I am very grateful for this video. I am 25 and my wife is pregnant with our first child and I am working an entry level job as she goes through school. I am not making enough money for us to do anything out side of rent and groceries, and it frustrates me seeing my peers buying houses and graduating with their own degrees. It is helpful to know that we will be ok in the long run and I do not need to stress on getting our dream house now.

@tyedyecowboy311

Ай бұрын

You’ll be alright bro. Enjoy the ride!

@robertjensen1438

Ай бұрын

Congratulations on being a dad! Don't be in a rush financially. It works out with time.

@BDD-

Ай бұрын

You’re on the right path. If you don’t have your heart and mind set on a career I’d suggest learning a trade. It pays well and the skills learned will save you money as a homeowner.

@wesleylooper7726

Ай бұрын

I feel ya, brother. Hold your head high, you’re doing great!

@heythere4970

Ай бұрын

School is a huge sacrifice for the future. Just make sure her degree is worth it. Struggle for these few years and you'll be better off in the long run.

“If you can’t take a full day off from work, you’re idolizing work.” Wow. That is truly profound. Thank you for this video. This is something I’ve struggled with for years.

@TheSuperpunk92

Ай бұрын

Agreed

@fishmonger7020

Ай бұрын

⁠@templarknight206What kind of “job” do you have? Does it involve a cubicle? Or remote work?…

@user-yq7xf2ss6e

Ай бұрын

If you notice a lot of these hustle culture preachers don't have wives

@mattkosakowski7582

Ай бұрын

@@user-yq7xf2ss6e Exactly. Many "hustle culture" types are single young people living in/near urban areas like Boston, Austin, NYC, and Seattle. They're well educated in engineering or the sciences and very talented. They can take advantage of the many opportunities in tech companies and startups that these areas offer (yes, these places also have their downsides). They have the good health of youth so insurance is less of a concern. But, not everyone is like that or wants to live such a lifestyle. Hustle culture doesn't always fit the typical middle aged, middle America average family folks.

@Isaiah-ft5nx

Ай бұрын

Or you can’t afford to pay your bills if you miss a day?… I’d love to have a day off when I need it. I had to take my only vacation for the year just to catch up on work in my other job! Money doesn’t grow on trees.

Hustle culture often glorifies overwork and neglects crucial aspects of life like family and mental health.

@unknowndriver6652

Ай бұрын

Tell me that

I'm 71, retired after a 41 years career in healthcare. Achieved financial freedom. Raised 6 children, some successfully and some not so much. Pretty healthy and active. If not for prayer and Bible study and the hard words of faithful friends I would not be here. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Lots of potholes and detours but God was faithful to me.

@doug2993

Ай бұрын

Amen

@daveaver2804

Ай бұрын

Feel exactly the same way at 60. Faith and family gets you through all (good/bad).

Take it from me. I’m a cancer researcher so I always make the excuse that the disease doesn’t stop so neither do I. I took maybe 1 vacation in the last 3 years and I crashed hard this spring. Called in to work from burnout and now I’m on head meds and it was killing my wife to watch me do it. Take time off and appreciate the world and the life the Lord has made for us. There’s more to life than the grind.

@sorrysirmygunisoneba

Ай бұрын

You will be more of an expert than me but I watched a video on YT where someone gave a lecture that people in high paced and highly stressful jobs, the ones who always put everyone else first and never stopped were more prone to developing cancer due to the stress on the mind on the body. What’s your opinion on that?

@unknowndriver6652

Ай бұрын

Im proud of you and you should be proud of yoursef too you are fighting for a good cause and no for money.. we need more people like you and less money seekers

I retired from being a Soldier. My wife and I decided we didn’t want someone else raising our child because we were “hustling.” I became a stay at home dad. I’m not important now. Except for the people who matter most. I would not change a thing. It is the best decision I ever made.

@fishmonger7020

Ай бұрын

My wife and I made the same decision. She makes too much. I say leave the cubicles and paperwork to the ladies.

