I don't think narcissists should be bosses, honestly. I think that's a liability.

@chucklemethis3329

2 жыл бұрын

There’s absolutely no way to prove it

@mish375

2 жыл бұрын

The problem is that these types are charismatic to those they need things from. So they climb the corporate ladder easily.

@RLDRemembrance

2 жыл бұрын

@@chucklemethis3329 Usually they will be guilty of negligent misrepresentation, fraudulent inducement, promissory estoppel or something of that vein, they’re not the brightest bulbs. If nothing else, there’s always Federal Regulators…

@brianwalsh1401

Жыл бұрын

@@mish375 An expression I heard is they "kiss up and kick down." If you're their coworker they already think you're below them. They think you're of value to them or no value. The no value are the ones they target for abuse same if they're your boss.

@mish375

Жыл бұрын

@@brianwalsh1401 They're brownosers alright. They know how and who to talk to to keep their jobs.

Encouraging Narcissists is THE WRONG IDEA! REMOVING them is the key.

@brianwalsh1401

Жыл бұрын

I agree but easier said the done. They are so damn good at manipulating and hiding who they are.

@mish375

Жыл бұрын

Encouraging them only makes it worse. Standing up to them and setting your boundaries makes them afraid of you. And they will target someone else. They like easy prey.

@thatgui88

Жыл бұрын

@@mish375 yeah they just move onto different targets. They are truly terrible people :/

@mish375

Жыл бұрын

@@thatgui88 I can sadly say I agree as someone who grew up with a narc sibling. These people are always looking for a new target.

@thatgui88

Жыл бұрын

@@mish375 YES they get bored and start to start some drama on different people I have seen it with my own eyes. I'm so happy I found out what this personality disorder was called

If you have a true narcissist boss, get away from him/her. They will destroy you from the inside out.

@brianwalsh1401

3 жыл бұрын

They will cause you a lot of grief and stress. It's what they do for fun and to alleviate their boredom or get back at you for perceived slights.

@thatgui88

Жыл бұрын

@@brianwalsh1401 YES

@thatgui88

Жыл бұрын

@@brianwalsh1401 mine was always competative and always looking to fight.

@brianwalsh1401

Жыл бұрын

@@thatgui88Yep because for them it's about manipulation, control and dominance. Somebody wins and you lose. They also love conflict. I saw where in business they started calling them high conflict employees or something to that affect that way you don't have to use narcissist or sociopath because then they'll sue you. These "people" are pure poison. Freaking tiresome to deal with.

@thatgui88

Жыл бұрын

@@brianwalsh1401 yeah I was reading what is narcissism and he legit fits every description. Yeah he would always find ways to be better.

1. You have to bullshit the narcissist in the most boring way possible. It reduces their perception that you are a threat to their insecurity. If you are too attentive, eager, or enthusiastic they will attack, sabotage, or use you even more for their weird manipulation games. 2. Don't take it personally. Your mental, physical, and career health are your #1 priorities. Their narcissistic insecurity is THEIR problem, and they are desperate to pin it on anyone that will take their bait. Just play dumb and save your emotions and energy for living a positive life, regardless of their BS. 3. Get out. Just accept that someone promoted an incompetent narcissist into leadership at this company, which means there is likely an incompetent narcissist above them, and likely more narcissists or PollyAnna enablers surrounding them. You will never thrive through your competence at a company like this. The only people thriving in companies like this love being immersed in the narcissistic bullshit, and they love abusing competent contributors. 4. Sever all ties with the narcissist and the company. Become invisible to them. Don't let them reach out to you for anything. It's all a toxic ploy, regardless of how ingratiating they behave. Warn your friends, etc. If they are attracted to you for any reason, then they will CRAVE whatever they get from you.

@chucklemethis3329

2 жыл бұрын

Nailed it

@suzetteclarke1709

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree

@beauthentic7493

Жыл бұрын

💯.....perfect explanation 👌 👏

@spacecatmowgli4723

Жыл бұрын

I'm currently just playing stupid. I know narcissists. Manager started kissing my ass lately and tried to bond over where he has issues with upper management. He's just washing his hands clean off his own mistakes and mismanagement towards me. He's very see through. As long as I can mentally deal with this, I'll syay

@kimmichaluk3072

Жыл бұрын

@spacecatmowgli4 problem is its going to leave you mentally exhausted and inwardly emotionally and psychologically damaged if you stay too long. It can take years to recover from abuse from a narcissist. Take care and get another job for your own sake...

