I Confronted This Guy After 15 Years

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Welcome back to Unfiltered Stories! Today our guest Jeremy Indika will share the story of his . Jeremy, whose groomer was a family friend, had a very tough experience growing up. After spending a long time suppressing that part of his childhood, he realized he couldn't hold it in anymore. That's when he confronted the man who ruined his childhood after 15 years. Even though he was prosecuted after this incident, it gave him a closure and a strength he needed. Now he shares his story of becoming a survivor and continues to inspire other people.
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Website: jeremyindika.com
YT: / @jeremyindika
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  • @UnfilteredStoriesYT
    @UnfilteredStoriesYT Жыл бұрын

    Do you have an inspiring story to share? Contact us at unfilteredstories@jellysmack.com

  • @tamradillonittybittysiddit1

    @tamradillonittybittysiddit1

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm the future . I have alot going on now . Like MOST 👍

  • @lesterjoseph90

    @lesterjoseph90

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes...I identify with this guy so much.

  • @rebeccaoprea9917
    @rebeccaoprea9917 Жыл бұрын

    We teach our kids about stranger danger, but its usually those that we allow in our circle that are the main predators.

  • @dalia8518

    @dalia8518

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes unfortunately u can’t even trust family

  • @deonarchie9696

    @deonarchie9696

    Жыл бұрын

    Calld blind trust

  • @wanya_telborn

    @wanya_telborn

    Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely

  • @seaofroses8888

    @seaofroses8888

    Жыл бұрын

    Exactly

  • @pakola131

    @pakola131

    Жыл бұрын

    So true, as a parent really makes you think a million times

  • @noolar
    @noolar Жыл бұрын

    This guy is incredible. He tells his story so confidently, he is not a victim, he has nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, its the abuser who holds the shame, thats the way it should be. Well done for being so open, i'm sure you're helping millions of people out there. Thank you x

  • @angelaholmes8888

    @angelaholmes8888

    Жыл бұрын

    Totally agree with the shame should always be on the abuser

  • @UnfilteredStoriesYT

    @UnfilteredStoriesYT

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for your support ❤

  • @created_by_the_divine_83

    @created_by_the_divine_83

    Жыл бұрын

    He's definitely a VICTIM

  • @lacyyy79

    @lacyyy79

    Жыл бұрын

    @@created_by_the_divine_83 he definitely isn't. Shame on you.

  • @created_by_the_divine_83

    @created_by_the_divine_83

    Жыл бұрын

    @@lacyyy79 so you're saying this man isn't a victim of sexual abuse? YEAH OK SHAME ON YOU FOR SHAMING ME! USE YOUR BRAIN!

  • @eduagonzalez
    @eduagonzalez Жыл бұрын

    You don’t understand how important your voice is to all men out there. So many boys and men will keep these things inside of them bc of gender roles but NO!!!! They need to know it’s not okay and it’s not right and that they deserve justice!!! You are literally a gem❤

  • @ark198989

    @ark198989

    5 ай бұрын

    AMEN!!!!!

  • @MSSHARIII

    @MSSHARIII

    3 ай бұрын

    Absolutely!!!💖💖💖💖

  • @OdachiRain
    @OdachiRain Жыл бұрын

    the fact that even the abuser's own lawyer thinks he did it says volumes. its annoying how the law doesnt consider that a child whos going through abuse DOESNT KNOW how to collect evidence. his actions and the abusers actions should both be considered. a man doesnt just knock on someone's door and accuses them of being a pedophile

  • @katlamb4606

    @katlamb4606

    Жыл бұрын

    But how would you prove it, tho?

  • @NetiNeti-gm5bz

    @NetiNeti-gm5bz

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@katlamb4606mental health repercussions. It literally changes your DNA and mind chemistry. Memory is stored in our DNA/ mind and body. Also if a child remembers birth marks and other intimate details. There may be ample ways to prove it you just need to want it bad enough

  • @niqicurtis5847

    @niqicurtis5847

    Жыл бұрын

    Unfortunately even if the system believes him, enough evidence wasn’t provided, and they cannot change the law. That’s why often times they will find another crime to lock the perpetrator up for.

  • @lacyyy79
    @lacyyy79 Жыл бұрын

    I suddenly feel motivated and empowered to speak about the abuse that I endured as a child. Suddenly I don't feel embarrassed anymore suddenly I don't feel shame or a like a victim.... suddenly I to..... HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY.. thank you Jeremy for your inspiration and words of healing and courage. Speaks volumes to the work your doing yo help survivors like myself who live/ with this unspeakable trauma every single day.

