I agree 100% with you. I am an openly Gay male with effeminate qualities and I have had similar discussions with my friends about this topic. My views are the same as yours. If you are born a male....you will NEVER be a "biological" female....which is why I think the terms "Transgender" or "Transsexual" make perfect sense. If you are taking hormones and live as a woman, that's fine. I have no issue with it at all. What is happening in the world today is "People are confusing what they are with HOW THEY FEEL " and the 2 concepts are different. If a White person grows up in an African American neighborhood, and has been exposed to Black culture their whole life...they may feel like they are Black....but the reality is: they are a White person who identifies with Black culture, and there is nothing wrong with that at all. How you feel AND what you are should BOTH be respected, but it is important to know that the 2 concepts are NOT the same. A 50 year old may "feel" like they are 21....but the reality is they are still 50!!! And there is nothing wrong with being 50!!! Embrace your truth and love yourself for who you REALLY are!!!

Your realness and rawness is so refreshing. I love this.

PLEASE READ..! I am I highly Trans-phobic person...BUT I am also open to learning and have been trying to educate myself on this topic so I can form a non bias opinion for myself...! Let me tell you this...after 2 or more years of research and asking thousands questions and watching hundreds of videos YOU are the FIRST person that made this make topic make sense for me...I FINALLY at least understand your point of view..! TyTYTYTY for helping me understand your situation...I have written hundreds of GOD awFul, hateful comments about your community BUT that will all stop...! All I ever wanted was a non bias explanation like you did do...! I don't know how to put this in words but I'll try....I think the problem was every time I saw a trans person they were completely over the top...it would be like being introduced to the gay community and only seeing the most flaming flamboyant men and thinking that was the entire community. You took on these very difficult topics and nailed them for me at least. You are the first trans person I've seen with an understanding of other people's dilemmas and issues with the lifestyle. Thank you again I hope I was able to put on paper what I really was trying to say...basically you should be the poster person for the trans community. I get it now..!

@boperez2841

4 жыл бұрын

That's great :)

I just want to thank you, Elle, for speaking about this subject so openly. I don't think I've come across anyone on KZread doing it, with your point of view. :) I am dating a transgender girl and we've both been following you for a while now. I think I can speak in both of our names when I say it is really sad that you can easily get shunned from the transgender community solely for speaking about facts. Just because you were, factually, born a male, doesn't mean anything bad. Now-a-days everyone seem to be so damn sensitive about political correctness and whatnot. Everyone is triggered when someone say something that is obvious. I mean, goddamn! As far as the whole thing with "assigned male/female at birth" goes, if someone wishes to use that terminology, they should be free to do so, but if they want to say "I was born a male/female, and I transitioned." they just as well have the right to word it in that way. Or any other, for that matter. It's *that* person's identity. Not someone else's. Getting irritated now, thinking about how a great deal of transgender people feel about this issue. Just wanted to say this series of videos was refreshing to watch! I think my girlfriend and you would have an interesting time having conversations about subjects like these!

@SuccyChanx3

7 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't even try going into the issue that the tumblr community has. Most are SJWs, and that kind of attitude isn't helping anyone, sadly.

@rimms

7 жыл бұрын

Blaire White does also.

@maryhulquist7937

2 жыл бұрын

hi

@maryhulquist7937

2 жыл бұрын

yes

@maryhulquist7937

2 жыл бұрын

can you change me in a girl

I just want to say one thing: I just love how honest you are with the fact that you were born a male. Some other transgender people would be offended if someone would bring that thing into discussion. Every transgender should be as open as you are! So keep it up!

Your comments are appreciated because they have a lot of common sense and intelligence. do not worry about those who feel offended and attack you because there are going to be more of us who are going to help and support you, love, happiness and blessings for you and those around you

this is so powerful !!! you are 100% right . I am a transfemale as well but I am biologically male..... I have hated this so much about me and its been so painful for me in the past . The gender dysphoria has caused me to hate my body so much .... hormones has only changed a very small part of my body .... but i am extremely masculine ... my shoulders are broad even for a man and my hips are so narrow ..... but this is who I am and i can't run away from it .. in a way I see myself as the third gender both male and female .

