I Wish Someone Had Told Me | Midlife Rumble | Life Over 60

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I wish someone had told me years ago that my childhood things I have carried around with me would cause my midlife rumble. Let us talk about that today. I really wish someone would have told me years ago.

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  • @Kat-ko4hj
    @Kat-ko4hj2 жыл бұрын

    We , never know how heavy the bags are until we put them down. Thank you Sandra…

  • @brendagordon4936

    @brendagordon4936

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love this!

  • @dulcehajjar5826

    @dulcehajjar5826

    2 жыл бұрын

    I like that : We Never Know how Heavy the Bags are until we put them down “ Very True 👏 🤗

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. So well expressed

  • @mikedenison121

    @mikedenison121

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Kat.how’re you doing

  • @barbiec4312
    @barbiec43122 жыл бұрын

    My dad loved me, but was a scary alcoholic, military lifer so we didn’t have a lot of security growing up since we moved around a lot. My dear mother was very loving, crafty, sewing, cooking, laughing, playing. I chose a lovely husband who was afraid I would be bored with him. But I LOVE his stability. I am so lucky and grateful that we found each other 20 years ago now. Our house is happy, calm, stable, secure, loving. We still have a romance. I recently retired and he retires in April and we are excited for our next phase in life.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Barbie you are so lucky do have had a wonderful relation and have found your soulmate in life. Thank you so much for sharing

  • @2EternityButterflies
    @2EternityButterflies2 жыл бұрын

    For many years I carried that heavy baggage from childhood and I thought to myself nothing would ever change for me. Many bad decisions. I had very little for a long time. And then one day I made the jump and I made my way to Europe at 58. My life took a lot of turns and bumps but at 69 I can say I am only carrying a light back back now. It truly is never too late. Life can change for the better no matter what the age. Thank you so much Sandra.

  • @sgray4995

    @sgray4995

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm 66 and struggle with childhood my whole life. You're not alone.

  • @mariekitty

    @mariekitty

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @seventhchild7270

    @seventhchild7270

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you also....2EternityButterflies

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    So true. It is never too late to find yourself or happiness.

  • @purplesky3053

    @purplesky3053

    2 жыл бұрын

    I started thinking differently about my childhood traumas. Instead of being angry or depressed about the negative experiences, I now believe they made me the strong woman that I am today. I also lost my 19 year old son 10 years ago to viral encephalitis, which was a shock with deep, dark grief. He was a healthy, intelligent, athletic and sweet son. One would never have guessed he would be taken from us so suddenly. I guess my point is that all experiences shape you, but it’s within our power to MAKE THE DECISION to be the best version of ourselves that we can. I love Sandra’s format for life lessons and love. 💞💞

  • @roberta9622
    @roberta96222 жыл бұрын

    I am 76. Several years ago, I found a book called Women Who Love too Much by Robin Norwood. When I read it, I completely dissolved into tears as I saw the emotional blueprint of my life and how it was formed. What you are saying today is so profoundly true about what has happened to us as children goes on to affect us the rest of our lives! We think we are making mindful decisions but it truly is our subconscious mind that is guiding us. Thank you so much for bringing this to light as it is NEVER too late to make changes!❤️❤️❤️

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Roberta for sharing that title of the book with us. I do remember when that came out. I would suggest to women to read that book.

  • @roberta9622

    @roberta9622

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@lifewithsandrahart thank you for taking the time to respond Sandra! Your strength and wisdom are truly appreciated.❤️

  • @beulahbenade4098

    @beulahbenade4098

    2 жыл бұрын

    I read that very book after my divorce long ago. Very helpful xx

  • @roberta9622

    @roberta9622

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@beulahbenade4098 all the best to you going forward!🥰

  • @beulahbenade4098

    @beulahbenade4098

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@roberta9622 Thank you very much. This is such a lovely place to share our experiences. God bless xx

  • @donnajohnson8773
    @donnajohnson87732 жыл бұрын

    Good morning Sandra! There is a line from a movie that says “childhood is what you spend the rest of your life trying to overcome” this is so true for so many. I so enjoy listening to you I miss these kinds of talks with my mother, as I mentioned before you are my Mothers exact age. Hugs and love to you! Thank you Sandra!

