Oh dear... Jason is a life long victim of abuse, from multiple people that he trusted in his life - not least from his ex-wife Internalising that he is a genuine victim and relabeling his ex-wife is an abuser, would go a long way to breaking through the inner turmoil about not wanting to put her out and that he owes them NOTHING Replace 'ex-wife' with 'abuser' and it becomes even clearer how awful the situation is... "My abuser beat me for years, then divorced me for a drug dealer and said she was just using me money, but I still loved them. I let my abuser move back into my home because I felt I had to do it, who now continues to use me for money while sleeping with men and lying about their intent to leave. My abuser refuses to leave my home under threat of anger, to the point I'm scared to even ask them to leave" My guy 😢

@harkenbroted5651

11 ай бұрын

Exactly

@jaxolotle

11 ай бұрын

to the point where he’s working two jobs while essentially taking care of a dependent who spends all their days sleeping around with random dudes

@mk6damon983

11 ай бұрын

This is a great analysis. I hope jason sees this

We Stan Jason. He seems like a good guy. I hope he gets things figured out

@ryanjosephlock

11 ай бұрын

I don't know, he seems to have white knight syndrome. Most likely driven by low self esteem and a need to feel wanted. I think he'd be a better general dude if he overcame that and leveled with people in a more honest way.

@pokepreet1

11 ай бұрын

Jason if you're reading this you need to learn to be a little bit more 'selfish' because you're currently too kind to a fault where your own wants and needs are compeletely taken advnatage of by other people like you ex-wife, you have to learn to stand up for yourself and it might feel like you're being mean or selfish or wrong but at the end of the day standing up for yourself is what's right, best of luck soilder

@TheUnfallenHero

7 ай бұрын

Jason, you are getting cucked sir. Kick those vipers out and find yourself a decent well to do partner. You are 100% being used. She used her kids to seduce you into a position of responsability. You owe these people nothing.

Jason has the right mental attitude but needs to learn to form boundaries and standards for himself. We need nicer people in this world but it needs to be paired with the confidence to communicate what he is or isnt comfortable with.

@Verchiel_

6 ай бұрын

It's easier to help other people when you are doing well. Same way you can provide more money to charities when you make a lot of money first.

Kick her out. Either she will end up homeless and forced to self reflect, or she will just find some other vulnerable guy to manipulate within a few weeks. She will be fine

Love yourself Jason. Please get her out. My dad said when he had a crazy ex that wouldn't leave that he changed the locks/put her stuff outside while she was gone and then had a friend come stay with him to be a witness. He said the friend thing is important just in case they call the police and start lying.

@sw8547

11 ай бұрын

This is the best advice. Also record the entire thing.

It’s such a tough situation - Jason should at least walk away from all this knowing it’s not on his shoulders what she decides to do to make her life harder. Praying for ya, Jason! ❤

@Nathan-lk4iu

11 ай бұрын

Fr he’s done more than enough to help her time for her to be a big girl and stop being a lazy freeloading bum.

@Nathan-lk4iu

11 ай бұрын

Jason deserves much better than that

If Jason’s ex is looking for a new place, rent in prison is free 🤷‍♀️

One could argue that he would help his ex by kicking her out. He may have supported her but he sure as hell hasn’t helped her by providing her with everything. I feel for the dude. He‘s an angel.

Jason better fucking call back in a year, you got this broski

Someone start a go fund me so Jason can get a therapist

@EricVitoff

11 ай бұрын

Medicare for all sure would be cool

If shes dating she'll find another place to live. She's probably got a few in mind already. You're just the most secure option because she thinks you're a simp, Jason. Change the locks.

@Nathan-lk4iu

11 ай бұрын

Fr that shit ain’t healthy for anyone in the situation

@isaaccardin2535

11 ай бұрын

She's got 3 dudes in your dms who already think she will leave her current boyfriend and come live with them.

Jason you are not inflicting any pain upon this person. You are not responsible for anything .you are in the clear in every way

when i listen to this I feel like I'm in a real life GTA situation, listening to the radio in the car greetings from germany

@Nathan-lk4iu

11 ай бұрын

Accurate description of the show 😂

Jason, Jason, Jason. This woman has outwardly admitted she doesnt love you. She's had 8 months of free rent to figure out her own independence and is instead out entertaining herself with young men. You've done more than your part, kick her out!

Jason, sir, It's not your responsibility to take care of that grown woman. Whatever happens to her is not your fault, nor is it your problem. Do not hold yourself hostage with all of the "what ifs". Her kids are old enough to understand. Kick. Her. Out.