Promotion?! Why would you WANT to be promoted and remain working for a narcissist?! The only way to "handle" or "work with" a narcissist is to hand in your resignation and run... far, far, far... away...

@mat11trick

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@yoyoboho4219

3 жыл бұрын

1000000%

@AstroMartine

3 жыл бұрын

well if you have no other options, not the best thing

@shug_no_avery8172

3 жыл бұрын

Facts, I worked for one for almost a year and I hated him. He was the biggest asshole coward there was smh.

@shug_no_avery8172

3 жыл бұрын

Facts adidas! Y would anyone want to continue working for a narcissist no matter the pay ?

I’d rather work for myself, than to kiss somebody’s ass who’s being rude to me all the time.

You don't ever get encouragement from a truly Narc Boss, believe me.

@gsmothers5540

3 жыл бұрын

I have. It usually came when she saw I was thinking about quitting. They suck you back in to keep control.

@brianmoon2739

3 жыл бұрын

Oh I agree with you 10000%

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

That's been my experience

@spacecatmowgli4723

Жыл бұрын

That's why you can work with them if you're not looking for validation from losers. I love my job and I'm confident. The encouragement my narcissistic boss gives me to keep me 'under controll' just makes me chuckle, but I'll thank him.

I have a boss that is a narc and he avoids me like the plague because he knows that I know what he’s about and I stand up to bullies even if I know there might be a chance I get my ass kicked.

@calsavestheworld

2 жыл бұрын

I'd get fired immediately

@thatgui88

Жыл бұрын

Same here. I stand up to bullies

@couleuredgirl6314

Жыл бұрын

@@calsavestheworld 😂😂😂😂always

@Gemisnotmyname

7 ай бұрын

Same I just say my stuff. My coworker looks at me frightned whenever I say whats on my mind.. I dont get it. He aint God, he cant scare me

I didn’t know my boss was a narc and made the mistake of giving him praise for his contributions to science and never pointed out his mistakes. 3 years later, he NEVER admits to his mistakes, accuses me of lying when I reach out for clarification on rules (to make sure we don’t break them), wanted me to withhold crucial info from other coworkers and tried to get me to lie on a few occasions. He tells others to ask me for help but tells me not to help cause I can’t properly manage my time. He took credit for an award an employee got because I nominated them and did the write up/application; he just signed it. When he is indecisive, he then values my opinion, so that he can tell others that it was my idea and he doesn’t look like the bad guy. The list goes on and on…can’t wait to give him my two week notice!

This is not advice for a narcissist. They dont act aloof at all. Narcissist are very much in your business and play very kind and sweet so when they trigger you they feel superior. Monotone, never allowing them to think they triggered you, bright and cheerful with surroundings and avoiding as much as you can is the best advice.

Does this guy know that all narcissists care about is themselves? They don't care about helping other people and they're completely self centered, always thinking, 'how does this benefit me?'

Narcissistic bosses just destroy you inside. It is the worst. And in so doing they damage their organizations. Employers need to never place somebody like that in a leadership position.

That doesn’t work... just find another job. You will be happier.

@brianwalsh1401

3 жыл бұрын

Just look at all the people trump went through.

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

Hopefully the next job will be better, but you never know... that's what's kept me where I am currently employed for so long: Fear of the unknown.

This guy clearly doesn't know what a narcissist is. Let alone how to deal with a narcissistic boss. Tell you what, even if you try stroking, complimenting, thanking a narcissistic boss in order to gain their favor, they will never appreciate it. They will never be satisfied with your work even if you do overtime. They will always find fault in something you do. They will highlight your mistakes and ignore your successes. They will go so far as even feel jealous of you succeeding, and try to undermine you. So no. The only way you will feel sane is to find another job. "Grey Rock" method and kissing ass should be temporary, until you find a new job. Don't stay near a narcissistic toxic boss, they will screw you up in ways you can't even imagine. They'll condition you, like Stockholm Syndrome, especially if you have some kind of trauma already in your life.

@saumitrsharma2816

2 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said! Seems like you have understood these people thoroughly.

