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If you have a strong masculine energy she will be YOUR biggest supporter for YOUR purpose while also doing her own thing

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Jaxx with another one

@jazzyone1986

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

As a 23 year old woman, I love this channel. Y’all are unbiased and listen to and consider both sides. I understand men more and what they require of me as a feminine woman and I’m glad more men are learning what we need as women. You guys are doing great! Keep going!

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Life is not meant to be lived alone. Find someone who will walk with you while you level up. No one has the desire to level up by themselves.

@noble604

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Teamwork makes a dream work. And it’s a total fallacy that you do all this by yourself, for yourself, in yourself. The biggest thing you can do for yourself is to acknowledge your areas of weakness. Take inventory of your life and be real. This is real life. There are things you suck at/ don’t like to do. We all have them. These are the areas you need help in and you can try as you might to be 100% in them but it will be a whole lot easier to have somebody walk with you to help you than to think you’re going to be 100% across the board in all areas of your life by yourself. That’s the whole point

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Somebody you can fish with

@rissroo4325

3 жыл бұрын

If you won’t level up by yourself, you’re not gonna level up with someone. And if you do, you level up just a tiny bit but not enough to get anywhere or get anything done.

@thecurrentmoment

3 жыл бұрын

@@rissroo4325 but you can find level up better with someone, I.e. someone to enhance what you are already doing. Some things are probably better off being levelled up on your own though

@kathyalex778

3 жыл бұрын

I kind of agree with you, but don’t ever get into a relationship just to fix yourself and especially not to fix the other person. I’d rather level up alone to then be equal to another levelled up person out there and then date them

Your parents are your biggest haters when it comes to you taking any sort of risk. Will ask you why your business hasn't "boomed yet" but will be the first to tell you to take on 50k in student loan debt to get a job and settle down w/ the first girl you bring home

@Joythealchemist

3 жыл бұрын

Fr bruh . it’s only because they want us safe but parents really be hating unless they are business owners lol.

@MatthewRockefeller

3 жыл бұрын

@@Joythealchemist they're still stuck in that short term gratification mindset we just gotta keep playing the long term game!

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Matthew

@JoshJourney1

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I'm going through.

Well said! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. As a woman, I can say exactly what you’ve said here to the men I know, but I find it’s more effective when it comes from another man.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Sweetie

Honestly that is a big turn off. Feels like I have a child to take care of. Where is your ambition?? Confidence?? Self respect?? Where is your ability to stand for yourself 10 toes down no matter the consequence?? Where’s your SELF accountability?? To many men and their mothers that blame the WOMEN in their lives for them being bums 🤦🏾‍♀️

@haruyanto8085

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed men should also leave women who aren't levelling up with them, most men who don't have a strong male figure become like this

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing Aminah

I watched a short clip of John Gray talking about what makes men fall in love. What I found to be insightful is when he talked about his marriages. He said he wanted to marry one lady but she said no, so he ended up marrying someone else. This was the lady that did everything right. He ended up divorcing her after 2 yrs. and managed to change the mind of lady #1 who he's been married to for 32 yrs. Why? He said lady #2 seduced him and lady #1, he seduced her. Ladies let this be a lesson. Do not be the pick me chick.

@omozeidehenre239

3 жыл бұрын

But he’s been repeatedly cheating on lady number 1

Some men think submitting equates to being his mother.

@evansjpl

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

This video is straight facts! It wasn’t until I moved out of my parents house when I was 22 and lost my fiancé did I learn all this dawg. 🙏🏾

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it has to happen that way! But you’re pushing forward and putting the work!

I decided to put dating off in my 20s and focus on myself but also part of that is because it was hard for me get a girlfriend. Looking back now, it was the best decision of my life. While my friends were getting married and putting woman first I went to the gym to put in the work. The only social support I had was my family. Those of you guys struggling right now, listen to these guys and be your own mental point of origin.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Love this! Build your kingdom, women will always be there

@adamlong3885

3 жыл бұрын

Lol, sounds like you’re jealous of your friends getting booty😂😂😂

@EternalRival

3 жыл бұрын

@@adamlong3885 Why would I be jealous of them? They are fat and out of shape. One of them even married a single mother so there is nothing to be jealous about.

