Every time I wanna settle, I get dumped or ghosted… God works in very *direct* ways lol

@michele4346

2 жыл бұрын

Me too I’ve felt he is always saying nope not him and you will not settle

@ariannamansaray3011

2 жыл бұрын

No because I’ll literally say God if this isn’t him let him ghost me… and they do💀

@ariannamansaray3011

2 жыл бұрын

His no is protection because who knows what would’ve happened if those things prospered

@tattifatty7421

2 жыл бұрын

Felt

@touchofaugustnaturals

2 жыл бұрын

I understand ♥️🙏🏾 God always have a better plan

I almost settled too! But now I have a man who is beyond my wildest dreams!!! Still amazed at God

@brittanysapology9528

2 жыл бұрын

do tell

@beautifullymade2685

Жыл бұрын

Great testimony!

It wasn’t until I met my husband that I realized I was used to settling in ALL of my romantic relationships lol after my last breakup before by hubby, I realized I was getting closer to God before we met, but that man pulled me away from the progress I was making. Immediately after we broke up the zeal I had for God was reignited and my husband and I met maybe 3 weeks after that relationship ended lol

@withlovebyads

Жыл бұрын

This was so encouraging to read Sis. Thank you ❤🙏🏾

"Where purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable"-Myles Munroe No truer words have been spoken

I almost settled in my full time career as a project manager for a healthcare research company. The work we did was good stuff but it was absolutely a waste of the talents God gave me. I was VERY close to settling there and staying there forever but God made me so uncomfortable there. All of a sudden everything about the company and my role felt wrong. Like I was in a too tight shoe. I prayed and quit a couple months later with no real plan. My life changed dramatically in the next 6 months!!!

@MelodyAlisa

2 жыл бұрын

Okay testimony!! That is awesome Wanga. I love the analogy you used - it felt like a too tight shoe. Such a great way to word that feeling

@tishtash5100

2 жыл бұрын

Going through that rn I walked away from a 5 year career with no real plan. I let go and let God lead me and he's moving in ways that I couldn't even imagine and he's not finished yet. Trust God when he says move do it your obedience is worship.

@Tootsie782009

Жыл бұрын

I’m praying on this right now. From the outside my job looks easy and it pays well but I’m so unhappy. When God blessed me with a job at this company about 4 1/2 years ago, I knew it was Him and I always said “when the assignment is over , He’ll tell me” but since I’m just now reconnecting to Him, I cannot tell if I am supposed to stay or go. I’ve never quit a job without another one but I really don’t know if I’m supposed to stay or if God is stirring my nest. Please pray for me for clarity in Jesus name. Thank you!

It’s crazy how this video popped up when I was thinking about just settling 😩😩😩

@MelodyAlisa

2 жыл бұрын

Won’t He do it!!

@kyasiajohnson633

2 жыл бұрын

Sis you and I both 🙌🏾

@lysialuke936

2 жыл бұрын

I just finished talking to God and I said does it makes sense to wait or just settle and then I found this a second after. Thank you Melody❤

@ariannamansaray3011

2 жыл бұрын

God is GOOD 😩

@h.e.r.inchrist1866

2 жыл бұрын

RIIIIGHT, me too!!!!

So many people are bothered by the word “settle”, but it’s a real thing that so many people do just to be in a relationship or get married. I’m thankful that 1. I now know my worth and 2. Because I know my worth I won’t settle.

This video shows God is ALWAYS on time! I am going through a “break” In a relationship of almost two years that went from perfect to toxic. I love this man with my entire heart and I’ve been EXTREMELY close to marrying him or “settling” in our past and there’s always been a reason why we didn’t. That was God. As hard as it is and as much as I love this man I have to surrender this to God. His plans are greater than mine! Thank you for this video! Right on time!

@ariannamansaray3011

2 жыл бұрын

I was in this same situation a little over a year ago and we would take “ breaks” too I told God the only way Id leave us if I was cheated on … and um yeah he cheated and that’s how I knew God never wanted that for me it is so hard because I was so in love too but when I say what has happened after all of that has changed me for the better! God is faithful

@mphom7629

2 жыл бұрын

Currently going through a break up and I can totally relate to your experience, I truly love this man, but I know that we are just not good for each other and God has someone Godly for me because he knows best! Thank you for sharing 💕

@ana-maria448

2 жыл бұрын

I have been engaged to someone and broke up when I realised I was so depressed and was living in sexual sin. If I was treated well in the beginning and gaslighted, this turned into lies, online cheating etc. I suffered a lot and I still feel the pain, but it's getting better. I have started repairing my relationship with God. God will help us, if we surrender to Him! Amen!

