Bernadette: "I'm banned from buying candle sticks this trip. Hold me to that." Me, munching on chips: "I'll try, but... *gestures to computer screen *"

@kohakuaiko

2 жыл бұрын

I came looking for this comment.

@khaxjc1

2 жыл бұрын

Its been a bad day but this comment made me laugh. Thank you.

@cheekyb71

2 жыл бұрын

But actually... hahahahaha

@SonsOfLorgar

2 жыл бұрын

At least it was a practical candle stick XD

@cinemaocd1752

2 жыл бұрын

The best part was that the zoom in on her face showed not one but two fancy candlesticks in the background.

Bernadette’s philosophy reminds me of a William Morris quote…“Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.”

@olgahein4384

2 жыл бұрын

I live by that philosophy, but that gives me a little problem. I have a visionary view on things, means: When i look at something, i see potential and possibilities where others see trash. For example, i crochet, knit, sew, weave, etc a lot and for many reasons i always use natural fibers. And i keep everything leftover. Even a 5 mm thread piece. Because i know that they can be used for something else later on (for example, i have a little box of of cotton, linnen and wool threads and fabric scraps at the size of 5mm to 5cm, which one day will be enough to use it as stuffing for a cap that my husband can wear under his viking helmet, for protection and comfort). I have a bunch of old jeans that are unwearable anymore, but i keep them cause i want to make an upcycle jeans bag from the bigger parts and use the smaller parts to mend the jeans pants i am still wearing. And so on. So yeah, lotsa useful stuff in my home piling up.

@chizzieshark

2 жыл бұрын

It gets complicated when you live with others, or inherit boxes of items from others, or have items from childhood that you don't want but don't want to throw away. For example, those little plastic McDonalds Happy Meal toys from when I was a child - they're still in perfect condition, I don't want them in my house but feel bad sending them to landfill. Dilemmas! Definitely a good philosophy to live by going forward in life though :)

@cr1santhemum

2 жыл бұрын

@@chizzieshark I think when it comes to items like those, ones you don’t want, can’t give away and can’t sell, it’s something you just need to get rid of. Keeping it creates clutter, and I know it’s kind of sad to throw out, but sometimes that just needs to happen!

@wildstarsful

2 жыл бұрын

@@olgahein4384 the main idea to not having that end up as a mess is to use it as you can, so patching up jeans as you notice holes with that stash, making that bag as soon as there is enough material, etc. So that the scraps are only there for a short while and not clogging up your home. I do this with all my tiny cabbage scraps, I have one stuffed small pillow that has a pinned closed opening, whenever I work on a project I just directly put the treads and scraps into it that are too small to be used to make other things! Good luck with all your projects!

@igorspitz

2 жыл бұрын

Such philosophy can end up in a lot of divorces... :/

The idea of being a caretaker of items instead of a consumer is actually so beautiful and I've never thought of it that way

@darleneengebretsen1468

Жыл бұрын

I love this idea!

@stephaniedougherty7845

Жыл бұрын

I had watched another video recently and was trying to communicate it to the lady talking (of course, she couldn’t hear me… 😅)

It is so good when someone on KZread doesn't just buy, buy, buy senselessly but advocates for conscious consumerism.

@DuriensBane

2 жыл бұрын

i wish i had that idea when it comes to axe heads. But I see them all as useful items that i want to see live a longer life as they still have a few centuries worth of life in them.

@bonnieweeks7601

Жыл бұрын

@@DuriensBane I have my deceased father's little hand axe that I've named Mr Choppy. I'm a 66 yo female, but love my Mr Choppy. The last thing we tried to chop was a root. Alas, I had to get the big axe.

I like to 'think' I'm a minimalist and want a clean, peaceful space, until I go to an antique store, or thrift store or garage sale and I become an absolute crow trying to collect all the shiny, pretty things 😅. Thanks for taking us along on these little adventures in time travel

@bernadettebanner

2 жыл бұрын

I feel this on a deeply personal level. 😅

@rachaelmariecollins9277

2 жыл бұрын

SAME.

@lililangtry1881

2 жыл бұрын

Same! Am older now and after 20+ years of regular antiquing my house is basically a museum and you would be hard pressed trying to find modern things in it, except for the indispensable appliances. Everything I use on a daily basis is antique, from my 17th century farm table to my 19th century Cantonese teapot that keeps warm in its little wool lined basket. Antique china and cutlery, antique brass bed acting as couch, antique art supplies such as my turn of the century Winsor & Newton watercolor bijou box, antique French tiles used as coasters...and about a zillion old tin boxes for all uses.. I adore every single item but got to admit it can look quite cluttered😅 how many more Napoléon III candlesticks do I really need? 😊 Yet I cannot stop bargain hunting, and I especially love finding a suffering object, giving it a lot of TLC and bringing it back to its former, shiny glory🥰

@robintheparttimesewer6798

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@raraavis7782

2 жыл бұрын

Ahhhh...I feel called out as well. Minimalism is great in theory...but really, I like 'things' too much, to stick with it 😄

My grandfather who I’ve lived with my whole life passed away last month and this month I’m getting ready to move in for school. I’ve gotten my first apartment in the city and need furniture. My parents told me to take some of his things and I was feeling very down about it, even if I knew he’d want me to have them. But this video made me feel better about it! I’m carrying on the history of his items and I’m going to take care of them and treat them with respect. It’s much better than his stuff ending up in a landfill

@foamer443

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry to learn about your Grandad's passing, it sounds like the two of you were quite close. I think he would be very pleased know you thought enough of him to have some of his things in your new digs. A good practical new usage with the element of being touchstones too. One of my wife's nephews is going to be setting up his first, shared, apartment at uni come the fall. We gave him a number of surplus items including the breakfast table I grew up with. It's a number of years older than myself as I am the youngest, so this would put the table at around 70 years old. A classic '50's heavily chromed with stainless fluting. As I explained to him this was not a reproduction and very desirable piece and too not just curb it or give it away. When you have items with an emotional attachment it can be very hard to let them go. You wish could guide and control their use and life after you have finished with them, but of course generally this is not possible. Good luck on the next and new phase of your life.

