

calling sexual assault a "learning experience" is pretty damaging... especially during a dialogue that's meant to facilitate safer spaces around sexual subject matters.

@ig4653

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-op8fg3ny3j understandable, doesn’t change the fact that a survivor had to hear such an awful response

@destinyquiroz914

3 жыл бұрын

Duuude imagine the a rapist saying that!? "Everything happens for a reason'' Or them saying that before the act or saying that to justify it or " See light into the situation "

@zegsi364

3 жыл бұрын

No its actually better. Cuz it keeps the value of evolution and growth instead of victim mindsets and devolution

@prodigygod1

3 жыл бұрын

Even negative things are learning experiences. If you didnt learn anything then you are more likely to go through the same thing. Stop being a snowflake. Grow up.

@tracymartell9599

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 so are tylers all around the world... go fight a war or something this topic aint for you baby

I can’t lie the blue haired person has the best points

@gabrielmoralesgonzalez6471

3 жыл бұрын

I wonder if that is the natural hair color.

@isoldes.5775

3 жыл бұрын

I’m pretty sure that it’s a wig🤔

@jazs2300

3 жыл бұрын

@@isoldes.5775 it’s still blue and it’s still hair

@kontsakeisari

3 жыл бұрын

She seems awesome!

@matthewilliamazer

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. As a fellow asexual, I wish I had Bri really explain it to me about a decade ago. I didn't realize I was asexual until after two intimate relationships. I thought it was way more enjoyable for the experience of having it rather than the pleasure.

“There is no gray area” is a nice way of saying she’s homophobic.

@jacobfields39

2 жыл бұрын

@Pastafarian Pretty sure you either didn’t watch the video or didn’t understand my comment.

@psychosweet6152

2 жыл бұрын

ooooohhh damn.. I never noticed that!!!

@oldarthurmorgan6319

2 жыл бұрын

? Wdym

@Rafa-ct5yh

2 жыл бұрын

When?

@jacobfields39

2 жыл бұрын

@@Rafa-ct5yh When she said there is no gray area as I said in my original comment

"Everything happens for a reason" has been said to me so many times I didn't even realize she said it. Everyone reacted so respectfully because I would've started crying tbh.

the dead silence after the question "i was taught what consent looks like" is honestly terrifying.

@labranehit7687

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah! That shocked me as well. It's bloody dangerous for them not to have had that taught to them.

@lovely1641

3 жыл бұрын

@@labranehit7687 I think the assumption was that they wouldn't have sex

@acfkelly6291

3 жыл бұрын

I didn't know, but I make sure my kids do

@cat56789

3 жыл бұрын

It’s so scary

@taurusied7447

3 жыл бұрын

Is it something needed to be taught? One who is sensible enough knows that an activity between two person is proper only when both are involved in it willingly. Is it that difficult to understand? 🤔 Be it sexual or any other activity on this planet.

“I’m Nico, I’m 19 and I’m really scared that my mom is gonna see this” has the same energy as: “I’m Jared, I’m 19 and I never fu**ing learned how to read”

@jillfanning749

3 жыл бұрын

That’s what I thought

@cthesavage

3 жыл бұрын

?

@safa4806

3 жыл бұрын

@@cthesavage it was a vine

@jaredfisher-ramos7744

3 жыл бұрын

Wait my names Jared bruuh

@ebonysunberry2580

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

I am a virgin because I don't believe in premarital sex. 24 years old, and I have a girl who I am in a relationship with for over 5 years now. She agreed to marry me, but I will make it official with a ring. Wish me luck Edit: I am a Christian

@tonga05

2 жыл бұрын

I'm Christian too!!! I am so happy for you! Wish you all the best - I will wait after marriage as well

My peers were having sex by age 12. I decided to stay celibate due to STDs and pregnancies. As I aged I decided to wait until a special girl came along, then ultimately waiting until. Being a 6’4, well spoken, attractive athlete and practicing celibacy was viewed as weird or criminal activity in HS, college and after. The peer pressure was over the top but the discipline felt like a superpower (self control). People think virgins have a stereotypical look or behave certain ways socially, not the case. My wife are moderately attractive individuals. We didn’t discover one another were virgins until about about 4 months into dating (no one was trying to make a move lol). We’re now mid 30s, if you see us, the closeness, energy, communication, flirting, 13 years still looks it just starting. *Was waiting until marriage to do anything sexually worth it? Of course, a special shared experience only between us. I wouldn’t change what I’ve lived my life like if I could live my life twice!*

@radianthaze5332

11 ай бұрын

I really resonate with this. I respect myself too much to let my virginity go so easily and casually. Plus STIs and pregnancies are not worth the risk if you treat sexuality like exercise. I know the wait will be worth it.