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

Well said, and I've been dealing with this toxic work environment for 14 years. Recently I lost it and went off on my boss and several coworkers that went behind my back, to stir up trouble between me and my boss. My boss loves to humiliate me in front of all of them. Needless to say, it's a mess... and I'm partly responsible for causing it. I need to keep my mouth shut and not speak to anyone. That's what I plan on doing until I can find another job. It might take awhile because I'm nearly 60 years old with a blue green undercut pixie haircut. I'm so tired of being shamed for just being myself. There is nothing in the dress code about not being able to color your hair fashion colors or waer all black. I sometimes wear short dresses, but always with tights. I don't show a lot of skin. I mostly keep to myself and don't bother anyone... except for my recent "outburst" HR recently brought up my hair. Apparently some of my coworkers have a problem with it. Maybe even my boss has a problem with it but she hasn't said anything to me directly. It's all very passive aggressive and toxic.

@daena9641

11 ай бұрын

Bingo!!!!

This is basically telling everyone to get your knee pads and chapstick ready.... what a load of crap, find a different job and tell your old boss how you feel about them the day you are leaving.

I had a boss that played the favorites game. Would buy lunch for a select few and I. Til one day I believe she realized I could take her job. She started shutting me out. I was no longer the underdog. She'd say out loud are you calling me stupid when I'd bring issues to her. Prior to we'd talk about it and come to a conclusion all while laughing and learning. This attitude she adopted towards me was a plot for reason to fire me. I told her I was leaving, but she wanted to make it seem like she fired me. She'd call unnecessary meetings multiple times a day to talk about why we weren't completing a task. The meetings kept us from completing a task! When we were cool I recorded moment of her belittling people in the office and knew it was a matter of time she'd do the same to me. What I witnessed others go through brought me to tears. I knew my worth and was out of there! I still see her from time to time. I think she wants me back in office. Naw, l'm cool crazy lady!!!

Sad that this is the world we live in. Having to be manipulative (which is something that is the polar opposite of who I am) to cope with dealing with someone that delights in making other squirm

@brianwalsh1401

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. There needs to be more awareness of these personality disorders in general so that people might understand what kind of disturbed person they are dealing with. Apparently from what I've read they are more detrimental than beneficial in the work place.

@thatgui88

Жыл бұрын

Yeah im not like that either. I'm very nice person. Don't like inflicting pain onto others. But capitalism/business's want someone to be a narcissist bc that increases profit.

What is this man on about. Stroking the ego of a narcissist has no effect at all. The whole point of a narcissist is that you are there to satisfy their needs. The only way a narcissist can be tamed is from above, from their boss giving them firm feedback.

@spacecatmowgli4723

Жыл бұрын

It's not about stroking his ego, it's about making yourself appear submissive. Pretend you look up to him. Make him believe his manipulation is working. Don't be a threat, just nod and enjoy your job. If you are looking for validation from your manager, then leave. I'm confident and love my job, my manager is just a traumatized dick head but as long as he thinks I'm just a young girl who knows nothing, then we don't bother eachother 😂

@spacecatmowgli4723

Жыл бұрын

Also I am sorry, but his boss is the one who hired him. His boss, is the one who will protect him. His boss, is an even worse narcissist. An expert manipulator who had worked himself high up into the sector. 😂

why do we have to deal with these bloody difficult people why cat they be diagnosed and sent to the funny farm were they belong

@WhatMatters5

4 жыл бұрын

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@tobiba3484

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like a solid approach

@Michaelgracon

3 жыл бұрын

I want to know through human development and evolution why the brain is still allowed to develop this disorder?

@brianwalsh1401

3 жыл бұрын

@@Michaelgracon A lot of it has to do with nurture, or lack of it, in childhood.

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

Because we live in an imperfect world that is largely run by narcissists.

These people suck the life out of you. They are so overbearing.

This was terrible advise. A narcissistic boss cannot be reasoned with and can ruin your career. Get out and fast,

Narcissistic managers will never reason with their employees.

Manipulating a Sociopath 101

How to work with a Narcissist boss? Don't.

