Someone once said to me, "The fewer friends you have, the less upset you will be." Makes sense when you think about it, but when I see other people's friendships out there, I get depressed😅

@grubhubboogieman6125

11 ай бұрын

REAL

@kaworunji

11 ай бұрын

too real

@Moon_lulu

11 ай бұрын

Frr. When there are a lot of friends, most likely you dont get to really know each of the person in that group. Also, when you have lots of friends, they tend to gossip a lot of each other.

@Anonymous-cf8fq

11 ай бұрын

@@Moon_lulu yes! I agree as a person who had lots of friends

@lunaria6537

11 ай бұрын

@@Moon_lulu this is true, my ex had a lot of friends and they gossip a lot. lol

"Feeling lonely in the presence of other people is worse than feeling lonely in solitude'. Nicely worded

@lauren5725

4 ай бұрын

I have definitely felt this 😢

@lenoxpI

3 ай бұрын

If you haven’t experienced this you haven’t experienced life

@jenlovesjesus

3 ай бұрын

I totally agree, I feel like that a lot with my siblings. They are very cliquish and exclude me. Even when we're together I don't feel like I am part of their group. I didn't miss them during the pandemic-- it was a relief not to have to socialize with them.

@Med-jp5wz

2 ай бұрын

I always say this to myself. It helps not to choose to be with the wrong people and appreciate being with yourself.

does anyone else feel like they have people, but not friends???

@user-nf1iz1ck9g

4 ай бұрын

me

@RUsirius967

4 ай бұрын

me

@amym3169

4 ай бұрын

I would say we have way more acquaintances than friends.

@heavenlygirlly

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, I believe it is soul-speaking to us that the people around us Are just seeing and reacting to us based on how we look and what we possess. So intuitively we know it and we feel alone even with friends. Some of us need soulful connections, we do not like people who love us based on material possessions and beauty but our mind and soul. We crave it. And that's why most of us choose solitude. I think these souls are heightened souls.

@juliacastle2224

4 ай бұрын

OMG YES BBY

The less people you chill with, the less bullshit you deal with 😌 💯

@jeonskookiee8366

4 ай бұрын

And that's ON PERIOD🥳💅🏻

@selfknowledge9560

4 ай бұрын

That's absolutely right mate

@SofiaSanchez-hl4he

3 ай бұрын

this made me feel so much better cause i felt like having more friends made you happier i guess not !!😊

@LN-dg8li

2 ай бұрын

👏👏👏❤️

@MaaKaushliya

Ай бұрын

Now that's the most beautiful line I've ever heard😊😊

Friends come and go, don't let it make you feel like there's something wrong with you.

@may_0reo816

7 ай бұрын

part of me still believes it

@toast4310

6 ай бұрын

@@may_0reo816 For the longest time I did too but I’m trying to stop thinking like that. Me and my beat friend from elementary school are now distant and not as close, but that’s only because our interests are different! There nothing wrong with you 🫶🏾

@Krolted

6 ай бұрын

People always leave me especially during times when I struggle the most. It’s always me, me, me. I’m at fault. And I believed them. I always believed that I am the one in the wrong, that I’m such a terrible person to hang out with which crushed my self esteem and made me isolate even more. But if I think about it, were they really my friends to begin with if they leave me when I’m in my most vulnerable state of my life? Am I in the wrong for rejecting my friends love after them confessing to me that they’re into me romantically? Isn’t that my right so how am I bad for voicing my opinion? „You should have been more upfront“ „You‘re too upfront and direct“ OK what am I now? You’re definitely not my friends and never have been.

@Jesus_Saves_Believers

6 ай бұрын

🎸Roxanne!! You don't have to turn on the red light 🚨🕯️🎤🎼🎵ROXAAAANE🎶🎵🎼

@livya1085

5 ай бұрын

Some friendships last forever

Cutting off unhealthy friendships is definitely better than staying in and feeling miserable 😢

@trollzynisaacjohan1793

9 ай бұрын

sadly it is.

@artxxy

9 ай бұрын

Yess it tooked me a lot of time. Now i am suffering destroyed phase. 😢

@Melissa-818

8 ай бұрын

Jesus loves you and he died for you. The Love of God Love is sooo big. He can listen to your sorrow, to your doubt, to your depression, to your joy, to your anxiety... Literally everything ! He cares about you, start to care more about him. Read the Bible if you want to learn more ❤

@user-fg7sk2cd4r

8 ай бұрын

YES

@putinscat1208

7 ай бұрын

People are grumpier these days.

having no friends is so peaceful🍃

@glow1815

4 ай бұрын

💯 %

@Melanie-ix4nq

3 ай бұрын

I have to agree with you

@darkdaydreamer6308

3 ай бұрын

So true! 💯

@hopeisdope27

3 ай бұрын

Ya..absolutely

@enchantmentforests

2 ай бұрын

Solitude and quietness is so serene. I enjoy being an introvert. 💚

I’m kind of at the other end of this. I am in my 50s, no friends, never married, no children , no siblings and my elderly parents live 1500 miles away. When you get to this stage in life, you really do begin to figure things out. The first thing I realized is that humans are very transactional beings who put themselves above all else. And friendships are, at their core, mostly transactional. I’ve come to realize that I never really had friends. I have had acquaintances that expected something from me, whether it was my time, my car, my willingness to be accommodating, etc. I thought they were my friends but they just saw me as filling a certain need at a certain moment in time. I had come to learn that I was actually a subject of ridicule behind my back; this is a recurring theme throughout my life in every friend circle I partook in. Around 12 years ago, I finally came to grips and accepted the fact that I am inherently not likeable and that I will never have a genuine connection with another person. And that’s okay! Some people are built different and I am living proof of that. Having no friends has not stopped me in life. I have multiple homes. I have traveled around the world solo. I have had so many amazing experiences that I think I could have only done by myself. And I am at peace with the fact that I am not being used and I no longer have to put on airs and act differently around people. I am myself at all times and that kind of peace of mind is priceless. My only regret is that I wasted so much of my life trying to get people to like me.

@trannguyen8956

3 ай бұрын

i am glad that you feel happy ❤

@xdrazormon454

3 ай бұрын

Are you a misanthrope? That’s what I hate about people so much, to get genuine connection from people you have to be a charismatic person I hate making new acquaintances as much as small talk, it gets annoying after awhile when there’s no connection people are garbage, I would rather have pets then friends anyway especially with my autism. People don’t like me so therefore I hate them back

@hejiranyc

3 ай бұрын

@@xdrazormon454 Probably. I can fake charisma at times but it is EXHAUSTING. I have a high-level corporate job and I'm the head of two functions so I have to lead many meetings, manage people and interview job candidates. Before and after each meeting, I feel like killing myself. Some people talk about having to "code switch" at work. I have to "persona switch" and maintain this veneer of being neurotypical and "normal." To the world at large I have a dream life making good money, traveling to fancy meetings, traveling between homes and calling the shots. But nobody knows that I am barely able to pull myself together at 8:55 to do a 9:00 meeting (remotely, thank goodness). I'm living proof of faking it 'til you make it.

@mauricioramirez9744

3 ай бұрын

I dedicate to you the song "Greens and Blues" by the Pixies.

@anaml3879

3 ай бұрын

All of that is and was me. Except I am married with kids and still miss "friends" and family (all of them live 12hrs away, 16hrs away or the whole pacific ocean across) thanks for sharing and getting me closer to be ok to be with no friends. I just feel ungrateful to want more people when I have my husband and kids.

as someone who’s in a group, i’ve figured that it’s easier to be alone (literally) without being in a group because feeling lonely in a group of friends makes me feel worse than being alone with no friends.

@_EffyShen

10 ай бұрын

This is so true, when other people in the group talk a lot but you don't have much to say and when they have secrets that they can't discuss in your presence. These hurt more than being alone by yourself 💯

@jammydoughnuts

10 ай бұрын

This is why I spent so much time alone when I was at school. I started off in a small group, didn’t like a couple of them and felt lonely when they were all present. I realised I’d rather be alone than with people who I don’t like or who I don’t feel comfortable with.