@sttonep242

8 ай бұрын

Wtf?! 12yo should be playing with legos

@pepetheiii6866

6 ай бұрын

Do not look down upon your self because of this degenerate rats. You've done a great job saving yourself for your partner. We're living in times where rats would tell pures how to live.

@ArtManROfficial

4 ай бұрын

​@@sttonep242facts! I say that to some of my younger friends

Why does Rahan act like she is better than everyone else . So passive aggressive

@salmamoustafa9468

3 жыл бұрын

She was so off especially when she was like invalidatimg the girl's trauma like it happened for a reason. Superiority complex for sure.

@user-mv3sz9gk1d

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@user-mv3sz9gk1d

3 жыл бұрын

She is living in parallel universe I guess ,talking about soul's connection, I mean wake up girl it's 2021,people get raped even after marriage and marriage isn't consent

@mustbebold8788

3 жыл бұрын

Right like.

@Mandy-dw9wm

3 жыл бұрын

I felt that too... but I also thought she was trying to be nice ...

I mean, being a virgin is still normal, but we live in a time where being a virgin is sometimes considered bad which just makes no sense.

@SanskarWagley

3 жыл бұрын

It’s not “bad”, but if you’re still a virgin at a certain age, it’s embarrassing. EDIT: I'm speaking from personal experience, I am a virgin and am embarrassed by it. I do not claim to speak for other people.

@sirsytham1588

3 жыл бұрын

I hate this comment. The word « normal » here is like SO personal. Normal for who? It’s so incredibly subjective. And not only that, you’re wrong. At least in the western world, after 20 it’s weird if you’re a virgin. Just look at the average age for when people loos their virginity.

@bobf1267

3 жыл бұрын

@@SanskarWagley what age is that?

@lupinir

3 жыл бұрын

@@sirsytham1588 literally proving their point

@dontshityourself

3 жыл бұрын

I think it depends on the gender honestly. It’s always been that men are pressured to lose their virginities or else it’s a bad thing and girls to stay “pure” or else their a slut

5:18 I love how she said she gave her consent but he was too high to remember. Like, how does that play out roles reversed?

@mathiasgordon6942

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah she raped him, and you’re the only person I’ve seen who’s mentioned it at all.

@bonniem1865

2 жыл бұрын

I was wondering this lol.

@jazzylee6844

2 жыл бұрын

I love how you cherry pick details to fit your agenda. She found out after the fact that he was high during their intercourse. Not her fault at all

@XavierQuin

2 жыл бұрын

@@jazzylee6844 I don’t know if you’ve ever been so intoxicated that you don’t remember what happened the night before, but everyone around you is well aware. She may not have known just how high he was, but she knew he was lit.

@blast2686

2 жыл бұрын

@@jazzylee6844 he was so high he couldn’t remember what happened last night. How can you not know a person is very high just by looking at him/her

The Muslim girl was SO out of pocket and horrible, I’m sorry, saying “everything happens for a reason” and then talking about waiting til marriage saying “the right way” like sit down girl.

@ichyasu8738

2 жыл бұрын

As a Muslim it is true, it's either she didn't know or mean to say that or she means it and she is mean, in Islam you have to wait until marriage but u shouldn't make poeple think they are wrong if they don't share same beliefs as u do

@WoodmanTiller

2 жыл бұрын

Because it wasn't coercion, it's not sexual assualt she could've walked away. If the guy legit pushed her, touched her and basically raped her that is coercion.

@soniiabaybee

2 жыл бұрын

in. Way its like saying well there you go, classic example of why you do not sex before marriage. Dont get taken advantage of.

@popaesthetics8365

2 жыл бұрын

Idk why tf y’all are going after Rahan when she said nothing wrong in response to the details Vanessa gave for the 1ST PROMPT. From timestamp 2:00-6:55 Vanessa does NOT say she was sexually assaulted. She said it was [somewhat consensual] but she regrets it because her ass of a boyfriend ended up dumping her in the end. Her boyfriend was a jackass for toying with her feelings, but the dude is not a rapist. Vanessa literally admitted that she gave her consent during THAT SITUATION.

@user-ul3jh2dh8j

2 жыл бұрын

Yh, whats wrong with her saying that? The whole point of this show on Jubilee is for people who have opposing ideas and views to share their thoughts and beliefs on the topic their views conflict on and try to find a middle ground through doing so. With that being said, those are her beliefs, that waiting till marriage is the right way. Explain the issue? How is it out of pocket for her to say that? 💀

can we please get a black american vs african american episode, because i feel like most people don’t even understand the fact that there’s a distinction between the two

@gbekeee858

3 жыл бұрын

Add black Caribbean’s to that mix

@jadastrose8675

3 жыл бұрын

@@gbekeee858 DT won't end well,especially if virgins start judging non virgins,somebody go get cursed out on their whole family or get lixed the fuck down

@itslihlelanga

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 Amen dont stop spreading the gospel

@KristenPimley

3 жыл бұрын

White American culture is calling black people from other countries African Americans.