I don't agree with that approach at all

That's just stroking the narssist ego. No job is worth playing head games to that ridiculous level. Leave the company

The boss in "The Devil Wears Prada" seemed to be more egotistical than narcissistic since she never gaslight, never sabotaged, never exploited or manipulated. She was an extremely demanding egotistical obnoxious person. We may associate vanity, egotism etc. with narcissism, but they are neither necessary or sufficient. I think narcissists are far worse and they are often covert.

@mecanuktutorials6476

8 ай бұрын

The name of the movie is befitting though. Narcissists are devils.

@MrApplewine

8 ай бұрын

@@mecanuktutorials6476OK, but she wasn't a narcissist.

Ok, so the 2 pieces of advice are: 1. Use positive reinforcement whenever they express empathy or are nice. 2. Frame everything as "what's in it for them?"

I don't agree on giving positive feedback to the truly narcissistic boss, because it will encourage them to be more harsh on you. They like people who will do everything what they are told to do without asking questions or talking too much. If you want to be liked by them you would have to give them more power (f.e. tell them confidential things about other coworkers which can be used against them). Narcissistic people want more power over others and to have around submissive people to use

I left a job due to having a narcissist supervisor. Laziest person on the planet. Needed constant praise and attention. He did nothing all day but on his phone or flirting with the female staff. His only skill was kissing up to the hire ups. His boss and the people below him did all the work. After his boss left he took her place. That job had to hire two new additional staff members to assist him because "suddenly" the job had a larger workload ...bs. The employer is now out nearly 90 grand a year when it is obvious that this staff was not neccesary if they replaced him with a competent worker. Kissing up to narcissist is the short game. It is never enough and they will circle around you more to seek praise. Grey stone method is key.

@mat11trick

4 жыл бұрын

I just quit my job last Friday because of my narcissistic boss. I had to get out of there to save my mental health. Everything you described about your boss is exactly how mine was. But yeah, stroke their already enormous ego, yeah right!

"The devil wears Prada" doesn't show narcissism. She is capable, just arrogant. In real life, they are much worse.

@mecanuktutorials6476

8 ай бұрын

Patrick Bateman from American Psycho is a bit closer to the target profile.

I don't think there's much that you can do to reduce their narcissistic tendencies. It's either you become an enabler and learn how to pacify them as is being suggested in this video, or you learn to protect yourself and get out! I highly recommend the latter.

I can never kiss a monster arse. Nothing can change them.

Why would you want to work under a narcissistic boss in the first place. It can only go downhills. There is no way up....

Well well, I was going make negative comments about the video, but then I realized: "This is not a video about how to deal with a nascissistic boss." It's about how to work with them... you got it totally correctly... But I don't want to work with them, so... any tips on that?

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

Leave your job.

is our role just to appease narcs? there has to be a better solution

@brianwalsh1401

3 жыл бұрын

It's more like manipulate the narc. I think it's that or leave or be prepared for a lot of crap to come your way. The ones I've known as long as you were in their circle you were fine, the problem was I wasn't in the inner circle.

@ARedMagicMarker

2 жыл бұрын

Round them up and dump them someplace to fend for themselves and keep each other company. Sit back and watch the chaos fireworks of the era.

Tried all! My self respect is way too important than please some ars !

@skinnypopcorn22-md2dp

Жыл бұрын

👍👍👍

Wow what a kind narcisist bosses all you have! And what do I do with mine, who is clearly bullying me without any hope for a progress?

So we are supposed to not stroke their ego he says... then tomorrow you go tell them how encouraging they were in helping you get to the finish line with the guidance they gave you yesterday? Nice way to say you have to kiss their ass🤔🤷🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ WTF? Did anyone actually hear the words spoken and the sequence he said them in?

Isn't that like most bosses? Love egos being massaged with "thanks for ..." and "this is what I can do for you..."

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, this is good advice for a "normal" boss with some narcissistic traits. This advice wouldn't work for a malignant narcissist boss.

A narcissistic boss does not pay compliments to anybody only seeks to belittle you and build himself up

Any boss that does not think about the team as a whole is a bad boss. Any boss that does not own up to his or her decision making and blames ones below them, is a bad boss. Any boss that is the person NO ONE goes to for answers is a bad boss. If anyone is trained improperly and then gets reprimanded is because they have a bad boss. A boss teaches, inspires, and listens. IF the department or company can operate without the boss, the boss succeeded in the training and teamwork, if the team ALWAYS needs the boss there, the boss is not teaching.

