As a 3 time attempt survivor, THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. I am sending so much love.

@Elara_Luna

4 ай бұрын

Im so sorry you felt like you had to leave. I attempted twice when I was super young. Being in a world that feels so heavy is really hard. I hope you're doing good and you have a strong support network around you x

@jord_2wYT

4 ай бұрын

Glad you're still with us, hope you're doing well

@MN-br5nb

3 ай бұрын

There’s help. We will all leave this earth but the pain one leaves behind for loved ones should give you pause and seek help, spiritual, mental, physical. The world is difficult but it’s not impossible to live. There is joy and service. Get involved with some charities or travel. I truly wish you peace.

@Shr00mbunny

3 ай бұрын

⁠@@MN-br5nblots of studies were done for people with suicidal tendencies and it showed low brain activity in the frontal lobe- the frontal lobe is linked to empathy which is why a lot of times people take their lives anyways and don’t pause and think about loved ones or friends

@Abulls33

3 ай бұрын

I second that

Only 3 min in, but I want to say John is really amazing at these situations. Not everyone can talk to a grieving mother feeling guilty about her child’s suicide. And he has this very gentle and sincere way about him in these conversations.

@zeal4god402

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Delony is exceptional at empathy because he has exceptional emotional intelligence

@joannawrzelikowska3273

5 ай бұрын

No, he is not. Laughing was very often inapropriate

@henrytims4745

5 ай бұрын

@@joannawrzelikowska3273 He was offering a friendly tone to someone who is sad and surrounded by sad people. He was feeling her out to see what she would resonate with, validating her feelings and making her feel heard. All without letting the conversation drown in grief. He did amazingly

@StarzMiercolesGomez

5 ай бұрын

Agreed I use to give tarot readings and people would come to me for this and I tried my best to listen and not give advice but to advise to go to a professional like Dr John as I am not sure why people would rather go to a tarot reader who is not a professional therapist instead of a professional certified therapist yet I really cared for their well being and hope I helped by just listening as loosing a child is beyond any pain imaginable. Dr John is amazing

@dblueguy

4 ай бұрын

A true professional

As a therapist, I left my job working in community mental health after my parents died in a car accident June 2022. It’s ok to leave your counseling job to take care of yourself to grieve. Please. I did therapy at first too. I took time with God. I hope you can find some solace that works for you. Give yourself permission to take this time for you. “You can’t show your scars while you’re still bleeding” …very powerful words.

@MC-cg2rr

4 ай бұрын

Omg losing both your parents at the same time, I am so, sooo sorry… and it wasn’t a year ago. I lost people too. My dad, my boyfriend. I am sending you one massive hug from France, with lots of love. We’re all in this together and you’ll never walk this path alone.

I can’t believe I just found this video, or should I say, it found me. I’ve been agonizing for the past 2 days for my poor brother. He lost his son ( his only child ) to suicide 3 years ago and I can’t do anything for him. I feel so helpless. May God bless those who have lost loved ones to suicide.

@mweiss505

2 жыл бұрын

So sorry for you.!!

@lisamb8128

2 жыл бұрын

First, I'm so sorry for loss of your nephew and the pain you and your brother are in. There is something you can do for him. Just be there to support him and listen. Be his shoulder to cry on. If you close enough by, pick a day , once a week, month, whatever and go have dinner with him or take a drive or go on short hike. Getting him out of the house or out of his normal routine will help. There are a million little things you can do no matter how insignificant you may think they are.

My brother shot himself several years ago. Me and my other brother and my sister used to joke, (before my youngest brother died) that he was my moms favorite. He was the baby, and she absolutely adored him. So when he died, we all surrounded my mom with love and made sure she was never alone. About a year after he died, I found out he had molested my daughter several times when she was 6-7 years old. All of my sadness over his passing turned to rage and hate. It was very difficult to navigate. I had to tell my mom to never speak his name in my presence again. I learned that he was a monster, and had done this to other women as well, but my daughter was the only minor he did it to. So if he wasn’t dead, he would be in jail. I would have made sure of that. Life is so difficult sometimes.