  • @straight.no.chaser1708

    @straight.no.chaser1708

    Жыл бұрын

    Jesus said the truth will set you free🙏💫

  • @kappi2464

    @kappi2464

    Жыл бұрын

    Go Lacy ♥️

  • @automaticlightobject

    @automaticlightobject

    Жыл бұрын

    Speak your truth we are on your side

  • @prinnywinny9013

    @prinnywinny9013

    11 ай бұрын

    me too!! i feel the exact same. the more i watch the closer and closer i get. just getting it out in the open seems like it would bring so much relief

  • @simi6152
    @simi6152 Жыл бұрын

    As a south asian I've got say that I'm so proud of you! I pray that God will help you get the justice that you deserve!

  • @bishbash4111

    @bishbash4111

    Жыл бұрын

    South Indian!not Asian !

  • @kid-ava

    @kid-ava

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@bishbash4111india is in asia, silly

  • @confessionsofaborderline
    @confessionsofaborderline Жыл бұрын

    My sister and I had a break through today when we came to tram with our own abuse when we where children and we cried so much.

  • @patriciafoster1385

    @patriciafoster1385

    Жыл бұрын

    Lpl😊

  • @rafaypirzada5061

    @rafaypirzada5061

    Жыл бұрын

    You got bpd ? If so. Pray to God. And either here or in heaven you'll be perfect, not that you aren't right now haha. You know what I mean. God is real. So is good. So is pure love.

  • @confessionsofaborderline

    @confessionsofaborderline

    Жыл бұрын

    @@rafaypirzada5061 Amen 🙏🏼 I believe that to be true God love is perfect.

  • @rafaypirzada5061

    @rafaypirzada5061

    Жыл бұрын

    @@confessionsofaborderline God bless you sister.

  • @UnfilteredStoriesYT

    @UnfilteredStoriesYT

    Жыл бұрын

    Sending continuous healing and love your way 💜

  • @NancySolariLivingFullOut
    @NancySolariLivingFullOut Жыл бұрын

    This man has such tremendous strength, I wish him the best!

  • @janetbrown6409
    @janetbrown6409 Жыл бұрын

    Its brave to confront your abuser. I never could. X

  • @sandrameza1644

    @sandrameza1644

    Жыл бұрын

    You show bravery too by sharing in your way, support and consideration for others.

  • @100anti

    @100anti

    Жыл бұрын

    you do what you have to do to get peace of mind.

  • @sandrameza1644

    @sandrameza1644

    Жыл бұрын

    @@EllaBella-76 No shame on you. It was a fact. It was a criminal offence on their part. Period.

  • @janetbrown6409

    @janetbrown6409

    Жыл бұрын

    @@EllaBella-76 this sounds terrible. I'm so sorry . I wish you happiness and peace. Xx

  • @ProfessorMM

    @ProfessorMM

    Жыл бұрын

    I used to work at a large train station in my city. I was walking through a crowd on the platform one day, heading for the stairs to go down to the lower levels. When I approached the stairs, my abuser was there- right at the top of the stairs. We locked eyes and I just completely froze. I beat myself up about it now, and wish I'd confronted him. I think about how easily I could have just pushed him down the concrete stairs. But when you are face to face with your abuser, you just never know how you will respond. It is hard to have any control over your fear. I have so much admiration for this man, and anybody else who can confront their abusers. But like you- I don't think I ever could. You have my utmost love, respect and empathy. Whatever helps you tackle another day is the right thing to do. Hang in there. ❤

  • @SofiUk0319
    @SofiUk0319 Жыл бұрын

    Such a handsome man, beautiful eyes ❤ I'm very sorry for your pain, I'm glad you are sharing your story ❤

  • @kardoyle
    @kardoyle Жыл бұрын

    Wow!! You went from “engineer” to your “true calling “ this is called listening to your soul. Thank you from humanity ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @ark198989

    @ark198989

    5 ай бұрын

    Yes! Only JESUS can do that!! Turn our mess into a message and our test into a testimony! 🌹🙏🤗🕊🙌 GLORY!

