I am literally a new human. | 5 Lessons from being Sober Curious

From Sober October in 2018 to now spending almost every day alcohol-free... This is what I have learned along the way. Lessons from a sober curious lifestyle + biggest takeaways.
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Sober curious lifestyle. My experience being mostly sober. What alcohol-free life is like. How I stay sober. Sober curiosity, alcohol-free living. Alcohol-free experience, sober October.
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00:17 SOBER CURIOUS INTRO
01:29 MY FIRST SOBER EXPERIENCES
03:03 OVERALL TIMELINE
04:04 NEW PARADIGM
05:08 SPIRITUAL JOURNEY
06:41 STAYING SOBER
08:27 ALTERNATIVES & NEW PASSIONS
10:15 SELF-LOVE & DISCOMFORT
11:50 BENEFITS OF SOBRIETY

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  • @OlgaMoskatova
    @OlgaMoskatova Жыл бұрын

    I've had such a similar experience! I used to go out aaaaall the time and I thought that's who I really truly was. Now I'm starting to realize that staying home by myself and doing puzzles or drawing feels so much more true to who I am. It's a crazy change but it actually feels so good to know that I don't HAVE TO go out drinking, I can spend some quiet time by myself, go to sleep early and wake up feeling amazing and inspired.

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    Wowwwww YES. Isn’t it amazing when we prioritize our inner peace? And that feeling the next day always confirms that our intuition knows best. Thank you for sharing!! 🫶🏻

  • @derrick8224
    @derrick822422 күн бұрын

    Perfect. I have been sober for 3 years. It saved my life

  • @crazygrace94
    @crazygrace94 Жыл бұрын

    Bella, I want to thank you for this video. I’m on my own path to sobriety and improving my relationship with life, my body, and alcohol. I really appreciate your candor and vulnerability in this video and will doubtless return to it for hope and inspiration. I’m so glad and grateful that my KZread feed has been flooded with sober curious content recently. I truly think this is the beginning of an important cultural shift. Again, thank you.

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for being here Pete!!! I’m really glad to hear my words resonated. The sober curious journey is a wild one and knowing there are others on that path always warms my heart. 💙

  • @maxvandijk2001
    @maxvandijk2001 Жыл бұрын

    Hii, enjoyed the video! I was a severe drug/alcohol (alcohol, weed, ketamine, several uppers and psychedelics) addict for several years, it destroyed me mentally and physically and I already had mental problems before my addiction started. Ive been sober since January 17th this year. The first 2 months were excruciating and the withdrawals were horrible. Ive really worked on myself and my health, and I've been reflecting on why everything got so out of control. My life is better then ever now and i love the journey im taking.

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    You sound like an incredible person to be able to take this journey. Thank you for sharing your story and I’m so glad to hear you’re enjoying your path 💙

  • @SR_20248
    @SR_20248 Жыл бұрын

    I feel like there has been a fog over my life and abstaining from alcohol (I was also sober curious, didn’t know there was a term for it) has lifted that fog (for the most part, I still have trauma that makes me not as present as I wish to be). I feel like I’m seeing the world in vibrant color if that makes any sense. When I go for walks or tend to my garden, I notice more details and pay attention to the nature around me more. Even birds! Lol They’re fascinating to watch.

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    YESSSSS. The fog lifts. I totally know what you mean. You notice life and experience things in a much more colorful way. Also obsessed with birds hahah

  • @christopherbrown9301
    @christopherbrown9301 Жыл бұрын

    I’m drunk now. I’m lost. I have no self love. I miss the old me. The happy me….. hope everyone is living life to the best

  • @sellymsnr2337

    @sellymsnr2337

    Жыл бұрын

    you can change. you can do it! trust me Wish you the best

  • @christopherbrown9301

    @christopherbrown9301

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much.

  • @JulesX1977
    @JulesX19779 ай бұрын

    Hit rock bottom 21/11/2021 and quit drinking the day after - Now 1 year and 10 months without alcohol. What gradually happened: Clear mind, more self love, Things that seemed impossible for me to do ... now seem possible, going back to school, Doing yoga 3 times a week, better relationship with my brother, sister, mom and nephews, more balance on my skateboard, working on my future (which didn't exist when I was weekend binging). I don't miss getting wasted but I do miss a good glass of wine or prosecco from time to time - unfortunately I never was a moderate drinker so one glass of wine will gradually sent me back to where I was - thx 4 sharing your video

  • @Naomi-of9qm
    @Naomi-of9qm Жыл бұрын

    ah this is exactly the video I needed! I went sober at the start of this year, and recently I've been questioning why, and wanting to give in to the awkwardness I feel at parties/alcohol settings, now being sober. But I realised that I had simply never actually experienced a party or a club night in my authentic sober self. So of course it was okay to feel awkward for the first few times. I just really appreciated your words about loving yourself and being your authentic self throughout your life, without the need to alter who you are with substance. Very grateful! Thank you for sharing, all the love! ❤

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    Naomi! I know how difficult it can be. I’m so glad this resonated and brought you some light. Sending love right back to you and wishing you the most beautiful epic journey, no matter where it takes you 🥰

  • @crissydv1

    @crissydv1

    11 ай бұрын

    Same here! Thank you for sharing

  • @MarcusRonaldi
    @MarcusRonaldi10 ай бұрын

    Since I decided to take an ongoing hiatus from drinking I have found that I do not want to go out for empty socialization ie going to a bar for the sake of going to a bar. This is something that I wish I would have started much sooner.

