My decluttering technique is to watch an episode of Hoarders. After one show I'm ready to burn everything.

@shahana_style

5 жыл бұрын

OMG yes!!!! Me too. Seriously. Reality TV is good for something

@lesliepomales221

5 жыл бұрын

😂!

@gigglingboyinthebackground2902

5 жыл бұрын

#FACTS

@JacquelineLP

5 жыл бұрын

That’ll work! Lol! 👍🏾🤣

@kimfields1000

5 жыл бұрын

Jackies HomeSweetHome hmuo/

I was doing a KonMari cycle through the house and I spilled my drink. My question became, “If this were covered in red wine, would I try to save it?” It really helped with decision-making.

@SarahLizDoan

3 жыл бұрын

Wow that’s excellent!

@PatfromJamul

3 жыл бұрын

That is an interesting question to ask! It puts the items into a great perspective for deciding about keeping it or not. I will have to try that out.

@lailedupapillon

3 жыл бұрын

Actually this is a brilliant way to prioritize... love it.

@keh4700

3 жыл бұрын

hahhahaha!!!

@bobbit5670

3 жыл бұрын

You’re philosophical

When my sister died in a car accident I kept her shoes she was wearing while in the car. I kept many of her clothes as well. I got married & wherever I went they went with us. There was something about her belongings that I felt were attached to her & I just couldn't let go of. Then after many years gone by, I cried very hard, then I let them go.

@Lora-G

3 жыл бұрын

Hugs❣️

@lisaedwards9861

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. But that is such a common and normal reaction. Then, when we're ready to let go, we do.

@Mydogguspopo

3 жыл бұрын

Mi. Zero b under your

@daphne4983

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed, when the time is right.

@robenrox

3 жыл бұрын

This really hurt my heart. God bless you.

You can always take a picture of stuff to hold onto the memory of the object without actually having the clutter in your home.

@NicholleWillisLoves

3 жыл бұрын

I do this!!! It helps a lot! But one time I lost a TON of photos I had taken and I cried so much. I don't have the best memory, so those objects help me recall things I don't know I remember. It was really heartbreaking to lose those pictures because unless something reminds me, those memories in those objects are lost forever to me 😔

@jcm5171

11 ай бұрын

What an INCREDIBLE idea ! Oh my God.

"Swedish death cleaning" is purging items out of lives before we die And Not wanting to burden our loved ones with a mountain of clutter and junk to go through after our death. It's about doing it for our loved ones. That is the concept of Swedish Death cleaning.

@mayagayam

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Waited for that explanation all vid

@bam2431

5 жыл бұрын

Love it

@lenoretalon9958

5 жыл бұрын

My family is getting land, cars and money when I die. They can at least allow me to have the things I love around me. Otherwise I’ll donate everything to charity.

@duplicateify

5 жыл бұрын

Artishealing65 Thank you! She said so much and yet so little!

@obsolise8063

5 жыл бұрын

Think I’ve got Swedish Death Cleaning virus.

I can appreciate that he said it "sparks necessity." My toothbrush doesn't necessarily "spark joy"...but I mean, I *need* it.

@sarahr.1076

4 жыл бұрын

I also heard the question once: "Would I buy this again?" - the toothbrush is absolutely one such thing ^^

@michellem5647

4 жыл бұрын

Yes but some people may have a box with 47 toothbrushes ....

@muffycrosswire2757

4 жыл бұрын

People should be changing their toothbrushes out every three months, so they are something that is fine to stock up on

@n.6353

4 жыл бұрын

You both kinda missed the point on that one. You want clean teeth right? Therefore it sparks joy... because if you didn’t have it, you would feel bad / dirty. It’s the same for other things you need but don’t necessarily celebrate. If it gets the job done well, it sparks joy. It just comes across as lack of understanding to be honest, but whatever works for you I guess 🤷🏽‍♀️.

@arjay1566

4 жыл бұрын

KonMari has this idea that some items will not spark joy, but the result of having and using said item will spark job. Tooth brush may not spark job, but clean teeth and not needing dental work do spark joy.

I have been decluttering now for years. I started as a sloppy “pre-hoarding” mess. (I wasn’t so bad as to not see the floor, or not to be able to sleep in my own bed, but... I could definitely see myself decades later in that arena if I didn’t watch out!) I held onto junk mail because I never had a place for it, let alone recycling. I held on to past life’s, like when I was a race horse owner breeder. I held onto to my mother’s/grandmother’s things to give to my daughter, “someday.” I was classic. I had many duplicates because what I couldn’t find , I bought again. And, I bought stuff. I still do buy and I need to let that go too. I got rid of at least half of my STUFF. I was on the that journey when I decided to move to be near my daughter. So I purged hard. There were donations, giving to friends and trips to the recycle center AND many trips to the dump (some of my important stuff was ruined in a large RV garage by the mice. Eek! But, as you know, some of us keep important stuff but don’t give it the respect it deserves.) Today, I saw this video and I realized that the emotional journey has been worth it! I just moved again to be near my daughter. I chose a home nearly 500 sqft smaller than my last place. Again, I purged. But, this time, I list my job in July(I was a tourism director snd as you know the majority of my industry is at zero) but had planned to retire on October 1st. So I was incredibly lucky to move my retirement up by several months. It was a whirlwind because I got out of my house by July 27th. With nowhere to live, everything I owned went into storage. Most of it was packed by a friend because I was working. So most of it wasn’t organized. My daughter just left after helping me unpack 2 different days & to purge. And she helped me make my home exactly that. I know this is a long post but I wanted you to know Kathryn that you gave me a lot of the courage to get where I am today. I have been watching since you were a teacher before KIDS! I know how hard it was for you to share your journey of letting go. I once took a life coaching journey. I was talking about avoidance and not dealing with things. And my coach stopped me short to say that at the time I needed to do what I did because I couldn’t at that time. Holding onto things IS mentally challenging. I think at 66 I’m finally starting to feel the difference of this freedom. The best part is that now that I’ve let go, I get to have my grandkids over because my house is no longer cluttered!

@aaaaaaoooommmm

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your story: I have realized that if my place belonged to any friend of mine, I would cry upon entering, since it's so obvious something is very wrong. That is true now after my beloved dog died suddenly a week before Thanksgiving plus all the anxiety of Covid-19 lockdowns (= no comforting hugs, or being able to visit my friends) and all the political insanity === I have just felt frozen. Like a deer in the headlights of a massive truck. I am going to try tiny, halting baby steps. Oops, no. There's no try...only do says Yoda. I will give myself 15-20 minutes on a timer to declutter one finite space. If that goes well, I will do that again tomorrow. Otherwise, I will exhaust myself and berate myself for failing this seemingly simple task. Thank you again for pointing out the emotional aspect of this decluttering.🤔 😊😔😰😣😩😢😫🤯

@traceyrichardson9550

3 жыл бұрын

Even if you only put one thing away, you have achieved something and maybe you will achieve more the day after? Whatever you manage to do is more than you did and before you know it - you will feel like yourself again. Much love to you all, it is a process!

@CornflowerBlues5

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

I took care of my Dad and Mom til they passed. They had 84 years of treasures and items they used to make life better and easier for 7 kids. Then I had to go through it all and donate, etc. I'm 68 and taking care of this job so my family will not have the burden. 😊

My relationship with 'stuff' changed dramatically after I lost everything in a house fire. My dad built the home I'd lived in all my life up until then. That was the hardest part. Now I don't assign emotional attachment to anything. It drives my husband nuts that I am so quick to donate or toss just about anything. I'm not sure if I'm at a healthy place with that, but to be honest I don't think too much about it. My Dad took his own life a few years after that fire. Now I look back on that house fire, at the time the hardest thing I had to go through, living out of a hotel room with my family, wearing nothing but donated clothing, the only place I felt at home being my truck.... I look back now and think that was nothing. Compared to what came next, it was nothing. Things don't keep love alive. I have nothing but an old work shirt to remember my father by. But you know what? I don't even need that. The memories are what are precious. I remember the tree house he built us as kids. I remember the fairy tale garden he grew in the backyard when my husband asked him if he could marry me. The gazebo he built with our initials on the railing we said our vows in. I remember them with love and sadness. They don't need to be here with me for me to recall what an amazing man my father was, and how much he loved me.