Love how rational and logical you are. We need more voices like yours! Love You!

I never really thought about this like that but i agree you do have logical point. If biological sex and gender are two separate things then it shouldn't be as big of an issue as some people put it out to be. You can accept that you are biologically a male/female and not identify with the gender that traditionally correlates with the sex you were assigned. The longer you deny it the more it will weigh on you but if you accept your biology and you know that your biological sex doesn't define your gender identity than you can try to embrace all aspects of who you are and where you came from. Don't just love who you are but love who who were because only you know how you struggled and what you went through to discover who you are, that person you were when you were struggling needs and deserves to be loved just as much as who you are now.

I love your rational thinking, some people will always be offended by the obvious truth.

@maryanne4288

7 жыл бұрын

People LOVE when transgender people say, "I'll always be naturally female. I'll always be naturally male." They fuckin' love it. It's a great way to manipulate non-trans people into liking us. And it works. lol They think, "Oh wow, that's new. They must have a good head on their shoulders. They're soooo realistic!" lol We deserve a Emmy award for some of the shit that comes out of our mouth....

@lottevikar4063

7 жыл бұрын

mary anne If it makes you feel better, we can hand you an Emmy. but from a realistic point of view, people appreciate trans persons who don't deny their biological nature, despite the fact that they feel otherwise and make plenty of efforts to match their soul and personality with their body. it's admirable to see that and kudos to them for sharing this part with the rest of us. it makes us see them exactly as the strong persons they​ are and respect them more and more. if you're spending your time trying to manipulate the 'masses' and lead them into liking you, maybe it's time to reflect deeply upon your existence.

@littlebit080780

7 жыл бұрын

I agree , I'm a trans woman , BUT I don't really see the relevance or usefulness of going around pointing out to everyone that biologically I'm male. How is it meaningful or useful in any way ? And after I walk into Burger King and tell everyone the "harsh reality" that I am biologically male , What are people supposed to DO with this information? Help me ? Hurt me? Or what ?

@lesbianlifexx9022

7 жыл бұрын

Because not to, is lying. Not to anyone but yourself. Nobody and I do mean NOBODY truly buys the I AM A WOMAN IN A MAN'S BODY shite...they are being NICE and agreeing to keep you from being HURT. If you aren't clocked, and I highly doubt it, because even drag queens show their maleness at 20 paces, why would you disclose your identity anyway. However, I doubt you are stealth, it's always those who think he looks like a woman that really don't.

@brooke1639

7 жыл бұрын

lopi your question/argument to Lesbian Nation is totally illogical. The same could easily be asked of heterosexual people, or asking some men how could they be misogynist when men and women are both conceived through an egg and sperm, or xenophobics how can they hate other ethnicities when we are all from the human race. More to the point why must Gay Lesbian Trans and every label other than heterosexual be continually put into and automatically assumed to be part of a LGBT community. Some people are Gay or Lesbian and don't want to assign themselves to a 'community'. They are who they are. Doesn't being in some 'community' based purely on your sexual preference or gender/gender identity defeat the whole notion of not being singled out/ treated differently. You are willingly grouping and categorising yourself on the very part of your identity that you say is stigmatising/differentiating you. Kind of inciting and perpetuating the whole idea that you are suppressed or discriminated against. People can be gay and lesbian without having to mandatory be part of a group or community. People can be gay or lesbian and even be homophobic or non supportive of LGBT, just as non white people can be racist towards white people, and their own or other racial groups. Because people are people first and foremost regardless of how others want to pigeonhole them. You can't assume that just because you read and deduced one facet of someone being similar to another, that they will now fall into a shared community, that's ignorant and naive.

I like that opinion, however I understand saying the "assigned sex at birth" phrase, because some people just don't want to be seen as trans, they just want to be normal people normally functioning in society. You being able to say "I'm a woman, but also physically a male" is amazing, because it means that you are extremely aware and comfortable with who you are. Good for you!