@xfallenxlostx3254

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss and also so glad you're going to take some of his things with you. In this, you will be honoring him and your history with him as you become the next caretaker of his items.

@nommh

2 жыл бұрын

I‘m sure your grandfathers things will help you celebrate his life and your time together once the hurt of mourning a recent loss has mellowed. That said, if at any time you feel you are being held back in the past, don‘t hesitated to change them to make them all yours or give them away. You cannot give away your memories.

@brightasyellow

2 жыл бұрын

I lost my grandmother recently and there are so many things that I have in my daily life that remind me of her. My dishes, paintings she has done, and today I saw her number in my phone when I was pulling up a contact. Sometimes it makes me smile, sometimes it makes me sad, but it always brings up good memories of my time with her. I hope you can surround yourself with your grandfather's things and remember all the love and good times that you shared. He would be happy and proud of you.

I should say: I have a soft spot for plushies. When I see them in second hand shops, very used and usually damaged, I tend to take them home and restore them. I can't hold myself. That left me with a lot of soft toys, so I decided it was time to pass them to kids that wanted/needed them. And I donated all my plushies to the daycare of my town. Now I know they are used, loved and they will have an impressive life. A second chance. So I love the way you think.

@nebuloranebuflora470

Жыл бұрын

This entire comment is absolutely delightful. Keep doing what you are doing!

@billyjean3118

Жыл бұрын

That’s so beautiful ❤️

@shaliekk

Жыл бұрын

that's awesome

This was beautiful! The hair in the microscope reminded me of when I was a kid, helping my father do some remodeling in our ancestral 1790's farmhouse. We stripped down 100 years worth of wallpaper to the horsehair plaster and discovered a large crack in the plaster. Wound up and stuffed into the crack was a newspaper from 1906 with a mailing label on it addressed to my great, great grandfather. But the most spectacular part was the long blonde hair that I found twisted up in the newspaper, most likely my great grandmother's. Discoveries like this one growing up on our farm are what led me to become an archaeologist, and a caretaker of my own lovingly gathered antiques.

@xTashleyx

Жыл бұрын

Too bad hair testing doesn't tell us a whole lot. Would be interesting to see what that little strand could tells us.

@caitlinluna1558

Жыл бұрын

​@@xTashleyx DNA testing is forever improving. Maybe one day there will be a way to unlock its secrets and stories 🥰

I swear, If all of us in the comments met, it’d probably result in the most beautiful, & passionate conversations about the simplest of things.

@bernadettebanner

2 жыл бұрын

This world is probably not built to handle the level of wholesomeness that would undoubtedly ensue. 😌

@admiralduckshmidt2248

2 жыл бұрын

Either wholesome or rant about the injustice and misportrayal of corsetry

@lajoyous1568

2 жыл бұрын

@@admiralduckshmidt2248 and pocket rants 😏

@Dipanjanakusary

2 жыл бұрын

@@admiralduckshmidt2248 or we can all rant and /or lament upon the size of female pockets or maybe how people don't take care of things the way they should 😄

@victorianidetch

2 жыл бұрын

@@bernadettebanner Yes but the level of the world would be heightened a little and that would be a good thing. I love your found treasures.

Your monologue about treating the things you own with respect/how everything “has an energy to it”/being a “caretaker” of the things you own made me realise how much people misunderstood Marie Kondo.

@keridwenx6457

2 жыл бұрын

I thought of her as well!

@pinkcupcake4717

2 жыл бұрын

Marie Kondo's sense of practical magic has similar vibes to Bernadette's.

@cinemaocd1752

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I think it's a really good approach. I have OCD/hoarding and I find getting rid of things really difficult. Like it's just confusing and stressful and the more my stress level in life goes up the harder it is for me. Marie's system which is based on exactly that, having respect for the object, realizing it's not working for you or helping you and having a simple thing you can ask yourself "does this spark joy?" and having a simple method for getting rid of it "thank it and move on" really helps to clear my head.

@eikawithac

2 жыл бұрын

So true!! Most Americans totally fail to “get” her because they don’t understand that Kondo practices Shinto, & an actual belief in animism underlies her whole method.

@luckyzacky

2 жыл бұрын

@@eikawithac I mean. I understood that and I still found that some of opinions and gestures she makes completely woo. It came across as you can only purge your items in her style and with each and every step followed otherwise it is WRONG. I got pretty disillusioned with minimalist ideals for awhile until I started manipulating the tenets into something I can actually live with.

As a lover of tea, I've seen many a tea warmer, but never one this amazing! I can assure you that your excitement is neither unrealistic, nor ridiculous! THAT is an item that I would categorize as "I don't care if I have nowhere to put it, I'll FIND somewhere to put it, because I simply cannot live without it!" I'm so excited that you took it home!

“I like old things that time has tried, and proven strong, and good, and fine. I like old things, they have a depth unknown to anything that’s new.”

Classical musicians often feel that they are caretakers/custodians of their instruments. It's not uncommon for violinists to do their degree on a violini that they then retain for their entire playing career, before passing it on to a favourite student.

@LittleDergon

2 жыл бұрын

My parents bought my flute from my older sister as a birthday gift for me as I wanted to learn having heard her practice growing up (it also gave my sister some extra money as she was starting uni). Now I don't play it so much, the same sister has requested to loan it so my nephew can learn. It is wonderful to be part of the story of this instrument and know its story is woven into this family 😊

@littlelethallollipop

2 жыл бұрын

this greatly depends on the instrument! With string instruments the tone quality and sound gets progressively better the more it is played, however with instruments that are made of metal they tend to deteriorate with age and how much you play them. -a flute player and music student

@PlayerClarinet

2 жыл бұрын

@@littlelethallollipop Completely agree. It's actually worse with clarinets tnan with flutes because in addition to the wear and tear on the mechanism over time you've also got the detrimental effect of moisture on the wood. But still there's something nice about string players being custodians of their instruments, rather than mere owners, in a way that mirrors Bernadette's original sentiment.

