Hey Bump Lovers, We would love to hear back from you.... Are you an ardent believer in ubuntu? How far are you willing to go to help out your less privileged relatives? Help out a fellow Mama by letting us know below.

@catherinenansubuga3695

Жыл бұрын

I really appreciate when you allow each other to voice their opinions.

@catherinenansubuga3695

Жыл бұрын

Helping from a far is the ideal...and if the circumstances allow for this family to do so, may be they can opt for...however situations can be different...

@eronnabatanzi8929

Жыл бұрын

Helping from far saves alot. Kids are so spoilt now. They even have affairs amongst themselves.

@asimwepriscilla4719

Жыл бұрын

Hey bump lovers please talk about incase a man has kids from a different lady and then you still have kids with him how best can it be done

@shivanbusuulwa6170

Жыл бұрын

Rossette's mic was down

I love the way pumla articulates her opinions and I wish to meet her one day. She is so informed

@namirembeprossy9865

11 ай бұрын

I knowwww…like how she shares from a point of knowledge, even when she has not experienced it, she educates herself about almost everything and anything…Pumla we appreciate 🥂

For me giving is like a calling 🙏🏾I can’t stop from giving no matter what I get from the receivers🙏🏾but I thank God for Blessing me with so much🙏🏾,I saw this from my parents they never lack anything no matter how ✍🏽,I know my life is a result from giving .MAY GOD HELP US ALL.

One thing I learnt about givers is that it's always more natural than logical. Know this and know peace. Most givers have no limit.

Rachel Mwine!!!!!❣❣❣❣❣❣❣❣❣❣ I am always looking out for your opinion. You are always on point.

@rachaelmwine611

Жыл бұрын

🥰Thank you..

I've loved this conversation, this content will never grow old. I cant believe I'm coming across it an year after it was uploaded.

Angie talks less but when she talks OMG. Blessings Angie en much ❤

Pumla has cracked my ribs😂😂. I hear "if you give God 10%, who is that relative you are giving 30%?" 😂

@mgn3618

Жыл бұрын

😂😂 she's right

@sarahtheresanakatudde9037

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

But for shuwa! People think they can save the world. Just burning themselves. P

@kisakyewonderful4444

Жыл бұрын

@@pumlanabachwa8668 I agree. There was only one Jesus Christ. Let's leave it at that. Respectfully

@doreen8825

Жыл бұрын

​@@pumlanabachwa8668 Sister-gal, you are literally my twin in how you think and articulate issues, atte the way u represent the single mums, and co-parenting, then to no bad life.. its a yes for me always !💗Thank you💗

I AM CRYING! I am an orphan brought up by my grandpa with all my cousins yet my uncles were alive but non of them is minding him at 96 on his death bed .As they are helping let them not be expectant. They can also get transport and send them to visit their parents during long holidays.Thanks

Funny I watched the video wearing exact same top as Rosette! I kept trying to see if it's the real one 🤣🤣 My take away is give not expecting to get back otherwise you will be sorely disappointed. Look at it as giving to God and he will be the one to reward you. Proverbs 19:17

I agree with pumula. Helping from distance better. Love you ladies.

We lived in a two bedroom house, raised by a single mother and over 20 at some point in the house. But to date, thirty years later, I was the only one who improved the house. I tried to solicit funds from all of them and none gave me a coin. Am the only one who looks after Mom. Even her DSTV, no one can even pay for it. This really hurts me. Manuella i do not agree with you on giving according to how you make because all my siblings and cousins claim the same..give back

@hildaninsiima2506

Жыл бұрын

You just told my story

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

I have witnessed this imbalance in families. There is always 1 or 2 doing the most. The rest don't want to know. Thank you for looking after your mom. I'm sure she appreciates you. P

@violamusiime1

Жыл бұрын

Same happens to me only me and my siblings are supporting.

Okay when it comes to helping, I think discernment is key. Just make sure you do not sow among thorns or on rocky grounds but rather on fertile soils. Some people want to take advantage of others and even have ill motives. Above all, give help with a mind that you are doing a service to God but not to people...in that way, yo reward shall be Devine. Obuntu for me👌

I grew up in a large family and we harbored extended family from both sides and right now we are the enemies to them. It is good to help, help where you can and God rewards you either sooner or later.