@un742

3 жыл бұрын

@@EternalRival I'm not saying your jealous. But imho, being "fat" and out of shape is alright if you and your wife have settled down and are just busy with work, projects, kids, etc. - as long as they are both happy.

@EternalRival

3 жыл бұрын

@@un742 Why are you trying to rationalize this type of mindset. Any rational male knows you have to keep gaming your wife because at the end of the day she’s not yours, it’s just your turn. Being fat/overweight is a choice. I don’t want to hear excuses about it. Im working 40 plus hours a week but I still make time to meal prep, meditate, take cold showers, run errands, clean, and go to gym while taking care of a 5 month old puppy with very little help. So what’s there excuse?

This video signifies the importance of how one should first level up and work on themselves, before beginning a relationship with a significant other. A relationship consists of two people, so when one becomes dependent on the other, it does sometimes seem like the one you're depending on is like a parent. I know it sucks because sometimes you really want to be in a relationship, but make sure to take a look at yourself first and see if you're truly where you want/need to be at in life. It won't only benefit you, but also the other person in the relationship.

@viceanterra3

3 жыл бұрын

Truth be told, single people should stop romanticising relationships. The shit is hard lol. Especially if you want it to work in the healthiest of ways. Sometimes you love eachother. Sometimes you can't stand eachother. Sometimes you're neutral towards eachother. Depending on where you're at in the relationship, you have to do all that in the same living space. It's a rollercoaster regardless. The couples who make it just know how to intentionally come up from the downs (among other things). But the downs are inevitable. And they suck. As much as you sometimes wanna be in a relationship, sometimes people in a relationships wish they were single lol. I don't honestly think ones better than the other. You give up a lot being in a relationship. Even in the healthiest of settings. You get a lot back as well, and ideally, it balances itself out. I say all that to say, it's ok to be single. Don't let it bring you down for long. Relationships are an inherant risk and even when things are great, it's a lot of mental and emotional work for both parties.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! Great comment

@CJ-sp8dd

3 жыл бұрын

@@viceanterra3Great input! I'm not an expert when it comes to relationships, but I know that with anything in life, there are low points. However, it's the ones who figure out a way to improve and learn upon those low points that continue to move forward in life. To your point, this includes relationships as well.

This video is on time!! I would love to hear Hafeez opinion on men and time spent on hobbies, video games etc... I've notice a pattern of guys spending more time on hobbies vs leveling up

@leondreamcast

3 жыл бұрын

There just needs to be a balance. Video Games aren’t all bad. I have a career in it. And it’s really profitable being a programmer. Hobbies in general just need to be balanced with your purpose.

@jwc6444

3 жыл бұрын

@@leondreamcast totally agree about having balance

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊

@viceanterra3

3 жыл бұрын

The balancing act is very real. Gaming is my main hobby (for various reasons) and I'm married and a recent father. I also love to listen to audio books/podcasts and traveling (my other "hobbies"). Drove my wife mad early on cause she thought it was a waste of time but she eventually understood it's my stress reliever and my entertainment all in one. I'm not alone in that and it's not a gender issue. Plenty of women game though it is mostly men. It's not that different from watching Netflix/hulu/tv. But I discovered that it's not the games that were driving her mad, it was my lack of proper prioritization. So I became intentional about priorities. Gaming ain't going anywhere and I'll likely never stop (unless I lose my vision or my hands lol). I realize I have plenty of time to play when I manage my time well. Havent heard a peep since I started. Hell I even got her to play a few with me and she (to my surprise) watched an entire playthrough of one of my games and would get annoyed if I didn't wait for her before playing. Still not her thing overall but she gets it. It's just entertainment.

@jwc6444

3 жыл бұрын

@@viceanterra3 totally agree. Personally I dont think that most of us women care about men playing games. We just want to see you prosper and achieve your goals . If we see you always make time for movies, social media ,gaming but we dont see you working on goals, it will eventually turn us off.Men and women need to find balance

I take care of my disabled mom I’m 24 she got diagnosed with ms in 01. It’s hard build yourself up. When I don’t have the freedom too. This year been a roller coaster. 3 year relationship left me for another guy then my new motorcycle got stolen, next vehicle got repoed, thin ice at work because my mental was gone and now I’m 40000$ richer from a accident late last year. Hopefully use that to make more money. I’m ready for the climb back up with the team on the back.🙌🏼

@alexfowler9785

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry your life has so much complication especially at such a young age but stay strong. 👍 You're doing a good thing taking care of your mom and the relationship aspect, though it may be hard to accept, showed how much that person realistically cared in the long run. I'm believing that God willing you'll make a way if you keep persisting forward Branden ( if you're not a believer no offense meant). Stay up

I almost thought I sent that comment to you, how much it applies to how I’ve thought. More content on this please!

