It really resonated with me when Chris said "I have always felt that a true Christian faith has a vibrant and joyful expression in everyday life. Because hey, it is the Good News!" I know so many Christians who always act miserable and grumpy. It put me off from the faith for a long time. Now that I have rekindled my walk with Jesus, no one can steal my joy!!

Chris, this video is 5 years old but oh brother.... you've found a diamond. What a beautiful lady Laura is. Inside and out.

True, pure Christianity at its best, well done guys, all my best wishes💐 if only the whole world was like your community there will be no poverty, no loneliness, no suffering on earth just peace, love and care ( Muslim sister UK)

@lilianmbugua2370

3 жыл бұрын

True this is very nice life I love it

Reading some of the comments here isn’t surprising. As a woman living in this world I have been broken by relationships broken by rejection and sex without real commitment, this world tells us to be free sexual liberation and all this complete lie . Listening to these two people is an absolute gift I don’t care what she is wearing I don’t care about any of that all I see is hope in this mess . We are so desperate for love and intimacy yet we don’t know how to go about because ultimately we have pushed God out. I believe he is my creator and praying for the strength to just give him a chance in this area of my life

@alexbecker4149

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, sexual liberation is a complete lie. The happiest people are those living in strong families and supportive communities, not singles or career-oriented feminists. But the media doesn't show the path to happiness, they only show dysfunctional people because drama is entertaining to the broken people watching at home. As a man I also feel disillusioned with life in this artificial society. I'm 29 and have a good career, I work over the internet etc. but I feel like in this fake society there is nothing worth living for, it's only a hamster wheel and circus with no true fulfillment. My dream is to have a family and live a simple life in a healthy community where families support each other. I just learned about the Bruderhof community, I previously considered joining the Amish but I think technology can be useful, when used mindfully. So now I'm considering joining a Bruderhof community. I've been living a simple life and saving all my earnings, just because I didn't know what else to do with the money, but also saving in case something bad happens in the future, because in this modern world you always have to be worried about the future. The media is instilling fear in people while selling insurances. It seems like the Bruderhof system works better, they are not worried because they are supporting each other, so they can invest in the present and live in the present, which is more healthy and fulfilling. I wish you the best and hope that you'll find true fulfillment and happiness!

@catherine9808

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexbecker4149 I hear you Alex . Artificial society is spot on. It is empty and broken. Maybe you don’t need to go live in a different community maybe it’s about finding peace no matter where you live . Personally I think it’s something only God can bring and won’t matter where we live if we have Christ in our hearts . Hope you find what you’re looking for

I'm an atheist, but whatever works for you is great. Congratulations.

@danacaro-herman3530

3 жыл бұрын

@Scott Wallace. I pray that perhaps you find the love of God the Father, Jesus Our Lord and Savior and The Holy Spirit!! Peace and God bless 🙏

@therealzilch

3 жыл бұрын

@@danacaro-herman3530 Thanks for your good wishes. Peace to you and yours too.

@thedreamer4761

3 жыл бұрын

@@danacaro-herman3530 no

@lawriecoombs6876

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a Marxist and a life long socialist. I love these videos - there is so much to learn from them.

@jamiemarie4894

2 жыл бұрын

She didn’t ask.

They’ve known each other for years, have been taking walks together in nature, talking a lot, getting to know each other on a deeper level, finding out who the other person really is, reading together... If that’s not dating, I don’t know what is! That’s definitely how my boyfriend and I have been dating, and we’re atheists. The only addition is that we have sexual contact, but I wouldn’t say at all that that’s the important part of dating or even that it’s necessary. I mean, that would mean that asexual people can’t date! But maybe „dating“ is a term that’s a little looked down upon at the Bruderhof and perhaps that’s why they don’t like to call it dating? But they’ve definitely been dating. Which is not a bad thing! :)

@kittyp1569

3 жыл бұрын

True! It is a form of "dating." Generally in cultures or communities with this type of "dating" it is not seen as just having a relationship, but specifically getting to know a person for the ONLY reason of marriage. They literally do not "date" anyone they are not seeking for the point of marriage. I do think she has a point that it holds back a certain type of intimacy in order to develop the heart/spiritual side of the relationship. There are many relationships twisted by physical intimacy or ruined by it, b/c the heart/spirit side wasnt developed first.

@shystudyspy

3 жыл бұрын

Kitty P Ah, I see. I missed that it was only for the purpose of finding out if marriage would work for them. That’s definitely not how we’ve been dating, even though I realized pretty early on that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Marriage will probably be in our future at one point because I like the thought of being married to my significant other, but it’s not that important to us.