@TheReal_JohnDoeSmith

Ай бұрын

I appreciate you sir. For the sake of sanity and family service

@sinfulyetsaved

Ай бұрын

For now until she meets a alpha at her work...how old are you? I'm 42 pretty sure I have a lot more experience than you bro. Thay Beta stuff don't work

@untilvalhalla7854

Ай бұрын

@@sinfulyetsaved You’re spending way too much time on Andrew Tate 🐂 💩. And you have no idea who I am. I spent all of my adult life as a Soldier all over the world. I have lived my life with warriors. I probably still do more than you ever will. I’m nearing 60 and will roll with dudes 20-30+ years younger than me and handle myself just fine. I live my life as quietly and as peacefully as I can. I enjoy the beauty around me. But I cannot abide thugs and bullies. I’m ready to go if that is what is called for. My wife knows this. She and my child are what civilize me. She doesn’t have to push me. She restrains me. To a point. The modern internet definition of an “alpha” is what we used to call a 🐈. “Alpha” my ass. 🤣

@maxb4210

Ай бұрын

⁠​⁠@@sinfulyetsavedThat’s some 12 year old insecure clown shit right there, I doubt retired military man’s got much to worry about from you. At 42, I’d be embarrassed if I said that stuff out loud

My first day on patrol as a LEO I’ll never forget what my Sgt told me. He said, “look man you’re young. Don’t do what I did. I married this job, and for what? I have nothing to show for it. I’m 45, no wife, no kids. Yea everyone knows me at work, im a great officer but it wasn’t worth it. Put your work in but always take care of yourself and family. This job will eat you up and spit you right back out”.

I am a firefighter. I’ve been at it for 17 years. I used to be very heavily involved in all of the cadres, committees, and extra curricular events. It helped my reputation but didn’t necessarily make me a better fireman. I finally came to realize that the department I work for is a big machine that doesn’t necessarily need me to be every part, and that it will be just fine without my presence. I have been way more engaged with my home life and that is what I truly care about.

@ethanlareau3970

Ай бұрын

I just wrote a very similar comment. Best wishes to you in your career and in maintaining the balance that will keep you healthy. It’s humbling to finally realize that the world will survive without our help. God and family first!

@HolyWarriorPrincess222

Ай бұрын

I honor you for the decision to be with family! Thank you for your service sir!

I'm 26. Former military. Working a good job and going to college. I've been feeling really depressed and burned out lately. It helped to hear this.

@HolyWarriorPrincess222

Ай бұрын

Proud of you! Seek first the Kingdom of God… and all else literally WILLLL be added. Start your day with God… reading the Word… and worship that activates your heart… guitar or whatever your taste… there’s worship for it… long as it’s glorifying Jesus and reminding you Who He is!

I don't have the work, family, faith life perfectly balanced yet but my life has turned around completely following our King Jesus. I ain't saying I got it right ( yet), but I'm committed to getting it right!

@ronb6313

Ай бұрын

I am 57 and I never knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. But I tried a lot of different jobs, thinking if I could just make enough money, I could be happier. But now since I have given it all up to God, I realized He has been taking care of all the things I needed and quenched the things that I thought I wanted. I live life day by day knowing that He will get me there, meaning Heaven, this world is not my home as a Christ follower. Jesus is coming back, soon, to straighten this world out.

@Spartan-Of-Truth

Ай бұрын

Same.

@nmr6988

Ай бұрын

The Lord is so good!

@DudeSweet072

Ай бұрын

Nice

I fell into the trap of Hustle Culture and it almost cost me my marriage. I was extremely accomplished physically, professionally, even socially....left my wife behind and it is only by the Grace and Mercy of God that we were able to stay together.

@sinfulyetsaved

Ай бұрын

Smh... if u have all that a good woman will be less likely to leave if you are at the other end of the spectrum most women will monkey branch..

@Craigipo

Ай бұрын

If you were broke the marriage would have ended.

Balance is key in every aspect of life. The Lord will lead you by your heart is you’re open to it

@bobbyberry5559

Ай бұрын

"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. Who can know it?" Jeremiah 17:9

@bobbyberry5559

Ай бұрын

Listening to the heart is dangerous af. It doesn't know logic. Listen to His Law and His Word.