@atimnyanzi6859

Жыл бұрын

Sorry Shamim. That is very typical.

@sophielara8093

Жыл бұрын

Exactly well said

A very good topic. An upper hand (a giving hand) is better than a lower hand (a receiving one). An elder once advised me to help from a distance and if i am to help, i should never feel strained doing so. For instance, do not borrow to help someone, it is OK to say you do not have when you dont. Manuela's plan is the BEST option, set a percentage aside and when that "pool" of funds is dry, until next time.

Growing up I have been on the receiving side. My uncle took me to the best schools. I will forever be grateful.

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

Nice. I do gone you appreciate him every moment you get. P

Hmmm! Ladies, thank you for sharing! The good news here is there are atleast mechanisms of helping and the most vivid or common but comfortable ones is helping from afar! I know many people will say ABC...but there are details that someone who has never gone through won't understand! Sibling rivalry may go along way,the host's discomfort may lead to funny behaviour that the beneficiaries may misunderstand! The desire or guilt feeling of having to pay back is so heavy to carry! Then ofcourse we have not touched the bit of those that will exploit you as the host because their own either sister, brother etc helped you! So help us God!

The major problem is doing the helping and expecting something in return and I think if yr doing something with higher expectations u end up disappointed!! Angie really spoke out my heart!! ... thank you ladies

There is a clear difference between giving and being exploited. Be led by the Spirit of God to not be exploited, but to be a blessing. 🙏🏽

Oprah Winfrey once said that her success has not been in the amount of trees or houses she has, but her success has been in the amount of people whose lives she has changed through giving them education.

Clearly am a late bump lover... but I enjoy how Angie always brings a different perspective that is her own plus her style is riveting!!!

Wow, this episode is just so powerful. Thank you ladies for addressing this issue. To be honest I am a beneficiary of Ubuntu but at some point in my teenage I got entitled because rather than treat me differently I was treated as a child in the homes I lived in and given privileges. When those privileges were taken away I would act like a spoilt child. Unfortunately for me being a total orphan I didn't have someone like Manuela's mum telling me the right way to behave when you're taken in. It is was only until 2021 when I turned 30 that I learnt this "NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO TAKE CARE OF YOU. NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING" so you ought to be grateful and not entitled. I have since repented and make an effort to support my maternal Aunties who have raised me. They could have thrown me in the village or orphanage after my mum's death but they didn't. Instead they raised me like a Princess (Sometimes even more favored than their own children). I am currently living in the USA thanks to one of those aunts who moved heaven and earth for me. I am still on a journey of financial stability but I thank God I am able to make some small contribution to my extended family atleast once every year. Many people become averse to Ubuntu because of the way the beneficiaries behave but I believe if we understand our callings as Rachel pointed out, God will give us the grace and the provision so no one goes without. If it's not your calling and you are practicing it out of love, duty or obligation make sure to discuss with your spouse so you're on the same page. Also, I really think families should do it together and not separately because you are one unit. Apply Pumla and Manuela's principles.

@janephernsozisambaga2753

Жыл бұрын

By early 20s I was already a mother to teenagers....my relatives. When I married still in my 20s I had an average of 5 teenagers in my home. My relatives who lived longest with me were collecting bullets to distribute to whoever never wished me well. Remember such dependants know you deeply. At my lowest years, the hit hardest. Help people from far...if you must.

@NotAnathaMotvationalSpeaka7520

Жыл бұрын

@@janephernsozisambaga2753 Sorry to hear that. Most people getting helped forget until they too get to the point of helping others. Pray for their ignorance just like Jesus did at the cross and forgive them. And yes, help from far. Things get easily complicated.

Balance this topic. Me I can go on and on. But all I can say once I reviewed my black tax account. I was able to live my life. I do what I can now.

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

Very good 👍🏾. P

Ts Pumla's opinion for me...Thanks you Ladies..May the Lord Bless u Abundantly..