@osricwolfing4553

3 жыл бұрын

I'm an atheist too. I think a lot of people are under the impression that we are immoral hedonists who deny gods to live in debauchery without shame, but I like traditional old fashioned dating. It really is better for you emotionally.

@flowersafeheart

3 жыл бұрын

Yes sounds like they've been doing really enjoyable non-sexual dating and feeling out their compatability (other than sexual compatability but I respect their right to choose what they want about that).

@notafeminist5948

3 жыл бұрын

The word dating nowdays is completly messed up, it can refer to promiscuity.

"Don't have to worry about a fancy dress..." These aren't negative things to most people. They enjoy them, that's why they CHOOSE them. Lots of people on the outside also choose not to have a big wedding or fancy dress. When u have been conditioned to think it's wrong or sinful to wear a fancy dress, however, I can see why u would think it's a burden.

@Heyimvalarie18

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, completely agree

@kittyp1569

3 жыл бұрын

Jen - you miss the point. The worry is the negative part, not wearing a pretty dress. She was referring to the expense & finding of a very extravagant gown. I'm not bruderhof - but I dont want that stress either! I would NOT choose to worry about a fancy dress anyway! I dont think its "sinful" to wear a fancy dress, & I dont think she's been taught that either. But I DO think theyve been taught to enjoy & focus on what marriage is REALLY about: joining 2 lives together, just 2 people as they are, as beloved friends, before God... When THAT is the reason you are getting married - why would you care about a stupid dress?! I personally think its disgusting that many modern american women are incredibly focused on "MY DAY, MY WAY" & EVERYTHING about them & what they want. What a way to start a marriage (a joining of 2 people) - by believing you, your dress & what you want are the only things that matter. Is it any wonder we have such high divorce rates?! PS. And yes, according to numerous studies the level of gross entitlement & narcissism in our society has a direct impact on how we tend to operate in our marriages.

@amed9476

3 жыл бұрын

@@kittyp1569 I think you missed Jen's point. Jen was saying that most people choose whether they want a lavish wedding with a fancy dress, or if they want a small ceremony with only close friends. That isn't saying that the DRESS is the most important thing, it's saying that CHOICE is the most important thing. They aren't conditioned to think that the want for a material thing is bad; they're taught that it's okay so long as you work for it, so long as you don't view it as the most important thing in the world. Also high divorce rates would correspond with it actually becoming more socially acceptable to divorce (and society becoming less conservative, and less likely to prioritise appearances and reputation over individual wellbeing). Years ago, many more unhappy couples would stay together due to societal or religious pressure (divorcees look bad, are treated poorly, have done something wrong in the eyes of God - staying in a loveless, unhappy marriage is SO much better than that, right? smh).

I’ve been married 21 years three kids and I couldn’t be happier even though I had a stroke last year and now my husband looks after he’s great

Thank God there are young people like this. Maybe our civilization won't die out after all.

So very happy for you both. Ever since I became interested in the Bruderhof I have found your videos both informative and entertaining, full of good humor and God's love. May God bless you with good things always!

This is the most wholesome relationship I have ever seen, and this brings me so much hope 💖 I see so many broken families and I myself come from one. This is awesome 💖

my eyes are turning into hearts, Laura you are so delightful, and Chris is so wise.

Congratulations Laura. It's so great to see you here and hear your voice. I pray that you'll have a Blessed and Spirit Filled Godly marriage. You haven't changed abit with your joyful and outgoing personality.

I appreciate how they express their faith and how they interact.

Such beautiful and respectful people you are to one another. God has truly paired correctly. After seeing this, I only wish I could go back and live a bit differently. My walk with Father has taken me a long way, but I do wish I could have had the start the two of you have. Just lovely both of you! Congratulations!

God bless you both!

May God bless you both and I trust you will be very happy together. When your marriage is built on a solid foundation, it is a beautiful thing!

I don't understand how your "getting to know" each other is any different to dating? Dating doesn't necessitate physical intimacy.

@postcodeox278

3 жыл бұрын

The dating term is used by many to mean that you go out for a coffee, which like you said isn't about physical intimacy. However the 'dating' term is also about sex, its being open and ready for sex if the door is open the guy will walk through it. Christians don't have a view of dating like that!

@airenesivad2975

3 жыл бұрын

Real dating is not hooking up it is getting to know one first and checking compatibility etc.