@marrismendaros682

10 ай бұрын

I have no friends because I'm not much social and I don't know why I'm not comfortable with other Felos. I'm happy when alone

@melaninmel9213

10 ай бұрын

Group friendships are the absolute worse scenario to be in. Its better to have individual friends from different places

@AryelSolis

10 ай бұрын

This is my dilemma right now. Surrounded by lots of friends but also not feeling like I belong in that group.

“Don’t ever let having no friends stop you from living your best life” in love with this ❣️

@janooligan

9 ай бұрын

@asiababy-gn3dw I’m sorry to hear that :/ but life is so long we can figure it all out no matter if with someone or alone, in the end we’ll have the people we need next to us.

@hp2546

8 ай бұрын

@asiababy-gn3dw Got to understand that it isn't a friend's job to pay your bills or babysit you. Part of making friends means you have to learn how to become independent first. If they see that you are a mess, they won't even want to hang out with you. Look at this. Your only friend betrayed you. If you depend on friends now, all they will do is take advantage of you. You aren't gaining anything from having friends and if they barely know you, they aren't going to hold your hands through this. If you are homeless, the #1 rule of survival is not to depend on people you barely know. If you can't impress, you are not ready to gain a friend. It won't make your life better if they turned out to betray you and make you owe them something. Even if you found a friend, it does not mean you will magically get a job interview and pass an elevator pitch. If you are struggling to impress making new people, you won't even be ready to do job interviews. No matter where you choose whether it is job interview or making friends, you got to work on knowing how to take care of yourself. The minute you make friends or go to job interview with the mindset of not wanting to take care of yourself, you will automically be rejected.

@lynic-0091

7 ай бұрын

@asiababy-gn3dwI don't want to be rude at all, but thinking you NEED someone is wrong and unhealthy. All you need is yourself. You don't need any other shitty human around you to be strong and to build in your life. All you need is yourself. Period. Most people will let you down. But, if you choose to support yourself, be your own best friend, you will never let yourself down. Stay strong.

@nganle3819

7 ай бұрын

hihi, i read all these comments. Actually, i used to have many friends group, but after much loading jobs, i rarely go outside and hang out with my friends. Then nearly i feel behind them and lost in these friends groups. I want to ask how their life, but they dont ask me first. So i leave it as it is. Maybe we are not really good friends of each others. Recently, i focus on studying and working much. Only two friends i knew when we were in primary school, whom i am still keeping contacts with. Less friends, but high quality friendship. A group of old friends who told me that i was so strange with them since i talked to them so politely which they hate. I allowed myself to let it go, no need to change myself for adapting with others. All fine now. Even alone, dont forget to love yourself, please ✓ Nothing is wrong for putting yourself as first priority

@ruzaruza7813

4 ай бұрын

Exactly- I have done everything I have wanted to do in my life --

I always grew up believing that you HAD to have friends so I always made sure I was apart of some friend group or had a couple friends. I ended up giving so much of my time and energy to people who didn't respect me or who i realized at some point, i didn't even like. I realize now that if I would've been okay with being friendless I would've saved myself alot of pain. Lesson learned: being friendless is better than DESTROYING my peace with friendships that don't serve me. The right people will come in into my life if they're meant to be there, and if not, i'll still be happy alone. Awesome video!

"I have no friends, but I'm not alone in my financial journey. I'm investing in my future, one stock at a time. No distractions, no peer pressure, just me and my financial goals. Solo doesn't mean lonely; it means focused. And in the market, focus is key to success."

@AllisonSherman657

22 күн бұрын

I agree with you and I believe that the secret to financial stability is having the right investment ideas to enable you earn more money, I don’t know who agrees with me but either way I recommend either real estate or bitcoin and stocks.

@face2lune

22 күн бұрын

I invested 10k in Robin hood and 401k about a year ago and it steadily went down, now my portfolio is down to $800. I don't know what to do and i am in between jobs....

@rougeur

22 күн бұрын

@@face2lune Understanding your financial needs and making effective decisions is very essential. If I could advise you, you should seek the help of a financial advisor. For the record, working with one has been the best for my finances.

@face2lune

22 күн бұрын

@@rougeur I’m Glad i stumbled on this. Please, if its not too much of a hassle for you, can you drop the details of the CFP that assisted you and how to get in touch….

@rougeur

22 күн бұрын

@@face2lune I get guidance from *Susan Tori Davis* Most likely, the internet should have her basic info..

It's OK to have no friends but it's important to have someone supportive in your life. You should be able to live independently but being utterly lonely will make you unhappy in the long run, and can actually shorten your lifespan! Loneliness is normal and kinda endemic in the West for a variety of reasons, but that doesn't mean we should isolate ourselves.

@via.ilyouu

11 ай бұрын

yep! like i’ve said in the video, don’t close yourself off from people. being alone has its pros but be open to meeting new people when they come by :)

@marccolomayt82094

11 ай бұрын

I love your happiness and being my favorite vlogger friend so much @via.ilyouu ❤ I’ll give this a 10/10

@lisaru9764

11 ай бұрын

So poignant of you to point out the health consequences of feeling lonely!! Extended periods of isolation and loneliness can be as detrimental to human health as smoking 2 packs of cigarette a day!!! The positive relationships in our lives can truly make a seemingly worhless life of endless suffering feel worthwhile and give us the strength to continue on. Via, I'm so happy that you've come to peace with your relationship to others and with yourself but I also feel very sorry that you had to experience the path that you did to come to this level of self acceptance. It must have been very hard on you in the past, especially when you were a lot younger. I'm sorry you had to deal with it all alone.

@Lau1678

11 ай бұрын

That person is literaly God for me :) But i agree so much with you !!!! You’ re right 💯 (sorry for my english I am French).

@AndreiFantastic

10 ай бұрын

It’s true but some people just don’t have friends and can’t make them, what are they supposed to do? Force a friendship with people? Hold a gun to someone’s head and say you better be my friend or else 😂

When you're alone for so long, you become an overthinker ._. And without realizing you can't enjoy being part of a group fully because you'll always feel like an outsider

@via.ilyouu

11 ай бұрын

yes this! esp being an outsider as a kid, it’s hard to let that go as an adult :(

@bluedays-dg1jp

11 ай бұрын

I used to feel this way in my early 20s even childhood but I've learned to embrace whatever makes me feel different including interests and way of thunking. I never relate to most people's thought processes and don't feel like keeping up with trends but i just keep telling myself that i am just unique and there's nothing wrong with me. Now in my mid 20s and I don't feel that way anymore. I've fully accepted my fate and however i was goddamn built by the higher power or something lol What i did is to accept whatever's makes me different or uncomfortable about myself which takes tremendous amount of sht in my part. But it's all worth it 😂😂

@whitelilacplants

11 ай бұрын

@@via.ilyouu that's so true

@celineqoujaq2175

10 ай бұрын

Also u just feel like ur soooo bad or there is snt wrong with u and u just believe u can't even talk with people or do stuff cause u just can't

@sagisdoodleverse9696

10 ай бұрын

Ah that’s me

It’s better be alone than with bad company.

@joshuabuchanan1141

8 күн бұрын

Bad company seems to be pretty much everyone in public, unfortunately

"You realize how capable u r to do everything by yourself " this is exactly what i needed to hear

Im a high school student with no friends, it hurts to see my classmates having fun in groups and im the only one left out. I always feel alone and depressed. Knowing that im not alone makes me happier in life.

