I wasted my 20s to with mental health problems thanks for showing me that it's not to late to try get it back together again

@godfatheful

10 ай бұрын

Just as me, my brother died and i denial it, the i had ocd and was on a lot of fear

@dilhancongar-pn1nd

10 ай бұрын

@@godfathefulnot too late it’s hard to lose someone One piece of advice I can give you is to help others in their life’s it’s weird that the best solution for your own suffering is helping others with theirs but here we are. I’m sorry for your loss I can’t even imagine losing my twin brother. Don’t rely on meds or drugs like alcohol as sad as it is death is part of our existence it sounds hard but you should embrace life with all its aspects good and bad. You still have the chance to turn your life around and have a positive impact on your environment. Make your brother proud.

@desh_bhakt07

10 ай бұрын

​@@godfathefulao do u recover3d from ocd coz ive ocd too im 20

@reed574

10 ай бұрын

@@desh_bhakt07 read letting go by David r Hawkins. I recovered from mine from learning how to let go and surrender from that book.

@djswirley

10 ай бұрын

I feel like I’ll be the same , I am 23 and I am just trying to fix myself it’s all that’s on my mind

You can't waste life. Life is life. And life goes on, with or without you. When you understand that then nothing is a waste.

@drivebypoet

10 ай бұрын

I like that optimistic perspective.

@matmister1769

10 ай бұрын

I disagree, although I understand your pov.

@-ana-9737

10 ай бұрын

​@@matmister1769ehy you disagree? Just curious

@Baldbutstillhuman

10 ай бұрын

Yes but you can make the most of the time you have

@glaDos-

10 ай бұрын

You can waste your life. Its a feeling you can only understand when its there.

I identify with this, I'm 37 years old and still going from small job to small job; I did well in school but I wasted too many years in college. I should've started working much earlier and focused on a trade, not getting a useless college degree.

@nicolem5626

10 ай бұрын

Your degree is still preferable and a leg up. You may need to consider that you don't want to work full time and just stick to any job you can get part time. I notice that its not the job that's the problem as much as it is the lack of free time.

@juliusv2073

10 ай бұрын

same story here bro

@grawakendream8980

Ай бұрын

what job is small; what size do you believe you deserve or prefer

@okbiahmed9703

25 күн бұрын

Did you get married or not

@grawakendream8980

25 күн бұрын

@@okbiahmed9703 who me

I'll be 35 next month and I'm petrified of the prospect of never being financially successful. Never owning a home. Never being respected as an adult by my family. I'm so scared my entire life will blow by and I'll never amount to anything.

@theoddone887

10 ай бұрын

home ownership is technically a scam though. mortgages are a debt trap. Unless you put down high deposit and have the means to maximise monthly payments to pay off house asap without accruing interest

@januszinvest3769

7 ай бұрын

You are going to inherit the house from your parents, no?

@imonit1177

7 ай бұрын

@@januszinvest3769 No, I don't know where you are from but that is not common practice here

@grawakendream8980

Ай бұрын

what's successful

I’m glad I saw this, I’m 18 and took on a career in the fire service a little earlier than others. Currently in academy and hearing all the older peoples college stories was making me feel like I was missing out on something. I’ve never been to a party or to college so seeing everyone go and have fun, doesn’t make me feel left out but I feel as if I’m not doing the right thing. This video just reminded me why I followed my dream and went a different route than others. Great story man.

@safuanalhaj4860

10 ай бұрын

You're 18 great, learn from older folks mistakes. Regret is a mf-er. All the best

@speedhouston

10 ай бұрын

Nah trust me those parties and “fun” you see are just them coping with being average, a truly good life doesn’t involve partying or drinking to have fun like everyone else

@cautarepvp2079

Ай бұрын

​@@speedhouston you can always make money... but you can't be 20 again and have fun with friends ?, it's a unique experience

I'm 22 years old and I feel like I'm stuck in some areas of my life while moving in other areas, this video was very insightful. As someone in college, I don't spend my time partying but I struggle with procrastination a lot and that's something I really need to overcome, it's sad to say at my age, really. I had to grow up young so responsibility is all I really know, but now I feel myself slacking and I don't know how to stop being so harsh on myself.

@TheGuren96

10 ай бұрын

Learn to let go, don't use fear for energy, it could be that you don't wanna do what your doing right now and put it off untill the fear kicks in that think you have to do it or your fail. Think to yourself, am i actually doing what i like. Learn to love what your doing instead of letting fear dictate when and where you do something. We all struggle alot, but its time to look inside yourself and don't think, just feel.