@anthonym4706

3 жыл бұрын

Let's be honest with ourselves... yes it does.

@johnsala1619

3 жыл бұрын

@@anthonym4706 I'll be 46 in a few days, if dating necessarily means physical intimacy of any kind, than I've never been on a date. Actually, I never have been on a date.

@theescapist9450

3 жыл бұрын

Who dates someone they don't know? You get to know eachother then determine of you want to date

this was by far the most enjoyable video yet! ;) such happy news!!!

4 years late but congratulations! Wishing you all the best 😊 God bless. You look a lovely couple

May God bless and protect you.

Congratulations Chris I know if you remember me but I used to be a teacher at Belleville school

Fascinating! Really makes you think. Thank you

@Bruderhof

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

I am born catolic,butt decided to chose for a Christian community in Belguim after hard time in relationship ,not married,but i have a son of 9years old,i wanna be baptist again and living more like the bible describes,the Bruderhof is fascinated,this is how life supposed to be,good luck and may God bless your marriage,maybe whit children,The modern world needs community's like the Bruderhof,Amen

Wishing you a lot of happiness, blessings and strength to face life in hard times. Much love

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

May God bless you and keep His face shine upon you both always...

@Socalove-ss3xo

2 жыл бұрын

That's very nice words!!couldnt agree more.

God bless you both my dear sister and brother in Christ.

I am so excited and happy for you! God bless your marriage!

@Bruderhof

7 жыл бұрын

Hey thanks! - Laura and Chris

Well, that was refreshing.

This is so wholesome

You guys are too cute! I love that you two took a serious approach to dating/courting. And not having to plan a wedding seems awesome! Planning the wedding was the most stressful part of getting married for me.

Aw, that looks like a good marriage on the right foundation. God bless!

Lovely how you did it. ButI would like to add, that what you did in getting to know eacbother is considered dating. Dating is whatever you make of it

@nicolerymercox

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. Dating is spending time together and getting to know each other. Sound like that's what they did.

@Lynnetteify

3 жыл бұрын

that's what I thought!! They dated!!

@mtblaho

3 жыл бұрын

Nicole Rymer Cox it’s more courting than dating. They dated with the specific purpose of seeing if they were compatible for marriage. That’s the difference between courting and dating.

Awww congrats from a muslim hope you have a happy life may Allah bless you /God ♥️

@Bel-ri4vz

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. May God Bless you both.

Im so interested in this community/religion, i randomly typed something which sounded like this lol, some dish or something but im so happy ive actualy discovered u now :)

Inspiring to see such a lovely and happy couple!

Hello from Greece The way of life you have in your community is the best thing a human can do I don't say this from the religious prospective The natural life,the common table but must important, the live with no money

I'm a non practicing Catholic but I just wanted to say I think you are a really cool person. It seems you're in touch with reality and living a life that makes you happy. You seem to have a fun personality. Stay who you are.

Hi Chris and Laura. I'm so happy to hear about your wedding. All the best from Darryl Connolly.

@Bruderhof

7 жыл бұрын

Hi Darryl! Thank you. It's great to hear from you - Chris and Laura

Father God, bless these two I pray in your AMAZING NAME! I pray your blessings over the whole Bruderhof Community! Lord let them continue to share the Book of Acts with the whole world by actually living it! I love that I have brothers and sisters in this world who still live this way! Go Bruderhof! Keep showing the worlds Christians how adorable the new Kingdom is gonna be. By hinting at its splendour!!! Amen 🙏🙏🙏

@TheGeeeeeeeek

3 жыл бұрын

Pmm

Love it, good luck.

Such a beautiful couple.

Laura you are beautiful! What wonderful followers of Christ you are. Sadly my life and faith was destroyed by being in a psudo Christian cult as a teenager. I wish you all the best in your new home and marriage. I'm so happy for you guys!!!

That was really sweet. Looking forward to being able to see what a bruderhof wedding is like, if that's the plan.

@Bruderhof

7 жыл бұрын

Yeah we're planning to do a little photo/video montage of the wedding celebration. Check back for it! - Laura and Chris

God bless your marriage!

this could greatly help solve many societal issues based on ´nowadays moral values. I personally dont see myself committing to your community and way of life all though I do appreciate your healthy life hygiene and ethics, God bless you all.

what you are describing instead of dating is pretty much the same as dating .....there are some people that may be more relaxed but other people that are not members of your particular faith still may date in their own way GUIDED by faith

@jenm2251

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. When they said all that, I was wondering what they think we do here on the outside. Not everyone becomes intimate right away. Maybe that's what they're worried about w the term "dating."😳

@nicolerymercox

3 жыл бұрын

@@jenm2251 Yeah, it's a little amusing to see how they view the outside world. There are plenty of religious people on the outside who take the exact same approach to dating/marriage that they do. These folks take the extremes from the outside and project them on to *everyone* on the outside. But I understand. I was raised in a devout religious household (not anything like a commune though), and we were the exact same way in how we viewed outsiders. It's kinda trippy to see my religious culture, but on steroids, in these videos.