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Donuts so great to hear from you. Thank you for sharing that with me

  • @bluejeans1773

    @bluejeans1773

    2 жыл бұрын

    I think the Movie was Hope Floats.. it's at the end of movie 💕

  • @TheNourishingGurus

    @TheNourishingGurus

    2 жыл бұрын

    that's a great quote Donna! so true - thanks for sharing

  • @utube0372

    @utube0372

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@lifewithsandrahart I just stumbled onto your channel today and I’m so glad I did. You’re a very beautiful and interesting young lady and your devotion on a healthy journey is very inspiring. I am 55 years old and I want to start making healthier choices and exercising ... and I live in Palm Coast Florida so it’s so wonderful to know you live in the sunshine state as well. I look forward to watching all your videos. 😊

  • @sharoncooper2630
    @sharoncooper26302 жыл бұрын

    Dear Sandra you are such a blessing! Your words of wisdom and encouragement means so much! Thank you for being the lovely,beautiful soul that you are! 🤗

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @freddybarneburg6056
    @freddybarneburg60562 жыл бұрын

    As usual you were "right on". I'm now 83. I was 45 when my father first told me he loved me. He also planted a kiss on my cheek. How special that was. I'll always remember! ❤️

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Father daughter relationships are so important because they really do affect us for the rest of our lives. What a sweet memory

  • @dianelopresti9352
    @dianelopresti93522 жыл бұрын

    Good Morning Sandra, I have tears in my eyes as you have verbalized what has been my "baggage" since I was a little girl. My Mother was narcissistic and didn't allow a closeness between my Father and me. At 73, while I have finally reached a self-acceptance, I still mourn for the loss of a "could've been" childhood and a young self-confident woman. It certainly did affect the choices that I made. Blessings, Diane

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Diane, we could never capture the past can we but we can certainly let go, forgive and change the dynamics within our own family

  • @suekaiser4163

    @suekaiser4163

    2 жыл бұрын

    Diane, I completely understand and glad you have reached a self acceptance as a daughter of a narcissistic parent. My narcissistic mother is almost 95 and still at it. I am in therapy finally getting to discuss my pain and journalling is helping. I too, at 69, wonder and grieve what my life could have been if I would have disengaged from my mother early on. I now have trauma therapist. All the other counseling and books in the world are not going to take the place of another human validating you and your life experiences. Peace, sister.❤❤❤.

  • @JayneNicoletti

    @JayneNicoletti

    2 жыл бұрын

    Daughter of a Narc Mom and even though she died in 2017, it still haunts and upsets me. However, I try to see some positive and it made me more compassionate and I think that allowed me to be a better Stepmom. I have a better relationship with them than I did with my own birth Mother.I have been able to understand why she was like that as I aged and talked to people who knew her. It gets better but never goes away...the yearning. ❤️

  • @suekaiser4163

    @suekaiser4163

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@JayneNicoletti I agree. One really can change the way they treat others, and I hope I have, but the "mother ache" will never go away. I know that. I am working on closure. It's tough when you don't get that gift of closure. Forgiveness is and letting go is important, but just when you think it doesn't bother you anymore, it comes out of nowhere seemingly, and messes with ya.It has made me question my whole existance. Personal closure and peace is my goal . Good luck and peace to you.

  • @DuvAngel1
    @DuvAngel12 жыл бұрын

    It raises up the question of who you are in relation to the Creator of Heaven and Earth; Our Heavenly Father and our Lord Jesus Christ. This is part of what He is doing in these last days(before He cleanses the whole earth)… is ask yourself,”Who are you-In Christ? I can say to that~ I am a blood-bought born-again believer in Jesus Christ of Nazareth, in the heart of the Body of Christ, and in the Bride of the Lamb, in the Mighty Matchless Name of Jesus Christ. HalleluYah 🤗❤️‍🔥🕊✨

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Anen

  • @cristinaj3994
    @cristinaj39942 жыл бұрын

    Everything you have said resonates with me. I try not to perseverate. "Don't look back, you're not going that direction". Suns out in Iowa.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much

  • @brendagordon4936
    @brendagordon49362 жыл бұрын

    Early trauma certainly has had an impact of decision I have made. Knowing yourself And understanding and acceptance are my key to a happy life.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    They are both to good things to consider. Acceptance is the key to moving on and dropping the baggage that we carry

  • @hurstjames6196

    @hurstjames6196

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello 👋how're you doing today hope you're safe over there?