@jaciwright2166

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Ladies for replying and showing me I’m not alone in this. We ended things yesterday and right now feels like the hardest time in my life. But I have to believe in God and trust that this is Him closing doors that he told me to close a long time ago and I didn’t. Some times he has to give us a lil nudge to make us move. I’m believing that greater is coming!

@kelaroberson

2 жыл бұрын

I was in a relationship 12 years, we were really toxic for each other. We almost got married. Something just was telling me no. I was really depressed and unhappy, I was just going to settle because I thought he was the best I would. My heart wants to hang on but my spirit knows better. I love him with all my heart but I think its time to let it go. 1st off Thank you Holy Spirit because this is not the video I clicked on!! Thank you for sharing this!

I didn't realize I was settling in a relationship with a man I thought I'd marry until God blew it up. Looking back at it, Thank God He did!! 🙏🏾 🙌🏾

My last relationship in 2019 led me back to a relationship with God that is like I’ve never had before. While I was heartbroken I am so happy that God pulled me out of a relationship that was turning into idolization. The thought of dating brings me so much anxiety and fear because I’ve made mistakes dating & having been ghosted just about every “relationship” I had.

I had moments where I was going to settle, after a 3 year relationship I tried to go backwards a rekindle things. Listen made a complete mess of things, but God isolated me. During this time I learned to put my faith in God. But I still struggled because I wanted to be in control of my relationships too. I kept praying how I wanted a Godly man, but was entertaining worldly activities myself. It wasn't until I focused on myself, by starting my youtube channel, stopped dating ungodly men, and changed my behavior. God blessed me with meeting my now fiancé. I am so grateful I did not settle, because God knew I truly desired a man who was God fearing.

@HoneyWealthMix

2 жыл бұрын

I resonate strongly with this. I am currently here and this time I am done and back with God. I still have anxiety that I might go back 😢 but God is telling me to just trust Him and hold still for this moment.

@dazzmims

2 жыл бұрын

@@HoneyWealthMix God wants us to rely on Him. We have to submit to His will for our lives. You got this, just Trust in Him because His will & plan is always better than what we can plan for ourselves. May God continue to bless you !

@HoneyWealthMix

2 жыл бұрын

@@dazzmims I believe... thanks a lot ☺.

@stachiano

Жыл бұрын

stunning! so happy for you sis 💕

I almost settle myself, then god gave me 2 dreams about the guy i was talking too and that was the end of it. Because my dreams are usually true.

I almost settled, I asked GOD to show me if this was really the man for me & said man started pulling away & showing his true colors. PRAISE JESUS . I asked & he will always answer!!!

In my last relationship, I was very close to settling. We were together for almost 6 years, lived together for 2.5 years. But I felt that I was sacrificing and compromising more. I literally had a mental breakdown where I was not in safe headspace but once I came back balanced, I felt like all of my concerns were highlighted. He basically gave me an ultimatum about my relationship with God, which made it clear that I needed to walk away. Of course I was heartbroken and considered reconciliation but I was very transparent with my community so that they could support me and help guide me in the right directions. I cried rivers but each drop watered and nourished my faith. God never left me and I’m so thankful for his will to be done and not mine.