I had to block both my parents in order for them to stop codling me. In order to move forward, you have to leave some people behind.

@DeadlyKitten90

3 жыл бұрын

That must have been a hard decision to make

@izu874

3 жыл бұрын

That's terrific.

@viceanterra3

3 жыл бұрын

You gotta do what you gotta do

@leondreamcast

3 жыл бұрын

You shouldn’t do that. Regardless of your circumstances especially with them coddling they gave you life. Your mother is the only woman that will always love you and be there for you no matter what. You should have went about that another way I don’t know your circumstances but if that was dictating because they baby you so much then you should have addressed it better to them. Just my 2 cents

@MrBreadman386

3 жыл бұрын

@@leondreamcast I already did it

Bravo once again. I love how you always throw in a representation of your faith in there bro. Alhamdulilah

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

just got my forklift licence start work next week i have over couple of G's saved any financial advice how to invest it.

@piercinbullet6382

3 жыл бұрын

Read “the simple path to wealth” a good book to start learning about finances.

@ChrisCastroVisuals

3 жыл бұрын

1. Create a 3-12 month emergency fund of full expenses. 12 months to be safe in case you lose your job for a bit. For example, what happened with most people during COVID. Save these funds in a high yield savings account. I use ally. (0.6 APY I think right now? 3. Any extra funds could be invested. Prioritize tax advantage accounts such as 401k , roth ira, etc. If your employer matches 401k contribution makes sure to max out their match!!! 3. If you have money left over or decide not to use it all on tax advantage accounts, then place it into a portfolio. Invest in stocks, etfs, etc.

@ChrisCastroVisuals

3 жыл бұрын

Also, don't finance a car. Try to avoid financing liabilities. I learned the expensive way. 😅

@viceanterra3

3 жыл бұрын

@@piercinbullet6382 just picked up the audiobook 👍🏽

@DeadlyKitten90

3 жыл бұрын

Hire an financial advisor

Here's how it's going to go imo. She's going to leave. He's going to use that as fuel to become financially stable. When he does she's going to try to get back in and he's going to be like "nope". She'll end up feeling like she built him up for the next woman and end up resentful. Seen a few of those stories over the years lol. The situation became complex because she entertained his slump for far too long without giving him a kick in the ass. Being in a slump happens sometimes. Staying there is not ok. If your bf end up in one, start drawing lines and hold him accountable early on. You should never build a man up. Holding him accountable will help him build himself up or weed him out of your life. This shit is never black and white. The only constant is people not having standards and boundaries. This is stuff that should be discussed waaaaay before marriage enters the chat.

@noble604

3 жыл бұрын

That last sentence. And with all due respect, I’m not sure why people who are married would seek advice from people who aren’t. Much of this process is handled backwards and is being handled late. Agreed

@izu874

3 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I was thinking too.

@viceanterra3

3 жыл бұрын

@@noble604 the thing is, It's never too late to fix a situation. The alternative is to not fix it at all and either be stuck in an unhappy marriage or get divorced. Marriages are basically forever works in progress. However, you want to get yourself a decent human being as a spouse that will give you a good headstart lol. People think marriage is the end goal and it couldn't be further from being the end goal. You still have decades of life to live together that'll be full of trials and tribulations. As for seeking advice from people who aren't married, you never know where you will hear something that resonates and can help your situation. You can get TERRIBLE advice from married couples lol. You don't know if they're happy and their situation is theirs. Some of the best advice I have ever heard and actually works for me as a married man is from James Sexton. A divorced divorce attorney. He uses his insight seeing divorced couples on the regular to give married couples the advice that the divorcing couples should have heard way early on.

@sweetprincess213

3 жыл бұрын

@@viceanterra3 yes but I'm dont think not being married is the issue but never being married.