@temitopeoketikun1379

3 жыл бұрын

Oofff this one!

the muslim girl’s vibes are off

@tracie1892

3 жыл бұрын

When she said 'everything happens for a reason' 🤮 wtf

@bangton_bitch5913

3 жыл бұрын

She is secretly there judging the non-virgings and even the virgins that are not going to lose it until marriage she still judging them because of their decision and choices.

@vascor.3267

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, makes me think of someone I know who's just really hypocritical and falsely nice

@HouseMDaddict

3 жыл бұрын

Well I think it's probably because she was only raised to see marriage as when her relationships happen. I'm guessing she probably went to a school tailored to that, and she just seemed like a person who has been sheltered from the world with only one view. Her answer to the consent question gives great insight to that.

@meanuwuhnia598

3 жыл бұрын

@@HouseMDaddict oh no, not just her beliefs.her general attitude seems like someone who hasn’t been exposed to the society.

rahan is so self-centered and insensitive. to the point where her being a virgin is her whole personality and her first instinct to someone confessing they were assaulted is telling them “everything happens for a reason” ..

@Yuyu-fu7zk

Жыл бұрын

Don’t exaggerate now

@sabrina4735

Жыл бұрын

Doing too much lmao its not her whole personality. She was really sweet except that one comment but its true, everything happens for a reason

@joyedet1363

Жыл бұрын

Calm down. Let her believe what she wants. I guess she's very optimistic and that's okay

@liquorcofficial5561

Жыл бұрын

She was being super chill wtf you talking about 🤣🤣🤣

@ichoosemeimsorry

Жыл бұрын

@@liquorcofficial5561 yeah exactly. super chill as in completely ignorant 😂

From the time my child could walk I've taught her about consent! Simply by teaching her how to say NO. If she doesn't want to give a hug to a family member or close friend of hers or mine, even if its grandma, I've taught her to yell "NO." And I lead by example by telling others NO if im not comfortable about something. They pickup on how you are more than what you tell them.. she is a powerful young girl because of that now

Virgins or non virgins these people are really considerate and wholesome. This is the peace I would love to see everywhere

@AxxLAfriku

3 жыл бұрын

Why is Donald Trump pretty and I am not? But why does he only have a wife but I have TWO HOT GIRLFRIENDS who I show off in my masterpiece YT videos? Do you know the answer, dear pya

@ulledienulle8211

3 жыл бұрын

@@AxxLAfriku ?

@ifyouwantoreplyjustclickth5063

3 жыл бұрын

Does anyone notice how jubiliee tries to make their last question be one they thing everyone will agree on? It's like they want everyone to leave on a good note and say "look, we all have this in common, lets all be in the middle and come together now".

@daenerystargaryen1440

3 жыл бұрын

@@AxxLAfriku In my opinion Donald Trump is not pretty, but you do you 😂

@theroyaletea

3 жыл бұрын

@@AxxLAfriku i stopped reading your comment after i read that Donald Trump is pretty, i mean the only antonym for pretty that i know is Donald Trump

“I was taught what consent looked like” *No one moves* This, this right here is so important. My heart broke when I saw no one moved yet I wasn’t that surprised BC I wasn’t taught either by the American school system. Now I know that consent is not just “yes”. There are so many factors that come into play and it’s so important to recognize them before any action is taken.. I’m glad they brought this up.

@jana-dy5et

3 жыл бұрын

I think this is true for school systems in a lot of countries, i would hope it is changing nowadays but when I was young, it was definitely not teached to me and I'm from Germany.

@mateaf6731

3 жыл бұрын

exactly the prompt came up and i zoned out bc i immediately realized that it was in fact never taught to me in school or by parents or anything, i had to in a way teach myself what it is and what it isn't - zoned back in to all of them still standing there and just felt a wave of sad shock pass through me, goosebumps and all, because we really are taught so much about sex itself but almost never touch on the topic of what consent really looks like, beyond just "no means no", if that

@MattGarcyaDC

3 жыл бұрын

Minute?