Self acceptance is a wonderful thing. I honestly wish you the best. Female and feminine are not the same thing. You are very feminine.

It's bewildering to hear someone who's not inside you telling you who YOU need to be. Cis people will rarely understand. If they do they are blessed.

to be honest, you are the only transgender person that I actually like and respect (I will probably get hate for this comment). you're completely honest, down to earth, telling the truth, not giving it fancy etiquette, and what's most important, you're true to yourself. you're stating the facts. I hate that transgender has become "trendy" and "in your face". if trans people were more like you - saying it is what it is, I wouldn't feel that awkward trying to understand those individuals.

The courage and decency to embrace and acknowledge reality, is the only way to gain acceptance from rational, honest people. If trans have any insights to teach us, we will value that, and maybe we can figure out how to think about this phenomenon. Kudos to you Elle.

I agree with you. Who the hell do they think they are to tell you your not allowed to say you were born a boy.

Do you, boo boo! You're amazing, honest, and open minded. I love that you think for yourself and form your own opinions in so many hard and heavy topics. I'm just your regular, run of the mill, born female, living female woman, but I love being able to watch and learn from videos like this one. Your transparency and genuineness are refreshing. 💗

elle is announcing to the world she will always be male, from one transgender to another, we all know we are born male.the point of being transgender is living our life as female, not debating whether we are male or female, we get the female label on our ids so that conservatives dont discriminate on us for being girly boys.elle seems to think we are delusional when we call our selves female, we only call ourselves female so that we can fit in society as women as the labek of effeminate man is looked down on by conservatives in society

You have been hiding behind an amazing illusion - what do you wish for us to believe in? "First principle: You must not fool yourself-- and you are the easiest person to fool." Richard Feynman.

It's good to see more Western transwomen challenging the 'trans narrative' (which, by the way, erases a whole subset, those who are exclusively attracted to men from childhood, aka HSTS or transkids). The orthodoxy is predicated on everyone accepting Post-modernist relativism in all things, including hard facts. That is incredibly damaging and needs to be resisted by non-trans people, but most importantly, trans people. The reason is that -- contrary to what activists say -- most of us are actually very agreeable and tend to be quiet when we hear someone spouting obvious tripe, because we are, basically, 'making allowances'. Trans people should be accepted on a square footing across society but that has to be on the basis of telling the truth about themselves. You cannot ask society to accept obvious pie-in-the-sky, like 'biological sex does not exist', in order to better accept a minority; the minority has to be accepted in terms of truth and reality. At the moment it's akin to calling Uncle Freddy 'Napoleon' cause it placates him. Is that how trans people want to be seen? Patronised, regarded as being not quite 'all there'? Because their own activists have made that happen. So this video and others like it are a hundred times more important than the drivel spouted by activists like Serano, in getting trans people themselves to be accepted. Well done and more power to you.

I appreciate the honesty. So refreshing.

You seem so much happier and in a better mental spot than when I started watching your videos years ago. You've definitely grown and that is admirable☺️

@Kenzi24

7 жыл бұрын

Also I just have to mention that you have insanely beautiful bone structure. I love your hair up cause it shows that off

We cannot control how we were born. All we can control is what happens after we are born.

I don't usually comment on videos, but I have been screaming through this whole video. Amen sister! Say it louder for the people in the back! Thank you thank you thank you for being real on this subject! Much love and respect!

I love your honesty. I'm not transgender but I accept everyone for who they are. You're a beautiful person.

I just wanted to let you know that you are fast becoming someone i look up to, you share and talk about things that most people shy away from and give your real thoughts about things, you dont just say what everyone else is saying so you dont rock the boat. I love the fact you dont hide your true feelings in these videos and i hope one day i can open up about my feeling like you do. 😊😊Ellen 😊😊

Elle - do what ya wanna do.

Part 3 is my favorite, Elle! As a MTF transsexual, I have embraced the fact that I will always have a male side, and I am at peace with it. To do otherwise would be denying a part of myself. My chosen name is Lisa-Marie...the Marie part of my first name is a nod to my male side.

