Ok.....Ben needs his own series. I have this image of him sitting by the fireplace....giving his thoughts and advice on topics. Just a thought! 😁.

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

I'm always telling him to start a channel! :)

@elinamason

5 жыл бұрын

Lauren Moss totally 👍🏻 Fireplace and smart British person ( aka Ben) talking about life is a very good idea!

@florencejoy5209

4 жыл бұрын

The combination of both of you is full of truth bombs. You to complement each other so well. Thank you for the advices.

@IntuitiveCoachTheresa

3 жыл бұрын

With a pipe and a sweater vest.

Years ago, I'd tell my husband, "There's not enough time in the day." His response was, "There IS enough time in the day; you're just trying to do too many things." He was right.

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

He's right!

@lindawilson290

5 жыл бұрын

@@TheDailyConnoisseur :-)

I can recall two pivotal points in my life where I learned through experience about re-framing my mind when dealing with stress. I used to complain a lot about my appearance, in particular my legs. One day when I was complaining out loud, a man passed me in a wheelchair. It was a very humbling moment. Now when I “wish they looked different” I remind myself to be grateful for their function instead of form. (I do know deep inside that outer beauty is not what is most important!) My other experience was stress after my divorce and being a single mom, working through co-parenting, custody, finances, and other worries. Through my work we volunteered at a shelter for women and children that were homeless and came from situations of abuse. I was reminded how fortunate I was to be educated, living in a safe area, financially able to support myself, and while my relationship with my ex wasn’t good, I didn’t fear for my life. Both of these situations put my life into perspective and ultimately helped me to forgive myself and others.

Ben is so wise! Yes please bring him back. I am a retired woman, grown children that have already been educated, grandmother to 2 boys. I can honestly say these are the best years!!! No stress at all. I feel so blessed. It seems the younger years are about getting things and the older years are about letting go of things. Best advice is don't sweat the small stuff and take the time to enjoy the moments in your life. They are fleeting. Great video!

“Want nothing”. Love that ancient wisdom. “The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want.”

As a retired teacher and grandmother, I can attest to the fact that life gets less stressful as you get older. Especially for young mothers, I like the advice that you can have it all,just not necessarily all at the same time. Also the days are long but the years are short,in regards to raising our families. Take the time to savour the smallest moments with your children,they are life’s greatest gift. Love your blog and channel,Jennifer. My granddaughter and I pass your books back and forth for rereading.❤️

Also, don't expect others to return the favor of good deeds.

You are the ORIGINAL "Ben and Jenn!"

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! Bennifer! :)

I love when Mr. Connoisseur comes on! I think what I found most insightful is to when he said “want nothing”. How this resonates with me! I am one of those moms that desperately wants their me time back; it is a MASSIVE source of stress for me. I need to remind myself it’s not about me anymore and my wants. I should want nothing, but find pleasure in the little things that life affords me; my children’s laughter, hugs, afternoon tea, supper with family, A warm bath at night. Thank you again for the insight!

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! Wanting "ME" time caused a lot of stress for me in the past... because I never got it! haha

@delightfullydotty7130

5 жыл бұрын

I don’t think it’s about you not being important anymore and your needs not being important. It’s just that not having me time and being stressed about it is far more stressful than just accepting that you aren’t going to get any xx

@fundamonium

4 жыл бұрын

I like to remind myself that one day when the kids are grown and living their own lives I'll have all the me time I could never wish for.

@catherinecorn2371

3 жыл бұрын

Choose to find your ME time in the daily grind. Like, waking up an extra 30 minutes before your littles to enjoy a hot cup of coffee or tea and sit in quietness. Menu plan and meal prep so meals go smoothly. 😍

Ben is very wise. The real wisdom is to practice isn't it? I love those discussions between you two. Thank you🙏💖

@sweetlilella1983

5 жыл бұрын

I was a very tense first time mother. Hormones mixed in with lack of sleep and adjusting to become selfless is a big step for women.