Here's my job-related testimony! :D I had just finished college and decided to take a breather - enjoy my life away from lectures, seminar papers and theses for a while. So one month passed, two months, three months... nice and cosy... Fourth post-graduate month passes, fifth, sixth... "Okay, I should seriously look into available internship positions (English as a foreign language teacher)." Nothing. Nowhere. I lived in my small island hometown, so my "local opportunities" were quite limited. I had already mentally prepared for moving out and travelling across the country, subbing here and there, believing that God would hopefully provide a stable working position within a decade or two. Fine. I remember praying tearfully, begging God for direction, a hint, a something...! And I "heard"/sensed the reply: "Do not grieve nor despair... I have a plan!" I could distinctly "hear" how those last words, "I have a plan!", were "uttered" in a high-pitched tone of boyish excitement - as if a little boy grabbed your sleeve and exclaimed that he wanted to show you a bird nest! Or build a tree house! Come on! Come on already! :D And then, I found out that the elementary school on the neighbouring island was looking for an English teacher - a permanent position! Halleluyah! Praise the Lord! This has got to be His Hand at work, because it couldn't get any better! I won't have to move, I can commute every day - 45 min there and back is not much, is it...? Thank you, God, for the Blessing You've provided - for this is miraculously good. Much better than anything I dared hope for... ... Basically, the job advertisement was fixed. They already had somebody in mind, and just had to go through the formal procedure. Great disappointment. However, the experience set me out in a new, different direction, and through a sequence of miraculous events - which wouldn't have taken place without that initial disappointment - I got permanent, full-time teaching position in my small island hometown within 3 years from getting my degree... Truly a miracle. :) And it greatly strengthened my trust in the Lord. :)

Ladies Trust GOD he knows the past the present and the future of what we don’t know could happen for the best if we listen 👂 or the worse if we don’t 🎧 listen

I almost settled by marrying a narcissist BUT God! Literally giving your all to God and watch how He’ll amaze you with that One you’re supposed to be with!

This video encouraged me not to settle. Recently I've been worrying about passing on a potential relationship because it wasn't what I wanted but worried that it may be the "best" option. Just reminds me that God truly cares about our concerns even when they seem small to us. ❤

@ariannamansaray3011

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN!!!! I used to think God would just pair me with someone I wouldn’t even feel strongly for but they’d be good for me but that is so not true He will give you your hearts desires and ten fold

@tabbylathan

2 жыл бұрын

Right there with you 🙋🏽‍♀️ You’ll find yourself almost considering the option because it’s “slim picking”. But thank God for the confirmation that you are SET APART for a reason. And you must remain TRUE to your identity in order to receive what GOD HAS for you, not what society tells you.

@christalokeke4815

Жыл бұрын

Amen ❤

I was praying about this a lot lol. So God showed me my purpose earlier this year around January. I knew what I needed to do and how it was going to happen. The issue was my job. I was working at a bank (was because my last day was this past Friday). The schedule is so stick that it was close to impossible to get anything done for me going back to school. I was praying asking God what to do. I couldn’t afford to remain in my apartment and pay my bills without this job BUT the same job was getting in the way of my purpose. I prayed for about a week and fasted with just water for about two days during. I then talked to my family about it. God snapped me out of it by reminding me that my purpose is more important than anything else. I have an assignment and anything standing in the way of that has to move whether it be people circumstances or things. My partners offered to not only let me stay with them but also help me move until I start school. Everything as far as the transition was so simple and smooth I just knew this was Gods way of showing me that He is in control

I'm currently in a relationship where I feel like I'm settling. However, I've been so afraid to fully let it go because he's a "good person" and he loves me. & here is God, in His own perfect and divine way, reminding me yet AGAIN that I have to let this go. Especially, if I want His best for me.

@ughnotuagainughnotuagain4275

2 жыл бұрын

I resonate with this. He hasn't done anything wrong or displayed visible red flags and so it feels wrong to break it off. I was there 2 years ago and boy do I wish I broke it off when it started. God will be speaking to you a lot during this time. Make sure your ears are open and don't allow yourself to be deceived by your heart and the possibility of what could be. Also, there are a lot of good people but is being a good person all that you require from a potential LIFE long partner? Food for thought.

@nataliahernandez843

10 ай бұрын

My heart feels so much peace reading these two comments. I've been feeling so destroyed because he was a "nice man" and my heart and spirit couldn't love him the way I thought I should've.

I reached a point recently where I felt tired of not having much dating experience beyond my teen years. I’ve never dated as an adult. After my hs boyfriend and I broke up in college I’d never had a relationship since. And that was 4 yrs ago, so I just felt trapped and wanted to jump out in these dating streets and even sleep around to see what I like. I’m a virgin and that’s when the Lord reminded me through a friend that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Stay hopeful that the Lord will provide a spouse for me in due season without experiencing some of the headaches he has in the dating streets. Sex has lost meaning to him bc he’s slept around and he’s trying to get right with the Lord himself. He shared his experience because he didn’t want me to go through that. God sent him to remind me to stay focused on Him, It was truly divine intervention. 🙏🏽 Anyways sis, thanks for sharing ur testimony I LOVE ur channel! ❤️❤️

@MelodyAlisa

2 жыл бұрын

Phew!! God is good with that on-time wake up call from your friend and that fact that you were obedient too 👏🏾👏🏾 God’s best is in its way in Jesus name!