Man that was heart breaking. I really wish Jason all the best. He sounds like a good lad. I kind of had a similar situation with a toxic relation where my Ex use to say abusive things to me. including messaging my friends and my parents. We use to argue and fight a lot even when there were times i wanted to help her and yes she would shame me as well. I have cut ties with her, i spend more time with friends, i go skateboarding more often and gigs with friends and yeah in the end I manage to find someone special in the end. I believe Jason can come out his situation but yeah it really has to start with changes at home and just been surrounded with good people.

A lot of people can relate to Jason, generational trauma is a hell of a thing to over come and getting out of those cycles of abuse can be a real hard thing to do. Learning ways to help yourself is a hard road to start and stay on.

Jason needs to tell the children him self before he does it, tell them you aren't trying to get them involved you just wanted them to hear it from you and to know that it's not personal, but you are enabling her by letting her take advantage of you like that

just woke up boutta make some coffee and listen to the geck, gonna be a good day

31:25 made me sad. I hope his life turns around in a positive direction.

this is gold, very good podcast

Jason. A suggestion. Move apartment. Doesnt have to be far away. You both have to move out, and this is key. Maybe even go so far as not have a home for a brief while, if that is possible. Live with your mum, in a motel, an RV, idk. The goal is to make her solve her living situation. Cheering for you from Oslo Norway. You're a great person.

Geck is always there when you need him. Praise be 👏💙

luv ya gec ! bless the longform episodes bruv there is a magic u have communicating. i think fielding questions from chat takes away some of the timeless talkshow vibes and is a bit distracting 2 me but some great ?’s in chat so i get it. really happy to see you growing and incorporating crowd feedback bits on stream. i think jason should sell his house and start fresh either renting or buy a new space that doesn’t have ghosts of old relationships. big moves aren’t easy but jason is smart and needs tha yard w/ bondfire. bless ya’ll

@BEERBOMB113

11 ай бұрын

I know twitch chat has a reputation of having bad takes, but I agree the hivemind is strong lol. It's a beautiful thing when chat hits. Its definitely interesting to see lyle read chat questions when he always told the callers not to read it.

God bless you Jason, hope it all works out for you man ❤

My dad literally just went through what Jason was going through. I so glad he is put of that relationship and that woman is gone forever!

Yo jason needs to be protected at all costs

Heaviest episode. Lyle is such a warm person and really does his best to give what advice he can, even when the circumstamces are something even an experienced and licensed physician would find difficult to assess. Jason Jason Jason. Wish that man not strength to overcome, because i know he has it; but the confidence and belief in himself to allow him something greater. Godspeed.

Jason got so much life stolen from him but still got so much left to give hope he finds a woman who appreciates him dude needs it as he sounds like a loyal partner and farther who's been stepped on and treated like garbage by absolute trash humans who don't deserve the life they have

I really wanna be his friend. I can relate to a bunch of stuff we’ve both kinda gone through with women and self worth. I’ve always wrote off therapy but dang Jason’s story has got me reconsidering. Thanks for sharing man helped me with my stuff. Take care of yourself Jason, you’re a really cool guy

The word I kept thinking of - Enabling!!

This guy, man.. I feel so sorry for him. Really hope he can turn this around, and start beginning putting himself first before anyone or anything else.

Kick the wife out. The kids aren't dependent on him. Have weekends living it up with the kids next to a bonfire. Or just waste your life.

Man i just want to give Jason a big hug

I relate to Jason, it’s sad that most of the good natured stuff he has to offer can fall into potential damage to himself. ánimo

Geck maybe you can set Jason up on a geck date

I understand Jason too well. I'm the exact same way. Been working on it for years and seems like a losing battle. Wishing him the best.

gecko is out here saving lives man

Everytine he said “no”, i wanted to give him a hug.

God I want to drink a beer and grill some bbq with Jason

Yo Jason holler at me ❤

Poor Jason man. I don't even know what to say, he seems like such a nice guy. I hope the homie Jason the best. Holyshit, what a story.

What a lovely person. Jason, listen to your gut brother. Like you said we only got one life, so realize your suffering is able to be figured out. She’s 40 years old, and needs to put on her big girl pants. You need to get out and connect with people, if there is anything you like to do. Yoga, books, music, find a club/group in Houston to go do that with!! All the love to you my beautiful brother. ❤ I totally understand and can relate to an extent. Hope the universe lines up the most beautiful existence for you.

I like Jason I'd camp out with him. Seems like a cool dude. I think he should kick everyone out of his life, save up his money, get rid of social media, go away for a while. Become a ghost to the life he's built. Then quit those jobs, move to a different state, and try to go back into that educational field he loves while working. People will say he's too old and doesn't have enough money, that the time has past. But It's important to know, that way of thinking will only keep you down. Fight like hell to get what makes you happy, it's not supposed to be easy. People have done more than what he should in worse situations. Hell, It's drastic. But it doesn't sound like it could get much worse, why not try and fight for it.