@nikstar1313

3 ай бұрын

Omg I’m so sorry ❤

@deedeeculotta5749

3 ай бұрын

Wow, that's a tough one. I think your feelings of rage are justified. It erased all your feelings for your brother. That's pretty normal.. I'm sorry ..

@mfrace04

2 ай бұрын

dude that is is insane i have no words

@chelsiaroberto971

2 ай бұрын

I am so sorry. Sending much loveee

@ledyba57386

2 ай бұрын

😦.. oh my goodness.. I'm so sorry

Sobbing...my husband found his first wife to suicide. Thank you for addressing this.

@fire12731

5 ай бұрын

That so sad 😢😢😢

@paulababula9621

3 ай бұрын

Maybe he killed her. Did you look into that?

@grant.Ellis.

3 ай бұрын

@@paulababula9621what the hell is wrong with you?

@Shr00mbunny

3 ай бұрын

@@paulababula9621dude.. seriously? Not the right place

@paulababula9621

3 ай бұрын

@@Shr00mbunny It's a valid question.

I, too, lost my son to suicide. He shot himself in front of me. I cannot find peace.

@dc4lcorkscrewpatdaGIGA

Жыл бұрын

That’s horrible I’m sorry for you

@kimberlygorgoglione9237

Жыл бұрын

😢 I am sooo very sorry. Please find a licensed mental health helper. Do you have a church you attend once in awhile.......please ask for help from the pastor. You can't do this alone.

@MissteriousMisstress

5 ай бұрын

Dear lord- I pray you find peace. As someone with PTSD - please look into EMDR therapy. It helped immensely. Sorry doesn't cut it- my heart breaks for you, and him.

@fire12731

5 ай бұрын

Pamela warmest hugs I’m terribly sorry for your loss and this devastating pain 😰😰😰😰

@MN-br5nb

4 ай бұрын

❤ hugs … praying for you to find peace. Until we meet again.

I’ve just lost my son to suicide. He was a fighter pilot. Everyone loved him except himself. He grappled with depression and cptsd. I just want to be with him now but that means leaving my other children which I can’t do. Life is so hollow now. I just exist.

@4570ss

3 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss. I hope you find some peace . ❤

@moonlight-lr5od

3 ай бұрын

Hang in there!!Jesus lovvves u!!

The way she exhaled after he said, “your son’s passing is not your fault” sent goosebumps through my body and tears down my face. Thank you for sharing this. I hope this mother finds a way to heal and move forward knowing it was not her fault.

@onlinetruth9979

Жыл бұрын

It was her fault, she could have just not had a child

@onlinetruth9979

Жыл бұрын

@@Anangelfromabove I know it’s not a laughing matter, that’s why it’s important to point out how she could have just not had a child

@Anangelfromabove

Жыл бұрын

@@onlinetruth9979 well, I see what you’re saying but, how would she have known he was gonna take his life?

@onlinetruth9979

Жыл бұрын

@@Anangelfromabove she should have known there was a RISK of that, that’s my point. If you choose to gamble at a casino, and know you have the chance to lose all your money, aren’t you responsible for losing your money by gambling even if you didn’t know for sure you would lose? You would be, because you knew there was a risk of you losing.

@supernova11711

10 ай бұрын

Oh jeez. When I first read this I thought it said “I hope my mother finds a way to heal…”. Then I see your profile picture and see your a young girl and my heart sank. Reread it and glad I got that wrong! Sometimes people on here say things looking for encouragement but when someone’s speaking as though it’s already happened…by then it’s often too late.

i am coming up on the two year mark of my daughter's (aleia) suicide. i am still a walking zombie to this day. there are so many things that remind me of her, it is hard to live. thank you for sharing your story, you are not alone.

@MN-br5nb

4 ай бұрын

Very hard to hear that. Please take care of yourself and smile when you think of her. She must have been a beautiful comfort to you.

@alexcajiao7489

3 ай бұрын

I came that you might have life and have it more abundantly! Words of Jesus. Jesus is the GOD of peace!

This is a great video. I hope she finds healing. My 16-year-old brother died and my mom checked out. She never healed and that damaged us more than our brother dying. She missed out on relationships with her kids and grandkids because she decided to wallow in misery. Healing is worth the work.