@JesusChrist_IsTruth-LoveForALL

10 ай бұрын

You're still very young bro! Procrastination is a bitch! Try a few things out that you want to do or like and do it enough and long enough to see if you even like it. The stuff that you are lacking in set a schedule to start to tackle. Set a schedule for yourself and get in the HABIT of getting a routine to take on or accomplish the stuff you want to try and get finished. I used to be good at that, then the party life took over, I got out of habit and routine, I started focusing on stuff that didn't matter and left the stuff that did behind, I got out of habit, unfortunate circumstances came happen, procrastination kicked in, and my life went on a whole different route than I even started on it planned it to be. I wish I could go back and change stuff. It's never too late though for anyone or anything. You are young dude, but be mindful and put your focus on things you want to do and get done and get in a routine and habit to do them, make a schedule and get em accomplished! You can do it man, stay focused and dictated like I used to be, I'm trying to get it back. Nearly almost 40 and I wasted half my life partying and doing things I shouldn't have been. I thank God im still here and not in the ground or behind the bars. Stay focused, dedicated, and committed! You can do and be whatever you want to be, you just got to do it!

@makadoxvsdk9530

10 ай бұрын

Same as you, I am 22, in college, and procrastinate a lot. I always blame myself for not having any purpose/passion in life. I always tell myself If I have had a passion on some specific field/career then I would not have procrastinate.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

If you can find an accountability buddy...that can help wonders! If you can't find one, you have one in me. Momentum comes from movement, stay strong! I agree with the other comments, you're young. There are ways to overcome procrastination, it's not easy but I can be done... hope you'll keep pushing through buddy!

@usua1myanmarian

10 ай бұрын

I'm 22 too. Struggling with procrastination and addition. But recently, I just learned to try out new things, then I found some of the things I really like to do. Just start trying a couple stuffs, keep doing things you like, then your procrastination is going to be gone 😊💪😊

Well atleast you partied. Some spend their twenties with horrible social anxiety making them homebound for weeks to even months on end. Some end up without a girlfriend because of this

@moonlightfitz

8 ай бұрын

true

@grawakendream8980

Ай бұрын

what's the difference between either of those scenarios ultimately? is expended time, wasted time? it elapses, either way imo

@cautarepvp2079

Ай бұрын

yep.. he used his twenties for what they are, fun

@grawakendream8980

Ай бұрын

@@cautarepvp2079 what did you do

There's no such thing as wasting your life, it's all just lessons you have to learn. Might sound harse, direct.. but that's at least how I look at "failures" in life. I wish you all the best in life! God bless

@5bin5d32

10 ай бұрын

Also thank you for being honest and sending out this message 🙏

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

You’re welcome and absolutely right, failures are lessons, something you realize on the other side when things start to go in a positive direction. I appreciate you taking the time to watch and comment on my video! 🙏

I’m about to be 21 in a couple months, must of the time I feel so useless, I think I really needed to hear this, thank you

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Happy early birthday... You're welcome, thanks for watching! Some of us need a little inspiration, it can go a long way. Helping others gives me a mental boost to do more with my life.

@pigger.

10 ай бұрын

@@RayCorasani im in my 13s do u have some advice for me?

@scholaroftheworldalternatehist

10 ай бұрын

It just proves the point that value is created in the human mind. A rock doesn't give a sh*t what it does or what you do, for example.

Im in my early 30s and losing the 20s label in my age is HARD. Being 30s you are no longer considered "youthful" and this has brought me into severe depression. I already bought enough heart medication for a successful overdose and I am contemplating suicide rather than go any older. Being youthful is part of my identity as a person and becoming middle age is not something I ever imagined for myself.

@mr.andrew_andrew

10 ай бұрын

It isn't real bro. I am 32, it just isn't true that something meaningfully changed once I hit 30. I feel behind in life, so behind. There's help for you my friend, and there is light in this life. 30s is a label, don't forfeit your life because of a label, an idea, it isn't reality, it's something you can learn to view with a new perspective.

@Trysomieflexntjes

10 ай бұрын

​@@mr.andrew_andrewenough videos of people that train and eat healthy and still look great in their 40, 50 or even 60+. + If you keep at it, you'll be more confident than you were ik your twenties.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Life can get better, I promise... It can be hard and I was also afraid of getting old. My first bouts of depression came when I was severely bullied since I was a small kid growing up. I thought I was alone in my suffering - my brother's girlfriend at the time showed me her scars. I realized I was not alone and I will try to help others realize that. You are not alone, seriously. I believe there's a reason my video was viewed by you. I planned on creating a KZread channel to explore some of my passions while I'm not working on my acting... turns out when I'm authentic and sharing it can make a difference. If I can, you can! If you need someone to talk to, please DM me on my Instagram. You can make a happy life regardless of age. For me, it's been minimizing news, working out, and surrounding myself with people who like me for who I am, not what I have or look like. Now you have a friend in me. Hope you reach out!

@jerolvilladolid

10 ай бұрын

@@mr.andrew_andrew yes thats the exact reason for my depression. All my friends are married. Have houses. Children. I have none of that. Does life expect me to live 30 more years with only wrinkles and a deteriorating body? It isnt easy seeing somebody 21 and realize they have their whole life ahead of them. And see yourself in the mirror seeing yourself inferior to him in every way. If you became a millionaire by 30 why not accept old age. But if youre still you why bother continue? Isnt it just easier to say no thank you I had a good run whatever lies ahead isnt worth it?