@ElleStone

7 жыл бұрын

How wonderful! Thanks for sharing your experience. I wish you well. ❤️❤️

@lisa-mariesexton7533

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Elle!

You are such a wonderful presence.

When I transitioned my mother once said I was more 'masculine' than I had ever been before. I said I was more 'me'.

Well people who have scientifically male bodies, could still consider their body to be female, some people feel like they are comfortable with their biology, and fully consider their bodies to be female. Stef Sanjati explained it perfectly clearly in her coming out video.

I just love you and you said it perfectly when you said it would totally invalidate your transition! Your completely right about everything and the fact that you know and accept these things you talked about shows how happy you are now and your not ashamed. Luv u girl!!!!💟

Elle, I can put in words how much you're helping me in so many different themes you talk in your vídeos!! The fact that you can openly talk about everything and in a such downearth and fresh and simply way, vídeo after vídeo I can feel the possitive energy, I accept myself more every day, and no one ever make feel and realized all this things.... So, thank you for everything you are making and sharing with us, and specially I can't thank you enough for the motivation and changes you inspire in my life!!! Love you so much Elle 💝 Namasté 💜 My soul honor your soul!

Elle. I just came across your videos today for the first time and I am very proud of you and your opinions. I believe you are right on target with everything you say, and think that your voice is one that brings much sense to the transgender community. I am 53 and have lived trans for 24 yrs. So many people in the community are off themselves and sometimes make me cringe in their philosophies, However I enjoy your thoughts and hope you always share your opinion, as both the trans and cis communities could find value in your wisdom! Love ya Girl, Keep your word going! It is valuuable and worthwhile! Cheryl

You should be proud of yourself because you survived your journey and now ou came to accept yourself and have have a positive outlook on the experience we all need that regardless of you gender or your issue with yourself , we all have issues weight ,a scare, a birthmark what ever it is you have to get to a point where you are okey with it and move on this is beautiful very inspiring

Be who you are, whatever you are and be happy. That is what matters. I think you explained it very well. Biologically you were a male and now you are a gorgeous female.

You have every right to speak your opinion. I admire you for being so strong and standing up for what you believe in. I have learned so much from in so many ways and I Thank you for it. Peace and Love 💜🌸

THANK YOU +Elle Stone. You are 100% speaking the logical truth.

I was born male too. To say otherwise would be denying that the boy I was born as existed, which he/I did. I can understand some people wanting to disown their former self, but even so, just because you didn't like something you can say it never happened or never existed. It'd be like someone saying World War 2 never happened or 9/11 never happened or the chicken never crossed the road...if it happened, it happened and nothing can change that. I'm not ashamed of how I was born and I'm not ashamed of being transgender...and why should I?

@CarbonUnitX

7 жыл бұрын

The Neon Chimp Channel The way I see it, I was always me. Of course I was born female but since identifying as a girl makes a girl, I was never a girl/she. If I ever pass I don't intend to go stealth, I'm proudly trans, but to me my "past life" was just a part of this life where I lived a lie and suffered. I was female only because I could not change that. It happened but not embracing it and not wanting others to bring it up is hardly denial. Especially if one does choose to go stealth. I do agree with her that she's allowed to address her biological maleness as much as she wants and that's not an offense against anyone. My biological femaleness to me is as irrelevant to most things in life as the colour of my eyes. The only difference is that my eyes have never caused me so much grief. I think we're all primarily human beings and neither sex nor gender should matter to anyone but ourselves or people were intimate with.

Keep being you Elle, being so open and asking the really important questions. Your thoughts and opinion do matter and those with love in their hearts not fear will listen.

Exactly! Thank you.

Truth! Your words brought me to tears honestly because it's so important to be able to love and accept yourself fully. ...And not only if you're Trans, but any gender. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, much love 😊💞

your voice is awesome! it's so soft. it makes me sleepy😂

It's so great that you make these videos! I've learnt so much from them, plus it's great that someone dares to say this, even though one might be accused of completely ridiculous things in the current society.