@wesleylooper7726

Ай бұрын

@@bobbyberry5559 Proverbs 7:1-3; Deuteronomy 11:18-21; Proverbs 3:3-6 I can keep going but I’m sure you get the point now.

@wesleylooper7726

Ай бұрын

@@bobbyberry5559 Hebrews 8:10 in case you wanted to cite I was using a covenant prior to our current dispensation at the moment.

As men, “providing” for our families has a multifactorial meaning. Thank you for reminding us of a balanced approach to these tasks.

I'm 51 and I've traveled all over the USA in 1st class as a consultant for the past 13 years. My body is DESTROYED! You cannot keep up your marriage, being a good father, working out, and hustling at work non-stop. Something will be neglected and for me it was sleep and now my joints are all shot. Thank God for my Bible! Love you all! God bless! Stay frosty and BALANCE your life!

@TheInfantry98

Ай бұрын

Lmfaooo how is your body broken from sitting on your ass behind a desk your whole life ?

@davidhowell7901

Ай бұрын

​@@stevexracer4309 Thankful you're alive, Steve.👍

@Native_love

Ай бұрын

@@stevexracer4309 LOL! Good for you!

@Jack-jp6ki

Ай бұрын

You can restore your health like others have at your age. 😉

Amen. High school teacher for 38 years. In my early years I was a coach, youth group leader, Deacon, scout leader (two different groups at one time) worship team leader and anything else that came along. I felt great. Everyone loved me. But I almost lost my family. It’s not worth it. God first, family second everything else…

I whole heartedly agree with this. The book of Ecclesiastes is a short read yet sheds so much truth on perspective of life. It says alot about the vanity in laboring too much. "Every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God.". Work is a living, but it becomes a problem when you can't stop to enjoy the good that comes from it, a home, a wife, family, friends, a hobby if you can. Those good things are a gift from God and shouldn't be wasted. Learn how to enjoy them. "He that loveth silver shall not be satisfied with silver; nor he that loveth abundance with increase: this is also vanity.".

Totally agree. I'm 38 and work in a fast paced industry. Everybody wants everything right now. I'm pushed to work extra constantly but I draw the boundaries needed to spend time with my family and have time to be not at work. Several years ago I had a side hustle and burned out. My wife felt like I wasn't around. I don't do that anymore. Thanks for this reminder!

“A successful man isn’t so singularly minded” that’s very helpful sir. Thanks for addressing this subject, and pointing out the way one should go.

I wish more people realized all this. Burnout is real.

This was me until two months ago. i was so busy grinding work and other stuff that i put my family on the back burner kinda. And it took my wife telling me she felt lonely one day we were out doing stuff, and i was like, im right here. That's when i just paused and looked at myself saying nope this is not the way. Changed and made a priority to balance work,play, life better, and I've seen my life get better by leaps and bounds.

Put god first and when your solid with him the rest will follow. It worked for me. God bless

Not to be rude or anything…but hustle culture actually SAVED my life! I love it! Love your channel, keep it up! 🤘😎

I failed at the husband and father aspect because I was chasing that "work hard and long" pipe dream. I thought that is what it took to provide for my family. While financially I was able to, I ended up neglecting my family. Hindsight I see where I screwed up, but now it is a little too late. So, please find that balance before it is too late.

Needed this. Praise god. I’ve had 3 weekends off this year.. I’m 40, never married and no kids.. God told me this yesterday and this morning I’m watching this video. Not a coincidence. “Fools gold”. Totally get it. My Bible time is suffering and so am I. Thank you John for your obedience to god.

After reading “Defenders of the West” I would love to hear your opinion on the silent jihad that is occurring in our country. A conversation between you and Raymond Ibrahim would be very timely. Stay blessed my friend and please continue doing what you do!

While it's crucial to strive for success, burnout and neglecting other aspects of life can lead to disaster.

