Let's high five, I just gave up too. The frustrating thing was that the professional labeled my issue as "anxiety". I got to a point I was barely functioning and I went after a psychiatrist to find out I am bipolar!!! What a shock for me. I thought I had ADHD due to the extreme agitation followed by burn out in regular cycles. Funny enough, bipolar disorder can be easily confused with ADHD. Long story short, nothing the psychologist suggested was helping me at all, I felt deceived that a health professional didn't spot any signs of my condition, I dreaded going to the session, I didn't feel comfortable sharing stuff and we all know how expensive it is. I would say "I hope you enjoy therapy one day" but my honest advice is: do your research in how to deal with the issues and how to improve your life because in the end of the day we are the ones caring the most about ourselves.

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

Amazing! I'm sooo glad you found out what your issue is but it's so frustrating getting there. I still don't know if my diagnosis is correct, but I think it is. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Thank you so much for sharing your story, I will be trying to find a therapist that fits but in the meantime, research (and a best friend who knows a think or two about different kinds of therapy) is the way I'm going.

“If you want it to help it will” is an awful blaming thing to say to someone. It will help when it’s the right fit. And you shouldn’t feel like an idiot in therapy. If you do, the therapist isn’t doing their job explaining their approach. You’ve just had shit luck unfortunately. It works, I promise ❤️

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

I know. I just wish I could find something/one that works for me. I know you know what I mean. 🩷🩷🩷

As someone who has also seen a number of different providers with varying degrees of effectiveness, for me, one of the most important factors is the rapport that you have with any individual therapist. That's the foundation on which everything else is built upon. While I'm not a licensed therapist, when it comes to modalities, consider researching providers who specialize in IFS (Internal Family Systems) if you haven't already given it a try.

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

Thanks. I agree, finding someone you click with is super important. So far, not much luck. But I'm still hoping to find someone

when you journal just write down: my mind is blank. until there comes a thought. :)

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

I'll definitely give it a try. 😊 Thank you

@annoar9776

2 ай бұрын

@@FictionalAdultingchannel of course. :)

“I feel like I’ve failed everything in my life, except for my kids” I felt that deep Amy. 💜💜💜

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

I'm so lucky with those kids. I was terrified to have a second as an only child myself. I thought all siblings fought and hated each other. That's what I saw from my friends and their siblings. My two prove me wrong about that every day. I know your two are very similar to mine. 💜💜💜

Amy, thank you for being so open and honest with us about what you’re going through. Have you tried the therapists that your friends go to, since you said that they seem to give good advice and coping mechanisms to your friends! I’ve found going for daily walks have helped me when it isn’t raining and it helps me decompress! For journaling I’ve found that having prompts help me stay on track! Ex: what am I grateful for today, what challenges have I experienced today, what can I do to make tomorrow easier/better, a highlight of my day, how a situation made me feel, etc. Thank you for your content, and hoping that your channel does grow!🩷

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much. I'll definitely try journal prompts. That's a great idea. I need to go for more walks, but with all the jobs, my body is exhausted when I get home. Maybe when all my shows are over.

I liked this chatty style video, if you feel like making more of them I would watch/listen to it 🩷

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

Thanks so much! Yes, I'm planning on doing more like this on different topics...for example, why is society obsessed with brand names🤔

I want to try journaling too xx

YESSSSS I felt worse after too

I also gave up on therapy. Thanks for putting this out there - there’s so much judgment and opinion out there from other people it does work for. I have multiple neurodivergent diagnoses and there are no therapists out there who are attuned to strategies for adults with those conditions. The therapists don’t exist. Why would I pay my rent to a therapist every month who isn’t interested in or capable of understanding me?

@FictionalAdultingchannel

17 күн бұрын

@@MegaSmithus it's true though, so many therapists just don't know coping mechanisms for adults with ADHD/autism as it's been mainly kids being diagnosed up until recently.

You're so strong

@FictionalAdultingchannel

27 күн бұрын

Thank you. I'm trying 🩷

Look up Bluet journaling it’s the only journaling that I can really stick with and I never could stick with traditional journaling ether big hugs 💛

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

I will! Thanks so much. Hope you are doing well Vicki🩷

@vassilikistamatopoulou8481

2 ай бұрын

@@FictionalAdultingchannel yeah I’m doing great thanks and I’m always a message away if you ever need to talk

my only advice on the journaling is maybe carry a small notepad in your pocket or purse so you can write stuff down ASAP. which i know isn't super helpful like you said but it's better than nothing and might give you ideas to write about or talk about to a loved one later on

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

I have started doing that actually. But I'm usually not in the position to actually write down my thoughts when they come to me🤣. I'm either working or driving...then it's gone again. Haha. But I do have the notebook! So it's a start. 💜

@wmd40

2 ай бұрын

@@FictionalAdultingchannel SAME LOL I am terrible at this but I know it works for other people so I always recommend it 😭🤣💚

I failed a lot at school too

I agree therapy helps ppl - but when I’ve been forced to try it it doesn’t do anything for me and often makes me feel like a 5 year old :(

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

Exactly! It just makes me feel stupid. I just don't understand anything.

