If you want to learn more about dissociation and what happens to the brain and body, see my most recent video on this topic: kzread.info/dash/bejne/gX9srdOdntnMn5s.html Or HEALING without a therapist kzread.info/dash/bejne/kYF3pLJud9fgiLw.html

@carrielw831

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this. I'm glad to no that I need psychotherapy. I love your videos...they're very helpful 🙂..and you really explain things which is so important and helps so much. God bless you!

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

@@carrielw831 You're welcome! I agree. Truly understanding things is part of the healing. And thank you so much. :)

Great video very informative and educational thank you :)

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful! Thank you and you're welcome!

Very interesting and informative as always, Tamara! I have struggled with disassociative episodes for years. I had no idea what was happening for quite awhile, just that I'd lose time and have these weird experiences that I couldn't explain. After all, how do you tell a friend or coworker that "I don't have any idea who that girl is that just said hi to me, talked as if she knew me and referred to me once as 'Nicole"? Her reaction when I corrected her was a look of utter confusion and so I quickly changed the subject but then she " had to run." I also had times when during the day and a few times in the middle of the night I'd come out of an episode outside, not knowing what I was doing and no memory of leaving my house. Some of this was terrifying when I'd come out of it as you might imagine! I never thought to ask myself how I come out of it but I was often curious as to what may have triggered it. Over the years it has lessened a lot and now, when I dissociate it happens in much less dramatic ways thankfully. In fact, unless someone knows me well or had experience as you do, the average person probably wouldn't know. Hope you are well, Tamara!

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Lori! I'm glad this was informative! And I hope you are well as well. It's so hard, as you point out, to share what you are experiencing. In a world where most people avoid "odd occurrences" or unexplainable things, it's hard to be heard. Have you ever heard of dissociative fuge? That's something I might bring up on this channel as well. That has a lot to do with leaving your house, leaving your comfort zone, or your property and not knowing how you got there. It's probably a good thing that most people wouldn't know. Makes it less traumatic for you!! :)

What if someone is permanently disassociated? Where there is no off and on, but different states, but no separate parts or alters, where the person doesn’t know they are disassociated from state to state, resulting in a dream like existence.

I don't know when I am going to dissociat e I don't know how I come back sometimes I know sometimes when I am in it. It happens all the time I just know I lose time

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sure. A lot of people experience this. That's why therapy can sometimes be supportive because the therapist can assess how far into dissociation you go and how to pull you out.

@carrielw831

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate with you. It just happens to me unexpectedly. I lose time and it can even be a few seconds or when ever..I don't even know.

Great insight, so helpful. And it is sad trying to integrate because it's like losing a friend. If your separate you can be friends, if your together you can't call on that person separately anymore for help because your " one".

i really appreciate your videos on this topic. ever since i was in middle school i started to notice that nothing felt real and like i was detached from physical reality. i remember talking about how i felt like i was watching life as if it was being projected on a two dimensional screen. i think that it's a bit better but there are still moments when i feel frustrated that i don't feel like i am alive, like anything is real, and sometimes like i don't exist to other people either. my memory of my upbringing is very spotty, too, to the point where multiple family members have noticed. it's very, very frustrating.

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

🤗Thank you! And I'm glad this was helpful. It sounds like you were also experiencing de-personalization (dreamlike reality) and de-realization (you feel detached from your body). These can be very common symptoms of PTSD and DID. Memory is something I talk a lot about on the channel too because all of these experiences, in and of themselves, can be traumatic! Not being able to recall your childhood is torturing. I'm hoping to finally get my live videos back up and running and I will cover this topic! Stay tuned!

@tbmcnation

2 жыл бұрын

@@TherapistTamaraHill thanks so much for responding. your channel has been such an incredibly helpful resource for me! yeah, it was very unsettling learning about depersonalization-derealization disorder for the first time, as the symptoms are almost exactly what i described growing up. it's a little disturbing. thanks so much again and i look forward to watching more videos on this topic, as well as others. i found you by looking up sociopathic parents on youtube. you have the best videos that i've seen on that topic!