My husband committed suicide 7 weeks ago and I didn’t see it coming. I can’t stop crying about it, I feel so lost and have so many regrets.

@melissabrock4114

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. There's nothing anyone can say, but I hope you take Dr Delony's words to heart and are doing okay.

@foedeer

7 ай бұрын

❤

@fire12731

5 ай бұрын

😰😰😰😰😓😓😓😓😓

@heelzrule-ln1jb

4 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for loss....

@graceg3250

4 ай бұрын

How are you today?

I so feel her pain!!!! You "NEVER" get over losing your child to suicide! You "NEVER" heal! You "NEVER" get over it! You "NEVER move on! You live with these waves of pain until you take your very last breath!! You walk in it every single day of your life-

@202triciae

2 ай бұрын

You are so right. I've read that for as long as you love your child. That's how long you'll grieve them. And my daughter at age 32 took her life in 2020. Her husband found her me and her older. 3 older siblings and we are changed forever. This is the date that goes by. I don't think of her. We all have our Ashes and we have a lot of horrible longings. It took 2 years to get all that stuff because of COVID. Everything was so delayed. Her Death Certificate and her getting her things back to her husband but she did leave 7 letters to him. And the part of never getting over is the answer to the question, why? And is the answer to the question. Well I didn't her husband say something twice. That's where I'm having the hardest time. Want to interrogate him so much and I realized that he didn't force her to take her life. She had a plan 6 months in advance and I'm sure he is suffering still suffering from the guilt. And grief that he knows we all went through. I saw it in his face every day for the last 2 years and he had to sell his home and there were no children. So I thank God for that, but yeah, it's. It's I don't know why people think that you're gonna get over it. II pretend I'm okay so I can do my job. And everything worked out, but kind of why people think that oh well, it's been 4 years. I'm sorry it wasn't like a dog. That died was my daughter and I had her for 32 years. And you know what it's like to have someone in your life. That long she was the baby of the family. So her siblings also her grow up. I am so thankful there's videos of her and. I heard from walking as a baby that we have so many photos. And I just can't believe she's not here. I can't believe she did that. That's what my thing is. I just cannot believe what would possess terrible to feel. That was the best solution for her.

@truthmatters7805

2 ай бұрын

​@@202triciae Thank you for replying. So sorry for this happening to you! It was very recent. He was our only son age 46! Devastating!

"i don't even know where to start. I don't know what to do." Amen. Have felt that so many times in my own recovery.

My aunt went through this years ago. My mom was there for her. Louisa needs a village around her to help her walk through this. Losing a child is the hardest thing ever.

My dad committed suicide when I was 16 years old. It is one of the most traumatic experiences a person will ever endure. It stays with you for a lifetime. 25 years since I saw my dad and I still am not over it and never will be. But we are all suicide survivors who are incredibly resilient and so strong. Your a fighter mamma. You are so strong. You are so resilient show the world how much you love your baby boy. Tell your story to help other mammas out there that are going thru what you went thru. As the saying goes "God doesn't call the qualified, he qualifies the called..... and you are called"

@natalierose1072

5 ай бұрын

💓💓

@queenofthebutterflies5212

4 ай бұрын

That's a very beautiful quote. Thankyou for sharing it

I just wanted to put my arms around this woman.

@PoliisikoiraRex

3 ай бұрын

made me cry because she sounds exactly like my mother and i have had those thoughts and i couldn't even imagine her pain if i... you know.. bless this woman who called John. i really hope she's doing well.

@douglaidlaw740

7 күн бұрын

Having your arms around her is part of what she needs. She needs to be reassured that she is still a worthwhile person, somebody you can hug and reassure.

This was very, very powerful. thanks to the caller and Dr D and his team for putting this on air. i feel honored to be able to listen to this conversation.

@zeal4god402

2 жыл бұрын

Me too Melissa...me too

This world needs more people like John.

Once again, Dr. Deloney handled this mom, and her tragically layered situation with compassion, empathy, and grace. Another example of what a great addition he has been to the Ramsey family.