Setting boundaries is vital!. Pumla made some great points. Most people who are wealthy and are able to pass generational wealth to their kids are grandkids are people who gave but gave wisely!. Yes, we have the Ubantu thing in Africa but we hardly generate generational wealth because everyone’s issue is our obligation. Some people, you help them and then come back and help their own own children.

Interesting topic, close to home. Someone wrote a book about why we as Africans don't grow financially. We tend to harvest small mangoes which can't be eaten. It's always good to grow our finances and be a blessing without complaining because we are stable financially and able to help without allowing the people we are helping to be a burden. We can only give what we have. I may have the money to pay school fees but not able to raise the same children especially when they have parents.

The reasoning of Pumla is for a real Economist. its a great show indeed.

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

Hahahaaa! When it comes to money, I can't think any other way. P

@debrax1907

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, I am an Economist and I was like yes, preach sister p, be rational. But then the Christianity in me is also trying to give it a balance. Great insights ladies

Plus I think when you are a woman, relatives from your side, are not as hectic as relatives from your husband's side. Am glad you brought this topic, it has helped me in a way that I should wait on God cz pain will always be there at some point. God bless you

Oh Manuela..you made me tear at Minute 39. God bless your mum..I need her to speak to mine who is also doing so much ubuntu but with zero boundaries.

This topic has hit home for me. Coz in society right now, there are so many new sides to it. I always remember my Mum, and I like it that Manuela says this Mum shouldn't worry about the kids, they're probably having fun. As a child back then growing up in a full house, it was easy to see it from a child's perspective. But when we switch roles as adults, I get to see my Mum's perspective. She was open to helping and looking after many kids from relatives, but when I look at the home management skills she had to engage to manage the home I'm like Cheiii! It's no wonder that in those years I would only see her fun side when she was with her sisters, or her friends. That's when I would be like, wairraminit, you mean Mummy can laugh? You mean she can even tell jokes? So the emotional and physical demand is also something to consider. E.g having many kids plus other kids from relatives always called into question the aspect of attention, care and fairness when there were fights or misunderstandings? And like you've said, the feeling some of the the relatives' kids sometimes have of not fitting in or the like. I think this is the emotional burden some Mums end up with, of knowing that no matter how hard you try, there's always complaints and backbiting that will come back to you as a Mum who sacrificed to help. So I really do appreciate and admire my Mum for that sacrifice. I admire her for her courage to even go beyond and pay fees from her own pocket, even when it wasn't her own blood.

Thank you ladies. I really needed this. God bless you all.

Thank you so much Bumb love. This hit close to home, I believe in being selfless and Ubuntu all the way

I love this...thanks ladies😍

This was a great topic loved all the insight from the ladies. It hit close to home

Thank you my gals for sharing 💕 have learnt a lot

This is real talk!! Love it..!

Wow I needed this energy thanx ladies Angie and Rachel 🤝🙏🙏

Wow this is so amazing, I reasonate wth the discussion, thank you ladies

"You reap WHAT you saw not WHERE you saw" woow. Thanks ladies for always coming up with great 👍 shows. Mwe abasinga

This z nice I enjoyed it God bless you all

I love you guys so much. Every topic discussed is an eye opener to me. i have leant a lot from all that is discussed. stay blessed guys

wow this has come in at the right time thank you ladies😍😍

Amazing, Powerful, Knowledgeable,Beautiful and Above all God fearing Women i just love ur show. Thank u for all the advises u share.

Loved the whole talk around selfless giving and asking God to bless your seed 😊😊

Great topic ladies. Growing up, my mum used to get so upset with my father's generosity and one of the statements my dad made that has stuck with me for many years was...he said to mum, if I don't pay for these children, these are the children that will be a burden to your children in the future. Most of my cousins have done really well and I respect dad so much for seeing the bigger picture. The more people we lift up and empower whether from afar or in the home, the higher probability they will do the same for someone else.❤️ Thanks ladies and Pumla you are golden as always!

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

It's funny how always the overly generous one always marries the opposite. Real marriage test 😂😂😂. P

@pipinm2214

Жыл бұрын

@@pumlanabachwa8668 haha!