@noble604

3 жыл бұрын

JChrys - I agree with you. Well stated. I should have been clearer. I do believe wisdom can come from anyone/anywhere.. from the guy on the park bench and it can come in many forms/doesn’t have to line up with what my life has been in order to resonate. I hold great value in listening to anybody and I can see how you’ve gained expertise and enlightenment from a divorced man. I do think, however, that there is much value that just comes from specific lived experience. I think women who have never had a child have limits on what they can say to a mother about raising her child as I think there are limits that singles can say to married couples on how to do marriage. It’s just a ballgame you haven’t played in and it’s not “the same” as “I have a dog, I even have 4nephews, so I know what you mean as a mom” or “I have a girlfriend of 3years, so I’m practically married too.” Some wisdom applies. Some requires lived experience imo - but I get it. Well said

Guys you have to "lead" the relationship!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 keep working!

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! We have too

@officialbrandoncoleman

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheRoommatesPodcast 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

hello roomates I needed this. Im a 30 y o woman and your channel and spotify podcast helped me alot this month I love you guys

As a woman, wholeheartedly agree. When we first meet a guy like this, the nurturer in us turns on...we want to help and lead him on a better path. He’s like a “project”. But over time, if he doesn’t start to improve himself for himself, the dynamic isn’t sexy anymore...because sometimes we want to be able to let go and let him steer, metaphorically speaking.

@rissroo4325

3 жыл бұрын

YESS! A helpless grown boy that you have to constantly clean up after isn’t attractive.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing

@thecurrentmoment

3 жыл бұрын

I think women need to be conscious not to let themselves fall into that role, because - like a dance - he will respond to your signs and will fall in to step with you. It's like he is trying to adapt or respond to you and thinks "oh ok, she wants to nurture me, I'll let her nurture me" and then it continues, and escalates until you are 'nurturing' him so much he is like your child. And men also need to not let themselves fall into that. It is tempting though! I mean, if someone wants/offers to take care of you in those ways, offers support like driving you somewhere, buying you food, etc it's polite and easy to accept it, but it is like a trap that you need to avoid. It's almost as though if a woman offers to do something for you like your mum would, you have to refuse her offer of help. I've had to do that with my mum actually, it feels really healthy to refuse her offers of help, even when it doesn't seem like it would be a big deal. P.S. he says in the video how a lot of men are having everything done by their mothers....is that true that they are adults and their mother does everything for them? Is i t common? If it is, that's crazy, and quite frankly the mother hasn't done her job properly in raising an independent man. Of course, now they are an adult they are responsible for their results in life but those mothers haven't given them a chance to be an adult yet. What a shame

@thecurrentmoment

3 жыл бұрын

"sometimes we want to be able to let go and let him steer" Only sometimes? I think this might be the problem here, it should probably be most of the time A lot of women don't know how to take a man's lead (I noticed this in ceroc dancing, the women were all doing the move on their own, regardless of what the man was doing lol). It becomes a problem when they expect a man to lead but don't know how to follow, or don't realise they have to. If you show a man you don't want to follow his lead, he won't lead you, and you might turn him into someone who doesn't lead

That is why I say all the time, 2 whole (as in emotionally, spiritually, financially, physically stable) ppl coming together make for a near perfect relationship. Do not get into a relationship if you're not levelled up to the best version of yourself.

💪🏽💪🏽Thanks Feez!!🔥🔥🔥

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

You're Welcome!

Please get KZreadr "Better Bachelor" on the podcast. He has 250K subs and very red pilled. No whining and rational thinker. No women hater but understander.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the suggestion!

@mrtemo08

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah Joker is dope!

Actually youve got it all wrong. The science says men who treat their wives like their mommy, were actually neglected by their mothers and didnt have their needs met in childhood. Its an overcompensation. Like they see their loving, nurturing wives as a second chance at being mothered. Most men who did have doting mothers usually grow up to be more psychologically flexible and more capable. The reason why you see this a lot in the sons of single mothers is because single mothers neglect their kids. Not because they are bad mothers, im not saying that, but because single parents have so much responsibility that giving attention to the child gets put on the bottom of the list after earning money, cooking, housework, the list goes on. You see the same thing in single father households as well, but because mothers have historically gotten custody, there is far more data on mothers than fathers. In single parent households where the parent has support from friends and family, the child usually grows up to be pretty well adjusted. So my point in this is if your partner has mommy issues, or youre a man whos wife has daddy issues, dont lose respect for them. They are victims of neglect. Instead set healthy boundaries and get them into counselling to deal with past trauma and develope healthy coping skills. This problem can be fixed, but it takes work

@viceanterra3

3 жыл бұрын

Very interesting. Makes sense tbh. I agree very much with your last sentence. It's very easy to get judgemental of your partner when they don't have their shit together. However, relationships that last are based on understanding. People would have a lot less problems if they set boundaries early on in relationships though. Having boundaries is healthy. It and it actually helps the person that needs to respect them.