My heart was in my throat listening to this. I have a son and can’t even imagine the pain this poor woman is going through.

I hope John knows how much his podcast helps people. He is a blessing.

This is so devastating. Suicide is so terrible for the family of the person who committed suicide. Constantly questioning why? why? why? May God heal her and family.

I’m so sorry Louisa. I appreciate you sharing your story. I can’t fathom your pain. God bless you.

Louisa, I am praying for you. Your story, as painful as it is, helped someone who needed to hear it today. You are stronger than you realize. Having lost my parents five weeks apart is completely different, more natural than losing a child, but was difficult. Grief is its own emotional roller coaster. Writing in a journal, reaching out to other parents who have lost a child, and seeing a counselor again will help you to heal. May God give you the strength to get through each day in a way that is healing. May God comfort you so you can sleep and eat properly again. Like so many things in life, it is one minute, one hour, one day, at a time. I was thinking about how Louis was named after you. I think Dr. John's idea of writing a letter to your son is a a great idea. It will help to get a lot out of your head and off your heart. As I said, I am praying for you.

Im so sorry for your loss. My brother comitted suicide over 10 years ago he took his life in front of my moms house he had an argument with his girlfreind and came to my moms house ate breakfast like nothing then went outside and took his life we never knew he ever even thought about it and my mom was the one that found him and it is so hard for her it still kills me till this Day and I always think about him. I always worry about my kids and always try to make sure they are ok and im overly protective of them because of this. There are times that I am so mad at him for doing what he did when people do this they dont think about what they are doing to the people they leave behind all the questions and no answers its so hard to get over.

I'm a 2 time attempt survivor there is nothing you should hold guilt for. You did everything you could. Hold on to the hope you'll see him again one day and that reunion will be amazing.

As someone who attempt suicide, I just want you to know this is not your fault, I hope you will get much better and that you will handle everything.

Oh my heart just breaks for her. I am a mama of a 15 year old boy. 😔

@Cynthiam106

2 жыл бұрын

Mine too 😢😭 and my oldest boy is 15 as well so I cried through listening to her story 😢🥺

@Demosthenes84

14 сағат бұрын

Me too. I'm a dad to a 15 year old boy. Sometimes I worry that he is depressed

I tried to kill myself in various ways and failed. I regret it so much, and feel so bad for the suffering I caused to my family. It wasn't their fault. I felt like Dr. Delony said, "I was a burden" I wish you can leave the pain behind and find peace. Please don't be too hard on yourself. 🙏

Thank you for the Lord guidance to find this potcast. I lost my son to suicide . He shot himself while I as home in the middle of the night in the head. I held head in my hands. Yes, No mother should ever have to witness that. John, your words have helped me to realize that I haven’t grieved yet. It was 10-08-2022. I was trying to help people and thought it was my mission. I am a strong lady that has been through allot. I can’t help anyone! Its to painful. I need to take cate of myself. Thank you for the advice John. I did not realize what I still need to do. Nick was my world. I have no other human in my life. Im leaning on Jesus but life is very painful!

@rosieds4996

3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry Sherri. My heart breaks for you in what you’ve been through. Stay close to Jesus and get care for yourself.

This is a great video to show in classrooms or anywhere with vulnerable people. This woman is 2.5 years in and is absolutely shattered. She will never be the same and her life is basically a shell of what it was. All the work in the world isn't going to put her back together. She might be able to salvage the wreck but she's broken, and will be for the rest of her life. Thinking about the few people I have in my life who would care if I died is the only reason I'm still here. I stopped wanting to be in this place a long time ago

@jiska4148

4 ай бұрын

I’m so glad you’re still here, just know that there are more reasons for you to be here!!

@IloveJesus777j77

3 ай бұрын

​@@jiska4148Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.

In tears in break room @ work . My heart feels shattered for you and anyone who has lost a child . Unimaginable

@queenofthebutterflies5212

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, me too. It's such a tragedy and just so very, dreadfully sad.

Please don't blame yourself. I pray you find peace.

We are with you, Louisa. We love you.