@marthastonerboner

3 жыл бұрын

House fires are a horrible event that teaches us that what's important is not things. I found out same as you. I have turned into a clutter bug again after many years, but I'm still good about just randomly donating things that have no use, purpose or reason. It's time again to go through and do it more. Yes memories are what matter most.

@93kimodaat

3 жыл бұрын

So sorry you went through that.

@samanthab5752

3 жыл бұрын

Your dad sounded like an amazing and sweet man. I’m so sorry for your loss.

@moonharp

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so profoundly sorry. That is my worst nightmare, x 2. I've spent a lifetime collecting delightful little pieces of art and remembering the hands that made them. Many of the people in my life have been less than kind to me, and all these things often make me much happier than many of my interactions with people. I can't imagine wanting to live if all this original art was destroyed. I adore my husband and cats and horses, and am very lucky to have them, but the idea of losing all the daily delights of art is so horrific I can't even imagine it.

@elizabethwilcox9199

3 жыл бұрын

Take photos so you can remember them! Write down why they’re special to you.

The one thing no one ever brings up is to stop buying stuff. We have enough.

@kmarchman1047

5 жыл бұрын

I said the same thing just the other day. I was thinking of buying some clothes for summer but I realized I couldn't even get all the clothes I already have in my çloset.

@sonyajordan8597

5 жыл бұрын

I wish others would realise this

@emilieraelee5234

5 жыл бұрын

It's because we're constantly told (subliminally) that we NEED it. Personally I hate stuff lol I love a good throw out 🤾‍♀️

@mrerrol69

5 жыл бұрын

@@lola2837 yes!!!! I agree

@annebronn4592

5 жыл бұрын

@@lola2837 Absolutely

When my Mother went into a nursing home my sister and I were left to clean out our family home of 44 years. It was absolutely overwhelming. We ended up having an auction. It opened my eyes to all the things I had in my own home. I had a 2,200 sq foot home packed full. I ended up selling my home and getting rid of probably 95% of my junk. I now live in a 524sq foot apartment with very little and it’s amazing to be free of the stuff.

@carolvanoppen2118

10 ай бұрын

Same happened to me when mother died. Our childhood home packed full! We also did an auction and when I returned to my apartment (I live in another town) I started decluttering my things

after my grandmother died my mom and aunt spent weeks going through her stuff. she had a modest home that i would not have described as cluttered in a million years. but when you think about the fact that something has to be done with everything, from the dining room table to a box of thumb tacks... it really adds up. after that mom gave her (adult) children stickers and told us to mark the things of hers we wanted after her death. she wrote it all down. she's still young and in great health but she said it helps her make choices about possessions and purchases.

@sewmeonekenobi639

3 жыл бұрын

As I was finishing my move to my new apartment I realized that I had literally touched everything single thing that I own. There was something surreal about that.

@normagonzalez4987

3 жыл бұрын

While a little strange to think so far into the future that is oddly a great way to try and divide things.

@Visshaldar

3 жыл бұрын

@@normagonzalez4987 mostly i think she just doesnt want to leave us in the position she and her sister found themselves in, grieving in a house full of stuff with no guidance on what to do with any of it or who should get what. now if we could just get my dad to sticker his garage...

@Visshaldar

3 жыл бұрын

@@sewmeonekenobi639 moving is a great chance to declutter!

@normagonzalez4987

3 жыл бұрын

@@Visshaldar ahh that makes sense.

Decluttering is emotionally draining, but feels so good when it’s done. Everything I own, owns a part of me.

@daphne4983

3 жыл бұрын

True, but it's ok to be owned by stuff. Just the right stuff :)

@MoreThanOrder

3 жыл бұрын

Very powerful 2nd sentence... wow.

@jenniferm1662

3 жыл бұрын

Wow that 2nd sentence has me truly ready to go toss a lot of “things” I do not want “owning me”

@rn4l62

3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@rosieposie1780

3 жыл бұрын

Well said

I really feel this. My partner passed away 4 years ago and our just daughter said to me, mum why do you have dads everything like I don't think he wants you to keep his socks. It was an eye opener for me to move on and go through his staff and finding new homes for it and giving the clothes to homeless men mad me feel like it gave it a purpose beyond our cupboard

@paigan9

3 жыл бұрын

Namaste.

@WhiteWolfBlackStar

3 жыл бұрын

That is so cool. I can't tell you how much that means to a homeless person. Thank you.

@HoneyRowland

3 жыл бұрын

My husband passed 4 yrs ago too. #widowBalls.

@education461

3 жыл бұрын

Yes your husband had those things to use them and now he doesn't need them. Giving them to people who do need them is a wonderful act! You can keep only the items that were a symbol of a real emotional connection between you and him or between him and your kids.

@FatNebraskaMom

3 жыл бұрын

Im so sorry. I hope you are doing okay.

This really resonates with me. I'm 62 and my sister is 60. We have no children, just cousins in their 80s. Who's going to clean up after us?! Also, sadly, my sis was diagnosed with alzheimer's 3 years ago. She had stopped cleaning. Her 3 bed house was a nightmare, a hoarder who NEVER gave away anything. Kept clothes from her 20s. Only last year did she allow me to start going through stuff. I've cleaned and donated loads. Some was recycled and some binned. I am exhausted and not done yet. Her paperwork was massive but luckily I'm her opposite and started loads of lever arch files. I have a file called Death. I've prepaid my funeral, picked the hymns etc. It's not morbid, I like being organised and don't want to be a burden when I'm gone.

I love that when she shows her home it's a real home. All the time you'll see these influencer homes with this extraordinary expensive closets and most likely messy corners are skipped. This is a real home and a real way to organize. Thank you 🧡

I love my daughters approach when she moved away from home. She took photos. Then got rid of the objects. She said. ‘I have the memory, I don’t need the thing’.

@SisterWatchmanBrooke

3 жыл бұрын

Yes- I had Heard about that I got out all my clothes (for ecample that are from back in another season of life, so I HONESTLY dont ever wear them anymore ~but they're still (nice) ~~~~~~~ so I laid them all out on my Bed, did a photoshoot, and folder them all to be ♡Donated to like a women's safe haven shelter ~where they will really love these new clothes to them!😊 So taking pictures of the things as like a little maybe silly but who cares) funeral ~to let them be sent off to another happy place~* ~IT TOTALLY WORKS =]

@DPecs92

3 жыл бұрын

That's from the Marie Kondo method!

@blue_willow48

3 жыл бұрын

The picture idea is a good one

@amywalker7515

3 жыл бұрын

. . . . until you do need the thing, then you have to go buy it again. I'm a landlord and have gotten to the point I can find just about any part or tool I need in my basement. Of course there's lots of stuff that needs to go too. Been putting free ads on Craigslist and it's amazing how much stuff I would have pitched in the trash makes someone else happy. I've given away storm windows, kitchen countertops, butcher blocks, light fixtures, doors, building materials, doorbells, etc. etc. etc. Even luggage, excessive cookware, outgrown clothes and food. I gave away 7 home grown luffas and the people who took them were thrilled. You just never know.

@moocrazytn

3 жыл бұрын

I did that 13 years ago when my husband died. I may never look at those pics, but I feel better having them in the cloud.

If I were only keeping the things that make me happy, my dog would be under one arm and my cat under under other. And we'd blow this joint.

@dee4174

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Save the kids, the dog and the Guinea Pig and life is complete!

@jeanbean1390

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. 🐶🐶🐱

@LV-oz5xu

4 жыл бұрын

HAHA. That's funny.

@mjrussell414

4 жыл бұрын

icymellymel I hear you. But I've got 3 cats and a shih tzu, so I'd have to make a couple trips.