@jerolvilladolid

10 ай бұрын

@@RayCorasani thank you ray I will DM you. We can talk. I like your optimism but honestly if youre in youre early 20s you look forward to yourself improving in every way. When you're 30, all you look forward to is becoming old and gray. I had never been a suicidal person but I have common sense. I know when life is giving me a losing hand. And if it will be better to bow out rather than accept a long, grim fate life still has reserved for me. Hopefully we can talk and learn from each other and heal.

Kudos for the honesty and self-awareness, I wish I'd watched something like this before I hit my late 20s tbh

Thanks so much for this video, man. It lays some deadly pitfalls which, as a nineteen-year-old college freshman, I have to tiptoe around each day. It's scary sometimes -- trying to be a writer, getting an English degree which so many assume is useless. But I know that, if I don't go all the way for my dreams, even in the wake of global unrest, I would be miserable -- eking out a life as something I don't want to be, escaping at every possible moment to booze and Instagram. The temptation to take the easy road is always there, but if I try to take the easy way and please my parents, I'll be far less useful than I could be honing my true passion. I won't let you down.

I feel less alone now, but at the same time it was a learning experience and transformation for me. I realized that working for myself is the best thing I could do verses working in retail. I realized that we shouldn't take the little beautiful things in life for granted. I built stronger friendships. I am glad I didn't take the career path that my parents wanted me to take because I'd be stressed and probably sicker than I am now. Thank you for posting this. It made me feel better about wasting my 20s.

I'm 39. I have wasted both my 20s & 30s. In my 20s it was family problems & spine surgery and in my 30s there is lawsuit, financial problems & health problems. Never had a job in my life since i never was good at studies and upon that people ask me i'm single or married. It's not like a woman would marry the way i'm not. I'm stuck in a loop and unable to get out. Don't have friends as well.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

I appreciate you sharing. It’s been a tough road for you. I wish I could give you specific advice, maybe seek out people who have been in similar situations. A friend of mine that went through many health & financial issues found solace in a fantasy football league - it’s camaraderie that he otherwise wouldn’t have…

@victortoll9392

5 ай бұрын

I just turned 34 and pretty much on the same situation not taking life seriously and making good decisions has definitely ruined me so many years wasted and having nothing to show for is very depressing😢

25 y/o former medical student here ✋🏻 (done to please my family, but quit because it’s not what I want to do). I know exactly what you’re talking about, this vid hits hard. I hope one day I’ll manage to gain control on my life (which I’ve never had) and escape this hellhole. 😞 thanks for your videos.

@adithyasai

10 ай бұрын

Fellow medico here. I feel you brother

I'm 20 and I thought I messed up on my teenage years but I know now it's not over for me or anyone because sometimes we need to reflect on who are and what we are doing and always be safe and healthy, anyway thanks for vid.

@vividchilling2492

10 ай бұрын

Am 20 to bro, let's win!!! we have more tech and knowledge than Nicola Tesla or Einstein ever did!!!!!

youtube really knows when to suggest a great youtube video, thank you for sharing your story with us man

thanks a lot man as a 19 year old who have done his fair share of dumb shit i really like how you admit to your mistakes and worn us about feeling entitled to fulfill other people's fantasies i hope you are doing great. this video being recommended to me despite you not having many subscribers or me being interested in topics like (much) speaks volumes to the amount of people that also suffered the same or are going through it right now.

@RayCorasani

11 ай бұрын

Thanks for the feedback, definitely feel like it was the right thing to do!

I'm 17. I hope both me and you have a great life! Thank you ❤

Thanks. I'm 21 and ive been letting myself down. I appreciate your shared experience

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

I'm an immigrant that came to the US at the age of 10 and now I'm nearing my mid 20s. I've always harbored this weird mix of love and resentment towards my parents because of the circumstances I've found myself in. The immigration, in and of itself, kind of instilled in me this yearning for greatness, and the ones guiding me were my parents. I followed them blindly, thinking that they will guide me to success but I did not realize that there's always a possibility that they don't know everything going on in the world (yet alone knowing anything about me). I survived and graduated from college without even enjoying any of the process. I was aimless and depressed for so fucking long, and that guilt of like "I shouldn't even be depressed with what kind of privileged position I come from" consumed me from within. I've been feeling really behind compared to my highschool friends, but talking to them recently made me realize most of them are a few mistakes away from ending up where I am right now because they too don't know what they are doing. Listening to them talk about how they don't like their jobs or how their jobs are shaping their lives in a way they don't want encouraged me to learn to take myself out of the equation from time to time to give myself some of the grace I desperately need. I've been reassessing my life up until now and it feels like I never really did anything for myself, but who else is gonna help me other than me at this point? I hope you find enough conviction and courage to keep going man. Thanks for sharing

@RayCorasani

11 ай бұрын

I will continue on, thanks for sharing your story as well! I really was motivated to start sharing my stories and other inspirations on this platform because I want to give back but also keep myself accountable.