@iDewThis4Yu

3 жыл бұрын

You literally can’t teach that..concentis different for everyone

@teamichigo75

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think schools should or have any need to teach their students what consent looks like or the meaning, that's up to their parents to teach them.

as a religious person myself, i do not really like argumenting using religious facts, cause most ppl in the room arent religious, and it kind of just puts limits to the conversation. so concerning this subject, regardless of my religion, i think that waiting till marriage is a way of being certain that your partner isnt just in it for the sex, cause youre not an object, youre more than that. what i just said depends on what youre searching for in a relationship tho, there are relationships based 100% on sex and thats totally okay, in that case my argument isnt really valid. But yeah personnally trying to wait till marriage assures a feeling of safety not only physical but mental too

@josiebello4666

2 жыл бұрын

My mom always told me to wait until marriage. She added that if I didn’t to just make sure the other person respected me. I waited to lose my virginity until 23 and thankfully I chose someone that did respect me. He always put me first, not himself, when it came to sex.

@pidayrocks2235

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t think that’s a very strong argument for waiting for marriage…. There are plenty of other ways to ensure your partner isn’t just “in it for sex”… getting to know the person and their friend group and family and interests is one of the more obvious ways… you can also just wait a few weeks or months before you consider sex, etc. Marriage is such an arbitrary cutoff point in this argument. Also, even if that were one possible reason someone might want to wait, there’s going to be plenty of reasons not to wait as well: 1) gaining experience and learning what you like, 2) seeing if you and your partner are sexually compatible before making the giant commitment that is marriage, because not all people are sexually compatible and it’s not always something that gets better with time. There’s plenty of other reasons as well.

@hibatazi9011

2 жыл бұрын

@@pidayrocks2235 you cant really get to know a person fully by just a few months relationship, some people have been in a relationship for yearsss and are still finding out new things abt their partner. But marriage is a commitment that takes a lottt of courage, and money, no person(generally) will get married just for sex cause so many responsabilities come with it. Thats why for me its the only way to ensure your partner isnt with u for superficial reasons. Regarding the finding out what u like through experiences before mariage, u can find out on youre own for the most part,

@pidayrocks2235

2 жыл бұрын

@@hibatazi9011 I don’t think that’s reality… virtually nobody who is really just in it for sex would subject themselves to months or years of a sexless relationship… so if you’re someone who is really that paranoid about reading intentions and cannot trust the dialogues you have with your partner or don’t feel great about your capability to see clues for something as simple as that over the course of getting to know them, then don’t have sex for X long (weeks, months or years) until you’re confident in your answer. This seems like a pretty fictional scenario to be honest as I don’t see this happening anywhere except in stories as a scare tactic by religious people. Anybody who really just wants sex can find it pretty easily and won’t go through the trouble of weeks on end getting emotionally attached with no sex, let alone a few months. As for getting to know what you like with a partner, it can be VERY different than what you like on your own (obviously, because dynamics change with s partner… hence why not everyone is sexually compatible like I mentioned).

@pidayrocks2235

2 жыл бұрын

@@hibatazi9011 I also feel like this applies to such a small portion of people outside of those influenced by religions, because sex is not some sacred thing to most non-religious people and so there’s less of a need to “protect against giving up sex”… because from our (and I use that loosely of course because not all non-religious people have the same views - that goes without saying) perspective, the emotional investment you put into a ruined/ended relationship feels like more of a loss (because of the time and energy) than the sex does.

I'm so proud to be a part of this generation, seeing the mature and inclusive way most of them talk about the topics and points of views raised.

You do you. If being a virgin is important to you because of your religion or other reasons that's totally fine. It's also fine if virginity doesn't mean anything to you. It's only getting problematic when you start judging other people based on their decision.

@sophiahatsell4440

3 жыл бұрын

SNAPS

@ashuranero5721

3 жыл бұрын

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion of other people

@chelsea9641

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah

@johnleon4310

3 жыл бұрын

Yes.

@youssefhachicha49

3 жыл бұрын

Everyone is born for a reason u should look at life from an othere side cause its gonna end one day

I like hearing from older virgins who aren’t just waiting for marriage. Sometimes you’re just not ready or waiting for the right moment or not interested in sex at all

@UrbanDecayLova247

3 жыл бұрын

I definitely think we should normalize that not everyone “waiting” is doing it for religious reasons.

@noneofurbusiness7501

3 жыл бұрын

period

@Mustlehard

3 жыл бұрын

Ready for what ? It’s not a big deal

@CL_G

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mustlehard STD's, unwanted pregnancy. You cannot expect everyone to be honest about what diseases they have or their intentions prior to having sex with you -that is what makes it a big deal.

@iguana6746

3 жыл бұрын

@@CL_G thats why you use condoms. the chances of getting an STD or a pregnancy are extremely small. If you follow this thought for any other area in your life then you wouldnt get inside a car or cross a street, because you literally have more chances of being in a car crash than contracting an STD or pregnancy IF YOU WEAR A CONDOM. The girl can even take pills or watch her fertile period to make sure a pregnancy wont happen

Coercing someone who stated they’re not comfortable having sex yet ≠ consent

This girl was vulnerable, and then this girl says 'everything happens for a reason.' Like are you kidding me?!