@mariazahedi7444

4 жыл бұрын

Can totally relate!

I agree, but! I have felt a certain loss of identity with my last decluttering. Most of what I kept was utilitarian and the most minimal of momentos. For instance, (btw I'm old enough to be retired), I got rid of my black and white stuffed animal collection last time. Eeeks! Who knew? The attachment I had to them was more than frivolous sentiment, but a whole range of experiences, memories, and even values. I can't get over the feeling of loss. It's been over 2 years. I think I found comfort knowing they were in a box somewhere and I could pull them out at Christmas whenever so inclined. I have lost a whole range of cozy feelings I could instantly acquire by just looking at their furry little faces. Beware. Things CAN be more than things. Sorry. Great video.

@BreezeOnTheLake

3 жыл бұрын

To C Boyle - I do agree with you. I think decluttering is healthy but I also believe a person can go too far. I don't think we should get rid of things that truly do bring us a sense of meaning and a visceral connection to our personal history, just knowing we still have them. I would caution that if it really hurts to let something go, don't. William Morris said keep only the things that are either one of two things: practical, or beautiful to you. I personally include "meaningful" in the beautiful category. I still regret getting rid of some meaningful belongings a dozen years ago now and I honestly still could kick myself.

@1taylorgibson

3 жыл бұрын

I put things in my car to take to goodwill, but i almost always wait a week or two in case i change my mind about any of them. More thanna few times, i have retrieved them.

@sugar_venom

3 жыл бұрын

Very very true! I sold highly expensive jewelry my ex got me right after we broke for very little money because it reminded me too much of him and my heart still aches to have those two necklaces back. Once necklace was $3000 and the other $1000 and they were the most beautiful gem stone necklaces gifted to me. Idk what I was thinking... but things can be more than things and that’s ok!

@alicemasterson5318

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry the adjustment has been harder than you'd hoped. Thank you for your honesty! Perhaps they're being loved by someone else now though? :) Watch Toy Story 3! I've read that it can be useful to take photos of the things you're getting rid of. Photos can bring back such vivid memories, it's like you never got rid of the "thing" at all! Just a thought. Take care.

@louelaine6539

3 жыл бұрын

No need to apologize. My natural instinct is to be a hoarder. I've moved many times and moved things with me. Each time I move I do pare down though. Some things I have got rid of I wish I didn't. Too many times we let others tell us how to think and feel about your belongings. Those people are not you. They can't possibly know how you feel about something. Too often we accept other's shaming and ridiculing and take advice against our will, just to keep peace. " Hoarding" may be a boundary issue for some. Respect your own personal boundaries. That means being honest with yourself, recognizing your needs, realizing "those people" whoever they are, are not living your life. Free yourself from other's expectations.

When you called your Dad and started to cry...I jumped up and decluttered my whole bedroom .You will never know how much your videos...have changed my life .I don't want to leave my kids with all my issues..Everyday it gets a little better. I'M SO HAPPY NOW❤️❤️❤️❤️thanks again

I read Swedish Death Cleaning and found it very helpful, but having a naturally organized person validate how emotionally draining the process can be was huge! The phone conversation with your dad, followed by tears, told me that I'm not crazy to be blindsided by strong feelings as I go through things. Thank you for the peek inside your experience.

@commandercaptain4664

3 жыл бұрын

I was hoping for something more Swedish death metal in nature, but mmmkuy.

@nicole7041

3 жыл бұрын

@@commandercaptain4664 You could always listen to Swedish Death Metal while you organize.

I had the same reaction when I chose to get rid of my grandmothers tea cups. I kept them from when we moved her into a home because I felt responsible for them. They sat in a box, they brought me no joy and I had no use for them. I also had zero memories attached to these cups, like it’s not like my grandmother and I sat down and drank tea out of them. I cried because I felt like I was letting her down and my mother down but the reality was that no one even remembered I had them. It’s amazing when we humanize our stuff and attached so much more value to them than they are actually worth. Good for you, Kathryn!!

@christineb1581

4 жыл бұрын

I have the exact same issue - a misc collection of sorts, but never used, sitting in a curio to admire - but who does really (admire them)?? Wondering what to do with them now, maybe see if they are worth something? I did get to ask her about them before she passed....found out she never traveled out of the US but just liked the oriental decor so they weren't even souvenirs of special trips or anything. I wonder if I get rid of them will I regret it, like when I'm truly retired and able to host tea parties, will I even use them then??

@MegF142857

4 жыл бұрын

My Mom really had the idea to pass things down through the family. Old furniture & dishes etc etc. -- My sister was then given the house with the things when my Mom died with the promise that my sister would continue to make sure the items were passed down through the family or to at least a good new home. The objects are not just objects, but like talismans. My Mom would put things over people sometimes. My sister does try to get the provenance of the items & also tries to get people the items to make their own memories. It's kind of fascinating how objects can take on so much power over people. -- I have old wedding gifts never used & stuck in a dusty box in the garage, but haven't let them go. Your post reminds me that maybe time to pass them to Goodwill. Someone will love the cut glass, I'm sure.

@melaniestewart8908

4 жыл бұрын

I have all my grandmothers china and kept my grandfathers cloths for years for no reason. I feel like I need to drop them off at a thrift store...uuugh, your so right, nobody even remembers I have these things

@tinaerdtman3712

4 жыл бұрын

Oh dear, tea cups. My mom gave me tea cups she got from her mother when I moved out 25 years ago. Grandmother died 10 years ago. I never drank tea with my grandmother, she was a very... unpleasant person. But still I take those f*cking cups with me when I move. I don't even drink tea! WHY?

@pesterlig

4 жыл бұрын

Your grandmother is important; her stuff is not.

Been begging my mother for years to do a cleaning like this...she just says I can deal with it when she dies... seriously it gives me anxiety thinking about the mess she actually wants to leave me with

@alzorama2876

3 жыл бұрын

I feel for you. I'm the named executor/successor-trustee on my mom's estate and after trying for four years to de-clutter her home with no success, I AM THROUGH. I have said that after heirlooms and personal family stuff is removed, I am simply going to put stuff on the curb for people to pick through and then rent a roll-away bin and have everything that's left hauled away. Seriously, thinking about dealing with her estate (and my siblings) makes me feel that it's gonna take years off of my life. I get stressed thinking about it.

@KathleenJ

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you! When I visit I make mental lists, that's going to go, sis can have that etc.

@Chewy725

3 жыл бұрын

totally agree with this, but I've had to try & think - it's just stuff & I WILL get thru it. Torture tho :/

@cayenneellis4128

3 жыл бұрын

My maternal grandmother was an awful hoarder, and they had lived in the same house (and raised three children there!) for over 40 years when it fell to my mother alone to deal with. Her and I, and my two cousins were all the offspring left. We went through and picked out the things that mattered to each of us, and then for the rest an auctioneer sold as it was at an estate sale. That might be the way for you to go!

@nyrockchicxx

3 жыл бұрын

@@alzorama2876 Just go room by room instead of trying to "cross-room". Even if you move some items to another room until you figure out what you're doing with them. As you finish one room, it's done. Eventually they will all be done. Seems like you may not be wanting to make the decision on where things go. But legally you have the power. Do you have siblings? Are they fighting you over things? If it's NOT hard for you, let them come in and take what they want. If they are not interested, then just follow as I stated before. Good Luck! You can do this.

Wow! Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing with us how hard it can be to navigate our stuff, especially after a loved one has died.

“It doesn’t make me happy and my mom gave it to me because it didn’t make her happy” The best argument I’ve heard for just up and throwing shit away.

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

3 жыл бұрын

Donate it to a charity. We have ENOUGH garbage.

@sonnyblake4041

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@sandrapenrod7927

3 жыл бұрын

I hate it when my mom cleans because she can't seem to throw anything away but sending it to my house makes her feel better about not throwing it away.

@jomurphy8034

3 жыл бұрын

This is a Marie Kondo thing, actually - don't be offloading all your crap to other people!

