Yasss! 1. Consistency 2. Relationship with the Lord 3. He is a protector 4. He is a servant 5. He's a washer 6. He's a student 7. He loves Jesus

0:23 “these dudes out here , they don’t even give you butterflies no more.... they more like mosquitoes,they suck the life out of you”😂

@OffTheCreamyCrack

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@sharita7270

4 жыл бұрын

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

@longislandny696

4 жыл бұрын

I felt that!

@AP-kz5ep

4 жыл бұрын

So true unfortunately but that's a great way to put it

@joyricherson4570

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂

“I want a relationship that heaven endorses and hell fears” Mmm now that is relationship goals!

@Miss_Dani_DWhit

4 жыл бұрын

Amen!!!!!

@Winnyfruits

4 жыл бұрын

Amen! I love your name ❤

“Him not being ready is NOT your problem to fix... only God can fix him” The truest facts spoken 🙌🏾 Learned this the hard way, so I know it’s 💯

@Th3lite

4 жыл бұрын

Same.

@LonjeMarie7

4 жыл бұрын

DRideaux87 me too pain caused me to do better, Because I wanted something better

@krysleeneely933

4 жыл бұрын

It couldn’t get anymore realer.

@grammyslim5766

4 жыл бұрын

Servant and not always a recipient of service.

@jasminebarnes3358

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

Words of hope.Whoever is reading this know that everything is going to be fine. Its coming to an end dont lose hope you are so close to victory

@pascalineattiogbe3393

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

@ladennayoung2939

4 жыл бұрын

In Jesus name Amen. I claim it, I believe it, and I receive it in the mighty name of Jesus.

@omertafressh504

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks good brother

@gigisolo3579

4 жыл бұрын

I needed this.. thank you.

@psalmistabigail

4 жыл бұрын

Amen Grace Morgan

Their inconsistency is a big time red flag 🚩 RUN

Discernment+communication+consistency= avoidance of heart break.

Real husband material, he doesn’t pursue to catch, pursuing is his character. That hit me!! Thank you

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

So many facts. It's embedded in his character.

@AllyG109

Жыл бұрын

I don’t understand this ? Can you pls explain

"Bipolar leadership leads to anxiety!" Wow😲🤔 Doesn't help if they are literally bipolar...🤦‍♀️ And here I am wondering why I'm stressed.

@virtuosityll7116

4 жыл бұрын

LOLOL!!!! 😂😣

@alexiscarter2585

4 жыл бұрын

FELT!

Ohhhh my God: “ How your gonna protect my spirit, when your entertaining other spirits.” Wow, that one !☝🏾

I want a relationship that heaven endorses and hell fears.

“You gon catch these hands” I felt that spiritually, such a good video

@acharich

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@robinlight

4 жыл бұрын

I felt it deep down in my soul!

Maybe he never changed but the mask fell off🔥🔥. You preaching

I see a guy that is pretty much husband material doing all these things and it’s very impressive and attractive to me. But we ain’t even good friends that talk often. He’s very focused on serving God🔥 I feel like I don’t want to disturb him😅 I can see it’s not the time for a relationship to blossom but a time of focus. God will give us the man he knows is right for us. But remember women of God, God doesn’t depend on one man. He doesn’t NEED us WE need HIM. People are very replaceable. God replaced Moses with Joshua, he replaced King Saul with David, when they failed to do what God desired. He replaced Ruth’s late husband with Boaz. So know that there is more than one guy that is “the one”. This gives me peace of mind. Songs of Solomon 8:4 says “O Daughters of Jerusalem, I urge you do not awaken love before it’s time.” It’s a season of focusing on the Kingdom of God, and everything else shall be added onto us. (Matthew 6:33). Amen. Thank you for the great video!!

@esterf7064

4 жыл бұрын

Tell It Straight sis what you wrote is exactly my current situation. The Songs of Solomon verse is exactly what came to my heart a few months ago about it. Thanks for your words and the verses. It’s confirmation for me.

@Queenbelieveit

4 жыл бұрын

Some guys are shy too... Say Hi, Have a bless day:) Let the Lord lead ....Amen.

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

SPEAK!

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

@@Queenbelieveit True. But, if he won the lottery he would not be shy to claim his prize.

@Queenbelieveit

4 жыл бұрын

@@BluDrop5 While that may be true. It does take time to build a foundation such as friendship and pray about it. In reality God is the best matchmaker if you ask, believe and receive. If it's not then at least you met a MOG that you can know that there is someone who is designed for you.

