9:48 "The more you're treated as if you don't know what you're talking about, the more you begin to question whether or not you do, in fact, know what you're talking about."

@carinsvoice

5 жыл бұрын

THIS. So much of this. We're discussing Imposter Syndrome at work and people treating you like this really feeds into it.

@raynechantel2738

5 жыл бұрын

I work at a power plant, maybe 20 women in all (not the office women) of operations and maintenance 250 men... I experience this everyday. I can determine what problem we are having and a possible solution then they wait for the guy on the next shift to come in, tell them the same thing- while he tells them how great he is and then it's settled- I know nothing and he flies in with his cape! Very difficult to over come that mentality. But I get up everyday and do it all again- that's what we do.

@lisakimchris

5 жыл бұрын

ZiranaCain Gaslighting.

@crimson6172

5 жыл бұрын

If somebody doesn't take you seriously, ok fine. RETURN THE FAVOUR. Remember them individually and don't take them seriously when they talk. Purposely ask someone else's opinion in front of them right after they give you theirs. Push away these people and don't get too close to them while at the same time pull in people who do value your input and surround yourself with them.

@arisn32

5 жыл бұрын

Women do this to me, Youngest son, raised by all women, father was always working. Funny the cycle never stops. Narcissistic traits are learned not horned.

"You don't have to apologize for being right" that hit really hard.

@shrimpies799

3 жыл бұрын

I apologize for everything

@huskiehuskerson5300

3 жыл бұрын

You used to get killed for being right in earlier times. Still you have to apologize.

@olubukonla7352

3 жыл бұрын

I see that a lot in the work place.

@user-jy3zl2vp4b

3 жыл бұрын

Women are taught to apologize before correcting a man to diffuse the impact that the man feels is a "blow to his ego" at being corrected by a woman. Women are taught kindness is more important that just pointing out his error. So we apologize....A LOT!

@ag9370

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-jy3zl2vp4b sorry, but I have to disagree with that statement, good courtesy and humility is shown by apologising and is some thing many people of all kinds are taught.

“The more you’re treated as if you don’t know what you’re talking about, the more you begin in fact to question if you know what you’re talking about” I struggle with this a lot being a young engineer, I know my coworkers don’t mean to but wow it really holds me back from having the confidence I need to be successful

@florentinenice9146

2 жыл бұрын

I feel you. I personally am giving up the STEM field because of that, too not only but it's a factor. I don't want to work in an environment where I constantly have to prove myself. Where people constantly check what I've done because it couldn't possibly be right.

@lottiecharman6946

Жыл бұрын

My ex boyfriend used to constantly put me down over little things to the point I was never quite sure about sharing ideas with him or anyone else My current boyfriend does a bit too but I'm not sure he knows he's doing it 😅😂

@larrym2434

Жыл бұрын

Good luck in your career. I hope you find a team without too many boneheads on it.

@tinytowz4471

Жыл бұрын

Gaslighting

@DrJoySmithMaxwell

Жыл бұрын

@@lottiecharman6946 I'd get rid of that boyfriend & find a man who values you properly. Always better being single then in a bad relationship!

"Do whatever it takes to honor the journey of another" is truly profound. Thank you for your wisdom.

@relaxingsounds1386

2 жыл бұрын

Nope. Won't do that.

@1toshi32

2 жыл бұрын

@@relaxingsounds1386 Spoken like the true narrow minded misogynist male that you are.

@Jonabob87

Жыл бұрын

If by profound you mean literally meaningless

@jennyjolivet9430

Жыл бұрын

@@Jonabob87 it’s called getting to know another person and respecting them, their unique challenges, and what they have done to address them.

@jennyjolivet9430

Жыл бұрын

@@relaxingsounds1386 why?

"He called me Paula"...brought tears to my eyes.

@lee02jepson

4 жыл бұрын

He was willing to try to understand as he is in his 90s, has really learned about life + possibility realized whats really important. So glad he did, many don't ever.

@btdg7282

4 жыл бұрын

@@lee02jepson ...exactly :-)

@cockeyedoptimista

4 жыл бұрын

What got me was the last part, about her dad wanting to try.

@bijouxaddict

4 жыл бұрын

i cried too...

@zsauffi

4 жыл бұрын

same here ✨❣️✨

"He is 93 and he's willing to try, what more could you ask?"

@karencarney7595

4 жыл бұрын

Trying is step 1 but the second step is to fully appreciate and understand.

@IWantToMature85

4 жыл бұрын

Karen Carney why can’t he have a different opinion though? Like he can love his kid, but also want his son that he raised back.

@stefaniasmanio859

4 жыл бұрын

He called her Paula!!!

@debbiecakes5964

4 жыл бұрын

Stefania Smanio (

@bcf623

4 жыл бұрын

@@IWantToMature85 Because her existence as a trans woman isn't an opinion? This is her, this is how she lives. If he wants to claim her as his child, then he absolutely needs to accept that.

I’m female an immigrant myself from Japan with an accent. I’m here for 20y+ I’m a mother and business woman now. I’ve learned how difficult being a woman here too since I left Japan because I wanted to get away from it. One thing to add what it makes me sad about it is some of women don’t treat other women the same as men. They prefer men do well than other women hustling and getting there. It seems like nature but so sad. And I want to support all women more by knowing it.

@chicksgrowtoo

Жыл бұрын

I completely agree. A long time ago women used to lift each other up. Now I just see them tearing each other apart. This MUST STOP!! Good luck on your journey, and keep your head high. ♥️♥️♥️

@larapalma3744

Жыл бұрын

Because women are famously treated so well in Japan

@karolmarcellin6236

Жыл бұрын

@@larapalma3744 ….Read “I left Japan because I wanted to get away from it”.

@BarnzTT

Жыл бұрын

​@@karolmarcellin6236 Japanese society imposes huge expectations that is why. It is not because she is a female living in Japan. Average work hours in Japan is more than 40 hours per week.

@user-sz1ct2km1i

3 ай бұрын

right ??? I mean that was one ridiculous comment lol @@larapalma3744

I was about to bypass this talk because to be honest, I am still in that traditional space of the definition of the sexes. I was led to pause and listen. I am so glad I did. I now believe that if we view everyone as HUMAN before everything else, living in our world will become so much better. The words sound so corny to my own ears but it is the truth. I felt the humanity in Paula and I forgot everything else.

@HeronCoyote1234

Жыл бұрын

I wish everyone could learn to accept, and be open to, others.

@scottclemens9245

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I get it. I’m just glad she specified the advantage that privileged white guys have. With that; I hope we can focus on and encourage underprivileged young people of all races. That seems less divisive than current policies. I’m happy that we are trying to understand. I hope I will some day. I need more exposure. There will be rich and poor transitions people. I’m sure the poorer people will still have a harder time.