  • @iseemestorytime142
    @iseemestorytime142 Жыл бұрын

    I first encountered Jeremy's story at an open mic night in King's Cross several years ago. He got on the stage and started speaking and the whole room was silent because it was something different and unexpected, but there was so much support for the fact that he had shared this with us and also a strong sense of appreciation for his message of speaking out and not being afraid to do so. I think there should be more space and opportunity for people to speak out without judgement or shame or feeling they have to filter or sanitise what they need to say. I think it's very important that people hear how this impacts people as children and continues to impact them into adulthood and the way the justice system is failing (and sometimes criminalising) the victims of abuse. Just based on the well-known cases of child abuse and paedophilia, in the UK alone, and the way very high profile people seem to get away with it, without being made accountable, it is sensible to assume that children are still not being adequately protected from abuse and giving people a space to speak about it on big platforms is a step forward .

  • @tinat5484
    @tinat5484 Жыл бұрын

    You definitely sent a shiver up his wife’s spine. You have a lot of courage. However, as someone who went through a similar situation, I never told my parents and you have validated why. I have already been hurt and I didn’t want to hurt my parents by telling them. Maybe I made a mistake but the person who hurt me all those years ago is dead. My deepest sadness was when my own daughter turned five years old and it reminded me of myself at that age and all I kept thinking over and over again was how can anyone do that to a child.

  • @kawaiiSweden
    @kawaiiSweden Жыл бұрын

    I'm currently 25. I was around 10 years old. It never got to actual abuse, but he said and did things you just don't say and do to a child. And it ended up leaving serious marks mentally. I wouldn't want to confront him as I don't want anything to do with him, but I highly admire you for doing so.

  • @kid-ava
    @kid-ava Жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad to hear a man open up about his experience with CSA, especially a man of color. our communities have a tendency to stigmatize issues like this and push them under the rug, so I'm happy to see this great vulnerability and storytelling

  • @JeremyIndika
    @JeremyIndika5 ай бұрын

    A big thank you for sharing my story. I cannot believe it's been 10 months since this was posted and people are still watching it and feeling inspired by it. A big thanks to you Unfiltered Stories.

  • @lindazili8105

    @lindazili8105

    4 ай бұрын

    🤍

  • @behuman3801
    @behuman3801 Жыл бұрын

    Not just sexual abuse but even any injustices done to us during our childhood is buried for a while and as we mature it does for sure come back again W shave to deal with it It just won’t go away Never

  • @f.frederickskitty2910
    @f.frederickskitty2910 Жыл бұрын

    A friend of my parents did something when I was 12 or 13 when they weren't home. I was so ashamed and scared ... a few days later I told a trusted neighbor who told my parents. That man vanished. I still don't know what happened to him 44 years later and I'll never know now because my parents passed on years ago. I think whatever did happen to him in the fall of 1980 was final and with extreme prejudice.

  • @maryansel932
    @maryansel932 Жыл бұрын

    Jeremy, I am so impressed with your courage to report the abuse and release your pain. I'm certain that the abuser, though he seems to have gotten away with it, will never be able to 'forget' now.

  • @mohammadsarwar1281
    @mohammadsarwar1281 Жыл бұрын

    You're a very honest and a quality chap. I hope you stay protected and people realise that this filth is still prevalent and people need to closely monitor their children.

  • @robellins3906
    @robellins3906 Жыл бұрын

    Respect to you for speaking out those people who have done this to children are disgusting and they need to be held accountable for his actions im sure you speaking out will give others the courage to speak out

  • @friendsntrendz6579
    @friendsntrendz6579 Жыл бұрын

    Things also happened to me as a child, because my mother was a single one. Having to take care of my older brother and I. One of my cousins took care of me, the one that had children around Same age as me. my brother stayed with the better cousin so he was in better care than I was. Being a child , decisions were being made for me , I don’t blame my mother for them, but I went through pre abuse myself because my cousin didn’t treat me that well and her husband used to touch me and act inappropriate towards his own daughter and me. I didn’t know if that was right, I was confused so I let it slide. But then as I was getting older it started to become more worse for me. This person did other things that my mother doesn’t even know about. A situation almost happened to me , back when I was 16. If it wasn’t for my cousins “Son” walking in , the worst would’ve happened to me. I ended up telling my mother, and things really got serious….. moral of the story cousin stood with him and all this caused isolation. Nothing ever go resolved and mom still doesn’t know the other half of it. But now I’m 25 years old and I’m Married . My husband is very supportive, he understands me and what I went through. Although nothing was done about it, I’ve managed to put it in the PAST. I had to forgive and forget just for my own sanity I’ve also Talked to God about it and has gave me more peace on that regard.

  • @danielacanto613
    @danielacanto613 Жыл бұрын

    Your not a victim. You are a victor👏👏💪

  • @violetsimmonsbrain
    @violetsimmonsbrain Жыл бұрын

    This is so inspiring. Jeremy's passion is palpable and I just want to hear him talk more.

