I’m 10, She’s 11. We’re CODA (Children Of Deaf Adults) In Singapore

Is growing up CODA (Child of Deaf Adults) anything like the Oscar winning movie?
Dipikha, 10, and her sister Shona, 11, are hearing but their parents, Gohpi and Shalini, are deaf. The family is far from unusual - 9 in 10 children born to deaf parents are hearing.
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The girls grew up learning sign language (which they refer to as their “bonus language”) and help their parents with everyday tasks like fielding food orders and answering phone calls. But when it comes to longer, deeper conversations, Gophi and Shalini don’t like to rely on the girls to be their interpreters.
“I can write, I can text. I cannot possibly rely on my daughters all the time to interpret and talk. They should have their own space,” Gohpi says.
As for teaching the children to speak from young, Shalini roped in her parents to help with that. The extended family’s love of performing also rubbed off on the girls who often sing and dance during school events.
“On concert days, Mama and Papa will always come. Now that I really recall, it's very heart touching that they always make an effort to always go for them,” says Shona.
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  • @lightonfire
    @lightonfire2 жыл бұрын

    These girls are amazing! So confident, articulate and mature. Kudos to their parents for raising them in such a nurturing environment, and thank you to the family for sharing your story, it was really a privilege to have been given a glimpse into your world.

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    👍👍👍👍👍👍

  • @dchew5552
    @dchew55522 жыл бұрын

    love these two kid, im very impressed. they're 10 and 11 but they gave me adults vibe. good command of English, expressive and their thoughts were so much matured. I remembered back when I was around their age, I wasn't expressive and hide majority to myself, and very timid. and majority of my peers aren't expressive as well, asking them about things they usually don't tend to answers. I was so timid around that age I usually panic and have cold sweat. I only gained confidence to talk to strangers after I was 20.

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes...I am not only impressed but salute their fabulous parents in their upbringing of both the daughters 👏🏻 ❤

  • @wancheng89
    @wancheng892 жыл бұрын

    I'm impressed with how confident and articulate both the girls are! For those who cannot understand, the girl was even speaking Mandarin at 5:36 to the hawker uncle. They're such a lovely family! Thank you for giving them a platform to speak and increasing the visibility of deaf community in the society. Every time I see deaf people on the media, it makes me want to learn sign language more.

  • @kafkacommercialstudios4124

    @kafkacommercialstudios4124

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sucks that Singapore has degenerated into a country where you need to know Mandarin to even order food. So much for having English as our working language.

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    Жыл бұрын

    @@kafkacommercialstudios4124 We are Pernarakan chinese & we don't speak that language but make sure we get our food ordered. Why speak Mandarin for survival?? BS

  • @rajalakshmi1811
    @rajalakshmi18112 жыл бұрын

    Lovely kids and parents. Good job parents on raising these 2 wonderful girls :)

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    Not easy though, but with trials and tribulations, the parents have done a great job 👏🏻 👍. I salute them for the upfront courage 👏🏻 👍

  • @jiarui1312
    @jiarui13122 жыл бұрын

    This is such a heartwarming story.... I have friends whose parents are also CODA but they speak normally and they also teach us how to read hand signs too. They behave like anyone of us just that their parents loss their hearing, the girls are so lovely that it makes me go awwwww... They will be wonderful girls to the society and parents... THUMBS UP FOR THIS COVER STORY!!!!!

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    Infact, this family is an inspiration for us to have the knowledge of what respect for others is about

  • @kimleongloh4548
    @kimleongloh45482 жыл бұрын

    Very heartwarming story! Sometimes god takes away something you never expected losing but will replace you with something you never imagined could have. So happy for the parents to be blessed with the best kids ever. Credits to them for the excellent upbringing. 👍

  • @beezlebub9
    @beezlebub92 жыл бұрын

    I love how the couple is taking turns to talk. Wonderful people. Looks like there’s lots of love and understanding there.

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes, infact we have alot to learn from them as inspiration

  • @tonyquek6157
    @tonyquek61572 жыл бұрын

    I worked with Gophi at Hi! Theatre (the only theatre group for the deaf) years ago, which is now defunct. He was an actor in a few of our productions in Sgp n one international theatre festival in NZ. Glad to see that he, shalini n family are doing so well. For me it was a learning experience working with the hearing impaired performers n learning my basic sign language from them. 👍

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    They definitely deserve to be treated as normal beings like U and I 👍🙏

  • @gabrieleea2789
    @gabrieleea27892 жыл бұрын

    Some people can be very rude and annoying towards others with disabilities. This family is just like any other family and they don't deserve to be treated just because both parents are different. Shame on those who mistreated this family with unwarranted remarks. Just look at both their daughters who are well brought 😍 up,which those bad-mouth gossipers out there have nothing good to compare with them.