@kathyalex778

3 жыл бұрын

You brought up some really interesting points here. I do think it’s okay to say no to someone who clearly cares a lot of baggage with them. It is not your responsibility to get them into treatment or to fix them. You never want to date someone that’s going to feel like a burden in your life right from the start

This is what we need

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

I got y'all!

Finally, someone who speaks my mind

I had my mom listen to this and she agreed 100%

A woman will get tired of you real quick if you can't be a leader in the relationship. Sounds like role reversal, masculine 🔁 feminine.

Morning. Love the tee

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

Oh my gosh,you are on point! What a turn off!! Happened to me and I lost respect for him. Passion died. Men. Please take the lead in your life, and in the relationship. Know thyself. Be assertive.

@garbagekid09

3 жыл бұрын

@Ryan D you're correct. There must be a balance for things to flow in a relationship. There are moments when a woman needs to step up and take the lead..and there are moments when the man steps up to lead. That's the beauty of a mature, loving relationship.

0:30 Why you gotta bring back high school ptsd on me like that.

Thanks so much for this. Every man has the power to be a great king.

You hit on point.

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

Yupyep Facts as usual king H💯🙏🏽😁 It depends on the mother! I, literally raised my son and I will tell you that my son, is not, is not and does not think that his mommy, me will do things! I've raised him to be, to know that he's the man, the king, and he's got to be on top! He's said to me wow Mom, if we males don't have the proper, solid foundation we'll fail! He's thanked me over and over and over and still does for not allowing him to sit and have me do for him. Thank you to both you and Chris! It's awesome how factual, specific, the truths that you speak on! Many of these males, females older males older females don't want to accept facts and truth about what is! Honestly love you both stay safe be healthy keep up the amazing journey 💯🙏🏽🔥💖

Every hero fictional or not, every man that be respect has one thing in common. They put their mission, goal,ambition and dreams above every thing. So should we. Be like Jesus, he die for his goals

Guys, do this too, if you leveled up and she hasn't leave her ass, get a better chick

If i could 'like' and 'thumbs-up' this video 5 times, i would. This is the truth.

Preach !!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Spit the facts to all the momma boys lol

❤️ Thank you

Seems many of us Women have ran into this type of guys lately. But i am wonder is it more single mothers that end of playing that role as their Mama????

@viceanterra3

3 жыл бұрын

It's more women who have hope that the man they love will change. But they go about it the wrong way. The best way to get a man to get on his purpose is to hold him accountable. Draw a line in the sand and stick to it. Help him a bit but don't do the work. Shit like waking him up so he's not late for work is a big no no. That's just enabling shitty habits

@motherswhoempowerothermoth3272

3 жыл бұрын

@@viceanterra3 I agree with you on that. No one wants a Idling (lazy) man

@haruyanto8085

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah usually it's cause they don't have a strong masculine male figure in their life, momma tells them that women will love them for who they are which is not true

@motherswhoempowerothermoth3272

3 жыл бұрын

@@haruyanto8085 i agree. Even if they come off as a Alpha Male, seems they fall short in certain areas. Many have been taught the wrong lessons, not to say their mother's are the cause. Because Some fathers teach them to disrespect women too.