@sweetpeace5

3 жыл бұрын

@@jomurphy8034 Foisting 🤣

"The best t-shirt rises to the top." Classic!😆

@AbsentWithoutLeaving

3 жыл бұрын

And TRUE, lol.

I helped my mother move from Indiana to Florida. Believe it or not, she wanted to keep a sales printout from over 30 years ago where she sold furniture. Even that was hard for her to let go. Now that she’s moved down here to even smaller quarters, she still weeding out items to giveaway. But it was extremely jarring for her. After seeing what she was hoarding, I have now been going through and giving things away. You have to just think, “I’m going to let someone else enjoy this”. It’s like sharing!

@alycewich4472

3 жыл бұрын

@Ann S - Thank you for that last sentence, I love that idea of letting someone else enjoy this as a way of sharing.

You know what the organizers say. “You wear 20% of your wardrobe 80% of the time.”

@wartanabadanooh7157

3 жыл бұрын

This is so true! I literally rotate 3 different outfits at best

@timothypearson6101

3 жыл бұрын

this is actually a very interesting and accurate comment. This is the Pareto principle. It is a mathematical principle that is found present in every aspect of life that seem to be completely organic and devoid of mathematical laws. This Vsauce video looking at the Zipf principle (which examines this phenomenon within the use of language) explains it very well! kzread.info/dash/bejne/mHeimtysaZSYf6g.html

@littlechickenfarm2436

3 жыл бұрын

If only that 20% could last 80% longer. I hate wearing out my favorite things.

@adaikonen

3 жыл бұрын

Can confirm. And I don't even have a wardrobe of clothes

@shingtome2179

3 жыл бұрын

I felt that

The best t-shirts rise to the top you know! That was hilarious I love this video thanks Kathryn !

@Ciruela1

5 жыл бұрын

Me too!!

@celestebuckway5436

5 жыл бұрын

@@Ciruela1 It made perfect sense! I'm sure I have said that to myself before.

@suz0000

5 жыл бұрын

I recognize that drawer. 😖

@staceykersting705

5 жыл бұрын

That was the BEST tip here! Zactly how I sort my shirt stacks!

@Sayonararuiz

5 жыл бұрын

Yess

If you can let go of things, but feel a bit emotional about it, take a picture of it and keep the picture. Sometimes, just having a picture of the thing is enough to jog your memory of the good feeling attached to it.

@mrswaltonk04

5 жыл бұрын

That is a wonderful idea. ❤❤❤

@cindy846

5 жыл бұрын

I do exactly that! It makes me feel so relieved to throw out those things, but to still have a memory of them.

@lillyc6527

5 жыл бұрын

She threw away a picture with a memory and keep plastic topiaries. She will take pictures of topiaries next. Ha!

@kezkezooie8595

5 жыл бұрын

That's a really good idea!

@bjduke2271

5 жыл бұрын

With the recent passing of my beloved husband, I took pictures of all the personal things, that belong to my husband, and passed them on to our two sons. I'm so glad I did that! 🥀🥀🥀🥀

Thank you for being vulnerable and showing that some decluttering is so emotionally taxing. I did a major declutter of my house over a year ago and there were things I cried over too. But I only gave in on 1 item and kept it. I'm glad I did, but I'm also glad I didn't give in on the rest. If you're just starting your purge, #1...don't start with your sentimental items! But also know that it's okay to cry and purge those guilt feelings. Be thankful for the object and for any joy you experienced while using it, and then let it go so it can bless someone else.

OMGOSH! I am exactly like you! I was in horrible pain for 15 years, and stuff piled up that I couldn’t clean. After successful surgery last year, I felt so much better, and began the decluttering process and remodeling the whole house! It has been exhausting, but it is making me so happy to see the results!

I thought this was just going to be her cleaning like a lunatic while listening to Swedish death metal

@MsGilly1967

5 жыл бұрын

I'm a grandmother & currently doing a death clean while listening to Opeth.... LOUD 😳

@duplicateify

5 жыл бұрын

Alex Stilwell I wish it was, instead of her yammering on.

@MsGilly1967

5 жыл бұрын

@@duplicateify I should post one of my next big clean... I'm bipolar so never know in advance when I'll get hyper, but it would definitely be entertaining & the music awesome 😀

@dawn5227

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣

@GeorgianaOnline

4 жыл бұрын

I suddenly want this in my life!

„It sparks necessity.“ THANK YOU, Charlie !! Not everything has to spark joy, there are some things we simply need - joy or not 😉

@Sayonararuiz

5 жыл бұрын

undLiebeZitrone love this part cause relatable

@alibaebee7675

5 жыл бұрын

totally agree!!

@staceykersting705

5 жыл бұрын

Yup....like everything in my apartment, except plants, but, then, I'm a plant hoarder.

@undLiebeZitrone

5 жыл бұрын

Stacey Kersting me too 🌱🌱🌱

@erynlasgalen1949

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, my toilet brusg doesn't spark joy, but I wouldn't throw it out.

Before I throw out things that I "think" my kids will want after I'm dead, I ask them if they want it now. Either way it's leaving my house. My home motto is "my house is NOT a storage unit."

@alycewich4472

3 жыл бұрын

@Kristen Hughes -- I love your last statement, "My house is NOT a storage unit." I was just reading a book on clutter called "Making Space, Clutter Free" by Tracy McCubbin and she talks about the "why" of what you keep. One of her 'whys' is other people's stuff. When I read that, I looked around my very chaotic living room and said to myself, "That belongs to___ and that belongs to___ and that belongs to___" In that moment I discovered that the bulk of the clutter was something I was saving/keepng for someone else. So I'm stopping that and getting the stuff to the people who I was keeping it for. It's amazing how much less clutter there is in the house!

I neeeeded to watch this! Thank you! Over the last 10 years I have gone from “collecting” to teetering on “hoarding”!😱 I’m an antique dealer and home stager so it’s easy to justify holding onto things that could be considered inventory. I’m ready to get rid of things that don’t serve a purpose!

My marriage of 33 years has come to an end and it is amazing how I have picked up the pieces of my broken life and have decluttered everything in my home and I feel so much stronger and more alive than I ever have. Thank you for sharing your videos they have helped me so much. ❤️❤️

@lisab9541

5 жыл бұрын

Please come help me do it!

@Lastkings956

5 жыл бұрын

It’s not as hard as it seems...

@carolbradley7815

5 жыл бұрын

I've just had the same experience. 35 years for me. I'm not quite f innished but it is so refreshing. I'm also feeling stronger, more confident and happier than I've been for years.

@fayetoliver562

5 жыл бұрын

Ladies it does feel good at first, but when the house got empty I started filling it up again. So don't skip decluttering yourself of feelings you haven't felt in years, one at a time. And thank you for sharing.

@TheWinterburne

5 жыл бұрын

isabel rivas don’t view your whole life broken, just because one piece of it broke.Japanese people put back their broken bowls and plates by fusing the pieces with gold and cherish them more. So gather your broken pieces and put yourself together again. Life is not over yet

This is the “realest” decluttering video I’ve ever seen. Calling your dad to ask to get rid of something he gave you? That was powerful. Thank you for making this video.

@sconan01

4 жыл бұрын

Michelle Allen But what do you do with things your deceased parents gave to you? That’s where I get stuck.

@sconan01

4 жыл бұрын

Michelle Allen But what do you do with things your deceased parents gave to you? That’s where I get stuck.

@jodikydd

4 жыл бұрын

Daily Dubstep If you don’t love them or need them, they go. Things aren’t the person.

@ronifae8286

4 жыл бұрын

@@sconan01 You can sell them (Facebook has community garage sales), donate them to charities such as Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc. Did you know that Goodwill recycles torn or stained apparel, linens, single shoes, gloves, and socks, in any condition?