@bubblebubble7494

2 жыл бұрын

I didn't know about this even tho it makes sense But oh boy someone needs to make this into a book. Like the live of an instrument And the diffrent connection the "owners" had to each other

@abbygretta2950

2 жыл бұрын

I bought a secondhand upright piano and I will protect it with my life

Actually, this beautiful microscope is not missing a part. A glass slide goes under the clamps, and glass slides haven't changed for at least a hundred years. The hole is uncovered to let through the maximum of light. I am pretty sure (as I, or rather my grandpa, had a very similar one) that the optics could prove superior to a lot of the modern plastic lenses you find in USB microscopes.

@warriormaiden9829

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed! Far better than plastic. The middle school I went to had half of their scopes as electric lighted ones and half with mirrors. I tried the electric light one, and found that I prefer the mirror type. You can adjust the mirror for different light levels and get some really cool effects on what you're looking at that way. XD

@christineherrmann205

2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing when she said she thought the plate was missing; I thought it was supposed to be open.

@kathyvivian8966

2 жыл бұрын

Yes - I agree. We had microscopes with mirrors at school and the glass slide goes directly over that hole, held tight by the clips. The microscopes we had weren't as handsome as this brass one, though!

@SusanS588

2 жыл бұрын

I am a recently retired research tech and ALL of our microscopes are open below where the slides go. The illumination sources have changed, some very specialized slides are plastic, and most scopes are now binocular, but I would KILL to have a scope like the one Bernadette found. And yes, I would use it.

@MabruBlack

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a biologist and we still use mirror microscopes when we teach the first years at university for selected classes. A glass lens always gives the best image, that's why I love them so much.

There's definitely a level of appreciation for second hand things when you grow up poor. Even though I'm not AS poor as I was as a child, I still choose to look for previously owned things, because often they cost less and still work fine, it's just that someone has gotten bored of it and "upgraded".

@benzaiten933

2 жыл бұрын

I think that is a mighty fine sentiment especially in our society of wasted resources. if someone can't/won't use something anymore then instead of throwing it away, give it another life with someone else.

@KristiChan1

2 жыл бұрын

@@benzaiten933 It can be especially tricky these days because things are literally made to break/wear out sooner, so it's even more important to take care of your things to get as much use out of them as possible before replacing them.

@torpid5092

2 жыл бұрын

my family isn't poor, but i still prefer to go to thrift shops or garage sales. i even get excited when i see boxes on the sidewalk labeled free haha i just find it so much better than buying brand new things. like i'll be at a store and see something a bit expensive, and i'm like "I could easily find this at a thrift shop for so much less!"

@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans

Жыл бұрын

@@torpid5092 yeah i was genuinely shocked the first time i walked into a target to see shirts for $30 as ive been brought up on shirts less than $5. and plenty of goodwill shirts are from wild fable which is a target brand i believe, most will still have tags on them.

If I ever found a kettle and stand like the one you have I would probably die. It is gorgeous AND functional! I wish my whole kitchen was full of copper pieces like an old estate kitchen.

@lunasmum6869

2 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't want to clean all that copper though!!

@LawnOrnament

2 жыл бұрын

Im slowly but surely replacing all of my pots and pans with copper ones but our bank account tells me it will be a SLOW ROAD🥴😅🤣

@eyesofthecervino3366

2 жыл бұрын

Just don't cook anything acidic in a unlined copper container :[]

I love how I could spot 3 candlesticks in the background when you said "I have a particular weakness for candlesticks" 😉

@louisedevillavie8334

2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad as well that I finally realise that I'm not the only one obsessed with candlesticks😅

@bethtrumm9784

2 жыл бұрын

there were 6... 2 candelabras

@MysteryMommy1

2 жыл бұрын

SAME

@davejohn3600

2 жыл бұрын

Now you'll be looking for them in every video.

I have a terrible weakness for old books, teacups/sets, ceramic/cast iron cookware…my very lovely husband takes me around “The Circuit” (what we call the small collection of antique stores within an hour’s drive) once a month and buys me all the little pretties that beg to come home with me. He calls them my Treasures 🥰🤣

@baskervillebee6097

2 жыл бұрын

He's the real treasure.

@cristiaolson7327

2 жыл бұрын

That is so sweet. Your husband is definitely a keeper.

@bluelagoon1980

2 жыл бұрын

Awwww!

@violetlife7607

2 жыл бұрын

THIS is love no one can convince me otherwise

@thedarkdane7

2 жыл бұрын

I wish they had special husband medals for guys like him.

my jaw LITERALLY DROPPED when i saw the microscope 😭 as someone who loves science and old things, it is absolutely and utterly perfect

"why not play into the charade that there's actually something going on in that side of the room" is literally my motto for life.

I love what you said about being a caretaker of items. My grandmother has gifted me her china tea set that she got in Germany working as an army nurse in the 1950's. It honestly makes me proud to know that she trusts me with this precious gift because she knows I will take good care of them. In a more poetic note she also gave me her old bandage scissors and hemostat that she used as a nurse, and I currently use now working as an RN. Not to sound too sentimental, but it gives me confidence just having these tools that such a wonderful nurse before me used in her own care.

My jaw literally hit the floor when you pulled up the microscope. As a student of both science and history, I was absolutely in awe of that lovely piece of history

@sharmi0216

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly same, the smile on my face she pulled it up was indescribable XD

@bellumxyz1421

2 жыл бұрын

I fangirled so hard when she showed that it used a mirror for lighting lmao

@kaydenl3

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr it’s so cool

@rimjhimdhusiya699

2 жыл бұрын

Me who actually uses such a microscope in the school lab : 👁👄👁 . ( it's not the exactly the same but it sure is old )

@elisanereis1860

2 жыл бұрын

My reaction too

I’m studying to be an herbalist, and Victorian apothecarycore is EVERYTHING!! 😍

Your “caretaker” approach is so refreshing to hear. It makes me wonder if the heavy “consumers” are also the ones that adopt dogs and then dump them at the shelter when they require work/ are no longer convenient

@Lisa_Flowers

2 жыл бұрын

Seems a bit harsh and unreasonable to assume that the way people approach inanimate objects would also be the way they approach actual living creatures. I'm sure that's that's case for some, and I totally agree with Bernadette that we should take good care of the things we have, but to some people an object is just an object and a living creature is a living creature. Not everyone is going to view those things as any where close to comparable.