@balle40

Жыл бұрын

​@@HeronCoyote1234g

@balle40

Жыл бұрын

Goob​@@lesleyt8984

@paulwakefield1015

11 ай бұрын

great job thinking critically

Every time Paula says something Women: clapping enthusiastically Men: awkwardly look around before beginning to clap

@livingthedream8539

3 жыл бұрын

That’s happen because men’s knows as we women know that we also have a lot of privileges .We women’s don’t have the same hard sentences for the same crime that man. We almost always keep the children’s on divorce and money from our ex husband that we never have to work too. We generally don’t work as hard and as many hours but expected to be pay the same. And do the most dangerous jobs.I remember not long time ago man have to go to the military ( obligation by law in my country) but I never have to. I can give sooooo many examples ... We even live longer. We women’s used our privilege all the time. I love men’s and I love being a woman . It is been a privilege

@gpsoftsk1

3 жыл бұрын

@@livingthedream8539 Exactly, women have also lot of privileges. They just always complain how they have it hard. I think there was a woman who did a transition to a man (and back) and was shocked how hard is it to be a man (there is a book about it).

@pattimandache7422

3 жыл бұрын

Livingthedreem 80 That’s a good point. I wasn’t denying the fact that women have privileges too, but since the video was based on male privilege and how being a woman can be hard obviously the women will relate more. Toxic masculinity *is* still really dangerous though and it does need to be addressed . Also I know you were saying that women have it easier, but a lot of women want to work longer or harder but are denied that because men are favoured to be hired for jobs like that. So I guess the issue here is not to figure out who has what privileges but just to work hard until everyone has the same ones 😊

@redteeth4890

3 жыл бұрын

@@livingthedream8539 Bro stop saying "we" you're a man...

@user-fn1ds5fd4s

3 жыл бұрын

@@redteeth4890 No offense but what evidence do you have of that?

I'm female with a guy's first name. It's amazing the treatment that I get online when people think I'm a guy, compared to in person. I know exactly what she's talking about. I see the difference every day.

@lucarin8191

3 жыл бұрын

yeppers

@dudelebowski8629

3 жыл бұрын

@Hugh Jaynuz LMAO

@mikebanning1773

3 жыл бұрын

Honestly there are many Areas Where Women get treated better than Men. . Life is more depressing for men compared to women, There is a reason why Men are 80% suicide victims compared to women.

@dinosaur106

3 жыл бұрын

@@mikebanning1773 it's not about better or worse. She in this video is especially talking about not being taken seriously or being talked down to. Of course the masculine stereotype also comes with struggles, which is called toxic masculinity: telling boys they always have to be strong, not show emotions, be the leader and so on. All this pressure is one of the reasons why male suicide rates are that high. Good thing tho is that it's not a comparison or competition to whose life is more depressing. You can understand and care about the struggles that gender stereotypes put on all genders simultaneously.

@user-nh5zd3ic8r

3 жыл бұрын

I know my dad named me Sue

The part about being treated like you dont know what you're talking about and not being able to get a straight answer out of men hit me HARD

I always come back to this whenever I'm feeling out of place. Thank you Paula.

@kikoarmani

2 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@lucius8111

2 жыл бұрын

Is this to confirm your delusions, no one needed to tell me I was a male, biology and science dictated that

@themeangene

2 жыл бұрын

Paula is a man.

@Blue_910

Жыл бұрын

@@themeangene my guy stop getting so upset I see you under every comment. Get a hobby and an education

@anirudhsukigakirei9397

5 ай бұрын

​@@lucius8111then who are you following a doctrine that's not based on science but from delusions of men?

I will share a funny story: Im a girl who do car mechanic (D.E.P. graduated). One day I saw two men with their car break down on the side of the road, and they seem to search what's the problem. To be nice, I stopped and offered to help them. They look at each other with a little smile, and answer me "you think you can help us?". But the tone of voice clearly means "be realist, you cannot do nothing to help us". (I know this tone of voice very well, Im used to. Like if I am a 5 years old child. But its weird, I NEVER heard a man talk like this to an other man.) Just after that, to show me that they control the situation, one of the guy crawl under the car near the gas tank saying "we are ok, I just need to repair the gas pump, its nothing". So... I've made a beautiful smile, wish them a good evening, and leave... knowing that the acces to his gas pump is IN the car under the backseat, and not under the car. Hahahahahahah!!!! Seriously! Its ridiculous! And I have so much story like this, I could write a book if I wanted to! -->ps: excuse for my bad english

@snjert8406

4 жыл бұрын

That's hilarious! If you stopped for me, I'd let you explain to me what's wrong since you obviously know! These guys were fricking jerks!

@fabianaparedes124

4 жыл бұрын

haha that is ridiculous, but maybe if you stoped and showed them to not judge you so soon, they would treat other woman with greater respect. I know its not your job but you could still give it a try.

@j.n.4806

4 жыл бұрын

@@fabianaparedes124 Oh thats what I do most of the time :)

@mistersmith1883

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@mistersmith1883

4 жыл бұрын

I had a flat tire one night. I was asking guys to change the tire and I'd pay them. 4 or 5 guys ignored me. A girl offered to do it I said sure. Than a man came up to do it for free

Women have been experiencing this for so long that it almost feels normal/expected now. Fortunately, the awareness is on the rise, women are proving every second that they CAN do the job and there are good men out there genuinely supporting. You are amazing Paula, keep talking ... keep inspiring!

@buheebam

Жыл бұрын

What is a woman?

love you Paula! you're known, noticed and loved

"You don't have to apologize for being right." YES - THIS.

@ryandavid4906

4 жыл бұрын

You needed someone to tell you that?

@PeterKato83

4 жыл бұрын

Men do it too and men that think they're women do it too. Humans apologize for no reason all the time. Amazing.

@Albanez39

4 жыл бұрын

I also do that, and I'm a guy :/

@otheliamarie7757

4 жыл бұрын

Best sentence.

@hectorvalverde6694

4 жыл бұрын

IF and WHEN you’re right. If not, then don’t say anything. Lol

Ugh. The part about not being taken seriously hits home really hard.

@dottiefarmer5547

4 жыл бұрын

When a woman no matter the subject knows what she is talking about men will respond in kind. We all have encountered a couple of A holes in our lives but the majority will explain or converse with a woman if she knows what she is talking about.

@PeterKato83

4 жыл бұрын

He's a dude and everyone talking to him knows that he is a dude, no one thinks he's a woman. You can't relate to him.

@SkyyPiano

4 жыл бұрын

I'm a woman and I have never had this problem. People always assume I am a professor or doctor or lawyer, even when I am only wearing a T-shirt and shorts and flip flops. I'm not sure why. I have a very deep, masculine voice and masculine features though, so maybe that's why.

@terrifictomm

4 жыл бұрын

Everyone struggles and fights to be taken seriously. Not all men have power. In fact, very few do.

@PeterKato83

4 жыл бұрын

@Juliana Silva hahaha women can't relate to men and men can't relate to women. That's like when a women says "she's having a girls night out" men seem to think she is going out on town and having fun but she's actually trying to cheat. Men just bluntly ask for a side chick. You'll generally know where you stand with a man but not a woman. Also everyone dealing with this guy knows he's a guy so his whole talk is redundant.

Admittedly, I have spent many years of MY life quite isolated. It has been difficult for me to really 'SEE' what so many others apparently have seen (witnessed with their own eyes) for decades now. This video really has me thinking about things I haven't ever truly/fully recognized regarding my life as a female. Thank you.