  • @missjoycefox1947
    @missjoycefox19472 жыл бұрын

    Indeed, it’s never to late to discover you! I didn’t get where I am today by sitting “eating her curds and whey. At 75 I have buried two husbands (blessed to look great in black and love riding in limos), recovered from three months of paralysis and treatable autoimmune diseases ( incl Addison’s Disease) and still have a positive outlook for life. Thanks to my childhood and God I was able to survive all surprises in my young life! Thanks for reminding us to reflect…👏💁‍♀️☕️❤️🙏🇺🇸

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Joyce, it’s always good to hear from you and have you share your wonderful outlook on life with a little twist of Joyce inside your message. Thank you so much for being here and I am so happy that you are feeling so much better. Love you my friend

  • @hurstjames6196

    @hurstjames6196

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello 👋how're you doing today hope you're safe over there?

  • @purplesky3053
    @purplesky30532 жыл бұрын

    Great talk! Thank you! I married a man who is the opposite of my father which is a wonderful thing. We have 3 grown wonderful young men because he is a great father and dad. 💞💞

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Smart and beautiful

  • @clariswald4802
    @clariswald48022 жыл бұрын

    It’s also good to see if our soul is ready to meet God when our final breath is taken. Jesus brings peace and a secure place in Heaven.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    So true

  • @susannslebensberatung
    @susannslebensberatung2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much. I love people watching, too. My whole life I did that. Sometimes the people don't liked it. I like the area you live, it is beautiful, the beach. Thank you so much for your input. (Excuse my english, it's just from school in Germany). Best wishes to you, lovely Sandra. I learn who I am in this time now, because it's so important. I think, no matter what happend in life, try to be happy with what you have. I believe in this.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Excellent advice!

  • @susannslebensberatung

    @susannslebensberatung

    2 жыл бұрын

    @♜Pinnedby Life Over Sixty With Sandra Thank you, is this Whatsapp or Telefon?

  • @MissyMotivational
    @MissyMotivational2 жыл бұрын

    Such a great topic of conversation, thank you for making us all think and reflect 😊

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @zoraidarodriguez94
    @zoraidarodriguez942 жыл бұрын

    One aspect or attitude of my life I would love to overcome is to stop the.past from still hurting me or control me and accept every day as a clean canvas and write a new story everyday , love you Sandra.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I hope you will be able to do that

  • @HisLove4You
    @HisLove4You2 жыл бұрын

    Sandra your daughter is so blessed to have you for a mom ❤ Thank you and God bless you as always for your wisdom and inspiration! 🙏

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @suzanne296
    @suzanne2962 жыл бұрын

    Me too. My dad never paid attention to me and never said I love you or I'm proud of you. I made bad choices in men. I never married. I miss him as he gone now 6 years. I go to therapy to heal these hurts.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts today

  • @shrinkingviolet3
    @shrinkingviolet32 жыл бұрын

    Sandra, you are so stunning in this video. When I was young, I also was somewhat bullied by other girls. I only wanted friends... Looking back, maybe there was some jealousy. But then, THEY were coping w/ internalized hurts also. As an older lady, I see the other side too. Becoming mature...we can forgive it all. I didn't have loving parents. There was a lot of many types of abuse. Yes, it did affect EVERYTHING about me. The shame. However on an intellectual level, I now know it wasn't truly 'me'....but THEY had internal issues. It wasn't true what they said. I was (and am) a valuable person. Took a long time to realize it. Thank you for having 'this conversation' with us.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Victoria I think it takes us a long time to understand that we really are worthy and have our place that is unique right here while we’re here

  • @fyreglo13
    @fyreglo132 жыл бұрын

    "What can I do to make my life better"... thank you for that Sandra... this struck a cord with me!! Stay safe...xo

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I am so happy that you watched

  • @mikedenison121

    @mikedenison121

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Catherine Eddy, How’re you doing

  • @cares3262
    @cares32622 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Sandra for your enlightening advice. It always helps. Also, I enjoy reading the comments and testimonials from those in this community. Our challenges, successes, things we're all pulling ourselves through. Thanks and cheers to everyone🙏💖🥂💃💐