@aimee241

2 жыл бұрын

@@Lisa_Flowers I didn’t mean that everyone treats things and living things alike. I just meant that there *may* be a parallel to the carelessness of both. I’m sorry if you misunderstood!

@CherryCowgirl

2 жыл бұрын

@@aimee241 "I'm sorry if you misunderstood" is not an apology. That's like saying "I'm sorry you felt that way". Next time, try saying "I'm sorry if the what I tried to explain, did not transcribe."

@aimee241

2 жыл бұрын

@@CherryCowgirlNo. I meant it exactly the way it’s written. I didn’t say anything mean, and I’m not apologetic that somebody wanted to misinterpret my comment. I’m sorry that they misunderstood.

@mrssimon2373

2 жыл бұрын

@@aimee241 I think blissing me means you shouldn't apologize on behalf of the other person's misunderstanding. It comes across as condescending. "I'm sorry for the misunderstanding" works better because you're not coming across as pointing fingers.

As a Museologist, listening to you go on about objects that have a life, caring for them and passing them forward is *chef's kiss*. I adore your perspective on history

Can we just stop a moment and appreciate Bernadette's perfect swirl of hair? We can and we shall.

@warriormaiden9829

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! I had to pause for a moment just to admire it. (And possibly lament my unruly hair. Most of it would stay in the swirl, but about a third of it would be off doing its usual Medusa imitation... 😂😭)

@KathrineJKozachok

2 жыл бұрын

I did, and it was worth it!

@allamasadi7970

2 жыл бұрын

@@warriormaiden9829 I love her style and clothing

@asianshell

2 жыл бұрын

i thought it was so silky looking too!

@thecatatemyhomework

2 жыл бұрын

And her black nail polish. I've always wondered when is she going to put on nail polish.

I absolutely adore secondhand shopping because each object I pick out has to “speak” to me. It’s something rather magical about the object that draws us together, so I can become its caretaker

Bernadette: Head Steward of Used Magickal Items I have always liked historical clothing but historical objects haven’t always captivated me… Needless to say, now they do! My dad got me a pair of ~very fine~ pinking shears that in time will become a family heirloom. This video inspired me to be the start of their legacy!

plot twist: the items are once hers back in old days. time travelling means travel, in general, so you have to give up some things for a lightweight luggage 🤫. and now, she wants it back LOL.

@itschrissspy

2 жыл бұрын

i got a heart YAY

@mandie3049

2 жыл бұрын

Bloody brilliant.

@itschrissspy

2 жыл бұрын

@@mandie3049 thanks ❤️

My grandmother passed along the same sentiment that you expressed: “Lovely things are meant to be loved.” What lovely finds! I’m so so happy you take such pleasure in them.

The taking care of items is exactly how I was raised and currently live. My grandmother gave my mother rag rugs that she made about 40 years ago if not more and they are currently in my bathroom and I will check them every year and mend them if I need to. Thank you for reminding me I'm not alone in that.

@RedRose1010100

2 жыл бұрын

Rag rugs??

@ashleyleal6221

2 жыл бұрын

@@RedRose1010100 yes

I love the idea of being a 'caretaker' of an item, and I've never thought of it that way before. The antiques I own have always stood out to me amongst all the other things I own, and I think it's because they have that history to them. They're not just some mass produced item that I bought for convenience, they are beautiful and have been used for decades and sometimes even centuries by people before me. Now I get the chance to love them as much as their previous owners.

Fun fact: the ruins starting at 2:30 were actually a monastery that Henry VIII had shut down after his split with the Catholic church. They took most of the building apart block by block to use the stone elsewhere. Your explanation of how you see yourself as a caretaker of the items you acquire is beautiful and inspiring!

What you said about being a caretaker of items resonates really strongly with me- and others, going by the comments! It's a beautiful and accurate way of putting it.

@lauraarkless-mckie5899

2 жыл бұрын

Is it just me who lives in York and see the things that Bernadette saw on a daily basis and thought of as magical.

@01nataliadb

2 жыл бұрын

Completly agree, it is such a magical thing When you find a beautiful antique or secondhand item that you can use and will use When bought to your home, it's like finding a friend Whom will be there to help you

Do I sew? Do I craft? Have I ever thought about watching or having any sort of interest in historical dressmaking? The answer to all these questions is a flat outright no never before in my life, then I stumble upon this channel and I have been hooked and fascinated by the most amazing craftsmanship and skill that evidently goes into creating these beautiful pieces of clothing and I now understand why historically fast fashion didn't exist and why these beautiful garments are made to be worn for many years. Having watched many of your videos has been a wonderful way to pass the hours and I can honestly say that its been a worthwhile use of my free time because it has made me really think about my consumption of fast fashion and the wider implications that this modern phenomenon has and the fact that I could make a difference, usually I would say its pointless what can I do as an individual that is going to make any difference... but then I thought about being part of a mass movement of society doing their own bit is worthwhile and does have the potential to effect change. Thank you so much for the important message that you spread as you've had the ability to entertain,educate and inspire someone who isn't your usual subscriber viewer and that is something pretty impressive xx

Bernadettes house is honestly like someone living in a museum like we all wanted to as 11 year olds after our first school trip.

While watching this video, i was thinking about how this channel is sort of a moral guide to me. I noticed that since i watched the video about the ripoff of the medieval gown, i almost completely stopped buying fast fashion, which i never really thought about before. And now i guess ill declutter my room soon and start appreciating what i have more. I genuinely think this channel has made and is continuing to make me a better person.

@juhiazha9600

2 жыл бұрын

I agree - I stopped buying fast fashion and now I’m making my own clothes, all because of Bernadette and other historical costumers

That "I made a list... Actually, I ALWAYS have a list" deeply resonate within my own soul.

@victorianidetch

2 жыл бұрын

I tell my children the list is in my head and they laugh.

I love the phosphoric acid vessel. I wonder how much she realizes she's literally demonstrating alchemy.