Thank you Jennifer and Ben. Slow down. Stop the endless wanting. Be authentic. Important and solid reminders.

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Yes. Thank you!

@bootomatokidsbooks6535

5 жыл бұрын

Jeanette Gadeberg I agree!

If you enjoyed hearing Ben's take on stress, be sure to let him know by giving this video a thumbs up :) I would love to know your thoughts on the subject. Please leave them in the comments and yours could be chosen as comment of the week on The Daily Connoisseur blog! See you tomorrow for a Get Ready with Me: Wedding Guest Edition! Love, Jennifer

@SpecialgiftsLA

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jennifer ..Its so nice to see you guys and discover that Ben us british .Ben's points were like mine. Im female btw. I used to be aware of how stress affects my body. ..now i sometimes lost it. Talking is a big reliever. Thanks ..big pleasure to see and listen..Jennifer your giggles are stress relieving😅😅

I am committed to reading Proverbs this summer. Reading these you need to think about each verse and the meaning will result in wisdom in ones life. Wisdom leads to less stress. Taking the time to be quiet, read, think, learn and apply can lead to a less stressful life. Taking time out to be quiet is good, thinking is hard work but the only way one will really learn and the application of wisdom to ones life is beneficial. It does not need to be long but a short time every day is helpful.

Thank you Jennifer and Ben. I was very touched by Ben’s comment that it has been a ‘blissful marriage’. What a beautiful thing to say. God bless you both. Pauline xx. 🇬🇧

What Ben said about “slowing down” really resonated with me. I move fast; over think stuff, sometimes rushing and it stresses me out

Ben, every one of your suggestions are fantastic! I read an interview w Michael J. Fox years ago. The interviewer asked him why he and his wife chose to have a 4th child later on, knowing that his Parkinson's Disease would get worse and worse. He answered (not an exact quote), "if I worry about how this disease will look for me in the future, I'm putting myself through it twice." This resonated with me so much. At the time I was a SAHM raising 3 kids VERY close in age, we were struggling financially, 2 grandparents terminally ill, husband working full-time + a side business. In hindsight, so much of the stress I experienced was around either issues from the past, unrealistic expectations I put on myself, not taking care of myself in ways that cost little time or money, and fear of all the future unknowns. I've definitely learned to focus on what I can realistically do, and leave the rest in God's hands, where it belongs. Great video, you two!

I like the secret acts of kindness, so very Christian!

That Home Chef deal would be a wonderful gift to a single dad for Father's Day!👍

Ben's advice to "slow down" is something my husband does and says. When things get crazy, slow down, think things through, be intentional. You both gave excellent advice and I enjoyed this video with the two of you. The two of you compliment each other so well. Your faith shines through!

Being retired should mean relaxation, but like many of my friends, our parents are elderly and require our care. Not all become sweet old people, especially when confused with Alzheimer's.

So many Biblical principals here: A merry heart (laughter) does good like a medicine, Proverbs 17:22...giving in secret, and letting the Father reward you, Matthew 6:4....don't worry about tomorrow, it will bring it's own trouble, Matthew 6:34. Thank you Ben, as always it was a real British treat! :) Jennifer, you hair is lovely. Tutorial on that look maybe? You all look wonderful in front of that beautiful kitchen. But, I've got to know...where are all the children? It's so quiet. lol

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Yes! They were out of the house. haha! Only way to get a video in without being interrupted :)

Love Ben's kind thoughtfulness. Age can bring many positives but also stresses, such as loss of income, competing in the workforce with younger colleagues, illness, dimentia, disability, loss of friends for various reasons, children moving far away, having to leave one's family home as it becomes too much to care for, etc. So keep honing your stress reduction tips well into the future!

Wise words! I can hear your Christian faith coming across in a subtle but wonderful way. Love seeing Ben on the videos- a touch of England for us uk viewers, yeah.