@Tripleexel

11 ай бұрын

You can't pay your way out of black tax. You need a steady income & a working pension system. Paying black tax only continues cycle

I might say ,I stayed at my maternal uncle place for more than 10 yrs . Life wasn't so soft but I tried to find my own life ,I never imagined am among his family member however much he was literally giving me everything, this is because I wanted them to be free at their own home ,not to feel like am a badden to them so most of my time was spent with nannies helping them here and there and most of the new nannies /maids couldn't think we are related until some good time . I really cherish and love them so much

@Msunsungdots

Жыл бұрын

Sending hugs

Am all ears my realers Bump love inspires me alot ts the best show av ever watched keep it up Ladies your big deals to some of us mwaah

Obuntu is one of the things I am most proud of as an African. Not because I benefited from it(having been an orphan who stayed in many of my relatives homes) but because it is an opportunity to look beyond ourselves and give to others. The biggest challenge however is adults who choose to help relatives willingly but end up treating them badly just because they are helping them. If you decide to help, please respect, love and treat these relatives well. Key highlight for me at min 27:38 by Manuella, you reap what you sow NOT where you sowed.

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

True. Thanks Angel. P

@joannambalirwa6997

Жыл бұрын

Great insight. Thank you

@fk5371

Жыл бұрын

but those who are being helped should also learn to be grateful, some people demand too much and forget that the person helping has immediate family..........let's not be selfish and take others for granted.

@lizz9478

Жыл бұрын

What’s Obuntu?

@Passiemclove

Жыл бұрын

People who speak like you are the reason why the obuntu is all going wrong. Learn from what Manuela’s mum taught her; if you are being housed be ready to wake up earliest and serve them more than a maid! Because having you around is already too much! Problem is that which you call being treated badly is most times temugambwako!!! always two sides to the story but the people who are helped everywhere have entitlement issues

Wow this is amazing ladies thx n God bless u.For this in particular i have settled mi mind.i was buddened at a time coz of the same black tx "thing"

I agree with setting boundaries and checking your black Tax account and ascertaining that you will be compliant. I must say that I grew up in that extended family. I vividly remember when mum could not afford Immaculate Heart Girls Sch fees, my uncle (husband to my mom's sister) sat I and my sister and had a chat with us...the Late Didas Tibigambwa told us that he would do anything to ensure we got education even if it's not the best because that is what he can afford. And he told us how going to poor schools didn't stop him from excelling at national level. He called out his children and told them to understand when things change and it seems hard because we were also children that needed to be taken care of. We studied hard and Didas' generosity produced a lawyer and an accountant. We have grown up together, we look out for each other...we celebrating our successes and being there for each other in the difficult times. To the world, I am the last born but to me, I am the 2nd last born coz then Didas' last born comes after me😂😊 To whoever is in this situation; from Didas, I learnt that on earth we serve God through serving his people and this is sacrifice. You sacrifice your time, money, friends among others...it will get hard, you feel like giving up (coz mehn, I was a stubborn kid!) But "joy will come in the morning" those young ones will make you proud. And as you are in that breaking part, pray so much, for your family, and those children of God that He has placed in your life to give them life, to nurture them. I am sure if uncle Didas was here, he could be proud of never giving up. My aunt too, I call her super woman coz mehn she whopped my a** Last, you are a phenomenal woman, be strong and keep serving God through helping His children.

This was a good discussion 👌. Young families need it.

Wow! Great topic, Understanding the times and season is so helpful👌👌❤

Great topic! It's better to help from a distance because the people you bring in will always look out for a problem. Love you all

Naye bakazi mwe mulina amagezi, everybody is really making sense, whoever chose this set of women deserves a prize

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

Hahahaaaaaa! Tusiima nnyo! P

Hello Ladies. Thanks for this show. For where the blessing goes or comes from after you helping is really up to God. This reminds of what I told my mom when she was at that moment of Mukyala Mulondo's dad I told her the blessings are coming to us. And honestly I see some things that are happening to me and I just see the blessings if My mom's good heart

Thanks my dears, I have learnt a lot from this, you guys have inspired me

Ooh God this was so helpful,thanks to bump love

Thx for the show ladies much lv you u all

Bambi ladies thanks for touching lives. I celebrate u

What a discusion!! loved it. i think these are issues of the heart riyalee. Helping God~s people!!! with the right intention is second to none. Gods people! Gods people! we are blessed to be a blessing

Thanx ladies. You represent many of us

i am a different kind of African, i do not want to help people from my house, i will help them from their own houses, under my roof, i will choose a struggle i can manage. because bringing in relatives into our homes ones we cant chase...nedda..