Poor woman, my son tried to kill him self 3 years ago and only God mercy kept him alive, thank you Lord Jesus, I can’t imagine the pain this mother is enduring 😭 Lord have mercy on this poor woman give her peace Lord Jesus please 😢

This one is tough to listen to. John does a great job helping these people heal

Dr. D crushed this call. Hope his words run deep with this poor woman and help her take a step forward.

This one hurt my heart, but it was beautifully done John. Thank you.

What a vulnerable situation. Dr. John is a real one.

John, wow, you were right on. 💜 I loved your response to her. My heart aches for this woman and Mom. She needed to hear it wasn’t her fault and she couldn’t “save him”. I lost my Father unexpectedly in January and I keep replaying his ONE week hospital CIU stay in my mind…wondering if I would have gotten my treatment info sooner & knew about our “right to try” just a couple days sooner…if I could have saved him. If only… 😢💔

First thing is that she needs to hear is that it’s not her fault!

@ronirony2122

2 жыл бұрын

He said that

@onlinetruth9979

Жыл бұрын

It is her fault, she could have just not had a child

@koryngalen6228

5 ай бұрын

@@onlinetruth9979what an edgy heartless thing to say

@onlinetruth9979

5 ай бұрын

@@koryngalen6228 it’s true

@koryngalen6228

5 ай бұрын

@@onlinetruth9979 just because you’re upset that your mom had you doesn’t mean that everyone else feels that way.

this show is exceptional, I've watched since the beginning and John is so kind and compassionate and is made for this role❤

This has me in tears! I can’t imagine her pain and I’m so sorry what you’ve been through.

John, thank you for being so compassionate ❤️. So sorry for this poor lady, I hope she will find peace 🙏

Oh wow that poor mom, I can feel her pain and as John is talking to her I can't stop crying as I'm hearing her cry. So much pain. I pray she will be able to heal and stop the guilt.

Talk to him. He’s still there. He only left his body and mind behind, his pain too thankfully. His consciousness transcends our limited experience as physical forms. It’s ok. Love him like he’s right there with you. 🌈

@queenofthebutterflies5212

4 ай бұрын

This really helped me. I don't have my daughter anymore (she had a series of heart attacks) and I miss her so desperately. Thankyou

I’m already crying. Mom of 3 here and I’m only 1 minute in. My heart is broken for her 😢

i am coming up on the two year mark of my daughter's (aleia) suicide. she was 16 as well. i am still a walking zombie to this day. there are so many things that remind me of her, it is hard to live. thank you for sharing your story, you are not alone.

@Elizabeth-jr5pt

4 ай бұрын

May sweet Aleia rest in peace.

@heelzrule-ln1jb

4 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss

@IloveJesus777j77

3 ай бұрын

​@@Elizabeth-jr5ptJesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.For it is written, As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to Me, and every tongue shall confess to God [acknowledge Him to His honor and to His praise].

@IloveJesus777j77

3 ай бұрын

​@@heelzrule-ln1jbFor it is written, As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to Me, and every tongue shall confess to God [acknowledge Him to His honor and to His praise].

@IloveJesus777j77

3 ай бұрын

​Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.

So sorry for your loss 💔

I too lost a teenager to suicide. I’m so sorry

@IloveJesus777j77

3 ай бұрын

Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.For it is written, As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to Me, and every tongue shall confess to God [acknowledge Him to His honor and to His praise].

@veggiesaremurder

13 күн бұрын

​@@IloveJesus777j77 one correction from one Christian to another: we're not saved by repenting. We're saved by grace alone, through faith, and not of works, lest any man should boast. So, salvation comes from receiving the gift of everlasting life. It comes entirely by our trust in the finished work of Jesus, who, in paying the price we owed for transgressing the Moral Law, and rising from the dead, defeating death, made a way for us to be saved. Yes, repentance is a required step toward salvation, our salvation comes ONLY from trusting in Christ. Repentance doesn't save us. Choosing to trust Jesus does. Much love to you, and may God bless you and keep you and yours, forever! 🙏❤

The definition of grief is the inability to love. She has been grieving like hell for 2 years..

I hope she goes to work at a beautiful, beautiful state park, or for the Forest Service for mid spring through mid fall during her leave of absence from her counseling job! Being surrounded by nature is extremely healing.