Good video. I like that you kept it short and frank. A lot of these videos delve into really particular details on what exactly made them miserable and it always weirds me out. Almost like they're relishing the fact that going through stuff made them worthy of attention. This one sounds like you're genuinely trying to help people avoid similar shortcomings, rather than look at you and think "well at least i'm not having it as bad as him".

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Thanks for the feedback, I hope to keep bringing value with my stories!

27 here. I’m in a good spot in life thanks to my mistakes, thanks to therapy and thanks to medication. It is not lost on me that I’m very fortunate to be comfortable at this age. As for aging I used to be so scared of getting older. Now I understand that aging is a privilege not granted to everyone. I try to be mindful of the good things in life and appreciate them the best I can. (PS: anyone who tells you 30 is old is trying to sell you a skincare product)

@iloestryker3012

10 ай бұрын

don't do drugs son, yeh if you figure drugs and chimptors (doctors of sorts) have been so integral to your desires fulfilled, and if you figure you have an amount of will/desires for chimptors and drugs, you go ahead and have at all that, recalling else of course i do, my whole fifty seven three quarter years young, i never have taken a basic aspirin and i havnt been to ANY chimptors in over thirty years, much as i touched on above, and in so many words, when i was in MY mid twenties many said i looked teen years, and i was fielding some elite intervals sprints in the bike sport, infinitely fulfilling, and many many other earthly monkeys made matters i have been infinitely fulfilled by, porn broads milk mayonnaise vodka quite etc, the old here is still holding up dam fine, and im also right about that come after tomorrow i'll still be tasking packer hauling gallons of milk vodka mayonnaise and fast strong intervals on my lance apestrong trek bike,,,, "now the world don't move to the beat of just one drum, what might be right for you might be wrong for some",,,, psychologies (much idiots) biologies (much fucked up discord unbalanced and the myriad of weaknesses monkeys) surrounding matters else (the good earth) the expanse

Dude, you are alive! 🎉 Cheers 🍻 Sometimes that’s the best thing you can ask for. From one Persian to another, thank you for sharing your insight my man

This is so good bro! Loved the deep dive into your life! Felt it in my soul.

@RayCorasani

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the feedback, tried to be brutally authentic with this story!

why are you soo underrated, I mean good channels on KZread are not the most recognised ones, that's really sad....loved your content..!

Hey man, thanks for this video. It put some worries I had to rest. I want to say that I don't think time is ever truly wasted. If you spent your twenties partying, and you've now learned that you want something more fulfilling, then that time was still spent learning!

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Glad I could help, I'm going to do my best to keep them coming!

Not easy admit that out loud. You got balls, man ✊🏻 Hardest part for me is the emptiness and lack of goals. One day at a time, I guess.

I am 27 and I achieved nothing. Literary nothing. I have no job experience, I have no partner, I live with my parents, and I am starting to hate this. I want to afford my own things I want to be proud to the things I have done, I want to impress my crush, but I feel that I am already late to the party. I can't go back to school, and landing a job with zero experience is near impossible. I don't know how to achieve big. In school they didn't teach anything about work or how to get a job. My parents also not high achievers. My dad works at a wood factory, earning the bare minimum of wage for 30 years. My mum is a part time cleaner at the local public transport HQ.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

I appreciate you sharing your situation, I think there’s time for you… the journey won’t be easy since you have a lot of circumstances that you see might be holding you back but I came across this the other day and I hope it helps you and anyone else that comes to the this video: • Eric Yuan started Zoom at 41 • Robert Noyce started Intel at 41 • Donald Fisher started Gap at 40 • Robni Chase started Zipcar at 42 • Lee Goodwin started Geico at 50 • Ray Kroc started McDonalds at 52 • Sam Walton started Walmart at 44 • David Baszucki started Roblox at 41 • Reid Hoffman started LinkedIn at 35 • Toni Morrison wrote her first novel at 40 • Henry Ford created the Model T car at 45 • Harland David Sanders started KFC at 62 • Ellen Latham started Orange Theory at 54 • Michael Bloomberg started Bloomberg at 39 • Vera Wang entered the fashion industry at 40 • Samuel L. Jackson got his first major role at 43 • Martha Steward published her first cookbook at 41 • Arianna Huffington started The Huffington Post at 55 • Steve Carrel landed his hit role as Michael Scott at 42

@proudindian9140

27 күн бұрын

what are u doing now bro?

I found your video randomly and i have to say even as a 15 yr old kid I feel like I have wasted my whole life I havnt made my parents proud gotten the best grades I wasnt able to be like the other kids that my parents compare me with watching your channel made me feel I loved watching this video

@coyotelong4349

11 ай бұрын

Don’t despair, friend! 15 is still so damn young

@RayCorasani

11 ай бұрын

@coyotelong4349 is right, you are young and have a whole lot of life ahead of you! Seriously, when I was 14, I was in the darkest place because I thought I was alone in my suffering in life. I didn't like reading and the internet was barely a thing so I didn't know I could learn from other people's mistakes and lessons in life. Also, I was horrible in school. When I slowed down, and took things one step at a time... the noise got quieter. Stay strong!