  • @statusworldchanger595

    @statusworldchanger595

    2 жыл бұрын

    As one of the daughters crystal clear that there is alot of people who love to judge all the time!

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@statusworldchanger595 Precisely!! Judge not lest they will be judged. What goes round comes around

  • @sukilunaAME

    @sukilunaAME

    Жыл бұрын

    people who judge them, will be judged in the end! the family is so beautiful, screw the rest.

  • @user-dm7ev1co5y

    @user-dm7ev1co5y

    Ай бұрын

    but dont care about people, soon they will realize later. haha.

  • @joywonky
    @joywonky2 жыл бұрын

    These girls are going to go so far, they are so insightful and expressive. I can imagine them being advocates :)

  • @gabrieleea2789

    @gabrieleea2789

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes...the girls will be better citizens of the nation in the future 👍👍👍

  • @yyl5336
    @yyl53362 жыл бұрын

    Their house is not just a house, but a home, a very warm n pretty one. The occupants, bless them all..

  • @manjulagovindaraju6353
    @manjulagovindaraju63532 жыл бұрын

    Gohpi and Shalini have brought up their girls so well. Blessings for a beautiful future for this family.

  • @joelpayne1193
    @joelpayne1193 Жыл бұрын

    This story is beautiful and heartwarming. I am impressed with children who is hearing to help deaf parents with sign language skills. Whole family is great because they helping together for challenging experience. I am hard hearing and see this give me some hope to doing same experience for my family one day 😊

  • @tincoronelarnaprints
    @tincoronelarnaprints Жыл бұрын

    their daughters are truly AWESOME!!!!! PLEASE LET THEM KNOW THAT I SALUTE THESE BEAUTIFUL AND BLESSED

  • @corysaputra4368
    @corysaputra43682 жыл бұрын

    amazing daughters. they are so matured and reliable...

  • @bextc32
    @bextc322 жыл бұрын

    What an awesome family. The kids are kind, funny and confident and a credit to their parents. Thanks for featuring them! 💗

  • @Graceglazee
    @Graceglazee2 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful family 💕 love how sweet and respectful the girls are:) you can tell they are a really loving family

  • @paulinewong5906
    @paulinewong59062 жыл бұрын

    amazing kids ,a praise to their loving parents who brought them up well. Bless this beautiful family

  • @ricenasi2246
    @ricenasi22462 жыл бұрын

    i just found out my relative is a non verbal, im excited to learn sign language. This video popped up, i believe this is a sign

  • @anna_wong
    @anna_wong2 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful family! So proud of the 2 girls! Thanks for sharing your story with us, we need more awareness and less judgement.

  • @DrRYeap
    @DrRYeap2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you CNA for this heart-warming documentary. Best wishes to all CODA families.

  • @Bcdf-ei9el
    @Bcdf-ei9el2 жыл бұрын

    Those children are so strong and incredible! So proud of them!

  • @littlejourney3178
    @littlejourney31782 жыл бұрын

    so lovely kids..

  • @sunflower7874
    @sunflower78742 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for uploading this!

  • @esselle6235
    @esselle62352 жыл бұрын

    Love this! The two little ladies are such superstars 🌟🌟 Bravo to the parents for raising such thoughtful, mature and articulate daughters.

  • @bhanushreeramamoorthy2107
    @bhanushreeramamoorthy21072 жыл бұрын

    Kudos to the correspondents at CNA for this brilliant Insider piece! It shows the commitment to understand the deeper issues INSIDE society and reveal the layers to create a better understanding for a working and functional society 💐 Absolutely love the Nathan family for their positive outlook, their resilience and above all, the love with which they approach life, friends, family and society! 💐

  • @adonia2275
    @adonia2275 Жыл бұрын

    *I have no words!! I'm blown away.💕💯💕💕🙏🏽🙏🏽😇These parents have raised beautiful, intelligent, and caring girls.*

  • @phillipasandholm7418
    @phillipasandholm74182 жыл бұрын

    Loved it! Amazing and very interactive daughters. I myself have 4 daughters, all proud CODAS, like your family.

  • @kohgiokha
    @kohgiokha2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the video. Not only it create awareness , it gives an insight of the lovely family. They are so positive and cheerful.