Paula seems like the sweetest lady you have ever met!!! I just want to hug her. I am so happy that I listened to this- I get treated like a dummy at work because of my sweet, ladylike demeanor, never cause any drama attitude- I am SICK OF SWALLOWING

@themeangene

2 жыл бұрын

him*

@carmella88

2 жыл бұрын

@@themeangene bahaha yes

@777cozmo

Жыл бұрын

Maybe your a dummy if your swallowing

@777cozmo

Жыл бұрын

Maybe try pretending your a man?

At no point did she claim to know what it is like to be a cis woman. She gave examples of how life has changed for her and revelations she has had. That's neither offensive nor demeaning.

@Chameleonred5

6 жыл бұрын

It is the context and word use that makes it so.

@99MKris

6 жыл бұрын

She can't really tell that because she is not a cisgender woman.

@soundseeker63

5 жыл бұрын

Her story being in essence that "life is harder for women" and "male privilege is everywhere"... deeply profound and highly original stuff! lol

@highheadjester

5 жыл бұрын

You call him a She..................

@lovingmayberry307

5 жыл бұрын

Chameleonred5 Could your argument be a little more VAGUE??? Obviously you don't have a good argument to offer.

"Love is honouring the journey of another". I'm speechless.

@pieskmista

4 жыл бұрын

@L It's because it's the view of one individuals experience, which supports the meta narrative influencing mainstream society today which suggests that women have life much harder, which trivializes men's ordeals. Allow me to suggest that it's possible the reason this speaker struggled with becoming a woman is because they spent their entire life up to that point being a man. Try taking a professional wrestler and shoving them into professional ballet dancing, two very difficult careers that require completely opposite skill sets to flourish. Where before bullish strength was required, now it's a hindrance and lithe grace is the leading trait. If you do a thing for 30-40 years, then try something else, that something else will seem a lot harder than the previous thing. This is just one possible plausible argument completely overlooked in the current narrative.

@Evija3000

4 жыл бұрын

@@pieskmista The condescension and not being taken seriously is real, though there are some other things where women have it better.

@pieskmista

4 жыл бұрын

@@Evija3000 Yeah I'm very aware that some men do this. But In the majority of cases where it does occur it is much more likely that the woman is expressing lack of confidence through both body language and voice. Some occur because of assumptions based on the stereotypical woman not liking or being aware of something they are talking about, which ends if and when the subject displays confident knowledge in the subject in most cases, when it doesn't the leading factor is because the person they are talking to doesn't actually know the answer and is floundering to not lose face, as is very likely the case in the bike situation in this video. There's a myriad of other reasons that such an interaction may occur that having nothing to do with gender, and this fact is not just overlooked in modern days but burnt at the stake. The VAST majority of human communication completely ignores the words you are saying, the way you say them is much more important. Body language is the biggest factor, followed by tones and other effects, while there are studies that suggest less than 10% of the impact of how we communicate is in the words themselves. What I'm saying is, take any woman that is suffering from this problem, and have them take lessons in confident/assertive communication and I guarantee their life changes. It's only in very rare cases that the reason a man treats a woman differently from a man is because she is a woman.

@DrachenGothik666

4 жыл бұрын

@OzarkoBlam Oh, that is SO well said, it deserves ALL the likes. Since it can't garner all of them, I here submit mine.

@pukljica

4 жыл бұрын

So beautiful really..this is true courage staying true to yourself no matter what others whant you to be!

I didn’t know I needed to hear that talk. It’s very inspiring, and oddly comforting. We’re not imagining this or overreacting and a lot of the men who do it don’t think they’re doing it. It’s time we start making everyone more conscious of their unknown bias, maybe things can start changing and our daughters can live better lives.

@nnadiblaise

Ай бұрын

As long as you're able to listen, introspect and change when your own female bias is exposed to you, it's a two way course.

@jacominaveseli5033

12 күн бұрын

Our daughters, no every woman, mothers and sisters

the call to authenticity is sacred and holy - that floored me❤❤❤

@themeangene

2 жыл бұрын

This is a man

@alliekhani7873

Жыл бұрын

@@themeangene do you really have nothing better to do with your life than to reply to multiple comments saying the same thing? please, get a hobby, a job, anything and do something more productive with your free time

@Hangar.18

Жыл бұрын

@@themeangene Austin Powers...🤣

@themeangene

Жыл бұрын

@@alliekhani7873 do you have nothing better to do than complain about facts

Who else cried when she said, "He called me Paula." So beautiful, this video is a wonderful expression of understanding and everyone should be able to watch it.

@CallyGem

5 жыл бұрын

Wailed like a baby.

@CandaceLeAnne

5 жыл бұрын

I started crying even before then.

@yanagamiart8170

5 жыл бұрын

@@CandaceLeAnne yess dear

@pinklady1648

5 жыл бұрын

@Yanagami Art, her emotion was so deep just a few seconds bevor that....that was the moment, I started to cry. What a beautiful Ted!

@goatmadej

4 жыл бұрын

Kelly Marie Technically, it is. Your brain is shaped like a different gender from your body. Your brain is the engine behind your body, and it can physically hurt you to stay and/or present yourself as the gender your body is. Hope this helps. And yes, we shouldn’t celebrate mental illnesses, but the people, need support and love. I’m not sure if you would say that same sort of things to someone with autism.

11:32 when Paula said: "You are far more capable than you realize," the overwhelming feeling of empowerment, relief and thankfulness overcame me and all I could think was: "Thank you God for this wonderful human being and her story and I wish more people felt that way about themselves."

@danielfaller5617

4 жыл бұрын

There are other people who try to empower other people only not exclusivly about women but they talk to every gender But i get you and wish you well lol

@silverco2560

3 жыл бұрын

And when she said “the call toward authenticity is sacred, is holy, it’s for the greater good” I really felt that too. People who feel miserable about their lives usually want to make other people miserable too, and because of that, if more people accepted their call to authenticity I’m sure that this world we live in would be a better place. Knowing yourself and having the courage to openly BE yourself is an extremely brave thing to do.

@silverco2560

3 жыл бұрын

Dániel Faller So? Just because she focused her speech on empowering women, doesn’t mean her speech is less valid than more general ones. It’s not a competition. Also, the impact of the words of empowerment that come from someone that has been through the same as you is greater. Trying to empower every single human being on the planet when you haven’t even educated yourself on their struggles feels dishonest - we can all feel empathy for each other’s struggles, and accept that sometimes certain struggles of certain groups of people are going to be addressed uniquely, but that doesn’t mean other struggles aren’t relevant or that nobody cares about them, and suggesting so is a consequence of a very simple minded perspective.

@mistresscaldus7589

4 ай бұрын

​@@danielfaller5617 I don't understand how you think she was only speaking to empower women? Can you not see what she said empowers all people? The more knowledge you have of your environment and the individuals who exist within it, the more agency you have. This gives you the ability to make better choices for yourself and everyone around you. That's empowerment!