@tabbylathan

2 жыл бұрын

I know the feeling🙋🏽‍♀️ dating that 1 person since after high school and haven’t been with anyone since. No experience dating in your adult life, not sexually active and trying to abstinence till marriage but society will have you thinking something is wrong with you. But You are set apart for a reason and have to remain true to who you are. Lord knows it doesn’t feel easy as you get older and find yourself in your 30’s but I believe it’ll be worth the wait 🙏🏽

They say that when God says yes there's a certain peace that comes with making the decision to be with someone. And baby, when I tell you that I had so much anxiety and inner turmoil about saying yes to this person 🤣😂. And I was stubborn too. I was waiting for him to act right (for our first date to be specific). Thinking that it would make everything worth it. But I couldn't wait that long. 😂 Best decision I made.

This was me in my last relationship. It was sooo close to what I wanted and I could have settled because they were a great person but our fundamental beliefs in God just didn’t match. Everything else was pretty much perfect but I knew it wasn’t Gods best for me. It did give me hope though that it is out there. So now I’m just waiting for who God has for me!

@tabbylathan

2 жыл бұрын

OMG this is me right now. Everything is perfect, their ready to protect, provide and pursue 💍. Any other woman would be thrilled to have him but his beliefs system and prospective on God would cause you to be out of align with God’s will for your life. Very hopeful though , Good men are out there🙏🏽 just this one isn’t for me.

I was so in love with my ex and I thought that I was gonna marry him and it was so hard getting over him because he was my first love & my first relationship. & I was so broken & just wanted someone to love me and I didn’t see any of the red flags (the guy himself wasn’t a bad guy we were both just two broken people) & now I just thank God that he saw/sees things that we don’t see and i’m just so glad His Holy Spirit didn’t allow me to settle and slowly but surely started to draw me closer to Him and away from that relationship ♥️

@ToNGa16WoNGa2010

2 жыл бұрын

@R. Scott amen! ♥️

I met someone who was almost everything on my mental list of desire... Christian and everything however he didn't believe in waiting until marriage....guy was saying he plans to start having kids by next year and he wants a wife not just a woman to have his kids with but a whole family but I had to hold firmly unto God because after I broke it off(no we didn't have sex) he texted me like two days after stating that being around me showed that he isn't ready for a relationship and needs to heal from past hurt or whatever....had I give in and gave him sex he wouldn't have realized that though.... he tried to manipulate me because he knew my desire to get married n have kids....but God is my strength n I pray only to him... so I will continue to wait.

“i hope they get everything that they’re looking for and that i know that i will in Christ Jesus” “i knew what i was looking for and i knew that sticking with Christ Jesus i was going to get that” 🦋💕🥺

Girl yes literally just happened to me! That confusion and in circles. It's been 3 weeks and I'm done with that

Yikes! I'm only 6:40 in and this is screaming confirmation at me and felt to the core! Wow Lord! 😥🙏🙏

I love it! God just snatched me out of a relationship I knew was not His will. I am grateful for His grace because that would have been a very toxic relationship. I can't wait to experience the purposeful relationship/marriage God has for me. I will continue to wait and not settle.

I almost settled yesterday. Then I went to Bible study. After I left I texted the guy that I simply did not see us having a future. This morning I almost called him to take back my words. But thank God he didn’t answer the call or my text me back. Then God helped me come in contact with this video. I really want to get a hold of my sexual immortality and I really do need accountability. It’s been rough without guidance , transparent community, and a belief in the word. Thank you for your courage and your walk with God! I really needed to hear this.

Soooo good! All these topics! I remember when I almost settled in a romantic relationship that was completely opposite of where God told me to go and I almost missed it! He woke me up many times to try to get through to me. One of my closest friends passed away, job lost, family members at war w/each other. All around me was a mess! Until I surrendered to God for backsliding and re-dedicated my to Jesus. That is when my life turned around for his glory!