@hvrtrie

8 ай бұрын

me too. im a junior and i regret being such an awkward person and not building close friends through my first two years of hs. im always getting left out and not really close to anyone. its the worst feeling

@Winter3590

8 ай бұрын

@@hvrtrie i'm also a junior too ! rn i'm learning how to be alr with being alone again & also building my confidence back up after being down for a while. ( Back story ) my bf is a senior and he's the only person i'm the closest to.The school we currently go to we both came there last yr & met each other the same yr we were both new. Now i did meet some ppl but they all ended up not be real ppl etc, but the thing is my bf is the one who is more outgoing so he knows more ppl etc which made me feel lonely ( and also bcs when i tried being outgoing it didn't work out which made me depressed for half of this whole month, but i was viewing it in the wrong way. So now i'm really working on bettering my self etc for my future self and ik true ppl will come into my life eventually just how my bf did. The main thing to focus on is really not giving up on yourself

@jahanaviranjan202

8 ай бұрын

I get you, I’m a sophomore and I hang out with this group of people but they really are not my friends, they all are close with each other but somehow I’m always left in the corner. What hurts even more is when you see the new kid manage to find a friend group almost immediately or super quick, make you feel that there is something wrong with you and that people are constantly judging you, thinking you weird, awkward, etc. It makes me feel better to know that other people feel the same…

@saraahriviera

8 ай бұрын

Sending you love! You’re not alone ❤

@hvrtrie

8 ай бұрын

@@Winter3590 thank you so much for this :)) i’m so glad to hear that things are better for you!

alone > bad friendship Good friendship > alone

I’m 20 but I have no real frnds to talk about to share my feelings , to chill out with . When I see others hanging out with their frnds , creating memories and having fun it’s hurt that why I am all alone . But I am living this like for 3 years now thanks to Covid . But living like this I have learnt a lot about real relationships and frndships and lot about myself .

@HawaHashia

4 ай бұрын

Same also 20 and I feel you really

@TheCentennial4

26 күн бұрын

Bro don't worry about it. Your same friends could have been strangers you drove past on the freeway and see for 0.01 second before they are gone for good. Same saying for them. They only lucked out due to proximity meeting their friends.

@ourpreciousyoongi

7 күн бұрын

same

@Samzo2002

Күн бұрын

I’m 21, I feel for you. I’ve reached a point in my life where I just gave up. I’ve accepted my fate that I would be alone for the rest of my life. Till that day I will just try my best to chase my goals, look after my mother.

Getting older made me realize it’s okay to just be by myself. Thank you for this , I thought there’s something wrong when I’m by myself.

Having no friends is okay because you learn to love your alone time, but it’s still important to have a strong support system. I’ve always been introverted and reserved, so I would spend a lot of my time by myself, but having a few close friends has really aided in my love of being alone.

@leka1011slay

11 ай бұрын

exactly. ❤

@vanifarron

10 ай бұрын

Where does one find dependable people lol

@ongakira

10 ай бұрын

i literally do nothing when i’m alone but let my negative thoughts consume me and my being until i can’t take anymore of it ak go to sleep

@ellentrost-rekich1389

10 ай бұрын

⁠@@ongakiralife is hard, it’s so hard to be positive most of the time… I hope you find peace and positivity😢

@Aifaharaza

10 ай бұрын

so so so true

“Am i worthy of having friends” that one hit me. I’ve always struggled making friends and everytime I did make a friend I find myself subconsciously trying to prove to them why I’m deserving of being their friend. And it sucks when ppl reaffirm that belief I have by getting surprised everytime I mention “a friend” as if it’s so shocking that I would have one, which is rlly wierd lol. It’s so ridiculous because literally every decent person on earth is worthy of having friends, no matter how socially awkward or introverted someone may be

@KurosakiRuka

9 ай бұрын

Same here, but i am also the person who gets surprised when they mention they have other friends, but not because i dont think they cant make friends, but because i get jealous and scared of being abandoned.(Maybe this could apply to some of your friends too)

@hp2546

8 ай бұрын

Once you are in a situation where you feel you need to prove yourself, then don't hang out with them. You will only live a lie pretending to have friends. Don't sell yourself way too high because you don't want to end up lying about what value you have. Like for example, you don't want to end up going into I show you and then messing up with a skill you don't even have. If you hang out with someone who is popular, that is what will make you feel intimated and then that will make your mind think everybody is worthy of friends. If you start with someone who is not popular and does not hang out, then you won't be claiming every person you interact with are worthy of friends. The reason why they were worthy is because they were not desperate. The reason why they were worthy is because they believe in themselves. If you make friends, you got to give a vibe that you also want to be independent. If you give a vibe that you depend on them to pull you out of solitude life, this is when you remind yourself it isn't their job to hold your hands, pay your bills, and babysitting you.

@Krolted

6 ай бұрын

Let’s be friends I don’t want to be alone and meet new people too but it’s a struggle

I’m at a point where if you want to be in my life, cool. If you don’t want to be in my life, cool. People come and go like leaves on a tree. At the end of the day, all I have and all I’ll ever have is me. As long as I have God, my health, and my family, I’ll manage and figure out the rest. No matter what burdens or hassles come my way, I always bounce back. I know I’m a great man and a great person. So if someone doesn’t wanna be in my life, that’s their loss and their issue. They’re missing out, not me.

That line "don't ever let having no friends stop you from living your best life" ❤ this made me realize that crying about having no friends, continously blaming yourself for having no friends is useless instead focus on your goals, focus on being a better version of yourself, do what you love, being alone doesn't mean to be insecure about yourself, its completely okay remember you are alone not lonely ❤

"You have yourself and that is more than enough." That was a very powerful line. Thank you.

It's really ok to have no friends or have friends. Just live your life as it is, things will change, people come and go, some remain, some left. So its really ok to be at where you are at this moment.

@bryanamarin

9 ай бұрын

This is exactly what I’ve been thinking lately.

@stasiacat.

8 ай бұрын

thank you so much for this, i've been in a really dark place and am an introvert so I have no friends, but i'm realising that its ok.

@naturalnia432

8 ай бұрын

This is the best mindset ❤

@Plavokosi_Marko98

3 ай бұрын

I am struggling a lot to make friends, I was treated so badly in the past that I have little confidence. I don't have anyone in life, only acquaintances. 😢

@FireWork-nc8ib

2 ай бұрын

Yes , but there is thing we call NORM ...and it's very hard to avoid or ignore , cuz you pay . Having friend , even bad and fake ones it easier than not having them . When you don't fit in , and you don't have friends you're out of the NORMS ..and it's hard to deal with .. Yes it's ok in itself , but it's too heavy . Sorry for my bad English .

As someone who has always had lots of friends up until college, having a lot of friends is an illusion. I never had trouble making friends until I got into my 30s then realized how ANNOYING most people are lol. Now I’ll go eat out by myself, watch a movie, shop, etc etc. In fact, I prefer it because sometimes I want a break - from work, responsibilities, PEOPLE. That being said, if you make ONE good friend in your lifetime, you’re set. I firmly believe that. Whether it’s a best friend or a significant other, just look out for one good friend and that’s really all you’ll need. When you see these mass friend groups and people having fun, just remember that at least half of that group isn’t as close as you think they are. If you simply want people to hang out with or do stuff with, you can find hobby groups and subreddits and make friends easily. That’s what I do for gaming. But none of my online gaming friendships are substantial. We just play games. I don’t consider them real friends and that’s absolutely okay. In fact, that’s honest. My point is, don’t stress yourself out on feeling lonely unless it makes you depressed and unhappy. But if you actually enjoy your alone time or being able to do your own hobbies at your own time, don’t feel like you need to make friends just because that’s what society tells you is the norm. We live in an internet age, something I didn’t have growing up so people were sorta forced to interact. But not every physical interaction was a genuine friendship. Lots of fake friends along the way. I literally went through hundreds of “friendships” just to only have 1 or 2 real friends in the end. Now you can meet or talk to people online through social media if you want to just talk to people. But don’t be too fixated on forming some bff like you see in school. Just being able to engage even in youtube comments, can be enough to fulfill your social quota. I will choose evenings with my dog and bf anyday over having to deal with fake friends.