If you feel like a women, and have gone through the stages that is all that matters, again you look better with your hair up and you have great cheek bones

Thankfully there are trans people like you that sound rational. The other kind just makes everyone angry trying to push nonsense that is not a scientifically correct.

I am with you all of the way Elle. I was born as a male too, even though I am transitioning from a mtf person. I don't care what other people have to say to me, and hunny, I am proud of you as well for not letting these uneducated and ignorant people bother you from your independent thoughts and upbringing too, because afterall hunny, all mtf persons were all born as males, and that's why they transition into becoming females but they are willingly ignorant to deny the fact that they were all born as males as well. Hang in there sweetie pie, you're true sisters are all with you and you are not alone either. I think your adorably beautiful sweetheart. Your Sister and Friend, Angela Holly Dahl.

people must let their partners aware they are trans. if people dont respect that, than people have no business being referred to the opposite sex.

It's so enlightening to hear this coming from you. A lot of transgender people find this very offending, but you can't hide the truth.

omg this is crazy! your room looks JUST like mine to a tee! same shade of purple, same fan, and same style of door this is so weird...

I dislike the majority of your videos that i've seen, but I really liked this one.

Well you always will be and im glad you know that.

I agree! You are so feminine and you look female and your whole way of being is female and I have never seen a man so in touch with hes inner emotions, reactions and so deep and real. Mature with so much insight. Think you are female from your soul. Have to be cool to know how it is to be boy, too! What a learning experience! Wouldn't think it would be so interesting, but I have watched so many of your videos lately and also a year ago, but mohst the older videos from the DID videos and mental videos. I have learned a lot. Thank you 😉! Have to say how fun it is to see the change in you! First I saw your pain, hurt, frustrations, you foght through life and talked about things many others wouldn't dare or was able to admit or even recognize in them selves. You made the taboo go away, the way you talked about negative emotions you admitted, in a so honest and adorable way... Don't know how else to describe it.. But to now see how more relaxed you are and mohst of all the joy and sparks in your eyes, is so amazing!!! 😍💖☺Wow, so nice to see! You have really came far with a lot of thinking and analyzing and stuff and it has been very emotional, cool, sad, heartbreaking, heart warming, interesting and lots of stuff, to follow your ups and downs on your jerny up until this video! Have never seen anyone with so much insight and understanding and nollage about so many different topics that you can relate to! You manage to say a lot without a lot of un nessesery extra talk. You are able to talk in a way that makes what you say intresting, and That's an art form, becaus so many profeshonals are so boring to listen to, that learning is something I won't volentarely do. You understand more than mohst therapists, shrinks, psychiatrist, in my oppinion! By making your videos, you also help some close minded people to realize that they shouldn't have been so judgemental! You help other people that wants to or are in the prosess of transitioning or different mental stuff and your videos really helps people understand and think of things from different points of view. So sure you have changed a lot of peoples thinking to the better! Now, enough bragging 😉! No, you deserve it! Lots of more good luck, to you! 😘🍀💎🌟🌞🌠🌱🌹👑👍👌👏🤘✌🤗😍😘💖💕

I love listening to you! Your voice is so soothing!

Well you could argue that there might be biological reasons for why we feel we need to transition. It's a theory of course. On the other hand, it's very simplistic to just look at biologically male and female. Biologists understand by now that physical sex is more complex. But I do get your point in a way, and I think it's fine to refer to yourself the way you want to.

I work with adolescents and a number of them identify with sexuality and gender labels that I've never heard of and can't even pronounce. As they grow up, I imagine they will land somewhere on the spectrum that is comfortable to them, but for now they seem to be trying everything out. One individual, 16 or 17, identifies as trans mtf and at this point is experimenting with clothing, female undergarments, going out in public, etc... He wasn't comfortable in his skin and his explorations caused family turmoil, homelessness, stress, depression, etc...so he lives in a group home now. If wearing a stuffed bra keeps him from killing himself, I will stuff it FOR him! And if he wants to be called she at some point, wtf is it to me? MY impulse with Elle would be to use "she" because she appears to be a (very attractive) woman. If Elle said "please use he," I wouldn't suddenly pull out a soapbox and tell her how to talk about herself. I'd just go along.