@iamjoy888

4 ай бұрын

​@@silverco2560really well said ❤️🤝🌈

Gave me goosebumps when she talked about her brown skinned daughter and daughter-in-law and not knowing what they know.

"I don't understand this ... but I'm willing to try." - Wiser words have never been spoken. If only more people in the world would open their minds and hearts like this.

@themeangene

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe he should open his mind to the fact he's a man

@noxaurum1

Жыл бұрын

I was willing to try meth when I was 17. Now I have a deviated septum. Not even once

@alliekhani7873

Жыл бұрын

@@noxaurum1 nobody asked

My husband and I are middle eastern and my husband actively puts me forward and gives me space to allow to speak and voice my opinion especially when it is my area of expertise and when someone tries to demean him or interrupt me, he just smiles and tell them to stop feeling so threatened and listen or he simply turns to me and asks me even though he knows what I would say or he could simply answer as he has also his own opinions. It takes a lot of confidence to be an actively supportive man, especially in a culture where women mainly smile and work

@user-ej3iw8lw3w

4 жыл бұрын

simple. he's not muslim

@AzabArch

4 жыл бұрын

@@user-ej3iw8lw3w what is a Muslim ?

@abdimojo8794

4 жыл бұрын

@@AzabArch 🤪

@franl155

4 жыл бұрын

"stop feeling so threatened" - says it all. It's the one and only "reason" for gender inequality - dress it up in religious or pseudo-science how you like, insecure people have to push others down so that they can stand above them and feel "superior"

@franl155

4 жыл бұрын

@@user-ej3iw8lw3w - misogyny isn't the sole preserve of Islam. Take a look ac Christianity sometime.

“You don’t have to apologize for being right.” Words to live by.

@dr.c196

3 жыл бұрын

When we live in a world where wrong became right, not sure if there is a right and wrong anymore.

@DanielOrtiz-dl8eo

3 жыл бұрын

Unless you're British... then you apologize for being right

@johnkidby7948

3 жыл бұрын

@@DanielOrtiz-dl8eo Canadian also. I found it more strange to think that American men DON'T apologize for correcting people than that women do.

@milordo

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnkidby7948 what??

@Luke-nz5xo

3 жыл бұрын

No but a person doesn't have to be right in smartass or demeaning way. Arguments can start because the way a person talks.

It's never too late to change your thinking. Amen her 93 year old father chose to call her Paula!

@themeangene

2 жыл бұрын

Nah Paul is still a man.

She is a phenomenal speaker. I was captivated. Absolutely loved this talk.

She has such a unique perspective, "I didn't know what I didn't know" is a really good point. As she said, as a man, you always consider yourself one of the good guys. I do, too. Her talk makes me wonder if that is true. I probably do some stereotypical stuff aswell, not because I want to, but subconsciously because it has been engrained into my upbringing and our culture. I'm gonna try to be more mindful in the future. Really glad I clicked on this. More people should see it.

@MKAudette

4 жыл бұрын

thegreentaxi Yes! It’s so nice to see this

@yasmineghriss2247

4 жыл бұрын

you sound like a great human being, I'm glad you exist

@mandykosterman3017

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making the world a little better 🌸

@whatzittooya2367

4 жыл бұрын

That's amazing! I'm sure that with that mentality you'll have no issue!

@mermaid717

4 жыл бұрын

❤

I don't know if it only happens in my country but anytime my boyfriend is with me and I approach a man to ask an address, a bus stop etc. they always answer to and look at my boyfriend instead of me. I am the one who is asking the question but they refuse to see me. The funny thing is my boyfriend doesn't even speak my native language so he looks at them in wonder as he has no clue about what's going on.

@guillermorelobalopez7553

5 жыл бұрын

Oh wow. I hope you have sometimes taken the opportunity to just stare at them and wait for them to acknowledge their mistake. A little embarrassment might help to get them thinking.

@markganus1085

5 жыл бұрын

i've heard that it's only in western countries. muslim and african countries are more tolerant

@kanturo96

5 жыл бұрын

@Ayşe Ece Ayhan No suprise there. If I can tell that you are with your boyfriend, i would look at him instead of you. Looking at you can cause discomfort since your boyfriend will notice. He can then persume i have interest in you and all sorts of things. Ive been in this situation many times. Its not that im doing it cause i dont like you or think you are not intelligent enough to understand me, its about avoiding conflict and respect.

@jacelynagea6601

5 жыл бұрын

Penguin My boyfriend says the same thing but you are missing something. You are missing the woman who looked at you and asked you a question. It’s okay to look at both of them but just looking at the man just because he is a man is problematic. She is the one who asked you a question and not the man.

@sannewijn8695

5 жыл бұрын

Next time, go stand before your boyfriend, look the guy angry in the eyes and ask him: Are you trying to flirt with my boyfriend?

Paula, I truly admire you for the courage, humor and respect in your speech. You are amazing!!!!

Absolutely wonderful TED talk -- thank you Paula for sharing a bit of your story and experiences with us all. For the TEDx folk, I'd love to see more talks from Paula - she has so much wit and wisdom to share.

She has a humorous way to tell a sad story, to look at the harsh reality and forgive. That's pure wisdom.

@relaxingsounds1386

2 жыл бұрын

'He'

@namelesspeach5231

2 жыл бұрын

@@relaxingsounds1386 why are you people still breath the same air as she does. dont try to start a fight bro, you aint getting one.

@TheGeniusStyle

2 жыл бұрын

@@namelesspeach5231 He/She is correct...

@themeangene

2 жыл бұрын

He. This is a man in a dress.

@relaxingsounds1386

2 жыл бұрын

@@namelesspeach5231 lol!! cope.

As a man listening to this talk, I did not feel uncomfortable for myself, only shocked that such an arrogant attitude towards women seems to be so common. I later also remembered how my best friend once told me how surprised many of her acquaintances are to hear that she became a scientist. To say it in her own words: "Behind those hair and boobs, I actually have a brain" I grew up as the only man in a household with two very intelligent and successful women (my mom and sister) and learnt from a very young age to not treat people differently based on appearance or gender and respect people for who they are, and whenever I hear stories like this, I hope for my fellow human beings to learn that same lesson and eventually pass it on to their children as well. Believe me, it will improve both the world and your own lives ;)

@NgocPham-ws3nd

5 жыл бұрын

thank u so much, I appreciate that

@nodigBKMiche

5 жыл бұрын

Eyes wide open💛

@user83c9f49

5 жыл бұрын

Locedamius Dont let these libtard cunts brainwash you and punish you for being a male!!!

@jackhagemeister6516

5 жыл бұрын

i hope you're joking, cause i'm imagining a crazed old man typing this furiously on his computer before he goes to the gun range ;)

@stephss

5 жыл бұрын

Locedamius I'm a welder, and one day I had someone come up to me...just to see the spectacle that is a female welder. I was tempted to put up a string of lights and a banner that said, $5 to see the female welder. My venting to my male colleagues didn't go very well either. They were all clueless how dehumanizing it was.

Thank you, Paula, for sharing! I appreciate you bringing these things to light. We need to talk more about these differences for positive change to happen

He called me Paula. Maybe just a few tears for me on that one. Being you is your superpower.