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts

  • @kathyhartsell4383
    @kathyhartsell43832 жыл бұрын

    Good morning Sandra! Oh, how I agree with you! I have always said that things in our childhood have an impact on us as adults. I have been trying to “find me” for several years. Thank you so much for this video! 💕🙏🏻

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much Kathy

  • @suekaiser4163
    @suekaiser41632 жыл бұрын

    My parents were born in the 1920's . I never once remember them telling me they loved me or ever hugged me growing up..They provided for me, but I sure could have used some validating words, and a hug. I outwardly seem successful, but never felt truly loved by anyone. I too, made bad choices with men. I often wonder how my life would have turned out. Still in and out of therapy at almost 70 dealing with this baggage.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    From the comments I’m getting Sue, I am finding that we’re not the only ones who had parents like that. It may have been a generation thing. But I sure tried to change the cycle with my own children. Letting go of they have a baggage we often is hard, but possible.

  • @suekaiser4163

    @suekaiser4163

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes, My mother is still still alive, and at 95 she still does very hurtful things to me, so I am now no contact with her. My baggage has never been addressed until now. It was always been fixing what was "wrong with me" medicating my depression, and getting functional. This is the first time I have been able to address my pain and the source of it. I do feel hope I will have peace, finally. Thank you for your kind response Sandra. You are an inspiration and a treasure.You have had a hard, but very successful and interesting life, thank you for sharing. I pray for you too, that your later years are filled with peace and joy that you deserve.❤❤❤

  • @susanbilawchuk1192
    @susanbilawchuk11922 жыл бұрын

    Dear Sandra…. I would love to hear more on your relationship with your kids. Advice you’ve given them, how you show your love to them , and maybe any regrets you may have in how you built your relationship through the years with them. Thank you for today… my good deed today…. Letting an older lady at the back of the line at my Covid booster shot clinic go first. She was so happy 😀 so was I ❤️

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for thinking about a topic that I might be able to address. How wonderful it was for you to do that act of kindness to the older woman. I really appreciate your sharing that.

  • @maywww
    @maywww2 жыл бұрын

    That's so true, Sandra! My parents were abusive, emotionally and physically, when I was little. Even after I left them and started my own life, I made so many mistakes by hanging with toxic friends and staying in abusive relationships for too long. I didn't know I didn't deserve being mistreated until I got older and learned more about psychology. Now I am in total control of my own life and would not let anybody take it away from me :)) I tried forgiveness but it didn't work for me. So, I came to terms with it by forgiving myself not to forgive :))

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sorry you had to go through that as a child. It does leave scars and influences our decisions as adults. I’m so happy that you have found happiness at this time in your life. Thanks for sharing Mel

  • @lindahostetler4572
    @lindahostetler45722 жыл бұрын

    Thanks once again Sandra,for reminding us that we matter 🧡😊

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @barb987
    @barb9872 жыл бұрын

    Did not have parents that were warm and fuzzy, but my dear favorite aunt was. When she’d tuck us in at sleepovers, she’d always plant a kiss on us kids. Very endearing. Thanks Aunt Boo Boo! Love you!

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    How beautiful. I had an ass like that as well but she died when I was a little girl. I loved her so much

  • @christinadaggett6024
    @christinadaggett60242 жыл бұрын

    I agree with you. Sometimes how we were treated when we were young, keeps us from becoming who we are meant to be. I've finally been able to let go of my mother's rejection of me, and am able to move foward with more confidence, to lead a more fullfilling life.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    So true

  • @sandyaichner5905
    @sandyaichner59052 жыл бұрын

    Dear Sandra, I love your openness and wisdom. Every time I watch your videos I learn, laugh, and understand more deeply. 🥰

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much Sandy

  • @hurstjames6196

    @hurstjames6196

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello 👋how're you doing today hope you're safe over there?