I really cant belive the whole “everything happens for a reason” after she basically just said she went through a tramtic expierence. thats sad.

@ayshatakiremi1830

3 жыл бұрын

@Rosie Hutchinson ok..I see what u did

@statebrigaba5160

3 жыл бұрын

She didn't mean anything bad when she said that, she just wanted us all to learn a lesson from something bad, because after all the bad we need to be stronger and open our eyes, not to be hampered in life and not to blame ourselves for something someone else did to us, not to let it bring us down. I see the goodness in her eyes and she was the only one who hugged her when it was hard for her to talk about it 25:35. If you took it wrong then thats your problem, your perscective, your view of the world. dont blame her!

@urbutholstinks2304

3 жыл бұрын

@@statebrigaba5160 she told a rape victim "everything happens for a reason" even if she didnt have the wrong intentions,that's so insensitive given the situation

@milig

3 жыл бұрын

@@urbutholstinks2304 I agree with sta, I doubt she said it with bad intentions but her choice of words was awful

@firstlegend5105

3 жыл бұрын

@@urbutholstinks2304 tbh in Islam, everything does happen for a reason, it is called 'takdir' Allah has created plans for everyone and it is in the work that we put in to make it count, however some circumstances where situations like this is inevitable, then we can't avoid it but to learn from it and move on from it

rahan was so passive-aggressive

@AB-yk2pq

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 Please do not be disrespectful

@unlucky1349

3 жыл бұрын

​@Tyler B #2 all religions are social constructs! there is literally more proof for evolution than gravity!

@cameerkat

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 Respect all religions even if you don’t agree with them. I’m an atheist but I respect all as long as they respect me.

@EmmaryMarshall

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 Not you commenting for someone to not say the lords name in vain and then commenting this crap. no one is going to respect you if you don’t respect them.

@bee-xu4ie

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 if you don’t want people to be rude to you about your religion, don’t be rude to others religion smh. so ignorant 🙄

I was a virgin when I married my husband and so was he and it was the most magical thing. I am so happy I waited.

me and Vanessa have the same experience with the whole losing it and relationship thing. i just wanna give her the biggest hug

the girl in the yellow suit is trying to be SUCH an over-active listener

@busboy3232

3 жыл бұрын

She likes to hear herself talk.

@wlt3585

3 жыл бұрын

@@busboy3232 One on hand we have someone saying she is an overactive listener On the other hand we have someone saying she just likes hearing herself talk W a t

@busboy3232

3 жыл бұрын

@@wlt3585 Choose your squad trooper.

@caglaadaler1363

3 жыл бұрын

@@busboy3232 i agree

@aimemaggie

3 жыл бұрын

@@wlt3585 I read overactive listener as someone who talks while others are taking to show that they’re listening. Like saying affirmative phrases (right, ok, yes)

It really grinds my gears when people say “everything happens for a reason” to people who have been raped

@passport3763

3 жыл бұрын

Someone said (sarcastically?) say that to someone who has been raped, and I kept thinking that phrase would confuse people, the person is saying it sarcastically but I was confused.

@animecutie.

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 read the room. The comment was about a person who got raped you thought now would be the time to try and be funny?

@MsDudette21

3 жыл бұрын

im glad they had only one religious person there. cuz in america id assume most younger people are virgins because they havent met the right person or are just too young and havent placed importance on it yet

@sannin4569

3 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't say raped. The boyfriend simply said he would end the relationship without intercourse, mental manipulation, rather. In no way does that diminish her trauma, but most people would simply end it right there, but everything is easier said than done

@ve9121

3 жыл бұрын

@@sannin4569 it’s rape. manipulating, convincing, or pressuring someone into sex is rape.

Everyone is piling on Rahan for her naive "everything happens for a reason" comment. I just want to commend her for raising the topic of consent after marriage. I think it's something that needs to be talked about more.

@xmeiyume

2 жыл бұрын

I mean, if you wanna wait for marriage, do it 100%. But saying "everything happens for a reason" to a SA survivor is just.. kinda disturbing.

@popaesthetics8365

2 жыл бұрын

@@xmeiyume Idk why tf y’all are going after Rahan when she said nothing wrong in response to the details Vanessa gave for the 1ST PROMPT. From timestamp 2:00-6:55 Vanessa does NOT say she was sexually assaulted. She said it was [somewhat consensual] but she regrets it because her ass of a boyfriend ended up dumping her in the end. Her boyfriend was a jackass for toying with her feelings, but the dude is not a rapist. Vanessa literally admitted that she gave her consent during THAT SITUATION.