Jason bro. I am you. You are me. I stayed with my ex for way over a year and change, she has an 8 year old. I stayed with her bc she had no options, no family. She has a plethora of mental disorder and makes functioning in real life minimal. It wasn't until I caught her red handed getting dropped off by another dude outside the niehborhood. Kicked her out and boom all of a sudden she can find a job. (Livin in a separate room at baby daddy's now.... poor steve) but the band aid is off now. And it was the hardest thing bc I didn't appreciate myself one bit. I will always love her but it was detrimental to me mental health. Now I'm living by myself snd hard to get out of the house. Almost like her ailments where contagious. But now I'm looking to move to a new place and look forward. Jason man I feel you hard. I know exactly what your going through here brother. Hope things have worked out for ya. Live and let live and focus forward.

God bless you Jason

Jason has the right attitude, but is not thinking in the long term. By enabling his ex-wife to mooch off him he is hurting her ability to be independent and care for herself, thus hurting her in the long run and that is the opposite of what he wants.

Man first video iv watched from this guy coming from shorts. Holy shit. I have to remind myself daily that the people we run into throughout the day could be dealing with any number of things including this. So rough man. Maybe ill look into some mens groups or something just to be there for people like this

Hey Jason I’m praying for you.

jason deserves better bruh. its sad seeing someone blaming themselves for being taken advantage of.

Jason the only person you’re inflicting pain on is yourself. Please put yourself first and forget about these people. They will do nothing but drag you down. Maybe you don’t realise it because you’ve never had people treat you like you deserve to be treated but this is not it. You are way better than this

Ive fallen in love with jasons soul by the end of this phone call😅 that poor poor soul, geks is right i hope heacen exists for this man

I think Jason's best bet, as much as he wouldn't like it due to his past, is to move. Hours away. Make a true fresh start. Be available for the children, but those would be the only ties I would keep. It would give him space and time to get out of the person he's built, to be truly himself. He needs that space and time to unlearn the "hero complex" as I've heard it described, which I've suffered from myself. Be free, Jason. As a Texan, you should understand the idea. Live it. Find love in yourself. You've proved those ideals wrong, now it's time for you. Find your own ideals. Live them. Live in love, bro. 🤙

Jason brother, half the shit you said I was like - how did you read my journal! it's so relieving to hear myself reflected in somebody else 😂 we may come from a few generations of trauma, but we got 100 million+ years of strong genes backing us up every step of the way 💪💪💪💪💪💪 peace man!! this show is such a cool and uplifting space for people to ground their shit back to Earth! 🌩 nice work Lyle

Jason is a 10/10 man. I know it's easy to be negative towards his choices and to call him naive and what not but he just tries to be a good person. However, I truly hope he finds a woman who cares a bit for him too. Something that helped me in life is to clap my hands and say: "Not my board, not my game."

@LoveFitsAll

11 ай бұрын

For him it's BROAD

@Nathan-lk4iu

11 ай бұрын

@@LoveFitsAllfrfr

Lyle, you should try getting Healthy Gamer GG as a guest, he would be great helping people like Jason

It's a low chance anyone will see this, but if you find yourself in a situation like this, remember that you taking care of yourself gives you the opportunity to help more people than just the people that take you for granted

Jason - you might be helping her out by not enabling her anymore so she can grow

Block the stalker ex and document it with police if she doesn’t F off

Suddenly I don't feel so bad about myself! Jason Jason Jason damn boy!

As someone who Is also a decendant of a long line of similar bullshit, you can do it Jason. It’ll sting like hell to put yourself first in the beginning, but it is worth it to be able to love yourself and be happy. Can't get there with a bunch of parasitic people around.

Houston!

2:20 - (Sound guy on set in his ear) "Stop touching the gecko fingers ... They're not going to go on any tighter. Just.let.it.go.man!

Yo jason put her in a cheep motel if its too hard be like hey i paid for the first night rest is on you she can get a cheap ass job and afford it bruh you dont even owe her that its just for your conscious STRAIGHT UP MAN YOU DONT OWE HER CRAPPP

I hope Jason finds his happy place. That shit made me tear up.

It is not your fault jason, but you have to fight for yourself, you have to rid these evils from your life. You have to get rid of her

A good question to ask is why do you think it's your responsibility to take care of her? And don't you think we need to learn consequences? Because he is enabling her to do evil and blocking the consequences for her.