  • @nigella4me
    @nigella4me2 жыл бұрын

    Sandra, my father was the same way. He took care of his family but never said I love you to me until about a year before his death. As I grew up I would see my cousins and friends get hugs and kisses from their fathers and I always envied them. He was basically a cold person who tended to say unkind things and who was not that easy to get along with. It took years to finally accept that that's just who he was, but at age 66 I still wonder what it would be like to have the memories of a loving father who hugged, kissed, and made me feel like he loved me. And I ended up getting married twice to men who very similar to him in character. Thankfully I'm no longer in those marriages. But, life goes on and that's just the way it was. It no longer upsets me, but I do wonder. As always, I enjoy your wonderful videos.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    For sharing your thoughts on what we’re talking about today in this video. Surprisingly I have found that there are a lot of us there who have had a similar relationships with their fathers

  • @janebrady3906
    @janebrady39062 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Sandra for a wonderful start to the day with your wise wisdom🧐💕🙏😊

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @SuperRiverQueen
    @SuperRiverQueenАй бұрын

    My dad never said he loved me and I only remember him hugging me once in his older years. I would hug him. I am 70 and I can relate with so many things you have gone through. I too had a first marriage that ended with my husband dying prematurely but by suicide. But thank God my faith like you has gotten me through so much and you my dear Sandra is one of those ways God is using now. God bless you. ❤️🙏❤️

  • @suzita4019
    @suzita40192 жыл бұрын

    My Parents that raised me adored me. I love them with all of my heart. They are very special to me

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful!

  • @dori9024
    @dori90242 жыл бұрын

    Living in the past and dwelling on our mistakes only paralyzed us in the future. At this stage of my life in my senior years I intend to live my best life. Sure I have regrets, but those regrets were lessons and made me the independent woman I am today. Because at the end of the day we are our own best friend. As a best friend we handle with care, love and encouragement. Stay safe my friend and keep sharing your pearls of wisdom,

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love your post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

  • @mikedenison121

    @mikedenison121

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi 👋 Dori .

  • @TheRubyFeline
    @TheRubyFeline2 жыл бұрын

    Sandra, what you're describing is mother wound and father wound. And yes, virtually every single person on this planet has them. Sadly, almost no one heals them, ending up perpetuating and passing down these paradigms generation after generation. People form relationships wound-to-wound instead of soul-to-soul, trying to compensate for what they weren't given in childhood. Healing of course is possible and more people should know about it.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much for your thoughts on this topic and joining in on the conversation. I loved your observation

  • @theelizzie5547
    @theelizzie55472 жыл бұрын

    Good morning 🙏 🌄 enjoy your videos. You have a soothing nice voice and good energy....thank you for sharing wisdom. Have a blessed day..... Miss Lizzie from beautiful Az

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you and blessings your way

  • @beulahbenade4098
    @beulahbenade40982 жыл бұрын

    You've touched on one of my favourite topics to ponder : How past events shaped us. Once one is aware of these things, one can make peace, I think, sometimes, with these traumas. But boy, there are some traumas that just won't ease up. I so wish I could just FORGET the hurt. You're looking very beautiful today. I'm so happy that you have one of your children nearby. I stayed across the road from my parents ... and was able to be with them right to the end of their lives. Something I'll always be grateful for. In fact, you have become just as precious to me as my parents were. Meeting you on KZread every week is just like visiting my parents regularly. I cherish it.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Beulah, what a kind and wonderful thing to say in your comment. I really enjoy spending time with you too. I am happy you enjoyed this conversation

  • @earthgoddess2468
    @earthgoddess24682 жыл бұрын

    You are a lady of wisdom thank-you.Blessing to you

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @aureliadasilva7884
    @aureliadasilva78842 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for such beautiful words. You are a blessing 😘

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much.

  • @helennesbitt4081
    @helennesbitt40812 жыл бұрын

    Good morning Sandra both my parents were not huggers but my grandmother was. I now always tell my grown children I love them and give a hug. Like everyone else I knew my parents loved me and the other 6 kids in our family. Have a good day and thank you 😊

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I love to hug my children because I wasn’t .

  • @marianneellman480
    @marianneellman4802 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Sandra for your words of wisdom. That is nice for you to have your daughter moving closer🌟💕👏👏 That will be lovely for you both.! We never stop learning do we... To actually slow down and ponder ,how our past experiences have shaped us and our beliefs... This world tries to tell us who we SHOULD be, but worth the effort to figure out ,who we are..🌻 And how who we become effects others,for good,or bad... May you enjoy your week. And many thanks Big hugs..xx

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I am excited to have her near.