@alexrattray8807

2 жыл бұрын

@@xmeiyume but everything does happen for a reason

@belxxx3045

2 жыл бұрын

Okay boohoo she is insane

How ignorant of that girl to say everything happens for a reason with a smile on her face. No. It didn’t need to happen.

Fun fact: 99% of the comments were talking about a girl who said "Everything happens for a reason"

@cm.1458

3 жыл бұрын

I’m*

@powerrabbit9999

3 жыл бұрын

I hate when everyone comments the same exact thing.

@coreygavin9134

3 жыл бұрын

For sure there's a reason but it's not always going to be a positive development...In this case maybe a hard lesson learned?

@patriciaespinjurado602

3 жыл бұрын

@@coreygavin9134 are you serious? Are hard lesson learned? Sexual assault IS NOT a “lesson”. Her partner at the time had NO excuse to ignore how uncomfortable she was and to threaten her with breaking up with her. No one should ever experience sexual assault and take it as a lesson. What are you learning exactly? That it’s ur fault for being in a relationship and not wanting to have sex yet? That’s completely valid and no one should have sex when they don’t feel that they are ready or want to and no one should be pressured or feel threatened into having it.

@s.j.4061

3 жыл бұрын

😂

“Everything happens for a reason” is one of the most annoying, unsympathetic form of toxic positivity. I think, as a collective, we should unlearn to have the reflex to utter that every time someone shares a painful experience. For some people, not everything needs to happen and not everything that happens makes sense. It isn’t our place to give meaning to other people’s traumas. If you’re unable to relate with the situation described, just say you’re sorry and stop there before you hurt/trigger them.

@WrongXNumber

3 жыл бұрын

tbh... it's not a toxic positivity. Believing that everything happens for a reason gives you a peace of mind at the end and helps you to get over your trauma. We can't control everything in our life but we can give those situations a certain meaning. Living by that is much easier.

@marsyo2760

3 жыл бұрын

@@WrongXNumber but that’s not everyone’s belief and we shouldn’t expect it to be. For some, the traumatic events in their life will never make sense. That does not mean that they haven’t or will not overcome them. It’s important to be at peace with your traumas sure, but it’s also important to face them and let yourself feel all the bad emotions that may come with them. In the end of the day, everyone copes differently, but being told that “everything happens for a reason” can come across as insensitive and kind of diminishing.

@Ari-ih5un

3 жыл бұрын

​@@marsyo2760 For me "everything happens for a reason" is more of a personal way of finding light amidst the pain, a process I'd usually go through further along in the healing process (after I've felt/processed/expression many emotions). The way of finding a strength, however small, lets me take back my power if someone harmed me, or let go of resentment, if it was a circumstantial injustice. But now I'm seeing how differently the phrase is used and interpreted by different people. I see it can come off as cold and invalidating, ESPECIALLY after someone shares their trauma/emotions or they are in the initial stage of healing. I will be mindful and keep my mindset of finding light in dark times to myself and not push it on others. There's no one right way to heal or process things. Thanks for making me think about this.

@LoveCrumb

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this and I'm going to use the phrase "thank you for your toxic positivity" the next time some jerk says that to me. I've had "Everything happens for a reason" thrown at me as a response to my various traumas FAR too many times and now I know the perfect response.

@LoveCrumb

3 жыл бұрын

@@marsyo2760 yes, thank you. It feels completely invalidating.

Much respect for all those beautiful humans for speaking their truths. It takes courage to share such a vulnerable part of your life with complete strangers. I'm thankful that Jubilee provides a platform for people to say what's on their mind and heart. Much respect for Vanessa being especially vulnerable and sharing her experiences. I hope her mother realizes the pain and rejection she caused her beautiful daughter.

some cultures follow sex after marriage is because those cultures have studied that once you get intimate with a person physically,you get connected with them emotionally. Well its true,no one can deny that

@erikabearika3249

2 жыл бұрын

And spiritually. I was surprised it wasn’t mentioned

If you've ever been religious, we all know THAT girl. Are we surprised she said that??????

@schoolmath1562

3 жыл бұрын

definitely. they think the whole world revolves around them.

@kekwa5409

3 жыл бұрын

yup. i know that attitude and energy anywhere. it's infuriating and hilarious at the same time how condescending these kind of people can be... do they not hear themselves or something...?