@lolygoat3005

10 ай бұрын

@@coyotelong4349 thx u so much bro I hope u have a great day!!!!

@lolygoat3005

10 ай бұрын

@@RayCorasanithanks sm for making me realize

Wish you all the best bro, I'm in my late 30s and still stuck in Iran, and wasted my 20s too, but my life is still ahead of me, I have fate in you, bests

Well put! Thank you for sharing. God’s peace.

I was 17 wanted to live where I belong but visa officiers stopped me from living my life , now Im 35 and still waiting to begin my life.

Damn I'm literally in my early 20's and I'm experiencing your first stage rn. I'm trying to win back their love after abandoning their original plan by desperately trying to succeed fast

Thanks man your helping the future generations become better ❤

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

I appreciate the comment, that is my hope... there are many life obstacles and honest stories can give people perspective.

I feel you and I'm so sorry. I can relate a lot!

I'd love to hear how you picked yourself up and got to a better place after wasting your 20s.

@RayCorasani

Жыл бұрын

The short of it is that I became selective as to the people I would spend my time with, I exercised 6 times a week even if it was low intensity which helped with my mood. I plan on doing a follow up video that will break this down in detail.

@Hustle7417

11 ай бұрын

@@RayCorasani please make a follow-up video I need it the most as I'm turning 30 with no job and no particular skill

Im 24, "wasting" my life with video games, books and tv shows while studying what i dont care about And i rly dont care and dont feel bad, i feel great doying what I love, for now...

I'm 24 and I feel like I've wasted most important years of my life which are from 19-24, I've done nothing, nor did I studied, neither I made friends or enjoyed, I didn't even worked I just sat around at one place whole time, I had mental problems, I can't take a decision and stand by it, I wasted lot and lot of money of my parents. Now I'm at a point right now, I'm highly addicted and can't go back, I'm constantly thinking about is it worth living anymore. As I feel I'm just a scum bag.

@RayCorasani

8 ай бұрын

It can’t be challenging to change, sometimes feel impossible but I can say that there is hope. I was in a dark place for many years. I got out of it when I realized I was not alone in my suffering. Please reach out to someone close to you for help 🙏

@Axis-ud5xs

Ай бұрын

Bro I understand how you feel. I am in a very similar situation. Going by your name, I bet ur from India too? If you want we can connect and uplift each other?

Happy you are rocking the gray hair!

Great video💯. I'm watching from Zambia🇿🇲

Man, partying without purpose. You're not alone man. I wish I could go back and change some things too.

Oh my god this video randomly came in my feed and it is soo relatable. I am 20 right now and i am stuck in this field of medicine. Sometimes i feel like i wanna do it but the amount of commitment i have to make for this field is immense. I don't mind working hard but i don't wanna work hard on things that don't satisfy me .i have no idea what i want from life. Wish i could have more time to figure out myself but honestly i don't. I just wish i knew what i want from life, i just wish i knew who i am as a person. Its like i am having mid life crisis in my early 20s . I know that if i wanna survive in this world i have to take responsibilities of my decisions, failures and my life and tbh it is the scary part . Its scary because i can't decide the right thing for myself because i don't know whats the right things. I thought about dropping out and doing a MBA instead but man that 9 to 5 jobs are soul sucker but the good part about is that Atleast i would have more flexibility in it than i have in medicine. I am afraid of my future. I am afraid i might make the wrong choice and end up regretting in my 30s :(

@JesusChrist_IsTruth-LoveForALL

10 ай бұрын

If I could go back to 20 before I wasted it partying and getting involved in things I shouldn't have. Trust me, 20 is SO young, you have time. If you don't feel like medicine is what you what to do, or that you enjoy it, don't do it however you can still accomplish it to some degree and still have lots of time to do other stuff. Make a list of things you like to do or stuff that interest you and take some time to maybe make a hobby of some of them and see if you do actually like it. You are young enough to try several things out and then go more in depth with one or two. Just keep on trying things and see if you enjoy them. 20 is still very young, trust me. You can do and be whatever you want to do and be. You don't have to stay one thing forever too.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

I agree with @JesusChrist_IsTruth-LoveForALL, very sound advice! I also recommend the book Poke The Box by Seth Godin!

@JesusChrist_IsTruth-LoveForALL

10 ай бұрын

@@RayCorasani 💪

@YourMom_._.

10 ай бұрын

@@JesusChrist_IsTruth-LoveForALL yep u r right and i am trying my best to find an appropriate thing for me that will legit satisfy me on soul level and keep me financially stable . i am trying ....