Moving into my first own flat in a week and I am excited to bring some antiques into my space. There are two that I am absolutely in love with: One is an old Chinese tea box I got from a friend who had it passed to him from his late father. The friend does not particularly favour the aesthetic, but he knew that I love it and that I, being half Slavic/Tatar, am a biiiig tea drinker. The other is a wooden wedding chest from 1706 from one of my ancestors. She was the mother of the people who went to America and founded the American branch of our line. Being one of the last Germans of our line, this chest makes me think about all the people who came before and came together to, ultimately, result in me.

Bernadette: "I'm banned from buying more candlesticks." Candelabra's on Mantle: "No! We... need more friends."

@oldyavannahhadafarm

2 жыл бұрын

*angsty Lumiére noises*

your little monologue about respecting items and letting them "serve their best purpose" has me itching to clean this tarnished silver teapot i got from my nanna…

@ah5721

2 жыл бұрын

Doo it !

@Ps-qd4us

2 жыл бұрын

please do!!

@apcolleen

2 жыл бұрын

I would argue that touching the cherished object might be pretty memory enhancing as well. Prepare for feels!

@benjamins9794

2 жыл бұрын

I know this was 2 weeks ago but, soaking it in water with baking soda and salt dissolved in go a long way to cleaning up silver

It is crazy and overwhelming that every bit of everything, spoon or blade of grass, has a back story. But it is also lovely. A person with imagination is never in want of a story to uncover.

This episode is my favorite episode. My first love was teaching. My second love was fashion. My third love was history. This episode, for me, was the culmination of them all. I feel like I'm taking a historicity class; and that is a high compliment. You speak with knowledge, eloquence , and passion. I want to develop that level of relationship with my belongings, and with the subject which I devote the majority of my time. Thank you!!

when Bernadette mentioned ‘victorian apothecary’ i realized that i needed that to be my aesthetic. i’m a sucker for old medicines bottles and other medical things.

@bluelagoon1980

2 жыл бұрын

One of my favorite ASMRtists Moonlight Cottage has a series of apothecary videos that are absolute magic. It's not like watching ASMR where someone is tapping on objects, but more like a movie. All her videos are like that.

@HAlC-up4hm

2 жыл бұрын

Growing up my Grandma only used Watkins vanilla which comes in an almost apothecary style bottle, even though it's plastic. My older sister and I baked with her often and would have to take turns using it because we thought it was so much fun pretending to be like Mary Poppins. lol

@prapanthebachelorette6803

2 жыл бұрын

Pharmacy student panic 👩🏻‍🔬❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@michellebyrom6551

2 жыл бұрын

@@prapanthebachelorette6803 ...but you would know exactly what every label means and how/what the contents were used for. For some of us that would be fascinating. I can see regular people's eyes glazing over though. Lol. Interesting vases, containers, sock drawers...

@lanky2610

2 жыл бұрын

As a pharmacy student, same! I like learning the history of medicines, and the Victorian era is when things got interesting!

Getting a thrill from finding second-hand/antique items that belong to us is so much better than the thrill of buying new stuff - while the latter is just empty, sort of weightless potential, the Old Things have roots and an actual history (even if it’s unknown to us most of the time), which is like a kind of magic. I also have a strange feeling with very old things, like they take some kind of weight off my shoulders, because they were here before me and might just as well be here after me, so they are making space for me in their lives, it’s not I who is doing that. Please excuse the philosophic rant, I feel very strong feelings about this.

@bernadettebanner

2 жыл бұрын

That is such a magical thought process. ✨

@prapanthebachelorette6803

2 жыл бұрын

Nice perspective

@victorianidetch

2 жыл бұрын

A lovely thought.

@chasmosaurskickingcretaceo7836

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, this is exactly how I feel about second-hand/antiques. Very well said! We just purchased a 1910 Birdseye Maple bedframe to replace a modern bed that was too big for our house. After a little TLC the antique bed glows with beauty, age, and sturdiness. I felt so relieved that we didn't cause any trees to be cut down by buying a "new" bed. Our modern too-huge bed was responsibly taken to a furniture charity where I hope it will give someone (with bigger rooms than ours) many years of comfort.

I'm binge-watching all of your videos before my English literature exam so that I can write my passages more eloquently.

Antique things (sigh)--they also inspire some memories. My stepfather's mother (born in 1909) had a (Singer?) sewing machine that looked almost exactly like your pedal-operated one, but it ran on electricity. She taught me most of what I know about sewing using that thing. And I wanted it. One summer, when I wasn't looking, she replaced it with a brand-new one that just didn't feel right. In 1978, I also briefly knew a lady deep into her 80s, briefly who made all her own clothes by hand. I was in awe: Small, perfect hand stitches on every seam, perfect details, all even on very fine fabrics. I believe she inherited some of her tools from her mother. I wanted those, too--but she took them with her when she moved to a senior citizens' residence.

What some see as a "slightly idealistic approach" to consumerism, I just see as someone trying their best to be ethical to the best they can in an unethical system. It's kinda actually super punk if you think about it that way! Basically, Bernadette is an Edwardian punk is my thesis. Oh my lord, yeah, I can see why you were so excited about the last thing you showed! That's legit super cool!

@dianathemagnificent

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I very highly agree. When she said “rather a caretaker of these items for this portion of their life until I pass them along to a new caretaker” i FELT that, it’s such a mindful and appreciative way to view things in your home/life and really resonated with me. Very Edwardian Librarian Caretaker Punk 🤣

@bernadettebanner

2 жыл бұрын

I accept this headcanon 😁

@brandielee7971

2 жыл бұрын

Edwardian punk is my new thing. Thank you.

@kelizabethy

2 жыл бұрын

I think it's super punk that you left this comment without spoiling what the super cool last thing is going to be . You rock!

@katrinahockman5561

2 жыл бұрын

@@brandielee7971 And now I also aspire to be Edwardian Punk. RARELY do I find word combinations so awesome.

I like this explanation of clutter bad energy being due to disrespect--makes a lot of sense to me. 💖👏🏽💪🏽

@sarahluchies1076

2 жыл бұрын

All I can think of is my porcelain doll that I've had for years. My husband has watched too many horror movies and is convinced it's haunted. He won't let me display it, and it currently sits lying down in a cibicle shelf.