I can understand your point of view. I really like the picture quality. It looks like you are using an expensive camera.

I agree with you 💯 % couldn't have explain it any better! People want to forget how they where born. Makes no sense to me.

I LOVE You Truths & Realism ...THANK YOU for Sharing.

For me I never felt male. Even know my body was, it just felt my genital area was wrong and made my body develop male during puberty. So I always felt female born with male genital, and transitioning was the only way to fix and reverse what the testosterone had did. I know from research the genital is made first and then a few months later the brain develops. And for some resin our brain is desensitized to the hormone that made our genital. And stimulated by the other hormones makes our brains develop structurally and functionally the opposite. And that's what makes us transgender/transsexual when where born male of female.

@5770mp

5 жыл бұрын

Same here

This was great. I found this very gratifying.

Love your videos. I agree with you. Im getting ready to transition and i love myself as I am and i will as i wil be. Thanks for this video.

As long as you are happy, who the fuck cares what other think. There a Canadian toast that goes like this " Here's to you, and here's to me, and if we ever disagree...fuck it."

I agree 100%

I think this is more of a philosophical question Are you what biology and other preconceptions make you Or are you what you "Do", what you think you want to be

Omg thank u! Sex and gender are two VERY different things and people seem to use the two interchangeably! You can't change your chromosomes and genetics simple as that; but gender identity can be changed and is basically how you present yourself to the world, your characteristics and gender schema. I hate when people don't understand the words aren't synonymous when talking about development and identity

I get what you're saying but the question is are you your sex or your gender? I say we are our gender (how we identify in our mind) - I am not my reproductive organs. So I think you'd be better served to say you will always be female (referring to gender). It works against the trans community to say I will always be male because that's exactly what the opposition says about us and they'll use this to say - see, even a trans agrees with us.

You are the most beautiful biological male!

You say it as is, because you have a clear, rational, mind....for the life of me, I cannot understand why ANYONE would take offence!

Love this. You go girl. I support you completely! Thanks for helping us understand trans issues and being so independent and intelligent.

Androgyny is where progress is ! A balance ....where there is balance there is growth.

Omg.. Bless you. You're amazing xx

Ever since the whole situation with Caitlin Jenner I did a lot of research regarding Human Genetics cause I wanted to learn all about Genders and the Genetic Disorders that can take place regarding Biology. We all know Basic Genetics... 1. XY = Male 2. XX = Female Nevertheless, there are Genetic Disorders in which someone is Biologically a different Gender than what is on the outside. For example... 1. Hermaphrodite = either Male or Female depending upon the Chromosomes and Internal and/or External Organs. 2. De La Chapelle Syndrome (XX Male Syndrome) = Phenotypically Male, but Genetically Female as they have XX Chromosome with the Y basically non active, so they may look physically Male, but be genetically Female. 3. Klinefelters = more Biologically Female than Male as there's more X's that's added unto their single Y Chromosome, so instead of XY a Klinefelters person would present with XXY or XXXY or XXXXY ect. It's not known for sure why someone can be born with any of these three Genetic Disorders, but I suspect it could be a lack of Proper Nutrition in the Mothers Diet or Toxins in the Environment, but I'm not sure, it's just my theory.

So true!

This is one of the best videos on the subject I have seen. What you are saying is indeed very true. I think it is polite to accept someone how they project, but technically, your view is the correct one. I think what your view does is to give you peace because if someone does not understand it, you don't have to hate them. I tend to think people who struggle with this issue have a lot of difficulty getting it themselves, so it is hard to expect others to get it. I like your view. It is a balanced one.

you are really pretty and thank you for understanding and spreading this.

I agree like I know I'm always going to be male biological but I've have always experienced life in a trans woman experience and both are part of what makes me me it's ok to be honest

You are a wise person. Thank you for sharing!

You know, i my not agree with you changing your gender, but i do agree with you being honest with yourself. Love you for the person you are. Blessed be.