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Toast and Marmite! :)

@debra13

4 жыл бұрын

I don't like it when religion comes through - people are so many different religions and also some don't believe, and it is a real turn off for me to feel that coming through. "Christian" values are most often humanistic values whether you are agnostic, atheist, Jewish, Muslim, etc.

@debra13

4 жыл бұрын

@Reerei Dia Please understand I follow this channel because I like these people very much. But I am not a child by any means and to be told "stop It' assuming I don't know they are coming from a good place is inappropriate. I just think that there could be more inclusiveness.

@shireensaroea946

3 жыл бұрын

auntdj111 - I like Christian values . It’s part of who they are . No need to hide them

Ben was on his game today. What a refreshing conversation you shared. Slow down and live in the moment...

This was delightful! So interesting hearing both perspectives about stressors and stress relief. In a future video, I’d love more stories about you and Ben! How you met, courtship stories, married life stories. I understand much of this is private, but we’d enjoy whatever you choose to share. 😊

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Jesse!

Great points. It is also important to not stress over our blessing. Many times we find ourselves stressing over kids that we tried to have for years, or a job that we went to school and worked hard to achieve. I agree with Ben; changing our respective with the cause of stress.

Jennifer and Ben, it was such a delight to listen to you both on stress. Thanks for having Ben on here , my husband and I very much enjoyed your thoughts and suggestions. Ben should do his own series too! 😁👍 You both are a wonderful example for all of us. Thank you again, we appreciate you and God bless your family. ☺️💕

What an excellent and insightful conversation! My friends and I often talk about how we still have stress in our lives and we are all retired. We thought things would be different somehow, but the stressors have just morphed into other issues. I think it is part of the human condition, so it's important to develop healthy ways to combat stress. I'm so thankful Jesus is Lord of my life. His grace and peace are worth more to me than any worldly possession.

@elinamason

5 жыл бұрын

Kathy S 🙏 amen

@countryatheart73

5 жыл бұрын

Amen❤

Love to see you both together!

Yeah Ben! Yes, I am becoming more and more aware that the things I stress about are wants and desires. When I really think about it, I don't even really want those things.

Ben is a natural charmer.

It is so encouraging to see & hear both of you together. It seems that you have a truly great marriage with lots of respect and interest in each other's thoughts. And I second "Ben by the fireplace" series :)

Mr. Connoisseur was on it today! Thank you to Ben for sharing!!

Great video. Loved hearing Ben’s words of wisdom. Here is something that has helped me throughout the years - “ No expectations”. So, no expectations for a vacation, for a night out, etc. and that way, anything good that happens (a sunny day, a good meal, a good nights sleep, etc) is so noticeable and brings a lot of joy.

"Stay out of wants." the best advice I've herd in quite a while. Get that man his own channel!

A member of my book club once said that the biggest stressor in her life was decorating her Christmas tree - making it just perfect every year. My thought was “oh my goodness, I want her life! “ Really though, she must not be telling the truth, because life is just not like that.

Very nice to hear a man's perspective. Thank you, Ben

I agree that it works wonderfully doing external things to deal with stress like baths, massages, exercise because for me, stress results in a brain loop that I have to break in order to let go of stress. I always tell my husband “I need to get out of my head and into my body”. Focusing on the physical sensation of actively doing something even for a moment gives me the opportunity to come back to my thoughts or circumstances with a clearer mind and I am a different person entirely in that moment. 😊

Love hearing Ben's thoughts. He has a lot of common sense, which no one seems to have anymore. "Stop wanting" is a big problem, in my opinion also, as no one seems happy with what they have anymore. Be grateful for all we are blessed with. Good show. My stress in life seemed to be "gimme gimme gimme!" all the time. Now I see how superficial that is.

Your husband is very wise. I love how you interact with each other and both of you seem very intelligent. Maybe Ben can collect his notes and write a book one day as well? Love to both of you!!!!

Ben you have a wise and down to earth presence and you both complement each other so well. I particularly like the comment of ‘wanting nothing’. I study mindfulness and psychology both academically and personally and a lot of Ben’s suggestion are very valid! Ultimately our thoughts about any situation and not the situation itself, is the cause of most, if not all stress.