@purplebunny7220

Ай бұрын

Wow. What a comment. I agree!

@Sara-kc6md

Ай бұрын

HUNDREDS of friendships? What????? Never heard anyone say that before.

recently I've lost my friendgroup but instead of crying over it I've been just feeling like any other normal day, it didn't phase me at all and I realised being alone feels so much better than wasting all your energy 24/7 doing non-sense. There were other amazing people that embraced me when this happened but I must say losing them made me feel much better. I actually pay attention to myself and try to things independently

@lsmmhy

Ай бұрын

I've lost my friendgroup two weeks ago, i didn't expected that, so i felt myself bad and sad, like a loser. I only had one online friend supporting me and no one at school, I went to school all this time alone, it affects my life so much. I strive for your actions and hope that I can spend time without friends

@iamyourchaerie

Ай бұрын

@@lsmmhy I can imagine your frustration :( try to think it in a positive way. Honestly I realised that being alone you will give off a more mature aura, you might think it’s embarrassing or loser type but actually it’s not that bad. We tend to overthink a lot without realising and that’s the main reason why we feel this way. I am glad you had someone by yourself side throughout this situation and I hope it gets better. Try to find new hobbies or expand your creativity, trust me I’ll help you ease yourself off negativity

I was kinda getting sad realising how I’m losing all my friends and growing apart from them. I do love them it’s just that we no longer vibe like how we used to. I’m in my healing journey so grateful for everything, but just sometimes loneliness creeps in. Thankyou for this video. This is such a nice reminder that it’s okay to be alone ❤

@maigemini1996

11 ай бұрын

I want to say that I’m in the same situation as you. Though I do not cut them off completely, I just couldn’t bring myself to be close to them as I used to be. And I have always struggled with making new friends. So it has come to the point where there were nights that I cried so much just bc I felt that I have no friends now. I’m all by myself now. So Via’s video just came at the right time to remind myself that it’s gonna be Ok. I’m growing and healing.

@shireenmakda4442

11 ай бұрын

Same here ! Its crazy how lonely we all feel yet theres a comment section full of people going thru similar things, my friends all started college without me and my abandonment issues became so bad, now ive decided to go to a college this year completely alone just to work on myself and choose my own friends for once yk? Loneliness is one of the most depressing feelings in the world but i seriously need to learn that even if i only get a one or two friends that is completely fine. I need to be okay with being alone and not feel constant shame ab it

@hearteu5260

10 ай бұрын

It's part of the journey my friend, embrace it and don't force it. Maybe it's time to meet new people. Focus on yourself and try new things.

@limsiewyew6164

8 ай бұрын

But you are not alone in this situation. Grateful gor this video. Help me a bit to heal.

I was crying. I'm also the type of person who can't keep friends since I'm a complicated one to deal with but this video of yours really uplifted my thoughts that it's okay to have no friends. Thanks!

@bumblebee_mrs

6 ай бұрын

I find it hard to see the positives when I'm struggling so much.

@riphugo

4 ай бұрын

same girl

@catscoffeemusic

4 ай бұрын

I'm with you

@catscoffeemusic

4 ай бұрын

hope you are doing well@@riphugo

@patdo4452

4 ай бұрын

Being labeled as complicated is subjective. I've been called too much by some due to my realness and directness. Others love me instantly. Hope you'll find like-minded people ❤.

I used to be ashamed of having no friends but now that I’m here I’m trying to learn to be alone with myself and not take it too hard on myself, thank you.

I am 17 years old. . . I have been on my own with no friends and losing friends since I was in elementary school. I have been a victim of bullying at a young age.. even now in high school being a junior I am on my own I always feel like it is me because I never got taught how to be socially confident, I'm really self conscious and I get insecure about my shyness so I tend to over think about how the person thinks of me, so I end up being quiet which drives them away. . This video is a really good reminder to tell me that "Hey, you have no friends and that is ok not everyone HAS to have friends 24/7 as long as you love yourself and you can achieve YOUR dreams you will be happy" Thank you Via Li I am a new subscriber :)

I needed to hear this! I am 40 and I really don’t think I have genuine friends. I have started to do things by myself and man the world has opened up to me!

@dodododo995

10 ай бұрын

I spend many years with no friends ,Its ok ,,people are like a trip,they come to your life for a while and left maybe in years or months,some of them we are thankful-for them ,,no one who will be with us rest of our life , Sorry if my English is bad :)

@omilet6658

10 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing your story. I'm still growing up as a 16 year old and I wanted to know that I'm not alone in this experience.

@Simplynetta

10 ай бұрын

@@omilet6658 I have a 19 year old son and he is the life of the party bur very much a loner. You get to know who you really are when you spend time with yourself. Don’t worry about being alone. The people that are supposed to be in your life will be their. And if you have people in your life that leave you will be just fine because you have experience and enjoyed the stressful life without others. Hopefully this makes since. Don’t think about being alone as a bad thing think of it as a time in your life for development and to fall in love with yourself!! 🥰🥰

@twinklevangie7604

9 ай бұрын

I find that I spend some time building support community but after two years they are gone. Felt like it's wasting time. So I am back to my loneranger self. 😂

@deltahomicide9300

9 ай бұрын

I bet your place is awesome. People who thrive in solitude always have incredibly inviting things around the house. But it's not for anyone else but us 😀

just to be clear, like i said in the video, i am not saying “don’t make friends!” what i’m saying is to embrace being alone and find yourself. however friends are a beautiful thing. your people will come trust me. i truly do believe having a few friends is way better than having A LOT of friends lol. anyways love u all 🩷🩷🩷 edit: guys, i’m very grateful to have good friends like I mentioned in the video. i keep getting comments stating “i thought you had friends?” i do, which is why i quoted “i have no friends” to apply to those who don’t or just simply feels lonely.

@lilim.orgado

11 ай бұрын

it's good to see u talking about it via, i used to be dependent and when i realized i should be able to find peace in being alone+enjoying myself i grew up/learned soo much and also that made me better person for those i love.

@GroovyCosMec

11 ай бұрын

Honestly, I grew up the same way Via. There were points in my life I didn't genuinely have friends, and it did hurt a lot. Specifically, there were moments where I felt okay and rejoice in being alone, but then there were moments were I felt lonely and I always kept shaming myself about it. I just felt like it was on and off with them. Nonetheless, I was able to find my group of peeps who I'm proud to say I have in my life (although, I have been ghosting them via my stress mechanism....I will get back to talking to them soon 😅, but the way they support me is comforting, but weird admittedly for sure).

@annawmccauley

11 ай бұрын

I understand entirely every inch of what you are saying. What was said in this video was NOT insinuating that it is better to have no friends. I can you not; my jaw dropped to the floor when I saw you post this video because it is SO prevalent to what I am going through now. My time of loneliness and isolation is only out of depression from "friendship breakups," but I am slowly coming out of it little by little. No, this video is not insinuating that everyone should just cut off people from their life, but it is speaking to those coming out of friendships that made you feel more lonely than when you're alone. My time of loneliness is not because I am a loner, hermit, or whatever people want to say. My time of loneliness, as you said, is to better myself, find who I am, find nurturing and healthy friendships, which is what I desire, and enjoy my solo adventures. I so appreciate you making this video. I am not lonely now because I am unworthy of friends. I am in a time of solitude to build myself up and to find happiness where good friends will come. Thank you! xx P.S. Yes, if you have family, significant other, therapist, etc., that is in your life to be a support system, that is great, but NOT EVERYONE HAS THAT. This video is about not making yourself feel unworthy, as society puts it, when you go through a time of loneliness. You have so much worth; I have so much worth, regardless of who is around you. People don't give you your value. Let's be in a time of quality, wellness, and prosperity in passions together!