@schoolmath1562

3 жыл бұрын

@@kekwa5409 clearly they dont. its hilarious, your right. but at first. after a while they are so self centered they cant even grab the concept of their ignorance

@zain6930

3 жыл бұрын

I would never use my religion to justify anything I do or say to anyone I hate people like this smh

@becca53444

3 жыл бұрын

The thing is, I hate when people just say “I’m not allowed to” or “I’m not supposed to”. Like I believe in abstinence, after thinking about it and deciding it is what I want to do. That’s a very personal choice that shouldn’t be made by your parents or some other person outside of yourself for you

i’m really glad vanessa spoke up about how bad it is to say “everything happens for a reason” after talking abt smthg that serious like what went through rayahs head to say that...

@abdallahahmed825

3 жыл бұрын

Well being a muslim my self kind of understand her, because in our religion the term “Every thing happens for a reason”; means it’s your destiny and Allah’s (god) will. So it’s used to help the person feel better and carry on with their life. But it was not ideal for this situation since people’s perspective is different and your mannerisms and word choice can say a lot about your personality and how you react with people from different religions. I don’t agree it was the right time to say such thing but just wanted to share this little information.🙃

@Alibern7

3 жыл бұрын

She learned her lesson. She chose to have sex with him, so everything does happen for a reason. Now she knows not to sleep with guys to keep a relationship since obviously that tactic didn’t work out with her first relationship.

@tasha9007

3 жыл бұрын

@@Alibern7 did you not watch the video or?? she literally said she was pressured into having sex-wtf is wrong with you??

@Alibern7

3 жыл бұрын

@@tasha9007 She still chose to do it. It’s called peer pressure.

@Alibern7

3 жыл бұрын

@@tasha9007 You shouldn’t go around calling people rapist when she allowed him to have sex with her.

I’m proud of the girl with the scrunchie for sharing her experience. I want to give her a hug so bad no one should feel like that. There should be a person that doesn’t blame the victim

Not to sound mean or whatever but losing your virginity just so you aren't ignored in school is not a good enough reason to lose it

@lovely1641

3 жыл бұрын

that's not mean. You don't owe your body to anyone for any reason

Skyler is attractive as a man. Down-to-earth, intelligent, comfortable in his own skin. ✔️

@seirrasky3581

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr! everybody gonna be in his DMs after this one

@yisraelG

3 жыл бұрын

So is nico😂

@ocdplaylistmaker7032

3 жыл бұрын

Comfortable but not overcocky or uncomfortable

@noneofurbusiness7501

3 жыл бұрын

quality man

@yisraelG

3 жыл бұрын

@@noneofurbusiness7501 🧀🧀🧀

Saying, "Everything happens for a reason," to someone who was sexually assaulted is not the right thing to say and shouldn't have been said. I'm so sorry she had to even hear that.

@fhiyos_2611

3 жыл бұрын

Can I get a time stamp

@vallpac

3 жыл бұрын

@@fhiyos_2611 5:25 - 6:55

@fhiyos_2611

3 жыл бұрын

@@vallpac thank you

@tylerknight9830

3 жыл бұрын

to you. for people who are religious or even spiritual they believe positive and contrasting experiences make for a fuller experience of life and help you grow into the person you want to be.

@halifaxverbeck7098

3 жыл бұрын

@@tylerknight9830 those people can keep it to themselves.

This was such a great and nuanced conversation.

Every time I had a thought Bri said it a second later, absolutely loved hearing what they had to say, especially on asexuality, as I'm not ace and aces/aros are so underrepresented in these conversations

I really want to give Vanessa a hug. That is so sad how she was treated and them blamed for being sexually abused. Wtf. My parents would never react like that. They’d be on my side. Every parent should be in that situation.

@emunahohr9734

3 жыл бұрын

Ik🥴 I teared up

@calvinhoward3808

3 жыл бұрын

My parents would've just said you need to get right with god.

@jevislife5675

3 жыл бұрын

now while I feel bad,she shouldn't of started it "just so he knew she loved him"

@normano6593

3 жыл бұрын

When she described it it kinda seem lke she contented to it

@xiomorastyles5852

3 жыл бұрын

@@normano6593 coercion isn’t consent

IM CUTE

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. Doesn't add up

@vaina5873

3 жыл бұрын

So true, it does not make sense

@matthewilliamazer

3 жыл бұрын

Doesn't make sense at all.

@jocelyn15

3 жыл бұрын

which is exactly why virginity is a social construct and means nothing, it’s not real

@p1wonist

3 жыл бұрын

@Zac Atkinson it literally is, it’s not a tangible thing.

I think Rahan saying what she said genuinely came from a place of love. My mother said the exact same thing to me when I told her I was assaulted. And it's hard because I know she was trying to give me peace of mind, but it only made me feel way worse, and I think that's the same thing that happened here. Please don't send hate to Rahan, because she's trying her best. She just made a very misguided statement.

