I took this approach years ago and it has helped. I saw a guy get splashed with water as a car went through a puddle near a bus stop. As he was wiping himself off, another car hit him, much harder. Now he was soaked. So like a madman, he stood near the puddle yelling at oncoming cars "come on motherfuckers, give it to me! Lets see what you got! etc" . I tried this approach to panic attacks. I thought, "come on. Thats all you got?" I played this mental game to see if I can get the highest symptoms ever, thinking the worst that can happen is I could die. The more I begged for symptoms, the more they disintigrated

@Sam-ue4rv

3 жыл бұрын

You Sir are a brave man..

Anyone else have a lot of stomach troubles as well?

@adylan612

2 жыл бұрын

I was looking for a comment like this... Yesssss. And back muscle spasms so painful I feel like death. Went to the hospital over It. Of course nothing was wrong. They told me it was "just anxiety". But yeah...days of needing antacids or Imodium..and just plain heating pads from bad stomach aches.

I never thought I would be able to stop a panic attack without the use of medication. I read DARE and it absolutely changed the way I think about anxiety and panic attacks. I can usually stop an attack in its tracks now. I highly recommend the book DARE to anyone who suffers from anxiety and/or panic attacks.

what he's saying is 100% true I have had anxiety panic ataks so I know . I've read his book and I would recommened anybody no matter how much panic or anxiety u have read it

@Cinemagoer_64

5 жыл бұрын

Tony Benz fantastik Tony can you please tell me the title?

@Cinemagoer_64

5 жыл бұрын

Tony Benz lol just saw it at the end of the video.

@itsmebethd2653

4 жыл бұрын

It’s the dang symptoms they are horrid muscle tension and sweaty hands

@مغربية_مغتربة

4 жыл бұрын

What's the conclusion of the book please

What he is saying is true. If you expect it and even beg it to come, it honestly has no power. The issue is that it’s much tougher than it sounds. I recommend trying it constantly and practicing it. Remind yourself it’s just anxiety and ask for it to bring all it’s got. After a while, you’ll notice that it’ll drop pretty quick. The number one issue is persistence though. You have to keep doing it.

Can you please do a video of having depression with anxiety?

I have it all day, every day. This is HARD but I can see it helping me.

Thank you for posting these!

Loving these videos. Thanks!

Hello Barry your video inspired me so much . The last I email you is about my anxiety and ill feelings of the attack. I will continue to watch a to use some of the tools that you have suggested so I will ease off this feeling especially in a public place.

I love the positivity on the preface of the book and I look forward to read the whole book

I have just bought your book it seems excellent as I have just started reading . I have anxiety had inherited by my mother as she have this too. Thank you

Thank you for this!!!

I think it is gone for now. Well, it will come again, expect and accept.

I expect and accept! ❤

Thank you!

Acceptance is good and bad. It’s like saying I accept the way I am with anxiety but it’s not very comfortable actually living with it. You need to reframe the thoughts and how you perceive them. It’s the internal dialog that keeps nattering away that keeps you in the anxiety zone. So if you accept that, then you’re accepting the chatter and may resign yourself to living with it. It’s best to strive to rid your mind of that chatter and don’t accept it so you may become the person you need to be to be able to conquer the fears. I accept I’m suffering from anxiety but I won’t accept that I could stay like this forever. I want to change from that scared, tortured person that lives in fear to be the fearless person that’s not afraid to live.

Have had anxiety return after 5 years of no anxiety and have followed you be back before you had a web page. I have tried to follow your instructions but got fibromyalgia from the severity of my anxiety. I am damned if I do and damned if I don't