Been here lost two children… different stories …. The lost doesn’t go away. The pain doesn’t leave. We just go on.

@queenofthebutterflies5212

4 ай бұрын

I'm so very sorry. My heart genuinely breaks for you. God bless.

I lost my brother to suicide and related to this so much. He was older than me but we parented each other a lot over the years. It’s such a helpless feeling and the guilt is overwhelming.

@jelenak.4621

4 ай бұрын

I lost my older brother to suicide as well. Pain and guilt are never ending.

@Mase0625

3 ай бұрын

Same here. Lost my brother to suicide 5 yrs ago 😢

I am 15 seconds in and crying… sorry louis, you had it hard. Sorry mom to hear you suffer through this loss. ❤

If my kid was suicidal I would not leave them at home. Cautionary tale everyone. Please pray for God to take this burden from you. Sorry for your loss

@mellboyle4181

4 ай бұрын

He wasn't obviously suicidal, just angry.

What great advise from John.....He feels your pain

My heart goes out to you my dear, this too shall pass, it will be hard but it shall pass.❤ 🙏

Dr John certainly knows how to help and listens so well.

Sorry for your loss , not your fault often people seem very happy but there not coping well at all, heart breaking story especially when the younger generation pass away by suicide, and sorry for your loss to anyone been thru the same , if your struggling reach out for help if you can .

I’m praying for you Louisa.

You did good John. Luisa your in my prayers I can’t imagine

My heart is broken for her! My prayers are with you!

@ageis3250

2 жыл бұрын

Mine is not. Serves her right! Suicide is the best punishment for parents because they only call us mentally ill or out for attention. I am glad this happened. SERVES HER RIGHT!

@youresoold1216

3 ай бұрын

@@ageis3250in no way is it her fault. In the beginning she says how she did all she could to try to help her son, she was not dismissive of his problems, she did not expect him to do what he did while she had a lot else on her plate. It sounds like you’re going through tough times as well, you need to see what is the best choice for yourself and others who love you right now: find someone who you trust to talk with and lock away your demons, or just give up and end it all.

@ageis3250

3 ай бұрын

@@youresoold1216 Hopefully abortions wins everywhere. No child deserve this world. You people are selfish.

A parent losing his child makes my stomach turn . Cannot imagine

45 days ago for me It’s still a dream/nightmare Their power is unfair

@helloanonymous9288

Жыл бұрын

Their power is perfectly fair. You gambled with your children's life by bringing them into this world.

@esiler8801

Жыл бұрын

I understand your feelings of powerlessness with not being able to "fix" the situation. I lost my daughter 1 year ago. When you love someone, you are always in a state of vulnerability. It is very painful, but love is the risk we MUST take as we go through life with all people. Love never fails....even in this, you made no mistakes. Let's forgive them for this terrible mistake....they didn't know fully what they were doing or the impact it would have on those left behind. This is a hard recovery....but it is possible to recover in time. Seek support and help as you go forward....❤ 🙏

The fact that he said she shouldn’t hide her grief from her other kids says everything. Showing your children that you have emotions is key to their own happiness and grieving process. My heart goes out to this woman and I pray that she gets the help she needs so desperately. This phone call was just the beginning of the process for her. She helped so many others by just making this call and she doesn’t know it.

Thank you Louisa for sharing with us. My partner was a victim of suicide. We just don’t talk about it and it should be! It has been a decade for me. It changes who you are. When someone dies by their own hand, you’ll never get closure and you miss them more everyday. You’ll live a new life now and please surround yourself with safe people, those who will pick up the phone for you anytime you call. Someone to bring wine or ice cream. I am so sorry this had to happen to you and others. KZread needs to stop demonetizing the content creators who could use their platform to educate, talk through, and build relationships with people who will understand you. Do things that make you happy… I just bought a new puppy, so therapeutic ❤❤

My heart just aches for this Mother. I cannot fathom what she is going thru. I pray God gives her peace and comfort. My son is 16 and I talk to him about suicide all the time because I want him to know that this is not the way out and even if he's hurting in some way now.... it gets better!!