@lollamell8475

2 жыл бұрын

Well if she gets hate "everything happens for a reason"

@lollamell8475

2 жыл бұрын

@@Turnpost2552 who asked

@popaesthetics8365

2 жыл бұрын

I completely disagree. Personally I felt there was nothing wrong with what Rahan said given the information that was conveyed by Vanessa during the 1ST PROMPT. From timestamp 2:00-6:55 Vanessa does NOT say she was sexually assaulted. She said it was [somewhat consensual] but she regrets it because her ass of a boyfriend ended up dumping her in the end. Her boyfriend was a jackass for toying with her feelings, but the dude is not a rapist. Vanessa literally admitted that she gave her consent during THAT SITUATION.

@jamangel

2 жыл бұрын

I love ur name

@bicuriousdirtbikeboi2594

2 жыл бұрын

@@lollamell8475 you should try having cpassipn for someone sometime

Hats off to the blue-haired girl!! She had excellent points and I kinda liked how she seemed to lowkey snap on yellow-jacketed girl’s statement and address them for their insensitivity or thoughtlessness without being and too judgemental

I was 13 when I lost my virginity, and I lost it the same way vanessa did, and it was so horrible hearing the girl in the yellow coat say that, it was really insensitive :/

@bubbybets9336

3 жыл бұрын

i hope you’re okay❤️❤️

@safa4806

3 жыл бұрын

I dont think shes very educated, she seems kind and that she wanted to uplift her but I dont think it was the right way

@catherinemartin6233

3 жыл бұрын

Same here... my Bf at the time said the same stuff. “If you love me you’d do it. “ it really hurt me to hear her say that.

@dtosmanm4743

3 жыл бұрын

@@catherinemartin6233 you chose your bf and you chose to do it. Own it

@catherinemartin6233

3 жыл бұрын

@@dtosmanm4743 coercion isn't the same as consent.... yes I chose my bf. But I wasn't ready to lose it.

I’m cringing so hard that Rahan wanted to give Vanessa a hug later on after telling her “everything happens for a reason”. Also, that hug seemed really insincere. Wake up.

@sunnc

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah her body language seemed kinda disingenuous

@KarolYuuki

3 жыл бұрын

I don`t think the hug was insincere, I would have the same instinct if I was there. HOWEVER, after what she said about "everything happens for a reason", it just looks kinda weird.

@mkg2124

3 жыл бұрын

You guys are always trying to find something out of nothing

@ornellasigning124

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah right 🙄

@Brookoli

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with mkg21, sometimes it's nice to just choose empathy and give people the benefit of the doubt. As if you haven't ever given an awkward hug or come across differently to how you intended.

My advice, if you are a virgin, stay a virgin for as long as possible because most people have no idea how to please someone other than themselves. Lessen your disappointment and wait as long as possible. Especially if you can't openly speak about it or discuss how you feel with your partner.

i relate SO MUCH at around 23:40 because i went through a really similar situation when i was SA’d at 14. its so difficult to talk to people about these things because i was SAd by someone i knew and trusted, just like her. i still ask myself if it was my fault because its sort of those grey-area types of things where its like “well you couldve prevented this or this” and having those thoughts being confirmed by other people is just heartbreaking and puts you through a different kind of conflict in your own head. if you were SA’d, please know that it wasn’t your fault.

I’m sad that there weren’t more people who had overwhelmingly positive sexual experiences in this group.

@yengsta

3 жыл бұрын

Yessss same here! Wish they would've chosen 1 non-virgin with a positive 1st experience & view on it. Of course someone open minded & understanding enough.

@EagleLeader1

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe it's just a fluke, but in their defense I'm just thinking of all my friends' stories on their first times & I struggle to recall any of them being positive. So I personally have never met someone who ever said it was, even my most sex positive friends hated their first times.

@bertasantisteve7364

3 жыл бұрын

Exactlyyyy

@Ascension1004

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like they selectively choose certain people who fit a certain narrative

@Peayou...

3 жыл бұрын

No offense to anyone but I think sex definitely needs to be taken more serious. It's something very emotional

"EvERyThInG DoEs HaPPeN FoR a ReASoN" 🙄

@MiVidaBellisima

3 жыл бұрын

This is why it’s hard for me to take religious people seriously sometimes.

@fhiyos_2611

3 жыл бұрын

Can I get a time stamp

@alexandra_avr5055

3 жыл бұрын

@@fhiyos_2611 6:18

@gardenguster5271

3 жыл бұрын

@Tyler B #2 so is religion

@everythingisfine9988

3 жыл бұрын

@@Zoe-gp1uj agreed, it was a dumbass comment

If Rahan wasn't there the conversation would have been so much better. Seemed like her passive aggressive judgement made everyone really uncomfortable.

Amazing group of young people chosen. They were all so loving and respectful to one another. I enjoyed this. 💛