@GroovyCosMec

11 ай бұрын

@@annawmccauley Well said 😊

@lennertvermeir7498

11 ай бұрын

So basically to have no friends is fine, to have friends is also fine :)

You're such a savior! I had this one friend who was really popular at school and everyone loved them, but the more friends they had the more I loathed them. I hated them so much even though they were my closest friend because I was so envious that they had what I didn't. I'm really a bad person and friend, but after watching your video, I realised that it wasn't worth it. I still regret breaking my friendship with them and all the bad things I did to them still haunt me every day. Your video made me realise that I can be the problem because, in fact, I kept blaming them for nothing when I betrayed them. I apologised to them and now I'm trying to be the better version of myself. Having no friends makes me happier, and I'm glad that someone reminded me. Thanks for everything

The worst part is back when I had the best friends I could ever ask for and it was the best time of my life and I just can't get past it, I've been depressed af ever since we've lost touch, now I got no one

i'm 26 year old and always felt so bad about myself for not finding friends in college but you make me feel so much better, thank you for making this video i needed to hear this

@Izzy-gh1yj

6 ай бұрын

@@harshy4nope as a 26 year old please find people your age and enjoy you childhood!

@Lica13684

5 ай бұрын

@@Izzy-gh1yjIs it ok to be friends with people over the age 18 and I’m a minor?✨

@verasambience

5 ай бұрын

omg same :/ i always feel so bad about it as well.

@Shytan101

5 ай бұрын

hey😢 same here

@lilskronklbloop

5 ай бұрын

@@Lica13684 fellow minor here, I dont wanna be a buzzkill but you can get taken advantage of ive seen my fair share of horrors including an 18 yr old who was a tad creepy

I have no friends and a huge part of that is because I closed myself off from the ones who were in the past. The last time I talked to a friend was over a year ago. Depression made me stay in my room constantly. I’m dealing with identity issues, grief, feeling behind other peers, social anxiety and more, all alone. It sucks but I’m trying hard to get through that part of my life. I want to be a better person in the end. I’m not giving up and I’m learning that having no friends is okay. And that there is a possibility of finding new friends in the future too

@mrcool1519

11 ай бұрын

People are trash. Who cares.

@blink_hj6303

10 ай бұрын

I have been there, I still don't have close friends but there are some with whom I am on friendly terms kinda. It might feel difficult and very dark right now but soon this dark moment will pass away. You will meet some good people later and will soon learn to be happy whether with others or by yourself. You already having a positive thinking about this will help in your healing too. You are already good as even trying to be good is good and I am sure you will become better! Let's never give up!

@DouglasRoy-rv9rh

10 ай бұрын

I too has no friends, so i am thinking of building a society if he/she thinks alone anxious or even depressed can say hii , trust me I will never hurt anybody

@iaprawitasari3028

10 ай бұрын

Hope you Will find your true friend someday✨

@Blazeyy

10 ай бұрын

I am in a slightly similar situation. I use to have “friends” in the past, but they cut me off from the group. For me, middle school is where I build the closest friendships with people and felt the most happiness, so I was attached to those middle school friends, long after middle school. In high school, I made friends but I was never really myself with them and we didn’t bond the way I did with my middle school friends. So I would talk to my middle school friends throughout high school and college but my middle school best friend would cut me off completely on August 2021 after leading me on that he wants to rekindle our friendship by meeting in-person. I always knew they were fake and disingenuous people but I let the good memories and attachment I had to them cloud my judgment and let them mistreat me for years until they decided to cut me off from the group. It took a while but I got over it and tried to reconnect with my high school friend group. Things went okay and certain people was mature compared to high school which was great but I can sense there was jealously towards me because I ended up in a better position in life than they did even though we had the same opportunity and I sacrificed hanging out to study while they partied and skipped classes. So I have no friends. I struggled with loneliness and social anxiety for the longest time, but thank goodness I am learning to make myself a better person and just enjoy my life the best I can. I accepted having no friends is okay and I just praying whoever and wherever the right people, the right genuine friend group is for me finds me soon, i don’t reject them or do anything stupid to make them leave and we can enjoy each other’s company.

i dropped all my irl friends before 2024 started purely because of feeling negative things about and around them. it is lonely, but this video is also accepting for me.

@ayra5964

5 ай бұрын

Hey your not alone in this i just unfriended my uni friends and im alone all the time sometimes its good but some othet times its very challenging

@bbmn2l

5 ай бұрын

@@ayra5964 oh thank u, it is reassuring to know other ppl feel similar things. hope ur doing well with uni and everything 🤎

i have finally come to the realization that alot of my friendships have failed bc of my own behavior and the mindset that i had while in them. going into friendships already being insecure and always viewing myself as an outsider by never being comfortable with myself has really taken a toll on me. its so hard to not grasp onto the idea of wanting relationships and all these experiences when i cant even value my own self. but i also need to learn that it's okay to not have your lifelong friends at 18 in college even though it seems like everyone else has that. to anyone else who feels like they are incapable of forming/deserving of friends, just know that you are and it might take years of work to unlearn things thought at a young age, but just know that you are not alone in this and everything will work out in the end.❤

I become my most productive, most successful, most focused self when I am alone. Friends usually distract me from my goals (maybe I have balance problems but at the end of the day I know how I function and friends are not my priority) or they bring their own problems Yes I had friends in some phases of my life, but I didn’t keep them and always ended up alone. I don’t think it’s a bad thing. If they meant to stay they would simply stay. We don’t have to do everything like others do in life Also, when I am alone in my space I never feel bad about not having friends, I am usually happy, enjoying my own company. Reading, watching KZread, listening my playlists, working out, spending time on social media, or just simply existing… I never think about friends. I only feel ashamed when I am around other people with friends, that’s when I question myself. So I feel like it is not a real issue if when I am alone with myself in my own head and never realize it

@dilaralove6084

7 ай бұрын

@user-lw5xo9kr3w so glad 🩷🩷🩷

@user-ib3ub2nr7j

7 ай бұрын

The “I only feel ashamed when I am around other people with friends” part is so true🥺 When I’m in my own company, I just be myself not overthinking things. But whenever people are around, I couldn’t help but to feel ashamed and less than them…it’s a bad thing I know, but I really enjoy my time alone because I didn’t compare myself

@MiaRegazza-hb3vp

6 ай бұрын

Spot on! Also I have noticed most people open to make friends will bring their own dramas/conflicts/problems to the friendship which it's a disadvantage to me as I have my life well organized and balanced. Since we're social creatures that's a primitive behavior but I'd rather to stick to acquaintances :)

@indigoGoddess7

6 ай бұрын

I’m with you!! ✨✨✨I’m a great conversationalist and I communicate well, but as I got older. I noticed that people would get jealous because of the attention that I would get and they would try to embarrass me and or make comments about subjects they didn’t understand. I prefer my own company and it’s better for me.

@MiaRegazza-hb3vp

5 ай бұрын

@@indigoGoddess7 Indirecting they are acknowledging that you are more intelligent, have more resources and success in life than them. Usually I just respond being ironic. They don't realize that the more they try to embarrass you the more you will feel superior against them.

For me this yearning for companionship was at its worst in high school. I'd go to school and sit for 6 hours alone never saying a word while everyone else was laughing smiling and talking, it really made me feel isolated and depressed me to no end. I'm glad those days are just a faint memory now. Your enviornment can really exasperate social problems like this imo

@caroline-gx5cs

5 ай бұрын

Yep. After leaving high school, I feel way less lonely and overall happier at college. I was really tired of the same static environment I think

@passionforMed4

2 ай бұрын

@@caroline-gx5cs damn Its my last year of high school and I think once I graduate I will be the happiest person ever, coz dealing with ppl who don t give a fuck about u really really sucks. I don t wanna see any of their face I am done with this shit. Just a year to go

@serena2578

Ай бұрын

@@passionforMed4you sound just like me when I was in highschool 😭 keep going and stay strong ❤

@dekxu6673

28 күн бұрын

i also thought and still think like this sometimes. I've been that kinda person in the past that would laugh and chat with their friends, and from experience, you're only seeing the good parts of their friendship and/or exaggerating what's really happening. Do you know how many relationships are melodramatic during high school? too many, I'll tell you that. You truly aren't missing out on much lol.