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

Gwe you'll manage life properly. P

Thanks great and wise mothers this topic is really very good

Thanks bump love. As for my husband an I we have support from distance and and within. Majorly we have ensured that the people we support make it and are not a burden to to us as adults. Helped so many get jobs. Small businesses. We can't ran away from obuntu. Nice time

Great topic! I have learnt a lot from all of you amazing and beautiful women! ❤️ May God bless you abundantly in Jesus's Name. Amen

Yes the intellectual ladies are here with so much wisdom. Kale mbagalanyo ba dear 🤝

Well done ba Dia, I have learnt alot from you.

My parents raised their brothers and sisters in our house, we had no peace nor freedom. We grew up with no connection with our parents coz they didn’t have time for us. Today, those relatives still feel us the kids need to help them, they still feel entitled. And non of them helps us. For that reason, no relatives in my house. Period. I help from outside and strangers not relatives.

@angellaayebale

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 I am.coming, I am coming

Learnt a lot from this.. thank you

Pumla l love how you Express yourself

Banange Angie you are a rare gene. I like your perspective always, it's an eye opener.

Thank you ladies ❤

You ladies are a gem. I love the fact yr discussion r not censored, everyone gives their honest opinions.. Now on giving - the Bible says “love your Neighbor AS YOURSELEFU”. So 1- First love yrself then u will know how to love someone else. Best question to ask is if the places were switched wht would I wish *FAIRLY* wish the other person to do for me - or WWJD - Wht would Jesus do.. 2- But also God can ask you to give your all in specific situations. And you will know & you will not b able to shake off tht “calling” away & if u obey there will be a big breakthrough FOR YOU…more than the person your helping…tht will blow your mind away.. Soon or later. But Pliiz it’s a calling & if ur communication with God is solid u will know. I emphasize be sure it’s a God calling Not other manipulations.

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this 👍🏾. P

Oh my God this episode was mine U have spoken deep to my soul.

Mrs Mulondo good points and great example from your mom. Yes give from the heart not because people will talk. I always pray for directions on who to give and how much. Do not break yourself.

Thank you very much @Bump Love. This was for me. Thank point of declaring and praying over the seed being sown in other people's lives is very important. This was the missing link in our giving otherwise we now help from a far. It's less stressful

@manuelap.mulondo

Жыл бұрын

Indeed, pray 9ver your seed

The lady with the white braids is so lovely...motherly and all... Good conversation... Love from Italy

I may be late to the party but let me share my story. I am a child who grew up in a broken family, I never had a chance to live under the same roof as my mother and father. Infact I lived with any relative who was kind enough. In my teenage years, I lived with a cousin who had a family. During the holidays, I worked as a housemaid... infact sometimes her maid would take a break when I returned from school. At the end of the holiday, she would shop my school requirements and give me pocket money... back then in the early 2000s it was around 150k. Now I have grown up and God has been so faithful to me. I am comfortable and living a life I only dreamt about. For my cousin tables turned and I used to send her money to support her whenever she reached out. Of course sometimes when she asked for money, I didn't have. So she goes on to say "abantu tebasiima, kale gundi namuyamba naye yanelabira". This really angered me because I was never a child in her house I was a housemaid, I did all the housemaids did and more so to me I was offering a service. I don't think it was black tax on her side since I offered services she would have gotten from someone else at a fee. From that statement, I stopped sending her money. Please judge me if you want but treating your relatives as maids or even worse and then claim to be a good samaritan just doesn't make sense.