@wolfgoddess15

2 жыл бұрын

I love this explanation as well! It makes complete sense to me. Another thing that resonates with me is her explanation of why she likes antique items; they have a history and story to tell. As an empath, this resonates with me.

@dariawitte4483

2 жыл бұрын

It's good stewardship of the world

@ValeriePallaoro

2 жыл бұрын

@@sarahluchies1076 Your husband is a controlling paranoid. (If he really believes that, he needs counselling, and if he does not and still makes you hide it, he needs a good hiding)

'filling your space with items that have practical uses' My how life has been built around this Idea. I knew there was something special about this channel!

I treasure the things I bring into my home. I look after them and as I age, I worry about who to pass them on to. Its actually nice to know someone else feels the same way. Things have energy.

Just a thought : perhaps you can gently sand the external layer of that chalk that has hardened with age to reveal softer, usable chalk underneath? As an avid antique collector I've done this a few times especially with hardened dry art supplies such as charcoal and it worked!

The hem marker brought back a flood of memories, of my grandmother who was a dressmaker, and had to return to that vocation after my grandfather died. Her dressmaking room had one of those, and I remember watching her use it when altering dresses. It was not far from her dressmaking form, which she named Susie. My grandmother was born in 1893, and I have her little leather notebook where she listed the items in her trousseau, all of which she made prior to marrying in 1915. I have a gorgeous piece of her wedding dress, a bit of the yoke, heavily embroidered and beaded. I worked it into the gown of my Christmas tree angel, whose porcelain head is made from her doll, and the rest from bits of lace and tulle from her inventory. I have a piece of an afternoon gown from the late twenties, an ambery orange silk georgette, with moss green velvet deco flowers. I intend to cover a lampshade with it, and I wish you were here to help me! Sorry to ramble, and thank-you!

@beverleybee1309

2 жыл бұрын

Don't worry about rambling, I do it too. I also saw the hem marker and went, "Oh my God! I know what that is!" Mom did her own sewing. By machine. She would tell me sometimes that she envied my ability to hand sew. I envied her ability to sew by machine. And her ability to alter patterns to tailor them to the person she was sewing for, before cutting the fabric. I have to do a mock-up first, and puzzle it out from there.

@anairivera6121

2 жыл бұрын

I would've never thought of reusing sentimental fabrics in a Christmas angel dress! Brilliant idea!

@kunegund9690

2 жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@sweetiedahling8137

2 жыл бұрын

I for one loved reading your rambling. Thank you for sharing that with us🧡

@skellyvee

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing--how wonderful you can carry these pieces of your grandmother with you... Wishing you well!

Bernadette: "I'm banned from buying candle sticks this trip. Hold me to that." Me: I'll try but who's gonna stop me from buying the candles.

Thank you for making me feel better about my miss matched collection of china acquired from various female relatives. I don't have room for full sets, so I just keep the serving pieces--sugar bowls, creamers, covered bowls, gravy boats, coffee and tea pots. My mother called me a hoarder this weekend.

I so agree; objects/ buildings of the past absolutely have an “energy” and deserve our utmost respect. I live in a 600 year old cottage in the English countryside, and feel immensely privileged to be the “caretaker” of this slice of England’s history. Let’s hope that others, in centuries to come, share our passion for preservation!

@AmythefirstA

2 жыл бұрын

That's amazing! I feel the same way about our Craftsman American Foursquare, even though it's only 100 years old. We try to respect the spirit of the house.

@tamaracarter1836

2 жыл бұрын

@@AmythefirstA That’s brilliant, I’m so glad to hear it.

@lunatonkens7933

2 жыл бұрын

That's amazing! 😱

I'm SO glad the Little Lord gets plenty of veg!

OMG! I used to have that exact hem marker which I used on an almost daily basis when I had my couturier. I passed it on to a friend when I closed down who still uses and loves it. I hope that yours gets all the years of loving use (and then a happy new home) that mine did!

I've just been repairing an old patchwork quilt from 50 years ago for my mum. It is a very important thing as her mum (my grandmother) got it as a wedding present, and she sleeps with it every night. Now I feel like a tailor! :D

@ragnkja

2 жыл бұрын

You’re a textile restorer :D

"Building an estate" is how my husband and I refer to our acquisition of household items. We carefully consider if things are worth buying, based on the likelihood of passing them down to our kids, as much as need, and want.

@thedarkdane7

2 жыл бұрын

This is so unspeakably lovely.

@francescafrancesca3554

2 жыл бұрын

@@thedarkdane7 It is!!! I think I'm keeping it. Thank OP for commenting it!!

@Mysticmoon62

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for being so melancholy but I wish my family passed down items. Most of the time it never happens and even then it's nothing special. Le cry.

@LillibitOfHere

2 жыл бұрын

@@Mysticmoon62 I had my great grandmother’s wedding ring and it got stolen. It’s been 3 years and I’m still crushed.

@francescafrancesca3554

2 жыл бұрын

@@Mysticmoon62 Well, you could start the tradition! Or ask about it and build something together ;p

I work in archaeology, and I really like the idea of being caretakers of objects. Objects carry the stories of previous people. There are pieces of pottery thousands of years old that have the fingerprints of their maker. It’s fascinating and beautiful to think of these stories and people from the past, consider your own story, and think of future generations through these objects.

I am so inspired by your ideology of not consuming items but rather being the caretaker of them while they’re in your possession. I am an impulse buyer and I like to collect things (some may say hoard 🤷🏻‍♀️) so this is definitely something that’s made me reconsider that. I do love and cherish all of my belongings but I can definitely see how adding it to the clutter is disrespectful. Thank you for this insight!

You are the consummate romantic. I appreciate the distinction you have made between being a consumer of things and being a caretaker. Thank you for your positive and refreshing content.