This is soooooooo good. Thank you for your personal experience

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! I think a little of that can go a long way with viewers.

I have been finding myself doing more and more of this with people who just run their mouths like Niagara Falls with Diarrhea. These people most often don't let me get a word in edgewise. They seem to really not care what I have to say. The reasons why we still talk at all is a bit complicated in my opinion. I won't make this another epic response.

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

:) OMG! That is hilarious. 👀🙈

@Homoclite

2 жыл бұрын

@@TherapistTamaraHill I sometimes have to laugh at these things myself. Real life situations can truly be amusing. Is the clinical term for motor mouthed individuals who just won't shut up called "Flooding"?

Dissociative here significantly with the Dissociative states voice writing health issues combined and separately change - livin it - therapy would take at least three life times - seriously and explaining it instead of healing at the hands of miss “ treatment “ is not the answer . Dissociatives do not have that much time therefore they’ll die before anyone could help them . Dissociatives minds are brilliant and that is what will give a dissociative What’s left of the rest of their Lives - Not studies and meds and being subject to admired observation . Period !

This was extremely informative and I appreciate you so much for sharing!

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful to you!! And thank you. Glad to have you on the channel :)

Also from my experience it weirdly feels like cataplexy with narcolepsy 1 but that is triggered by any strong emotion good or bad

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

I can see that now that you word it this way. It could feel like that.

You are my go to for additional trauma information and resources on KZread. I am a Certified Brainspotting Therapist specializing in trauma and I am wanting your recommended training and resources for Intergenerational trauma. Thank you in advance!

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

Thank so much Yvonne!! I remember you. :) Glad to be a resource. And I admire your work as well. Brainspotting is intense work! I don't know if this would be helpful (and I am certainly not self-promoting, LOL) but my upcoming book on intergenerational trauma has a series of trauma-focused tools that can be used with teens and young adults. This channel will be the first to know when this book hits shelves early next year.

@yvonnelewis8754

2 жыл бұрын

@Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC I will certainly add anything you publish to my collection. You should look at offering recorded online CEU's to increase your streams of income.

So I personally feel fusing and integration is important to recovery. Not that it has to be the current goal because maybe focusing on that at first can cause more issues than not. but at the end of the day it isn’t functional and it’s a disorder for a reason. If I liked being this messed up and it worked for me it may not be diagnosable which I think is questionable. I am entitled to become comfortable with my parts and accept that but with that come fusion of some sort. IMO recovery just ends up in that direction. I see a lot of people who maybe don’t want to change. Changing isn’t the goal, writing your story and getting to know every part of yourself to function better is. Naturally you have to gain some consciousness to do this. And integration and fusion doesn’t necessarily mean you completely lose those parts of yourself. It just becomes a more connected part of yourself like what normal people experience. And if it does go away that could be for a very good reason. To remain comfortable in a trauma response state does seem problematic and maybe even unnatural to the evolution of the self. I personally find the parts of me that are like this have selfish intentions or tend to cause trouble because they are too much one way or another. Anyways I do believe that the theories for treatment could be changed to approach the disorder in a more neutral manner

Another informative video, they are great, I understand what you’re talking about but is disassociation a healthy behavior?

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I think dissociation can be healthy depending on how you use it and when it happens to you. I may have said in the video that dissociation is a defense mechanism when the brain is overwhelmed or has a history of trauma. It's on a spectrum from mild to severe.

Hi

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

Hi there! 👋

Why do I become so tired when I have switched for a task that personality wants to accomplish/experience then the personality starts fading I become very tired

4 minutes in I remember I've seen this video 😂

@TherapistTamaraHill

2 жыл бұрын

🤣😅

That test is impossible to answer because most people with DID don't go through their symptoms every day.