  • @Jay-ru2cw
    @Jay-ru2cw2 жыл бұрын

    The parents and their community have done a fantastic job in raising such confident and understanding daughters. So proud of them! The world needs to be more inclusive. Thanks for sharing. Looking forward to learn more about people from different walks of life… helps us to become more understanding and accepting of everyone’s differences…

  • @Itspavi98
    @Itspavi982 жыл бұрын

    They’re so well spoken and knowledgeable!

  • @xylondacollins
    @xylondacollins2 жыл бұрын

    My brother grew up CODA and CODF (Child Of Deaf Family). He is the only hearing one in the family. My twin sister/ me sign and speak at same time when we talk to him.

  • @ariaantoroatang7720
    @ariaantoroatang77202 жыл бұрын

    Sign language is amazing... Look at their home... People with disabilities are stronger... Look at their 2 kids and how they behave and speak...amazing...

  • @cia9142
    @cia91422 жыл бұрын

    so so happy and proud of this family!! they are way matured for their age as compared to other kids and it is very obvious that they are under good care and parenting. such a loving family tbh! and also kudos to their parents for being so strong and understanding.

  • @vickyt_46
    @vickyt_462 жыл бұрын

    such wisdom from these lovely girls!

  • @coffeebreaks6588
    @coffeebreaks65882 жыл бұрын

    I can already see that these 2 girls are going to go very far and be very successful! The parents did a great job bringing them up so well! How did they do it?

  • @queenytalo370
    @queenytalo3702 жыл бұрын

    Omg these kids are AMAZING. Love this family🥰

  • @lalina1304
    @lalina13042 жыл бұрын

    They are so well spoken. Very positive too, I love it 💕

  • @diana11774
    @diana11774 Жыл бұрын

    Extremly intelligent girls 💖 and also they are good hearted and beautiful. The family is very kind, and the parents do everything for these little girls. It was so good to see this family. I hope we can see them invthe future in some episods.

  • @acq8097
    @acq80972 жыл бұрын

    Admirable girls!👏👏

  • @pr9166
    @pr91662 жыл бұрын

    What a wonderful and loving family. The girls are so bright and sweet - definitely a testament to their parents' great upbringing.

  • @AceTen46
    @AceTen462 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful parents wonderful kids. God bless this family always

  • @peixuanchua2450
    @peixuanchua24508 ай бұрын

    Very mature & responsible children, strong communication skills, highly independent. Love them! 💕 They are going to go far in life 🤗

  • @nishacha17
    @nishacha17 Жыл бұрын

    Lovely family ❤ God bless them with more love n abundance 💗

  • @gilbertchan6686
    @gilbertchan66862 жыл бұрын

    Good job. And all the best. Nothing can stop your 👪

  • @kgaugelohope1832
    @kgaugelohope18322 жыл бұрын

    The mother is so gorgeous 😭

  • @jotan4183
    @jotan41832 жыл бұрын

    Let us be grateful for our 5 senses that we have very much taken for granted. Myself included until I watched this "CODA". Young gals but full of wisdom & patience. Wish u & family well.....

  • @gbomify
    @gbomify2 жыл бұрын

    Very sensible kids, they are lucky to have one another ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kehidupankanada
    @kehidupankanada2 жыл бұрын

    Its a blessings 🙌

  • @edwinlan73
    @edwinlan7317 күн бұрын

    Currently learning SgSL under guidance of Teacher Gophi aka G7. Fun and interesting class!

  • @ShenHeng
    @ShenHeng2 жыл бұрын

    Wow Shalini, you look exactly the same since MVSS days!

  • @832JY
    @832JY2 жыл бұрын

    I am very happy to see their daughters taking their opportunities to do sign languages without hesitations. This should be spoken out or being heard in this current world. I am very annoyed of how people, for example hawker owners, treat them like they are invisible or ‘unheard of’. They do not have their patience when it comes to assisting them 😡. I am a hearing-impaired person, born deaf, but I can speak and lip-read. I do very few basic sign language. God bless you!

  • @Mngjanice
    @Mngjanice2 жыл бұрын

    These girls have beautiful personalities. They are truly treasures of their family.

  • @audreyang902
    @audreyang9022 жыл бұрын

    Lovely kids , happy family .

  • @msi7188
    @msi71882 жыл бұрын

    I wish they didn't put the voice-over while the parents were talking. There's already subtitles and mama actually does say some of the words well if you hear closely.