As a car salesman, I definitely have gotten to a point where I feel that work has been the priority. Today is the first day that I’ve worn regular clothes and not my everyday uniform. When it gets to that point, you have to take a long look in the mirror, get off your phone, and be present with yourself, family and God. I really appreciate this channel. Thank you

I swear, John has the best takes, it’s honestly very refreshing.

Chasing the elusive will eventually end in confusion and disillusionment. Do the right thing, period. Enjoy life and all it has to offer, with a focus on "Do The Right Thing". Strength comes from a strong belief in God and Family. Just remember in life you have to opportunity to, make money and get things, but those will always deuterate and fail. Relationships built on love and strength, with compassion and understanding of Family and their needs, those will last a lifetime. Those bonds are what is important.

Needed this today. While I’m in very great shape relative to my whole life - much stronger than I ever was in the military - I feel like a failure or slob when I can’t get to the gym to get a workout in. Recently I have found a great deal of fulfillment prioritizing my wife and kids during days off work because of hardened role models like you professing the importance of balance

"If you can’t take a full day off from work, you’re idolizing work." That's a great sentiment, bu unrealistic for much of the rank-and-file. There are many companies out there that will fire-at-will for taking "too much" time off. Such employees are under constant threat of losing their jobs and don't dare take their eyes of the ball. Fire-at-will means no justification is needed to get rid of folks. Sure, legal action can be attempted, if affordable, and if someone wants to go up against the often large law corporate law firms. The cold truth and flip side is that the management of such companies often identify as conservative republicans. Capitalism is a great system that delivers benefits to society but it means profit over all else. If management's bonuses are tied to cost reductions, and layoffs are a quick way to do so, guess what? All of the charity and kindness they claim as Christians goes right out the window. We who served often forget that the military is socialist in the way it delivers healthcare, housing, and other entitlements to the warfighters and their families. You can certainly get fired from a position but unless you did something criminal or unethical, you'll get another assignment and continue to get paid as well as receive benefits. I'm not claiming that is good for society as a whole but it creates an unrealistic mindset.

Been there. Done that. Now I found the balance but it took a few decades. Great message!

I love it. My wife and I both took a step back at the end of 2023. I took a pay cut to have a more family oriented schedule. My wife changed careers and now works part time so she can be home for our kids. We’re barely getting by financially, BUT life is SO MUCH BETTER. Money is much less important and your children only grow up once.

thank you so much for making this video. I really needed to hear this. 28 years old and I just recently went through burnout and it definitely affected me mentally. I had to take time away from work to focus on what’s important because burn out from work was causing me to not be able to engage in my relationships with people I love.

I'm just praying I ever make it it the point that this is something I have to deal with.

one of my biggest issues with today's society is the amount of go go go it tries to force on you at any moment, its nice to see others validate those thoughts, being 39 and still having not found a passion i can turn into a solid career sucks, constantly im fighting feelings of disapointment with myself which i counter with my faith in god that ill be where i need to be when its time to be there, being a nerd type i tend to prefer a relaxed lifestyle so the go go go of society is a huge drain on me mentally.

I don't know why but when you said that unresolved conflict can inhibit sleep. I had this feeling that I understand how to fight my demons now. I feel as if my prayers have been answered. Thank you John.

Wish I saw this video before I figured this out. It was a hard long road but it clicks when you get it. Solid video. Solid advice.

I woke up this morning and got breakfast and opened up youtube and saw this and im shocked thats is basically me im 31 married and a son on the way thank you john good bless yall

Secret to happy life !

"...praying on your knees." Physically humbling yourself before the Creator of all things is of utmost spiritual importance.

God bless you John! I pray for the best for you and your family! Take care.

I could not appreciate this video more. I’ve been feeling like I’m always failing at something for some time now and never seem to “be where I want to be”. This video really provided valuable advice!

I have so many thoughts on this. I will say this. What a good video to men all over. We all need to be reminded that men find balance and know how to prioritize what is important.

John!! Think about this…. YOU GOTTA GO FISHIN, DUDE! Thank you for everything you share with us.