@user-ru3bt2vg8q

10 ай бұрын

I’m 20 too and Same problem :(

Hi. Thanks for the video! I'm 24 at the moment and I also feel that I somewhat wasted my younger twenties, but not in the way you described. I was a 'hardcore' nerd. Got to a university, got very good grades. Now what's the problem you might ask? I was (and still am somwhat) socially anxious, a perfectionist, nervous. I never partied, I wasted opportunities with girls, spent most of my free time on school, didn't exercise. In the last two years, I had almost no free time, I was literally sick because of my studies and got a burnout. This ultimately changed my outlook on life, studies are just a minor part of it. Sure, it defines your future career, but family, friends, loved ones and your own health are much more important. Getting a lower grade on an assignment is less important than spending time with people that make you happy or doing something you like. So for the younger people reading this, make sure you never put your work or school above your own mental health :)

@buttdick

10 ай бұрын

​@@negroherodon't put yourself on a time limit bro, that's just gonna drag you down if you don't end up meeting it.

thats interesting sounds rough man but you still have a looooooooooot of time man dont worry about it do whats good for you and be happy with yourself :). try letting go of the past it wont do any good to think about it so just.. dont. easier said then done but that's the best solution! also for anyone reading this dont put off things you can do to tomorrow, dont sleep late, and dont want porn. trust me its bad stuff all 3.

I don’t party and feel like I’m wasting my life

I “wasted” my twenties traveling by hitchhiking and living a bohemian hippie lifestyle, freelancing, drinking and being irresponsible. I read a lot and created art, photography. met my wife at a festival and we shared the same values and we did it all together but now reality kicked in, she left me and now I am here at 34, no education, no job and a drinking problem, and depression. living with parents. feels like everything is broken and I am at point zero just forced to join the workforce and survive. feels terrible.

@gquestions

10 ай бұрын

People try to minimize regret by gathering material things, not knowing that regrets are minimized by not allowing these negative thoughts to grow

@Blashmack

10 ай бұрын

Point zero is the beginning for the rest of your life, you've one chapter completed, time to start building the new one.

@janewambui2065

10 ай бұрын

Can't you still leverage your experience to get money? You still have work experience

@jawlig

10 ай бұрын

Women get the easy way out in life. Someone will always pick up the tab for them. You don't get that option as a man.

@nickn7939

9 ай бұрын

you are strong to keep going, yeah you now have more wisdom and experience, i know those are not tangible you can immediately show people, but use this to better your life, i have debt and made mistakes, but we just have to learn and keep going.

i'm so lucky to realized i was wasting my life (even not like the most of young people but still wasting, with religion and not seeking my goals). But now i'm just enjoying every every day and i hope when i get the 30 yo i will be able to do a lot of things and with greatness!

I pleased my parents, they never proud of me at any stages of my life, ruined my dream and mental health. Wasted my life

thanks for the video Ray

@RayCorasani

11 ай бұрын

For sure, thanks for the feedback!

Its normal in life to do mistakes, wasting your life for some time is normal

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

You're right, perspective is a big part of it. The mistakes we make can be viewed as lessons, as long as we change our habits...

Great video💯

thank you for making this incredible video :)

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

You're welcome, thanks for the feedback! : )

regret doesnt help, happiness is about enjoying each day without thinking about the past or future.. both are just concepts in your mind, be present, be mindful and enjoy the things you love.. thats all there is to do

I feel like on the opposite end. Im 22 and will pursue a masters degree next year. I dedicated a lot of time during my life sofar into studying but honestly neglected maintaining quality friendships. I almost never party and probably should "live" more before I'm too old.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing! Balance is harder than people say it is, but being aware about it is key! You're accomplishing a lot at a young age so congrats on that. Sprinkle some fun along the way. As an actor, the was advice given to me by many established working actors... to have a life outside of your career, it makes you more interesting.

Thanks for sharing. I'm 28, just graduated with master's but don't know what to do for work, lost my girlfriend who I loved dearly owing to my own mistakes. A sense of desperation not to waste my life undergirds my experience constantly.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that, I think you have some good habit’s having received a master’s… now it’s about applying it in other areas of your life. Congratulations on graduating and keep the momentum going buddy!

You might never see this man, but, thanks for the video.

take action, stop thinking stop worrying

Thanks for sharing this bro :)

If you found the lesson, it was never a waste. Godspeed, brother.

Omg I’m in the same situation as you. Iranian father who made me go to law school where I was so unhappy. He just wanted to brag about his daughter. Iranians are so narcissistic in that area. I got panic attacks and had to drop out, developed depression but for my father I’m just a lazy person who doesn’t want to work.

im 27yo and I appreciate you sharing that

I don’t want to go into detail, but I had a messy life due to moving around a lot with my mom since I was little (after my dad died). I never cared about anything until I turned 29. I was a drug addict and an alcoholic in many periods. Got in trouble with the law several times. I was also never studious, and I worked simple labor jobs. I also could not stick with a job for long. I pretty much wasted at least 10 years of my life. Now, I just graduated university, and I am off to do masters for math at University of Warwick. Although the university is high ranking, I still feel like things haven’t changed much. I have only begun to come off my shitty life. I am 31 now, and of course that’s a young age. But, it’s not that young considering the damage I have done to myself so far. But I have accepted the fact there’s a possibility that I can’t be that great at what I do now. I just need to move forward and control my depression and whatever negative things I have in me.