I feel obliged to comment in case Jason reads these. I fell for a similar woman, and i understand how it's a lot more confusing when you're in the situation than it sounds when you spell it out like this. I know theres a weird mix of actually wanting to be a good person and selfishly keeping them around because you feel desperate. You gotta realize youre actually doing evil by enabling them. She's not worried, she knows she can couch surf and find another guy. You've got to go completely no contact. Not even with the kids. And once you're away don't feel embarrassed, you probably already know what you need to do to be happy and have failed at it before, and you've just gotta try again with a new approach, and hopefully find something that works.

The better way to help your ex is to kick her out. She losing the chance of becoming a better person by getting everything for free and not be accountable by her choices.

I feel like Jason needs to communicate with the people in his life. His step kids for instance. Tell them what he's going through and why this dynamic is not okay for him. Tell his ex why it's not okay and set a clear boundary. That she make other arrangements in a reasonable amount of time. No one should be expected to sacrifice their life just because another able bodied person refuses to take care of themselves. But there is plenty of room between kicking someone on the street, and not letting them ruin your whole life. What sounds like a reasonable way forward to you, jason?

Another great episode✌️

The conversation that got her back into his house was her sunking

Jason, talk to the kids about not being emotionaly able/ willing to support theyr mom.

Jason I hope you see this: I understand wanting to help people out, but by letting them take advantage of you is just enabling their toxic behavior. That in the overall scheme of life is just as harmful as not helping. It's the same thing your dad did when he allowed your step-brother to harm you.

I love you Jason

OOOH JASON, JASON

Hey Lyle I am in need to talk to you I’m from the Netherlands I have a problem that going to occur in maybe 10/15 days and I need ANY advise I’m 17 and I would really like to talk to you

If I were Jason's friend, I'd have the conversation like this: if he makes her move out, what's actually next? What's the worst thing that happens? What next step would she make on her own (maybe out on the streets at first, but then what? What would she do about it?) could he help her plan out the next moves so at least there is a plan on the table to get her out? I respect Jason's kindness, but perhaps by enabling her neediness, he's preventing her from getting her own shit together. You could look at it as though he'd be doing the best thing for her by making her leave and thus putting her in a spot where she needs to care for herself. If Jason cherishes the relationship with the kids and is willing to play a role in plotting out her next move, perhaps the kids could also help

This dude living like a saint and he doesn't even know it 😅

I have never related so deeply with another human before.

Jason should try bartending or picking up a side gig that is more social

I have never wanted to be someone's friend more than I want to be Jason's friend. I don't feel sorry for the guy, I feel so excited for his potential. Just knowing there's this rad dude out there quietly driving truck and being held back like that

.he can still help her if that's his main concern...he can help her get a better job and help find her a new place within her limits....but she has got to go man

Just move into your own place overnight, take what u can and start fresh dog

Jason, you will never get to have a new relationship living with your crazy ex wife. You are a good human being. Be a good man to a woman who deserves it.

Alanon...it's free and they trach you the same stuff my $75 per session therapist is teaching me. Great suppliment to therapy.

Jason is good people. I know this is probably awful to hear. I think he needs to start dating like no focus just having a good time, meeting folks, getting to know the town. Those women in his life and their problems will start to not be in his backyard

I love Jason

It's enabling pain for him and no motivation for her. Fun

1st caller still has a better love story than twilight All jokes aside i hope jason makes the right decision to remove this person from his life. Dont set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

I wonder if it would be any help talking to her kids about their mom and the toxic situation he is in. Maybe they could help?

Huh I just 100%ed Persona 5 Royal too

BRING BACK THE THEME MUSIC

he doesnt realize that he actually needs to take the steps and not someone else to do it for him. that is why hes rejecting guidance, hes disappointed that someone isnt doing it for him. for example 49:00(to the people on the computer). an adopted false perspective that needs to be unlearned to create progress. i may be wrong, please let me know.

Can someone send Jason to heaven? He's a saint!

I’d definitely kick it with Jason man, he seems like a great ass dude.

If you see this Jason, please reach out to me. I want to be your friend, I feel like I may be able to help understand you.

Persona 5 does say a lot, if your into it for the plot.

…Dear men, …It’s not your job to save women…

Ngl this sounds very familiar. Not familiar, but identical with a difference in age. Is this the curse of Jason's lol. Man I don't wanna be his age and still struggling with being a doormat. I am currently working through the exact same problem, I have always looked out for those I care about above myself and I am trying to learn through therapy how to tell toxic people to go kick rocks. Jason if you see this another Jason wants to tell you that you are more important than these other people and you deserve the best for yourself. I get how cruel and heartless it makes you feel to kick someone out like that, someone you still love. But it's for you not them sometimes we need to be heartless, I've been a doormat for the past 12 years. I should watch this full video it's so ironic I'm working through this right now as another Jason. Literally near identical. And I understand this man's brain better than most. It would be ironic if this man is also an anxious near depressed mess because of how much he puts his loved ones before himself.