I loved this conversation and the extra wisdom your husband added to it.

Ben is indeed very insightful , dropping truth bombs..thank you both😊

Thank you for the truth bombs! I love the "want nothing" one. That's a great key for me!

Omg Ben saying "lobotomy" in his accent made my day! Ha!!!!

The last idea about not wanting put me in mind of a discovery I made when my children were young. They seemed to spend the entire month of December saying, "I know what you can get me for Christmas..." (as though they were giving me a golden opportunity.) I began making a point of completing my Christmas shopping before the end of November. When they would mention what they wanted, I would tell them that I had already finished my shopping. That seemed to cause a shift in the atmosphere of our home in December, and we focused more on the reason for the season. Thanks for another great video!

I love the comment Ben made about wants getting in the way. I once heard an eye opening talk about how our wants often get in the way of our needs.

I’m 45 and I feel that the older I get the less stressed. If I do feel nervous or stressed I just change my thinking. And I agree with what you said about just slowing down everything your doing, sometimes when I feel anxious I do that and it makes such a difference. Also loved having your husband on, you two are great together. I hope he comes on again I really enjoyed this video!

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

This is good to know! Thank you!

You are lovely together! I really enjoyed listening to you both! And prayer is one thing that helps me to relax even in de midst of stress! Blessings to you both!

This was very enjoyable to listen to. Good examples given. My favorite was to intentionally slow yourself down, even in how you speak. The kitchen makes for a very nice background in your videos.

Stress is hard. I’m a widow (18 months) and retired. I live in California and my AC hasn’t been working right. One of my sons tried to fix it but wasn’t any more successful at it than I’d been and it was so stressing AND emotional because that was something my husband always took care of. Long story short - I called someone and they came that same day and sort of fixed it - will have to come again as it was a leak in the Freon. As I’ve gotten older I’ve decided to not worry or stress over things I had no control over. Well, the AC was something I could control by calling a company out. So instead of getting stressed, emotional worried I should’ve called sooner. I need to realize I can’t do everything or expect my children to always help - just call a service person out and get it done!! Lol!

Ben the part about slowing things down is so profound, my G. Ma used to say stop rushing the devil is egging you on. Slow down. Thank u for the reminder.

Mr Connoisseur's tips and advice is amazing. Wow! Thank you both for your perspectives.

Great advice. Thank you, Jennifer and Ben! Such a lovely couple. :)

Thank you Jennifer and Ben! Your thoughtfulness and love for each other is so beautiful to see. Great example of a wonderful marriage. Jennifer and Ben I appreciate your candor. Great tips.

That's great Jennifer and Ben! Staying in the present is the one I struggle with the most and I think it is the most important. Prayer is an absolute necessity for me as well.

👍🏻.. Thanks Ben for coming on the show

Thanks for coming on Ben! I always enjoy watching the two of you chat about different topics. I agree so much with "stay out of the wants". Thinking just this morning about how God has told us that He is our portion. All we need to be satisfied..

Thank you to you both! Wonderful to hear your thoughts on this matter. Great advice on slowing down, getting to the root of the problem, wanting less and doing random acts of kindness in life. Enjoy today, don't dwell on the past and you can't predict the future are words that will help keep the stress away. I really enjoyed seeing you do the video together, not only as man and woman but also as a married couple. Would like to see more videos like these in the future. Your kitchen looks beautiful!

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Yay! Let's see more of Ben...my stress levels dropped just listening to you ...nice soothing energy...😇😇🥰

Resting from regular work on the Sabbath is peaceful❣️🙏🏻🥰💕💕💕

I find the stress percentage low as well. Money has always been a lot of my stress. I love all of these tips as well as urs. I think the key is determining which type of stress ur under and take the appropriate action.