College trauma and fake friends trauma fucked me up I was so depressed

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Losing friends really can be a gut punch, experienced this multiple times and gave one friend one chance too many...

Im 20 and i feel like im lost in life i still dont know what i wanna do in life and i feel like im wasting my life just by working my normal job 😔 thanks for sharing your story tho ❤

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story, it’s tough when we feel we are in a rut. I felt that when I was just doing deliveries for an Italian restaurant. Spent my free time learning web design and eventually got promoted. Learning I think can be an antidote for change…

You shouldn’t consider it as wasted if you reach this exact point what you are exposing in this video at some time in your life. I would rather call it experience. You can’t understand the way things work and are when you’re in your 20’s. This turnaround feeling of finally understanding what your parents always were trying to teach/explain to you is the moment you realize how the world and everything around it as is. If you never reach that point or you do and you choose to ignore it and continue to live your life as if your nose is bleeding, then it is a waste indeed.

Thanks for your sharing!

Someone literally told me that your 20’s where you find out who you and make the most mistakes. So can’t really say you screwed up your 20’s as to me it sounded like you were a normal and was tryna figure things out as you went. So it’s good to look back and even cringe at your mistakes because that’s how you know you have grown and outgrown that part of yourself.

Dude you look amazing. Whatever you wasted on your 20s you got it back 10x.

thanks for sharing this with us

I'm 17 right now and I feel like I wanna just focus on my dreams and passions instead of partying and hanging out with everyone I hear that it's okay to do those things at my age but Me personally thats not really how I wanna live my last year of highschool I mean yes for occasions ima party or hangout with people but for now I don't think there's anything wrong with pursuing what I love and I'd rather know that I tried to than to regret that I didn't.

Man i also feel i lost mi young age because i never really went partying or didnt go out with friends enough. I'm 23 in still young I know but i feel time pases fast and i need to acomplish shit faster before i end being "young"

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

What are you hoping to accomplish? I always had a goal but when I would meet it, I would want the next thing and so on... I found peace when I decide to just take it day by day. Take one small step towards bettering myself somehow. Atomic Habits by James Clear is a very good book that helped me realize that.

Negative self-talk. It can be pathological. Wasting your years can make sense if you view it from the perspective of a certain goal you were trying to achieve. But would that also be the perspective you’d look at your life from when you’re on your deathbed? I think a lot of people in their thirties will assess their life in terms of performance whereas in later stages of life love and being there for friends and family are themes that tend to predominate.

With the time you have now, Win!!!

Yeah, me too i guess a part of me started to Party hard because i didn't felt enough at that time i didn't felt a fun person to be around, i had a bf who went with me to parties so everything was ok. I didn't liked my job nor i wasn't completely fullfiled with my career so i study because i 'had to' that happened for years. Until... I got pregnant. Me and my boyfriend Split after the kid born and raised him as in different homes. While i started to shape my life it was a process that took like 5 years of bad jobs, no money, being broke and no one cared for me. No soul, no party 'friend' no one knew what i was going for. Barely able to buy food, clothing, crying and feeling depressed day by day... Always pushing and looking for a better life. Eventually the party become my job. I was a middle time DJ or Photographer. But nothing was enough i didn't make that much money for buying equipment. The nightlife started to being repulsive to me, and i had some anxiety while i was on those places. Then the pandemic started and i had the decision of Never come back to that lifestyle. I got myself out of there... I made a plan and stick to it. Today I have a well payed job, and i have enough to live ok, the wound still there. I know i wasted my 20's the coworkers that sourround me that have a sr position or are able to travel, have a car, maybe have a decent partner... They are the daily reminder of how i wasted my 20's. But thats ok. Because it is my life and i gained it back. Thanks for the space. And if someone read this all. Thank you ❤

@RayCorasani

11 ай бұрын

Wow, thanks for sharing! It helps lets us know that we are not alone in the struggle to find meaning and purpose. It can be a lonely place and sometimes you feel stuck. I happy to hear you got out of that rut. We are lucky if we do because some people don't ever escape that lifestyle until it's too late.

Relatable. Some parents put a lot of pressure on their kids. Grew up with nagging parents that feel their lives are unfulfilling if their children are not successful in life. Still see it happening today parents force their kids to go study and pursue a career in something they are not in the slightest bit interested in making them depressed and unhappy in life. Also at the same time expected to get married, have children and forced to go into debt to purchase an unaffordable home that you will be working for and paying off for most of your life. Then when you are in your mid 60’s you can retire, sell your home and live freely, except you are riddled with all kinds of diseases that comes with ageing and don’t have as much energy anymore and maybe a good 10-15 years more to live if you’re healthy enough. So do what you want in life while you are young because you will never get that time back.

@Galactic_EmperorRetard9000

11 ай бұрын

No

Beautiful explanation: Here am a new subscriber ❤️

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Thanks and welcome!

A more detailed version would be great

@Violet_Odorata

11 ай бұрын

I agree that it is too vague and making better choices can be anything.