@Flourish_today

Жыл бұрын

I think the problem with your cousin is that she took you in as a maid and forgot that you were doing a service that called for payment. She is very entitled and thinks that you owe her your whole life savings because she gave you a maid opportunity. As long as you do not talk about her,let her be. Most relatives like that take advantage of people like us who are mulekwas. They forget that the hand of the Lord is upon us and life happens. Kudos to you for creating boundaries.

@sunshinelivie8741

Жыл бұрын

@Flourish... you are so right. I don't talk about her but I distanced myself from the drama. Nothing is hard in life as being a mulekwa or a homeless child 😔

Thanks ladies I have also grown up from an extended family..we never had our alone time as siblings cousins from all over would be at our home..even up to now Kudos to my parents 👏 bse its really not easy

You are amazing ladies.

I am so here for the long videos 👏👏. On another note...having watched Angie over time, you can tell she has a beautiful spirit. I always look forward to her perspective on things, so wise.

@josephinenalwoga2337

Жыл бұрын

But they all have

@annenasubo4890

Жыл бұрын

@@josephinenalwoga2337 yes they do ❤

@carolinemayende7917

Жыл бұрын

So true .she's such a darling even just listening to her speak is so heart warming,kind,sweet..

@annenasubo4890

Жыл бұрын

@@carolinemayende7917 Yesss

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

She does have a beautiful spirit indeed. P

I always watch you ladies.Everytime I get a break. ❤

Yesss it comes back 10000 fold!!

I wish someone else could tell my mom to take care of herself before giving to her relatives. My is sick but would send money to brother to pay rent arrears. I prefer you send him fare to come back to the village and use the rest for treatment

You ladies are amazing. Pumla you are so realistic!

A very helpful discussion.

I love Angie's submissions.

I have been saying this,help from a distance. The principle of life has not changed,it's seed time and harvest, whatever u sow you reap its just a matter of time either you or your children or even grandchildren who will reap.

As for reaping what you sow, I totally get it. Coz I've been in ministry for a while now, and I know that not all that you sacrifice for will appreciate or give back, but as sure as God's word is true, it always comes back to you, even if it has to be a stranger! But it always comes back!

I loved this sooo much

This was a great session.

Amazing content!!!!

I wish this conversation would make sense to our parents... I think like pumla

I have learnt alot thanks ladies

Hi Bump love🤗 I’m talking to anyone who thinking of helping others or already helping but still have responsibilities of their own! Now my own is, I’ll start with this so that no one judges me! helping as a really a good thing, in fact it is Godly and that’s how important it is! Now before starting to help, you have worked or you’re working intact working so hard to be able to provide for your family that is to school your children and the goal is to set a strong foundation for them! And btw let’s all remember that our goal as to why we’re working hard is for our children to have a good future and for us to develop further! And remember that “your Goal is NOT to help people who will help your family in future”! Because that fact is that getting repaid back just comes as an additional surprise! Not all people who have helped where repaid back speaking from experience🙄! So let’s dust continue with our goal and as Manuela said we help from the little we are remaining with and that will not affect our goal to progress! One more thing, if you’re helping others just because they might be of help in future to your children and in that process you are compromising your children’s education or whatever, by the time those people remember to help your children after satisfying all their need it will be to too late for your children because time would be a gone😐

Manuela....thank you for this insight

Pumla says she can give FREE financial management lessons.....I thought that it would be nice to have the sessions here for all of us to learn

@pumlanabachwa8668

Жыл бұрын

Let us arrange an episode on this my dear. Next season 👍🏾. P

@fionaiga1577

Жыл бұрын

@@pumlanabachwa8668 I'm looking forward to this episode

God Bless you ladies Thanks Pumla for the good introduction

This subject really hit home...wise words spoken from each one of you! " A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed." -Proverbs 11:25 Blessings ❤

@nabukwasichristine8124

Жыл бұрын

Are u talking to me???the sermon last Sunday was this very verse in my church

@racheallenga9444

Жыл бұрын

@@nabukwasichristine8124 Run with it then... and let's all live a life of generosity for HE gave us his very best Christ JESUS out of LOVE.. be blessed my sister ❤️

Like Manuela i grew up in peoples homes and i believe i am where i am because someone somewhere sacrifised the little they had, so yeah, ubuntu 1000%. Thank you ladies.