@stephanieswtchks800

4 жыл бұрын

@@sconan01 your parents live on in your memories and heart. They are so much more than one thing. No single thing identifies your parent to you. Swedish Death cleaning: Imagine YOU have croaked. Your family is walking through your home. What would you not want them to see or find? What would you not want them to have to deal with? So... *Do not leave your clutter for your family to wade through. *Don't keep things that would embarrass you or someone still living. *Throw out what you are not using right now, nor will have use for in the next year. *You get ONE box that is your PERSONAL stuff. Things only important to you. Things nobody else wants. This is a box your family doesn't need to go through. They can just pick it up and throw it out. I put things incredibly precious to me that my Mom gave me in there. It means something to me. It fills, overwhelms my heart with memories and love. Paw prints of pets who have passed away. I throw out or donate things that were hers or my dad's that are just things or possessions. I hope this helps you. It is really hard to only have one box. I kept NO more than two "?" boxes. I put a date on the box. Go through those boxes again in six months when you are in the mind frame to do it. Pretend like you are going through someone else's stuff. You will be surprised how objective you can be. These are things that helped me. It is a process. I kept my Moms things for 15 years until I was finally ready to go through them. I cried my eyes out, laughed and looked like a crazy person. I found some things incredibly easy and some of the things yikes! It took me two sessions just to sit down and do it. I felt much better when it was done. Pictures of people I don't know I threw out. If I knew someone and they had living relatives, I contacted them to see if they wanted them. If I could not find contact info, I threw them out. Good luck to you.

Half my closet is filled with my husband’s clothes. He passed away over a year ago. I feel like I’m almost ready to do something with his stuff.

I appreciate the fact that it was mentioned, as weird as it may sound to some, that people can get emotionally attached to items. Case in point for me; my husband of 34 years was murdered. Initially, I held on to everything. Notes I found with his writing, old cologne bottles, clothing, etc. etc. It's been a few years now and I have been able to offer items to family members and have slowly gained the strength to part with items that would mean nothing to anyone else. I need the strength to continue and your video inspired me to keep moving forward. Thank you for the positive look at how decluttering can help people heal.

When I did my first big de-clutter 2 summers ago my biggest revelation was how emotionally draining de-cluttering is. Sure physically draining, but the emotions and memories that are attached to everything you touch is so overwhelming. I used to be one of those moms who saved things "in case any of the kids want it" and man was I wrong to do that. My children are now old enough that I can ask them if it's something they think they may want or want now and then I'll decide if holding onto it is worth it. I've even started using my grandmothers good China every day, and I've started wearing my good jewelry on a more regular basis - we have these things to use and because we loved them when we bought them so why hide them in cabinets and jewelry boxes? Life is too short - use the good China, wear the good jewelry, and don't worry about saving things for the kids. Thank you for sharing.

@cdjmoore

5 жыл бұрын

I love this attitude, Kimberly! Life is NOW, use the good stuff!!

I’m not a materialistic person, but after a huge loss and grief period in my life I definitely have a harder time letting “things” go. Thanks for sharing.

@Shelsight

4 жыл бұрын

b-fergsmom sending you love & healing xxx

@Shelsight

4 жыл бұрын

@@BFergs187 Your comment resonated with me as I lost my best friend, Charlie, when we were both 23 (24 years ago.) I still keep in regular touch with his mom, as I know her loss cut deeper than I could ever imagine. And I still talk about him to old & new friends, as I promised her back then that I'd keep his memory alive. She's always said you never get 'over' it, but some things helped her get 'through' the worst so she could live the life he would have wanted her to. I'll continue to send you my thoughts. Take care. x

@JanisFoleyPhotography

4 жыл бұрын

@@BFergs187 I'm so sorry for your loss... ❤🙏

@JanisFoleyPhotography

4 жыл бұрын

@@BFergs187 Oh of course I don't mind! Find me on Instagram! Be my friend! ❤😁 Instagram.com/JanisFoleyPhotography 📷

Thank you for being so real and helping me with what I know I have to do to move forward. 💜🙏🏾💜🙏🏾

You’re so kind to be so vulnerable for those of us who need you to be even though that means you’re opening yourself up to being hurt by people who won’t appreciate you. Thank you for showing your pain and by way allowing me to feel mine in this area. ❤️

I appreciate you calling your father to offer the items back to him. I hold on to everything & it's really difficult to let go. I can attach sentimental value to almost anything. This helped me because, I guess I never thought about calling. Thank you!

I started crying after you called your dad...it was like you were giving joint permission to each other to get rid of the objects and jointly hold on to the memory instead. So beautiful. And thank you for talking about how grief has it's own timeline- and it cant be rushed. Thank you for this video, your insights, and th e humor and love between you and your husband!

@Qwackdawack

3 жыл бұрын

Cried over a preplanned junk call Get real

Thank you for being so open & honest about what it's really going to be like to go through & get organized! 👏

It's so wonderful and inspiring to see a professional deal with her own emotional clutter. It makes the process seem possible.

It isn't that I don't want to declutter, it takes energy to do it.

@lisalisacuddy7191

3 жыл бұрын

So true.

@beefandchicken

3 жыл бұрын

Word.

@rourou95822

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, that energy thing is draining into keepin the clutter. I used to be a messy person. Now ocd. My space represents my mindset. I rather have it clean n organized.

@asideofaioli4630

3 жыл бұрын

Well what I've found is that if you tuck all new clutter under old clutter, it will buy you at least 3 more months of laziness. Works. like. a. charm. I already tucked earlier today so I'm on my way to fresh new bedsores! A live well lived I tell ya. A life well lived 🛌👍

@standupbroad6648

3 жыл бұрын

One closet, one dresser, one room at a time. Pretend you are moving to a new home ...and the moving company is charging $10 per pound.

wow .. Seeing the video today was perfect timing .. I lost my brother 25 years ago today ... I needed to hear that it's okay to let it go .. Carrying around his stuff for all this time has weighed me down ... At 60, I'm finally ready to let him go ... Thank you.

More than anything, your warm kindhearted approach was so uplifting, ....Excellent !

My closets (2) were small and very dark, I was losing my mind with three dressers in the room. Focus! I bought (2) wardrobes and created a wall of closets and love it. One closet removed and three dressers gone. A wardrobe wall that focus where all the clothes all go. S/O was not happy at first but he now gets it. Benefits incalculable! Now it is organized and manageable! Thank u for allowing me to share!

Your husband nailed it. Very little in my life sparks joy. It is useful or it is necessary.

@marlahill1291

3 жыл бұрын

So is your husband a joy? Or a necessity?

@gremlinsbreath

3 жыл бұрын

@@marlahill1291 Husband?

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you're not shopping at the right places? Because a LOT of stuff I get a whole log of happiness from wearing or using.

My fist time I realised I cannot hold time and have to let go was when I had to donate my daughter's little dresses because she was not a little girl any more. I had a good cry surprisingly. That was years ago...and tomorrow I have to give her away, she is getting married. We don't need a stuff for memories...but I did save one of her dresses hopping one day to give it to her daughter. 😉

@jrdz2691

5 жыл бұрын

That's true. But still hard to move on, I have a 8 months baby girl and I can't donate her clothes yet, I cry just folding it. I can't imagine with other things. Congrats for her wedding, it's so sweet to keep one. Eventually I'll have to face my emotions 💓

@aprilrain2011

5 жыл бұрын

You made me cry. I hope her day was beautiful

@Sehara

5 жыл бұрын

@@aprilrain2011 thank you my dear, it was a beautiful wedding. I was emotional wreck but I held tears because It was time to celebrate. She married her best frend and first and only love at the same time and hope to be there for her when time comes to let go of her girl's clothes. 😘😘😘😘

@okorolina

5 жыл бұрын

@@jrdz2691 I have a two year old and what I've been doing is saving one or two items in great condition that I would love to see her pass down, or that bring many happy memories to me.

@RianaAnais

5 жыл бұрын

Im saving a small capsule of items. Some of us do like to have things to remember a certain time. I also hope to pass them on to her one day if she has children. You can do this without clutter or hoarding, just keep editing it down to the most important few items.