Good Video. Good content. It would be even better without the Background music.

Bro, you did fantastic job on "Lucifer" netflix series what are you talking about

Life is hard, we're all trying to figure this thing out.

I’m 23 since I been 20 I feel like my life has been downhill. Lots of lack of sleep. Drinking. Wasting money. Wasting time. Feeling like shit all the time. Being broke at time. I was with a girl for a year and she broke up with me think she cheated on me who knows but that shit really fucked me up. All I think about is how can I make things better. I don’t want to be older thinking damn I just wasted my youth. I think about this shit all the time it’s mentally draining.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Thanks for also sharing your situation, I feel like we can definitely lift each other up. I've been cheated on... my supposed best friend was involved too. Still hurts thinking about it. I've been working on focusing on give more energy toward people who actually want to be with me.

Beautiful video.

BRO YO SHOULD DEFINITELY BECOME AN ACTOR YOU HAVE THE LOOKS AND SO MUCH CHARISMA AND EXPRESSION! AND ACTING IS LEARNED NOT NECESSARY A TALENT

our time will come i hope

PS....I did the reverse.....By 22 under the cloud of HS Drop Out, I built a house from scratch. Didn't drink so my money went to tools and used cars....you would think the world was mine...........Nope...I have a knack for picking non motivated people. (for all categories) We all have one thing in common, we have this week; there is plenty we can accomplish from this moment forward. tHanks for the video

mersi baraye video

24 and wasted the first half of my 20s thanks for the vid

ty m 20 ..m gonna take that in consideration

Man i wasted my twenties too....i'm 29 now...

I wasted 3 years of my life and i relate to this video

in my 20s I was drinking and drugging , couch surfing , scamming welfare for cash, having a great time . I regret nothing

But what isn't a waste of time?

18 years old here, and already heading to college and I've been overthinking a lot about my regrets and my future would've been like if I gone through thus route of self-discipline and earning my own money financially without being dependent to begging some money with my parents. Today, is the day I have to take action, no matter how life throws out of me, I still grind and keep continuing towards my goal until I bulit a successful future with my future wife and my future kids. I know I may sound cliche to say all of this stuff but I'm aware it'll won't happen to my future self anytime in around 10 years from now. My goal is to able earn around 200-300k dollars a month, it'll take a while but I know im gonna make this if I put a lot of effort and being smart enough to earn that kind of money, anyways thanks for the words I can able to get my life back on track without any distractions. Kings whatever you do! don't ever stop grinding on those goals that you'll want to achieve in the near future if you put your mind a lot of focus and determination to achieve it.

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

You sound wise for your age, thanks for the comment, sharing your game plan, and words of encouragement!

I’m 22 wasted my early 20s in bed no money no job just bed rotting because I’ve lost it all. Can’t seem to get out of this because I’ve lost my car 😢

@RayCorasani

2 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear. How did you lose it if you don’t mind sharing? Maybe someone can relate and help… I personally invested 10k+ into 3 businesses and didn’t get a return. All gone. Sucks and took time to get back on track…

Could you explain why you didn’t like medicine? Cuz I’m currently pursuing CS because of money but it’s pretty soulless & isolating, medicine has a lot of cons, but you also get to help people. Idk what you think?

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

I don’t recommend doing something for the money unless you have an exit strategy so that you can pursue something you will enjoy more when you have some savings in the bank. Becoming a doctor was not worth the time and money for me when I realized I can help people in other ways.

man you should drop that loud ass music in the background holy hell fam

Wow, a 4-minute-long video on a 10-year-long life period. That must be enough for a deep analysis.

@RayCorasani

11 ай бұрын

There are definitely other chapters in my life that had an impact that I'll share as I continue to post videos. I know 4 minutes is short, but I need to learn to become a better story teller - which will come with time ; )

@ActiveAussie2024

10 ай бұрын

A few minutes is better than 15 minutes just waffling on and talking shit, like many "popular" people on YT do. This video is concise and to the point. The point about partying I 💯 percent agree with. I wasted so much time and money in bars and nightclubs till I was 25, or 26, I regret that. 55 now.

Very cool video. What do you think will happen with US society going forward? Those were good times and good years just before cell phones shared stories like yours. What happens now with what we all know? What will 20 something year olds do?

@RayCorasani

10 ай бұрын

Thanks for the feedback and questions! Humanity will have to increase empathy on such a level that it separates itself from AI. I think there will be a need for support groups for us to connect on a personal level because the Internet for many of it's pros that allows us to connect with more people, nothing can replace deep personal connections.

@Dancing_Alone_wRentals

10 ай бұрын

.....yes, Agreed....sometimes a walk in the park and a game of catch can go a long way. Have a wonderful week, and a relaxing weekend!@@RayCorasani

How did you waste your life? Could the outcomes have really been that different? There are things in my past I regret but I know the outcome could and likely would have been different but not better. Too many other factors lead to outcomes so there is no way to know which outcomes will win over time.