Lovely video, great ideas, not to mention how cute you both are! I just wanted to say that having twin babies was very stressful, but they grow and learn, which is exciting and rewarding. A very stressful aspect for many of us who are retired is that of caring for our aging parents. It’s so difficult to watch our beloved parents lose faculties, mobility, and independence. I couldn’t do it without prayer. 🙏🏻

This video highlights some examples of the differences in men and women. Men don't seem to get as clouded by their emotions and tend to keep cooler in stressful situations. Thank you for sharing Ben!

Wow, what a kind, thoughtful man! You have a keeper, Jennifer! Love listening to him talk. He has a tone of voice that's very calming.

Could you and Ben make a traditional British meal complete with place settings?

Hi Jennifer greetings from South Africa what wonderful advice from you and your hubby love your pearls of wisdom.Love the ones slowing things down and want nothing as the wants will cause you stress anyway along the line so true !!!!!I have experienced that one myself before. Continue with the wonderful ideas I'm literally obsessed with your channel and ideas about life even rewatch old videos if I need some ideas or advice 😘Have a blessed day further.

I like to hear you and Ben discuss things together. You are a good team. I especially liked the little peek into your early married life. I like to hear the experiences of others.

This is so great! I will have to re-watch this with my husband. I love that you brought Ben on - he seems to have a lot of life giving wisdom!

What a hit this video is! I love your new kitchen background, the tea accoutrements, and you and Ben chatting. Ben had me laughing out loud and continuing to chuckle with his "...if they had a lobotomy" comment. I liked his stress buster ideas, with the grand finale of "Be grateful for what you have and stay out of want." "Slow things down: walk slower, talk more slowly, think more slowly." This is simple, but good advice and so well spoken!. Thank you for teaming up on this video. Much love to you both!

Starting my day by meditating just 5 minutes will make all the difference in how I respond to frustrations during the day. Love this video. Both of you radiate kindness. Thank you 🙏🌷🌈

As a bus driver of special needs students, I have endured several years of high stress. This year was my first ever visit to a heart doctor because my blood pressure was elevated. I signed up for yoga classes, again, and the breathing techniques you preformed is a technique we do to calm us before movements, during the movements, at the end to release the muscles. It works. My whole body is less tense and I feel more calm. My blood pressure is also lower. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, many will be very helpful to me as I start a different bus route .

Love this video! I literally took notes.. Thanks a lot, Jennifer.. All the way from India :-)

My husband and I definitely can relate to this. I’m a SAHM, and he works a demanding job. At the end of the day, we are both stressed but in different ways. I am physically drained from the labor of taking care of kids and home and need to sit quietly with a book or something similar. He’s mentally stressed from work and needs to go move to get out nervous energy.

@lindawilson290

5 жыл бұрын

I heard once that people who have physical jobs should have mental relaxation. On the other hand, people who have mental jobs should have physical relaxation. Sounds like this is your situation, and it's working, eh?

@bootomatokidsbooks6535

5 жыл бұрын

Linda Wilson it works now. It took a couple of years of marriage to realize it. 😂

I appreciate you Ben for your willingness to participate. I enjoyed this video.

Thanks for the advice! My Ben and I definitely get stressed about the little things. It really is a lack of trusting in God to be good in all the details of the day. As Ben said, it's always good to get back to the root of the issue.

Beautiful couple! Thanks for sharing 🌹

Well, it was really interesting to hear Ben’s approach. Sometimes is good to change perspective on things. He touched some good points I thought. People in general have been always stressed. If we just think how life used to be before having all the conveniences of our time. Or when gathering food was a matter of life or death. Humans have survived thousand and thousands of years of a very stressful life of hunger, extreme weather, oppression, you name it. Before psychologists, people would share their burden with other family members, neighbors or the other members of their communities. Our modern society kind of lost that habit to build this kind of support network. So we need to go back to be more altruistic, put less emphasis on ourselves, drop the constant go-go- go attitude and make more time for reflection instead. We need to appreciate more what we have and be content with it. so yeah, Ben had some very valid points to add to the conversation.Always a pleasure to watch your channel, thank you!