  • @Rasheens-Story
    @Rasheens-Story Жыл бұрын

    You suppressed the abuse but after a while it always come back trust me I know the more you suppress it the worst, it can even cause anxiety. Im glad you got it off your chest and started to heal. They always try to target the shy quiet kids with busy or absent parents too that's also why I was targeted as a child

  • @MSSHARIII

    @MSSHARIII

    3 ай бұрын

    So true. You're a gem.

  • @cindyski4413
    @cindyski4413 Жыл бұрын

    Bring the darkness to light! Many many people have gone through similar situations! Thank you for your courage!

  • @sarahlynch3
    @sarahlynch3 Жыл бұрын

    Im so frustrated for you being charged like that when hes the actual criminal this whole system is fucked

  • @drchristineobrien9704
    @drchristineobrien9704 Жыл бұрын

    When you turned the age of your abuser, it came crashing down. The body never forgets.

  • @Ebonygazelle
    @Ebonygazelle Жыл бұрын

    This guy is phenomenal. Thank you for sharing your experience and for being so brave. This was incredible to listen to because of the realness of the story and your stark authenticity. You may have well saved many lives who have been traumatised by their own story. I love the lateral thinking which you put into positive action with your Something2Say movement and the fruits it has borne. What you have done and still doing is incredible inspirational and an healing balm to others. To all abusers of every form and shape. We will not go silently into the night!

  • @nazmasheikh3975
    @nazmasheikh3975 Жыл бұрын

    You are not alone. I have been there and I know how you feel. You are lucky you told someone but I didn’t or I couldn’t . 😢 You Stay strong ❤

  • @elisazouza
    @elisazouza Жыл бұрын

    I got assaulted by someone when I was too young and it made me hyper sexual :( but it makes me sad cos little me was acting out due to the trauma of it and trying to say that I got SA’d but that didn’t work cos I was quiet (due to being neurodivergent) it still haunts me sometimes but I’ve been trying to heal from it and sometimes news stations talking about topics that remind me of it makes me sad again about it. It happened when I was 6 and I remember it all.

  • @pakola131
    @pakola131 Жыл бұрын

    What a fantastic bloke, he is seriously inspiring and motivating. To have gone through all those horrible experiences and yet you’re still positive- god bless you.

  • @joeanne9626
    @joeanne9626 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your story. I was also a victim of sexual abuse. As a parent now I teach my kids how someone can be inappropriate towards them and to speak out.

  • @lisalucas4375
    @lisalucas4375 Жыл бұрын

    You are a brave, courageous man! Thank you for sharing your traumatic story. May you be an inspiration for other men to heal from this horrid abuse. This happens too much to children and is heartbreaking. You are an amazing man!!💜

  • @Warrior_1673
    @Warrior_16735 ай бұрын

    I'm proud of you for eventually telling your parents, friends and especially talking to others about your story. You were brave and fed up with keeping the info to yourself. You did the right thing

  • @i4cahappyfuture
    @i4cahappyfuture Жыл бұрын

    The same thing happened to me, I pushed the memories away until they became overwhelming.

  • @MSSHARIII

    @MSSHARIII

    3 ай бұрын

    I hope that you're doing okay, and you have support! 💛

  • @abismith365
    @abismith365 Жыл бұрын

    This needs to be talked about in schools...it let's those who are being abused know that this is not ok.

  • @MSSHARIII

    @MSSHARIII

    3 ай бұрын

    Absolutely!!

  • @neenecc
    @neenecc Жыл бұрын

    Yes, we have feelings of our own, it hit me very badly too when I was around 25, the shame, the anger, the guilt of realising the weird things that I've done when I was little after the sexual abuse, I was 5, he was 24, a teacher and now a very religious man. I started to speak up and be direct about it, then my mother wanted to groom me into thinking it's normal and said that men has needs and it happened to many, and told me that I don't need to tell anybody, because my abuser is her nephew.

  • @mofi2342

    @mofi2342

    Жыл бұрын

    I hope you don't obey your mother. This woman is not worth to be called a mother.

  • @tnmoore0014

    @tnmoore0014

    11 ай бұрын

    😮

  • @my3girls75
    @my3girls75 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing. My nephew molested my daughter from the time she was 4 until she was 10. She opened up about it like 4 years ago after another child said he told her something inappropriate. She realizes now how it affected my life growing up and her teenage years.

  • @mofi2342

    @mofi2342

    Жыл бұрын

    Sadly this guy will do this all his life.