The voice from the app! I love it 🥰

Just a little reminder for you future readers. This method isn't about "stopping anxiety/panic in it's tracks" right away. The truth is, this method works because you're actively facing your anxiety/panic without reacting to it. That means that you will in fact 110% be uncomfortable. There is no way around this. It takes constant practice, but the good news is it gets easier each time your employ this behavior. So just a reminder, it will be uncomfortable. Your response to this matters, though. The more you trigger these sensations, and do not react on the outside you're healing each time. Is your heart pounding, sweating, feeling a sense of doom, and feeling hard to breath? Loosen up as much as you possibly can, do not try to make an effort to make your heart stop beating, don't try to splash your face with water, do not fight these sensations, don't try to distract yourself, don't look for an exit, don't leave, and do not breath manually. This is all part of anxiety/panic. Let it happen. Your response on the outside is the only thing that matters. You will fail a few times, but listen. Every time you sit with this just a little longer each time, the more progress you're making. You will have setbacks, and you will be scared/uncomfortable. The only thing you need to remember is do not react. This is the part that seems nearly impossible until you've practiced enough until you've sat through an entire episode. Once you've sat through an entire episode of a panic attack, or extreme anxiety a few times it will happen less, and less until you do not get these feelings or thoughts anymore. I'm living proof of it. I had 1-3 panic attacks daily, agoraphobia, and severe anxiety for nearly five years. I worked myself into not responding, and one day I sat through a full blown panic attack. It stopped in 10 seconds. All that happened was my heart sped up, body temperature rose, and my stomach got tight. I have not had a panic attack in over two years now. After the panic, I was stuck with anxiety still. I accepted it, and the random anxiety went away within 3 months of just not reacting on the outside. It's scary, it's hard, and it's not comfortable but you too can recover fully. It will take a while, but your nervous system will rewire itself. Lump in your throat, body temperature raising, sense of impending doom, shortness of breath, chatter in your brain, wanting to run away from the situation, tensing up, scared you're going mad, etc. All of these things are your nervous system reacting. These are all JUST anxiety symptoms, remember that. They cannot, and will not hurt you as uncomfortable as they are. Go at your own pace, little by little. Each time aim for sitting in that uncomfortable feeling just a little longer than the last. Before you know it, the uncomfortable becomes comfortable. You can rewire your nervous system. Anxiety is a complex paradoxical beast that feeds on your reaction. It is perfectly normal to freak out in your head, just do not attempt to stop it anymore. Let it happen, and be willing to be uncomfortable without stopping what you're doing. Take a moment to feel it as a whole, then continue doing what you need to do at the moment. You got this. Good luck. It's not about doing something to stop it, it's about not doing anything to stop it.

Thanx fr d video...It will indirectly help people recover from depersonalisation...

Fab and true

Thats the realisation i had on lsd after fighting years against anxiety.

@frankweiss335

4 жыл бұрын

Can you tell more about it?

1:13 I believe the brain doesn't signal protection once you let go, I have been publishing videos on this process scientifically. Your doing good stuff man !!

his teaching is soooooooooooooooooo good

I can't describe how much your tips helped me,tyvm!

Thank you for this tip. I've done this today and I've already noticed a difference, truly grateful. I've ordered the book.

@brianreinhardt4050

7 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? 3 months later?

JUST RECEIVED YOUR NEW BOOK ,, DARE!! Very Excited to Read It. I have read Dr Claire Weekes’ book, Hope and Help for Your Nerves. I know she wrote it in 1962. I had this same problem 40 years ago. Now, again. Thanks for writing this.

If only this Doctor was at my beck and call whenever and wherever I needed him..

@adylan612

2 жыл бұрын

I was just thinking the same thing

Barry I'm suffering from had panic attack and anxiety your videos are helping me loads I'm going to buy your book and I can really relate to all your points you talk about I can't drive much but with your help I hope to get over it please God , another thing I like is that you have been a suffer of anxiety which is often hard to understand fir non sufferers, , thanks for these videos and ypur help.

Can you do one on easing the anxiety at night before going to sleep? For some reason sometimes i have it bad at night Like I'm going to stop breathing or my heart is going to stop beating. I know its really not realistic but it sometimes worries me and makes me anxious then i get restless.

@JonnyQ408

8 жыл бұрын

It sounds like you're more anxious during the dinner time and after, and the anxious feelings builds up as it gets later on the night.

@adylan612

2 жыл бұрын

Same! I'll actually wake myself up and gasp convinced ill stop breathing..

I do accept, but if I got more sensitized from like, listening to music, it does take a while for the nervous energy to go away.

I am reading the DARE book and struggling to understand far too much. I am trying not to catastrophize. I'm telling myself "this is just anxiety or a panic attack, it sucks but it can't hurt me" (I've done this for years. I try not to feed into the anxiety by worrying about what-if's, but I can't seem to grasp the concept of allowing anxiety and not resisting. I'd often find distractions, something that the engaging part seems an awful lot like. Is doing something comforting resistance? I've used deep breathing to help me work my way out of a number of panic attacks through the years... how is a way of coping with the anxiety without outright denying it a kind of resistance? I'm a fan of exposure therapy (which sucks to go through), but I'm really struggling to understand some of these concepts- not because I don't have my ears open, but rather I feel some of the ideas are vague and counter-intuitive to what I've had success with

He's good..