I really enjoy watching your videos, it's nice that you can stand tall voice your own opinion, regardless of all the haters from both sides, it's a sad world when you can't have your own opinion in fear of offending someone, especially when you are not trying to discriminate. All you are doing here is stating the facts point blank.

Your logic is perfect. I respect and like you very much. You're articulate and very generous with your philosophy. Good for you.

Hi again! :) Very interesting point of view and I'm glad that you are doing this internal growing up and healing from your past facing your demons. My personal case is that I was born female but most of the time I feel more male. I make comments a male normally would, I do activities normally males would do, I have a high sexual drive like many men (oops, maybe I should have kept that private lol) The thing is...I see myself and I think I look pretty as a female. I don't relate much as a female but I like to be biologically a female. Sometimes it's hard cause I feel like a male on the inside but I have nothing against my female body and biology either. I consider myself bigender. Both female and male. Keep growing. Keep finding your own identity and live your life the way you want. Hugs from Spain!

@AXharoth

7 жыл бұрын

thats great

@AXharoth

7 жыл бұрын

btw having high sex drive is not male or female thing

@LyricsCrashx3

7 жыл бұрын

GongsunXin I agree it really depends on the person.

I agree with your view

I feel like he's intentionally punishing himself, forcing himself to be a woman.

This is the best I've ever heard it put. Kuddos.

I totally agree.. very logical opinion. You're a beautiful person inside and out, I love your videos so much! thank you.

I get your perspective. I believe it is every trans person's goal to be passable. We all want to be addressed with the correct pronouns, but since the world is populated by so many bigots, the only way to guarantee that we will always get called the pronouns we want is to gain the ability to fool the bigots into thinking we are biologically the gender we transitioned into. I think some trans people try to force themselves to forget their past as the other gender, because they're frustrated with not fooling all bigots even after transition is complete. (I don't think this is true for you though. You are totally passable, IMO.) I dunno. I agree it's important to embrace what we used to be as a way of better loving ourselves as we are today. But not all trans folk see it that way. But as you said several times, we're all entitled to have opinions.

I agree. From what a wise man said, transsexualism is different for everyone. Our journey is different, our way of thinking of it is different, I mean even our idea of what we think it is, is different. Some people think it should be thought of this way where as others think it should be perceived in another. In my opinion if you are a transsexual, you make it what you think it should mean. Transsexualism has many meanings and interpretations. All ways of thinking are correct.

sorry this is so lame and random but where did you get that shirt!? where do you shop? I love your clothes

@roxslide

7 жыл бұрын

I agree with you though, all this policing is ridiculous to a point where it's really more harmful then good. people just seem to be interested in feeling morally superior and patting themselves on the back lately than being open to rational or thoughtful discussion

Is someone somewhere actually denying that a trans person was born biologically male/female? I'd like to see it because so far I haven't. The idea of saying "assigned male/female at birth" if it must be brought up in the first place is to make it less painful. That's it. Typically a trans person is changing everything they can about the body they were born with and especially what it became at puberty so it's not far fetched some of us might not want to be constantly reminded of what it was (or still is for us who still wait to get it fixed) or what can never be fixed, let alone be willing to repeat it over and over again. Good for you if you're comfortable doing that. Trying to avoid unnecessary dysphoria doesn't equal denial. Embracing feminine and masculine traits in one's personality or interests or whatever have nothing to do with their chromosomes. I for one don't feel I need to be proud of my shitty chromosomes that made me this way. Again, great for you if you can. Like you say, they don't define us.