I truly love your raw honesty. Yeah, rather be lonely alone than to be lonelier in a group. It’s faster to snap out of the loneliness while being alone as you have the freedom to find activities to beat it…like finding new solo hobbies and learn things on your own.

As a kid and even nowadays, I never felt the need to have many friends. But at the same time I've always heard people saying that if you're alone, it's because you deserve to be alone, so that always made me wonder if there's something wrong with me, feeling like you have people around you, but not actual friends is really exausting

Being in my early twenties and balancing between completing my master's degree and looking for a job I enjoy doing, I have realized that people will come and go in my life with time and it's gonna be only ME who gets to make my life enjoyable. It's more like I am losing friends while I'm finding out many new things about myself, exactly the breakthrough that Via talks about. Yes, sometimes it's so dark but mostly it's experimenting with so many aspects of life and finding things that make you stand out of the crowd. Thanks, Via for the amazing update :)

@duaneowens7777

11 ай бұрын

Great point. What is your career

"No one really cares." Is something I've internalized recently. You can interpret it as being pessimistic and in the negative connotation of being "alone," but I feel like it can also provide great relief to know that this is your life and your life only, and that you should just do what makes you happy and feel like you're your best self

@Laura-fh3sc

5 ай бұрын

Such a beautiful thought

@BDogs10

5 ай бұрын

‘no one really cares’ is a mind blower but it’s ultimately true. Ppl are too concerned with their own situation (myself included)

@ganniganniv

2 ай бұрын

but some people really cares, u just have to be comfortable w that

@edsanville

2 ай бұрын

This is called the "Spotlight Effect," and it's a beautiful realization to have.

@MaaKaushliya

Ай бұрын

You gave me a better Insight of something I never expected I would an I am very grateful for your wisdom Thank you❤

So called friends can really let you down

You are so right girl to not let others live your best life 😭 thank you ❤🙏

I lost my husband . .. it was just me and him. That paralyzed me though and now I've become the immovable object. I know I need to get up and do things alone. . . but the grief is so unbearable. Thank you for your post. . . really it will help to push me again. Thank you Via Li!!

@CatieOcmand

7 ай бұрын

I believe in you. ❤

@zodiac6669

7 ай бұрын

Hey just letting you know , it will be okay , I know it might not seem like it now , but eventually it'll be okay ❤

@raymondalcantar1638

7 ай бұрын

Praying for you and your peace! God is there for you!

@NilasJunkyard

7 ай бұрын

I am so sorry. I really am. I don't know who you are or what your name is, but I'll think about you and I hope you'll be okay.

@gaby5546

6 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry. Sending you lots of love, strength and hugs.

After a close friend turned against me and also all the awful experiences I’ve had in the past with people, I don’t care about losing friends anymore. I have to protect my peace and my own happiness.

Honestly, this video was quite relatable. I’ve also struggled to hold on to my friendships because of the struggle to fit in. However, knowing there’s people out there like me, struggling with so much more, I don’t feel lonely. I feel happy knowing there’s someone to share the pain with ;)

My heart is so happy watching this video because it resonates within me. I'm currently healing myself from all the trauma that I've gone through and while I'm on the process of healing, I've lost so many people in my life including friends. The only people who stayed are the ones I'm going to keep forever because they've seen the best and especially the worst in me. Growing and bettering myself is so hard because it would also mean cutting off "friendship" along the way. Thank you for this video!

In the past, I used to feel a sense of loneliness when witnessing others forming close-knit friend groups, particularly all-girl groups. The pressure to have friends led me to make some wrong choices in selecting companions. However, I have now reached a point where I find great comfort in my own company. My mother often refers to me as "antisocial," but in reality, I am intentionally dedicating time to focus on self-improvement and safeguarding my energy.

@mrssomeone2143

9 ай бұрын

We are selective

@queenaddy447

9 ай бұрын

yesss me too✨✨

@clusterbungle

7 ай бұрын

Same. I'm at the point where I'm genuinely content with my own company, but it does hurt when my mum brags to anyone who will listen that my older brothers (both well into their 30s) are still close with all their high school friends. Like yay for them but it always feels like she's saying I'm a failure for not being like them :/

You are your best friend. Who could love you more? Most people cannot be with themselves. You have a superpower.

Omg! I didn’t realize there were so many people like me😢 it’s so refreshing to see others opening up about not having friends. I have only had acquaintances but never a bestie or deep friendships. I’m 34 😂 I know my issue is pushing people away because I don’t feel good enough to be others friend and I lack the consistency to maintain relationships. I’m an avoidant . I want to change this about myself but being alone is so seductive I have to push myself to want to be around other people and tell myself it will be better than being alone. Thank you for sharing your story via❤

"friendships can also make you feel lonely" YUPPP

i also ended a friendship recently because of the efforts that I put in is so much higher than hers and i was getting tired of it. like you i also started making hobby; went to the gym, started cooking. like you said I realised I actually just follow all what her wants and needs but not mine and she wasnt doing the same. this video is so relatable. thank you so much.

@AUGHHHHHBBG

10 ай бұрын

I feel like one of my best friend's are like not answering text hardly or talking to me anymore but idk what to do. I don't even really consider her my best friend anymore

@bunnyearchic

9 ай бұрын

@@AUGHHHHHBBGIf you haven’t already I would talk to her about it before making a decision. You said you feel like she isn’t rly ur best friend anymore, that partially answers ur question. But I would still communicate to her🫶🏽

@diediedice

8 ай бұрын

​@@AUGHHHHHBBGI was there... it had been going on for years and really sucked. You need to understand that they're also just a person and have their own life, but if they're ignoring you for a long time and not even seek conversation then they're a bad friend. I'd try talking to her about it and if she doesn't care/understand let her go. Either are going to be hard but you'll feel sooo much better after a while :) Good luck

@evelinherascheluca7197

8 ай бұрын

same, I would be reaching out to her but she would not answer me back until a few days later, bc she has a bf and only message’s me about her problems. To be honest I was mad and hurt bc we both known each other since 2nd grade. Rn I am doing things alone and I can say I am still learning about myself and feeling more comfortable and confident 👍 love yourself 💜

@dustywisteria8641

8 ай бұрын

I feel like I'm losing my best friend in college. She used to look out for me, always wanted to hang out,talk and always reserved the seat next to her for me. But nowadays I can see that she wants to have new friends and join to new groups, while ignoring me. She doesn't talk to me much anymore and when she does usually it's about her boyfriend. Apart from being "best" idk if we're even friends anymore and seeing her running for different girls on recess, not even looking back hurts so much. I feel like a disposable friend that she used until she met new ones. We've been so close for five years and this is our 6th. Our school numbers are back to back so I'm going to see her every day, every class, every exam until the day we graduate so I'm worried if I cut relationship it's gonna be awkward for the rest 3 years. If anyone read until here, what do you recommend? I'm too emotional to think clearly

I also have no friends, and I used to hate this fact. Making friends is easy but i couldn’t be someone's best friend. Now I can distinguish loneliness from solitude. I decided to take good care of myself rather than using my energy outside. I enjoy solitude, but I don't feel lonely. I'm happy to meet you in the process of moving forward❤️‍🔥

@ghkkkk7988

11 ай бұрын

I agree with this I also think that I can't be someone else's best friend because I created my own kinda space yeah this is how I'm feeling

@wendyjung4616

10 ай бұрын

In my case, it seems like everyone has already their own circle of friends and it's hard to be part of an existing circle of people because it feels like I'm out of place

@scarletblossom

10 ай бұрын

Same! I missed some sort of crucial moment where everyone found a friend group and ended up drifting between the outskirts of different groups

@Blazeyy

10 ай бұрын

⁠​⁠@@wendyjung4616I relate to this too! Trying to be apart of a existing circle feels so weird and it’s hard to me to fit in. It’s funny cause whenever other people had tried to find into my existing circle with my former friends, they got along better with my former friends than me and it was like I was the new kid.