I almost settled. At the time, I was in a season where I was very distant from God. The guy proposed and I wanted to say yes but I said no instead. He changed and acted way out of character, I guess I could say, his true self was coming out. At the time, I had no solid reason as to why I said no, I just knew in my gut that I couldn’t do it. but looking back, it was definitely God!! Haven’t found anyone yet, but I have faith that God will lead me to the right one. For now, I’m repairing my relationship with God and being as obedient as possible.

Hi Melody, and Hi Ladies. First thing first, thank you for sharing your experiences with us on this beautiful platform Miss Melody, it feels so comforting knowing that some of the struggles we face, that someone has been through it and can give guidance and remind us that it gets better with God, it definitely gives a sense of belonging, it also goes to show that God is alive and working on our behalf, ALL THE TIME. Here goes my story. I recently (2 weeks ago) broke up with a guy that I've dated for the past 3 years, I really thought he was "the one". What happened was that, I realised that he wasn't as honestly loving and generous to me as I was to him, i.e. in the three years we've been together, I have never received a gift from him,( only roses one time when he met my mom) and mind you, I am someone whose love language is gift giving, (I grew up in a family that takes gift giving as something serious, especially on very special occasions but it wasn't only limited to that.) I had previously addressed this to him, multiple times, and it bothered me because I made it clear to him that this is how I want to be shown love, not only through speaking about it, but through actually buying and making him gifts as well, I went all out hoping he'd do the same, and I further told him that it doesn't make me materialistic (he thought i was being materialistic), for me it is mainly about the thought behind the gift, the gesture of it all, bought or made, it really doesn't matter. Mind you, I had gone above and beyond to show him that I was all in, I even did things I wasn't really comfortable with just so I could "PROVE" to him that I was all in, I was basically honouring his love languages, but it was one sided. After addressing this recently, he told me that my standards are something he *didn't want to* live up to, and so I asked myself "what am I doing with him? If anything, I was dropping my standards for him. So, I broke up with him, but we still kept contact, and then when I asked why he let me go so easily, he told me that I'm not what he wants in his life right now. I was shattered!!!! After everything in all those years!! I am still recovering btw because, in my head, we were a forever thing, so I really think God had to forcefully get me out of that relationship, because I remember praying a few weeks before that breakup, and I asked God to remove everything and everyone who was not adding to my growth in Him and my growth into the woman that He is moulding me into. And let me tell y'all, I've been in a period of intense solitude since that prayer. I think my main issue was that I was so deeply attached to him because he was my first real bf, and I really overlooked a lot of the red flags because of that. Also, I wasn't in pursuit of God as much as I am now, so things have definitely changed. Just like you, I know I will get what I want, matter of fact, I know God has so much more in store for me, more than I caould ever ask or imagine! Glory to God forever and always. Amen.

I just recently almost settled but God‼️ 🙌🏼🙌🏼

Without a doubt, these are my favorite version of Melodys videos. Just sitting down and chatting with her viewers. Feels like im right across from her in real life- connecting.

I'm in the space of confusion (God doesn't operate in confusion so that should be my answer) because I was talking to a guy and we're on a break now. But he couldn't make time to spend time. I made time to spend with him but every time we made plans, something would mysteriously happen with his daughter. I have a child too, so in the beginning I understood. But it started to be a constant thing every time we had plans. I just truly want to be in alignment with God, I don't want to go backwards but I also don't want to continue to hold on to someone is isn't my someone. Even though we're on a break we rarely speak if we speak at all, I just keep having this thought that maybe we aren't meant to be together and I'm perfectly fine with that!

@rm5916

2 жыл бұрын

He’s in a whole relationship sis! Sorry to tell you… he’s not the one for you. You’ll be happier moving on and finding the one that makes time for you! Be blessed

I was just contemplating if I should leave my current boyfriend,he’s not bad but there are some things that he does that I don’t like.I’m thinking that what if he’s the one for me?but this vid just confirmed that my person will do everything right and I won’t have to beg for the bare minimum

I was happily single until much recently when I met a certain fellow who told me he was convicted to marry me. I told him no even before really considering because while I thought he was a good person, I wanted to be single. But after praying and fasting about it, I heard the Holy Spirit say yes to Him. I didn't want to, but I had to obey God. We started dating and it activated some ancestral generational demons on my side. I come from a broken family so broken relationships are common. It caused a lot of fights between us (no abuse whatsoever happened here). Then, after three weeks, with his help, I casted the demon out. But now, this fellow is saying the three weeks has stressed him out so much he's not that sure about marrying into my broken family anymore. He's drawing away and claiming that he needs to pray to determine if he wants to pursue this. I find this surprising because this was less than a month of demonic attacks, and before I said yes, I was clear on the kind of family I came from and he still claimed he was fine with it. He has not reached out in almost 24 hours now so I'm praying and fasting for direction. I know I made a mistake with him but I also know God can be trusted and I look forward to God coming through in my dark hour.