  • @FS02012

    @FS02012

    Жыл бұрын

    Press charges!!

  • @alienzzz229
    @alienzzz229 Жыл бұрын

    All I kept thinking was that poor boy, it judt goes to show we must heal our inner child to finally move on to become strong adults. I hope you have healed your inner child and this never happens to anyone again. Well done for finding that strength

  • @Bink808
    @Bink80811 ай бұрын

    Whatever happens in the dark will always come to light! You're amazing 👏

  • @esthellakomerl8084
    @esthellakomerl8084 Жыл бұрын

    Just makes me sad that your mum was not aware.. Parents can be so caught up with paying for bills and providing for children, that abuse can be happening under their roof, and they can't see it..

  • @beewest5704

    @beewest5704

    Жыл бұрын

    Sadder part is ppl like this choose vulnerable families like this & groom them as much as they do the kids. So most times even if the kid tells they are not believed or its downplayed or swept under the rug.

  • @dalia8518
    @dalia8518 Жыл бұрын

    This is by far my biggest fear In life is for one of my kids to go through this 💔

  • @amrivares
    @amrivares Жыл бұрын

    You are a remarkable speaker! You were meant to speak your truth. I hope you inspire other victims to speak up ❤

  • @saf1999
    @saf1999 Жыл бұрын

    Great storyteller. Wish you much healing and strength

  • @barbmoore6587
    @barbmoore6587 Жыл бұрын

    It was my dad...🥺and my mom stayed with 🤔 him, he died 2013 my sister never spoke of it...they were "quote" "in a relationship...from when she was about 10 maybe earlier until she married 1980 something, I left at 16 never went back 4 times I 45 yrs...they lived there and allowed him around their children...but has ostracized me for leaving! Made up stories about me, I was poison in the family..still am...live alone on my own since I was 18 with my daughter traveled country now 64 yrs old👩‍🦳🙏🏼mom passed ...sister and brother still live in the same little town never spoke to me in centuries...

  • @simonetta-ta

    @simonetta-ta

    Жыл бұрын

    I feel extremely sorry for you. You've been betrayed by the whole family. They considered him more important in order to comtinue to live a hypocritical 'normal and happy life'. They turned the roles of victim and perpetrator upside down. This is mean and unjust. I read a motto by a psycologist a/ childhood trauma: FAMILY IS SACRED THAT'S WHY I LEFT. I really hope you can deal with it, they are more than disrespectful and that is venomous. Hope you don't suffer that much any more and manage to perform a cut, also emotionally. I give you a big hug ❤👍🏽🌱

  • @barbmoore6587

    @barbmoore6587

    Жыл бұрын

    @@simonetta-ta this kindness means so much to me...thank you for your grace and understanding

  • @jenahtee1306

    @jenahtee1306

    Жыл бұрын

    That's terrible, I'm so sorry you had to go through that x

  • @learn119

    @learn119

    Жыл бұрын

    I have been ostracized from relatives I never met because I would not let my children around my sisters husband. He married her at 17, he was 27. He worked developing porn websites. He was friends with a high school teacher that went to jail for having sex with students. They are also swingers too! I was deemed crazy like our mother because I don’t have anything to do with them for 16 years now. I found recently she wrote a book. I’m in nearly every chapter, she has built a character to villainous me, but none of her business is in the book. They will stop at nothing to paint a picture that you are the problem. Glad to know others rejected their abusive families to spare their children.

  • @angelaholmes8888
    @angelaholmes8888 Жыл бұрын

    This man is brave to face the person who abused him I know I wouldn't be able do it I hope this will help others

  • @mariamoradi3127
    @mariamoradi3127 Жыл бұрын

    I am sorry this happened to you. This should never happen to any child

  • @saintbernards-bulldogs
    @saintbernards-bulldogs Жыл бұрын

    That was the best description of grooming that I've heard

  • @setareh2111
    @setareh2111 Жыл бұрын

    Very powerful and inspiring for others who have gone through this especially since we loose our voice in a way either no one believes us or were terrified to tell. I recently looked up my abuser too and saw he has felony charges after me and is now living free in Georgia. I think about confronting him or letting people know all the time but don’t know where to start. But I think I’ll be more angry if he dies and is never held accountable in anyway and I deal with the repercussions my entire life is not fair.