"You dont have to apologize for being right !" AMEN

@tres32100

4 жыл бұрын

Always tiptoeing around the male's ego.

@natedog69420

4 жыл бұрын

So why apologize, no one told you you have to? You ever think about that?

@8cupsCoffee

4 жыл бұрын

No one told us we have to, but just asserting the truth like a normal human being is seen as us "being hostile" or a "know it all" and they get very defensive and often double down or make a joke at our expense. We learn how to gracefully let a man down easy when he's wrong. I think that a woman pointing out something incorrect is deeply humiliating to a certain kind of man and they can fight back aggressively. "I'm just trying to say, I think we might actually be going north on the highway, but I could be wrong, what do you think?" "We're going the wrong way, we need to turn around" can get all kinds of pushback and hurt feelings. Sad but true in some cases, so we learn to soften our language.

@Dorfanable

4 жыл бұрын

@@tres32100 dafuq

@n00btotale

4 жыл бұрын

In this context, an "apology" is nothing of the sort, but rather an introductory phrase which indicates a feigned openness to discussion. Alternatively, you could always say "Or alternatively...", "" to the same effect. The bottom line is, it's your goddamn choice to be polite. Nobody should expect any more or less from you.

I never thought hearing about a stranger being called by their name would make me so happy.

@MrWesford

4 жыл бұрын

He has a pretty interesting story

@yaboialex8605

4 жыл бұрын

@@MrWesford *she

yep. i'm 3 years into being a man. this... power of being listened to. I can shout others down. It feels like my word is law, and that's scary.

OMG I laughed and cried at the same time. Paula you’re a wonderful person! Thank you for sharing your story with us!

THE POCKETS ON WOMEN’S JEANS ARE LITERALLY THE SMALLEST OF STUFF

@sarahjane8527

4 жыл бұрын

😂 Witty irony, I like it

@yaboialex8605

4 жыл бұрын

@@annabatcheler1905 if you bought them for the pockets how did you not notice they were fake lol

@cazjr1798

4 жыл бұрын

But how good are skirts and dresses with pockets?!?! 🙌🙌😁

@isabelamacavei1333

3 жыл бұрын

Yet they cost 10 times more. Great point!

@rohsnaoks1587

3 жыл бұрын

yeah cause women's jeans are usually tight, which makes it difficult to add pockets to them.

When this person's 93 year old father reached out to his child...tears..

@frontier_kittie9029

4 жыл бұрын

@@davidyatesmckay Because it's human nature to be set in yours ways by the time you reach that age. It's pretty special when someone in their 90s is able to be open minded like that

Paula, you are such an inspiring person. I cried. Thank you for sharing your journey

I like her! I like her sense of humor, her understanding of both genders, and her perception of life. I enjoyed her perception of aspects of life being sacred.

@OO-ct4hq

2 жыл бұрын

@@bojjaragadeepika7624 you sound confused too

@davidgreg6989

2 ай бұрын

She's indeed an inspiration all women, I listen to her speech and she made too many sense. I pray God gives you lots of beautiful days, I'm David Greg originally from Spain Granada i live in Austin Texas and you?

Everthing she said is true, and even worse. Being a female from Saudi Arabia. I am forced to do a lot of things that disrespect myself. I am, as a woman, will always be less than a man. I bring shame to my family. I don't get education as my brothers. My own mother hates me for trying to be independent. She tries so hard to bring me down. basically.. living as female in SA is just another word for slavery. Also, really i dont get why i suffer, because my genitals. this is really messed up.

@carolinesalv

5 жыл бұрын

So sorry your life is like that😳 I live all the way over the other side of the world ( Caribbean) over here men take advantage of women's strength while still trying to put them down. Women are expected to work outside the home, cook, clean, do the laundry and of course fulfill the man's s*xual needs! In short they expect the woman to take care of them fully while they do little to nothing but enjoy..being male!😡 I have refused to marry any of them and my mother understands and doesn't pressure me..I wish All women were as fortunate, I hope your future will be brighter meanwhile stay strong! 💪👍

@Manueelaa

5 жыл бұрын

I live in Switzerland and theoretically, men and women have the same rights. In reality, we're still miles away from real equality. But I'm not complaining, my life is pretty ok. Still I always doubt myself all the time and I'm always very surprised if a man takes me seriously because it's so rare. Well.. I'm sending you both love and strength. Respect yourself and be confident in your abilities. At least we as women should try to empower each other instead of bringing us down.

@asakebrown1

5 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry you're going through that, I hope you get the courage to leave that place, that's so unhealthy for your mental stability

@leahwilkinson5945

5 жыл бұрын

You are not less than a man, it makes me sad to hear you are treated so! You deserve to have independence if that is what you wish , you have a gentle strength in you as all women do, my heart is with you and i hope you find peace and equality, as i hope we all do eventually. We are building a better world, i believe, though it can feel slow in progression. xxxx

@sfrignani

5 жыл бұрын

I feel sorry. It is not possible still to hear things like these.

The bike story made me feel the need to post: women know this. This is why we avoid having to ask men stuff.

@Aizouli

5 жыл бұрын

You're speaking for 3-1/2 billion people right now. Sure you're up to it?

@karencarney7595

4 жыл бұрын

Yea..unless u dress sleazy and pretend not to know..maybe you'll be 'lucky' enough to get a Discount (note the sarcasm)

@tracink

4 жыл бұрын

@@Aizouli She didn't ask you. That's kind of her point.

@MaMaximillian

4 жыл бұрын

@@tracink She? didn't ask anything, she made a blanket statement where JWF pointed out the categorical part of it... Basically all women i know, don't mind asking either a man or a woman if they're in doubt about something. So her 'point' is kinda moot.

@menschlicherroboter6791

4 жыл бұрын

I mean... Please let's not segregate each other, it will just make things worse

Very enjoyable talk. God bless you for telling your story. Your Dad is a work in progress, as many of us are! Thank you

Ms. Williams, thank you for using humor and your personal experience to give some of us an insight to the challenges of transitioning. All too often we only hear the more strident and demanding versions, but you gave us a relatable and eye-opening view, which allows us to be more sympathetic and understanding of the issues you are overcoming. Good luck to you.

when she said "he called me paula" with that small voice i broke down in tears. that means so much, so so much. people really don't understand how such little things like just calling us by our real names can mean so much to us. thank you paula.

@melodyrosepalmer3381

5 жыл бұрын

Because it's confirming your identity , by the one you love. I really hope that some day, in any way, we'll all be free to be who we are without any fear and judgement.

@luceret

5 жыл бұрын

I've always considered myself a trans ally. I certainly call anyone and everyone by the names they choose. But this video, along with some other things, is why, for the first time this semester, I made a point to tell students my pronouns and invite them to tell me theirs if they so desired.

@klaasboukezwaan6700

5 жыл бұрын

Melody Roses

@karencarney7595

4 жыл бұрын

She's amazing. She's been thru so much. I could feel her triumph in her small emotional voice at that exact moment.

@karencarney7595

4 жыл бұрын

@@klaasboukezwaan6700 what exactly were u trying to say...