@julesm9081

2 ай бұрын

I think we’re on the same sort of page - I don’t have adhd as far as I’m aware but I understand you. I always find it hard talking about hard things but writing for me, is a little easier

@julesm9081

2 ай бұрын

I didn’t get to pick my therapist s but seriously- I think I had the wrong ones too 😢

As a Christian, I would say a Christian counselor trained in the mental health areas of your concern - ie ADHD would be tantamount, and also because counseling would include the spiritual component of mental health. Many psychiatrists have read the Bible to or had their patients read the Bible for its properties of calming anxiety and being a two edged sword that divides soul and spirit. There is small group therapy, prayer, journaling, KZread informational videos, nature walks, pet therapy, and helping others to get your mind off yourself. Seems like dance would be a great creative, therapeutic outlet you are already doing as well as other art forms. God gives us all of those. I love gardening and getting my hands in the soil with its healing microbes, and watching flowers grow and bloom. I pray God guides you onto your healing path. 🙏

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

Thank you very much. That's so kind of you. I'm not much of a religious person, but I can see how that would definitely help someone who is. I appreciate that. 🩷

@normapascuales8230

2 ай бұрын

@@FictionalAdultingchannel You are welcome!

The momment i saw this video i was like hmm maybe another nd person who couldnt get the benefits of therapy and yuppp 2:08 i was like there we go😅 personally i went to therapy for years and it helped a lot, therapy made it so antidepressants actually started working. Tho its definitely not easy. I had a lot of struggles, sometimes i couldnt talk properly and didnt even wanna step a foot into my therapist’s office. Many times i thought of changing my therapist but hes like the cheapest professional i’ve ever met so i couldnt afford it 🙃 have you ever considered an autism assesment? considering the fact that its genetic and your son has it+ people with autism has a high likelyhood of also having adhd and/or chronic illnes+autistic folks are known to struggle in therapy. I know its an invasive question but im going through a questioning too and i know how frustrating it is not being able to make mental health stuff work. For me i had depressive/anxious phases of my life that came out of seemingly nowhere: my life is basically a cycle of screwing up my life, withdrawing from life in general then cleaning up after my fall. While antidepressants helped they never really went away. I recently found out about autistic burn out and shut downs and a lot of things are making sense to me now. I wish you the same relief in however way you get it.❤

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! I've had a couple people now suggesting that I could be autistic, I definitely plan on looking into it. As you say, it is hereditary. Thanks again for sharing your story. I really appreciate hearing what other people have been through. I knew I couldn't be the only one feeling this way, which it why I made this video. 🩷

@wmd40

2 ай бұрын

I have all the same issues as her my story is almost the same. I have chronic pain and also endometriosis. I'm 32, been in therapy since I was 11!!!! and never thought I had autism until this year. I found out a few days ago 80% of all women (AFAB) with autism are UNDIAGNOSED!!!! cptsd plus ADHD plus chronic pain screams autism to me

@goldenapple3952

2 ай бұрын

@@wmd40 honestly that statistic is heart breaking and im so happy that professionals are actually researching how autism presents in afab people now. unfortunately a lot of undiagnosed people have lived their lives suffering with addictions, abuse, mental illness etc...

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

I'm really not surprised that 80% of women are undiagnosed. It's so sad how women's health and mental health is still "not important".

I perked up when you talked about your learning disability regarding reading. You just described my struggles with reading. If you feel comfortable sharing, what is your learning disability called? I'm asking because I experience the same thing and I want to maybe get assessed somehow...? Thank you 💙

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

There were two that my son's paediatrician mentioned, dyslexia and language processing disorder. I really don't know much about either but I plan on finding out more. I hope this helps🩷

@-NiamhWitch-

2 ай бұрын

@@FictionalAdultingchannel Thanks so much!

It’s difficult because it’s also the chemistry thing.. i also mostly write.. i write notes.. my therapist talks.. but it’s hard. It’s confusing. I don’t have a lot to suggest either. Do you feel it help to talk about these things to your camera for youtube? Maybe that is your way to deal with it right now? Love you babes 🫶🏻

@IdaPida

2 ай бұрын

Also, i go by this phrase atm: you don’t have to go down in the basement just because the door is open🫶🏻 because i spiral down so quickly.. and it’s scary but not dangerous

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

That's a good one. I'll be using that. Love you babe. I'm so proud of you. Thanks for helping me through your therapy 😜🤣

hi:) if u re looking for coping skills, u should try cbt therapy.

@FictionalAdultingchannel

2 ай бұрын

That is something I'm looking at. My friend actually suggested that too. Thank you so much.

Hey, you’re not failing at this KZread thing. 💜🫂