  • @Larissa_white
    @Larissa_white2 жыл бұрын

    When These two girls are more mature than you.

  • @nabilahrohaizad
    @nabilahrohaizad2 жыл бұрын

    wonderful family :)

  • @MalcolmWong
    @MalcolmWong2 жыл бұрын

    💙💙💙💙 amazing

  • @evannewu
    @evannewu2 жыл бұрын

    V wholesome happy family

  • @mikey6538
    @mikey65382 жыл бұрын

    both girls are so articlate.. stay strong girls

  • @rb6050
    @rb60502 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @spots-
    @spots-2 жыл бұрын

    what are the parents working as ?

  • @tincoronelarnaprints
    @tincoronelarnaprints Жыл бұрын

    I wish to request and learn about parents who has adhd wo with autism kids. it has been a year since my son diahnosed and i still feel hurt the way people jidge my son. 😥

  • @lalina1304
    @lalina13042 жыл бұрын

    The mom is easy to understand

  • @snowangeliquexx
    @snowangeliquexx2 жыл бұрын

    I really wish they didn’t voice over the deaf parents :/ I love how the kid can speak some mandarin. Overall so sweet this documentary 😭

  • @bchpls24
    @bchpls242 жыл бұрын

    however I feel like the kids speech are somehow slightly impacted you can hear from their pronunciation.

  • @AniSKZ4141
    @AniSKZ41412 жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤😍😍😍

  • @toobalkain
    @toobalkain Жыл бұрын

    don't they have free sign language interpreters in Singapore? I'm in Slovenia and the deaf here have them as much as they need.

  • @sevasocialite5265
    @sevasocialite52652 жыл бұрын

    Legit!

  • @icturner23
    @icturner232 жыл бұрын

    It’s never rational for deaf parents to worry about their children learning to speak, or any parents raising children in a different language to worry about them learning the local one. Children learn the majority language with 100% certainty unless they are kept highly secluded from society in cult-type or other abuse situations. Studies show that children only need a couple of hours’ exposure a week to learn a language fluently.

  • @ivanhendr
    @ivanhendr2 жыл бұрын

    What type of sign language do they use?

  • @xylondacollins

    @xylondacollins

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm seeing ASL (American Sign Language) and theirs they are using. I use ASL too and I'm deaf myself.

  • @shalinigidwani9

    @shalinigidwani9

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi, we use SEE, SGSL, PSE n NSL mostly.

  • @newromanticstaylorsversion
    @newromanticstaylorsversion2 жыл бұрын

    other people - why they talk like that? me - how their hand move so fast leh? pro

  • @user-ht1tv8zm7b
    @user-ht1tv8zm7b2 жыл бұрын

    Смотрю и ничего не понимаю.Переводи на русском языке и жестовый язык. Будь добры, хотим послушать как они?

  • @mitsuil6854
    @mitsuil68542 жыл бұрын

    At around the 6:00 mark, the girl in the red dress recounts an incident at an eatery, in which a staff member was extremely hostile and threatened to call the manager because the girl temporarily pulled down her mask to facilitate communication with her deaf parents (lip-reading). If you know Singaporeans, you’ll know that this behaviour fits the profile, specifically the profile of the majority, to a T. The cultural hallmarks are rigidity, inflexibility, impatience, neuroticism, authoritarianism, and above all kaypohness, kiasuness, and kiasiness. The concept of assuming good faith and minding your own g-d business are woefully non-existent in this country. It reminds me of this widely published hate crime in 2021 in which a middle-aged Singaporean Indian aunty was physically assaulted and racially abused by a 30-year-old man from the majority for not wearing her mask while brisk walking outdoors. Even though it was a widely publicised fact that the government exempted joggers and brisk walkers from the mask mandate, he kicked her in the chest anyway. The pandemic has made it abundantly clear that if you are in any way different, you risk random members of the public with no moral or legislative power over you attempting to either verbally or physically police you into their own version of compliance. Doesn’t matter what the law says. Pull down your mask to talk to your deaf parent? Some kaypoh will make it their personal mission to ruin your day. This is why Australia, New Zealand, and Canada are vastly superior societies to Singapore, not just for disabled people to dwell in, but for ethnic minorities and really anyone with a conscience, with civility, and with respect for the privacy and individual agency of their fellow man. No one will assault you for the “crime” of not wearing a mask and no one will threaten to call the manager or the police or Big Brother for something so utterly banal. People actually leave you alone. Shocker. Singapore is not all it’s cooked up to be. More power to this family.