Needed this today man. Will be 30 this year, unfortunately me and my wife are separated going on 2 years but we have a wonder 3 1/2 year old boy that is the best part of my life. Trying to balance everything and trying to continue to grow for both myself and my son has been overwhelming at times and I’ve suffered from burnout in the past few months. Been trying to dial things in more recently and not try to “sprint” so much and “jog” more. Been my biggest challenge recently to balance everything This video gave me some peace of mind, thanks for posting

I have recently found that the “hustle culture” sermon which is pressured on men is way too much when you value family over materialistic items. It’s the reason I’ve decided to stop trying to work for an employer or even start my own business. Instead, I’ll be focusing on my off-grid homestead so I can live a self sustaining lifestyle living in a rustic 18th century log cabin and a horse for transportation.

@Ncb45

Ай бұрын

This is the way to true freedom and happiness especially if you can “find” land you don’t “have” to pay taxes on if you know what I mean

@anvilsbane

Ай бұрын

Peak civilization. Everything since was downhill.

Thank you for this. 99% of the voices I heat/listen to on here feed into hustle culture, and can create a sense of striving and like I’m not doing enough. I really appreciate the tone in this to pursue balance. Thank you

Glad you made a video about this as it needs to be talked about more. I’ve been taking a step back over the last year to realize I’ll never be as young as I am now, my dogs won’t be around forever, and life becomes plain miserable when you’re solely focused on the future. Try to enjoy the journey and not always focus on the destination.

I really needed the reminder to rest. My wife and I are adopting 3 foster kids so I went from a household of 2 to a household of 5 overnight 2 months ago. If it’s not for work, it’s for my wife. If it’s not for either of them, it’s for the kids. What does rest look like for the successful family man? I had this figured out for a married couple but now I’m just burning both ends of the candle and saying “good men make sacrifices”

@xbemos

Ай бұрын

You got this y’all. Great job!

I totally agree with everything stated in this video. I totally relate to this. Balancing personal interests, work, finances, faith, and wife and kids wellbeing and happiness is a lot, but once you start to understand the balance, it gets so much better.

I love you as a human being john. God bless you and your family, stay safe brother and stay savage 💪

LOVE this video and needed the reminder!

Absolutely no hate on any oilfield guys. I’m talking about me. I had to leave the oilfield about 1 month after my oldest was born. I wanted to be home. I went to a M-F, regular hour job so I could be there. We were broke and it was hard but I’ve never regretted it once. The Lord took care of us then and still does now.

I got chills listening to this one. So good. Sharing with our teen son. Such good stuff!

You pretty much nailed it. My biggest problem with hustle culture is the overwhelming importance it places on income, fitness and in many cases serial dating. Its foolish to stack your deck for something so impermanent as those things. What about family, love, compassion, honor? What about the fact that when you die and meet God, that money will mean nothing, the gym time will be irrelevant and the only memory that will tie you to this life and the next will be the people you loved and cared for and your place in eternity will be decided by whom and what you placed your faith in.

Lot to contemplate. Love it. Timely and all that jazz. tuning in going forward

This was exactly what young men need to hear. So well said John. These types of videos are way more important than training videos, no matter how different the view count is. Great stuff

Thanks for the reminder. Always great content here

This is very relevant to the times. Thanks for your thoughts!

thank you for this. This is what my soul needed thank you. You made me realize where I'm messing up at, now i can start to fix it and heal.

Wow. So simply and succinct yet so freaking powerful. Great video. Thank you.

Wow this video speaks to me. I could have used this in the earlier years of my fatherhood and husbandry. I pushed myself too hard and missed out on crucial family time, and we also pushed our kids too hard and I believe added too much stress to our kids lives. Thank you John for putting this information out there for young fathers. I'll be passing this lesson along to my son.

Balance is the perfect word only good thing i got out of my hustle phase was a mindset to improve on anything you put into priority.

I learned these things the hard way but my family survived. My wife and I celebrated our 54th anniversary a couple of months ago and both my sons are productive members of the community and wonderful family men. What you say here is absolutely true. Believe me, I lived it. Thanks for what you do John.