  • @renatacuriosa
    @renatacuriosa Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing and doing this amazing work! I had the same trauma with a family member. Unfortunately my mother was way too distraught bc he was on her side of family. I never spoke to her again about it, but I had an amazing therapist. I was able to forgive my abuser after a few years of therapy. I’m finishing a degree in psychology and I have one in counseling. I’m gonna work with children and have been bringing domestic violence and sexual abuse awareness in a church ministry.

  • @margieneal6764

    @margieneal6764

    Жыл бұрын

    What do you do if you think abuse is going on with someone you know

  • @Zazezoo

    @Zazezoo

    Жыл бұрын

    @@margieneal6764Gatehr evidence and report to the police. Or just report for investigation

  • @iseeyou2810

    @iseeyou2810

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@margieneal6764 try to to make them comfortable to trust you and open up to you. They the only person that can report the criminal.

  • @iseeyou2810

    @iseeyou2810

    Жыл бұрын

    Forgiveness means the criminal will continue to do this to more children

  • @higreentj

    @higreentj

    Жыл бұрын

    @@margieneal6764 Children can call childline to report abuse.

  • @litespeedway6538
    @litespeedway6538 Жыл бұрын

    👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿congratulations on you're bravery💟Thank you for speaking out📣don't ever stop🕊Love Your Energy

  • @MSSHARIII
    @MSSHARIII3 ай бұрын

    You are brilliant! Your articulation, determination and pursuit for justice is incredible. Keep doing what you do, speak the truth and shame the devil. Your testimony is helping so many, especially our youth. You're golden.💖 What an amazing support system you have, it really makes the world of difference!💛 P.s. I would love to have you as a keynote speaker at one of my events!

  • @orbitalpl1
    @orbitalpl1 Жыл бұрын

    I’ve always thought about knocking at the door of my abuser (my aunt), but never had the courage to do so. I was also afraid that she will slam the door at my face and that would make me even more angry. I’ve never forgotten the physical abuse she inflicted on me like name calling, putting my head into the soup, denying me to step outside to play, finally pushing my dad down the 10 step stairs and me watching this happen… I was just six years old… I was throwing up so often while living with her. This nightmare continued for the whole six months. Throwing up stopped when my dad took me away from her. I still carry this pain and this rage against her. I don’t k ow how to let it go. I cannot afford a therapy. Even if I did, I still think the best option to release this anger would be to confront her and yell out all the rage I hold against her in my gut…Please watch your children and don’t leave them to be raised by your relatives. Many times you won’t even find out what happened…

  • @damamen1

    @damamen1

    Жыл бұрын

    I am sorry this happened to you by a family member and at such a young age...It sounds like that woman is evil and does not deserve not even your grudge. Maybe there are online support groups you can join and they may talk about how you can learn to be at peace with what happened. What if you confront them with others who support you? If she did things that can cause her to be punished by law I would open up a case against her. May you heal ❤. You and no one deserves what has happened to you.

  • @orbitalpl1

    @orbitalpl1

    Жыл бұрын

    @@damamen1 -thank you for your kind words…

  • @mofi2342

    @mofi2342

    Жыл бұрын

    Go and confront her. She will deny it, but you finally can speak! For me it was the other way around. I grew up in a terrible environment. When I was 11 I had the opportunity to live at my aunt's family. And for the first time I had a normal and healthy family life. But I would have needed therapy too. At that time I already decided to end my life because of my past.

  • @orbitalpl1

    @orbitalpl1

    Жыл бұрын

    @@mofi2342 / yes, that would be the best idea because since then I have an issue with speaking up and standing up for myself.

  • @mofi2342

    @mofi2342

    Жыл бұрын

    @@orbitalpl1 be prepared that she will react negative. If you expect the worst, it won't hurt you that much.

  • @giovannamoro8564
    @giovannamoro8564 Жыл бұрын

    Incredible video . Bravo ! You're very courageous . We all need people like you in this world ,people that change it for the better . Thank you .

  • @fatoufrancescambow5876
    @fatoufrancescambow5876 Жыл бұрын

    You are absolutely AMAZING! Thank you 🧡

  • @iris5070
    @iris5070 Жыл бұрын

    God bless you!!! Thank you for being so strong; this is going to save so many children and encourage to speak up!

  • @aiirekah
    @aiirekah Жыл бұрын

    I really needed this! Thank you 🌻

  • @ericac.4316
    @ericac.4316 Жыл бұрын

    WOW thank you for being so brave and having the courage to share your story. Blessings to you! So many lives are being touched by your story and is giving them the strength to open up. There is healing when you open up instead of staying silent

  • @maryamjamilah323
    @maryamjamilah323 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for having the courage for telling us your most traumatic experience. You are brave and strong, you will be in my prayers. I pray for happiness for you in this world and hereafter

  • @payalagarwal7761
    @payalagarwal7761 Жыл бұрын

    Am so proud of you! Thank you for sharing it but more than anything, thank you for following it through with the confrontation. I hope to have that strength some day.