@nateloish3309

3 жыл бұрын

As part of a conservative religion. Not Amish or Mennonite, we only (date) court someone from our own fath for the sake of marriage, not for fun. If we find out that we would not want to marry that person, we break it off. Also, when it comes to being physical, we don't let our emotions get the best of us. Sex before marriage is (and should be) a big no. We find that when intimacy gets involved, it clouds your judgment, and you can't see the real person properly. Not saying you can't hug, kiss or hold hands with that person during courtship, just don't jump right into it. Give it some time. Also, depending on the consciences of each couple, it will differ on what boundaries are set when it comes to physical interactions. There is one thing that is a constant in each courtship, a chaperone.

This is pretty cool. When I was younger I had a different take on relationships. I always felt like if I met someone I was compatible with, why not declare ourselves partners and build a relationship inside those parameters? This did not work out at all. People thought that was too intense. I, on the other hand, was uncomfortable with "the game" where you were supposed to only hint at your intentions, and read the other person's signals in order to figure out whether he was interested. I felr quite isolated by this. This was way before the internet could have shown me likeminded individuals. I am so happy that things are different now - that it is okay for people to build relationships in different ways, and that it is possible to find likeminded people. Mazel tov!

Being a christian and having been completely disappointed in males, I really hope you do live a true christian marriage and are faithful to each other. I hope that this video isn't just a pretty picture hiding an ugly truth. Blessings from Russia 💗

I just stumbled upon your channel. I’m not religious at all, but I love your positive energy and I find your videos super interesting😇

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

You guys are lovely!!

Yes my parents helped with my courtship IN and SC here

Happinesses to both of you 😍😍😍

you make a lovely couple, I wish you both a happy life together, your lifestyle looks idyllic

Blessings!!!!

I totally love and respect that you guys didn’t “traditionally” date. I think people get wrapped up and lost in the novelty of a new relationship without building a strong foundation for a solid future together! Wishing you both loads of happiness 💕

My husband and I were married "after the manner of Friends" meaning we had a very traditional Quaker wedding. Its sounds similar to your experience, in that it is a meeting for worship and at some point we promised before God and the community to be loving and faithful to each other, with Divine assistance, as long as we live. My husband and I have been married 44 years and God has blessed us with a loving relationship that is sound and based upon the Rock, which is Jesus. Are there ups and downs in marriage? Sure, but when you wether them your relationship deepens and matures. May God bless you as you start your married lives with Him.

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

May the Word of God be the foundation you build your life upon! Submit to one another in love! Choose humility over pride and your way!

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Love that!

Happy long life together 😍🙏🕊

Just to wish you both a wonderful 3rd wedding anniversary...and all happiness ahead :)

Beautiful

All the best to both of you. You are very cute together. ❤️

Wow he is very cute♥ Just gotta sat that, girl👍 You two will have an awesome life together. Keep making each other laugh, it's a way to each other's heart that bonds in lasting friendship. Blessings to you both...

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!

All the best for the future and a successful marriage

@Bruderhof

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you. - Laura and Chris

Oh sorry,,, congratulations.....! I like ur ( God is the reason) approach to ur marriage,, been proven time n time again......only way it will last....God Bless

God Bless

Hi Laura my fiance likes your lively spirit and likes to meet you we are from the UK and we will try out the Bruderhof for two weeks hopefully next summer.

that was interesting, are there more recent videos?

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Yes lots kzread.info/dron/sty3aVKzyMkD2Uh3JLbDJQ.html

Obviously, a match made in heaven. :-)

Awesome couple.

Do you think you might be able to put some songs from the Christmas Red Book or others? Those songs are so uplifting. All the best. From Darryl Connolly

@Bruderhof

7 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the suggestion - we'll see what we can do.

Love your laughter!

You seem like a very sweet couple! I wish you a lifetime of happiness.

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

Seems unfair that the women are subjected to a "visible uniform" while the men are dressed more anonymously.