@thecurrentmoment

3 жыл бұрын

@@motherswhoempowerothermoth3272 I think a lot of those mothers never actually give their son space to become an adult. You know, when you stop doing something for someone they will start doing it themselves but so many mothers will wait for their son to do something they need to (e.g. do their laundry) and then give up waiting and do it herself. So the boy never gets to that point where he actually has to do his laundry because he won't have any clothes left, and never learns those boundaries, how long is too long, etc. She shod just have a laundry basket that all his clothes go into until he washes them and he will learn to wash them before he runs out of clothes. Have some nights when it is 'cook it yourself' night. Of course, that should all be taught they are growing up. But I guess if a man is in his twenties and hasn't grown up yet, she needs to make it happen. How can a single mother still be supporting a twenty something year old son?? Smh

hahaha i love these videos here he be snappin. Hilarious ( but true)

She made her bed. Also, it kills mw when women touch money and lose taste of their men. She already started on "mommy" terms too. Yes, men need to strive to be better and stop letting women chart the course of their lives.

now THIS needs to go viral 🔥... and shared across social media, especially facebook. All the lonely simps crying out for mom live their. The official build a bear workshop...you want to get turned all the way off ? go to facebook!!! 🤣🤣🤣

this title scared me lol

I am new to the channel and love the content. Quick question: Shouldn't your girlfriend/wife be your friend?

Where we getting these Level Up shirts from, King?

Nothing but facts.

The thing about is I blame the men but, I blame the mother's who have made their son's emotional husbands(i.v.) and they are not read for the world yet but, want a girlfriend.

I hear ya but you can give a woman the world and they will still cheat on you... Imagine a Lioness take their sons away from their fathers raise them to be soft and to be codependant on them. Sent them out into the wild and say go hunt..

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing

@mtpta4947

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately it happens all the time just imagine how many single mothers do that and send those males into the world..rinse and repeat and we have today's current climate

@jerryguzman8456

3 жыл бұрын

True

Shit i was raised my a single mother. She told me to get on my shit all the time

Big facts

Nope to this. This is good and o get the gist but it’s self sabotaging. The pendulum has swung so far wide against being controlled by a girl/Mom that it’s gotten to the point where the popular advice is there’s no need for a woman other than sexually... “as a man, I can now do everything for myself.. all you have to do is be attractive, feminine and desirable in my kingdom. I don’t want help.” No. Please know this - *A woman who loves and desires you wants to feel needed*.. in fact she *needs to feel needed.* She wants to be part of you for what she brings to the table other than sexually and in femininity. She literally *wants* to help a man, she was created to help the man in her relationship and the male-female interaction should reflect this created purpose. You don’t just push a woman away or stick her in some corner of the kingdom while you build, effectively telling her she’s not needed by you for anything and there’s nothing for her to do to help you other than to desire you. We’ve gotten to the place where there’s so much fear and rejection of the repeating the cycle of “Mommy” that we cancel out woman’s true purpose for a man and teamwork. Her main purpose is not to desire you. Her purpose is to add to you and to actively help you reach your purpose.

@moontears3887

3 жыл бұрын

So you want a mommy?

@noble604

3 жыл бұрын

If you’re stuck in binary thinking and it’s either black or it’s white, you’ll see mommy. A woman, by definition, IS a helper to a man. That’s literally what her purpose is. Men who fear help from a woman see any help she gives as control --meanwhile the entire point of her creation was to help fulfull a man’s purpose.

@noble604

3 жыл бұрын

Last thing - talk about a woman desiring you.. if you want a woman to really desire you, she HAS to feel she’s needed in some area of your life. This is what makes her feel special. She WANTS to complement your existence and she WANTS TO be the answer to something .. so she wants you ..you dont eat right/she knows how to cook balanced meals.. you can’t keep a clean place/she’s an organizer., you can’t get anywhere on time/she’s timely ... a girl needs to feel she adds something to your life that you didn’t have without her and THIS is what makes her desire you specially as a man and *makes you* attractive to her so she’s not just another woman in your eyes. Instead of playing this down and acting like you don’t want her or need anything, turn it up. *This is what creates desire for you.*

@Trinidadissomethingelse

3 жыл бұрын

You are right man, dont depend on a woman but let them bring something to the table, let them do shyt bruh or else why tf u want one to settle down with in the first place

@noble604

3 жыл бұрын

Dancehall - *EXACCCCCCTLY!*

Lemme mess around and find a sugar mama. I’m retiring. F all this work, I’m living good and getting consistent nani? Forget pride and ego lol 😂

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

lol Relax!!!