Truthfully, I think this channel is so inspirational. I was on my way to work and just driving and decided to put this on just to break my usual thinking and worrying about life, and yeah, totally did the trick. So refreshing just even to listen to on the road.

Love this. It was so inspiring. "Everything has it's own timeline ". The best line in the video. I'm ready to do this! Thank you.

Thank you for sharing this! After my husband's grandmother died, we bought the house and moved in as it was where he grew up and it was the main hub of all family holidays, alot of memories. We wanted to raise our family there too. After her children came in and dealt with the items that they wanted to keep we were left with the responsibility/burden of having to deal with and dispose of evrything that was left over. Which was the vast majority of it. An whole house and basement full of an entire lifetime of someone elses stuff, it took 2 large dumpsters the size of our drive way just to get rid of all the stuff that wasn't fit for donating. What we ended up with after that is still far too much. More of what we have sitting around is someone else's stuff, leaving not kuch room for our own things. We've been putting it off for a few years now but everytime I go near it I can feel the stress, anxienty and feeling of burden weighing on me and I just want to throw it all out. The emotional connection to some of it and the makes it difficult for both of us but it also feels overwhelming. Little by little I keep tackling it and getting rid of things, and finding a place for the items that will definitely stay. It's definitely a process but so worth it to do. Thank yiu for this! I will share this with my husband in the hopes that it helps him to let go of these things and hopefully we will both be better off without so much stuff just sitting around driving us crazy.

@helenebennie3961

3 жыл бұрын

Little by little. Keep at it. Good luck you two.

@brownlawgmail348

3 жыл бұрын

Mlm

Yes, I went through my house three years ago after my husband died and it was very emotional. Could not stop crying. Made it through and now it is time again, oh dear

@romepix

4 жыл бұрын

Sherrie Fehring sherrie, I lost my husband 1.5 years ago and have gone through this process in the first several months, now I’m going to do an even deeper one soon. Hug. It’s very emotional for we widows ... and helps in some important ways.

@anotherdroid493

4 жыл бұрын

Wishing you peace in this process, hon.

@colleend2977

3 жыл бұрын

I am sorry to you both. I can’t imagine going thru this. There is no time line for this so take all the time you need. Peace as you navigate life without him.

@paigan9

3 жыл бұрын

Peace to you.

Thank you again it is so hard to let go . You always give the right encouraging words

Kathryn, Thank you so very much for this video! I already “knew” the basic reasons for keeping unnecessary items but your charming, practical and emotional demonstration seemed to give me permission to do the same❣️ I’ve held onto things since my Mom died 5 years ago and succumbed to the mental inability to also dispose of my own unwanted items, as well. Both you and your husband are such good sports for sharing your own “purge”. Much love and gratitude for your help! 🙏🏼

I have been cleaning and organizing my office this morning. I lost my Husband almost 3 years ago and have found some things I can not face. I sat down to have lunch and this video popped up. Thank you, could not be better timing. I am jumping back in to get it done. ❤

@JennsCorner777

5 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss. When I lost my dad we had nothing of his except a suitcase of his clothes, his shoes, his glasses and some randomly scribbled notes while in the hospital I couldn't touch anything for at least a year. Grief is hard, it's ok that its not easy. Please don't go through this alone unless you need to.

@lishabelt2633

5 жыл бұрын

For anything you still may not be ready to sort through, set a timer on your phone to remind yourself to check in with it in a few months.

@jeannie525

5 жыл бұрын

@Virginia Andre There is no need for you to part with those items of your dads. Everyone grieves differently and we each face our own grieving in our own time. Sometimes keeping few selected items of our loved ones can be comforting to us but that is just my opinion.

@pama.4849

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe set them aside if you are filled with emotion, to give yourself time to process what they mean to you. Then return in a week or few days or months so you don't regret letting go of something that keeps him close. God bless.

@kezkezooie8595

5 жыл бұрын

@@JennsCorner777 I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost both my mum and dad within a few years of each other and, other than certain things I knew they wanted to give particular people, for several years I just couldn't face going through everything so I packed it all away and, when I could finally face it, did (and am still doing it) bit by bit as I can handle it. I wish you all the best and don't feel you need to force yourself or let others force you to keep going if it becomes too much. I've found from experience that doing that can actually bring it all to a grinding halt for longer than if you do what you can, when you can.

I recently went through this with an old pan. It was big, bulky, worn, and from 1973. But it was my mom's. I couldn't get rid of it for some reason even though I never used it, and honestly neither did she! She hated cooking. I told my husband to take it to the recycling bin for me and cried. Over a pan! But my mom wouldn't want me to cry and to mourn a pan she didn't even like to use. Thank you for this video

@leahnorman9629

3 жыл бұрын

I love your comment. You really revealed the agony of decluttering.

Great job! I need to restart decluttering. It is life changing! Thank you for the inspiration!

This video got me. Thank you for sharing the emotional side of decluttering.

I look at de-cluttering as " letting go of the ropes that bind us to the past". Keep treasures you LOVE and display them or let them go, so you're FREE to move forward in your life in a healthy way. My sister was a hoarder and even kept ALL wristbands she got from all her hospital stays and cancer treatments. She accumulated hundreds before she past away. When we were cleaning out her organized, cluttered home, we discovered that, aside from garbage, she saved EVERYTHING. It was depressing and emotional for our family to go threw it and donate most of it. It was like we were giving pieces of our beloved sister away. PLEASE DON'T DO THIS TO YOUR LOVED ONES.

@amywalker7515

3 жыл бұрын

So much of what we have has no sentimental value at all. I get stuff just in case I might need it and then find it 10 years later wondering why I got it in the first place.

@Jypsie415

3 жыл бұрын

@Doris I totally get that about your sister... Shortly after my mom passed away, I had a yard sale... Afterward I felt as if I had thrown part of my mom away. It was very traumatic. So much so that I haven't been able to get rid of anymore of her stuff since (she died in 2007!!) I think about that happening to my kids when I pass and I don't want to burden them in that way... But at the same time I'm stuck with being unable to part with all this "stuff" and I feel trapped in a paradox.

@juliecipolla6732

3 жыл бұрын

@@Jypsie415 :You are doing the best that you can.

@Jypsie415

3 жыл бұрын

@@juliecipolla6732 Thanks for the encouragement! 💞

@juliecipolla6732

3 жыл бұрын

@@Jypsie415 Good luck

I always thought I was a hoarder because my flat seems permanently packed and then I saw the size of their walk-in wardrobe and realised I just need more space. Yes I do.

@kkibela

3 жыл бұрын

I used to get in constant trouble for having amessy room.. Meanwhile my mom had wall lenght built in wardrobe and six drawer dresser whilst my sister had a very large deep modern wardrobe.. I was given a huge dark antique wardrobe with two short rods facing forward to hang clothes on.. In other words no space at all.. I finally scrounged enough money to get a set of drawers.. It was horrible... Classic gaslighting every other night all through puberty 15 to 18..i had grey hair by the time 21..

@daphne4983

3 жыл бұрын

,😂

@bjuracek21

3 жыл бұрын

Lololol!

@alycewich4472

3 жыл бұрын

@@kkibela I'm so sorry you were treated that way.

Best advice I've ever heard on decluttering and keeping items from the past.

Good for you! Awesome job and thank you for sharing your journey!

Accidentally stumbling across a KZread video titled Swedish Death Cleaning is what started me on my decluttering journey. It was just after my 67th birthday, and I remember thinking “If I don’t do it, my daughter will have to, and that’s not right.”. I hope your video will inspire others.

I have been trying to pick a spot a day to declutter. You know “that chair” in the bedroom with clothes tossed there carelessly that soon becomes a hulking mass of material, sleeves and legs poking out here and there? I found my chair today! And amazingly, my closet was much less empty after.