  • @avasinha9764
    @avasinha9764 Жыл бұрын

    Our brain suppress those trauma...I even forgot about SA happened to me in childhood but I suddenly realized it in my early 20s and my mental breakdown happened. But yes I hate to being touched by anyone from childhood and never knew the reason behind it was that incident.

  • @thirteennumbers6095
    @thirteennumbers6095 Жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful soul. Thank you for your hard work and strength.

  • @georgetacarmen8824
    @georgetacarmen8824 Жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad that these hurt people are speaking their truth. They are so strong. I don't understand how some people's conscience just does not work.

  • @kirstyro7211
    @kirstyro7211 Жыл бұрын

    You are a fantastic speaker! Thank you for sharing your story ❤

  • @MONEYAINTATHANG100

    @MONEYAINTATHANG100

    Жыл бұрын

    many things are better left unsaid

  • @esthellakomerl8084
    @esthellakomerl8084 Жыл бұрын

    Humans can lower their selves to Satan's level. So disgusting..

  • @jsingh4095
    @jsingh4095 Жыл бұрын

    The police should re-arrest his abuser for questioning!

  • @TheeMan101
    @TheeMan101 Жыл бұрын

    .. he found his strength through his trauma.

  • @ChrisDeVarro
    @ChrisDeVarro Жыл бұрын

    You are a brave guy and I think it's awesome to see men come forward and become a face and a voice of bravery as a man who's been assaulted.

  • @rahmamahdi7244
    @rahmamahdi7244 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you sharing your story.

  • @Vitagirl
    @Vitagirl10 ай бұрын

    Your voice is crucial to the healing of souls so many men live with trauma and punish themselves! Thank you so much for sharing Your movement is amazing and so inspiring! Absolutely amazing

  • @simonetta-ta
    @simonetta-ta Жыл бұрын

    Che bravo! Complimenti!! And it is so important and necessary what you do! Break the silence. You said, they are just a bunch of people. There is always too much fear involved... you are helping to gain courage and public awareness. Big kudos 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽🌱

  • @vetiverose128
    @vetiverose128 Жыл бұрын

    Honestly, I've seen so many cases like this of parents offering their friends temp accommodation for whatever reasons and things go south. Similar thing happened to me, when I was younger, my dad would often help out his friends looking for temp accomodation. One such dude would put his arms around me and try to get close to me, I felt so uncomfortable. But thankfully, my mom was a stay at home so nothing worse happened. But to this day, my parents have no clue and are oblivious.

  • @farahmughal
    @farahmughal Жыл бұрын

    I'm so sorry you went through this. But look how strong you are today and how you are able to help others because of your experience. Thank you for sharing your experience. Sending healing energy.x

  • @melinaouzouni6151
    @melinaouzouni6151 Жыл бұрын

    So liberating!!! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

  • @gloriaroffey6884
    @gloriaroffey6884 Жыл бұрын

    I’m so sorry to hear about this abuse. You seem to be such a lovely person. I hope now that you have outed him you are living your best life. Keep the knocking on the door in your conversation. I would have done the same.

  • @Siriuslyyy
    @Siriuslyyy Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for speaking out

  • @CR-bx6ux
    @CR-bx6ux Жыл бұрын

    I admire this strong man for standing up to his disgusting abuser. 👏

  • @zoraidacastro2703
    @zoraidacastro2703 Жыл бұрын

    🎯 That is your truth, why would you delete anything? You were the victim, but he was making you the criminal. You are a healer, because you have your own healing journey. Kudos. ❤

  • @kimberlyiji400
    @kimberlyiji400 Жыл бұрын

    Amazing, such an empowering story. I don't know him, but I'm so proud. Good for you mate!