I really enjoyed those years with children and when I was teaching. I never felt real anxiety and stress until I retired. Early in my retirement I had a dumb accident that took up nearly a year in rehab. And now several friends are dealing with serious health issues or widowhood. My parents are in their 90s and always have some issue, along with negative dementia-related personality changes. And then there are the money issues. Will I have enough to see me through? I worry more about my children now than I did when they were younger. Physically, I have more and more limitations. So much to stress about. I’m really having to work on my mindset, like Ben talks about.

This was recommended to me just today and I found it interesting that it is still so apt in COVID times. This has been an unusually difficult time but your tips are so basic and timeless. As with so much of what you discuss on your channel, there is value in revisiting what has helped people for centuries. At least that is true for me. It also has the benefit of reminding me that I am not alone in some of these struggles. Thank you both so much for sharing your point of view. Your content always helps me to reconnect with my humanity.

Thank you Jennifer and Ben...so many aha moments in this episode. Ben's thoughtful perspectives on this topic is much appreciated and I am looking forward to sharing this video with my husband.

Want nothing. The Lord is my shepherd I shall not want. Jesus is enough 😀 Very insightful and inspiring.

I always enjoy Ben’s contribution / thoughts on your channel. Both of you raise good points 😁

I like seeing Ben!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Ben!

Thank you for sharing! So good!

Thank you both! I actually did those deep breaths with you guys! Goodness, have I been stressed lately! Those breaths helped.

Lowering one’s expectations decreases stress for sure. As Ben says, “Stay out of the wants.”

Wonderful advice. Thank you!!!

I really enjoyed this chat. Good info and insights.

You are a wonderful couple! Thank you for the collaboration on the topic 👍

Hello Jennifer & Ben! This was a lovely chat! Belly breathing is important but not often done, I’ll practice that more. I agree so much with having someone you trust that you can talk to pretty much daily. That good friend who will have your best interests at heart and talk you off the ledge 😉 thank you so much🌹

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! We talk each other off the ledge daily! haha xx

Love this! You and your husband are so wise and funny to boot! :) My husband and I haven't been blessed with children, but in my career as a reading teacher I've seen the stress level of parents rising, along with the stress level of the children I teach. There are many reasons for this, of course, but one thing that saddens me is how BUSY families are. Sports, clubs, endless activities, AP classes...childhood for many has become so much more frenetic. When children talk about their weekend, again and again what they most treasure is just down time...silly time with parents and friends...being outside, daydreaming, reading a book, playing a family game. I'm looking forward to reading your next book, Jennifer. I'm certain you have much insightful wisdom to share. Thank you, and enjoy the day!

I loved this and would love to see more Ben. I'd also love a video on having grace in your marriage, especially while managing parenting and work. Without getting TOO personal, I'd love to hear how you manage disagreements and make time for one another. Thank you for considering.

Hi Jennifer, I have been on vacation and it's good to come back to this video. You both are very insightful, I really enjoyed this! Thank you both ❤

What a great video! Thank you!!

You are both such a beautiful, complimentary couple! 🥰 Loved watching and learning from you two, wonderful advice! Great behavioural changes that we can implement anytime 🤗

Slowing down requires a conscious effort, everything in our world operates at fever pitch. When I had all my children at home and worked with my husband in our business I felt like the cartoon character, The Flash. I had so much to accomplish that most people would have collapsed. Thank the Lord for his gift of amazing organizational skills! That being said, I always tried to make time for date night, or a bath or reading a good book. Sometimes the only place I could get some privacy to read was by sitting in my car, and I am not kidding! All my children are grown and it is quite lovely to not rush, in fact I feel quite put out when I have to hurry. Resisting the energy right outside our door requires effort and patience we sometimes don't have, but a deep breath as Ben says, and a short prayer makes all the difference. God bless you both.

Love your thoughts today! You two are so sweet!

@TheDailyConnoisseur

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

It was a blessing to hear you both💕