@skinnypopcorn22-md2dp

Жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏. Couldn’t have said it any better. Those who have experienced narc bosses/coworkers are the real EXPERTS on the matter.

My ex boss at a pharmacy most abusive disrespectful horrible employer Ali Mashadi very narcissistic man, been traumatised even after years after working for him, he made me an angry gal than I've ever been

Life is too short to help people you don't like attain material wealth. Be nice, and work with nice people.

This approach keeps slaves to the narcissistic boss

I like his realistic approach. But I believe a movement should be to eliminate such people from Leadership roles , because it’s destructive behavior and is like a disease that can threaten the well being of employees, both at mental and physical level. I don’t support tolerating such people at all. They should be fired and replaced. Not baby sat!

@suzetteclarke1709

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely true!!

when the only tool they have is a hammer, every problem has to be treated like a nail.

Should i put a 2 week notice or just leave

Im sorry but is this guy really for real ..get a grip ..dude are you sure you do not have narcissitic tendencies to give this kind of advice

Never give them supply of any form

This "Dr" basically gives us advice to feed and please the nacissist even more lol whhahahah bruh are you kidding me???

Literally the video is about being codependent to the narcissist..... Absolutely shameful

Alot of people are saying leave the job but let me put you guys in my situation... I'm 19. I dropped out of school in the 11th grade because of my financial issues. I live with my grandparents who are on the verge of not being able to take care of there selves. I started working for a car detail company when I was 16 and it's been 3 going on 4 years now & this is definitely not going down the road I thought I paved. When I first joined I didn't think nothing about the pay, I was just happy I didn't have to risk my freedom for a couple of bucks. Years go by , alot of people left the job , some joined and left the same day. I used to think that those guys just didn't want to work. Boy was I wrong. I'm now a supervisor/manager without applying or asking for the position.. same exact pay... But now I got a new aspect. Seeing my boss In a completely different way then when I first met him. Always asking me to do stuff beyond my job w/ no pay. Narcissistic tendencies with me only it seems like, and ontop of that I don't even get payed enough to go through this shit ! I've looked everywhere for a new job and can't qualify for a majority of applications because at the time I either wasn't old enough , or because I do not have a HS diploma.. I feel like I'm trapped in a situation that only seems to get worser. If I leave today right now, I'll definitely be back in the streets risking my life for a couple of bucks. I'm a very hard worker and I really shouldn't be in the position that I'm in as of today.

@brianwalsh1401

3 жыл бұрын

I'm really sorry to hear about what you are going through. It sounds like a tough spot. I hope you are ok. I give you credit for understanding this, I think, pretty common personality disorders narcissists and sociopaths abut 10% of the pop. I was 51 before I figured it out and I was married to one, but didn't know it at the time. Anyway for someone in your position who is a hard worker I would continue to seek other employment because this guy will continue to take advantage of you. I think you are pretty smart to have figured this out so definitely get your GED and also think about getting a degree. I think if you feel as if you have choices and are working towards them then you can manage what you have to for the time being. Hopefully you are well. I know the covid pandemic has caused a lot of employment issues but there seems to be some light at the end of the tunnel. Having said all that these people are a scourge to humanity and will suck the life out of you the longer you are around them.

@drebugsita

2 жыл бұрын

I really feel for you and want to echo Brian Walsh's reply. Wishing the best, as someone currently looking to plan my exit from a job with a narcissistic boss

@AlmightyDurty

2 жыл бұрын

Around 2 months ago in July I took a trip with my girlfriend to her hometown. Really opened up my eyes & made me see like "hey, you can't keep continuing to try to make someone happy & all they do is bring negative energy to the table. I dropped some nuts about myself & def dropped them on him, I came back from my trip & I wasn't having none of the bs. Until one day I had to walk off on the job lol, like bro ima show you something.

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry. That sucks. I can relate because I also feel trapped in my job. Partly because of my age... and I have my HS diploma. It doesn't do much good these days, sad to say. A college degree is what's required to make enough money for basic survival. With the economy the way that it is... it's only getting harder to make ends meet. My rent has gone up $150.00 this year! They've been raising my rent every 6 months because they can.