  • @mikedenison121

    @mikedenison121

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Marianne Ellman, How’re you doing

  • @lindadow8531
    @lindadow85312 жыл бұрын

    Have to forgive yourself and others and move on. Can't change the past. Love yourself and enjoy every day. Love your channel. Helping others. Life is a gift.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes. It’s true

  • @mariamachado3371
    @mariamachado33712 жыл бұрын

    My childhood was not bad I can say that we were poor bur with enough to eat. Now I am not rich but I have enough to live better than my parents and with all that technology I have learned much more than I ever thought, even still not knowing for sure who am I, i can say most of the time I feel happy in mines 75. Thank you dear Sandra when I see your videos it,s like your are talking to me😊🙏

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic Maria. So nice to hear from you and I think we all are a work in progress

  • @michellediekman4873
    @michellediekman48732 жыл бұрын

    You look so Elegant and Stunning😙 You are so right about the past. I wasn't raised by either parent. My Mothers Parents raised me from 3 weeks old. Of Course my Grandparents are long gone. God Bless you Dear Lady, I wish Everything Good for you and Arthur And your loved ones 😙💖❤💖❤💖🐕🐕

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Michelle thank you so much for sharing your story with us. Thank you for being here.

  • @patsy6589
    @patsy65892 жыл бұрын

    Oh Boy, my dad. Took us years before we could get close and express our love, long after my many bad decisions as a teenager and beyond. But I miss him and the love he had for me, my husband and our children. He turned out to be the best grandparent anyone could wish for. Go figure. My children and I reminisce all the time about how funny he was and how lucky we were to enjoy his company for so long.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Patsy that’s very interesting. Because my father was the same way. He was so great with my children. So mysterious.

  • @Lisa-bk2wm
    @Lisa-bk2wm2 жыл бұрын

    I just love this. Thank you so much ❤️

  • @coachzaynab355
    @coachzaynab3552 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this ❤️

  • @gloriayouchisonbrown7734
    @gloriayouchisonbrown77342 жыл бұрын

    Such a great topic of conversation, yes sometimes it takes almost a lifetime to undo what We were taught or we have gone through, so interesting 🌹

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your thoughts Gloria mobile

  • @angietiller2332
    @angietiller23322 жыл бұрын

    I love this message! You are so wise, thank you. 💕

  • @doveandolive1153
    @doveandolive11532 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful words of wisdom Sandra. I'm sure many of us don't realize how our childhood has shaped our adult years and why we are the way we are. Thanks for giving us something to ponder about over the next couple of days🤔❤ Have a wonderful 😊 day!

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much for lending your voice to this conversation

  • @hurstjames6196

    @hurstjames6196

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello 👋how're you doing today hope you're safe over there?

  • @denisebristol6578
    @denisebristol65782 жыл бұрын

    You are a wonderful person,thank you

  • @ld3507
    @ld35072 жыл бұрын

    Amen Sister! Know Thyself!! Ty for another needed subject😘

  • @pattyallbritton931
    @pattyallbritton9312 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Sandra!

  • @a1rn2001
    @a1rn20012 жыл бұрын

    Congratulations 🍾🎈🎊!!! You have an awesome channel and so deserve reaching this milestone! Celebrate you!

  • @NatashaRaisorGlam
    @NatashaRaisorGlam2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this advice. I am going to use it🌸

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your time with us today

  • @mariannesternevik5445
    @mariannesternevik54452 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Sandra 🙏💞🌈 and for all your wise thoughts 🌸🥰

  • @trishmorningstar1897
    @trishmorningstar18972 жыл бұрын

    Excellent!!! Thank You!

  • @Lavender-doll
    @Lavender-doll2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for so much inspiration. Much to think about and pass on…

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @planetterraart
    @planetterraart2 жыл бұрын

    Glad I found you. Very inspiring!

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I am happy that you found me also

  • @janithmathews4195
    @janithmathews41952 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for all the good advice and for sharing your own experiences.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @barbarella1235
    @barbarella123511 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this wonderful advice! Important to Know Who are you! ❤️

  • @michd5471
    @michd54712 жыл бұрын

    I am grateful for you.