@pinkrose5796

3 жыл бұрын

I need to do that next week. Wish me luck;)

@lynnecarnivale5085

3 жыл бұрын

@@pinkrose5796 Pink Rose!!! WHERE ARE YOU? DID YOU MAKE IT THROUGH? Should we send help? Ha! God bless you! I'm about to start decluttering RIGHT NOW! Peace, Lynne 🍃💜🍃

@amywalker7515

3 жыл бұрын

The more I declutter, the worse it gets. So much perfectly good stuff, some brand new, too good to toss I want to either sell or give away. It takes time to do this. It's stacked all over the place. This is what happens when you have a very demanding career in a far away city and spend 30 years of your life commuting back and forth to work.

@alycewich4472

3 жыл бұрын

@@marglam6123 Mine's my kitchen table.

@fredrickmona7121

2 жыл бұрын

@@lynnecarnivale5085 hello good morning how are you doing

I just came across this video at a time I really needed it. My house is starting to be cluttered with stuff. I live in a one bedroom and I know I'm holding on to too many things because of the people I have lost in my life. I know I need to let go and its starting to affect me mentally and I don't want it to affect my children. Seeing how real you were and how strong you are made me feel and realize its not just me and I too can let go. I now know and realize because my mom gave it to me because she didn't want it I don't have to hold on to it. I do have so many things that have memories but I know I need to move on. Thank you for making me see this and know it is a hard process but it can be done and the finish project I know will bring me joy. You are awesome a true inspiration. Thank you again. God bless you and please do not stop sharing what you do . 🙏 ❤

Thanks Kathryn. Realize I have kept stuff from when my Dad passed. Now caring for my Mom and have been trying to have her declutter. It is so emotional.❤❤❤

The lake house painting... That's one thing to KEEP definitely...

@puppylove369

5 жыл бұрын

Completely agree! I thought the same thing!!

@AccessoriesAddict5528

5 жыл бұрын

I think people that are going on these decluttering frenzies are really going to regret getting rid of some things once the smoke clears! 💨

@tracigresham7164

5 жыл бұрын

@@AccessoriesAddict5528 I 100% agree👍

@rondalafollette181

5 жыл бұрын

Total agree with keeping the lake house painting! She could hang it in the closet!😊

@tammypierce3250

5 жыл бұрын

Yes I loved it! It was a watercolor painting!

My mom just passed from covid, I needed to see this, I was bawling the whole time, I already have a room full of her things and I'm not done sorting her house out yet.

@1827handmade

3 жыл бұрын

@diannedelledera3096

3 жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss. It will be very difficult to just "throw out" all your mom's things. Take your time.

@alycewich4472

3 жыл бұрын

@ Kissy My family and I are going through the same thing with Mom passing at 92 years old. Her heart just quit. Give yourself the time you need to grieve, remember and sort. You don't have to get rid of everything right away. We are finding that some of it, like photos, can be kept for a little while to sort through after the house is completely cleared of everything else. We've been working on it for over 2 months now and still have more to do, but it WILL get done. Blessings AW

@gerardinecizmar

3 жыл бұрын

@Kissy I'm so sorry.

@gaillittle1700

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss. Take your time. My mom has been gone 6 years and I still have bins of stuff that I can't go through.

This made me feel so normal!! Every day I scroll through social media seeing what I think are picture perfect homes & I feel so down that MY home is not that way. Seeing your home made me realize that I am a normal person and I just need to organise every now and then, I don't need to be picture perfect. Thank you x

I love that this is timely for me having lost my mom recently and being afraid to do something with her things that take up a whole bedroom in my house. I also love that you showed your emotions to us. Thank you for that and today, I will Swedish clean!

This made me tear up and wish I had your energy. Depression and anxiety make it hard to face stuff like this.

@npigwnl

5 жыл бұрын

April Davis Start small! Even if it’s just a drawer. It’s hard at first but it does get easier and easier (and more fun) and having less REALLY helps with anxiety, I can attest to that. All the best.

@janisboyd1619

5 жыл бұрын

Think of it as a treasure hunt. Cry if you need to. Like April said start small and celebrate your successes.

@RAE.ofSunshine

5 жыл бұрын

I've also had a depressive phase the last few days. I think it stems from wanting to organize but have the extreme fatigue and lack of interest/motivation is tough. It's just a cycle of wanting to do something then being even more sad bc you're too sad to do it. I hear ya

@JenniferH1724

5 жыл бұрын

I encourage you to find a system. I had terrible anxiety to the point it blew my blood pressure after roof. The doctor wanted me to go on Zoloft and Klonopin. I discovered minimalism and the science behind stuff and anxiety so I decided to minimize all of my stuff. I no longer suffer from anxiety it is absolutely changed my life. Don't look at everything in your home as a whole. Start with one corner one drawer and work at it once a day once a week whenever works with you. There is another way and that is 30 day minimalism challenge on the first day you put one thing in the box the second day two things the third day three things so forth and so on. I started with my closet I I now have a 10 by 10 wardrobe to wake up and go to a closet full of stuff and not knowing what to wear is a horrible start. Simply Google capsule wardrobe 10 by 10 wardrobe minalism the science behind too much stuff and anxiety!

@meera2531

5 жыл бұрын

Decluttering truly sparks joy and reduces anxiety to non-existent levels. Do try it! Binge watch Marie Kondo/ Konmari videos and go for it!

I've been doing this method for the last 6 months. It's freeing and helps to maintain my minimal life.

Yes! You always inspire me and that's what it takes to get me motivated and... YOU'VE done it once again. My home is shaping up, THANK YOU AGAIN !

Your AMAZING!! Thank you for all you honesty and selfless love !

Omg, my brother passed away when i was pregnant with my first son, 8 years later with 3 sons now and we've gotten rid of almost nothing, i was full of fear of facing these decisions, this video was so helpful ❤

@daphne4983

3 жыл бұрын

I read pregnant with his first son :) anyways, if you have the space why declutter his things? Or maybe other family members will want some of it?

I recently had to get rid of everything in my parents house and it was draining.....mentally, physically and emotionally. It has made me look around my house in a different light. I won't be here forever and I don't want my children to have to go through what I did. If I'm not using it or loving it it's out of here! If something new comes in something old leaves. After doing my parent's house it made me see my stuff in an entirely different light!

@desereehunt

5 жыл бұрын

This is my fear. My inlaws and my mother have soooooooooooo much stuff that they just cant/wont get rid of. When they pass, I just dont know how to get through it all. Their stuff is already putting stress on us :( Don't do this to your kids people

@bethhughes430

5 жыл бұрын

@@desereehunt it was rough. They weren't hoarders, there wasn't clutter but they had alot of stuff that they absolutely were not using and my Dad must have kept every piece of paper that ever passed through his hands! My sister and I had to go through it all to make sure there was nothing important and I would say 98% of the paper was junk. We had an estate sale, but there was still so much left in the house. It was very difficult watching strangers paw through your parent's possessions and haggling with us over prices that pretty much gave the stuff away. What was left was donated. It was very difficult and I don't want my kids to go through what we did. If I'm not using it or loving it it's getting purged. We have gone through papers, linens, clothing, knickknacks. I want it as easy as possible for our children when the time comes.

@mickeyrosa7226

5 жыл бұрын

@@desereehunt I find that baby boomers tend to have a lot more things than other generations. I think it stems from not having much as children so they accumulate more and they don't like to throw things away and keep everything.

@LadyV7

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I have already told my parents start decluttering now. I can't do it..I will just open the garage and tell the neighborhood "come and get it!".

@nancymuller3291

5 жыл бұрын

It took me 9 months to sort things at my parents' house which needed to be sold to keep my mom in assisted living. I could write a book about this. I did have a friend helping me because we were looking for a cemetery deed, not for my mom but for her sister for when she passed. I also needed her will, living will, power of attorney and health directive which I was afraid she had thrown away. To complicate this, my younger brother died and could not help me. I was still working full time. Now for myself, I don't have the physical strength even though I understand the principles.

Thanks for sharing your feelings and vulnerability. This was such a meaningful video for me.