Really needed this today. That feeling of loneliness can be all consuming sometimes. And know that you have friends, they are here in these comments, watching your videos, being helped by your guidance and words of wisdom. you are not alone. we love you.

You’re really make me feel that it’s a very okay to have no friend at all, sometimes it lonely, but it doesn’t mean that I cannot live my life alone❤❤

I’m 35 and recently lost chose to walk away from my “core group” of friends. Sadly I came to realization they may not be my people and that’s okay. I also lost 2 of my best friends as we mutually parted ways. I think just being in different stages in life. It’s okay to be alone and enjoy your own company if that’s what feels right at the moment. I believe the right people will show up naturally if they’re meant to be in your life ❤

@elliepascua2341

8 ай бұрын

♥️♥️

@justdieuit

7 ай бұрын

❤

@carmagurl317

7 ай бұрын

Same here....(36) and it is the most painful thing I've ever been through. I also had to quit my job and question when/how I will meet new ones if not through work. Lot of unknowns in the air, best of luck to you !

@Exen88

7 ай бұрын

I concur.

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

6 ай бұрын

I did the same in my 30s.

I literally have zero, not one. Let's all be friends. Loneliness seems to be getting more prevalent but no one is connecting 😢

@bubbles6299

10 ай бұрын

😭😭😭

@ericarodriguez3356

9 ай бұрын

Agree 😕

@illyrian3057

9 ай бұрын

Can we be friends

@Elizabeth-fw4rm

9 ай бұрын

Literally me

@gillianr7222

9 ай бұрын

Same. I make them, I think we're on the same page, and then they move on. At this point there's no one close to me anymore.

Glad to hear this video. People that I grew up with got me to think if you're alone that there is something terribly wrong with you.

I think it is just hard to find people you truly hit it off with today in society.

There’s a difference between being alone and being lonely never forget it ladies ❤

"trust me, you'll find good people along the way, but as of now better yourself and do what makes you happy" - these words are truly amazing, just what I needed to hear. thank you❤

This video really helped me. Thank you. I've gone through a lot of transitions in this last year, and have finally made it out the other side but finding myself by myself in this new phase of life. It's okay to be alone and to focus on yourself. Friends come and go, but you always have yourself and the life you choose to create. Thank you.

Thank you for this amazing content! A reminder to embrace every season, whether it's a time of growth, change, or uncertainty. if you ever feel like you're wandering alone, know that your tribe is out there, waiting to embrace you with open arms. Stay true to yourself, keep shining bright, and trust that you'll find your community when the time is right.

I literally don’t have any friends and i feel this was written in the stars for me. I grew up popular and “pretty” but I drifted away from them into myself because I attract a lot of fake and envious people who just want to hurt me. I have become my best friend and I love myself so much. On the outside it looks lonely but on the inside it’s so amazing and freeing and time no longer exists.

@justagirl0019

9 ай бұрын

That's kinda what i'm going through right now. Im very used to being in a big group but they've all been so fake recently and its really scary

@lamaridechambao2105

9 ай бұрын

I'm on the same boat

@juliegrom

8 ай бұрын

i'm literally going through that phase as well! I was an extrovert from a "cool gurls" group, but they all turned out to be my fake friends. Felt like they were just using me. I've been kicked out of 3 groups in three months😢It's just so hurtful and really sad. Everytime my teacher asks to find a group, they all stare at me weirdly and I'm always the left out one

@lamaridechambao2105

8 ай бұрын

@@juliegrom that's f up

@juliegrom

8 ай бұрын

@@lamaridechambao2105 seriously. yes. i mean now i love being alone so doesn't really matter tho. They're getting scolded from every teacher for being loud and swearing to teachers. Now I feel very glad to break friendships with them lmao.

I can relate to that sentiment. From the end of high school until my mid-30s, I've learned to accept this aspect of my life. Due to our frequent relocations, maintaining long-term friendships has proven to be quite challenging. I've always harbored the wish to have a close-knit group of female friends with whom I could chat, share snacks, shed tears during movies, and simply journey through life together. Unfortunately, this dream has yet to materialize for me. As I've grown older, forging female friendships has become even more elusive. It's not that I'm closed off to people, but when it comes to forming bonds with other women, luck has not been on my side. Really appreciate the honesty and openness

thank you so much for your videos :) i started watching your videos a while ago cuz i felt so ashamed for not being abe to socialize, cuz im too awkward. Today was my first day at class for my last year of highschool, in a new course with no friends, and no one talked to me. I felt so anxious about this and it actually happened, no one talked to me. I was feeling so down because i feel like maybe i wont make friends with these people and probably be alone until the end of the year...so i was searching videos to motivate myself or "how to make friends" "how to be likeable" and i found this video...and now i see its okay to be by myself, im doing my best, i will make friends in other places, i will feel comfortable somewhere else and even if i dont make friends this year someday i will. Lately ive been going out on walks by myself, listening to music or going for coffee, and its actually pretty nice :D thanks

from the bottom of my heart, thank you for letting the world know through this video T-T everyone needs to hear this

THANK YOU for always being so open and honest with yourself and your experiences!! especially as a young woman in her 20s its so great to see other young women in their 20s going through similar or relatable experiences. love your videos!! 💖

I have “friends” at work but I constantly feel like they’re judging me and secretly dislike me. Really hurts because I’ve been alone for awhile and thought I was finally making genuine friendships.

@indigoGoddess7

6 ай бұрын

Those aren’t friends. They’re colleagues.

@papina54

6 ай бұрын

Exactly. Friends and work can't collide. If It Is meant to be, you will keep in touch outside the business, otherwise we are still a billion or more peeps on earth, go on.

@hufflepuffkiwi804

5 ай бұрын

Of course colleagues can be friends. Not every nice colleague is your friend automatically, but you technically can make genuine friends at work, depending on the environment of course.

@bigmomma3265

4 ай бұрын

I know many people who’ve made genuine friends at work. Also, when you don’t have friends, it’s easy to get paranoid and think people don’t like you when you start making new ones. Everyone likes you just fine!

I can relate, I feel like I am always the boring person whom others doest want to spend time with. I feel like im not interesting at all that is why they dont bother reaching out, even if Im trying to. I just feel lonely whenever I dont have genuine interaction with people

Being selective and discernment in relationship are incredible signs of maturity and individuation. Congratulations Via no matter what the world has to say, your opinion about you is all that counts. Wishing you all the happiness this world can provide. Great message. ❤

Your videos really do speak to me. I am shy, quiet, and introverted and ever since I was a kid, I had a hard time making and keeping friends. It used to be a big deal to me back then but now as i'm older and almost finished with college I realize that it's okay. I learned a lot about myself most importantly and really value my alone time. Sometimes it is a passing thought for me whether or not I should be having friends in my "golden years" but that's all it is, a passing thought. Not at all opposed to friendships, but I realize I am happiest with pure solitude.

@irambonajasmine8155

10 ай бұрын

Same. As also a shy person making freinds is kinda of challenging. But I have also realized that sometimes freinship can make you be conformist and streap away your identity and value as a person. Being in a toxic freindship and now out. I can feel that I live a life where I can fully be myself without validating my opinions from another person.

@Burn143

10 ай бұрын

@@irambonajasmine8155 You explained it so well, I agree. Friendship can strip someone of who they are. Also came out of a toxic friendship not too long ago, and I find myself even more liberated. It’s nice to be able to learn more about yourself as time goes on.💯💯

I actually enjoy being alone: going to the movies, visiting the bookstore, having coffee at the café. I used like hanging out with friends when I was younger, but I really started to enjoy doing things myself. You're not alone.

Don't let having no friends stop you from living. Good advice.