"Real husband material doesn't pursue to catch, pursuing is apart of his character" wooooo I loved that one!

"Plot twist....Pull Over"🤣

These dudes out here don't give you butterflies anymore - they act like mosquitoes. 🤣😂😂

“God changes people , NOT YOU”..... update you’re “HELL NO LIST” I felt allll of this 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I needed this. Thank you!

@kawaniabrickhouse9353

3 жыл бұрын

I second that!!!!!!!

Bipolar leadership heightens anxiety Plot twist pull over! Let me out 😂

@lakieshatucker99

4 жыл бұрын

I should have gotten out 10 years ago

Pastor Jerry... the last one should be the first one. Jesus first! A man can have all the qualities you mentioned and get to the end and he tells you he's spiritual, but he believes in the "Universe and the forces of nature". PLOT TWIST..... PULL OVER!!! 🤦

@rosemondphil-othihiwa3647

4 жыл бұрын

Lmaaaaaoooooooo

@Beredefined

4 жыл бұрын

Lol I love it, that’s why I said let’s start practical then go spiritual

@spiritandtruth194

4 жыл бұрын

@@Beredefined Yes, to be fair you did say that! It's a hard draw though because they can pull you in by doing all the right things, but when it comes down to it if they ain't right with Jesus you got to get out the car!🛑🚘🏃

@MissLadyG99

4 жыл бұрын

@@spiritandtruth194 I liked your comment. This where discernment comes in (He mentioned that in this video). Discernment will reveal what is under the mask.

@MsBdoll87

4 жыл бұрын

Pretty Girl Rocks exactly! That’s how i got bamboozled by a “good man!” Spirit was on weak, not fleek!

" A relationship Heaven endorses and hell fears "

Update your "Hell No" list!

Right that's my 1st one CONSISTENCY ,one man that said he wanted me to be his wife recently , but his actions show me different he's NOT consistent at all he told me he's not gonna chase after me he's to old 4 that I then said the man that God has 4 me will chase after me I want a kingdom man with a kingdom purpose 🙇🏿‍♀️💍💕#God #send #us #kingdommen

@MJ-vt4nb

4 жыл бұрын

I hate when they say they won't chase. It's called being consistent. How can a man want a wife when he acts like he doesn't care?

@deetaylor9794

4 жыл бұрын

@@MJ-vt4nb exactly a counterfeit that's all or time waster

@deetaylor9794

4 жыл бұрын

@@MJ-vt4nb and I dont have time to waste time be safe and blessed

@HEReIAM829

4 жыл бұрын

Wow I can so relate 🙏🙌💯

@trogers418

4 жыл бұрын

@@deetaylor9794I can relate. I hate wasting time more than anything. There are some excellent actors out there. Thank God for discernment. Eliminate the counterfeits early on.

Lol yesterday I was just having an in-depth talk about Adam first having a job before Eve his wife. Did I mention my in-depth discussion was with my 10 yr old son and 11 year old twin girls?

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

Also, Isaac before Rebekah, Jacob and Rachel, Moses and Zipporah,...and the list goes on and on.

@joyricherson4570

4 жыл бұрын

@@BluDrop5 true. My son was talking about What it's gonna be like when hg e gets a wife. He was sure to let me know be won't ever forget about me

"Him not being ready, is not your problem to fix." I so receive that sentence in my spirit, Brother Flowers. Amen🙏🙏🙏

YES. I'm so glad that you brought up verbal abuse. Because it is real. God bless you. Blessings to you and yours in Jesus name.

@bobbijo8781

4 жыл бұрын

Ladenna Young ......YES! “Sticks & stones may break my bones, but WORDS HURT EVEN MORE!!!”

@acharich

4 жыл бұрын

Often more real than physical.. 💯

@BluDrop5

4 жыл бұрын

So very real!

@rebirthed1274

4 жыл бұрын

Emotional abuse too,oh my!

If he can’t be solo he just wanna ... “duet” 😝🔥🔥🔥😂😂😂🙏

That's good sir!! The spirit of discernment is soo important, God will reveal those hidden agendas..

Plot twist: Pull over. LET ME OUT! 😂😂

Frustrations are very draining when someone has never been consistent. And that someone is not a washer. I have felt that to a man that is a Christian but never have these qualities. I thanked God for always protecting my heart. Even if it hurts, His words lead me to love.

“Un-mowed garden, house snakes”#🙌🏾🙌🏾

Ok ok ok!!! I have seen them ALL 3X- just love the clarity! I am writing this in my bathroom mirror! I never saw so clear that he has to be IN HIS GARDEN! I knew that something was wrong- but THIS IS IT!! Thank you again, Pastor!!!