I got tears and wanted to give you a hug when you started crying. The raw honesty in this video touched my heart and gave me the "oomph" I needed to go through some of my stuff and get rid of it as I have, unintentionally "hoarded" stuff with emotional attachment through the years. I guess I'm afraid if I get rid of something, I may forget the memory. Taking a picture and letting go is a great idea. Very helpful video, great big hugs and a big thank you!

Some of the most beautiful advice ever was given was from an investment expert: Be attached to people -- NOT things!

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

3 жыл бұрын

I like things better, myself, lol.

@user-jy3zl2vp4b

3 жыл бұрын

@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 Me too! And some people are just UGH....seems I am happier de-cluttering my life of PEOPLE that don't bring me joy!! (And social events) Ha HA. But I'll keep my toys!

@paigan9

3 жыл бұрын

YES. And memories. They only take up storage space in your head and you can find them anytime you want them.

@lauramitchell6725

3 жыл бұрын

And never love anything that can’t love you back!

@Sunshine4

3 жыл бұрын

Ehhh, people have hurt me deeper than things...

I 'm an active 67 year old. I've been married for 34 years but we have no children. I still save stuff as though we do! Cards, clippings, and other memorandum. When my mother died in 2009, I felt compelled to save many things she gave me. Plus, she passed on little things she saved from HER mother. By little things, I mean trinkets with no value except for memories. I'm getting to the stage where I now realize I have no one who really cares about what I'm saving. I have two younger brothers (they were both born in my late teens) who really don't care about my tiny hoard. Thanks for your wisdom! I asked my husband why I'm keeping cards from our wedding in 1985 and he laughed. I get it!

@faeriesmak

5 жыл бұрын

I started to recycle cards as soon as I receive them to prevent them from being kept and having to deal with them later. It has helped a ton. The only ones that I SOMETIMES hold on to are those photo cards from family members...but I am very selective.

@cherylmacgregor5650

4 жыл бұрын

Not exactly at the 'end of the line'! I plan on a few more years! But I know what you mean.

@carolynworthington8996

4 жыл бұрын

faeriesmak I cut some cards into strips to use as bookmarks. I enjoy them until they’re worn.

@jetlandman1462

4 жыл бұрын

Kind of strange to find that sad. To not have children to pass things on to???? I have no children, but very fortunate to have a godchild and godgrandchildren, but I am just very grateful that I can spend time with them and share ideas and learn from each other. Now that is important to me and the things I have is not their taste or style so it wouldn't really make them happy.

@rosebud7105

4 жыл бұрын

Cheryl MacGregor Hugsss We are childless too. I get it. Not an easy path to walk, is it? There’s a few FB groups out there for us childless folks if you ever want to connect with us. We are a little tribe of our own and support one another. (If you haven’t joined already)

I gave this book to my mom as I've been helping her with this for years. It really helped her let things go and she is so much happier without it. Lots of it was emotional like we see her process.

Very helpful! And believe me, I've read and watched a ton about decluttering. This was to the point and fresh. Really helps. Thank you!

I love how honest she is being here, even confessing how her stuff is in his closet that she have forgotten about 🤣🤣🤣

I too hang on to things due to emotions. I have a really hard time getting rid of anything that was given to me especially by someone who has passed. I really needed this today. Thank you so much for sharing.

@jeanvignes

5 жыл бұрын

I completely understand. I think the key for me is donating it to a charity shop and imagining it making someone else happy. My mother was teeny-tiny and I imagine some extra-small lady seeking bargain clothes at a charity shop and hitting the mother lode (!!!) when she came across the hundreds of items we donated from my mother's overflowing closets.

I did a "death" de-cluttering/KonMarie and a year later was buying a few of the same things I tossed. Not sure if the absolutism of some of these practices is practical.

@Rachel0731

2 жыл бұрын

This is what I worry about. Sure I can pair down my spatulas or socks but I bet in a year I’ll have more. I like the concept but I’m worried I’ll waste money replacing things.

@gracejarvis4545

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I find it helpful to have a 'jail' or like a "quarantine" type place for my donations if I'm not quite sure, and keep it in an out of the way space for a little while. If I reach for anything in there then obviously I still need it and shouldn't donate it! Doesn't work for everything you plan to donate but can be helpful in working out which things you can comfortably live without and which things you'd need to buy if you donated. And having lots of things isn't a bad thing! But lots of things that are stopping you from living your best life is 😊

Thank you for sharing that phone call and being real because with that you made it feel like we will be okay, it is ok to move on with out excess things that we don't need.

This was so emotional. You are so right that we hold onto things because of emotional reasons. Thank you for sharing with us. Should have watched this later because you have me tearing up at work.

@nursepam38

5 жыл бұрын

Same!!

@janeenutley3167

5 жыл бұрын

❤️

@ismeening

5 жыл бұрын

😭 yes

@goldensmamma

5 жыл бұрын

My Mom told me just after my Grandma(her Mom) had passed away and she told me not to hang on to her stuff because it's not her it's just stuff ! Cause her Mom had told her to keep everything that was hers. So I was helping to rid her of my Grandma;s stuff before my Mom passed away.

@emmavara4874

5 жыл бұрын

Anissa Saulter Your right, we do hold on to thing for emotional reasons. I was cleaning my storage shed , I found boxes of school drawings , and much more. My children are in their 50s and 40s !!

Girl this is like a therapy session! We do hold on to things because of the emotional aspect of it and I know I do. Thanks for this

Thank you so much. What a great message. I lost a brother also as well as other family members over the years and although I love cleaning and organizing I kept a stockpile of items I just couldn't bring myself to let go of. You are such a blessing and I loved that message. Very inspiring. It's not just the stuff, it's the memories associated with them. The key is to learn we will never lose those memories but we sometimes need to lose the stuff. Things aren't people. Thanks again.

This video really made me realize why I have been holding on to stuff I don’t need. I love your videos. Thank you for inspiring all of us

Decluttering while in the process of moving... This is an EMOTIONAL process

@juliaarnold1078

4 жыл бұрын

Scientifically Smith how did it go?

@PrismCasillica

4 жыл бұрын

That sounds super stressful, hope it went ok.

@Gr95dc

4 жыл бұрын

It's such a hard process. After I moved out of the place I rented for three years I had accumulated a lot of junk. It was exhausting.

@LovesDarkBlue

4 жыл бұрын

It always is :/ that’s the beat time to do it though since moving kinda forces you to. That’s what I end up doing. But moving itself is emotional so there’s usually a lot of tears... I hope it went well!

We just got evicted by our crazy landlord after living in the same house for nearly 16 years (she led us on making us believe she would sell to us(our eldest son died in the living room because of heart defect- plus we have never been late on paying our rent(!) Now what? Im finding it very difficult to declutter so many years of stuff. Any positive vibes/prayers in our family's behalf is most welcome, folks. Thank you for making this video- its important and helpful.

@hosborne9712

3 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry. What a load to carry. Praying for you right now.

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

3 жыл бұрын

Huh? Talk to a real estate lawyer. Make sure you have copies of all the rent paid ON TIME. You'll probably win in court. They have to give you at least 30 days to leave. Unless they want to pay up. At least, I'd make them pay. If you don't have it on paper, it's VAPOR. Meaning, in real estate it's NICE if verbal worked and it MIGHT with a Realtor, because they might all be greedy, sneaky jerks (i was in the biz), BUT they don't want you to call their managing broker. They know that much. But it's unlikely ro hold up in court.

@hilaryosborne9707

3 жыл бұрын

Hi, Winds, I have worked as a mediator in landlord/tenant court in Colorado. Each state has their own timelines for eviction and it sounds like your state is much more merciful regarding time.

@VeroAGO

3 жыл бұрын

How did it go? Did you end up moving?

@lilalienangel

3 жыл бұрын

Are you ok??

What a relief to get it cleared out. Looks so refreshed!

Thank you for this insightful video. Nothing makes me happier than a clean, well-organized home to live in!