Mate, you look well like Data. Thanks for this, I'm going to the dentist today.

It’s so hard when you have pain and general anxiety daily

@adylan612

2 жыл бұрын

Incredibly hard. I have such horrific muscle spasm pains i feel like death. But when I challenge it( if I get courage to)...it fades away... Problem is I always become fearful again.

Barry has beautiful eyes! Sorry for the distraction. LOL

does this work with sleep

I'm lucky in that I don't get panic attacks. But I'm searching for help in overcoming physical fear to help me progress in my sport. It may seem trivial, but it's at an extreme, paralysing level, and is now affecting me badly more generally. Does anyone here have any experience in this or know where I can look? Sincere thanks.

what about social anxiety ??

This approach originates from Mindfulness as used within CBT and Acceptance & Commitment Therapy. It is not original from Barry himself - please note. Also important to hold in mind is that 1) anxiety is normal......the only people who "can stop anxiety" are dead ones. -Even allowing yourself to experience anxiety will not stop anxiety recurring - that should be made more clear. Barry is claiming his not original method can do this, and he is wrong. The only thing you can do is not "stop the feelings of anxiety" ---but get better at accepting and holding them while you engage in a valued activity....anxiety may well decrease and minimise - but you cannot eliminate it completely, and to do so would seriously disable you from keeping you safe when it is really needed.

@imsofocused4678

3 жыл бұрын

He probably got it from Claire Weeks.

Does this work with existential OCD?

I really really need help with anxiety and panic attacks. Do you hold 1to1 sessions?

@rbrunner2112

8 жыл бұрын

buy the book DARE. it is amazing and you will get knowledge and the tools you need. You hold the key and the book teaches you how to use the key

@alfredomorfin8459

6 жыл бұрын

ColleenPrice buy the book for sure , new you after few weeks

@bethdavidson2274

4 жыл бұрын

Colleen how are you now

Do we accept it before hand or during?

@ClixCFC

3 жыл бұрын

During panick Before hand when feeling anxious

I love u barry from Arabian 💜

Two golden words: Don't resist

Can i cure my ocd with this method ?

@AntonioThugga

3 жыл бұрын

Yup. first of all, you will never 100% cure Anxiety or OCD. You just learn to accept them and live with them. (I understand you, I have both). The "cure" to OCD is simply accepting that you have this disorder and you can't do anything to ever make it go away (or at least science and medicine has not got that far YET). Accept all of your intrusive thoughts, don't fight them because that's how you feed your OCD and it triggers twice as much. Let them flow in your mind because your OCD thoughts are not who you really are :) It's hard in the beginning, I know, but if I could do it you can aswell. There's only one way from down, that means we are going up. Wish you the best 💕

My situation; I expect it every day, and I have it all day long (sometimes severe). I’ve never resisted it, and I still go about my day regardless... yet, it’s still always there. Shaking in the grocery line, waves of adrenaline at work, etc. I e never resisted it or given it any fuel either. It’s just there, always. Like a really annoying bee that just keeps stinging you all day long. I have total acceptance of this, yet it has never subsided. Thoughts?

@rahulajayan5546

5 жыл бұрын

Be grateful that your anxiety did not lead you to some serious mental health issues......if it comes let it .....it is better than resisting it and feeling unreal

Is this for social anxiety?

@ClixCFC

3 жыл бұрын

All

If nothing works for you, just dial a friend's cell no and try to speak on issue during a panic attack . The talk must be some issue other than anxiety

Hello...i am 11 years old and im suffering in that symptoms"panic attack"im crying in our classroom without reason and being nervous with no reason and i feel that im going crazy...and that time i want to kill myself from drinking an alcohol...but i never did it...plzzz..help me it will affect my studies and i am an honor student😭plz help me...

@CottonCandySkie

3 жыл бұрын

Are you ok now? Love and light 💕

Time for a shower.😂

My problem is I have asthma so when I get deep into a workout I panic with my breathing and worry about the asthma 😩

@kevinsanmateo4781

3 жыл бұрын

Expect it and Accept it ..easy quote to remember next time it happens . Your body will slowly understand

Vipassana meditation is the best, people!!!!

Thank you 🙏🏼