So sorry for you loss. 😢 I lost my son 5 years ago. Forever broken

It breaks my heart listening to her speak. I cannot fathom the pain.

I think we all wish we had a john at some point in our lives

‘It constantly traumatizes me’ this is me too:(

My heart breaks for anyone that has been in that super dark place and struggled getting out of it. I've been there twice and that took deep prayer and lucikly with Gid's help, I got trauma counseling and I got out if it.

“Grief needs a witness.” A WORD.

He is an extraordinary man.Such a sweet person

I can’t imagine how much harder this entire thing has been for her on top of how horrible something like this is to begin with. The guilt she feels is natural for any mother who loses their child this way but the guilt she feels is clearly exacerbated by her career working as a counselor and how she feels like she’s an expert and should’ve been able to fix this and prevent it because of her profession. And then add on the fact that she then returned to work in that profession, while still in shambles because of this happening, where she meets with students her sons age who confide their problems to her and how that must impact her because it reminds her of her son every single time. I can’t imagine how much being a counselor added to her pain with this and I hope beyond hope she has finally had a chance to heal as much as she can.

Great job John, I pray for this mom, I'm dso sorry

"But you´re still sitting on the floor of your home hugging his body ..." man .... that just ripped me apart ...

I cannot imagine this kind of pain and loss. 😞 I am so so so sorry ♥️ Dr. D is right....this is not your fault. Sending you so much love and hugs, L.

@ageis3250

2 жыл бұрын

Are you kidding me??????? All parents do is claim we are not depressed or out for attention. My heart only goes out to the child. Serves the parents right. Suicide is a great punishment for them...

@Kristen-ek9rz

11 ай бұрын

I wish you healing....truly, and I believe you can heal. ​@@ageis3250

Great show!

The pain this poor woman felt before this call I can’t even imagine HOLY S*** I am so sorry I hope with time you can find peace I am so sorry

My daughter lost her best friend age 20 to suicide. On Feb 7 2024. He had said for years he knew he wouldn’t live long. He constantly told my daughter he was gonna die and she would beg him not to. He told his mom he had bad thoughts. But yet he would tell my daughter he would never do cuz of his mom. His mom said it was a cowards way out. Well come to the day it happened he called my daughter twice , third time she finally answered she was trying to sleep and she was so mad cuz he wouldn’t stop calling her she even told him she was sleeping. They met and he started telling her he loved her and he appreciated there friendship. For always being there for him. She said she didn’t realize he wasn’t saying goodbye. She was so angry at him so she didn’t realize what he was doing. She told him before she left him not to do anything stupid. That to please thank of her and his mom. He even showed her the gun and she asked why he still had it that she thought she gave it back to his mom. He had just got fit back two weeks ago. I don’t think his mom realized how bad he was. He wouldn’t take his meds , wouldn’t go to therapy. Like he didn’t want help. My daughter is so badly hurting. His mom is in therapy cuz what suicide note said. He even called police to let them know where to find his body so his family wouldn’t find him. He never hung up the phone with police when he did it. My daughter visits his grave 2 or 3 times a week. She’s so angry at him. She doesn’t understand why he didn’t want help why would someone want to die that it was his plan since he was little to take his life. He had so much going for him and take it all away. I just wish I could help my daughter cuz I don’t know how.

@kilehuber3956

2 ай бұрын

❤

Barely a minute in and I can’t stop crying. I almost put my mom through this same situation on several occasions. I scared her to the point where she quite literally told me the day I turned 13 that she’s happy I lived to see another birthday. When my dad passed away, I was 15 and really close with him, and my mom was obviously devastated that she lost her husband, but all she could think about was how I was going to react and dreaded telling me because she thought I was going to try to take my life. She couldn’t even begin her grieving process because she was terrified of what I’d do to myself if left alone for even a minute. I’ve apologized over and over for what I put her through, and she’s already said she never held a grudge against me because she knew I was just hurting and miserable, but I still feel awful for it and I probably always will.

I have three sons and my ex has alienated me from them for seven years. I worry constantly about their mental health. I can't have any contact with them. I feel so sorry for this poor mum. I can feel her pain.