Man oh man I needed this video 10 years ago!

You explained this perfectly!!! Hopefully, most can relate to this and understand!!

As a body builder who skips leg day I approve this message

@xbemos

Ай бұрын

😂😂

Needed to hear this

Love this message! God Bless!

I 100% agree with you!

This is an amazing video. There are so many really good pieces of advice here. "You might be working on your physique but not working on your soul" "ask your friends about yourself, do I ever apologise, am I humble, am I selfless. Then just listen" That right there is just top top top shelf advice.

This is a good reminder. Especially in this economy. It’s hard not to chase the dollar and the security that often comes with it. There’s such a thing as having enough. Family and time are the most important at the end of the day.

Excellent! Thank you.

Thanks John, I really appreciate this and enjoy your videos. God bless you brother. 🇺🇸

Needed this. Than you.

I signed out from "hustle culture" 10 years ago and now a hustler in a simple living in the desert. "Home is where we park it". On duty 24/7 in the Nevada Desert🏜🏕🪵🪵🪵

Thanks john

Something society needs genuinely is to redefine success. That was probably the biggest thing I appreciated about the Warrior Poet Way. I'm not sure that anyone has conveyed that quite as well as John does in the book. But that said, since reading the book I've realized that communication is the key to success in marriage. I definitely fall under this vein of wanting to work (especially when you love what you do, it doesn't feel like work). But it can become so easy to neglect all other things for that end. That's a great thing, a huge blessing. But now that we've improved our communication, my wife does a great job of balancing me and letting me know when I'm leaning into that good thing too much.

Exactly what I needed. Really good stuff. Thank you!

I needed this John! I was wondering if I was alone with this thought process. Thank you so much.

Thank you for this video this is my Monday morning motivation to be a better man and warrior. Currently outta town for training, getting a little workout sesh in. Much needed!

Thank You John and Team , for Fantastic Content ! ✝️💪🇺🇸💪🇺🇸💪

Thank you for sharing this video.

I couldn’t agree more.

This is a wonderful reminder and video. I told my wife at the end of last week this weekend we are all just relaxing and spending time as a family. (She’s a stay at home mom, and I’ve got one public service job and another commission based job.)

Perfect timing, thanks 🙏

You are a very thoughtful and wise person, John. I wish more people had the guts to be as counter cultural as you are. Money isn't everything in life. Working 12 hr days isn't normal or natural for any extended period of time. We shouldn't pursue money at the expense of freedom and time with family and friends. That goes for men and women. Make less and live simpler lives if need be instead of giving your life away to work and spending your money on the shiny new object. I got distracted from my life's calling to pursue money and it ended in disaster now I am trying to get back to my calling in life, even if it means I make less money I'll have more freedom and less stress.

There’s a verse that goes with this and I remind myself of it often. Pro 13:11 Wealth gained hastily will dwindle, but whoever gathers little by little will increase it.

When you made the video a couple years ago on getting C’s on purpose it made me realize we have to prioritize that which matters most to us. Giving 100% means giving 60% to something and 40% to another

“More deposits into family” 🎯

Thank you John, I must’ve watched this video at least 8 times back to back this morning. I’m 26, my wife and I just had our first kid 2 months ago, in 3 days. I’m back at work already and am severely struggling with this exact balancing act right now because on top of working 45+hrs a week on overnights, I’m also applying for ocs in order to be able to better take care of both of them. I really needed to hear this at this exact moment in my life and will strive to do better. I’d been asking God for some signs and help and I believe he has answered through you. Thanks again.

Great message John

Needed to hear this. Thank you 🙏🏼

So this video is everything I needed to hear right now. John I love these kinds of videos thanks for everything you do. God bless sir

Great topic! I def needed to hear this, thank you WPS 🙏🇺🇸

Moderation is the key to life 🙏

Great video John, thanks!!!

One cannot worship two lords. On His time, all will bend the knee to the one true Lord.

@skoumastv

Ай бұрын

Please come Lord Jesus Christn

Man I needed to hear this.