Wow! She made so many important points without even sounding preachy.. and incorporating humour so beautifully!

@MelancholyMegan

4 жыл бұрын

One of my favourite TED talks in a long time.

@asuka813

4 жыл бұрын

Really well done, everything so on point and well thought out

@stormwarden1287

4 жыл бұрын

@@ruthiemay4799 Give it a rest already. We are all fully aware of what her biology dictates. This was never a question that needed an answer.

@brendonrookes1151

4 жыл бұрын

we must of been watching difrent videos

@alexandreparent5754

4 жыл бұрын

@@ruthiemay4799 Can you just chill a little? If it doesnt hurt anyone and that person is happy. How does it matter seriously? Its still debatable if the transitions are a good longterm solution or just consulting a psychologist until the problem is solved. I don't see what you think is the problem.

Wow. Absolutely amazing. Thank you Paula.

Wow amazing talk Paula. Thankyou so much for your incredibly raw and valuable insight. I thoroughly enjoyed this!

My son is now my daughter so this made me cry and understand her even better. We are moving forward with love. Bless you Paula! ❤

@nathanhood4873

4 жыл бұрын

Nobody cares~~~~~If you cry!

@bobbyrobby3600

4 жыл бұрын

Your son is always be a son. He will never be a woman no matter what clothes he wears or what surgery he has he will always be male. You obviously did not bring him up in the fear of the Lord and that's why you have a basket case for a son.

@elledumble

4 жыл бұрын

@@nathanhood4873 shut up

@elledumble

4 жыл бұрын

You are a great parent ❤️❤️ all the best to you and your family!

@user-ej3iw8lw3w

4 жыл бұрын

reported for child abuse

First thing addressed: "Pockets on women's jeans" THIS. THIS HAS BEEN THE BANE OF MY EXISTENCE SINCE TRANSITIONING.

@maevemcgale4077

4 жыл бұрын

that's why we have purses

@KSangel180

4 жыл бұрын

@@maevemcgale4077 Screw purses! I hate purses about as much as I hate not having pockets.

@F.A.--

4 жыл бұрын

Female clothes are Not practical at all.

@getchristielove

4 жыл бұрын

That's why designers who put pockets in dresses have loyal consumers. Women's Jean's are also too tight and too short

@mariahelenarodriguez6030

4 жыл бұрын

Well, that’s the world if women for ya

I love that someone who actually knows, is talking about this. Thank you!!

This happens with me all the time when I'm questioned what I'm talking about ...i literally start thinking whether or not i really know what I'm talking about...n its happening since childhood so..its like I've somewhere accepted somethings...but you...you're awesome MISS PAULA...REALLY LOVED LISTENING TO U

Honestly, I get dissapointed in myself because at times I even wish to just snap my fingers and become a man, but not because I feel that I am a man, but because I want to be *treated like one.*

@lynneklr7812

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly the same here!

@dariomorais6987

3 жыл бұрын

Same Daniela... Same...

@susangordon3794

3 жыл бұрын

Hey daniela, I do drag it's really empowering. Try it if you ever feel like it might empower you too :)

@NarutoNinetailFoxs

3 жыл бұрын

But you are not a man. You're a women there's a difference.

@benapeh854

3 жыл бұрын

Trust me, you do not.

Speaking in public is very hard. Especially with the constant fear that you’ll forget what you have to say, etc. Speaking with such great expressions, passion, audience interaction, etc is commendable. Great job, You rocked it Paula!

@christianhaver533

3 жыл бұрын

Its all training and preperation, not terribly difficult if you practise :)

@Freiya2011

3 жыл бұрын

He, didn't you listen? She was a preacher before her transition. That was her job!

I have had experiences where I was ignored or treated like I know nothing simply because I am female. Listening to Paula's perspective was an eye opening experience. This talk is something everyone can benefit from. Maybe it will make all of us more understanding and tolerant of each other.

What a talented speaker...so natural and engaging. Thank you and all the best!

People really need to learn that gender doesn't mean anything, I am tired of people being treated differently based on their gender in both directions. I'm tired of living in a world where men aren't allowed to feel emotions & women aren't allowed to make decisions, I just wish people would be treated as people first and everything else second.

@COVID--kf3tx

4 жыл бұрын

me too. I think all harmful gender stereotypes should go die. humans are humans

@e-curb

4 жыл бұрын

@@COVID--kf3tx .. The reason stereotypes exist is because generally they are true. There are differences between men and women, and nothing is going to change it. That doesn't mean we can't treat each other with respect.

@ninabruin324

4 жыл бұрын

Josh Herbert 100% agreed

@henrimatisse7481

4 жыл бұрын

Yes Josh you know it!

@katherinerodriguez118

4 жыл бұрын

JG Alegria it’s a good thing we get to see the perspective of their people’s lives. People tend to think that just because they haven’t experienced something, then it must not never happen.

Thank you for addressing the small pockets issue... It's annoying 😑

@curiousabout1

5 жыл бұрын

This might sound silly, but as a 52-year-old man I was kind of blown away by this. Wondering how could I have never even heard about such a common thing, and imagining how relentlessly irritating it would be to lose half of my pocket size... such a small thing in this context, but not? A brilliant, wonderfully simple example of both privilege, and 'not knowing what I don't know'.

@mainreason9601

5 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry but people can have slim jeans and large pants disregarding the gender 😡

@zazabrown732

5 жыл бұрын

Never noticed it in my 35 years as a real woman. People just like griping. You cant have big pockets on skinny jeans. There's no space. Its common sense. In lounge pants or cargo pants fpr.women they're large

@curiousabout1

5 жыл бұрын

@@zazabrown732 I didn't take it as a gripe as much as an observation. To me, it's more about the fact that women in our culture are commonly expected to wear a style of clothing that excludes this convenience that men take for granted. It is an illustration of arbitrary restrictions. Whether you disregard them or not is irrelevant to their existence. Also, (probably against better judgement), I own skinny jeans, and the pockets are no smaller than any other pair of jeans I own that are cut for men.

@trekadouble757

5 жыл бұрын

You can't have skinny jeans and big pockets. Big pockets take room and because of that the jeans aren't skinny anymore. Take baggy jeans if really you want big pockets

This was great! What a blast from the past! I haven't seen Emo Phillips' stand up in forever.

You know well how we've been treated all of our lives. Sad but true. God bless you on your journey. Loved your great humor.

I only have one complaint about this program....she didn't talk long enough, and I enjoyed listening to her tremendously...

@404_d3

3 жыл бұрын

Hahah same

I am crying so much right now. Finally someone understands and able to articulate the difference in experiences between a man and woman. As woman of color , I just want people to understand that I experience even less of "equity".

@questionreality6003

4 жыл бұрын

everyone has issues, income, health kids etc.; don't make yours their unwanted show; live your own life

@Rick-tt6yq

4 жыл бұрын

smblaze 92 I saw your comment and I feel badly. As a society, I think we have come a long way in terms of equality...but our journey to equity is really only beginning. We have much to do...