  • @keekseatsasmr425
    @keekseatsasmr425 Жыл бұрын

    Love this! I also went sober recently, and it really coincided with my spiritual path too❤️ glad to see other young people on similar journeys

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    Yesss it is totally a spiritual experience. Thanks for sharing ❤️❤️

  • @Astral_Dusk
    @Astral_DuskАй бұрын

    I found have 2-3 veggies+plant protein shakes mindblowingly helpful for staying sober. The wellbeing shift, the energy, the fitness boost - the whole thing skyrocketed for me after this keystone shift in my diet. I realized all the shame I had from the alcohol blackouts were.... living an inauthentic life. The worst part was just not living my best potential. Felt dead and I wanted to live and can absolutely say I feel like I am truly living a meaningful structured and energized life now. Thought I had social anxiety but I feel more social and peace than ever now. It's wild but I feel like nutrition frankly STILL doesn't get enough emphasis in supporting a high quality life. Even my thinking has becoming incredibly more positive, the chemistry really does seem to influence our thinking. I don't feel any need to sugarcoat or avoid negativity or avoid a full spectrum of emotion but I just feel more positive, inherently so as a baseline.

  • @alexteachesfrench1709
    @alexteachesfrench17094 ай бұрын

    This was wonderful. Thank you ❤

  • @lilychapin8793
    @lilychapin8793 Жыл бұрын

    Love this, thank you for sharing!!

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    You’re so welcome and thank you for watching!! 🫶🏻

  • @teddroessler8566
    @teddroessler856611 ай бұрын

    Good talk! I became sober curius 2 years ago. Going on 7 months straight now and realy liking myself this way. I don't think about it other than its just my logical defalt now. Just like smoking! When I see other people smoking my thoughts are "thats realy dumb"! Once you see alcohal that way its a game changer. Never to late for straight. I will be 70 nov 1, 2023. Thanks for putting yourself out there!!! Te:D

  • @fhowland
    @fhowland10 ай бұрын

    About to hit one month with zero booze. Prob haven’t gone this long since my teens. Feel great and down 5 lbs. interesting hearing your journey.

  • @bluepeachwhispers6845
    @bluepeachwhispers6845 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing! I've never been interested in drinking and often get asked why, so it's interesting getting the perspective from someone who used to enjoy it but feel better without it. It's interesting to hear you talk about peer pressure, I suppose I have been used to doing my own thing in other ways so I am fairly comfortable not doing the same as others around me. I totally resonate with what you said about being able to have fun without relying on anything external. I don't like the idea of using a substance as a crutch, and learning to channel our inner power to wonder & play is a really critical skill to enjoy life. Sending hugs!

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    Hell yes to being in your own power and doing whatever YOU want. So key. Thanks for sharing and sending hugs back!!

  • @billmoore1936
    @billmoore1936 Жыл бұрын

    Yes do feel a lot better I have for going on 6 years being Sober keep up the good work think positive day in and day out and you will be fine Bill

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 love you hear it

  • @billmoore1936

    @billmoore1936

    Жыл бұрын

    @@bellasolanot is fantastic I love it Bill

  • @fadrian98
    @fadrian983 ай бұрын

    1.2 years sober this March. I'm just moving at lightning speed.

  • @eyeswideopenpod
    @eyeswideopenpod Жыл бұрын

    I love this! Good for you. I definitely recommend being 'sober curious' and being conscious of what, when, why we consume. I just did a podcast on it too because I found the book "Sober Curious". Have you read it? Sending lots of love and positive vibes! 💖

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    I’ll have to pick up that book! Thanks for sharing :)

  • @vaydastrnad7147
    @vaydastrnad7147 Жыл бұрын

    i'm thinking about quitting cannabis and i've been sober from nicotine for 6 months, i agree that life is a trip and you rlly inspired me

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    Congrats! You can do anything you want my friend. Happy to provide inspiration 🥰

  • @nehxmiah470

    @nehxmiah470

    Жыл бұрын

    same, just took myself for treatment.I also had cannabis and nicotine addiction.

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    @@nehxmiah470 you are amazing thank you for sharing 🥰

  • @nehxmiah470

    @nehxmiah470

    Жыл бұрын

    @Bella Solanot My first day sober, I never thought I would do it willingly. Thank you for sharing your journey. It showed me a new perspective of seeing things one that I had never heard or thought off before.I was on the fence even during treatment, but now I am committed to being sober.A journey of a thousand miles begins with a step.

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    @@nehxmiah470 You’re on a beautiful journey my friend ❤️ I’m sending you all the love and peace. 🙏🏼

  • @kademurphy7824
    @kademurphy7824 Жыл бұрын

    Love the ethereal background music for this video - who is the artist?

  • @bellasolanot

    @bellasolanot

    Жыл бұрын

    Shoot I’m not sure but the music is all from Epidemic sound!

  • @noneofyourbusiness2092
    @noneofyourbusiness2092Ай бұрын

    what's with the giant fence in your yard? It looks 20 feet tall.

  • @xlkarma8446
    @xlkarma844611 ай бұрын

    Inside right now and drinking. Wish I could die. Won’t do anything crazy but death sounds really good right now