  • @erattasibetta7241
    @erattasibetta7241 Жыл бұрын

    I was molested as a baby at six months and remember this as though it happened yesterday. I remember wearing a terry cloth nappy and drinking milk from a bottle and this man doing his business after he changed my nappy. I blocked this from my memory for many many years until it all came flooding back due to some horrible dreams and constant headaches. Trying to overcome the trauma is difficult because many people think babies have no memory. I remember many things when I was a baby and just wish my parents were more protective and more aware. Being passed around to be looked after by family or friends and leaving me as a 1 year old in uncles house. I believe these behaviours are ritualistic and something or someone gets something out of it. Coping with the trauma I wrote a novel Soft in Flowers about FGM (also done to me) and child marriage hoping to bring awareness. But the greatest tragedy for me is when no one acknowledges your pain or suffering. No one supports my novel and likely family members are ashamed of writing about it. Jeremy has been very brave to bring this out into the open. Every voice matters and please be aware as parents that allowing your children to be looked after by someone can lead to dangerous situations like this. Thank you for sharing your story Jeremy ❤

  • @bankrolldame

    @bankrolldame

    Жыл бұрын

    I understand that point you made, that it hurts when nobody acknowledges or validates the suffering you went through…I feel this too and I’m sorry. I see your pain and I bet your novel is a wonderful creation from something so wounding…if nobody ever reads your words, you should be proud that you made it from something so dark..that is the most important part-that it’s most of all for you

  • @TheFord1612

    @TheFord1612

    Жыл бұрын

    Thankyou for speaking out. I spoke out as a teen, no one believed me, until 15 years later when my abuser was abusing his own grandchild and a family member spoke up about my allegation. He dropped dead 3 weeks before court. 😞

  • @aneelamathew1082
    @aneelamathew1082 Жыл бұрын

    You are doing a great job, please don't stop. There are so many kids going through this and you can help many many kids and this needs to stop now.

  • @karinasanchez3285
    @karinasanchez3285 Жыл бұрын

    Good on you 👏💞💛 continue your journey with a renewed sense of pride and strength for what you are doing to kindred hearts 🙏

  • @ZM-yw6th
    @ZM-yw6th Жыл бұрын

    Love his energy !

  • @emrankhan2626
    @emrankhan2626 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your story. There must be other victims. I hope they come forward.

  • @safina2022
    @safina2022 Жыл бұрын

    It’s true. It needs to come out…. Keep up the good work

  • @kusammadhar4510
    @kusammadhar4510 Жыл бұрын

    Well Done! so proud of you! Hope you get the justice that you deserve one day soon.

  • @JerubbaalgodSlayer
    @JerubbaalgodSlayer Жыл бұрын

    That’s right! *“They’ve just other people.”* 🇨🇦

  • @MC-lq2iz
    @MC-lq2iz Жыл бұрын

    Im 60 Jeremy, everything you say is so so true. I was 5 years old.

  • @tyheildes6210
    @tyheildes6210 Жыл бұрын

    There’s a lot of down low men. As soon as he said he was a nurse I had a feeling he would have a wife. There’s men just like this in our schools, churches, hospitals, families that are secretly gay but because of shame to come out they experiment with kids that they have authority over. It’s such a disgusting world.

  • @nadanalia3000
    @nadanalia3000 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful man

  • @straight.no.chaser1708
    @straight.no.chaser1708 Жыл бұрын

    Wonderful you’ve embodied an idea I’ve had for many years but been scared to step out. I’m going to take this inspiration and move in it regarding a topic that means a lot to me. Well done brother 💫

  • @bindassneh5182
    @bindassneh5182 Жыл бұрын

    U r very brave. And u r doing a perfect thing to raise awareness

  • @tonipaslay2539
    @tonipaslay2539 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for trying to protect our children! If I can help, count me in. God says to protect the children and rightfully so. Love our children

  • @lovebl6728
    @lovebl6728 Жыл бұрын

    you are so brave , thanks for sharing your story ❤

  • @Angela-hm3xt
    @Angela-hm3xt Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for being the voice of so many. I really admire you for your courage and for thinking about other victims. You're God send.

  • @Humanityaboveall522
    @Humanityaboveall522 Жыл бұрын

    Kudos to you Jeremy. And more power to you. How do we protect our children ? I feel worried for my child. He is also 8. Please elaborate more on steps to prevent this from happening to our kids.

  • @SweetUareDesi

    @SweetUareDesi

    Жыл бұрын

    What? Home school and escort them most places. duh

  • @emjay313

    @emjay313

    Жыл бұрын

    Also let him know that no one is to touch him privately nor be alone with him. Let him know he must come to you immediately if anything like that happens and telling doesn’t mean he’s done anything wrong.

  • @TiamatApsu_Ia
    @TiamatApsu_Ia Жыл бұрын

    Such an inspiration. 🙏

  • @senpaimami2496
    @senpaimami2496 Жыл бұрын

    God bless you, brother. Keep speaking to strengthen others who need it. ❤

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