  • @divamori
    @divamori2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this important information regarding AGE. 🙏

  • @carolegeddes998
    @carolegeddes9982 жыл бұрын

    How lovely you are, Sandra. Thank you for your excellent videos. So many wise and heartfelt words.This tugged at my heart. Everyone should forward this to their best friend and their daughter.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much

  • @karolmolpus9536
    @karolmolpus95362 жыл бұрын

    Blessings, thank you❣️

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @mysticmermaid3923
    @mysticmermaid39232 жыл бұрын

    Sandra you are a beautiful lady inside and out and such an inspiration 🌻

  • @samiraahmed9793
    @samiraahmed97932 жыл бұрын

    Sandra انا احبك كثيرا واسفه لاني لا أجيد اللغة الانجليزيه حتى استطيع ان اكتب لكى واعبر عن إعجابي بك والمواضيع المهمه التى تتناوليها انا الان في تكساس وإنشاء الله عندما أجيد الانجليزي سوف اتواصل معك واتي لزيارتكم فأنا معجبه بك والهمتيني بمواضيعك الجميله شكرا ليك على جهودك واتمنى من الله ان يعطيك الصحه والعافية وطول العمر love ❤️ you Sandra

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so very much

  • @yomnamorchid5560
    @yomnamorchid55602 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your words I really needed to hear this. God bless you.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks and blessings your way.

  • @cmkarma5554
    @cmkarma55542 жыл бұрын

    This topic i can relate thank you Sandra I hope you are having a great week ❤️

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I hope you have a great week as well

  • @CarolynSimpleLife
    @CarolynSimpleLife2 жыл бұрын

    Sandra probably one of the best messages I have heard in a very long time:) THANKS so much.🌻🌻🌻

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I’m so happy that you enjoy this today. Thank you for letting me know

  • @skimbok896
    @skimbok8962 жыл бұрын

    Sandra thank you for this, I have recently shed the shackles of trying to gain the approval of my father for who I am and what I have achieved. As a child being called scruffy and mental by my father left a feeling of not being good enough and accepting anything to fit in with others, just to be normal. When feeling undermind in front of my own children by my father, at the age of 55, enough was enough and I made the decision to distance myself. I am now finding myself and realising that I can do anything. I look back at my childhood photos and realised I was actually quite pretty but at the time that was not how I felt. My mother was my biggest supporter, although undermind and physically abused by my father. I love your words of wisdom. Thank you again for this lovely talk, Shara 😊xx

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. Abuse like that, mental abuse when we are young is hard to shake. Good for you to distance yourself

  • @judysimpson2990
    @judysimpson29902 жыл бұрын

    You are so inspiring…. Love your warmth

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for letting me know

  • @helanieverster8155
    @helanieverster81552 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely stunning video, you are wonderful Sandra💐🌷🌹🌼🌸🌺🪷🌻

  • @juliabailey3447
    @juliabailey34472 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful talk from you today love it when you talk about life x I needed to hear this today x Love to Arthur x

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much

  • @maryriseling209
    @maryriseling2092 жыл бұрын

    Hi Sandra I so enjoy hearing your words of wisdom I so identify when you were talking about your parents and school experiences! Thank you so much it makes sense now that I'm older

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I think it’s much easier to have hindsight isn’t it

  • @theresaconley5930
    @theresaconley59302 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this encouragement!

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Theresa

  • @INSIDEBEAUTYwiththeoldgirl
    @INSIDEBEAUTYwiththeoldgirl2 жыл бұрын

    Hi Sandra, I am from that era where parents did not say I love you, you just knew they did. The way that affected me I made a very conscious effort to be the opposite so I told my kids that I love them every day since they were born and we still do it. The result of that is that I have very loving affectionate grown children who have raised their children the same way and they never have a conversation with me without telling me they love me. My dad died when I was 30 but my Ma is still here. She never could spit the words out I love you until she was until I was in her 70’s but she hasn’t stopped saying it since. Much love to you Sandra, Sheila

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    I saw the video with your two sons and I know that is absolutely so true.

  • @bellec4453
    @bellec44532 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your wise words and teachings this is so true to be curious about the world around us but most importantly to be curious about us 😊🌷❤️

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Let’s hope we never lose our curiosity

  • @rafaelschulz6264
    @rafaelschulz62642 жыл бұрын

    Fantastic really good podcast.