@AlmightyDurty

Жыл бұрын

Update : I recently quit in October of last year & moved to Florida. Met the love of my life & I'm working a great job landscaping. This is motivation for the people hesitating, do it !

How do I deal with a narcissistic boss that’s trying to keep you in your current position because she thinks her job will be stolen by you?

@jauld360

8 ай бұрын

You can't fix the narcissistic individual, but you can decide what's best for you in that situation. That could mean staying where you are and adapting, in the hope that some change improves your situation. Alternatively, you can leave and find a better environment.

At this point -I don't want ti apply any trick to pacify their ego. It is their problem. They only want control. I get job based on my skills. I will listen to them obediently when they make some logical point or clearly state rules or what hurts them. But, definitely not to do anything to satisfy their Ego. Such bosses Don't even want benefit of the organization. They Only want to maintain an image. I will be committed to serve the organization.

An employee should not have to praise a boos to make them warm up to them.

@sanjanabhatia5156

Ай бұрын

This is fawning and people pleasing. This will literally kill you.

The problem is that our culture encourages narcissists in the workplace. People who are narcissists tend to be very charismatic, come off very confident which might be arrogance- I feel like people who should NOT be in these positions are simply because they act like they are powerful and get things done. But the damage they cause is terrible for everyone below them. Know the flags! Do they gaslight you Act super nice to your face one minute then act mean and belittling the next? Try to blame you or twist things around so you feel their mistake was your fault. Do they use toxic shame? Refuse to apologize Refuse to take accountability if they cause pain. Are not able to show empathy? Treat you horribly if you make them look bad with their superiors? Refuse to listen to ideas , or will take credit for your good ideas. Are extremely competitive and get angry if they feel showed up by anyone.

So basically kiss ass.....nahll I'm ok.

I am dealing with a narcissistic boss right now at a salon . I didn’t realize that they were a narcissist until now .

My boss lies and blames me for things I didn’t even do- in front of co-workers in meetings. He’s cursed me out three times now and I’m having nightmares and anxiety. This isn’t hyperbole. I’m really dealing with this.

Basically fullfill their objective and kiss their ass. Not happening

@BlackOmEga_2099

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I’ve done that too: only reinforced the way they treat you. They feed off of praise

@anja2716

Жыл бұрын

@@BlackOmEga_2099 yeah they feed off all the obscurities. Easy, but hard too predict and more often than not, you don't realize their trait untill it's too late.

@BlackOmEga_2099

Жыл бұрын

@@anja2716 yeah… it ain’t cool man. It’s not fair to be constantly going into an environment every single week worried about if you did work right or not

@anja2716

Жыл бұрын

@@BlackOmEga_2099 yes.the unpredictable mood swings give me fu*ken whiplash.

@BlackOmEga_2099

Жыл бұрын

@@anja2716 when that happens I just match that energy or stay out of their way

Easy, get a new job !!! Run away !!!

I don't know if I can do this anymore 😪

It never ends well when a boss is a narcissist. They are called out eventually and get removed.

@daena9641

11 ай бұрын

Or the opposite you call them out and you get removed. N

Gotta show it to every single employee at the White House.

@britishmiller3665

6 жыл бұрын

Andre - but the Clinton's and Obama's are not in the WH anymore.

@Pfsif

5 жыл бұрын

Waa-waaa-waaaa

This is enabling the boss to continue, this sounds like stroking their ego?

Dealing with them = feed their sickness? How can that be anything but a bad idea in ghe long run?

Narcissist boss has never ever given me any appreciation or encouragement!

This guys boss doesn't sound that bad.

A lot of narcissist mezicons at work. They don’t even realize they’re doing it but at the same time do.

The best thing to do is to get out of that job/out of working in that department with that boss as soon as the opportunity approaches. It's like being in a toxic relationship, and you have to have two people who are willing to work out their own differences in order for it to work. Narcissistic people will not extend the olive branch, and will always double down on there behaviors and mistreatment towards you and others who don't always bend the knee for them.

How do I cope with a boss that gets in my face and screams at me if I can't do overtime when she asks me last minute on the same day as my original shift and then tells her clients in front of me that her staff all refuse overtime and never help out?

Or the finger pointing blame shifting boss they are very toxic and will infect an entire staff

Nope! No can do. Ignore is my best policy.