Man I've i attended around 400 suicides, its always heart breaking to see what it does to the people left behind, i can guarantee people don't just wake up and decide to take their life over a fight, its accumulative, and John is 100% correct, the kid was hurting for a long time, and looked for a reason to justify taking his life.

I also have a daughter with mental illness and it’s hard cause every day I think I’ll find her gone and it scares me but I do realize that sometimes things are out of your control. I pray that if it happens to me I will be strong and one day at peace. This mom is hurting and I know that feeling. May she get better

I really feel like God made me see this. I’m struggling very much, I feel like without a doubt, when my mom and dad are gone, I’ll be gone too My family is truly the only reason I’m alive as I’m typing this. It physically makes me sick to think about losing them Please pray for me, my prayers go out to everyone struggling

@matthewhudock8378

2 жыл бұрын

I pray for you on this. Life is so unfair and cruel sometimes but we must endure. You are a most beloved Son or Daughter of God. Please do not stop; do not give in. Don't be afraid to seek help,

@Bowhuntertexas

2 жыл бұрын

Prayers up for you. Just remember that hearing about suicide has made thousands in the comment section choke up, even though we don’t know this young man. Same would be said for you. Bear whatever cross you have with grit and toughness and by going thru your sufferings, you will inspire others if you share it. God bless.

@ashlieelizabeth8170

Жыл бұрын

Aw hun, I'm praying for you! Sending hugs. I understand this in a way. My mom is everything to me. She is the only one in life I feel truly understands me. When I said "What am I going to do when you go". She said to me "You will have an amazing husband who will understand you." I promise you will be okay. You are loved so fully. Please please please seek therapy ❤️❤️❤️

@MN-br5nb

4 ай бұрын

There is a natural flow to life and you will find strength and live your life. There is Avesta something beautiful to look forward to in your life, as someone who has lost both you will be ok.

I lost my daughter 15 months ago to mental illness, I’m sorry ❤

Poor baby 💔

i dont expect this to be helpful to this person mostly cuz they most likely will not read my comment but i feel the pain, i feel your son's pain and i dont think he wants you to feel this pain. you did what you could, you are not responsible, we are all fallible humans doing out best and he still loves you for that. death is hard but there is more beyond it that perhaps you are not privy to. you did the best you could and thats what matters. im sending love via the universe for you because it is clear that you need it. hold onto it, youll get through this too, hes still there with you just not physically

My heart breaks for her

I shouldn't have listened to this at work I'm sitting here trying not to cry 😢 😭

I just found you, and you have an awesome show because of your character and knowledge!!!❤ Ok, you're cute, too!❣️❣️❣️

This poor lady, I hope she finds peace. I also think she should leave her job, I'm concerned about her not knowing what to do in terms of therapy.

@bz3086

2 жыл бұрын

Skincare, Family is the best therapy, followed by Time. Psychiatrists are the absolute last resort (not recommended).

@ageis3250

2 жыл бұрын

@@bz3086 Family is the WORST therapy. I am glad this happened. Parents always claim we are out for attention or mentally ill when we want to die. Now its too late. I have no sympathy for parents. SERVES HER RIGHT!

@koryngalen6228

5 ай бұрын

@@ageis3250 I know you’re obviously hurting inside, but this is not a fair or healthy thing to generalize about.

@ageis3250

5 ай бұрын

@@koryngalen6228 Its not fair or healthy to claim your child is out for attention either...

@koryngalen6228

5 ай бұрын

@@ageis3250 not all parents do that. You are making generalizations due to your own experiences and projecting that onto others. I really really hope you get to a better place.

Kids dont really have very good long-term mindsets. They live in the immediate. The current situation is as lot more dire and severe to them than it is for adults.

I can't imagine the pain she's going through! Especially as a school counselor. However, the counseling that's provided in schools do not help all the time.

Say I love you to your family your children your wife/ husband, love the people in your life cause you don’t know how long you still have with them ❤

You did your best You will never get over it you lost your son the pain is less but you will never be ok. He was hurting. He will never live you. You try your best

Found a suicide note in my son's room. Thank God he didn't follow thru with it. I am so sorry for your pain.