Yes I too was going to settle until I learned that every one has an assigned husband and an assigned wife for every one ☝️ I learned this through t d Jakes preaching in When two agree or agreement of two So I then asked God who my assigned husband is and he told me his name I asked I think three more times lol because the name he gave me I was in AWE and still is We have not came together as of marriage yet it’s actually a book 📖 as for now I would just agree BUT GOD AMEN 🙏😘♥️😘

Oh my goodness, this video came right on time, I'm going through a breakup and as much I love him, I knew I would be setting, but God showed me that this is not His best and I should trust Him. I'm at peace knowing God knows best, peace I have never felt during the relationship. Thank you for sharing, truly inspiring 🤍

Can you please kindly do a video about what Christian should look for in a relationship before moving into marriage

I came across your videos when I started searching for the daniel fast back in December & I have been a subscriber since then. I just want to let you know, I admire your work, your will and love for God. It is a breath of fresh air to find positive people on KZread like yourself. I appreciate all you do for us! I signed up for the prayer prompts! 🙏 been looking for a Bible study to join. ❤❤

@MelodyAlisa

2 жыл бұрын

So happy to have you here Haley!! I hope you enjoy the journal prompts!

I wrote in details what I want in my partner this morning and this evening I'm seeing this ,it can only be God

Right on time 🥰

@MelodyAlisa

2 жыл бұрын

🙌🏾🙌🏾

@ariannamansaray3011

2 жыл бұрын

No literally! It’s been hard out here

@averiasmith6231

2 жыл бұрын

@@ariannamansaray3011 right

This is so on time. Made me so emotional. Thank you Melody. You are such a blessing to us.

@MelodyAlisa

2 жыл бұрын

♥️♥️♥️

Thank you for sharing your story with us. I found it encouraging. I am currently going through a really difficult breakup from someone that i saw myself doing life with, but we later found out we both would be settling by moving forward together and had to break things up. God has just been very intentional about me. I prayed for months before i got undeniable clarity, although it has been difficult but Im surrendering all to him. And now i’m just in a place of isolation while trying to get over the loss. I know God will bring the best to me so I don’t even wanna waste my time kissing any more frogs. Allowing God reveal himself to me more during this period and just taking in all the various confirmations He has been sending my way to let me know that he is here with me.

This definitely was a right on time message for me. Blessings to you for being a vessel. I will be looking forward to being apart of the membership.

When I want to give up and go with my flesh, my community that God has put in my life really helps me to change my perspective and have hope again that God is in control and I am not forgotten by God or set aside. I have prayed for this community for years, these people have been in my life for more than a decade almost 2 decades ( I’m 25) but I had trouble seeing who they were but God open and soften my heart to be vulnerable and in doing so I am now walking in the community I’ve been desiring. Thank you Jesus Christ.

Oh my goodness! I almost got married to this guy that I thought at first was my person but God. I am back in the waiting season but this time around my focus is on God and starting a podcast soon! Thank you for your video.

Thank you! I didn’t even think of that perspective of God was showing you with you could get and was giving you hope of what you wanted was out there. I am trying to get over the man that I felt was my dream man and I never met anyone like him before and I feel like I’m not going to and its made me kinda feel like, why would God show me everything I ever wanted existed if I can’t have it? But I love your perspective on it

Thank you so much for sharing! It confirms that i am exactly where i need to be! :) I would definitely say i am thankful that i did not settle in the relationships department. I broke up with my ex 8 years ago and i have remained single since then. Although i have not met my husband yet...The growth and lessons i have experienced have been amazing! Living fully in abstinence has definitely been a challenge when dating but the blessing has been (like u mentioned)...God would not send me a mate that did not honor that. So sis will not be settling no matter how long i have to wait i know that God will grace me through it. God bless you and your family! :)

amazing video...I thank God i have not settled...even when things get hard. Thank you for sharing...Lord thank you for guiding me and helping me not to settle.