@brianwalsh1401

3 жыл бұрын

If you can avoid as much as possible and grey rock when necessary interaction and always make sure you have crossed your t's and dotted your i's.

I was going to say "You guys are getting appreciation and encouragements???" But then I read the comments and realized no one agrees with this bullshit advice.

Excellent advice. Thank you 🙏💖

The only way is to run as fast as you can. Your life is way too short.

@smoothiecutie2277

Ай бұрын

Very short

I don’t agree with any of this. You can’t win with a narcissist ever… because nothing you do is good enough for them. Best advice for me… find another job or pray that God removes them and trust me… I’ve seen that happen more than once. 😂

I will ignore your advice doc I don't wanna have dealings with any narcissist or befriend them for sake of job I rather look for another company and seek new boss and if given good chance to find a great boss I know that can be difficult But I rather be jobless or homeless than deal with these scums.

@user-cb3dt9tb2s

6 ай бұрын

Don't stay with narcissistic losers What are you focking desperate? They are not the world Leave them You'll never flourish with these weaklings That's the truth.

Put CP on their computer, delete an app they normally use, and let IT discover the CP Or at least that's my approach

The best advice is to quit ASAP 😂✌🏽

…makes sense

Doc. I just watched your video from Ghana west Africa and i just want to say you know your job thank you.

My boss a yoruba lady in her 60s frim nigeria has never appreciated anything i do. But whenever i make a mistake, she abuses me. Calls me names. What can i do in an environment like this please. I'm really holding back my emotions, cos i just wanna tell her she's badly behave and needs to look into herself

This seems like Harvard bs. Real world experience calls BS.

Cruella DeVille 😂

Ahh Ok. The answer ist to Brown nose them carefully. This is the worst advice I've ever heared! Disslike from me

This feels more like you are stroking their ego or working with them at your experience

Are you sure your narcissistic boss would promote you??? Based on my personal experience, the narc boss destroyed me, my career, image, reputation, life. After two years working together, I decided to quit from my job to keep my sanity alive.

@smoothiecutie2277

10 ай бұрын

Good for you!!

@smoothiecutie2277

Ай бұрын

Update: I quit mine too

Simple... DON'T !!!

Listening to your suggestions - clearly you haven't worked with one in real life... Your suggestions are theories that have no practical basis!!! Work with one closely in real life, then come back here to give a different lecture!!!

And make sure you get a promation that doesnt invovle working with that manager again

Is feeding the narcissists a good plan?

This advice kind of reduces one into a hypocrite; One then has to bow down to worshipping the narcissistic boss for peaceful coexistence...

@skinnypopcorn22-md2dp

Жыл бұрын

Right and I’m not about to bow to NARChadnezzar

narcissists can be very good workers but they have a sadistic destructive side socially and if ever meet something that triggers narcissistic rage they can begin destroy the social order in the company by abusing in different ways victims that triggered them and therefore then decrease the work efficiency of the "targets" who maybe falls in depression/mental illness etc and maybe then good workers for the company quit etc of this narcissistic "colleague". In the long run they overplay their card and bad work force in the long run.

My boss is one, all i do daily is to go hide to cry, i dont know how to win such a war

Ok, this is BS. Just because he has the Harvard name doesnt make the advice good

What if your boss is this way with people they don’t like that are under them

Yea I dont think feeding them is going to make it any better.

Half of the comments are saying " find another job " what about speaking his/her boss about your issues before finding a other job?

@lamzy3773

3 жыл бұрын

You're clueless about narcissm that's why. They've experienced it, and you haven't. Thats why

@mecanuktutorials6476

8 ай бұрын

Often the reason this won’t work is because there’s very veiled abusive behaviour that the upper management will never witness. The narcissist is a “good guy” in their eyes. At worst, they’ll like that he gets things done and is an asset. Only the bottom rung of the ladder witnesses the damage they cause to people and the workplace. Their controlling behaviour is only felt and experienced by those who have empathy and naivety that they can mend this relationship. Realty: the narcissist has a personality disorder and needs supply of positive attention to feed their ego. They must form codependent relationships because they cannot survive alone but want to present God-like capabilities to garner praise and admiration. All smoke and mirrors though because the people “under” are doing all of the work without realizing they’re being manipulated (at first).