Little Cesario munching on veggie scraps at the end was the happiest I've ever been watching an ad ♥️

@DestructionGlitter

2 жыл бұрын

I actually came here to say the same thing

"There is also that particular thrill of hunting for something that you know is not manufactured" just spoke to me! I just bought a 1947 McCormick-Deering cream separator for my small (goat) dairy. I've been searching for months and months for a cream separator, and two weeks ago, I finally found a complete one. Best gift to myself ever, hands down!

I have a collection of antique pyrex that I use regularly. Some people think I should just display them, but they're dishes! They're made to be dishes. They're in perfect working condition, so they should be doing their work.

Bernadette, you are quickly becoming my role model for how to resist modern consumerism, and it is inspiring rather than discouraging. Also, at 9:58, you prove that you really, truly are from New York.

It's rather brilliant how you use Cesario in your sponsorship sections to turn ads into adorable content.

I'm so pleased that His Lordship Cesario received his own HelloFresh meal. THAT is the level of celebrity endorsement that has me ready to buy!

My respect for Bernadette is over 9000. Ngl her philosophy reflects so much to Shinto philosophies I'm trying really hard to reflect in my life

Oh my! In older novels, some one is always making tea on the spirit lamp. Now I have a visual of that! Thanks! Also, for practical purpose items, I treasure an antique Staffordshire spill vase with three swans. Glad to have found the corner of the net that appreciates that way of thinking.

Estate sales are a very affordable alternative to antiquing if anyone here is on a budget and wishes they could have old and pretty things!

@meandjd

2 жыл бұрын

We don't have estate sales in the uk, in fact if you went to something called an estate sale here it would just be a house for sale. It annoys me constantly I wish we did I keep seeing amazing things found at the ones across the pond.

@Calkholmes

2 жыл бұрын

@@meandjd we do have house clearances but you do have to know the right people for that sort of thing

@CarolineElizabethMartin

2 жыл бұрын

@@meandjd Aw that sucks, how about eBay? I’ve gotten a lot of cool biscuit and tea tins from the 1900s with King Edward and Queen Mary’s likeness. I use them to store my sewing notions. Love little pieces of history.

Bernadette would be a great museum curator! As someone who works at an art museum that's exactly our attitude towards purchases and gifts. We need to know we can care for the piece before it is accessioned into the collection and recording the history of how it came into the collection is provenance which is extraordinarily important to telling the story of an object.

@OcarinaSapphr-

2 жыл бұрын

Our local museum actually can’t take a piece if we can’t source the province of it- either the donator has to provide as much as they can, &/ or we do internet research based upon what we see, & what info we are given; I was excited to work on a (still filled) medical bag, used between 1925-71 - the cotton wool & bandages were Johnson & Johnson, which led to me researching when the company started in Australia- I had to try & translate the fading writing on the bottles, looked into the company shown on the surgical silk package (Archibald Turner)- the ‘Vaporole’ aromatic ammonia, & the syringe that was also in the bag - we did a photo layout for the display, & what was damaged- we added images from Google search, noting in the reference to the syringe that it was _similar_ to the actual artefact. I’ve also been working on two general displays, to accompany a couple of other artefacts...

I totally get what you’re saying about special objects, finding homes for them, etc. you’re whole philosophy resonates with me.

I hope that young people would see more this kind of videos where people make us think twice about these days consuming culture. Thank you! :)

I just love that you consider yourself as the caretaker of your items. What a lovely way to look at things. That teapot is perfect! As soon as you pulled it out I was hoping you got the stand too. I’m so glad we get to come along on your little quest to find items for your new home. 💚

@prapanthebachelorette6803

2 жыл бұрын

Eco friendly squad meeting here

There is just something about glass bottles that inexplicably brings me so much joy

7:56 Heyyyy chemist here! Like with ANY potentially used labware, never eat or drink out of it, no matter how clean you presume it to be. Even if you did the cleaning yourself, once lab used, only lab used. Therefore, unless you know exactly (and I mean concentrations, components, and frequencies of everything it's ever touched ever), don't reuse it for a non-lab purpose, outside of decoration (even then, some may argue, is iffy). Tl;Dr Keep it clean, keep it dry, and keep it empty Hella cool piece of glassware btw!!! I'm a sucker for the real stuff

@Burning_Dwarf

Жыл бұрын

100% agree I have a 10ml graduated flask from where i went to school, god knows what was put in there! I keep it dry, clean and sort of empty; a little fake flowerstem.

I like that you truly want to be a steward of still usable items, and you want to be a good steward and be able to pass them on.

you can get the burner to work for your copper kettle. it needs a wick, and likely uses paraffin. Growing up my mother had one, which we used at teatime when we had guests.

@rosacanisalba

2 жыл бұрын

But it may need to be relined to be able to drink the water boiled in it, and I'm not certain how possible that is for a kettle due to the shape.

I have a weakness for tea cups. Going to an antique fairs feels like going treasure hunting. I love the idea of being a caretaker of items.

@barefootwildflowers3209

2 жыл бұрын

I once left an auction with 27 kitchen chairs 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

@LaRocheSews

2 жыл бұрын

I have a weakness for broken teacups that have been self-repaired. My mom doesn't understand it, but I love that someone loved that teacup enough to try fixing it themself.

@warriormaiden9829

2 жыл бұрын

@@LaRocheSews Take a look at kintsugi. I think you'd like the philosophy. :) I would LOVE to have a collection of antique Victorian porcelain that had been repaired in that method. Don't care if it all matches. I NEED it in my life. 😆

@LaRocheSews

2 жыл бұрын

@@warriormaiden9829 AHHH I thought I knew what it was and I looked it up and I was right!! It’s such a pretty way to repair and keep using things that adds even more history and art to the repair. Having Victorian items repaired using kintsugi is such a beautiful idea

Loved the whole video but seeing Cesario so excited for his vegetables and run over to the food bowl made me melt with happiness!

Bernadette, I love your purchases. I've spent countless hours in search of items I just had to have. Mainly sewing notions and kitchen tools. I always kept my sights finding Victorian buttons, which are beautiful works of art. I've collected so many items and now at the age of 75 my love for each item has not diminished and I even remembered what I paid for each, includes lace bundles, trims, tape measures. I even own a Victorian sterling silver cocaine vial. It never ends ...