Can you please do a video/teaching about a man washing away a woman’s blemishes/spots etc. with scripture supporting it? I’m curious when and what is appropriate for the man to wash away the woman’s blemishes? How do we know which spots and wrinkles are for God to wash away vs the ones left for the man/husband? So I guess I’m trying to understand the difference between blemishes/spots & wrinkles and serious issues/baggage in relationships.

Discernment! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

Right! Attraction happens by chance chance, choosing is intentional

Thank you, Sir. I’ve gotten tired of all the fixHER dialogues, I don’t even pay attention anymore. Where is the balance? We need trainHIM leadership programs for kingdom building. I need my pilot to be skilled and ready to fly our plane of purpose into our destiny. Thank you for sharing.

I am trying to improve my self esteem. I realize I have issues with love. I feel that there's a problem with someone who loves me so I try to find faults in the relationship. Can you do a video for women with low self esteem? I know it's not healthy to even be dating when I think this way but I've been in a committed relationship for years and don't want to end it.

#FACTS NOT FICTION!!!!! THANKS PASTOR FLOWERS!!

You can t see me, but I am doing the " running man" in my living room! That truth pours out like fire, and burns up the ridiculous!!!

Love this. I thought I found an amazing man until I ignored a red flag and then found out he was inconsistant. I need to learn how to not ignore the red flags. I feel like I ignore them because I always give a man the benefit of the doubt. I need to learn to just cut it off at that red flag and keep it pushing.

Ima paraphrase -“those times he shows you glimpses he could do better” causing you to have Bi Polar anxiety ! Like I know I wasn’t crazy !! Pastor said a mouth full !

@LonjeMarie7

4 жыл бұрын

Patrice Antoinette Barrett That’s why people stay in unhealthy abusive relationships he hits you in the head on Monday ,curses you on Tuesday ,and then buys you a brand new house and a Mercedes-Benz on Wednesday. People get confused that’s why they stay

You said plot twist, let me out lol Yess His assignment Relationship with the Lord Consistency

These men out here today...they don't even give you butterflies no more....they be giving you mosquitoes. Lol🤣😂🤣👍Jerry Flowers...your messages keep in tears laughing while collecting relationship gems from a spiritual perspective at the same time. And that's why I love you man! 👍🤗💙🙏

"Pull over brother let me out" lol 💯🙏🙌 great video!

🤣🤣😂😂 consistency!!! I love it!!! A legal job. He has his own garden.

Nope not husband material with that check list right now.. I accept it & release. If he is ment to be a blessing for someone else as of this a.m I let him go not that I don't love him but God sees & knows... I don't know what to say to the children when they wake up God give me the right wards to speak I pray I don't know if it just hasn't hit me yet properly but keep my head straight dont let me buckle help me be strong for the children comfort & reassure them. Healing. help him to get better heal him in Jesus name amen

Thank you Pastor Flowers. I enjoyed the video. I’m a single man and I desire to get married one day. Your messages always cause for self-examination. I pray the Lord bless you, the ministry, and online church family.

this topic is soo needed!!

I chose the wrong man, I married him despite the signs. The one thing he would never do, was protect me. God showed me that I had a man in my past that did everything to protect me but I was too young, and immature for the relationship. He wasn’t Christian and my friends discouraged the relationship, I eventually ended it. I’m glad that I now know what to look for in a partner going forward. It’s only because I had those bad experiences that Im able to realize what to check for.

How great it is to have advices as excellent as these before making big decisions. Thank you Jesus. Bless this couple Oh Lord cover them with Your Favor in Jesus name !!

So many other people on here give realtionship advice that doesn't speak to me or feed my soul/spirit. Your knowledge and wisdom is so uplifting and empowering. You actually make me really think about and seriously analyze the males that I've been involved with. Everyone else seem to provide common,practical content that doesn't teach me anything I dont already know. Maybe this is why I am over 31 and still single, unfortunately. 😥😥😥

Tired of getting my heart broken 😞

@reneefleming839

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you on this one!!

@speakyourpeace16

3 жыл бұрын

Same. I'm so sad. I pray we get through this by the grace of God 🙏

I needed this so badly and been waiting for it. The interesting fact is that it came unexpectedly but at the right moment. PRAISE the Lord for He know what He does! ❤

That “HELL NO” list 😂💀, I had to go back and listen to that #Amen

"I want a relationship that Heaven endorses and hell fears" 👏👏👏👏🙌

I park my car away from everyone else too for that resson but ppl still come and park by me even though it's all the way near the end of the parking lot ha

LOVE the part about the man being a servant! And that goes for women too!