  • @betsyr4724
    @betsyr47242 жыл бұрын

    You are a wise woman. Thank you

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @margarettownsley9500
    @margarettownsley95002 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Sandra your amazing x

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @michelekurlan2580
    @michelekurlan25802 жыл бұрын

    ❤️ Thankyou Sandra. Luv your hair style /side part.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @blurp2615
    @blurp26152 жыл бұрын

    You are so wise Miss Sandra! Love to hear you!

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @boots4mylord1
    @boots4mylord12 жыл бұрын

    You are heaven sent. Thank you from my depths. I just discovered you today and I'll be lingering in this warm place. So welcoming, so wise! 💗

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Welcome and I’m so happy that you found me. Please enjoy our community here

  • @valeriebrodie7135
    @valeriebrodie71352 жыл бұрын

    Hi Sandra, I loved your post. I found your words wise and insightful, and it is uplifting. You look amazing btw, Love Valerie. xx

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for watching today Valerie

  • @beautybeyond9420
    @beautybeyond94202 жыл бұрын

    I so agree with you Sandra, I think the importance of telling our children we love them. I tell my children and grandchildren all the time I love them, but I show them as well. Love without action, is just a word….Much love my beautiful friend…Bella xxxx🌹

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much my friend. I appreciate your spending some time with me today

  • @annakoufou4561
    @annakoufou45612 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ! so beautiful! with respect!

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much

  • @mammamia200
    @mammamia2005 ай бұрын

    Thank you Sandra. This is so true about our fathers. My story is a bit much to put here but its very unique. I love your videos no matter if they’re old or new. Your a wonderful inspiration. Thank you again!

  • @sherrymiller7709
    @sherrymiller77092 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I love this message from you today an the comment are also beautiful and helpful.💞

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much Sherry

  • @laurab8450
    @laurab84502 жыл бұрын

    This was lovely, Sandra, & so important. Wonderful to hear your thoughts.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @NelCooper
    @NelCooper2 жыл бұрын

    This was just what I needed to hear. I’m glad you have your daughter near by. You are SO lucky. Thanks Sandra. I love you ! ❤️❤️❤️ Give my LOVE to Arthur. 🥰

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much

  • @lindawentink2725
    @lindawentink27252 жыл бұрын

    I love listening to you Sandra. Appreciate your gentle wisdom🤗🙏

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much

  • @rosemarie6545
    @rosemarie65452 жыл бұрын

    Excellent advice, dear Sandra.🙂 I'm starting my list now!

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great news! Best of luck

  • @lunainnyc6619
    @lunainnyc66192 жыл бұрын

    Hello! You crossed my path today. Thank you for what you do and your wisdom. 🤗

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for stopping by!

  • @tamathagilbert5816
    @tamathagilbert58162 жыл бұрын

    Warm and kind greetings for a good morning and Blessed week Sandra. This video is beautifully personable, and relatable, and it's impact really resonates powerfully. Wisdom, grace, curiosity, kindness, self care, honesty, hope, humor, positive encouragement, and life changing transparency about life and living. Wonderful:)! I can and do relate to it all. Great conversation:)! 🙏😊🎀♥️👍

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    So much for your thoughts Tamatha

  • @tamathagilbert5816

    @tamathagilbert5816

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@lifewithsandrahart Thank you for your kind response Sandra:). Enjoy a Blessed week and enjoy a lovely valentine's weekend.🎀😊

  • @janonthelam3418
    @janonthelam34182 жыл бұрын

    You are so right Sandra! I am doing my level best not to pass my matching set of luggage and travel trunk to my two daughters. I believe we must honestly share our past with our adult children in the hopes that they are able to live their best suitcase-free lives. 💖🇨🇦🥜

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    So well put. Thank you

  • @christelnielandt5117
    @christelnielandt51172 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ... for many years I felt weird, strange and honestly I still feel I do not fit in this society. That’s how I feel. Listening to you lifts my spirits. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom 🙏❤️🙏

  • @lisamohammed8075
    @lisamohammed80752 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing your positive vibes and may God continue to bless you 🙏

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Blessings your way and nice to have you here

  • @marybarratt2649
    @marybarratt26492 жыл бұрын

    I agree wholeheartedly with all you are saying. I can identify with it all. Thank you Sandra.

  • @lifewithsandrahart

    @lifewithsandrahart

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching Mary

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