This is so me! I want to give God everything but picking my spouse lol I am so afraid because of other ppls experiences with the ppl God partnered them with and some are so miserable in the marriage. The idea I had was if God gives you a spouse it would work out. Not that it would be perfect but everyone would be happy in the relationship.

@deebestest100

2 жыл бұрын

You know, some people say God gave them their husband and God didn’t. Maybe they heard something else, they convinced themselves, or they think God did but He didn’t. I know there are people who get “confirmation” from church members about their spouse, get married to each other and it becomes hot trash. The other thing is even when God aligns something, we all have free will and our partner can choose to be something else and not what God called them to be. There will always be a risk because we live in a fallen world, in my opinion. If a partner changes and the marriage becomes unhappy, doesn’t make God any less God. It just proves that we really are flesh and blood and we are imperfect beings. Marriage is a covenant we should keep for sure. But some of us may not keep the covenant just because we can Or because we don’t want to.

@zipporah8830

2 жыл бұрын

@@deebestest100 You are so right!

Any time I talk to a guy it just ends lol I think God is protecting me from settling. I just wish I knew who or what He is making me wait for.

@oneof7billion627

2 жыл бұрын

You are truly NOT alone🙏👏🙇‍♀️

I made the decision to not settle just last night. Familiarity and just want I’ve seen has kept me in relationships God wanted to end. Thank you so much for sharing!

Woow this is just so lovely to hear... I feel like if I ever share my story it will be what God can do after you settle.....Thank you for sharing and being transparent ❤️🙏🏽

Just read your description box and you're right about setting being real in Christian relationships. I'm glad to have you share your experience with us!❤

Bless you. This is something I am sharing with both my daughters. This is a topic that needs to be discussed.

This video came right on time...I recently left a situationship we were dating, but not in a relationship we were working towards that step but we realized after a month of dating, communication and time together was beginning to become less and distant. He was quite mature overall and quite understanding when we met up to talk about what was happening. He stated that he wants to be in a relationship but right now because of his job/work he wants to be able to provide the time to put into a relationship. There were a couple other things and no one is perfect but as I have been dating I am beginning to realize when some people aren't the one. Now I will do whatever I can to make things work because a relationship does take work but I also have to realize what am I compromising and how much am I compromising that may interfere with myself individually and my relationship with Christ. I just joined the For His Glory group in the link.

I needed this video.so hard surrendering I have been struggling in this area.

U have no idea this is my story I having met my husband yet but I just text and said what u Ssid abd during the short time of dating before I ever met him I heard the Lord say don't settle had no idea till I met this guy and broke it off it happened in Feb so I'm in waiting as I call it thank you for sharing 🙏🏽🦋

So my name is N’Dea and this video was a great discussion. I could say for myself I was this type of close 👌🏾 to settling with a toxic marriage. I was engaged for a few months while I got pregnant and once after my bay came a few months later the engagement broke off because of the arguing and screaming we went through, the lies, the cheating, the manipulation, we both were toxic and God had to break me up from that and release me. So I’m free and it’s been a year since we split so I’m single and waiting for my kingdom spouse and learning not to settle again

@MelodyAlisa

2 жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing!! this is going to encourage someone who might be going through the same thing right now! God's best is on its way, no doubt about it!

You are always in sync with my life.. i don't know how it happens but every time your videos are spot on with what will be happening. From the Daniel fast video to date you are always on point with me. Love u Mel. My guardian angel.😚

Needed to see this video right now. Thank you 💛

Thank you melody you spoke to my spirit

Thank you so much for your transparency ❤

Melody this video was so on time for me. Watching your videos and listening to you share your experiences are so much more helpful than you may know. So grateful for your channel 🥺🤍

This feels like my story!!! Thank you God for this hope 😊

I really need all of this especially the community I have isolated myself

Hi hi! I absolutely loved this episode. Could you go more into how to surrender your love life to God? I definitely need to do so, but idk how! Do you have any practical ways that you’ve done this?

I’m waiting at the right one.