@user-ej3iw8lw3w

4 жыл бұрын

just start demanding more affirmative action and positive discrimination

@tasty_beans7758

4 жыл бұрын

smblaze 92 society sucks

@DeGrate-bb5bo

4 жыл бұрын

Spawny Chancer, another and perhaps more functional idea: People of good will and a sense of humanity can start demanding more equity and fairness in all their spheres--home, school, work, play. The US's biggest affirmative action programs have been for white men; they weren't called "affirmative action" because the creators of those programs had a mission of normalizing inequality and hierarchies with white-skinned men propped up on top. You don't name programs if you want them to be accepted as divine right and normality. The 1944 GI Bill is a good example of affirmative action for white men: the government-backed mortgages, tuition payments, business start-up loans and jobs commensurate with WWII training went disproportionately, and in some states solely, to white men. Add to that roughly 322 years of laws written [by guess who] to not only thwart but criminalize progress of American Indians, Africans, Chinese, and white women. IF you've got the nerve, you can read all about it in the well researched book by a judge--A. L. Higginbotham's "In the Matter of Color: Race and the American Legal Process." Or just read the GI Bill, then imagine that those in charge of implementation were--guess who.

Paula, you're a lovely person and a kind soul. I wish you all the best in your life. Love from Italy

This TED talk is very close to my heart :) thankyou paula!

'He said, "Paula...."... He called me Paula" That's powerful stuff right there.

@taniabriscoe6493

3 жыл бұрын

yeah, Right power!!

@GrayWithMe

2 жыл бұрын

Yessssss

"the call for authenticity has all the subtlety of a smoke alarm" brilliant, this woman is

@loristrout4741

5 жыл бұрын

Yoda?

@flamingrobin5957

5 жыл бұрын

authenticity? this man has adopted a false self, he's pretending to be a woman.

@merakiem

5 жыл бұрын

Ted Myrrh I think you mean woman. She is valid and happy.

@josstrebe6302

4 жыл бұрын

Man*

@snjert8406

4 жыл бұрын

@@josstrebe6302 woman*

This brought me to tears. This video should be required in every school and workplace.

Paula, I'm a Christian woman and I just want to say....you are well spoken, funny, beautiful and brave! ( You also have a wonderful personality and sense of style. ) Thank you for sharing your story. I hope people will listen to you and and seek to understand your journey.

@davidgreg6989

2 ай бұрын

She's indeed an inspiration all women, I listen to her speech and she made too many sense. I pray God gives you lots of beautiful days, I'm David Greg originally from Spain Granada i live in Austin Texas and you?

@davidgreg6989

2 ай бұрын

She's indeed an inspiration all women, I listen to her speech and she made too many sense. I pray God gives you lots of beautiful days, I'm David Greg originally from Spain Granada i live in Austin Texas and you?

"The more you´re treated as if you don´t know what you´re talking about, the more you begin to question whether or not you do, in fact, know what you´re talking about." Big point there. I experience this all. the. time. Ladies (and gentlemen, and anybody, really), it´s time for us to be confident in what we know, and not let anybody tell us otherwise.

@mmanda515

3 жыл бұрын

Same... That whole "why are we apologizing for... being right" ?? First thing out of our mouths to say what someone else incorrectly stated or, to add a point, jeez... sometimes, to even speak... or at a store too... is.... "Sorry, but........" "Sorry.... were you in line.." "Sorry, I think I was next" , "Sorry, I think this change is wrong...." ..... etc. Never even realized I do that OR how ridiculous it sounds now, being pointed out.. =/ A LOT of great points made here... some of those, "things that make ya go, hmmmm" moments for sure. ;) Stay safe & be well.

@l.silcher

3 жыл бұрын

But still questioning our knowledge is important because knowledge might change as scientific research accuracy do, too :) So knowledge can become "just" beliefs :) Would be very helpful if men would do so but they are often too confident ...

@chrisg9922

3 жыл бұрын

@@mmanda515 Yes. Another one is "I think..." Men just state everything like it's fact.

@pendysheets

3 жыл бұрын

Because of the way things are, even if you state it just like the men do, you will be questioned. If not questioned, then disliked for being exactly as assertive as the man sitting next to you. That's what I've seen anyway. We all have to make our choices about what we're willing to accept. I don't blame other women for choosing the subservient role we are taught.

@lucylouwho2876

3 жыл бұрын

@@l.silcher Or arrogant

That moment when you, as a man, realizes what you, as a human, should have realized a long time ago... Love this! Thank's Paula!

@aanelson3545

3 жыл бұрын

Congeats on hitting 100 liked

@bladimirandersson9191

3 жыл бұрын

Vi lär oss varje dag!

@phenitagomes1292

2 жыл бұрын

You sir do not have enough likes

@lucius8111

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah that's a dude, biology doesn't care about your feeling, if they dig this guys bones up a 100 years from now, they won't know what mental illnesses they had, but they will know it's the skeleton of a male.

@Avogadros_number

Жыл бұрын

@james trista literally. These people are insane

Thank you for being born in this world and in this era and bless you for being so courageous....

Woman ? Man ? Human !!! Thank you Paula 👏

She's so witty and yet also very humble

@Noah4evaa

4 жыл бұрын

Sealdude isn’t HE?!

@sealdude5581

4 жыл бұрын

@@Noah4evaa What?

@m.7877

4 жыл бұрын

@Big Smoke How do u expect to be taken seriously with that username lmao

@homosexualamphibian359

4 жыл бұрын

MRN W ok boomer

@socks9427

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah she's great, I kind of want to hear more talks from her.

What a unique perspective she offered. It is said that in some African cultures the transgenders are the "Wisdom Keepers," because they have an understanding of both worlds.

@WafflesOinc

4 жыл бұрын

Jean Rivard Bertrand exactly, we (cis people) have a lot to learn from trans people

@flatearth9140

4 жыл бұрын

TRANSGENDERS ARE CONFUSED ! THATS AS DEEP AS IT GOES !!

@nicolel.6316

4 жыл бұрын

FLAT EARTH you need some serious help. They’re not confused.

@flatearth9140

4 жыл бұрын

@@nicolel.6316 NOT CONFUSED ?? THEY DONT KNOW IT THEY ARE A MAN OR A WOMAN !!

@nicolel.6316

4 жыл бұрын

FLAT EARTH she’s clearly a woman...? She’s male to female.

Fellow traveler, your spirit is seen and truly remarkable. Thank you for clearly articulating the female experience. This is good work. Important work.

So authentic , humourous, courageous. Thank you,, bless you All your dreams come true.

Omg I cried at "The more you're treated as if you don't know what you're talking about, the more you begin to question whether or not you do, in fact, know what you're talking about." The amount of times I had to hold my ground and, yes, apologize for being right and then simply being told I was wrong because they refused to listen. Did you know if you are in a game and you do not share your gender during a raid or an online arena battlefield w/e, if you do not share your gender, your team will assume you are male and you have a chance they will listen to your calls. If they somehow figure out you're a girl? Oh goodness, either prepare to be assaulted by a horde of lap dogs hungry for female attention throwing themselves at your feet or be prepared to be completely ignored and condescendingly told: "yeah but what do you know you're a girl/ you were boosted/ e-girl/ etc."