My Spiritual Dad taught me that it takes six months to a year to really get to know someone (watch as well as pray) Juanita Bynum said it like this every actor has to lay their part down sometime/at some point. Madea (Maya Angelou) said it like this when people show you who they are believe them. People in general Man/Woman can not give what they don't have.

This is a great message! Nothing like a sometimey man who you know is capable of doing better but just won't! I wish more time would have been given to he studies you.

That clap at the beginning. I FELT THAT with my soul cause I am tired of the wife school trainings and videos. LOL

#IPromiseHeIsGonnaCatchThese🙌🏽

Now bro you know you wrong for limiting this to 9mins I’m goin need us to pick this back up on Thursday’s bible study 😩 topic : HELL no#UpgradingStandards👏🏾💪🏾💯

@acharich

4 жыл бұрын

💀💀💀

"IF IT AIN'T 'KING-DOM', THEN I DON'T WANT IT" MIRACLE ♥️🌻🤣🤗😇😍

Thank you for relevant life applicable ministry. That's what's important right now. How to live life according to HIS WILL, WORD, AND WAY!

‘’ He doesn’t pursue to catch, pursuing is his character” deeeaaannnggg

"Bipolar leadership heightens anxiety" that's a word right there! Its funny that you spoke on Adam and Eve. God lead me to pick up the Bible this morning and start reading from the very beginning. This was right on time.

Always a good word, Pastor! Where are these godly men?! Praying for my BOAZ

YOU GON" CATCH THESE HANDS! I love these videos KWAAAAAAAA

It's hits differently when a man says it. Thank you for sharing this.

Amen and Amen! I needed this confirmation. I knew this and needed to hear it out of my own head. 💖

I needed to hear this. Thank you!

wow, you upload at the right time every time. needed this.

A relationship that endorses Heaven and Love that Hell fears🙏💪😍

God material, men of God. Hebrews 12:2

This episode was everything!!! Thank you!

This👏Right👏Here👏! Thank you for sharing this truth!

🙏🏽🙏🏽 I love this. 💕 Thank you brother Jerry.

This was just too good! Please God let this go viral!

1. Consistency 2. He has a relationship with the Lord 3. He knows his assignment 4. He is a protector 5. He is a servant 6. He is a washer 7. He is a student...he studies you 8. He loves Jesus

Powerful message!!

This video is AMAZING 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽. That’s a HUGE WORD

This is 🔥🔥🔥 Described what I’m looking for in the right one! I know God is prepping me and I needed to see this. Thank you 🙏🏾

Your content is always so helpful. Thank you. 🙏🏽

Pastor Jerry's point on #consistency was right on. I briefly dated a guy a few years ago, and the number 1 thing that frustrated & confused me was his flip flop behavior. He was indeed a man of God who loved God and was anointed. But he needed to deal with some issues in his soul. Consistency should be visible AND attractive in a man! Wishy washy behavior and not knowing what he wants are not good signs! Pray pray pray continuously about whoever you are considering dating/marrying to determine if it's TRULY God's will for you. The Lord showed me this guy WAS a candidate for marriage, but you can't change a person or force them to be with you!

@AbeVsTheWorld

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe he was losing interest in you and didn't know how to try to end it without sounding like jerk. Perhaps he saw a deal-breaker in you along the way.

Wow Brother is Talking Real !!!!

This is SO GOOD! Thank you!

Thank You Pastor Flowers for this, I needed to hear this For Real.

I truly enjoyed listening and watching this video! Thank you!

This is good !! Confirmation about some things for me! This video just kept popping up in my feed until I watched it 🤦🏽‍♀️🧏🏽‍♀️ #OkayGodIHearYou

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this video!

Speechless. He’s fire 🔥

“Unmowed gardens house snakes.” I ooop! My God! Updating my Hell No List

This is confirmation that God set me up with the right man. All glory belongs to Him!

Great points!!!

Teach and PREACH!!!

Great wisdom like always! Thanks for sharing & dropping gems!!! Continued blessings to you, your wife and family.

Wonderful message. Always needed. Thank you

On Point! 👌Thank you for this. Watching from South Africa

Wow!!!!!! Wisdom given with such ease. I needed to hear every word. Thank you🙏

Thank youuuu ! I needed this Pastor Jerry