Girl you have done it again. This came at a perfect time feeling of loneliness due to lack of community in my hometown. Knowing that I am not alone in this really helps! Truly the only person that will stay by your side is yourself. Friendships especially genuine ones are truly hard to come by and luckily able to find in college, but hometown not so much and summertime amplifies the feelings of loneliness. Always love your videos! Truly a gem in KZread

I feel like I really needed to hear this back in high school. I always felt the need to be surrounded by people who I considered "friends" but who never truly made me feel accepted and loved. I found that sitting by myself and reading books gave me the chance to explore the things that truly mattered to me, because in reality I didn't need them to complete me. But now that I'm in uni I have slowly started to make healthy friendships that don't tear me apart but build me up to be the best version of myself! And that's what friendship truly is! 💗

i really needed to hear this. i'm currently in a situation where i feel lonely in the presence of my "friend group" that expanded with people that do not like me and i don't like them back in return. but everyone that i'm friends with, they somehow really like these people. i was so worried about this because i thought i'd lose my only friend group in uni, but now after watching this video i realized that it doesn't matter if i do. as you said, "life does not depend on others. you have yourself and that is more than enough" makes me less anxious about losing them one day. i shouldn't keep worrying about this or on someone just to feel happy. i'm okay with my own presence

Needed to hear it today so much and here you are. Thank you so much!

I used to have a lot of friends, and believed me, the less people you have in your life, the better things would be for you. ❤Most of them envy you or use you.

Seem's like she's doing fine without friends. Brilliant woman❤❤

thank you so much for this. Believe me or not but this brought me a lot of comfort, along with comfort it also gave me a lot of realization. My mom always tells me that it's okay if I get left out sometimes, and it is because she says that I will meet more people and friends in the future and it's one of her advices that gives me comfort and reassurance. Thank you again for this and to everyone havinhg friend problems rn, you will get through this, I believe in you ❤️

Do whatever make u happiness. You are such a brave and smart woman. Don't let the situation control you. You are in control. You go girl.

Growing up I was feeling the same like you did. Now in my 30’s I’m really comfortable with having a few close friends. For introverts like me who don’t really enjoy social events, having few friends do more good than harm. It’s best to invest time in meaningful friendships.

This was really comforting to me. I lost all my friends from school due to being traumatized and isolated and no one checked on me. Or ever asked why I disappeared. For some reason I have it in my head I need a friend to justify going and getting a coffee or exploring a bookstore or whatever else. When in reality I can enjoy those things on my own. I guess having someone to talk to would be nice. But I am a little weird from my life experiences so it’s hard to find people I relate to. I feel like a weird witch or hermit or something isolated with my cats in a remote area. I struggle with depression so i am bad at responding to messages. It sucks to feel so isolated, but I guess it does create room to really be able to live in the moment and be less worried about what others think.

@katec9893

8 ай бұрын

Your story is so similar to mine. I lost most of my friends due to being traumatised and depressed. And struggled to make any new ones, I'm not sure why, I often wonder if people think I'm weird or something. I have started to think I'm just meant to be a lone woman with animals, who I get on much better with than a lot of people. I would like to have a few local friends too though, people who like and accept me whether I am depressed or not.

@cannibalcatgirl

8 ай бұрын

@@katec9893 Wow yess You totally get it. Being traumatized and isolated during those teenage years, those key socializing, developmental years feels very damaging to how I process socializing now. Like I have to work harder than other people and over think more. Some days I just am working very hard to keep myself together and my critters love me regardless. Their consistency is comforting. It is SO hard to make new friends. Especially ones that understand. Just knowing someone's out there to grab coffee with every now and then would be a nice feeling. Honestly knowing you relate so much makes me feel less alone, though I am so sorry you are going through the same struggle.

@audreyrenee

8 ай бұрын

I’m the same way. If I want to go out and do things if I don’t have a friend or people I can hang out with I become less motivated to do it. Especially going out to eat alone

@ngndnd

5 ай бұрын

i struggle with making friends bc im always afraid of not even being considered a 2nd choice bc in middle school i was always the last person to get picked when it came to choosing partners or being in groups@@katec9893

via you literally spoke to my soul with this journal entry,, i love you so much and you are like a big sister and im so happy that you post such inspiring content on your channel

I'm in my mid 20s and I literally have not had friends since high school. And when I look back at that time, I realize that only like 2 were actually my friends and the rest where really just acquaintances i called friends because we saw each other every day at school. I still get jealous of people I knew in high school who are still in touch with their friend group from back then, but like you point out in the video, friendship is a two way street and those people made an effort to keep in touch. People I knew didn't try to keep in touch with me so lol not my fault. Hopefully I will find my people one day. If not then that's cool because I know how to be alone and am okay with my own company.

Girl this helped me so much I’ve been hating myself so much lately and this has gave me hope and knowing that there are other people suffering the same issues I am makes me feel less alone in this world

Proud of myself for being strong without any support and even if I'm lonely i won't lower my self just to get into a frienda circle, even if i have to suffer alone and i can and will wipe my own tears even if there are plenty of people out there but in the end i will be the one who got used :⁠-⁠\

@via.ilyouu

11 ай бұрын

proud of you too love! but trust me, your people will come someday but as of now, you gotta live your best life 🩷🩷

@prangya44

11 ай бұрын

@@via.ilyouu 🫶🥹uk i always asked myself why people are afraid to be alone?? Like it doesn't make u look like u are weak bec we fight alone we cry alone we admire alone like that we shine alone so why can't we normalize being alone? Ik being depressed typa lonely is kinda bad but then it's different right? Why people just assume u are not a good/kind/fun person to hangout with just because you like being in peace?? Like whyyyy

@hopefaraway_

11 ай бұрын

@@prangya44my thoughts exactly.

@hopefaraway_

11 ай бұрын

@@prangya44 people who judge others for being alone most of the time, i feel, are actually projecting their insecurity i.e., the fear of being seen alone

@prangya44

11 ай бұрын

@@hopefaraway_ facts 😌✋✨

It really helped me to watch this. I have always been severely anti social. People in my life were always telling me that I was alone too much and that I should make more friends. It always made sense to me but it was always hard for me. I just always liked being alone that it was disturbing to people. They really didn't understand. They would say it wasn't healthy. But now I feel the need to show this video to every person who has told me that I need more friends and/or that I'm alone too much. Thanks!!

OMG you're perfect putting these subtitles, it's so good to improve my english, I could understand everthing perfectly

It’s pleasing to see you looking happier and happier with each video. Your situation somewhat aligns with mine and this gives me confidence in knowing that I’m not alone

i just want her to know how much her words help me when i feel lost ❁ཻུ۪۪♡

@Moon_lulu

10 ай бұрын

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@evelinar8932

10 ай бұрын

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@solfernandez5201

10 ай бұрын

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I do have a group of people i hang out with in college,but I really feel lonely with them so now I am starting to enjoy doing things on my own.I never had this feeling when i only had one friend in school but I started to get this feeling after entering into college.I just feel like their mindset doesn't match with mine.It is okay to have different personalities but too many differences in mindset may actually affect any relationship/friendship.Your video helped me in realizing that I would rather be alone than feel alone in a group of people."Don’t ever let having no friends stop you from living your best life"-The best line ever.

This video makes a whole lot of sense now, I felt like when having no friends, then I was not doing myself a favorite and got depressed and questioned myself every time ever since. At the beginning of the video about not having friends, she made an excellent point. With or without friends, I can't stop it from ruining my life. I am trying to make the best life I ever had for years to come.

i love this. I'm 31 and looked back at my life recently. I spent my 20s chasing to be successful (building my career and being financially stable). Along the way, I've let go the idea of friendships and never tried to save any dying friendships. When someone gets too close, I close up and build a wall. Now I have acquaintances but really no true friends but I've learned to be OK with that. So I agree with every point you made!

@Moon_lulu

10 ай бұрын

This reminds me of a book called "The Little Prince". Hopefully you find good friends you feel safe to be around with! 🤍