Thank you for sharing your story. It seems very similar to what I’m going through right now. I could feel the change happening in his heart when I dating a particular guy. He was wonderful. However, I received confirmation that God was still working on me. So I am just trusting that everything will work out the way it’s supposed to. Your story brings me hope

@MelodyAlisa

2 жыл бұрын

It most certainly will sis!! Stay encouraged ♥️♥️

Such an encouraging video…thank you so much for being so transparent.

Random: I got that same headband at Target 🥰 loving this series 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

Really grateful to have found your channel as a young woman! It’s definitely helped me a lot in my journey! Much love to you and yours ❤️🥰!

When I tell you this was me 🤣God you can have it ALL but this relationship ! Word for word

Very encouraging video, everything you just stated regarding the previous male is what I have recently experienced. I believe God has my person, I just know when. X

Whewww the Lord is really using you, this is right on time.

Thank you so much for sharing this encouraging testimony with us! Thanks for your honesty - You’re such a blessing!

Such a good word 🥰 I ask for encouragement because I'm having a change in my desires in regards to what I want in a husband. For the last 6 years i knew exactly what i wanted and felt like it was God's will. But now that I started entering the mission field, my heart is being geared toward another place. This is aside from a Christian man if God cause obviously that's a must. But I'm struggling with small grief and discomfort like I feel like I'm being separated from who I was and who I felt God was leading me to have. And now I'm experiencing a change in my preferences and I'm more content with the new preferences than the old. Even though God gives us the desires of our hearts, I feel as though I'm gonna be forced to like what I dont want (even though God knows best) 😅😅 I feel like a mess, but my interests are very special to me in all areas of my life. I have a hard time coping when they change , as strange as it may sound

Well! This is an eye-opener 🥺

Thk you so much for this video. Came at the right moment in my life. Ive always thought that doing the right thing will give me the desires of my heart but im left with ntg that I truly want…

I love this so much. Thank you for sharing and reflecting, gives so much hope and redirection.

Right on time thank you for this insight !

How do you really surrender your dating life to God? Everything else but that because if I have control it can maybe happen… if God has control it may not happen. Sometimes I really feel angry that it’s not happened yet. I know I have other things that have happened but it’s not enough. I’m just tired of trusting

I’m currently in college and although I believe in dating around, I REFUSE to settle for less than what I deserve because I’m young. Not saying I need to try and marry somebody in college, but I’ll only go for someone that is worth my time as much as I am worth theirs. I however am working on myself for ME right now (including building my faith).

Wow, thank you! Praise God! 🥹🙏🏽❤️

Honestly, I think (or I wonder) the season I am in now is the one I will know at the end or at some point if I am settling in my current relationship or if it is what God intended for me. Please pray for me

This was an absolute blessing. So real.. right on time! Thank you for your transparency! God bless you❤️ much love from the Cayman Islands

Love your vids! God bless you❤️

This was so inspiring and on time. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

Thank you for sharing! I really needed to hear this video 🤎

I’m grateful I watched this video. Totally relates to my current situation and that gives me hope.

Can you do a video on what to look for as a Christian when dating someone

You encouraged me not to settle

How timely! Thank you sis for all that you do💕. Your testimonies gives hope.

Thank you for sharing. This was super encouraging!

Hi Melody, I hope this finds you well. I’m a South African living in the US. I’m in an abusive relationship with no way out because I do not have papers as my husband refuses to help me get a green card. We have a 4 month old baby together which makes it even more difficult to leave because he can take my baby away based on the fact that they are both US citizens and I am not. I have been dealing with abuse since we got married and I need help. I am asking anyone I can for financial help to get an attorney to get the ball rolling on my vawa case (violence against women). As I’m sure you get a lot of texts I can assure you I am not comfortable writing this, and am not trying to pull a prank of any sort. You hear from God, I pray God reveal the depth of my situation to your heart. Thank you for your encouraging content.

@rebekahkingbello9560

2 жыл бұрын

I suggest checking for pro bono attorneys in your area. Google is a good start. There may also be community organizations that provide support especially given abuse in the relationship. Good luck!

@dominiquehaines

2 жыл бұрын

@@rebekahkingbello9560 hi Rebekah, I have searched and contacted pro bono firms in my state and to no avail. They do not respond

@rm5916

2 жыл бұрын

Call the domestic violence hotline and they will assist you. You might need to move to get away from him.

Appreciate this video, Beautiful stuff🙂

Thank you for sharing this with us🙏. That is a message that I really needed.