I was born with spinabifida and left wheelchair bound. I used to have very depressive and suicidal thoughts at 15. But because of the experiences I’ve had and the people I’ve met, here now at 19, I love my disabled live soo much.

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you turned it around. Onwards and upwards 💪

I agree! 💯

Thank you for this Video.

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

Always a pleasure

Like you iv had the chance of experience both the able bodied life and the non able life. It wasn’t till I was older that I started to get depressed about things so I can 100% relate to your video

Thank you for this Video. I can really relate to everything what you said.

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you are positive 😊

This makes so much sense Ben. X

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

😊😊😊

Thank you for the encouraging wisdom! Keep up the amazing work and videos! Question: which video discusses “happiness is the path”?

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

Ooo I'm not sure 😂 I think it's the 'i love my wheelchair'

As someone born disabled, I completely disagree. Being disabled you automatically seek the path of least resistance in your daily life to manage to overcome things with the least additional effort. This way of thinking seeps into every part of your life and you start making convenient decisions instead of difficult ones, which can completely derail your life. You might consider your last 10 years a success story, I, a 34 year old single, unemployed and uneducated wheelchair user not so much. I wasted 10 years of my life at a university that didn't give me a diploma, and now I am left with nothing. If I wasn't disabled I would've chosen a completely different career path doing manual labor, and I'd already be a family man.

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

It's totally fine that you disagree. This is just my personal journey.

@toonninja

4 жыл бұрын

I was born disabled too i don't hate but it has it ups and downs

@dominic.h.3363

4 жыл бұрын

@@toonninja As long as you won't make the same mistakes I did and know when to settle for the harder option as opposed to the option that requires the least exertion, you'll be fine. I made life too easy for myself growing up and now I'm fucked. I thought the same mindset that lets me cross the street when the curb is too high will be fine choosing an occupation. Well, it wasn't.

@toonninja

4 жыл бұрын

@@dominic.h.3363 I completely understand where your coming from

@onedogandabag9606

4 жыл бұрын

@dominic H I actually take offence to your comment. I’m 44 now, was born with Spina Bifida ( which has many complications associated with it ), and as a result of that also became a double amputee at 23yrs. I have never taken the easy route, I’ve always worked, even through Ill health, and live on my own. You may have taken the easy route mate, but that’s not the experience of many disabled people. So no, just because you’re disabled does not men that, in your words ‘you automatically seek the path of least resistance’

Well I definitely respect your point of you and your experiences I have been disabled from birth and it’s very different. You were able to experience life both as a disabled person and a non-disabled person. Your life was on a trajectory that was in your mind wonderful and you’ve learned to cope with appreciating the little things. You’ve had your past experiences to give you that insight or is me all I’ve known is disability I have nine people expecting little or nothing from me I have experienced discrimination have experienced things that children shouldn’t at any age so it’s very different. So for me if there was a way for me to somehow wake up and be able bodied I don’t know who I would be a part of my identity. I wasn’t taught the social skills or the life skills that able-bodied people are taught so I would be lost I would be functioning maybe like a teenager because I would have all these abilities no direction. You could’ve stopped and smell the roses at any time without being disabled your disability just made you halt at a fast pace. As for me I have deteriorated after a spinal cord injury on top of being physically disabled from birth it was a surgery that even though it was a success it limited my movement a lot I still think of all the things I used to be able to do that were small they were basic and I wonder why that was taken so yes am I glad the disability has shaped me for the better at some points yes but am I glad that I am disabled? I don’t know

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

I respect your point of view answell. This video isn't there to discredit others situations just explain mine 🤙

@toonninja

4 жыл бұрын

I was born disabled it has its up and downs

Great video and can identify totally with everything you say . I am definitely a better person than. I was prior to my accident. It’s been 13 years now Plus when I think about our current situation . I feel I am finding it easier to accept than some of my able bodied friends . Possibly because I have already been through such a massive life changing time ....I dunno maybe ??Love your philosophy

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah I believe thats why!

This analogy is so great! I really agree with everything you said, amazing video ❤️

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊

I was a diver, then diving coach... I reached the same conclusions. The perspective it has givin me is hugely more valuable to me that the convenience of being regularly abled used to be for me.

@jamesskinner1308

4 жыл бұрын

Oh yea, I forgot to mention I upgraded to being a t-7 para in 19&9... Coached a dive team in the summer that let me RE-DISCOVER the appreciation for what’s important thru those kids... I was a diver, then diving coach... I reached the same conclusions. The perspective it has givin me is hugely more valuable to me that the convenience of being regularly abled used to be for me.

@AdaptToPerform

4 жыл бұрын

It's amazing that it can change your mindset so positively

I’m a c6 complete I would like to message you and talk is there anyway I can?