IMO Transsexualism isnt a mental illness, but rather, an intersex condition of the brain. However, transsexualism can induce a mental illness known as gender dysphoria, which can lead to suicidal depression. Many trans woman who transitions early can pass without opting for any surgery. Some even forgo SRS due to its inhibiting costs, pain, and risk, or the idea of having implants inserted into your body that may leak or mold may grow. Even though I came out years ago at the age of 30, I still have not pursue any forms of surgery (only HRT thus far), but that has more to do with the cost of getting it done. People forget the staggering costs of actually getting access to these medical aids to help us deal with our gender dysphoria. I am lucky that since I am of East Asian origin, HRT alone is enough for me to pass to a reasonable extend facially, and physically, I am small. However, many trans women who came out at my age or much later struggles to find acceptance in society and to survive. *[[On the topic of public restrooms:]]* I am a transsexual woman and even I am not comfortable with allowing transvestites (e.g. crossdressing men, be it a hobby or a fetishistic ) to use the woman's bathroom with me. A show of the gender-psychiatrist "woman's letter" could certify if someone's a real trans-woman in the process of transition, and crossdressing men. There are good reasons why it is unsafe for trans-women using the men's bathroom (with actual reports of sexual assaults and rape), and why transmen shouldn't use the women's bathroom too. For awhile now, the SJWs have been trying to conflate transvestites with actual real transsexual woman, and were even supportive of crossdressing BDSM nutcases Stefonknee. Also, I'm a trans-woman, and I believe that there are only two genders. *[[To start, a bit of discussion on Transsexualism first:]]* The brain only develops significantly after the physical sex of a fetus have been decided in the first 13 weeks. Any disruption to the hormonal balance (or due to genetic insensitivity towards androgen, or other reasons) after which may result in a brain that significantly remains "female-type" even though the "sex" is that of male. If this "disruption" occurs within the first 13 or so weeks during gestation, the baby may be born intersex (having both male and female characteristics -- even though the brain may remain female or have significantly developed more towards male). In a sense transsexualism can perhaps be viewed as an type of extreme intersex condition of the genitalia w.r.t. to the brain. Why wrt to the "brain" and not the body? -- We can think about it this way, via a thought experiment. If a person's brain is transported and swapped with another person's, does the person's ego (sense of self-hood) gets transported with the brain or remain with the body? So this is how I explain why the gender identity of diagnosed transsexual people (male-to-female, or female-to-male) who identifies with their "gender" (that is incongruent to their "sex"), *since very early adolescence*, can be justified in this sense. Yes, there may also be those who are agender, or perhaps mentally "identify" that they fit somewhere in between (although I can't see how that will cause them to experience the same level of dysphoria that trans people experience); but none-withstanding all these are still *w.r.t.* to the *two* existing gender category regardless. The ad hoc introduction of 50 something "new" gender category is just INSANE! But He, She, or a simple addition of "They" (or just refer to the person by their name) do sound reasonable to me. --- I also believe in psychological/motivation-based "gate-keeping": i.e. people claiming to be trans should undergo proper psychiatric evaluation to ensure that they are not simply a confused transvestite/crossdresser first, which can then be used as a proper official document to justify their negotiated gender identity be recognized as such. Without proper "gate-keeping" by qualified gender-psychiatrist (which doesn't imply that transsexualism is a mental illness, but that it needs to be screened by an expert), those seeking to transition to the opposite sex to match their gender, but yet do not suffers INTENSE and PERSISTENT gender dysphoria SINCE ADOLESCENCE, WILL very likely end up regretting their decisions -- which may actually result in real gender dysphoria in confused non-trans people who have underwent transitioning, driving them into suicidal depression).

You are smart, and see things from a side many people don't want to and blind themselves with lies, you are very beautiful and I wish you happiness 🙂😘

Thanks for your help and support from what you said is very helpful .

I love the way you think I feel same way

You have a face beautiful as a female or a male....really, wow. I don't even know how to express it. I guess I'd agree with you saying that both of these aspects of you are beautiful at the same time and next to each other, not exclusively.

it would be awesome if you combined your videos regarding the subject of transgenderism and put them in the word form of a book. you have such clear thinking of the subject and a phenomenal way of explaining. a book could and would help others understand better. i, for one, would be first in line at your book signing.

I was born in male body but I've never been a man and I'll never be, even less now that my body is full of estrogen and my body doesn't resemble the one of a man at all.

I love your videos, thank you for sharing your journey ❤

This is great. Thank you for your honestly!

your eye brows are amazing here!!