We as women want to nurture and care for these men.. but it kills the desire and the relationship... Because there’s no respect and drive anymore, and the relationship becomes unbalanced. Equal partners putting in their best effort = ❤️

I was always a loner. If I am broke I am just going to have to grind and stack my paper. I never asked any females to do any of this stuff for me. I don't live with my mom and I never depended on her like that after 18. I am surprised that dudes actually ask that much from their woman 😳

@ichoosemysanity6467

3 жыл бұрын

@Ryan D It's the way society will talk 💩 and make you feel bad. Me I mind my own fxcking business which is a rarity in today's time.

This is a crisis imo. people you can only help those who want to help themselves. Guys who do this behavior probably won't listen to you cause they don't want to help themselves they think they are normal.

just another reason not to date single moms.. the kingdom already built

Shout out to my mom and dad.......

Why isn’t leveling up mentally in the things that every man needs to do ?

@aaporter1028

3 жыл бұрын

that’s damn near the most important thing

ay he and she right though...

Next question is why did she stay or even marry him...what I've realized is women use men for what they need from them at the point of life they in...this the same man she married but she moved up in life probably got around other men and tried to compare her man to them so instead of being single and getting what she truly desired she pick a man while she down to keep her happy along the journey

@jazzyone1986

3 жыл бұрын

No he was just a loser and she didn’t recognize it until she lost all respect for him. Any man with dignity wouldn’t have allowed a woman to take care of him in the first place.

Whit tf asks their girl to wake them up?

Restore your independence

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!

👍👍👍

All of these doesn't apply to Haitian men lol. Not in my house..... You lost me when you're trying to say list the things what a women should do while in relationship, that notion is so far end on the spectrum of the norm. Sheeeit I want a nurturing and a mentally supportive woman. I damn sure don't want a woman to by my mother, but I do look for selfless, thoughtful, always checking in my well being, making sure I'm doing OK. That feeling of being appreciated and cared for will make me move any mountain for her. For me personally, I don't give a damn how much she makes cuz at the end of the day, I take lead and I wear the pants. If she can't follow my lead in the relationship, then operation "replacement" begins.

Second!!

I think i understand this but what role does she play in your life exactly if you're *THAT* self sufficient. Just to be pretty, feminine and push out babies? Sounds lonely. Obviously you should be the drivers seat of the relationship 100%. But there's an entire gap between "Can you pack my lunch?" and "You exist only to look pretty and give good sex". A strong partner can cover your blind spots and help you build an empire. If you're brothers are doing this for you or you've reached Apex levels of self sufficiency then why marry at all? For clout?

@HuesoAmarilloAfricana

3 жыл бұрын

Help maintain the kingdom he has built/ is building. And the role she plays is directed by the king of the kingdom. Sadly, many men... especially Millennial and Gen Z men in the U.S. ... especially of a particular demographic... are battling with arrested development. A man by nature, desires and in many ways, requires respect/ reverence BUT too many now lack the awareness and appreciation of a strong work ethic that used to result in earned respect. There are a lot of women today, doing the same, if not more ... than their male counterparts via acquiring different skills, resources/ being resourceful in general ON TOP of what comes naturally to a woman as far as hypergamy and eventually desiring to become a mother (for not all, but many)... the social experiment of gender equality has backfired because it conflicts with who men and women are biologically, hormonal-wise, and yes... spiritually. This video gives me hope. Tired of being called “lazy” or lacking ambition for genuinely desiring to be an on-point wife and mother vs career-driven. I feel built for an alpha man since I already understand and am willing to get on board with an alpha man’s program/ plan/ purpose... but HE must already have these things in motion to know where I can assist. If I try to build him, and he allows it... by default, I am entitled to the thrown... the King’s thrown. Kings build, queens help manage what their kings built. I really hope more young men, reprogram their thinking and realize how much more fulfilled and confident they would be in not relying on a woman to do or be, what he should do or be out of his own volition.

@HuesoAmarilloAfricana

3 жыл бұрын

p.s. I am a grad student... going into diplomacy/ international relations... who was previously in law school AND graduated from an engineering college to appease my parents. So even with my quantitative and qualitative background... and working for Fortune 500 companies... The things I truly value, have nothing to do with my education and work experience. I know I am meant to be a helpmeet... but a helpmate to a rare man,... a great man who is not looking for a second mother. But I digress.

Dude talk like he got a month full of spit like take you time talking bro

@marcelchalobah7946

3 жыл бұрын

💀💀💀

Fist

@TheRoommatesPodcast

3 жыл бұрын

Let's go

just, ew.

I beg