I think it is perfectly good to modify old things so that they are still useful to us. If we are afraid to mess with something and instead keep it as a "museum piece", most of the time that means it is forgotten and neglected. The tools which are old but repaired or refitted are often my most loved things. For all of history before the modern throwaway age, as well, people took old things and modified them for their use. It doesn't disrespect a tool to change it so it is useful again, it respects it.

That kettle caught my eye too - actually it was the stand that I noticed. IMO it's even more wonderful than the kettle! I can imagine the blacksmith standing at his forge hammering away to shape it. That would have come home with me too.

@cinemaocd1752

2 жыл бұрын

When I first read this, I thought you meant you would have brought the blacksmith home with you...

@DianneKargBaron

2 жыл бұрын

@@cinemaocd1752 🤣🤣🤣 Well I might have. I do have a fondness for men who hammer metal. I met my husband in a metalworking class 🤣.

This video reminded me of a recent article I read regarding heirloom china that people inherit from their relatives. In short, the china was always stored in a cabinet and never used. The people who inherit the china started using the dishes, and the older relatives were horrified. The point of the article is that china was originally a status symbol, but using it as actual dinnerware is more respectful than tossing it out or never using it. 😊 As a big fan of LEGO, I firmly believe that everything can and should be reused and repurposed.

From 4:20 on: THIS monologue implies so many thoughts I had last year, while we were clearing out the house of my deceased grandmother. She was a sweet, humble and deeply religious woman, who knew war and hunger and lived in times of self-sufficiency, but was confronted with consumerism and materialism later in life. So she became some kind of hoarder. We found piles of handmade antique textiles, but also cheap towels from the 80s in the original packing. Much of the textiles were damaged because of the improper storage (mould stains, moths,...) So I realised I couldn´t keep most of the pieces, if I wanted to honour the pieces and our grandmother. I kept only a few things (of which I can take care, have a place and function) and gave away the rest. It was hard work, but I wanted for the pieces to find happy caretakers.

The key to getting me to pay attention to an entire ad read is to include the "little lord of the manor." 🥰

I love the history and story of old items as well. It's not that old, but I love thinking about all the meals my 1950s stove has cook, everyday meals, birthday cakes, Thanksgivings. For some reason this video also made me think of mudlarking on the Thames, which I have always wanted to do. Finding little scraps of the past that have been tossed away seems so intriguing. And that they can be as old as the Romans blows my mind.

@bernadettebanner

2 жыл бұрын

Mudlarking is most definitely on the bucket list! 😁

@avonleekley4623

2 жыл бұрын

There is a wonderful, fascinating book called "Mudlarking," well worth looking for. (I found a copy in a LA public library, so probably much easier in the UK)

@avonleekley4623

2 жыл бұрын

Correction! The actual title of the book I mentioned is - "Mudlark: In Search of London's Past Along the River." It is Wonderful.

@thecupthatcheers9763

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh, mudlarking looks so much fun! I started watching a bunch of mudlarking videos on KZread when the pandemic started. My favorite channel is Nicola White -- Mudlark.

My grandmother recently downsized out of the house she had lived in for 60 years and there were so many treasures in there. As a family, we knew how important the pieces in there were. Not only on a structural and quality level but also on the sentimental side. Nearly every piece of furniture in that house was given a new home by a family member. I was lucky enough to get a beautiful silver mirror vanity and an old suitcase full of vintage clothing patterns (My grandmother and great-grandmother were amazing seamstresses). Everything is safely in storage until I get a place of my own but I agree wholeheartedly with the message in this video and will try to fill it with objects of love.

"Here is a literal piece of history you can have"-- what an excellent and succinct way to sum up what antiques are and why they're so fucking cool, all at once.

this video was specially crafted for us with little crow brains that like to collect the most wonderful things

@lapvona

2 жыл бұрын

yes my goblin/crow brain is like :0

I’m obsessed with chatelaines and think they should be more commonly used today! I currently have mine on my sweatpants as I sew a neck binding

@HAlC-up4hm

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you both for the history lesson! I'd never heard of a chatelaine so I promptly searched the internet and spent several minutes reading about them and looking at very pretty pictures. :)

@lovejoy5774

2 жыл бұрын

They embody "tasteful clutter" so fabulously. I love them!

@OofusTwillip

2 жыл бұрын

I have a circa-1907, Mabie Todd Swan chatelaine fountain pen. The cap has 2 tiny chains linked with a tiny ring, to be clipped to a chatelaine. The pen has no filling mechanism; instead, you unscrew the barrel, and fill it with an eyedropperful of ink. When I use this pen, I wonder about the lady who originally owned it. Who was she? Did she buy it herself, or was it a gift? What sorts of things did she write with it? Was she a housewife, or did she work in a high-end office or store or gallery? The pen has a solid gold band on it, so it certainly wasn't for a working-class woman.

@janetbrown2927

2 жыл бұрын

@@lovejoy5774 I wear mine as either a necklace or hanging from my skirtwaist - I have one that is thistle themed, one is Oak and Roses - they each have scissors, fitted thimbles in cages, beeswax holders, needle holders, and tussy mussies. They are sterling and made by thimblesforyou. Then I have three antiques, one was a housekeeper's - scissors, paper, pencil, magnifying glass, and beeswax.

@lajoyous1568

2 жыл бұрын

I have one with scissors, a pin holder and a reusable notepad. I think it's themed after Athena.

I'd love to have a Victorian microscope! I study biology and we usually have a history lesson in each subject, but microbiology and chemistry antiques just have that charm that no other historic artefacts of other sciences have

ah yes i love the energy of my antique 40 year old 1980s grey cubicle desk that was rescued by my father from going to a landfill when i was a baby. very aesthetic, i feel proud to preserve this history.

this is one of the reasons I love the arts and crafts style of home decor: Function+beauty=the perfect home

I wish more people had this approach to things. You really articulated something that I have though for some time but never have put into words.

How marvellously explained by Bernadette, her opinion on 'objects' and 'things'!

I feel the same way about "things". I use antique and vintage in my home everyday. They are not only useful, made well but also beautiful. Everything was made to look nice as well as have a neccessary function.