@virgileusa

3 жыл бұрын

i disagree, i had low confidence and i used to be treated like that, i could be 300% right people were still doubting about everywords i said. Now this changed cause i learned how to express myself and show confidence

@delivermypain

3 жыл бұрын

@@virgileusa I'm glad you had a better experience than me and the 90 people that liked my post! It's good you gained confidence too :) Just a side note, I'm NOT being sarcastic. This often goes wrong on the internet so just putting that out there. Sincerity all over.

@deactivatedcrmUw

3 жыл бұрын

@{} who tf asked

@miguelgt2010

3 жыл бұрын

@@delivermypain I mean of course they all asume your a male, its a fact that there is more males playing videogames, like wtf do you expect, they have to guess your gender now? Also about ehat you said of you dont say your gender anymore cuz you are treated different, its also normal, its rare to see woman playing with us, so its diferent and we treat you different to have fun, you could have fun trolling them or whatever you want, dont take everything that searious men, like wtf, it would like a group of girls on a Kitchen treating different a men like he knows nothing even if he knew more than them, and its way to normal, we all have those steriotypes.

@delivermypain

3 жыл бұрын

@@miguelgt2010 In what era do you live?

This woman is extremely sensible and has a wonderful head on her shoulders. I have to say that when I began watching this, all I could think of was Caitlyn Jenner chirping and mincing about how "the hardest part of being a woman is deciding what to wear" and wanting to punch him/her for acting like womanhood is some sort of theme park where we're reduced to nothing more than a male-created stereotype of shoes and lip gloss. Paula has such a nuanced and much deeper understanding.

@federicataylorgoni328

5 жыл бұрын

she did not transitioned into woman for you to still call her "him/she" is just she, just get it

@inkyguy

5 жыл бұрын

Janis Cortese, well said.

@inkyguy

5 жыл бұрын

Nate Bruffatt, more man than you'll ever be and more woman than you'll ever know.

@revelation8199

5 жыл бұрын

That is a man

@EvenStarLoveAnanda

5 жыл бұрын

"wonderful head on her shoulders" That is because he was born as a man. He thinks like a man. There is nothing feminine about him. (Maybe a little confused.) Plastic in our food which is estrogen similar, creates emasculated men. And he is an actor. A Liberal propaganda agent.

Quite an eye opener. It confirms that humourous approach will always reach people, Xxx

this was so beautiful, thank you so much for sharing ... very touching

Honestly, even as a cis woman, I never noticed much of a difference in how I was treated. It was only when she mentioned apologizing for being right that I realized maybe there was one.

@pieskmista

4 жыл бұрын

honestly no, men do this too, it's just being polite. Unless I'm on extremely good terms with the recipient of my comment I will make every attempt to take the sting out of saying "no your wrong". This was even taught in my university in team projects.

@muir9257

4 жыл бұрын

@Nick Smith get out of here you incel

@zoozoozee

4 жыл бұрын

.. rohan

@NumneunoGames

4 жыл бұрын

@Miss Alwaily That comment was pretty ironic don't you think? As soon as Nick presented an oposing or different point of view pops up he is branded as an incel... "Now that guy who has a different opinion is an incel and must hate women" @meri pretty much removed his "?" out of the situation def brainwashed.

@NumneunoGames

4 жыл бұрын

@leila lalala The way I see it the world shifted to a sort of "I'm better than you/ holier-than-thou" paradigm, all the different extremists are sympthon IMO

12:41 "What do any of us really know about the shoes in which we have never walked?"

@KSangel180

5 жыл бұрын

Skipp Andover yes!!

@wordoflifejd

5 жыл бұрын

JESUS KNOWS

@PaterDJ

5 жыл бұрын

I can guess they are often VERY uncomfortable - that much I get :)

@TheHorseOutside

5 жыл бұрын

@@wordoflifejd I love not knowing if this is saying nobody knows or yelling out GOD KNOWS ALL. It's hilarious, without a hint of irony.

@ZVENOM6134

5 жыл бұрын

I agree, this is especially so for women who never understand guys who are forced into National Service and the army. Having to give up many years of our lives when our female counterparts can move on without a worry in the world

I have watched this so many times and love it every time. She is amazing and makes me happy every time I watch.

@davidgreg6989

2 ай бұрын

She's indeed an inspiration all women, I listen to her speech and she made too many sense. I pray God gives you lots of beautiful days, I'm David Greg originally from Spain Granada i live in Austin Texas and you?

Thank you Paula for sharing your story with us all. I hope your journey gets better as a woman and as a woman, I can relate. More power to you... You Go Girl! 🚺💃👏

@themeangene

2 жыл бұрын

Paul is a man

“ you know what I think about a lot , my brown skin daughter and daughter in law , what do they know that I am clueless about “ 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

@vasudhakota972

2 жыл бұрын

What does that mean? I didnt really understand that part.

@nopenope4502

2 жыл бұрын

@@vasudhakota972 It means that because of their brown skin, they probably experience racism and stuff that Paula, as a white woman, won't know or understand :)

@vasudhakota972

2 жыл бұрын

@@nopenope4502 Thanks for explaining it🙂

@nopenope4502

2 жыл бұрын

​@@vasudhakota972 No problem :)

As a non-binary person, the first tima a friend called me Harley, i wanted to cry in happiness The "he called me Paula" hit real close to home She's great at talking, i really enjoyed this TED talk

@FaeKinomo98

3 жыл бұрын

I ended up just shortening my name, so the first time I was called "Cass" after coming out was nice, but I didn't get a sense of euphoria. When I was referred to by the correct pronouns though... bruh... I think I experienced Nirvana LOL

@pennylane4718

3 жыл бұрын

i had the same experience a couple days ago when my best friend said "good night cameron" for the first time! sending love to you

@joyceharris9296

3 жыл бұрын

@harleylopez My most favourite times are we God reminds me: You are MINE. 💟💟💟

What a beautiful video. Thank you so much!

this is THEE most powerful TED TALK I have ever heard.. I am going to find Dr. Paula Stone Williams..

"The more you're treated like you don't know what you're talking about, the more you think you don't know what you're talking about." THIS!!!

I am a woman "of a certain age" much older than this lovely lady. Today is a paradise for women compared to the past. I remember serving coffee to men in business office, police ignoring spousal abuse. Centuries of abusing women without recourse. We have come a long way Ladies!!

@janaleland9038

2 жыл бұрын

Not even far enough!

@dawnbrown5331

2 жыл бұрын

Yes we have come far but that doesn't mean we are there yet!

@dianesmith5541

2 жыл бұрын

We shouldn't want more? That is great that you see there has been improvement in treatment, but I honestly see those things still happening today. I don't think we have come as far as you think...

@Amilakasun1

2 жыл бұрын

If only they were laughing at those victims because when men are abused by women people tend to laugh.

@Lucky-wt6fg

2 жыл бұрын

It still goes on……!

"He called me Paula" oh my heart💙

This is my new favorite video on the internet.

"He knew what he knew, but he loved his child..." And just like that, I cried.

@andrewaway

3 ай бұрын

Me too. ❤