@laverndowsley8850

3 жыл бұрын

@M B true but their clothes are store bought and they look far more fashion forward. Maybe they should dress like the Amish :)

@Theskaterenegade

3 жыл бұрын

@@laverndowsley8850 maybe people should leave people live how they want and exept that not everyone live by their desires 🙂

@neatznotso7424

3 жыл бұрын

@James Tatum are those left for "bad" Christian women?

@neatznotso7424

3 жыл бұрын

@James Tatum it was a question actually, for you.

@Zavidar2

3 жыл бұрын

Looks comfy

Hi I found you're posting really interesting! Is there any Broderhof in canada?

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Not yet!

Se puede ver el video pero en español?

This is the second video I watched tonight, and I am so intrigued and interested on how you live. I think it’s a beautiful lifestyle, and you’re very lucky. The number one question I have is why you do not have British accents? That might seem like a dumb question, but I’m very curious? You sound like you’re from America?

@Bruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

Yes most of our communities are in the US but we have two in the UK

@sianwordsworth

3 жыл бұрын

@@Bruderhof I live just down the road from the Bruderhof in Robertsbridge, East Sussex

Love simple weddings

Seriously, if the world was far more concerned with approaching relationships in this manner and with Christ in their heart, we would have nowhere near the magnitude of problems that the world faces, as it does now. Brilliant feedback about dating there.

Belated congrats.

You are such an adorable couple and I can see from the proceeding four years since your wedding, that you made the right choice to get married. That said, I would argue that you did date each other beforehand. Dating does not necessitate sexual contact. Is falling in love allowed in the Bruderhof? What support is in place to keep both parties accountable during the dating/getting to know each other phase, to prevent sexual contact? How does the community work to ensure you are both making the right decision? Did you have a formal proposal to become engaged? Sorry, I realise that is a lot of questions! I have a lot of them.

I agree with not using the word dating. Dating in mainstream culture definitely does not presuppose an express purpose of getting to know one another for the immediate end goal of marriage.

As long as you're happy, that's what matters. Be well!

Very sweet. It is a closed community. They have a fairly typical path to marriage, nothing shocking here. I wonder if she has full efficacy w her video content or if she has to have it reviewed or filtered by her church? Again, what a sweet couple.

God bless your marriage.

i think what makes dating different is when your dating someone you consider them your boyfriend/girlfriend and expect a certain level of commitment from the start (and marriage not having to be a goal). correct me if im wrong but these two seemed to be just friends who mediated on marriage before actually getting married. it was more of a discernment process for them vs immediate attraction and coupling.

„we felt god was leading us to a relationship”= we developed a crush on each other. 🙄

ok I'll say it. Chris is hot asf.

@michelebergman4336

3 жыл бұрын

HaHaHa🤙

@emjohnson76

3 жыл бұрын

Hilarious 🤣

@susiearviso3032

3 жыл бұрын

VERY INNAPROPRIATE

@zariballard

3 жыл бұрын

Jacob Harris I just said it too and scrolled down to see who else said it😁

@Truth20237

3 жыл бұрын

@@susiearviso3032 ew susie

What a Godly couple

How old are u both?

She has a channel of her own...

Oooooook, NOW it makes sense: this video is 3 years old 😅😅😅 Because the last Video from Laura was the one with her son and that had me totally confused 😂🤣

I'm very religious.. I always go to Chilli's on Sundays..

I’m still watching the video and I know you’re married with a son, by why in this video are you both wearing rings on your right hands? So are the rings related to the vows you took when you joined the community? If so, how old are you when you choose this? You stated you grew up there.

How old are you?

You both look smart. :-)

Hey L'aura! Looks like we are neighbors! I live in new paltz ny!

@LaurafromtheBruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

That's so cool! I went to NPHS!

@sarahp.8420

3 жыл бұрын

@@LaurafromtheBruderhof wow! Small world! I was sorry to see the cafe near mobile that you all ran, go. Loved hearing the singing voices in the streets!!! I'm curious now though after watching some of your Q&A's. The bruderhoff do not recruit, right? My question then is, what was that cafe all about? Apart from the free and delicious cookies, that is. 🤣🌼

@LaurafromtheBruderhof

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahp.8420 Just wanted to meet our neighbors and make connections I think. I actually never made it past before it closed unfortunately.

Laura, does your community interbreed with relatives or distant relatives, such as cousins?

This is obviously an older video, but in watching a variety of older and newer videos I noticed you don't always cover your hair. What determines when you do and when you don't?